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Bismillah he was salatu salam ala rasulillah salam wa alayhi wa sallam were bound. Amongst the many profound and beautiful and pristine teachings of Islam is the importance of protecting and preserving one's tongue and speech. The Arabic proverb is very profound and amazing gentleman who studied jure mucho Kabir. It is a small piece of flesh, but the harm that can be caused as a result of abusing the tongue can be very hideous, horrendous and severe. If the tongue is used correctly, it can mend relationships and if the tongue is abused, it can break relationships. There is an amazing poem in the Urdu language, which goes as follows. Godzilla hammoud, the tow bar the Beatles

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are a Zamani pass her marasca a large in a while. Some hurtful comments remain fresh, even after the passage of time. That time and period and error doesn't have an antidote to offset every poison. That is so deep Just let me say this again.

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That some hurtful comments, remarks, painful things, even after the passage of time. When you see that person it evokes that memory. He once made this remark to me he made this condescending gesture towards me. He made this inflammatory expression, derogatory vituperative and that's what I want to focus on today. Unfortunately, under the name of freedom of speech, sometimes people become blasphemous. Sometimes people become offensive, and we don't realize the limits and the boundaries. The messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, in the lab, Dalai Lama, Bill Kelly met him in Saha de la la yarrabilba. Sometimes the person utters a statement which provokes The Wrath of Allah

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subhanho wa Taala. But he doesn't make much of it now.

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It's okay It's fine. I said it in jest Why is he so personal about it? Why is he so sensitive about it? He knows their family are like this. You made some painful, derogatory remarks either about his appearance, some people would mock it a person stature, someone would say he's very obese, someone would say he's very short. In fact, there is the Hadith in a Buddha would when our mother our Chateau de la Mancha, the noble honorable venerable consort of the messenger, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam whom Allah lavishly praises in the Quran, entire existence was pure, her tongue was pure her existence was pure. Hola como para una me Maya kulu. Allah exonerates her and frees her from the

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allegations that were leveled against those who accused her and those who blame her and those who will hurt any, you know, nasty comments towards her. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, in Allah Dena, your Muna masana deal Luffy la mina de Laurie Norfolk dhania, when there are those who attacked the chestatee of our era, the alarm on how they are cursed in this world and the latter, yet on one, one instance, she was sitting with the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and she made a remark. She made a remark about her co wife. Now we know the Prophet sallallahu wasallam was the most tolerant human, he had this amazing levels of forbearance, tolerance, perseverance, but when he shared the

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alarm and has said regarding Sophia, the other spouse and her go wife has to come in Sofia together, we'll get that done in casilla. Owner Viva La what's the to be impressed about your spouse, Sophia, Miko wife, when she's short in stature, she's short in stature. So she she kind of gave us a remark about her height and her physique. The messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam as beloved as a Chateau de la Mancha, wants to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and we learned from this year this was the beauty that if somebody is close to you, then that should not become an obstacle in addressing the matter. Today, unfortunately, it's either the profile of a person or the proximity of a person or

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you threatened by the position of a person. So you just remain silent and mute and you don't address the issue. He said to each of the Allahu Allah Ducati Kalima Arusha you have uttered a statement lo musi Joby MA in Buhari Lam as a judge who, if this statement were to be diluted into the ocean, hypothetically, if you could, you know, solidify the statement or you could

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Put it in a liquid form and then you drop it into the ocean. Lem as a jet to a lacquer to that statement will disturb the entire ocean. Now reflect for a moment my brother and sister are in charge of the olana is pure existence is pure. But this particular statement is obviously distasteful. It's not palatable, and the consequences and the repercussions of this is so horrendous, that it can disturb the entire oceans. Imagine us our existence is not pure. Our tongues are not pure, our hearts are not pure. And then we just make these remarks about people Oh, you're not married still. So what you're doing, he or she is hoping, wishing and praying and anticipating

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for a partner. But it's not happening. And that's in the world of a lot. You married five years? Are you kidding me? You don't have any children. You don't have any offspring, what you're up to, and you go into the personal life of a person and you attack the honor of that person. I promise you the hurt of that person on these things will cause you serious consequences in your life. Remember, when asked Meanwhile, the nasty comment to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and that prompted the revelation of the 100 and eighth chapter of the Quran, surah to Lakota and he referred to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam as avatar. So avatar baterai in Arabic means to cut off to sever and his

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derogatory reference was the demise of Kasim, the eldest main son of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, to which the Prophet of Allah is given the title as a bull Qasim, the father of Kasim, but he passed on in his infancy and for the record all the male offspring of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam passed on. So he said, Oh, you only have daughters, you don't have any sons. You don't have any sons. So someone might have sons, they don't have daughters, or someone is not married or someone doesn't have children. This is the choice of Allah. How do we ask people how do we learn people on these things? This is serious. So the Prophet sallallahu wasallam felt very hurt. Allah

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subhanho wa Taala then comforted him and Allah subhanho wa Taala said in pain can co author or Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam ignore what they have said, we have given you Kota Kota has two meanings. Either it can mean good in abundance or refers to the exclusive pond of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam ignore the nasty remarks of us Meanwhile, for suddenly Neva Baker one hell of a prayer for your Lord and sacrifice animals. And remember this is comfort to you and it's a blow to those who say nasty comments to you in a shiny echo when avatar, the one who detest you, the one who despises you, he will be cut off from every virtue. And it's mentioned in biannual Quran under

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masala Sulu, one v mithuna. He you are kaaboo man when he and min Alia he that when you hurt a person's feelings and more particular when it is a friend of Allah. And it's a sensitive nerve because everybody desires to to be healthy, to have a good appearance to be wedded to have children to have both gender but this is the choice of Allah subhanho wa Taala it's not for me to to hurt someone or ask these questions will be mithuna Here you are. Another Walia that those who heard the friends of Allah subhanho wa Taala the same repercussion will apply. Like the Quran sounds a warning for us, meanwhile, that he will be severed from every good in a like manner. Those who hurt people

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by making nasty remarks, they will be cut off from every virtue. So I urge you my brother, I urge you, my sister in social discussions in family get togethers. When you are having out, eat out, don't ask personal questions. If a person is forthcoming and he says I'm married, or have children or I don't well in good, don't probe or pray or don't answer these awkward and personal questions. I leave you with this comments. And these profound remarks of one of the great legends of Islam. Ignore Josie Rahim Allah, He said man Sara Lee Lisa who feed our Robin muslimeen sakala who lisanna who Anisha dangle mode, the one who will leave his tongue free, free to just speak to blurt to utter

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to attack to insult to hurt people. You don't know what is painful to a person. You have children so you don't understand the remark of asking someone. You are healthy. You are young you are attractive. So you don't know someone who is trying his level best to drop some kilos and shed some weight and look young and attractive. It's not working for him or someone who's trying to settle down and one after the other. The marriage is breaking up. You don't appreciate the sensitivity that it entails. Mancera. Hi Lisa houfy muslimeen the one who leaves his tongue

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Free to attack the honor the integrity of the believers and sokola who listen who Anisha that they are in the mode, Allah will deprive him or her from uttering the kalama at the time of death