Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 21 – L213C

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Luqman 12-15 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 13-14

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How to build an English rajim Bismillah Ar Rahman and Rahim lesson number 213, pseudo lachemann.

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What is called a local man who live in he, and mentioned when Lockman said to his son, who are who are here in blue, while he was instructing him.

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Look, man, when he said to his son while he was instructing Him,

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who was his son?

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It is mentioned in some narrations that his name was an arm, or Ashcombe?

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Well, who are you are a little while he was advising him?

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What do we see over here? The father is advising the son. He's talking to his son.

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Many times when it comes to the relationship between parents and children, what is it about

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parents, ordering their children, instructing their children do this, do this, don't do this, don't do this. That's it. But we see that you're a little worse while we're in law.

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While is to give advice in such a way, as to soften the heart of the other person, that it's effective, it impacts the heart of the other.

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It's not that you're saying it to them or bounces off their ears? No. Well, who I hear a little who. Now, we should also analyze ourselves that when we advise children, whether they're our own, or there's somebody else's children, whether there are siblings, how do we talk to them? How do we talk to them?

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Do we talk to them in a harsh way? That instead of softening their hearts, we frighten their hearts? Is it in a harsh way? Is it in a way that they cannot understand that we're using such big words or using such complicated language that they cannot understand?

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Or we're giving them examples such they cannot comprehend at all? Because sometimes what happens? somebody tells us, can you please teach these children

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and we prepare some material for them. And it's such complicated material that children cannot understand. It's not relevant to them. It does not have anything to do with them. It's important. However, they cannot relate it with their lives. So when can you do words to someone?

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When you come to their level?

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Only then will your words have an impact on them? Otherwise, they will not have any impact whatsoever?

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Isn't it? So?

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Think about it. Anytime that you've heard something. What has truly affected you? Something that is relevant to you something that you can relate with? So why do I care? Lou? While he was advising him, he was instructing him.

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And what did he instruct him? What did he say to him? That Yeah, when a year Oh, my dear son,

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led to shake the law do not do shake with Allah. But look at the way that he addresses him. Yeah, when a year, oh, my dear son, when a year is an affectionate diminutive, this isn't as lead. This lead is from what I saw the angle and what does that mean to be small. So it does lead is to make small

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and names in the Arabic language, for example, even even is what proper word but the pronunciation the spelling is altered, why to make the word small, you might feel that it's bigger. But it's a way of making it small. And this is for the purpose of love.

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It's for the purpose of love. So yeah, been a year, as opposed to Ebony, even is what is my son? But yeah, boom a year. Oh, my dear son, oh, my dear beloved son.

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So this is for the purpose of ishfaq. And to have book to show love.

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How we see that, look, man, he was very intelligent, extremely wise. But how does he instruct his son? How does he speak to him? with love and affection? We think that a sign of intelligence is part of intelligences, that you become very strict and harsh and rude, so that the other does not have the confidence to say anything.

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One is that you make the other listen to you out of fear.

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And the other is that you make the other listen to you out of love.

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Is there a difference? Think about someone whom you obey out of fear. When do you obey them?

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Only when they around you, isn't it? Or only when they threaten you. But think about someone whom you listen to because you love them. Like for example your friends.

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They say something to you that just send a message and that's it. You obey them immediately, isn't it? They just need to hint and you obey immediately. Isn't there a difference? There's a difference.

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So when you show love to someone, what will happen? They will listen. They will obey

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It is not a part of intelligence to address people harshly.

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Because if we address harshly all the time, then what happens? It loses its effectiveness.

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Now, it doesn't mean that all the time in every situation like oh, my dear child, you know, lovey w all the time. It's good. However, if it's all the time and children don't know what's serious, and what's not that serious.

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So yeah, when a year, oh, my dear son, and we see that the kind of instruction that he's given to his son is something that is very serious, I mean, glad to shake the law, you will not tell this to a two year old, isn't it? So if you tell this to a two year old, perhaps he will not understand. And the advice that is mentioned further, that he tells us on that command that which is good and forbid that which is evil.

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That has to do with age, you cannot just give this instruction to a little child. So allow this child the son of his must be of age at this time. But still, how does he address him? With love? Yeah, when

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we think only little children, you give them 15 names of love, and you call them out of love all the time. And as soon as you become older that said, you become very harsh and strict with them.

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This is not the correct way.

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Children should be shown love at every stage of life.

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That we see that the Father What is he doing over here he's instructing his son. This shows to us that it's an obligation on the parents to teach their children especially the fundamentals, those things that are very, very important. So he says to him, lad to stick below do not do shirk with Allah. Why? Because in the sugar lumen alim indie chick, it is surely a great injustice

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to Shrek is from ship. And what does she mean? Literally? What does she mean literally, to give her share, Sherry partner

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so to give a share to someone, do equate someone with another do set as a partner. So glad to shake belaire do not to shake with Allah. Now technically shake is what joining others as partners with Allah, and this could be in three ways.

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First of all, in Ruby,

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what is Ruby I mean,

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lordship,

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that Allah He is that He is the Lord, that he is the Holic, the Malik the mother.

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What would she be that a person says that someone else is also colic. Someone else is also the Razak. Someone else also gives a risk. This will be what should in Ruby.

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Now the people of Makkah they acknowledged the Ruby of a loss.

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We have learned in the Quran that when asked a man holla personality will offer what would they say?

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A loss of hunger? Is it Who has created who sends down rain from the sky, they would say Allah, but when it came to act of worship, they would offer them to other than Allah. So the second is giving a share in what in his Lulu, here, do another. First is in his Libya and secondly, is Hulu here, in his being in a in his worship.

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Now, what are the different acts of worship?

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Such the So for example, if a person does such that to another, whether it's a grape or a tree or a rock, what else making the raw so if a person makes the art to a dead saint, that will be what should

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what else isn't or bad?

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obedience, sacrifice so if a person offers sacrifice for other than a lie, instead of mentioning the name of Allah, he mentions the name of other than Allah. This is what schilke what else is a part of urba pilgrimage. So a person travels he performs pilgrimage for who for the sake of other than Allah, He says my Nia is to go to the grave The Prophet said a lot is and I'm going to spend seven days over there. I'm going to do this after worship that after worship all devoted the profits or losses and and this is what an active shake. So whether a person performs pilgrimage to the Prophet scrape, or the grave of a hobby or the grave of a righteous servant of Allah, this is what should

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what else is a part of Nevada,

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South Dakota, so person gives other in order to draw near to other than Allah in order to please them.

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You're either seeking refuge seeking protection, the machine that would seek protection with who with the jinn with the shouting.

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So if a person worships other than Allah, then that is what should

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Thirdly, schilke is to associate us

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There is with Allah in His that in his being in his asthma was so fat in his names and attributes. This is where the praising part comes.

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What do we learn when you lay a smile listening to a live along the Most Beautiful Names. So, a lot of panel data deserves to be praised at the level of perfection. This is why when it comes to for instance, the name of man, the name of love, then these names, who deserves them, only Allah soprano.

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And if you give these names to people, then this will be what associating others in his sofa,

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understand, equating others in his attribute.

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Now remember that there are two types of attributes of a

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son that are exclusive to him. And some that can be used to praise people as well.

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But they are of a lesser degree, not at the level of perfection, like for example, are the one who possesses complete and most perfect mercy. This is a father who only alloc and any person possesses quality. Can any person possesses quality of being Entirely Merciful, having the complete attribute of mercy? Can any human possesses quality impossible. But Rahim on the other hand, the one who shows mercy, can a human being possessed it? Yes. Because human beings, they do show mercy. It's not at the level that Allah shows mercy yet, but human beings do show mercy to one another to the creation of Allah. This is why we see the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he has been praised in the Quran As for

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him.

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So there are some names that are exclusive to Allah. But there are other names which can be given to people. However, a person must remember that if people are given those names, for instance, they're not at the level that Allah subhanaw taala has selected to ship Villa don't do share what Allah and he says to him in the shell can a woman or lean indie chick, it is shorty a great injustice, this is why you should not do [???]. What do we see over here?

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He's telling his son, what not to do. And he's telling him why he should not do it. He's telling him the reason as well.

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So what does it show to us? When we tell our children do this? Don't do this, we should also explain to them why we should do it and why we should not do it.

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But what is our behavior generally?

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Because we don't know ourselves. When children ask we say, don't ask too many questions. Just do what you're supposed to do. Right? This is a way of

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telling them not to think telling them not to use their mind, they should be encouraged to use their mind. And when the question, we should answer them. And if we don't know the answer, as those who know, the understand.

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Because if they don't understand why they do something and why they don't do something, will they do it? No. They might do it out of your fear for some time. But eventually what's going to happen they're going to lose that habit. So initial color lumen or levy tells him that chick is a great injustice. How is it a great injustice? Because it is an injustice against

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a law soprano Tada. This is why it is lumen earline loan towards people is also very bad, but saloon towards Allah. It is Arlene because Allah is our alum, he is the greatest. So what do we see over here? That chick is the number one sin of all the major sins, it's at the top of the list at the top of the list. And you will notice that wherever major sins are mentioned, that first what is mentioned, should

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and it's such a deed that wastes all the deeds of a person. It nullifies all the good deeds of a person.

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We learned that instituted around 88. So many prophets of alarm mentioned and then the law says well, a Shaku the habitat and Homer can we remove that if they're associated others with Allah than worthless for them would be whatever they were doing all their actions will be wasted, finished, they would find no reward for any of their actions.

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So it is very, very important that we keep away from ourselves. And we must also educate our children. Because many times we think children what do they know? How do they understand, but just now the example was given of a certain gamers on cartoons or something, but they have shaken them. And if children are watching them, they're being entertained by them amused by them all the time, will they be able to figure out what Shrek is and what the haters know. And at such a young age, this fitter of theirs is eliminated. It's finished, it's wiped out. Then as I grow older, will they have modifiable? No

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So many times we underestimate children, we think they cannot understand but believe me, they can understand they are intelligent, they can understand this concept.

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Now try and talk about these things to little children today. The three things that I told you about check, try and talk to a child about it.

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Like a six year old, eight year old, 10 year old, and you'll see they understand you have to come to their level, you have to give them relevant examples. Okay? And when you will give them relevant examples, believe me, they will understand, try it.

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Why should we expect a lottery winners? I mean, like, I'm buying something for you. And you know, it doesn't make sense. But you know, that you say thank you to me. So, like, if you do something for someone else, like why are you expecting all that value if you're not doing

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so, remember, when we flew, we have to keep wild in mind that it has to be effective and how will you make it effective, when you speak on their level, when you speak in a way that they will understand and they can understand, we underestimate children a lot.

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If you look at in the previous slide, what was mentioned, sugar

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and then shake is mentioned. Sugar is what?

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What is gratitude,

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acknowledgement. And Chuck is what the exact opposite of that.

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And if you look at the letters, sugar, shake, sugar is that you acknowledge that everything you have is from Allah. And as a result, you show gratitude to him. You obey Him, you worship Him, you thank him, you praise Him, you ask him.

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And sure because what that what Allah has given you everything. Instead of turning to Allah, you turn to other than

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the exact opposite of shukran. It's the greatest in gratitude.

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A lot, the one who gave you everything, instead of thanking Him, you turn to other than Allah.

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What was signle insana we were led and we have enjoined upon men care for his parents.

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Now in the previous I, what do we learn that look man, he is advising his son. And in the middle of the advice, Allah subhanaw taala Delta something

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and after this, the advice of look man will continue after is number 15. It will continue. But right now Allah subhanaw taala is adding to something and what is this called? Joomla Mauritania, apparently medical sentence.

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Because in the previous ayah, what is mentioned, the right of allies mentioned exclusive right of Allah, that he alone deserves to be worshipped. And after the right of Allah, who's right, as mentioned, generally, the rights of the parents. So it was seen as insane and we were early, they were signer. dosia was Leah, what does that mean? To give an important instruction to someone that is good. And that is beneficial, and before a time in advance. So for example, if I gave you an important instruction, this is how you cheat on the exam. This is what's the you

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know, because it's not something good.

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Okay, we'll see as what it's something good, which is why if somebody makes an unlawful will, and unfair will will it be executed? No, it's not considered as muesli anymore. And wasabi is to take a promise from someone to give an important instruction to someone and make them promise that they will do it. Do not leave them with a choice. So slain in Santa Whalley, they today, we have enjoined upon man, upon the human being that with his parents, what does he have to do? What does he have to do?

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So what does this mean that Allah has not given us a choice with regards to doing your sign to our parents? No. It's a promise that he has taken from us. It's a hokum that He has given to us. We don't have a choice with regards to that.

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Now, if you notice over here, we will slain of insanity Wiley de what your son is not mentioned, what is mentioned afterwards Hamada Toma, who won an earlier one was the follow up here I mean, and then initially when you validate, so initially when you validate this is there was a year

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this is there was a year, and before there was a year, the reason behind this instruction is being mentioned that why should you be grateful towards your parents? Why do you have to be good towards your parents? Because how my lad who his mother carried him one and allow one weakness upon weakness.

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Now if you notice, gratitude, or good treatment, is to be shown towards both the mother and the father. Isn't it be Wiley de una de means both mother and father, but after the mother and the father only

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The mothers mentioned that the mother carried him when and

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why only the mother is mentioned?

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Whereas obedience is to be shown to both the parents. Why is the mother only mentioned over here? Why do you think?

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Because it shows to us that the mothers exam in a way is more how that she has given birth to him. Her sacrifice in a way is more. But if you think about it, when a woman is pregnant, who suffers along with her who suffers, the husband does not suffer. So when she is carrying him along with her, who is varying the pains, who is bearing the difficulties, who's bearing all the hardships, the husband as well as the father as well. So yes, the mother is pregnant, the mother bore the child, one and the other one, but along with her, the father also Borla difficulty, how miletto Mobile one and Allah one.

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One is from the roof as well, her noon, and one is weakness. So his mother, she bore him weakness upon weakness, what does it mean by this weakness after weakness, that from the time she conceived the child, she only increased in her weakness.

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From the moment of conception onwards, she only increased in her weakness, why she is weakened by her pregnancy. If you think about it, typically when a woman is pregnant, all of her reserves of iron and calcium and hemoglobin and magnesium and all of these necessary vitamins and all of that what happened to them, they're depleted, right. And this is why she needs to take a multivitamin throughout her pregnancy and this aid before pregnancy, and also two years after pregnancy until your nursing the child,

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one another one weakness, so she's weakened by the pregnancy, the entire duration of the pregnancy. And then after that, she is weakened by the pains of labor, the difficulty of delivery, and it doesn't end over there, it doesn't stop over there, the weakness only increases how that then she has to nurse the child, then she has to spend sleepless nights, she has to spend exhausting days looking after the child. So she only increases in her weakness. As the child grows, who is suffering the mother.

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So we see that this process of constantly giving and giving, it makes her weak one another one.

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I remember one of my friends when she gave birth, she had a very difficult pregnancy. And finally, when she gave birth, her baby can which is fine.

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And the baby started crying. And she had to nurse him. And she was told no, no, this is not the end. This is just the beginning. This is just the beginning. So what happens, as one stage is over, another stage begins. And that extracts more energy out of her. Whatever reserves are there in her body, they're used up even more, they're consumed even more.

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So as a result, she only increases in her weakness when and when she literally her body is used her blood, her sweat. The child lives off of her as a fetus is growing inside the woman. What is he living off? Any bottles? Any formula? No, the mother her blood. And then once a child is born, he is nursing for who? The mother. Again his nourishment is coming from moved from the mother. And then along with feeding the baby. What is she doing? bathing the baby looking after the baby changing him all the time. She sacrifices her sleep, her eating her rest her work so much for the child one and Allah one. And as a result, she suffers from physical weakness. She suffers from mental weakness.

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She suffers from emotional weakness.

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That after pregnancy, she's physically weak. She becomes mentally weak as well. Why? Because constantly the child has on her mind.

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It is said that a woman's brain cells they're affected, but allow them whether they're affected or not, whether they reduce or not. She is definitely overburdened because of constant looking after a child and it affects her mental strength. Right? This is why typically what happens to women they begin to forget things. Forget things that are very, very important. So she suffers from mental weakness, and not just mental weakness, but emotional weakness. So many women what happens to them after giving birth?

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What happens? depression, isn't it? postpartum depression? So one, another one. And this doesn't stop. It doesn't stop. I remember once these two women were talking and this one woman was complaining about her child that you know my child isn't

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And he's complaining. And, you know, it's very difficult for me to deal with him. So the woman was like my daughter, now she's about 12 years old. And now she has, you know, stopped troubling me with regards to her eating and showering and changing and her homework, and so on and so forth. But she said, that means I have to wait for these many more years.

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And I was listening to their conversation. I wasn't that old. At that point, it was quite young. And I remember thinking that mothers, they never get out of this difficulty of dealing with their children this challenge rather, of dealing with their children.

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You know, many times it happens that children, you know, they're with each stage of their life who is suffering along with them. The parents, the mother, especially, the child is going to school, the mother has to go through the exams herself as well, every single year, every single term, the child is in university who is suffering the mother, it says, Oh, she has to go sit for those exams. And then when the child when he grows older, when she grows older when they have children, it's as though the grandmother has had a child. It says, Oh, she has to live motherhood all over again, one another one, it just doesn't end. It doesn't stop.

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What is la Lu, and his weaning fear omein in two years, that after giving birth, it's not over. Now she has to nurse the child. And as she nurses a child, it takes another two years, our main doula facade is from the roof actress faseb lamb. And fossil is to what is possible I mean to depart, and as you depart, what happens, distance is created between you and what you left. So it is to create a distance to create a gap. And facade is used for weaning when a child is taken off of breastfeeding, because when a child is exclusively being breastfed, or is being breastfed by the mother, then isn't it close to the mother? Isn't it? Yes.

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Many women, as long as they're nursing their children, they're very attached to their children,

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every two hours, every one hour, okay, every three hours, then eventually every five hours, then the period is longer. But what happens the child is still close to the mother. But then once she stops breastfeeding the child, then a distance is created between the child and the mother, isn't it? Then other relatives say okay, you can leave the child with me for the whole day. Whereas before it was impossible, isn't it? But then she can leave the child. So distance between the mother and child it increases. So this facade, it happens in how long? Two years? And in these two years, as she's nursing the child, what is she doing, giving, giving, giving, giving all the time, and this is why

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she increases in her weakness. This is why Allah says anishka Lee, so be grateful to me that I gave you the blessing of these parents who are doing all that they're doing with love. Isn't it amazing?

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that women, they find pregnancy so difficult, giving birth, so difficult, but they do it all over again.

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They find nursing so difficult, but they do it all over again. They don't mind. Because I say it's worth it.

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initially be grateful to me that I gave you such parents. If we have to look after our parents and this way, think about it, that we have to feed them every two hours. Would we have the patience to do it? Change them, take them out? Would we have the patience to do it? No way. But the parents when they're doing it for the children, they do it with so much love. They do it with so much pride with so much happiness. So be grateful to Allah for this huge blessing.

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And also when you validate, and also be grateful towards your parents, Eli Mosley and remember that to me is your destination. You're coming back to me. And I will ask you.

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I remember I visited this old lady once extremely old, she could barely walk. She had 10 children. All of them are doctors and lawyers extremely successful. But she used to live alone. She used to live alone. And were in a house that was you know, sponsored by the government. Basically you don't have to pay any rent or you only have to pay a partial rent subsidized housing. Right? That's where she used to live all by herself. She used to cook and clean and do everything by herself and her children they would not even come visit.

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It's amazing how she looked after her 10 children that all of them were so successful in their worldly careers in their family lives. But here the mother she's living all alone, all alone, doing everything herself.

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anishka Lee Valley Valley, deca Elaine masih.

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So, we see over here in this ayah that Allah subhanaw taala first mentions his right in the previous ayah. Then he mentioned the rights of the parents and this is

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why because for among the people, the great

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writers have who have the parents, so a person must be grateful to them. And of the parents, the sacrifice of the mother, especially as mentioned, that she goes through difficulty, she suffers weakness over weakness, and she nurses the child for two years. And it really takes a toll on her health, and also on her mental capacity. This is why we see that once a man came to the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and he said, O Messenger of Allah, Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship, companionship. And the Prophet said, your mother. And the man said, then who the Prophet said, then your mother, then the man further asked, then who the Prophet said, then your

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mother, and the man asked again, then who and the Prophet said, then your father,

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three times you said, Your mother, and then your father, because the mother sacrifice, definitely, it's more, because she has to bear the child, she has to go through the pains of labor and delivery, no one can share that pain with her.

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No one can share it with her at all. And once the child is out, and you're tired, you can't hold the child, the other person can hold him. But at labor, can anyone say okay, let me take off the pain. No one can do that. No one at all. So her sacrifice is more she bears the child, she nurses the child, she raises the child, therefore, she has been given more right

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now Allah subhanaw taala says over your initial Lea, when you validate, and the reason that has been given over here that your mother gave birth to you, and that alone is enough of a reason that you should be grateful.

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Many times people complain, oh, my parents, they never did this for me. They never did that to me. They never sent me to a good school. They make me work. Since I was 16. I've been working. Since I've been 18. I've been working this is what my parents have forced me to do. Why should I be grateful to them? Why should I be good towards them? My father has yelled at me every single day. My mother, she's made me work in the kitchen every single day. Why should I be grateful? Why should I be thankful? Why? What's the reason that Allah Subhana Allah is giving us over here that she gave birth to you. And that's it, she gave birth to you. And that alone is enough that you should be

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grateful to her, that you should be good to her, regardless of what she's done, or what she's not done,

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because you can never ever pay her back for what she suffered during her pregnancy and birth. And afterwards, never. This is why we're bill whether they need Santa. Initially, when he well he they

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now, when it comes to being grateful to the parents, again, it includes your terrafirma and also his harinama. So first of all, we have to acknowledge the blessing of our parents acknowledge that they have been good to us realize that their sacrifices have played a huge role in who we are today.

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So how are we going to acknowledge their favor? What have they done for us that we should be grateful to them? How has their efforts and sacrifices made a huge impact on our lives? How? Think about it, tell me,

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their therapy, how they trained us? You know how difficult it is to teach a child how to eat himself? You know, have you ever tried to take a two year old one year old, make them sit on a chair, give them a plate of food and a spoon and experience how difficult it is to teach a child how to eat himself and enjoy tearing up the mess afterwards and changing him and then changing the diaper. Your mother taught you how to eat, your parents taught you how to eat, you can ever pay them back for it.

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And not just eat but drink, use the washroom bathe yourself, change iron your clothes, how to speak, what to say what not to say. How to behave, how to walk, how much effort parents put in to teach little little things to their children. And if they didn't teach us all those things, what would we be today? Just imagine what else

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that many parents what have they done? They have left their home countries. Why? In order to go to a better country? Why? To get a better life for you. You can live a safe life, a secure life.

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You can go to school, you can get good education. You can get good food to eat. You don't grow up in fear like they grew up. Isn't that a huge sacrifice? It's a huge sacrifice. leaving your home country leaving your relatives is not something easy. And then working. Mater's what happens. People who emigrate to another country all of their previous

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work experience comes down to what? Zero out of their credentials come down to what zero. People who are professionals in their home countries, working in big banks working as engineers, working as doctors what happens when they come to another country? They're working at gas stations. They're working as taxi drivers. That's what they're doing.

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Isn't that a huge sacrifice? It's a huge sacrifice.

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Sara Monica. I was saying when we immigrated from my country to different country, from Eritrea, to Sudan, what happened my father, he left all his business, everything just to serve his family. So when he came there, because he was nervous in Eritrea, he can Sudan and they offered him a job to, to work as a nurse. And then from Europe, when, man he told him, you're very good man. And we can take you to Sweden. And he said, Okay, I'll think about it. And then you think about it. And then the person who gave him the visa, and my father, he looked at it, and he gave it to non Muslim. He said, If you want to go go before he asked my mother, and then when he came home, and he said, this

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is happening today, to me and everybody home, why did you lose this opportunity? Now we live in in here, otherwise, if you take this opportunity, we will live in good live in Sweden. And then he said, No, my children stay here in this desert, and learn Arabic under the Dean's best for me, then I go into them and I have this dunya. So they sacrifice their dunya so that you could keep your deen

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many times parents are making the law for their children all the time. You're going through your exam and they're your mother is making dinner for you. You're not able to eat, you're sick, and your mother is making the offer you Your parents are making go out for you. So the favor of our parents on us is a lot. And we need to do that often acknowledge this blessing.

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And after that often nirma comes what is called a neuroma.

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How do we show gratitude now? How First of all, in our call, think about all that our parents have done for us. Everything that they have done for us sometimes the father is working, the mother is working, both are working, the mother is working double shifts at home at work, isn't it. So why? Select children have a good house to live in. They have good food to eat, they can go to school, they can go to university, they're not in debt, so that children can enjoy. So first of all, in the call. Now after the call comes What? This? And how will you do that?

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saying thank you to them.

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We say does Akela Hayes, thank you to the entire world, isn't it?

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Somebody moves a little bit we sit as acula somebody brings us something we said exactly. Luckily, for the smallest of things, what do we do? Does akeelah Hi, thank you, thank you, thank you. But when it comes to our parents, we take everything for granted, our mother cooks or father works. We never ever acknowledge what they do.

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So first of all, is verbally, verbally thanking them, saying thank you to them.

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And then say good things to them when you speak to them. Speak kindly

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say that which makes them happy. And the standard of loss of powder has given you use it to make the offer them as well. Especially if they have passed away or they live far away. Make dua for them

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and mentioned their good qualities, their good deeds to other people.

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After the lesson comes what the jawara.

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And this, especially if a person is living with their parents, what should they do?

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use their body to serve the parents not to the parents are using their body to still serve you while you have become an adult.

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You understand?

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It's shameful, embarrassing, that how the parents are suffering, they have become old, they're ill, and they're still doing stuff for you instead of you doing stuff for them. You know, if there's a genuine reason, like you're safe, you're unwell. You know, it makes sense. But without any genuine reasons, sometimes what happens we overburden our parents, whereas we should be taking those responsibilities from them, we should realize they have become old, or they have other things to do as well. So with our limbs, and then also serving them doing things for them and performing such deeds that would benefit them in the dunya and also in the afternoon. So for example, part of

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gratitude towards your parents would be that whatever work you're doing, you do it with excellence so that they can be happy. They can be proud parents, that we sent our daughter to school, and she did so well. You understand? Doing whatever you do with excellence that your parents can be proud of you

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They can be happy that we made a good decision. And our daughter has made us so happy. Think about it, how much sacrifice our parents have done for us. And we cannot even do our work properly to put a smile on their face. For God's sake, they've done so much, at least do what you're doing properly. So they can smile, they can be happy, not they're upset and sad and worried and anxious all the time.

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And then doing good. So that in the other also, they can be proud, they can be happy, because of the actions that we have done. So being grateful to parents also includes Rafa nirma as well as his horo nirma.

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And when a person is grateful to his parents, then he is being grateful to Allah. Because my lamea Quran NASS lemmya karela, the one who is not grateful to people, then he is not grateful to Allah either.

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This is why it has been said and he scored Li while he validate. Now, we might say I'm very thankful to Allah. But I can't say thank you to my parents, because they tell me a lot of stuff to do. Allah knows how grateful I am. Yes, he knows how grateful you are. But you need to show your gratitude to your parents as well. They deserve it.

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They deserve it because what they have done is a huge favor upon you. And we see that we have been commanded to not just be good towards parents of their Muslim, but even if they're non Muslim, what should a person who he should still be grateful to them, he should still be good to them. What happened when a smug Ivy buckle when her mother visited her from Makkah, she was a michiga. And she came

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and she asked a prophet sallallahu Sallam Can I have her come to my house? And can I help her? What did the Prophet sallallahu Sallam say, now? I'm slightly lucky. That Yes, we go towards your mother.

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So if we have been told to be good to our parents, if they're non Muslim, then how much more good we have to be when they are Muslim. How much more good we have to be when they're Muslim. When they're telling us to do good things when they're teaching us good stuff.

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Initially, when you validate and remember in a young Muslim to Allah is the return and Allah will ask us, he will hold us accountable.

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Let's listen to the recitation.

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