Sulaiman Moola – Parenting – Developing A Generation Of Excellence – Drug Awareness Q&A

Sulaiman Moola
AI: Summary © The speakers emphasize the importance of protecting the human race, sharia, and parents' priorities in achieving success in life. They stress the need for transparency and devotion to achieve success, finding time with loved ones, avoiding harms, and balancing love and desire in relationships. The importance of respect for multiple parents and a strong message in conservative media is emphasized, along with the need for de reproach behavior and responsibility for actions to avoid negative emotions. The challenges of reaching out to youth in the country to advocate for sports and claim to be a millionaire are addressed, along with a program on a radio station and a young man advocating for sports and claiming to be a millionaire.
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Okay. We can just get signal from Ibrahim.

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Okay. We all systems go.

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I'm waiting for you.

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Good.

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Check what the

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we good?

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Respected Ulamah,

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Mufti Surayman, Mullasab, Damad Barakatuhum,

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members of the community,

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fathers, mothers, brothers, sisters,

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students,

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and beloved youth,

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Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi

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wabarakatuh.

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Firstly, we begin by praising Allah Subarika Wa

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Ta'ala.

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Sending salawat and durood upon the seal of

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prophets.

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Muhammadur Rasool Allah, Hissalallahu

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Alaihi Wasallam.

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Indeed Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala is most kind

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on us

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that Allah has favored us together

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this evening

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to engage

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in a very very important discussion and discourse

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that will be delivered by honorable guest Hazrat

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Mullana Suleiman Mullassa.

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In the same breath I would like to

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say

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to 1 and all.

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Also to the listeners of Radio Islam International

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and the listeners of CII Radio.

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To begin the proceedings this evening

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and to bring upon us

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the mercy of Allah Tabarakahu Ta'ala.

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We would commence with the recitation of the

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Quran Sharif

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and I would like to call upon

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who everyone known know as

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Prince and there is our none other

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than Kari Naim Chonarasab

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to join me on stage to render the

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opening kirafali at the Fad al Mashkura.

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So in on that note,

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I would like to also make mention

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that inshallah today's program is going to be

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formal and informal.

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Formal

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in a that Hazrat Mufti Saab will be

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presenting from the front which will be on

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the topic itself

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and informal when we get to the q

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and a session insha Allah. Without further ado,

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insha Allah we will request our Hazrat Tari

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Naim Saab to render fast the opening prayer.

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Say Mashallah to Karinaim for that most beautiful

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rendition.

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May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala accept and take

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us from strength to strength.

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In the eye of the Qari sub rendered

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wherein Allah

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says,

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Yeah.

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How beautiful it is. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

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addresses us as believers

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as reciters of Allah

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So it starts off from ourselves and today's

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topic inshallah

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is based on parenting, based on the Quran

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and sun of Rasool Allah sallallahu alaihi wasallam

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and also developing a generation of excellence

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because we find

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this lethargy that is setting in

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within our students, this lethargy that's setting in

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within parents

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and maybe or probably we're becoming a little

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too complacent on the way things are running

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and as a result,

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the vices are also increasing within our community

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as Roshni,

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the surrounding areas and many of these challenges

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are actually even global. So Hazza Mufti Sahib

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will be elaborating

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on these aspects as well.

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Of recent as well, as we know, like

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I mentioned not specific to Roshni but in

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general and as Olehmar, we normally deal with

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these cases on a on a day to

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day basis

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amidst

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from substance abuse

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to,

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disobedient

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children

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to, lack of desire to learn from our

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children as well which exist whilst we do

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have the other positive side to it where

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learners and students do have the drive. We

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also have the flip side and like I

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said, that could be setting in because of

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complacency.

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So we do have that and then also

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other vices that are coming up like we

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know the LGBTQ

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and its entire drive and movement internationally, globally.

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The the the the issue of * is

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also something that is coming to the fore.

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So these are serious concerns

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that, that are coming to the fore and

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vices that are creeping

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well into our communities

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and this is why we have actually arranged

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this program here tonight is to address these

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issues head on with Hazal Mufti Saab Insha

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Allah will elaborate and will guide us on

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how to tackle many of these things that

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we are facing Insha Allah. So

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these are some of the aspects and and

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just talking a little bit about developing a

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generation of excellence,

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everything starts from home. We know very

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well that learning starts

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when the child is in the womb of

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the mother. That's the first institute.

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And from there, of course, the child grows

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and it's important as the saying goes, it

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takes a village to raise a child that

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each one of us in society, in community,

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as educators, as olema, as parents

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that we play our role in the manner

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we ought to play it based on the

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Quran and sunnah towards the upbringing of our

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children so that they are rooted that so

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that they are rooted in the Quran and

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the sunnah of Rasulullah

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salallahu alaihi wasallam. May Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala

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protect our children. May Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala

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protect our generations

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and make such youngsters grow up that would

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be leaders in in the Ummah of Rasulullah,

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his salallahu alaihi salallahu alaihi.

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Yes. Tonight,

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we are very very honored as a community

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of Roshni and for this program to be

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taking place here

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that we have

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the likes of Hazrat, Molina Suleiman, Mullasab, Damod

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Barakatuhum

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that due to his busy schedule as well

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has taken out the time to be here

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with us to tackle these issues that we

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are raising head on Insha Allah. And like

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this, like I mentioned we're going to extend

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it a little bit further where we're gonna

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have the q and a session that's gonna

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be happening as well. And Insha'Allah, we'll talk

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about that when we get to that point

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of the program. So without any further ado,

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I would like to call upon Hazrat Mufti

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Surayman Mulla Saab to the stage to address

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us InshaAllah. Falaatifadir mashhoorah.

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Yeah. This thing mustn't be flimsy.

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Expressing

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the deceptive nature of battle.

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And

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says that the

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used to prefer

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reciting these couplets at the time of because

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battle and in its deception has a sense

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of similarity. Now can you

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has a sense of similarity.

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Now can you imagine the relevance of these

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couplets today when the is gripped with both

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a battle and fitna.

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So,

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the great poet

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had initially,

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composed these couplets

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sketching out the deceptive nature of battle.

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In essence, he says,

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when battle starts, likewise,

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it looks attractive and he likens it to

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a young, beautiful, attractive girl.

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How often do you youth say this is

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trending? This is new. Try this. Explore this.

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Browse on this here. Sign up for this

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here. There's an element of excitement. It intrigues

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you. It attracts you. Sometimes innocence.

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Sometimes curiosity,

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sometimes adventure.

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Battle in its inception

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presents like a young beautiful girl. Fitna in

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its inception

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presents like someone beautiful and attraction attractive.

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Every naive, foolish, vulnerable person is just drawn

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in.

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But as you get close and the heat

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becomes intense and the flame starts blazing, you

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realize this is far from beauty and far

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from young.

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It be you realize it's someone old, aged,

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frail, senile,

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with no companion, no partnership, no loyalty.

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And the very thing to which you were

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going head on, now you're trying to come

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out but unfortunately, you've been overwhelmed, you've been

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gripped, and you simply cannot come out of

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it.

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There's a man who unfortunately has succumb to

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substance abuse,

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and I try and keep contact with him.

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And as the time progresses and inshallah, hopefully,

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I've been given a list to speak on

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so many things. So I hope I can

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encapsulate it in my address.

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Every time I meet him,

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I ask him, is there one advice that

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you can give the people? You've now ended

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up on the streets, unfortunately.

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And obviously, you don't like the life that

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you are living and neither would your family

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like to see you, but the brutal truth

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is you are on the streets.

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Is there one single piece of advice

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that you can give to anyone out there,

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young, adolescent,

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vulnerable, susceptible,

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still exploring the earth, finding his wings,

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trying to, you know,

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enjoy life.

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He says tell them to deny and decline

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the first temptation.

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That's it.

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Once you have a choice

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for the first time. After that, it's an

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addiction.

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After that, it's just free falling. May Allah

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protect us.

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So that's the nature of fitna and that's

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the nature of battle. And the prophet

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said before,

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there will be types of fitanas that will

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grip you.

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That it would

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veil your sanity.

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It would block your logic. It will obscure

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your vision.

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You would just be, you know what,

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drawn into it. It probably pops up on

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your screen

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and, casually, you just browse in through it,

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and you just move into that site. And,

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unfortunately, you are addicted.

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Yesterday, I had a call from a sister,

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a message that had come through that, unfortunately,

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repeatedly,

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she happened to get exposure to the

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device of her husband. And, unfortunately, there's been

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a * addiction that has persisted from the

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inception of the marriage.

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And unfortunately, typically, commonly, averagely, you start lying

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and one lie leads to another lie.

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As the Arabic proverb says, no liar is

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good enough to remember his lies.

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No liar has a good enough memory to

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remember his lies. No. No. It's not my

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phone. Somebody else took it. I'm not sure

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who did it. And one thing to another.

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When we look at the teachings of Islam,

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this just as a preamble to my talk,

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then every one of us

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by birth, without exception,

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was born with the absolute ability and inclination

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towards truth.

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Let's be clear on this here.

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Every one of us by inception, by birth,

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Allah dispatched us onto earth in a manner

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that we all were inclining

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intrinsically,

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inherently towards nobility, purity, and Islam.

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As the hadith

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says, The Quran says, it's the natural religion

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with which Allah

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has created us. Imam Muslim makes mention of

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the hadith under the chapter

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The qualities which distinguish the occupants of *

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from the dwellers of, paradise.

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May Allah make us from the people of

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paradise and save us from the occupants of

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*.

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The hadith is in Sahih Muslim. That's the

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chain of narration. The prophet

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addressing the congregation

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and the assembly of the sahaba said that

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Allah himself says, and I'm just extracting one

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caption of the hadith so that we could

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make progress on the other aspects that we

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need to discuss.

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I created

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every servant of mine

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with the total

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ability to embrace truth.

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I often say without fear of contradiction

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that amongst the many logical

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proofs

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to the veracity of Islam

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is the perfect synchronization

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of the tenets of Islam with the human

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anatomy.

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So you will find no discrepancy,

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no disparity,

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no dichotomy

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between the human composition

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and the injunctions of Islam.

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Because the very Allah who created me and

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you legislated our deen.

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Sometimes you buy a house which is very

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amazing, but it's not practical.

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Because the man who designed it, designed it

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for himself, not for you. So it's awesome.

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It has a brilliant view, but it doesn't

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suit your interest. You've got an elderly parent.

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You need a ramp. You probably have someone

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else with a certain challenge. So it's great.

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The aesthetics, the decor, the layout, the view,

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But it's not tailor made for your interest.

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There is no dichotomy

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between the human makeup and the laws of

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Islam.

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Everything is in perfect harmony and synchronization.

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And if perchance

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you find yourself

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frowning or objecting

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on any of the aspects of deen, be

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it inheritance,

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be it the prohibition of drugs, be it

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polygamy,

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then this is due to external influence

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which has obscured

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your lenses

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and compromised the purity of your vision.

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There's external influence

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that has blurred.

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It's made it foggy.

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So now your view is not clear.

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To benefit the human race in this world

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and the latter.

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Furthermore, he writes,

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When we say that the sharia has been

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designed to benefit the bondsman and the bonds

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woman,

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then to qualify that statement, it means to

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benefit us

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as defined by Allah and not as defined

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by us.

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So father tells his son,

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the shop,

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this factory, this warehouse, this empire, this is

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yours, my son.

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So he said, then give it to me.

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He says, no. No. It's yours on the

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time I decide, with the conditions I decide,

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and in the manner I decide.

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I will relinquish

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at the time I see authority,

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responsibility,

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maturity, commitment. That's the time. Allah has designed

00:31:07 --> 00:31:10

the laws of Sharia and in its limitations

00:31:11 --> 00:31:12

and restrictions,

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there's wholesome freedom.

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And in the apparent freedom of others,

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there's nothing but destruction.

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Or to attract some benefit

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or simultaneously

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to give you both.

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This is a very academic and an intricate

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point.

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The Sharia by design

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does not intend

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anything difficult,

00:32:02 --> 00:32:04

complex or cumbersome,

00:32:05 --> 00:32:08

leave alone being colossal or mammoth or daunting

00:32:08 --> 00:32:09

for the humans.

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The sharia by design

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does not intend

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anything difficult or complex for the servant.

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Just like

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a medical practitioner

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or a surgeon

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whose

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function is to operate, to cut, to take

00:32:46 --> 00:32:47

you into theater.

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His aim is not the operation.

00:32:50 --> 00:32:52

His aim is the cure. His aim is

00:32:52 --> 00:32:54

not the bitter medication.

00:32:54 --> 00:32:55

His aim is the treatment.

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The Sharia doesn't want to burden you. The

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sharia wants to discipline you. Part of the

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discipline

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process is that, yes, you'll have to sleep

00:33:05 --> 00:33:06

early, you'll have to rise early, you'll have

00:33:06 --> 00:33:08

to donate so much, you'll have to lower

00:33:08 --> 00:33:10

your gaze, you'll have to limit your food,

00:33:10 --> 00:33:12

you'll have to manage your diet. This discipline

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is to save you from other harms in

00:33:14 --> 00:33:15

this world.

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If you study, I don't want to it's

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a whole academic thing that last year I

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had the privilege to study. In fact, Imam

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Shatibi says for a mufti, one of the

00:33:40 --> 00:33:43

fundamental things is he has to become an

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authority on the Maqasid of Sharia.

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Understanding the objectives of Sharia before he can

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pronounce any judgment.

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So primarily,

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primarily,

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the sharia

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focuses on 5 things

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which we refer to as.

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Five things is the primary focus of the

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sharia.

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Number 1,

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The preservation of religion.

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And hence the Sharia says, if your religion

00:34:10 --> 00:34:12

is a threat and someone is opposing you

00:34:12 --> 00:34:15

and denying you, then you need to resist.

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Those who were driven out of their homes

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because their only crime and offense was they

00:34:37 --> 00:34:39

believed in Allah. Like today, so many sisters,

00:34:39 --> 00:34:42

only offense is that she is dressed modestly

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and it becomes,

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a sore

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sight for many people.

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Is loving Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,

00:35:01 --> 00:35:03

then I want to be very bold. This

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is a crime from which I won't repent.

00:35:05 --> 00:35:07

I'm proud of this offense.

00:35:16 --> 00:35:20

So Islam primarily focuses on 5 things. The

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preservation

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of religion.

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The preservation of religion. Islam recognizes

00:35:26 --> 00:35:27

to coexist

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with non muslims

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in a common economy, in a common setting,

00:35:32 --> 00:35:33

allowing tolerance,

00:35:33 --> 00:35:34

respect,

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mutual cooperation,

00:35:36 --> 00:35:37

mutual existence.

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The the the the the Sharia speaks about

00:35:39 --> 00:35:40

4 types of relationships.

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Mu'alat,

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Mu'asat,

00:35:43 --> 00:35:43

Mudarat,

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Mu'amalat.

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It's a whole academic

00:35:46 --> 00:35:48

explanation in its great detail form, the different

00:35:48 --> 00:35:49

types of interaction.

00:35:50 --> 00:35:51

Then you have

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the preservation of human life.

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Human life needs to be sacred. Well, it's

00:35:58 --> 00:36:01

not longer it's not sacred anymore.

00:36:01 --> 00:36:03

It's not sacred anymore, unfortunately.

00:36:04 --> 00:36:06

We have slogans. We have organizations.

00:36:07 --> 00:36:08

We have entities.

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But it's it's there's a void. It's empty.

00:36:11 --> 00:36:14

Nothing. How many thousands of people are dying

00:36:14 --> 00:36:15

and you're seeing this here and you're still

00:36:15 --> 00:36:17

debating the term and the definition?

00:36:22 --> 00:36:23

So, hifada to nafs,

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that's the second focus of the Sharia. Hence,

00:36:27 --> 00:36:28

Islam legislates

00:36:28 --> 00:36:29

a penalty,

00:36:29 --> 00:36:30

a consequences.

00:36:31 --> 00:36:34

If you claim someone's life, you injure someone,

00:36:39 --> 00:36:42

There's consequences. There's repercussions. You cannot murder. You

00:36:42 --> 00:36:44

cannot kill. You cannot harm. You cannot injure.

00:36:44 --> 00:36:46

You cannot maim someone and just be acquitted.

00:36:46 --> 00:36:47

There's there's consequences.

00:36:50 --> 00:36:52

Then Islam speaks about

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The preservation of intellect. So the entire sharia

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revolves around these 5 things.

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The preservation of human intellect

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and hence,

00:37:11 --> 00:37:13

the prohibition of intoxicants.

00:37:14 --> 00:37:16

Because the sharia wants

00:37:16 --> 00:37:18

you to be functional,

00:37:18 --> 00:37:21

sober, and sane at all times. Now, I

00:37:21 --> 00:37:23

don't wanna go into iftar here, but I

00:37:23 --> 00:37:25

need to share something important.

00:37:28 --> 00:37:29

In writes one place,

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The difference between

00:37:34 --> 00:37:35

ileat and hikmat.

00:37:35 --> 00:37:38

Ileat is the reason hikmat is the wisdom.

00:37:39 --> 00:37:41

The laws of Islam operate

00:37:42 --> 00:37:43

on its not on its hikmat.

00:37:45 --> 00:37:48

The rules of Islam operate and are based

00:37:48 --> 00:37:50

and revolve around the reasoning

00:37:51 --> 00:37:53

and not the wisdom behind it.

00:37:54 --> 00:37:54

The wisdom

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is the intended

00:37:57 --> 00:37:57

benefit

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that you would achieve and accomplish when you

00:38:00 --> 00:38:01

practice upon it.

00:38:29 --> 00:38:31

So he gives 2 analogies. 1, let's be

00:38:31 --> 00:38:33

relevant to the context of intoxicants

00:38:33 --> 00:38:35

because that's one of our topics.

00:38:37 --> 00:38:39

And this has plagued every home.

00:38:40 --> 00:38:43

It is just like a guttering fire.

00:38:44 --> 00:38:45

When it hits home,

00:38:45 --> 00:38:48

I've been involved and helping and counseling for

00:38:48 --> 00:38:50

the last 15, 20 years.

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I say to my brother and I say

00:38:52 --> 00:38:53

to my sister,

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of course we will address our youth to

00:38:55 --> 00:38:57

become conscious, to become responsible

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and to understand the consequences of this year.

00:39:00 --> 00:39:01

But at that time,

00:39:02 --> 00:39:04

the moment is too serious

00:39:04 --> 00:39:05

and the situation

00:39:06 --> 00:39:06

is

00:39:07 --> 00:39:07

critical.

00:39:08 --> 00:39:10

We have to rise above

00:39:10 --> 00:39:12

the bigger difference

00:39:12 --> 00:39:15

and the bigger the the the minor bickerings

00:39:15 --> 00:39:18

and differences we have, and we need to

00:39:18 --> 00:39:19

get the patient admitted

00:39:20 --> 00:39:21

ASAP.

00:39:23 --> 00:39:24

I know it's a stigma,

00:39:25 --> 00:39:26

and I know it's a taboo to say

00:39:26 --> 00:39:28

my son has been admitted

00:39:28 --> 00:39:30

or your son is in a facility or

00:39:30 --> 00:39:32

you wanna rather choose to use a more

00:39:32 --> 00:39:32

euphemistic

00:39:33 --> 00:39:35

expression. It's a medical. It's a wellness center.

00:39:35 --> 00:39:37

It's there to give him some form of

00:39:37 --> 00:39:40

relaxation. Whatever it is. I do appreciate it.

00:39:40 --> 00:39:42

We're living in a common society. I have

00:39:42 --> 00:39:44

young kids. You have young kids. But at

00:39:44 --> 00:39:46

the moment, the issue is too serious.

00:39:47 --> 00:39:50

The siren is coming. The ambulance is coming.

00:39:50 --> 00:39:51

The alarm bells

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are have been sounded off. The issue is

00:39:54 --> 00:39:57

too important for us to still,

00:39:58 --> 00:40:00

you know, what, limit ourselves to our minor

00:40:00 --> 00:40:02

issues. We have to rise above.

00:40:04 --> 00:40:06

He needs to be admitted right now. We'll

00:40:06 --> 00:40:08

deal with whatever afterwards.

00:40:12 --> 00:40:13

So he gives the analogy

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to consume

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alcohol is forbidden.

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Why?

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Because it's an intoxicant.

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What is the wisdom of it?

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To protect the human intellect

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from it being overpowered.

00:40:35 --> 00:40:36

To incapacitate

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him. To give him a paralysis.

00:40:38 --> 00:40:40

To create mental

00:40:40 --> 00:40:41

impairment.

00:40:42 --> 00:40:43

That's the wisdom.

00:40:44 --> 00:40:46

But the ruling is not based on the

00:40:46 --> 00:40:46

wisdom.

00:40:46 --> 00:40:48

The ruling is based on the reasoning.

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The reasoning is that this is an intoxicant,

00:40:52 --> 00:40:53

hence it is forbidden.

00:40:54 --> 00:40:56

So if somebody counterargues and say, you know

00:40:56 --> 00:40:58

what? I'm a functional addict.

00:41:00 --> 00:41:02

I'm a functional addict.

00:41:03 --> 00:41:03

Yeah.

00:41:05 --> 00:41:07

Nobody who's on the street

00:41:08 --> 00:41:10

believed he would end up on the street.

00:41:11 --> 00:41:14

Nobody whose marriage broke up thought his marriage

00:41:14 --> 00:41:15

will break up.

00:41:15 --> 00:41:17

I know when you came out of the

00:41:17 --> 00:41:19

rehab, you phoned me and you asked me

00:41:19 --> 00:41:21

to convince your your wife,

00:41:21 --> 00:41:23

but I don't have a face to ask

00:41:23 --> 00:41:25

her to give you a chance anymore.

00:41:26 --> 00:41:27

She's exhausted.

00:41:28 --> 00:41:30

She started a life with a good future

00:41:30 --> 00:41:32

or what optimistic of a good future.

00:41:36 --> 00:41:38

So the wisdom is to save the brain

00:41:38 --> 00:41:38

from

00:41:39 --> 00:41:41

from from, you know, deteriorating.

00:41:41 --> 00:41:42

But the ruling

00:41:43 --> 00:41:45

will not operate based on the wisdom.

00:41:45 --> 00:41:47

It goes on the and not on the

00:41:47 --> 00:41:49

hikmat. And then he gives another analogy

00:41:50 --> 00:41:51

just like traffic

00:41:53 --> 00:41:55

lights. The red light is to stop so

00:41:55 --> 00:41:57

that, you know what, the traffic on the

00:41:57 --> 00:41:59

other side could flow to avoid a collision,

00:42:00 --> 00:42:01

to avoid an accident.

00:42:02 --> 00:42:04

So would it be correct then to say

00:42:04 --> 00:42:06

that given the wisdom

00:42:06 --> 00:42:08

of the lights that this one needs to

00:42:08 --> 00:42:11

hold, that one needs to flow. So if

00:42:11 --> 00:42:12

I come here and it's a red light

00:42:12 --> 00:42:14

and there is no traffic flowing,

00:42:14 --> 00:42:16

then there's no wisdom for me to stop

00:42:16 --> 00:42:18

here now because there is no fear of

00:42:18 --> 00:42:20

a collision. Can I continue on a red

00:42:20 --> 00:42:22

light? South Africa as an exception.

00:42:24 --> 00:42:25

Obviously not.

00:42:26 --> 00:42:28

The rule operates on the.

00:42:31 --> 00:42:33

I had a sister recently, why why should

00:42:33 --> 00:42:34

I be in eded?

00:42:35 --> 00:42:38

I can't fall pregnant. There's no there's no

00:42:38 --> 00:42:40

need to verify if I'm pregnant or not.

00:42:58 --> 00:43:00

Yes. That's given as a hikmat. That's not

00:43:00 --> 00:43:02

the rillah. You have to be in riddah

00:43:02 --> 00:43:04

because he divorced you. If he did it

00:43:04 --> 00:43:06

wrongly, that will be his consequences.

00:43:07 --> 00:43:09

But after talaq, the Quran says there's itat

00:43:09 --> 00:43:12

for you. Your husband has passed on, the

00:43:12 --> 00:43:14

Quran said there is itat for you.

00:43:16 --> 00:43:19

So it's important to distinguish between illat and

00:43:19 --> 00:43:19

hikmat.

00:43:21 --> 00:43:23

Because, of course, our youth today think they're

00:43:23 --> 00:43:26

smart, think they're wise. You assume you calculated,

00:43:26 --> 00:43:28

you assume you're functional.

00:43:28 --> 00:43:29

I told you of the young man who

00:43:29 --> 00:43:30

came to me and he said that,

00:43:31 --> 00:43:32

I think cannabis

00:43:33 --> 00:43:33

is permissible.

00:43:35 --> 00:43:37

So I'm like, okay. What's up, bro?

00:43:38 --> 00:43:41

He's like, if it's forbidden, why does Allah

00:43:41 --> 00:43:42

allow it to grow?

00:43:44 --> 00:43:47

I thought you could be smarter than that.

00:43:47 --> 00:43:49

But, anyway, let's say that that's what it

00:43:49 --> 00:43:51

is. So I said to him, so if

00:43:51 --> 00:43:52

the teacher gives you

00:43:53 --> 00:43:53

a questionnaire

00:43:54 --> 00:43:56

and he says choose the correct answer, so

00:43:56 --> 00:43:58

then all the answers are correct.

00:43:59 --> 00:44:02

Or is the fact that choose suggestive of

00:44:02 --> 00:44:04

the fact that one is correct?

00:44:04 --> 00:44:06

You say, hey, you're smart.

00:44:20 --> 00:44:21

So the third thing is

00:44:21 --> 00:44:22

The

00:44:23 --> 00:44:25

deen in its pristine,

00:44:25 --> 00:44:26

original, unadulterated

00:44:27 --> 00:44:28

form has been revealed,

00:44:29 --> 00:44:30

preserved, transmitted

00:44:31 --> 00:44:33

and it focuses on the preservation of the

00:44:33 --> 00:44:35

human intellect. Wow.

00:44:35 --> 00:44:36

SubhanAllah.

00:44:37 --> 00:44:39

Wow. What a rich deen. What a wholesome

00:44:39 --> 00:44:39

religion.

00:44:40 --> 00:44:40

What an amazing

00:44:41 --> 00:44:41

deen.

00:44:42 --> 00:44:43

Flawless. Impeccable.

00:44:45 --> 00:44:46

The fourth thing is

00:44:49 --> 00:44:50

The protection of wealth.

00:44:51 --> 00:44:52

It's valuable.

00:44:52 --> 00:44:54

There's consequences if you steal

00:44:54 --> 00:44:55

these hands.

00:45:11 --> 00:45:13

They were valuable as long as they were

00:45:13 --> 00:45:13

loyal.

00:45:14 --> 00:45:16

But once they betrayed, the shari'a said, no.

00:45:16 --> 00:45:18

No. No. No. These hands don't. They're not

00:45:18 --> 00:45:19

they're not

00:45:20 --> 00:45:21

fulfilling their function.

00:45:22 --> 00:45:24

When Allah spoke about the prophets in the

00:45:24 --> 00:45:27

Quran, then Allah described them in different ways.

00:45:27 --> 00:45:30

But one description Allah gave of them is

00:45:30 --> 00:45:32

they are people with hands and eyes.

00:45:52 --> 00:45:53

There are people with hands and eyes. We'd

00:45:53 --> 00:45:55

hang on. What do we have?

00:45:56 --> 00:45:58

The scholars say they fulfilled

00:45:59 --> 00:46:02

the role of every organ and limb that

00:46:02 --> 00:46:03

Allah had given them.

00:46:04 --> 00:46:05

So

00:46:05 --> 00:46:07

if you have eyes, what would you say?

00:46:07 --> 00:46:09

But you don't have ears, you have potatoes.

00:46:10 --> 00:46:11

Why? Because

00:46:11 --> 00:46:14

you're not listening. It's defeating what it's supposed

00:46:14 --> 00:46:14

to do.

00:46:17 --> 00:46:19

And last, out of the 5, there is

00:46:19 --> 00:46:21

difference of opinion amongst the experts

00:46:22 --> 00:46:23

in terms of the sequence.

00:46:24 --> 00:46:26

Of course, Dean stands first.

00:46:26 --> 00:46:29

And then is the preservation of human body.

00:46:29 --> 00:46:32

Regarding the other three, there's difference of opinion.

00:46:32 --> 00:46:34

What is the sequence in terms of merit?

00:46:35 --> 00:46:37

Islam, out of the 5 preservation, religion is

00:46:37 --> 00:46:37

first.

00:46:38 --> 00:46:40

2nd is the body. And in in the

00:46:40 --> 00:46:42

other three, there's difference of opinion.

00:46:45 --> 00:46:45

The preservation

00:46:46 --> 00:46:47

of progeny.

00:46:48 --> 00:46:49

Establish your lineage.

00:46:50 --> 00:46:51

Confirm your identity.

00:46:52 --> 00:46:54

Hence, the prohibition of adultery and zina. We

00:46:54 --> 00:46:56

need a society where people are responsible,

00:46:57 --> 00:46:58

not unfortunately

00:46:58 --> 00:46:59

irresponsibly

00:46:59 --> 00:47:02

impregnate a woman and off you're gone. There's

00:47:02 --> 00:47:04

no connection. There's no responsibility.

00:47:04 --> 00:47:06

And then, you know, you're you're having a

00:47:06 --> 00:47:09

campaign of of abuse against women and children.

00:47:09 --> 00:47:11

Raise the alarm bells, put an end to

00:47:11 --> 00:47:12

the perpetrator, etcetera.

00:47:13 --> 00:47:15

But then from the roots are you tackling

00:47:15 --> 00:47:15

the problem?

00:47:16 --> 00:47:18

Islam says there's a lineage.

00:47:18 --> 00:47:19

There's a responsibility.

00:47:20 --> 00:47:21

You got to stand tall.

00:47:22 --> 00:47:24

The nestle, the progeny needs to be identified

00:47:24 --> 00:47:25

and recognized.

00:47:28 --> 00:47:28

I

00:47:30 --> 00:47:31

haven't started.

00:47:32 --> 00:47:32

So

00:47:33 --> 00:47:35

just relax yourself.

00:47:36 --> 00:47:36

If,

00:47:37 --> 00:47:38

the only 2 people

00:47:39 --> 00:47:40

that told me I better speak short is

00:47:40 --> 00:47:42

my wife and my daughter. So I'm a

00:47:42 --> 00:47:43

bit under pressure.

00:47:46 --> 00:47:47

Al Asmari,

00:47:49 --> 00:47:50

he was

00:47:51 --> 00:47:52

an authority.

00:47:54 --> 00:47:56

He was a grammarian. He was a philologist

00:47:57 --> 00:47:58

born in the 7th century.

00:47:59 --> 00:48:01

Those that are into Arabic grammar would know.

00:48:01 --> 00:48:03

You heard his name so many times.

00:48:04 --> 00:48:06

In the quest of learning better Arabic,

00:48:07 --> 00:48:08

he said I want to go

00:48:08 --> 00:48:10

to the outline towns,

00:48:10 --> 00:48:12

communities to learn pure language.

00:48:14 --> 00:48:16

I mean today, it's so bad wherever you

00:48:16 --> 00:48:18

go, you just hear vulgar.

00:48:19 --> 00:48:20

Vulgar.

00:48:21 --> 00:48:23

You can barely sit amongst a group of

00:48:23 --> 00:48:24

youth

00:48:24 --> 00:48:27

and not hear you'll be appalled.

00:48:27 --> 00:48:29

Sometimes you're at the airport and you just

00:48:29 --> 00:48:31

turn here and the guy in the queue

00:48:31 --> 00:48:33

is like swearing like a sailor. No. Like

00:48:33 --> 00:48:33

a traveler.

00:48:34 --> 00:48:36

Change the phrase and what's this?

00:48:37 --> 00:48:38

Some people swear

00:48:39 --> 00:48:41

so casually. I'm not condoning it. 1 is

00:48:41 --> 00:48:43

in anger and rage and frustrated.

00:48:43 --> 00:48:45

But one is like, you had a good

00:48:45 --> 00:48:46

time and you swear it.

00:48:47 --> 00:48:49

I don't wanna be mimicking the words here

00:48:49 --> 00:48:51

obviously, but you know what I'm saying.

00:48:52 --> 00:48:56

What? It's just vulgar. Just pure vulgar, obscene

00:48:56 --> 00:48:56

language.

00:49:19 --> 00:49:21

If you're sitting with the group that are

00:49:21 --> 00:49:23

mocking the deen, that are doing wrong, then

00:49:23 --> 00:49:25

move away from there. And if you forgot

00:49:25 --> 00:49:26

you were with them, as soon as you

00:49:26 --> 00:49:27

realize, move away.

00:49:31 --> 00:49:33

And, oh, you just got to be cool.

00:49:33 --> 00:49:34

You got to go with the flow

00:49:35 --> 00:49:38

and it's just vulgar. It's just stupidity. It's

00:49:38 --> 00:49:40

naivety. It's

00:49:40 --> 00:49:40

vulnerability

00:49:42 --> 00:49:44

and that's it. And then you look at

00:49:44 --> 00:49:44

the outside

00:49:45 --> 00:49:47

marketing world. How irresponsible

00:49:48 --> 00:49:48

marketing

00:49:49 --> 00:49:51

is. How many times you exit your house,

00:49:51 --> 00:49:52

there's an urge of sin.

00:49:53 --> 00:49:55

And just at that time, if something comes

00:49:55 --> 00:49:56

up which you know, it's not like you

00:49:56 --> 00:49:58

don't know. Allah is watching.

00:49:59 --> 00:50:01

What a halt. What a break. What an

00:50:01 --> 00:50:02

alert.

00:50:02 --> 00:50:04

And if you come out and say, I'll

00:50:04 --> 00:50:04

just do

00:50:06 --> 00:50:09

it. You are getting a whisper, you're getting

00:50:09 --> 00:50:09

a provocation,

00:50:10 --> 00:50:11

you're getting an incitement,

00:50:12 --> 00:50:13

and then to further,

00:50:14 --> 00:50:16

you know what, compound and augment

00:50:16 --> 00:50:19

that, you get in external messages that are

00:50:19 --> 00:50:21

telling you, go for it.

00:50:21 --> 00:50:22

Go for

00:50:23 --> 00:50:23

it.

00:50:24 --> 00:50:26

I dare you take a bite from the

00:50:26 --> 00:50:27

forbidden fruit.

00:50:27 --> 00:50:29

That's the kind of advertisement.

00:50:30 --> 00:50:31

I dare you take a bite from the

00:50:31 --> 00:50:32

forbidden fruit.

00:50:35 --> 00:50:36

Speaking on the forbidden fruit,

00:50:40 --> 00:50:42

The devil came to our ancestor Adam and

00:50:42 --> 00:50:42

Hawa

00:50:45 --> 00:50:47

And what did the devil say?

00:50:48 --> 00:50:49

The devil said to them,

00:50:50 --> 00:50:52

I promise you

00:50:53 --> 00:50:55

I represent your interests.

00:50:57 --> 00:51:00

That's what the devil said. He sugarcoated

00:51:00 --> 00:51:02

his deception and his delusion

00:51:02 --> 00:51:03

by saying,

00:51:03 --> 00:51:05

I promise you I represent

00:51:06 --> 00:51:07

your interests.

00:51:07 --> 00:51:08

My young boy,

00:51:09 --> 00:51:11

besides Allah and his Nabi and your parents,

00:51:12 --> 00:51:14

Be weary, be watchful, be vigilant

00:51:15 --> 00:51:17

of anyone who's a smokescreener

00:51:17 --> 00:51:18

with that slogan.

00:51:21 --> 00:51:23

I say this and I'll repeat

00:51:24 --> 00:51:26

this. Your parent can

00:51:29 --> 00:51:29

in

00:51:30 --> 00:51:32

the advice he gave you.

00:51:32 --> 00:51:35

But he will never in the motivation of

00:51:35 --> 00:51:37

the advice he gave you.

00:51:39 --> 00:51:40

He is human,

00:51:40 --> 00:51:42

so he is fallible,

00:51:43 --> 00:51:44

so he's short sighted,

00:51:45 --> 00:51:46

but he didn't

00:51:46 --> 00:51:48

mean harm for you. Wallahi

00:51:49 --> 00:51:51

only meant well when he said get married

00:51:51 --> 00:51:53

here, when he said take a job here,

00:51:53 --> 00:51:55

when he said buy your house here, when

00:51:55 --> 00:51:58

he said disassociate with this person. It went

00:51:58 --> 00:52:01

pear shape, it went wayward, it steered off.

00:52:01 --> 00:52:03

Is this not adequate compensation

00:52:04 --> 00:52:07

that you heard or you responded and obliged

00:52:07 --> 00:52:10

to what your parents said? Allah will offset

00:52:10 --> 00:52:12

that harm by giving you divine because

00:52:12 --> 00:52:14

of your compliance to the sentiments of your

00:52:14 --> 00:52:15

parents.

00:52:19 --> 00:52:20

Let me say something.

00:52:24 --> 00:52:26

Allah has blessed me with 3 grandchildren.

00:52:26 --> 00:52:28

May Allah guide our children. May Allah guide

00:52:28 --> 00:52:29

our grandchildren.

00:52:30 --> 00:52:31

I love my parents.

00:52:33 --> 00:52:34

My parents love me.

00:52:34 --> 00:52:37

I love my children. My children love me.

00:52:37 --> 00:52:38

In one word,

00:52:39 --> 00:52:41

if I can tell you what distinguishes

00:52:42 --> 00:52:42

my generation

00:52:43 --> 00:52:44

from my children,

00:52:45 --> 00:52:48

We feared our parents. Our children don't fear

00:52:48 --> 00:52:48

us.

00:52:51 --> 00:52:54

They love us, we love them. They do

00:52:54 --> 00:52:56

for us, we do for them. Do our

00:52:56 --> 00:52:59

children fear us? They don't fear us.

00:52:59 --> 00:53:02

I fear my father. I fear my mother

00:53:02 --> 00:53:03

lovingly,

00:53:04 --> 00:53:04

respectfully.

00:53:05 --> 00:53:07

But you know, that's it. Papa said, Ma

00:53:07 --> 00:53:09

said. Done.

00:53:09 --> 00:53:09

Done.

00:53:10 --> 00:53:11

Our children

00:53:11 --> 00:53:14

don't fear. There's no cut off point.

00:53:14 --> 00:53:16

Listen, hey. Abu said we need to be

00:53:16 --> 00:53:17

home at 10 o'clock.

00:53:19 --> 00:53:19

I

00:53:20 --> 00:53:21

kid you not.

00:53:22 --> 00:53:24

That's a phone call from my kids. And

00:53:24 --> 00:53:25

I I mean well.

00:53:26 --> 00:53:27

Bali, how's it?

00:53:27 --> 00:53:29

Bali, we chilling. We relaxing.

00:53:29 --> 00:53:31

Okay. Where you are? Make sure you in

00:53:31 --> 00:53:33

the right place. Read your to us. Don't

00:53:33 --> 00:53:34

worry.

00:53:34 --> 00:53:35

We feared

00:53:36 --> 00:53:38

and that has changed the entire dynamics.

00:53:39 --> 00:53:41

I come from a generation when I was

00:53:41 --> 00:53:42

married,

00:53:42 --> 00:53:44

my better half will tell me or

00:53:45 --> 00:53:45

confirm it.

00:53:46 --> 00:53:47

29 years ago,

00:53:48 --> 00:53:50

and my those that are my equals and

00:53:50 --> 00:53:52

older than me, when I got married,

00:53:53 --> 00:53:55

there was no house, there was no home.

00:53:56 --> 00:53:58

But there was values how to be economical

00:53:58 --> 00:54:00

and frugal and build a house.

00:54:01 --> 00:54:03

And there were values of tolerance and respect

00:54:03 --> 00:54:05

and how to shape a home.

00:54:05 --> 00:54:08

The generation of today, including my sons and

00:54:08 --> 00:54:09

your children,

00:54:09 --> 00:54:10

are married

00:54:11 --> 00:54:13

and they are given a built house

00:54:13 --> 00:54:16

but they lack the values to make that

00:54:16 --> 00:54:18

house into a home. So it's become a

00:54:18 --> 00:54:20

tall order and a big ask

00:54:20 --> 00:54:23

to ask them from the built house make

00:54:23 --> 00:54:23

a home.

00:54:26 --> 00:54:28

With the passage of time, all of us.

00:54:29 --> 00:54:31

My generation and those beyond me, even all

00:54:31 --> 00:54:34

the more, you saved what they say marriage

00:54:34 --> 00:54:36

is not only about being 5050, it's about

00:54:36 --> 00:54:37

being thrifty, thrifty.

00:54:39 --> 00:54:41

What's the problem? I got too much

00:54:41 --> 00:54:43

month left at the end of my salary.

00:54:45 --> 00:54:46

You didn't get that?

00:54:46 --> 00:54:48

I got too much month left.

00:54:48 --> 00:54:50

It's like, oh, it's only 10th.

00:54:51 --> 00:54:52

Hey. I don't know how to budget. That's

00:54:52 --> 00:54:54

how the youth of today is.

00:54:55 --> 00:54:57

When you got married, when I got married,

00:54:57 --> 00:54:59

the old folks hold the there's nothing.

00:55:00 --> 00:55:02

The old folks will talk of fitters,

00:55:04 --> 00:55:06

and then this is how will but there

00:55:06 --> 00:55:07

was values.

00:55:10 --> 00:55:13

Every time your child does something wrong,

00:55:13 --> 00:55:14

you defend him.

00:55:15 --> 00:55:17

Tomorrow you'll get a lawyer to defend him.

00:55:18 --> 00:55:20

Child discipline is not abuse. It's shaping him

00:55:20 --> 00:55:21

into a good human.

00:55:25 --> 00:55:27

Every time he's in a problem,

00:55:28 --> 00:55:30

you give him deliverance.

00:55:30 --> 00:55:32

You save the moment and you deny him

00:55:32 --> 00:55:33

the lesson of life.

00:55:36 --> 00:55:38

That is why I say to parents,

00:55:38 --> 00:55:40

sometimes they say, oh, he got caught.

00:55:41 --> 00:55:42

I said if he got caught,

00:55:43 --> 00:55:45

my advice to him, don't just pull him

00:55:45 --> 00:55:46

out.

00:55:46 --> 00:55:48

He needs to feel it a bit long.

00:55:49 --> 00:55:50

Let him feel the consequences.

00:55:51 --> 00:55:53

Otherwise, I promise you if you if you

00:55:53 --> 00:55:55

got him admitted, say wait, I got pulled.

00:55:55 --> 00:55:58

I got clout. I got muscle. And you

00:55:58 --> 00:55:59

had him pulled out today.

00:55:59 --> 00:56:02

This boy will become a monster if not

00:56:02 --> 00:56:03

he's already a monster.

00:56:05 --> 00:56:06

When he got caught,

00:56:07 --> 00:56:08

I can't forget the words of this mother

00:56:08 --> 00:56:10

and I said my it's only a mother

00:56:10 --> 00:56:13

that can talk. The son was apprehended, intercepted

00:56:13 --> 00:56:15

due to drugs. The mother is crying one

00:56:15 --> 00:56:17

side, I was there. She said, oh Allah,

00:56:18 --> 00:56:20

jerk my son but don't hurt my son.

00:56:22 --> 00:56:22

Oh,

00:56:22 --> 00:56:25

jerk my son but don't. I said, who

00:56:25 --> 00:56:27

can coin these words? You can't make these

00:56:27 --> 00:56:28

duas.

00:56:28 --> 00:56:31

This is a mother's motherly sentiment screaming out.

00:56:35 --> 00:56:37

There was a youngster we had admitted because

00:56:37 --> 00:56:38

the family contacted

00:56:39 --> 00:56:41

me. Finally, when he got discharged,

00:56:41 --> 00:56:43

I phoned the mother. She made lot of

00:56:43 --> 00:56:45

dua for me. She said, for Allah's sake,

00:56:45 --> 00:56:46

don't bring my son back to my house.

00:56:47 --> 00:56:49

I said, ma, he's your blood. She said,

00:56:49 --> 00:56:51

no. No. I can't deal with 12 o'clock

00:56:51 --> 00:56:53

and knock on the door and a gangster

00:56:53 --> 00:56:55

and a fight and then I can't. I'm

00:56:55 --> 00:56:56

too old for this.

00:56:57 --> 00:56:59

I said, but he's a change. She said,

00:56:59 --> 00:57:02

whatever you say, I don't have strength to

00:57:02 --> 00:57:04

give him hope or chance or belief.

00:57:09 --> 00:57:11

The laws of Sharia are designed in your

00:57:11 --> 00:57:12

interest.

00:57:21 --> 00:57:23

I've said this and I'll say it again.

00:57:23 --> 00:57:26

Sin can make you look happy. Only obedience

00:57:26 --> 00:57:27

will make you feel happy.

00:57:30 --> 00:57:31

Sin will give you a thrill. If sin

00:57:31 --> 00:57:32

doesn't give you a thrill, nobody would buy

00:57:32 --> 00:57:34

into sin. It has it has to have

00:57:34 --> 00:57:35

some offering.

00:57:36 --> 00:57:38

Don't bite at the bait of sin unless

00:57:38 --> 00:57:40

you know the hook that is beneath it.

00:57:41 --> 00:57:43

Don't bite at the bait of sin. It's

00:57:43 --> 00:57:45

just throwing itself out there.

00:57:48 --> 00:57:50

And you just bite on it. You know

00:57:50 --> 00:57:50

my brother,

00:57:51 --> 00:57:54

expensive things are costly on your pocket.

00:57:55 --> 00:57:58

Unhealthy food is costly on your health.

00:57:59 --> 00:58:01

And is expensive on your iman.

00:58:04 --> 00:58:05

Is very expensive.

00:58:06 --> 00:58:07

One affair,

00:58:08 --> 00:58:09

one romance,

00:58:10 --> 00:58:10

one flirtatious

00:58:11 --> 00:58:11

contact,

00:58:12 --> 00:58:15

and you throw your entire marriage down. Gone.

00:58:19 --> 00:58:20

So we're talking about

00:58:22 --> 00:58:23

the mobile phone

00:58:25 --> 00:58:26

And how this has unfortunately

00:58:27 --> 00:58:30

first it was, don't bring the phone to

00:58:30 --> 00:58:31

school. Now the old school is in the

00:58:31 --> 00:58:32

phone.

00:58:33 --> 00:58:36

That's that's how things have evolved. We are

00:58:36 --> 00:58:38

a nation blessed and cursed with our innovation.

00:58:39 --> 00:58:41

I haven't found a more comprehensive

00:58:41 --> 00:58:44

explanation of modern technology than this statement.

00:58:44 --> 00:58:47

We are a nation blessed and cursed by

00:58:47 --> 00:58:47

our innovation.

00:58:51 --> 00:58:53

Some would argue that there are benefits in

00:58:53 --> 00:58:54

sin.

00:58:54 --> 00:58:56

The Quran doesn't deny that.

00:58:57 --> 00:58:58

Some say if you take a tot of

00:58:58 --> 00:59:01

alcohol in moderation, it enhances your IQ. The

00:59:01 --> 00:59:03

Quran is not averse to that. The Quran

00:59:03 --> 00:59:05

says look beyond. Are the benefits more or

00:59:05 --> 00:59:06

the harm more?

00:59:24 --> 00:59:25

You said, you know what? With the lottery,

00:59:25 --> 00:59:27

we've helped so many people. Great.

00:59:28 --> 00:59:29

But have you helped more or made more

00:59:29 --> 00:59:30

people poor?

00:59:32 --> 00:59:34

You've enhanced one person's IQ and the other

00:59:34 --> 00:59:36

people you've destroyed their entire life.

00:59:37 --> 00:59:39

Today today today fresh. Just before Jumayah got

00:59:39 --> 00:59:40

a call,

00:59:41 --> 00:59:42

he was high and he gave 3.

00:59:46 --> 00:59:48

It is what it is. A bullet is

00:59:48 --> 00:59:48

a bullet.

00:59:49 --> 00:59:50

When it shoots out of the barrel, that's

00:59:50 --> 00:59:52

it. It's gonna cause its harm.

00:59:54 --> 00:59:56

The consequences are catastrophic.

01:00:01 --> 01:00:02

So here's an analogy

01:00:02 --> 01:00:03

and,

01:00:04 --> 01:00:07

for parenting, may Allah give me may Allah

01:00:07 --> 01:00:08

grant you the understanding.

01:00:08 --> 01:00:10

Somebody said if I could rewind my life,

01:00:10 --> 01:00:13

I would have less meetings and spend more

01:00:13 --> 01:00:14

time with my kids.

01:00:15 --> 01:00:16

I say to my son, I say to

01:00:16 --> 01:00:17

my daughter-in-law,

01:00:17 --> 01:00:18

you know what?

01:00:19 --> 01:00:20

You wanna keep

01:00:20 --> 01:00:23

your child busy and you wanna keep them

01:00:23 --> 01:00:26

off the phone, it will mean serious adjustments

01:00:26 --> 01:00:27

of your life

01:00:28 --> 01:00:30

to spend quality time with this child.

01:00:31 --> 01:00:34

If you're not ready to make that adjustment,

01:00:35 --> 01:00:37

then then it's not going to happen.

01:00:39 --> 01:00:40

So you're gonna have to come back early

01:00:40 --> 01:00:41

from work.

01:00:41 --> 01:00:43

You're gonna have to compromise on probably going

01:00:43 --> 01:00:45

to your beauty parlor,

01:00:45 --> 01:00:47

going for your manicure, pedicure, whatever it is,

01:00:47 --> 01:00:50

your massage, your weekly this year. And both

01:00:50 --> 01:00:52

of you have to find time with this

01:00:52 --> 01:00:54

little one to keep. This is an inquisitive

01:00:54 --> 01:00:55

mind.

01:00:57 --> 01:00:58

He was a Tabiri.

01:00:58 --> 01:00:59

He was a judge.

01:00:59 --> 01:01:01

He was appointed as a judge during the

01:01:01 --> 01:01:02

period of Sahaba.

01:01:03 --> 01:01:04

His 10 year old son was sent to

01:01:04 --> 01:01:05

Madrasa.

01:01:05 --> 01:01:07

On the way, he got distracted. There were

01:01:07 --> 01:01:08

few youth that were playing and there were

01:01:08 --> 01:01:11

some dogs that were running around, so he

01:01:11 --> 01:01:13

diverted, spent his whole time, then he came

01:01:13 --> 01:01:14

back. This is a Tabiri.

01:01:14 --> 01:01:16

He was appointed as the judge during the

01:01:16 --> 01:01:19

time of Umar. There was no devices, and

01:01:19 --> 01:01:20

this was the distraction

01:01:20 --> 01:01:22

because of which he didn't go to Madrasa.

01:01:24 --> 01:01:26

The next day, Kadeh Suray asked his son,

01:01:26 --> 01:01:28

you went to Madrasa? He said no.

01:01:28 --> 01:01:29

So he wrote a letter,

01:01:31 --> 01:01:33

to to to the teacher.

01:01:34 --> 01:01:34

And,

01:01:35 --> 01:01:36

he said to him,

01:02:10 --> 01:02:11

Arabic poetry.

01:02:18 --> 01:02:19

He neglected

01:02:19 --> 01:02:21

for and abandoned his salah

01:02:21 --> 01:02:23

because of some youth that were just playing

01:02:23 --> 01:02:25

and they were having some fun and some

01:02:25 --> 01:02:25

entertainment.

01:02:27 --> 01:02:29

See, this is what I say. I've got

01:02:29 --> 01:02:30

such an influx of thoughts.

01:02:33 --> 01:02:35

The whisper of sin

01:02:36 --> 01:02:38

was in the human from the inception of

01:02:38 --> 01:02:39

time.

01:02:40 --> 01:02:42

But the access to sin was never so

01:02:42 --> 01:02:43

available like today.

01:02:47 --> 01:02:49

The whisper to sin.

01:02:50 --> 01:02:51

You you you have a crave for something

01:02:51 --> 01:02:53

sweet. Why they say it's difficult to be

01:02:53 --> 01:02:56

a woman? You wanna cry without a reason?

01:02:57 --> 01:02:59

You wanna lose weight and you like to

01:02:59 --> 01:03:00

eat something sweet.

01:03:05 --> 01:03:07

You're sitting at home, you're trying to discipline

01:03:07 --> 01:03:08

yourself.

01:03:09 --> 01:03:11

If the crave of sugar comes and there's

01:03:11 --> 01:03:13

a bar of chocolate or a slab of

01:03:13 --> 01:03:13

chocolate,

01:03:14 --> 01:03:16

you're gonna you're gonna eat that whole thing.

01:03:18 --> 01:03:20

So and if the slab is not there,

01:03:20 --> 01:03:21

it happens often to me. You're traveling in

01:03:21 --> 01:03:23

a hotel room and suddenly you just have

01:03:23 --> 01:03:24

a crave for something,

01:03:25 --> 01:03:27

and now you say phone reception. It's late.

01:03:27 --> 01:03:28

Or, you know what, do an Uber. It's

01:03:28 --> 01:03:31

okay. Leave it. It's 10 minutes of behavior

01:03:31 --> 01:03:32

and the crave is over.

01:03:33 --> 01:03:35

But if the slap is there, the chances

01:03:35 --> 01:03:37

are very slim you're gonna behave.

01:03:38 --> 01:03:40

The whisper comes of sin.

01:03:41 --> 01:03:43

The hand the phone is in your palm.

01:03:45 --> 01:03:47

The excess is too much.

01:03:48 --> 01:03:50

I said to a young man, phoned me

01:03:50 --> 01:03:53

recently, and he said, no. I've done every

01:03:53 --> 01:03:55

wrong. I've been sleeping around. I've been pulling

01:03:55 --> 01:03:57

around. I've been popping things. I've just done

01:03:57 --> 01:04:00

a lot of nonsense, but I'm miserable.

01:04:01 --> 01:04:03

And I said, of course. That's a given.

01:04:03 --> 01:04:04

That's a given.

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You show me one person who's living a

01:04:07 --> 01:04:08

life of sin and he's happy.

01:04:11 --> 01:04:13

I will do what Imam Shafi said. I'll

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give him half of whatever virtue I have.

01:04:14 --> 01:04:15

I don't have much, but I'll give it

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to him. Show me one man

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who had an affair, who took a drug,

01:04:20 --> 01:04:22

who did something haram. We're not talking of

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halal.

01:04:24 --> 01:04:26

If you're doing halal, that's a separate thing

01:04:26 --> 01:04:28

altogether because Allah has kept wholesome pleasure in

01:04:28 --> 01:04:29

Allah's obedience.

01:04:29 --> 01:04:31

Allah has kept wholesome pleasure in it. There's

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no doubt about it. But in haram, if

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one person, he got a thrill. He got

01:04:35 --> 01:04:37

a cake. There's no doubt about that. But

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the uneasiness, the restlessness, the anxiety,

01:04:40 --> 01:04:42

looking over your shoulder, holding your phone. What's

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this? There's no life.

01:04:46 --> 01:04:47

And I'm a say something

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because I deal with this so often.

01:04:50 --> 01:04:53

The young generation, they get married and, no,

01:04:53 --> 01:04:55

he's on this app. She's on that app.

01:04:55 --> 01:04:58

He posted here. She posted there. I need

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to see this. So I said to them,

01:04:59 --> 01:05:01

see. When you are married,

01:05:02 --> 01:05:03

then of course, Islam has allowed you to

01:05:03 --> 01:05:05

be intimate with your spouse.

01:05:05 --> 01:05:07

And if you're if there's anybody else in

01:05:07 --> 01:05:08

the room, you said, please can you leave?

01:05:08 --> 01:05:09

I need to change.

01:05:10 --> 01:05:10

Right?

01:05:11 --> 01:05:13

Hopefully the same thing happens at the germs.

01:05:15 --> 01:05:16

Because again,

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what's this?

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Islam The prophet

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said don't look at the thigh

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of a male or a female, living or

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dead.

01:05:29 --> 01:05:32

Our deen is so modest. What did I

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say? If you frowning on any aspect,

01:05:34 --> 01:05:35

it's external influence.

01:05:37 --> 01:05:38

Fatima

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said to Asma bintu Omayz, I'm so worried

01:05:41 --> 01:05:43

when I pass away. How they going to

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cover me? So Asma said, you know what?

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We went to Abyssinia.

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Asma

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was the wife of Jafar

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Jafar and Asma had migrated to Abyssinia.

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The union, Aun, Muhammad, and Abdullah, Allah blessed

01:05:56 --> 01:05:59

them with 3 children. Then they came back.

01:05:59 --> 01:06:00

Then Jafar

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went to Muta. Then he passed away in

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Muta.

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The amazing couplets of Ka'b e Malik contribute

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and homage

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to Jafar

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So she went to Abyssinia.

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Some argue Ethiopia, some say Eritrea.

01:06:31 --> 01:06:31

Geographically.

01:06:32 --> 01:06:34

She said, come I show you Fatima

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what I observe there in the in the

01:06:36 --> 01:06:37

land of Africa.

01:06:38 --> 01:06:39

And then she created this canopy.

01:06:40 --> 01:06:40

Regeneration.

01:06:41 --> 01:06:43

She took twigs. She created a cover and

01:06:43 --> 01:06:46

she said this is how they would cover

01:06:46 --> 01:06:48

a female's body there. That's what I observed.

01:06:48 --> 01:06:49

Fatima

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was intrigued by this display of modest

01:06:52 --> 01:06:54

day and she said to Ali, this is

01:06:54 --> 01:06:55

what I've heard and this is what I

01:06:55 --> 01:06:56

want you to do.

01:06:57 --> 01:06:59

Bury me by night, cover me like this

01:06:59 --> 01:07:01

and I want you to get married to

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my niece, umama, my eldest sister Zainab's daughter.

01:07:06 --> 01:07:07

Three advisers she gave.

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Is rife.

01:07:16 --> 01:07:18

Our community and our society

01:07:19 --> 01:07:22

still holds polygamy as an absolute taboo.

01:07:25 --> 01:07:27

I'm not here to advocate anything. I'm saying

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we need to be in Allah's obedience.

01:07:35 --> 01:07:37

A life of sin is a life of

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deprivation

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of. A life of obedience is a life

01:07:41 --> 01:07:42

of.

01:07:48 --> 01:07:50

So we take the phone today.

01:07:51 --> 01:07:53

The Quran speaks of the tale of.

01:07:56 --> 01:07:57

So what happened in the tale of?

01:07:59 --> 01:08:00

He came out with his flamboyance.

01:08:01 --> 01:08:04

He was fleshing his muscle, his economic

01:08:05 --> 01:08:06

muscle that he had.

01:08:07 --> 01:08:09

Displaying it, opulence, flamboyance,

01:08:11 --> 01:08:12

beauty, splendor.

01:08:14 --> 01:08:16

And as he's walking, those that are looking,

01:08:16 --> 01:08:17

they're like, wow.

01:08:18 --> 01:08:19

That's now stunning.

01:08:20 --> 01:08:20

My word.

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Right? Thus the Quran says,

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Exact verbatim translation.

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This man is damn lucky.

01:08:47 --> 01:08:50

This is luck falling in his lap. What

01:08:50 --> 01:08:50

happened?

01:08:50 --> 01:08:53

Listen to me. Follow my pattern of thoughts.

01:08:53 --> 01:08:55

Appreciate my angle of my analogy.

01:08:56 --> 01:08:57

Makes an appearance.

01:08:57 --> 01:08:58

He makes a presence.

01:08:59 --> 01:09:02

People are occupied doing their own things. They're

01:09:02 --> 01:09:03

caught in the spectacle.

01:09:03 --> 01:09:04

It just mesmerizes

01:09:04 --> 01:09:05

them, spellbound,

01:09:06 --> 01:09:08

leaves them all riveted. They're all are, you

01:09:08 --> 01:09:11

know, what? Water dripping from their mouths in

01:09:11 --> 01:09:12

in in envy of this person.

01:09:15 --> 01:09:18

Those who had iman, who were anchored, they

01:09:18 --> 01:09:20

retorted. They challenged the narrative. They said, no,

01:09:20 --> 01:09:23

man. That's fickle, man. That's transitory.

01:09:23 --> 01:09:25

That's temporary. You can't fall for this here.

01:09:25 --> 01:09:27

Just take you know, the guy passes you

01:09:27 --> 01:09:29

zoom with top speed, and then he couldn't

01:09:29 --> 01:09:31

negotiate the bend. And then you see the

01:09:31 --> 01:09:32

body lined and the corpse and the car

01:09:32 --> 01:09:34

burnt out. And then you're like, no, Allah.

01:09:34 --> 01:09:35

This jalopy is good.

01:09:36 --> 01:09:38

Because even if I wanna put up speed,

01:09:38 --> 01:09:39

I can't put up speed.

01:09:41 --> 01:09:43

That's exactly what played out.

01:09:53 --> 01:09:55

You must see what the aluluga write on

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the in terms of the grammar of this

01:09:57 --> 01:09:57

word.

01:09:59 --> 01:10:00

Now here's my point of question,

01:10:01 --> 01:10:02

and here I want you to put your

01:10:02 --> 01:10:04

thinking caps on my sisters and my brothers.

01:10:06 --> 01:10:07

These people by default

01:10:08 --> 01:10:09

got exposed

01:10:10 --> 01:10:11

to the presence of karoon

01:10:12 --> 01:10:13

and his economic muscle

01:10:14 --> 01:10:15

which dazzle their eyes momentarily.

01:10:16 --> 01:10:19

Today, the world has been designed such that

01:10:19 --> 01:10:23

every night, every one of us, before retiring

01:10:23 --> 01:10:25

to bed, it's almost compulsory

01:10:25 --> 01:10:27

that we take out our phone and we

01:10:27 --> 01:10:30

start searching for the quroons of the day.

01:10:33 --> 01:10:35

Hey. Where was he today? Where was his

01:10:35 --> 01:10:37

Kharija today? Oh, wow.

01:10:38 --> 01:10:39

I, by design,

01:10:40 --> 01:10:42

sit me as a man, my wife as

01:10:42 --> 01:10:44

the spouse, and my children.

01:10:45 --> 01:10:47

So we all live in a life of

01:10:47 --> 01:10:49

misery, depression,

01:10:49 --> 01:10:50

ungratefulness

01:10:50 --> 01:10:53

Because what's been shown before me, she cooks

01:10:53 --> 01:10:56

nice, he dresses nice, their marriage is happy,

01:10:56 --> 01:10:59

their holidays are awesome, Their location is stunning.

01:10:59 --> 01:11:00

Their everything is great.

01:11:05 --> 01:11:07

Daily, if that's what I'm feeding. You know,

01:11:08 --> 01:11:10

as kids, the Gujrati proverb, what they say?

01:11:10 --> 01:11:11

Join a.

01:11:12 --> 01:11:13

Join a.

01:11:14 --> 01:11:16

You're gonna see. You're gonna feel for it.

01:11:17 --> 01:11:20

You are consciously these people didn't go looking

01:11:20 --> 01:11:20

for

01:11:22 --> 01:11:24

happened to come out. And the Quran is

01:11:24 --> 01:11:26

very beautiful. The Quran is pragmatic.

01:11:26 --> 01:11:28

The Quran says the believers are those, they

01:11:28 --> 01:11:30

don't go to evil places.

01:11:31 --> 01:11:33

But the Quran doesn't say the believers are

01:11:33 --> 01:11:35

those who don't pass evil places because it's

01:11:35 --> 01:11:37

a real world. You have to pass a

01:11:37 --> 01:11:39

casino. You have to pass a club. You

01:11:39 --> 01:11:40

have to pass a pub. You have to

01:11:40 --> 01:11:42

pass a place where there's wrong. So the

01:11:42 --> 01:11:44

Quran doesn't say that the pious are those

01:11:44 --> 01:11:45

who don't pass evil.

01:11:46 --> 01:11:48

Allah says they won't enter it.

01:12:03 --> 01:12:05

They'll never go into the venue because they

01:12:05 --> 01:12:08

know it's not compatible to their faith. And

01:12:08 --> 01:12:10

if they happen to pass by, the Quran

01:12:10 --> 01:12:12

says they pass by with dignity.

01:12:13 --> 01:12:15

The scholars unpack the word dignity by saying,

01:12:15 --> 01:12:18

they lower their gaze, hasten the pace,

01:12:18 --> 01:12:20

despise the offense that is been perpetrated

01:12:21 --> 01:12:23

there and they don't shun the perpetrator.

01:12:24 --> 01:12:25

My word.

01:12:25 --> 01:12:26

My word.

01:12:27 --> 01:12:28

Ours is the direct opposite.

01:12:29 --> 01:12:31

Your profile, your dressing doesn't allow you to

01:12:31 --> 01:12:33

get in. So you're just circling the area.

01:12:34 --> 01:12:36

No. No. There's a lot of traffic here.

01:12:36 --> 01:12:38

Yeah. So but why are you going there?

01:12:38 --> 01:12:40

No. We just you're not there.

01:12:45 --> 01:12:48

So, this is the brutal truth. As long

01:12:48 --> 01:12:50

as I'm sitting on my phone and you

01:12:50 --> 01:12:51

sitting on your phone, you're not gonna be

01:12:51 --> 01:12:53

happy with your partner and your partners are

01:12:53 --> 01:12:55

gonna be happy with you and your children

01:12:55 --> 01:12:56

are not gonna be happy in the home.

01:12:56 --> 01:12:57

It's not gonna happen.

01:13:01 --> 01:13:03

I once heard a radio program

01:13:03 --> 01:13:05

and a woman was talking about the importance

01:13:05 --> 01:13:06

of healthy food.

01:13:08 --> 01:13:10

GMO free, organic, natural,

01:13:10 --> 01:13:12

doesn't have all these,

01:13:13 --> 01:13:13

artificial

01:13:14 --> 01:13:16

flavorants and chemicals in it.

01:13:21 --> 01:13:23

She said, if a child at birth

01:13:24 --> 01:13:25

is told,

01:13:26 --> 01:13:30

eat pure, eat natural, eat wholesome, eat organic,

01:13:30 --> 01:13:32

and you start making impressions on the subconscious

01:13:32 --> 01:13:33

mind of that child.

01:13:34 --> 01:13:36

You start making impressions on the subconscious mind.

01:13:36 --> 01:13:39

Eat good. Eat healthy. Subconscious, right? You you're

01:13:39 --> 01:13:41

making impressions on it. The wiring of the

01:13:41 --> 01:13:42

the child.

01:13:43 --> 01:13:45

Because today I was in Ireland. Okay. I'll

01:13:45 --> 01:13:46

come back to this.

01:13:47 --> 01:13:48

And,

01:13:48 --> 01:13:50

we were having Suhoor and the next day

01:13:50 --> 01:13:52

I had a flight out. So this brother

01:13:52 --> 01:13:54

was saying his daughter is in the US

01:13:54 --> 01:13:56

and she did a whole research on the

01:13:56 --> 01:13:58

negative impact of

01:13:58 --> 01:13:59

of the phone

01:14:00 --> 01:14:02

today on the human race.

01:14:03 --> 01:14:04

Never before

01:14:04 --> 01:14:05

in human history

01:14:06 --> 01:14:07

were the humans

01:14:07 --> 01:14:07

exposed

01:14:08 --> 01:14:09

to such conflicting

01:14:09 --> 01:14:11

information simultaneously.

01:14:13 --> 01:14:15

It took you time to get good news.

01:14:15 --> 01:14:17

That new good news created that electrons

01:14:18 --> 01:14:19

that gave that ecstasy,

01:14:19 --> 01:14:22

that gave that, jubilation, that gave that euphoria,

01:14:23 --> 01:14:26

that translated in that, happiness in the body,

01:14:26 --> 01:14:29

the excitement, whatever it is. After a period

01:14:29 --> 01:14:32

of time, you discovered some sadness. The body

01:14:32 --> 01:14:34

accordingly triggered those reactions and emotions.

01:14:35 --> 01:14:36

But now the human race simultaneously

01:14:37 --> 01:14:40

is being exposed to good and sad news

01:14:40 --> 01:14:43

at one time, which is disturbing the human

01:14:43 --> 01:14:45

anatomy and wiring like it has never done

01:14:45 --> 01:14:46

ever before.

01:14:47 --> 01:14:49

And this is my analogy. Imagine you take

01:14:49 --> 01:14:52

in a laxative and imodium at the same

01:14:52 --> 01:14:53

time.

01:14:56 --> 01:14:58

Imagine you take in a laxative,

01:14:58 --> 01:15:00

you know, now this this you gotta be

01:15:00 --> 01:15:02

very euphemistic. So you mustn't say he's constipated.

01:15:02 --> 01:15:04

You must say, you know what,

01:15:04 --> 01:15:05

he he is,

01:15:06 --> 01:15:07

got limited bowel movements.

01:15:11 --> 01:15:12

So now you're constipated,

01:15:14 --> 01:15:15

you're taking a laxative,

01:15:15 --> 01:15:17

and at the same time you're taking Imodium.

01:15:17 --> 01:15:19

What are you gonna do to your body?

01:15:19 --> 01:15:22

Can you imagine this body just constantly? You

01:15:22 --> 01:15:24

don't need to know everything that's happening all

01:15:24 --> 01:15:25

the time.

01:15:28 --> 01:15:30

And this is something you have to decide

01:15:30 --> 01:15:33

yourself. You have to control it. The world

01:15:33 --> 01:15:33

out there

01:15:34 --> 01:15:35

is a crude world.

01:15:35 --> 01:15:37

Wherever revenue can be generated,

01:15:38 --> 01:15:40

they will make it. That's it. You're not

01:15:40 --> 01:15:41

gonna be able to change it. You've got

01:15:41 --> 01:15:44

to up your immunity to become resilient to

01:15:44 --> 01:15:45

the bacteria.

01:15:45 --> 01:15:47

But end of the day, you know what?

01:15:47 --> 01:15:49

You're gonna inoculate yourself spiritually.

01:15:50 --> 01:15:52

You're gonna inoculate yourself. But if it's making

01:15:52 --> 01:15:53

money there, who cares?

01:15:54 --> 01:15:56

That's the will. It's crude. It's brutal. It's

01:15:56 --> 01:15:57

harsh.

01:16:00 --> 01:16:02

I've said this in that last drug program

01:16:02 --> 01:16:04

that I had. I have an eye for

01:16:04 --> 01:16:05

wildlife,

01:16:05 --> 01:16:07

and I have an eye for safari and

01:16:07 --> 01:16:09

of course, we've been seeing the migration

01:16:09 --> 01:16:11

in the Masai Mara, in Africa, in other

01:16:11 --> 01:16:14

places, and I it kinda intrigues me. And

01:16:14 --> 01:16:16

often when you see nature play out,

01:16:17 --> 01:16:19

in its natural form, in its natural habitat,

01:16:20 --> 01:16:22

and a mom just giving birth to her

01:16:22 --> 01:16:24

calf, and just then, they are predators in

01:16:24 --> 01:16:27

ambush and they pounce on. And of course,

01:16:27 --> 01:16:29

it it just brings a tear in your

01:16:29 --> 01:16:30

eye. It brings a tear in your eye.

01:16:30 --> 01:16:32

A mother in the wild, in the wilderness

01:16:32 --> 01:16:34

alone having to give birth

01:16:35 --> 01:16:36

to and and and and, you know what,

01:16:37 --> 01:16:39

delivered this issue and this child and this

01:16:39 --> 01:16:41

baby and trying to give some shelter and

01:16:41 --> 01:16:44

just then comes the lappet, snatches this newborn

01:16:44 --> 01:16:45

and off it's gone. And then you'll get

01:16:45 --> 01:16:48

the comment that would say, but brutal, but

01:16:48 --> 01:16:51

harsh, but that's nature. No. That's not brutal.

01:16:51 --> 01:16:54

Brutal is a drug merchant who's wicked and

01:16:54 --> 01:16:55

evil,

01:16:55 --> 01:16:58

infamous and nasty, who can sell a pill

01:16:58 --> 01:17:00

to a 10 year old child, knowing this

01:17:00 --> 01:17:02

is going to bring an entire hometown.

01:17:07 --> 01:17:08

Kept him hooked on.

01:17:10 --> 01:17:13

That's brutal. That's inhumane. That's harsh.

01:17:15 --> 01:17:16

I just got to sell it to him

01:17:16 --> 01:17:17

once.

01:17:20 --> 01:17:22

And then in the UK, I travel all

01:17:22 --> 01:17:23

the time. There's balloons.

01:17:24 --> 01:17:27

They just go high and it's out.

01:17:27 --> 01:17:31

Like, how much more merciless can you be?

01:17:34 --> 01:17:36

How do you sleep at night?

01:17:42 --> 01:17:44

So I was saying to you

01:17:45 --> 01:17:45

that,

01:17:46 --> 01:17:48

we expose ourself.

01:17:48 --> 01:17:51

We choose to expose ourself to these fitanas

01:17:52 --> 01:17:55

and daily we get onto these sites

01:17:55 --> 01:17:56

creating this

01:17:57 --> 01:17:59

constant dragon that we're chasing.

01:18:00 --> 01:18:01

So we have the problem. I mean, I

01:18:01 --> 01:18:02

do a marital counseling

01:18:03 --> 01:18:05

and, I don't envy myself and by the

01:18:05 --> 01:18:06

way, I don't have any open slots.

01:18:07 --> 01:18:10

Yeah. Honestly, I don't have any. I I

01:18:10 --> 01:18:12

openly apologize. I can't even answer all my

01:18:12 --> 01:18:14

emails. I can't even reply. I'm just overwhelmed.

01:18:14 --> 01:18:17

It's beyond my capacity. It's just too much.

01:18:17 --> 01:18:18

May Allah bless my family for allowing me

01:18:18 --> 01:18:20

and and and coping with me and and

01:18:20 --> 01:18:22

giving me the space. But it just invades

01:18:22 --> 01:18:25

and, you know what, infringes and encroaches and

01:18:25 --> 01:18:26

and consumes your own life.

01:18:31 --> 01:18:31

So,

01:18:32 --> 01:18:32

today

01:18:33 --> 01:18:34

in in in

01:18:35 --> 01:18:35

marriages,

01:18:36 --> 01:18:37

you find

01:18:37 --> 01:18:39

how many partners

01:18:41 --> 01:18:42

are on antidepressants.

01:18:45 --> 01:18:47

ADHD, better known as ADD,

01:18:48 --> 01:18:49

attention deficit hyperactivity

01:18:50 --> 01:18:50

disorder.

01:18:51 --> 01:18:53

Mental health which has exploded in the last

01:18:53 --> 01:18:54

10 years.

01:18:55 --> 01:18:57

Right? Someone described it like an iceberg.

01:18:57 --> 01:18:58

You see in the top,

01:18:59 --> 01:19:00

the top is anxiety.

01:19:01 --> 01:19:02

The top is irritability.

01:19:02 --> 01:19:03

The top is restlessness.

01:19:05 --> 01:19:07

But the real ice is beneath the water.

01:19:09 --> 01:19:11

Those are the external symptoms manifesting in the

01:19:11 --> 01:19:12

individual.

01:19:12 --> 01:19:14

He or she can't hold a conversation. He

01:19:14 --> 01:19:16

or she can't stand in the queue. He

01:19:16 --> 01:19:17

or she is irritable.

01:19:17 --> 01:19:20

Those are the external factors given, but the

01:19:20 --> 01:19:21

whole ice is beneath.

01:19:23 --> 01:19:25

I cannot tell you the amount of more

01:19:25 --> 01:19:26

commonly

01:19:27 --> 01:19:28

on the side of woman that are on

01:19:28 --> 01:19:30

on on on on pearls at a young

01:19:30 --> 01:19:31

age

01:19:31 --> 01:19:33

And you can't really have a fair,

01:19:34 --> 01:19:35

you know what, balance

01:19:35 --> 01:19:39

dialogue between the couple because there is this

01:19:39 --> 01:19:41

mood swings, there is the bipolar,

01:19:41 --> 01:19:43

there is, you know, split personalities.

01:19:48 --> 01:19:51

We are in in serious times. We are

01:19:51 --> 01:19:53

not in easy times. Don't be

01:19:53 --> 01:19:56

deceived by the optical illusion. It's just all

01:19:56 --> 01:19:58

like smart and good and glory. No. No.

01:19:58 --> 01:19:59

No. No. No. No.

01:19:59 --> 01:20:02

Things are rough and tough. Things are rough

01:20:02 --> 01:20:02

and tough.

01:20:03 --> 01:20:05

I can tell you in 25 years of

01:20:05 --> 01:20:07

counseling if I've come to learn,

01:20:07 --> 01:20:09

nobody's marriage that you think is hunky dory

01:20:09 --> 01:20:10

is hunky dory.

01:20:12 --> 01:20:14

People who you think that, no. No. This

01:20:14 --> 01:20:15

is on the best side of life. No.

01:20:15 --> 01:20:17

No. It's far from that.

01:20:18 --> 01:20:20

It's far from that.

01:20:23 --> 01:20:25

Recently, I spoke at one event

01:20:26 --> 01:20:27

and then there was a joint set in

01:20:27 --> 01:20:30

between a partner. I like to use very

01:20:30 --> 01:20:32

very broad and generic terms because then people,

01:20:32 --> 01:20:33

are you talking about me? No. No. No.

01:20:33 --> 01:20:35

No. No. So I like to use the

01:20:35 --> 01:20:37

most broadest generic context, you know. Or create

01:20:37 --> 01:20:38

hypothetical

01:20:38 --> 01:20:39

scenarios.

01:20:40 --> 01:20:41

So anyway, the husband called out to the

01:20:41 --> 01:20:43

wife and the wife replied via the veil

01:20:43 --> 01:20:44

and everything. So I said to him, hey,

01:20:44 --> 01:20:47

you know what? Besides the presentation that you

01:20:47 --> 01:20:48

people gave and everything, but I think you

01:20:48 --> 01:20:51

gave a lot of example to, you know,

01:20:51 --> 01:20:53

couples to what's a happy marriage.

01:20:53 --> 01:20:55

He said, that's what you think. I said,

01:20:55 --> 01:20:56

oh, there we go.

01:20:57 --> 01:20:58

There we

01:20:58 --> 01:20:58

go.

01:21:01 --> 01:21:03

So only Allah can help us in these

01:21:03 --> 01:21:04

times, but we need to take some active

01:21:04 --> 01:21:07

steps. Here's a reflection from the Quran.

01:21:07 --> 01:21:09

Allah told the mother of Musa

01:21:10 --> 01:21:12

put Musa in the basket, put the basket

01:21:12 --> 01:21:13

in the river Nile.

01:21:14 --> 01:21:15

Right?

01:21:16 --> 01:21:17

Then Allah said,

01:21:40 --> 01:21:41

She was on the verge

01:21:42 --> 01:21:43

of divulging

01:21:43 --> 01:21:46

and said, hey. That's my child.

01:21:46 --> 01:21:48

Though we gave her the assurance your child

01:21:48 --> 01:21:49

is coming back.

01:22:05 --> 01:22:07

We learn from this

01:22:07 --> 01:22:08

that no human

01:22:09 --> 01:22:10

is strong enough

01:22:11 --> 01:22:12

and capable enough

01:22:13 --> 01:22:16

and smart enough and wise enough and intelligent

01:22:17 --> 01:22:17

enough

01:22:18 --> 01:22:20

to wade the deep waters

01:22:20 --> 01:22:22

and navigate the stormy oceans.

01:22:23 --> 01:22:23

Everyone

01:22:24 --> 01:22:26

can only rely on Allah to get you

01:22:26 --> 01:22:27

across.

01:22:31 --> 01:22:32

I say to couples

01:22:33 --> 01:22:35

when unfortunately

01:22:35 --> 01:22:37

there is a discovery that a child is

01:22:37 --> 01:22:39

on drugs, inevitably, it creates

01:22:39 --> 01:22:42

tension in the house. There was one case

01:22:42 --> 01:22:42

I was

01:22:42 --> 01:22:44

overseeing and dealing

01:22:44 --> 01:22:46

and obviously the father going a bit more

01:22:46 --> 01:22:48

on the iron fist. The mother going on

01:22:48 --> 01:22:49

the soft one. My son is soft. He's

01:22:49 --> 01:22:52

like this, giving space. It create a tension

01:22:52 --> 01:22:53

between the parents.

01:22:53 --> 01:22:54

Do we keep him in the house? Do

01:22:54 --> 01:22:57

we keep him out? And I said, see,

01:22:57 --> 01:22:59

my young boy, we're not expelling you. This

01:22:59 --> 01:23:00

is your house.

01:23:01 --> 01:23:03

This is the kind of compromise I had

01:23:03 --> 01:23:05

to make to kind of stabilize the equilibrium.

01:23:06 --> 01:23:09

Equilibrium in the context because it was just

01:23:09 --> 01:23:11

creating so much, imbalance and turbulence.

01:23:12 --> 01:23:14

But for you to stay in the house

01:23:15 --> 01:23:16

with your current addiction,

01:23:17 --> 01:23:20

you disrupt the normality of the entire house.

01:23:23 --> 01:23:26

You disrupt the normality of the entire house.

01:23:27 --> 01:23:29

You walk in at 12 o'clock. You get

01:23:29 --> 01:23:30

up at 12 o'clock.

01:23:30 --> 01:23:33

You don't perform salah. You sleep with earphones.

01:23:33 --> 01:23:35

You got music blasting. You got a 10

01:23:35 --> 01:23:38

year old that is trying to just find

01:23:38 --> 01:23:40

his feet in rhythm, and he's just saying,

01:23:40 --> 01:23:42

but if my brother can do it, why

01:23:42 --> 01:23:44

can't I do it? So you exacerbate

01:23:45 --> 01:23:47

and compound and aggravate the situation.

01:23:48 --> 01:23:50

So it's just not him per se. And

01:23:50 --> 01:23:51

I must also

01:23:51 --> 01:23:53

say that in my own observation

01:23:54 --> 01:23:56

it takes at least 20 members

01:23:57 --> 01:24:00

to save 1 person who has succumb to

01:24:00 --> 01:24:00

drugs.

01:24:02 --> 01:24:04

And I say that conservatively.

01:24:04 --> 01:24:06

And I say that with 20 years of

01:24:06 --> 01:24:08

working with people like this.

01:24:09 --> 01:24:11

If you don't have a network of 20,

01:24:12 --> 01:24:14

it's just a matter of time when everyone

01:24:14 --> 01:24:16

in that group will be burnt out.

01:24:17 --> 01:24:19

No. I'm done now. Listen, I've met your

01:24:19 --> 01:24:20

brother. He's in a bad state.

01:24:22 --> 01:24:23

Please don't phone me again.

01:24:24 --> 01:24:26

Hey. I'm so sorry to see Ben. I

01:24:26 --> 01:24:28

just seen your husband. You know what? He's

01:24:28 --> 01:24:30

not my husband. You I can tell my

01:24:30 --> 01:24:31

children. My children also don't call him a

01:24:31 --> 01:24:34

father anymore. We done. You need 20 members

01:24:34 --> 01:24:35

of society.

01:24:37 --> 01:24:38

Each one rotating,

01:24:39 --> 01:24:39

alternating.

01:24:40 --> 01:24:42

You hang on now. You rescue now. And

01:24:42 --> 01:24:44

just when you've done everything and he's finished

01:24:44 --> 01:24:47

the 3rd day relapse or he's overcome the

01:24:47 --> 01:24:50

3rd day obstacle and 11th day, after 2

01:24:50 --> 01:24:52

months he says, no, I'm having crazy craves.

01:24:52 --> 01:24:54

I'm suicidal or I'm gonna relapse.

01:24:55 --> 01:24:56

Now if you don't have manpower,

01:24:57 --> 01:24:58

it's over.

01:25:00 --> 01:25:01

Lut alaihis salam said,

01:25:08 --> 01:25:10

I wish I had a family around me

01:25:10 --> 01:25:11

that could rally.

01:25:11 --> 01:25:12

How often

01:25:13 --> 01:25:15

there's one son who's moved on. He's stable.

01:25:15 --> 01:25:18

He's anchored. He's prosperous. He's moving with good

01:25:18 --> 01:25:21

speed. Daughter is settled, anchored, moving in a

01:25:21 --> 01:25:23

good home. There's the one, the delinquent,

01:25:23 --> 01:25:24

the black sheep,

01:25:25 --> 01:25:26

the outcast.

01:25:26 --> 01:25:29

The parents are old and aged, and this

01:25:29 --> 01:25:31

one's 3 marriages broke, 4 times in rehab,

01:25:32 --> 01:25:34

son and daughter too busy in their lives,

01:25:35 --> 01:25:37

or whatever. They're too occupied. And you got

01:25:37 --> 01:25:40

these old parents now. Their head has dropped.

01:25:40 --> 01:25:43

Their back is hunched. Their bones are weak,

01:25:43 --> 01:25:45

their body is frail, and they're back and

01:25:45 --> 01:25:48

forth taking this 35 year old to police

01:25:48 --> 01:25:51

station, to the rehab, coming back. If we

01:25:51 --> 01:25:53

as children and society won't intervene,

01:25:53 --> 01:25:56

what zulum aren't we doing to these parents?

01:25:59 --> 01:26:01

The butchers out there, the merchants out there,

01:26:01 --> 01:26:03

the infamous individuals out there, they don't care

01:26:03 --> 01:26:04

any less.

01:26:08 --> 01:26:09

So I was telling you about,

01:26:10 --> 01:26:13

and we digressed into a host of discussions

01:26:13 --> 01:26:15

but I pray that, each one of those

01:26:15 --> 01:26:16

digressions

01:26:17 --> 01:26:19

were meaningful and objective insha'Allah.

01:26:25 --> 01:26:28

Asmahi was a philologist. He was a grammarian.

01:26:28 --> 01:26:30

He went in the search of learning language

01:26:31 --> 01:26:32

and that's where we digressed when we spoke

01:26:32 --> 01:26:35

about vulgar because that's how unfortunately language has

01:26:35 --> 01:26:38

become today. We need to sit with youth.

01:26:38 --> 01:26:40

We need to connect with youth. We need

01:26:40 --> 01:26:42

to take out a lot of time and

01:26:42 --> 01:26:43

create a bond.

01:26:45 --> 01:26:47

When the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam had

01:26:47 --> 01:26:48

adopted Zayd

01:26:51 --> 01:26:52

or good kari name?

01:26:54 --> 01:26:54

Yeah.

01:26:56 --> 01:26:58

We're still trying to reach our cruising altitude.

01:26:59 --> 01:27:01

Yeah. We haven't yet yeah. We're still just

01:27:01 --> 01:27:02

airborne.

01:27:03 --> 01:27:05

Yeah. Now you must tell me to stop.

01:27:05 --> 01:27:06

I'll stop. This is my my heart is

01:27:06 --> 01:27:08

in this year. Wallah, my heart cries for

01:27:08 --> 01:27:09

the youth. My whole life has gone in

01:27:09 --> 01:27:11

this. I ask Allah to accept it. That's

01:27:11 --> 01:27:12

all I can say.

01:27:12 --> 01:27:14

I I seen an episode of a young

01:27:14 --> 01:27:16

man 2 weeks ago. He had an outburst

01:27:16 --> 01:27:19

with his drug. My word. My word. I've

01:27:19 --> 01:27:21

never in my life seen he started banging

01:27:21 --> 01:27:22

his head on the floor,

01:27:23 --> 01:27:24

like, aggressively.

01:27:25 --> 01:27:27

Was complete. I don't know

01:27:27 --> 01:27:31

what what triggered, what happened, what reaction, whatever.

01:27:31 --> 01:27:34

Completely insane. Just just gone off totally. And

01:27:34 --> 01:27:35

he's just

01:27:35 --> 01:27:38

like aggressively just hitting his head. It's a

01:27:38 --> 01:27:41

mixture of empathy, anger, rage, frustration.

01:27:41 --> 01:27:42

What is it?

01:27:46 --> 01:27:47

So,

01:27:47 --> 01:27:48

the incident

01:27:49 --> 01:27:50

of Zayd

01:27:50 --> 01:27:53

when the prophet had adopted him, right? And

01:27:53 --> 01:27:54

then his father and his uncle came in

01:27:54 --> 01:27:55

the search.

01:27:56 --> 01:27:57

And then finally, they came and they met

01:27:57 --> 01:27:59

the prophet and they said, we'll give you

01:27:59 --> 01:28:02

a handsome ransom. Please give us our son

01:28:02 --> 01:28:04

back. The missile said, I won't take a

01:28:04 --> 01:28:04

dime.

01:28:05 --> 01:28:06

I don't take money.

01:28:07 --> 01:28:09

You can take him. But I won't set

01:28:09 --> 01:28:10

him against his wish.

01:28:12 --> 01:28:13

I won't set him against his wish.

01:28:15 --> 01:28:17

And let me please say this again. Sorry.

01:28:17 --> 01:28:19

I I know I'm making a lot of

01:28:19 --> 01:28:19

interjections.

01:28:20 --> 01:28:22

If your marriage is breaking up,

01:28:23 --> 01:28:25

for Allah's sake, don't play nasty games with

01:28:25 --> 01:28:27

the other partner denying them access to that

01:28:27 --> 01:28:28

child.

01:28:28 --> 01:28:31

You're gonna pay a heavy price. You're gonna

01:28:31 --> 01:28:32

pay a heavy price in this world and

01:28:32 --> 01:28:33

in akhirah.

01:28:33 --> 01:28:36

Your children will rebel against you and they'll

01:28:36 --> 01:28:38

go searching for their other partner, mother or

01:28:38 --> 01:28:41

father, and Allah will reunite them. And if

01:28:41 --> 01:28:44

you are one who's been subjected and denied

01:28:44 --> 01:28:45

and barred, persevere.

01:28:46 --> 01:28:48

Your son, your daughter will come knocking your

01:28:48 --> 01:28:50

door. But if you are the one blocking,

01:28:50 --> 01:28:52

hear it from me today.

01:28:52 --> 01:28:54

You will suffer in this world and the

01:28:54 --> 01:28:54

letter.

01:29:01 --> 01:29:03

Can we stoop so low?

01:29:05 --> 01:29:06

Let's agree.

01:29:07 --> 01:29:09

You want a good wife. I wasn't a

01:29:09 --> 01:29:11

good husband but you were a good mother

01:29:11 --> 01:29:13

and I was a good father.

01:29:15 --> 01:29:17

We we we were not gelling

01:29:18 --> 01:29:20

or they were not gelling because I'm happy

01:29:20 --> 01:29:23

with my wife. I mean, please say, like,

01:29:23 --> 01:29:27

no. No. She's not gelling. No. No. We're

01:29:27 --> 01:29:28

gelling well.

01:29:29 --> 01:29:32

You gotta watch craft your words, bro. You

01:29:32 --> 01:29:33

gotta craft your words, bro.

01:29:36 --> 01:29:38

As husband and wife, you weren't getting along.

01:29:39 --> 01:29:40

Why are you denying the other one motherhood

01:29:40 --> 01:29:41

and fatherhood?

01:29:42 --> 01:29:44

And you know what makes a healthy home?

01:29:45 --> 01:29:47

Reinforce and impress on your children. Respect.

01:29:48 --> 01:29:51

They respect your father. They respect your mother.

01:29:53 --> 01:29:55

And it's not sufficient to say, no. Well,

01:29:55 --> 01:29:56

I didn't teach my children not to dis

01:29:56 --> 01:29:58

I didn't teach my children to disrespect you.

01:29:59 --> 01:30:00

No. No. No. You need to teach them

01:30:00 --> 01:30:02

to respect their father.

01:30:03 --> 01:30:06

I never thought my child disrespect your father.

01:30:06 --> 01:30:07

But what happens

01:30:09 --> 01:30:12

when the child throws a tantrum? Dares it.

01:30:12 --> 01:30:13

Like his father. Same.

01:30:13 --> 01:30:15

Same. Dares it.

01:30:16 --> 01:30:19

You have destroyed the self esteem of that

01:30:19 --> 01:30:21

man in that house.

01:30:24 --> 01:30:26

This is this is a small image of

01:30:26 --> 01:30:27

your father.

01:30:29 --> 01:30:31

No. I kid you not. This is serious.

01:30:33 --> 01:30:35

Listen. That you we're not gonna just this

01:30:35 --> 01:30:37

is your father, that's your mother.

01:30:38 --> 01:30:41

Teach your children values and respect

01:30:42 --> 01:30:43

for each other.

01:30:44 --> 01:30:47

Parents are couples are differing on too many

01:30:47 --> 01:30:47

fronts.

01:30:48 --> 01:30:50

Show regard for the values of each other.

01:30:54 --> 01:30:55

I have a reflection of Quran.

01:30:58 --> 01:30:58

So when

01:31:00 --> 01:31:02

when Musa alayhi salam came and the basket

01:31:02 --> 01:31:03

was sailing

01:31:03 --> 01:31:05

and pharaoh and

01:31:05 --> 01:31:06

Asiya,

01:31:07 --> 01:31:08

the faithful wife,

01:31:31 --> 01:31:32

She said, Allah I don't want the palace

01:31:32 --> 01:31:34

of this man. I don't want the palatial

01:31:34 --> 01:31:36

home. Allah, I want the palace in Jannah,

01:31:36 --> 01:31:36

Allah.

01:31:37 --> 01:31:38

She gave up a royal life.

01:31:42 --> 01:31:45

Now there's so many nikas you're performing. The

01:31:45 --> 01:31:47

dowry is so exorbitant. They don't disclose it.

01:31:48 --> 01:31:50

Yeah. This has happened. So I said, no.

01:31:50 --> 01:31:52

What's happening here? No. In the nikar ceremony

01:31:52 --> 01:31:54

when you solemnize in the marriage just so

01:31:54 --> 01:31:55

that we don't divulge

01:31:55 --> 01:31:57

to everyone, we would say, And the you

01:31:57 --> 01:31:59

give in to your new bride is as

01:31:59 --> 01:32:01

you discuss amongst yourself.

01:32:04 --> 01:32:04

Yeah.

01:32:05 --> 01:32:07

And then come 3 weeks later,

01:32:08 --> 01:32:10

I want all my 10 rings back.

01:32:12 --> 01:32:14

We worry so much about the wedding yet

01:32:14 --> 01:32:16

we worry so little about the marriage.

01:32:19 --> 01:32:20

The wedding is one day, the marriage is

01:32:20 --> 01:32:21

forever.

01:32:25 --> 01:32:28

Married for weeks. Married for months. Married for

01:32:28 --> 01:32:28

days.

01:32:29 --> 01:32:31

Why? Because the values were not given.

01:32:34 --> 01:32:36

So as the basket was coming

01:32:38 --> 01:32:41

and Musa alaihi salam was in that basket,

01:32:41 --> 01:32:43

what does the Quran say in chapter 20?

01:32:54 --> 01:32:55

Writes, O Musa,

01:32:56 --> 01:32:58

the protection we sent was

01:32:58 --> 01:33:00

we had cast beauty on you.

01:33:01 --> 01:33:03

So anyone who's seen you was just melted

01:33:03 --> 01:33:04

at your beauty.

01:33:07 --> 01:33:08

We don't know what's love. We know what's

01:33:08 --> 01:33:09

lust.

01:33:09 --> 01:33:11

May Allah give us that love for him.

01:33:12 --> 01:33:13

True love for Allah.

01:33:14 --> 01:33:17

It's said when you need to explain love,

01:33:17 --> 01:33:18

the medium today is lust

01:33:19 --> 01:33:22

because people don't know true love for Allah,

01:33:22 --> 01:33:23

love for the pious.

01:33:24 --> 01:33:24

So

01:33:28 --> 01:33:28

so

01:33:30 --> 01:33:31

the wife of pharaoh said, look at the

01:33:31 --> 01:33:34

deduction from the scholars of tafsir and the

01:33:34 --> 01:33:36

richness of the Quran. And this is what

01:33:36 --> 01:33:38

we learn, how to navigate.

01:33:38 --> 01:33:39

And this is where we get a cue.

01:33:39 --> 01:33:41

This is where we get inspiration. This is

01:33:41 --> 01:33:42

where we get guidance.

01:33:44 --> 01:33:46

So she said,

01:34:24 --> 01:34:25

It's academics.

01:34:30 --> 01:34:34

The Quran always opts for brief speech, comprehensive

01:34:34 --> 01:34:35

speech.

01:34:35 --> 01:34:37

So why did she say

01:34:39 --> 01:34:40

Why didn't she just say

01:34:46 --> 01:34:48

It was mentioned by Anur Quran.

01:34:49 --> 01:34:51

She said, oh my love, oh my hubby,

01:34:51 --> 01:34:54

you know what? He's so gorgeous.

01:34:56 --> 01:34:58

You know, woman and everything nowadays now this

01:34:58 --> 01:35:00

emojis also is a language of its own

01:35:00 --> 01:35:02

Because it's dangerous, available.

01:35:03 --> 01:35:04

Oops. Ouch.

01:35:07 --> 01:35:07

Ouch.

01:35:08 --> 01:35:09

It's platonic.

01:35:11 --> 01:35:14

And from platonic it becomes something else totally.

01:35:15 --> 01:35:17

From platonic you went into pedal.

01:35:24 --> 01:35:24

Oh,

01:35:25 --> 01:35:25

man.

01:35:33 --> 01:35:35

She said to her husband,

01:35:36 --> 01:35:37

love

01:35:38 --> 01:35:39

is real.

01:35:40 --> 01:35:42

The narration of Sahih Muslim,

01:35:42 --> 01:35:44

the neighbor of the prophet came to invite

01:35:44 --> 01:35:45

him.

01:35:46 --> 01:35:48

Said come home for meals. So Nabi Salsam

01:35:48 --> 01:35:50

said, and Ma'ayesh?

01:35:50 --> 01:35:51

Said, no. Only you invited.

01:35:53 --> 01:35:54

You see, that this is also something you

01:35:54 --> 01:35:56

gotta be frank and candid. If you invite

01:35:56 --> 01:35:58

anyone, say you won. Don't say, hey. You

01:35:58 --> 01:36:00

must come. Who? No. You must come.

01:36:02 --> 01:36:03

Now you can't say. You don't say. You

01:36:03 --> 01:36:05

don't know what to say. You don't know

01:36:05 --> 01:36:07

how to say. You just yeah. You must

01:36:07 --> 01:36:08

come. Now I don't know

01:36:10 --> 01:36:12

what? How? I don't know. You can't ask.

01:36:12 --> 01:36:14

You can't say. No, man. Talk.

01:36:28 --> 01:36:29

Say unto them, I don't seek

01:36:30 --> 01:36:30

remuneration

01:36:31 --> 01:36:31

and compensation

01:36:32 --> 01:36:33

for my

01:36:33 --> 01:36:34

mission.

01:36:34 --> 01:36:37

And I am not from amongst those who

01:36:37 --> 01:36:38

pretend and act,

01:36:38 --> 01:36:39

who fake.

01:36:42 --> 01:36:44

The whole world is just fake.

01:36:46 --> 01:36:47

It's acting.

01:36:47 --> 01:36:49

The Quran says if someone knocks your door

01:36:49 --> 01:36:51

and the time is not right, tell him

01:36:51 --> 01:36:52

to go.

01:36:52 --> 01:36:54

And you who are at the door go

01:36:54 --> 01:36:56

back. It's better for you to return.

01:36:58 --> 01:37:00

Now you look in the camera and

01:37:00 --> 01:37:02

hey. But your mama.

01:37:07 --> 01:37:10

Just like he's I tell you.

01:37:12 --> 01:37:14

Yo. Hey, Joe. Come in, my brother. How's

01:37:14 --> 01:37:15

it, man? Hey. Come come come in. Yeah.

01:37:15 --> 01:37:18

We're just talking about you. Hogwash, man. Back

01:37:18 --> 01:37:19

off.

01:37:20 --> 01:37:21

Nonsense.

01:37:24 --> 01:37:26

It's not the right time. Tell him it's

01:37:26 --> 01:37:27

not the right time.

01:37:27 --> 01:37:29

Live the real life.

01:37:30 --> 01:37:32

The nails are fake. The eyes are fake.

01:37:32 --> 01:37:34

The eyelashes are fake.

01:37:34 --> 01:37:36

Everything is fake, my Allah.

01:37:42 --> 01:37:43

The prophet

01:37:43 --> 01:37:44

said before,

01:37:46 --> 01:37:47

respect will be fake.

01:37:48 --> 01:37:50

Like, I mean, respect is not something physical

01:37:50 --> 01:37:51

and tangible.

01:37:51 --> 01:37:53

You know, this is pure, that's generic, that's

01:37:53 --> 01:37:55

real, that's not real. Nabi salallahu alaihi wa

01:37:55 --> 01:37:56

sallam said respect will be fake.

01:38:04 --> 01:38:05

People will be respected

01:38:06 --> 01:38:09

just to protect yourself against his evil. This

01:38:09 --> 01:38:09

guy is nasty.

01:38:10 --> 01:38:12

He can spit venom. So greet him.

01:38:16 --> 01:38:17

In Arabic they say,

01:38:18 --> 01:38:20

sometimes the only way you appease a barking

01:38:20 --> 01:38:21

dog is to throw a bone at it

01:38:21 --> 01:38:23

daily or to give it a slice of

01:38:23 --> 01:38:25

bread. So you say, hey, you feed this

01:38:25 --> 01:38:27

dog? He said, no. No. I just keep

01:38:27 --> 01:38:28

myself away from the bark.

01:38:29 --> 01:38:30

I'm not feeding it.

01:38:30 --> 01:38:32

Your excellency. Your excellency.

01:38:33 --> 01:38:34

What excellency?

01:38:34 --> 01:38:36

Plaque outside the graveyard.

01:38:36 --> 01:38:38

Inside the cemetery, there are many people who

01:38:38 --> 01:38:41

thought the world won't function without them. If

01:38:41 --> 01:38:42

any, the world is doing better.

01:38:45 --> 01:38:47

Nothing's gonna change, man. My day will come.

01:38:47 --> 01:38:48

It'll clock up, drop me off, and it's

01:38:48 --> 01:38:49

over, man.

01:38:50 --> 01:38:51

Promise you, we need to change. We need

01:38:51 --> 01:38:54

to change the coordinates on our set nav,

01:38:54 --> 01:38:54

man.

01:38:54 --> 01:38:56

We're going in the wrong you can see

01:38:56 --> 01:38:57

you're going in the wrong direction but you're

01:38:57 --> 01:38:59

still carrying on with that same GPS.

01:39:00 --> 01:39:00

The signal is not

01:39:01 --> 01:39:01

right.

01:39:13 --> 01:39:15

If you are told go back, go back.

01:39:16 --> 01:39:17

So the prophet

01:39:18 --> 01:39:18

says,

01:39:19 --> 01:39:21

you invited me. What about my Aisha? He

01:39:21 --> 01:39:22

said, no only you.

01:39:22 --> 01:39:24

Rabi said, okay then I'm not coming.

01:39:29 --> 01:39:30

Muslim. Then again,

01:39:32 --> 01:39:33

the person came back and he said I'm

01:39:33 --> 01:39:35

inviting you. Said,

01:39:35 --> 01:39:37

and Maisha? He said, no. Only you. He

01:39:37 --> 01:39:38

said, no. Then I'm not coming.

01:39:40 --> 01:39:42

Patience, his demeanor. He's like, I told you

01:39:42 --> 01:39:43

one time. How many times did I tell

01:39:43 --> 01:39:44

you? No. No.

01:39:45 --> 01:39:45

He's

01:39:46 --> 01:39:47

so calm and composed.

01:39:48 --> 01:39:50

Right? There's different types of people. Some people

01:39:50 --> 01:39:51

are like this. They persisting.

01:39:52 --> 01:39:52

Right?

01:39:53 --> 01:39:55

Was sitting and villager came in.

01:39:56 --> 01:39:56

Muhammad.

01:39:57 --> 01:39:58

It was

01:39:58 --> 01:39:59

Muhammad

01:39:59 --> 01:40:00

here. He was a villager.

01:40:01 --> 01:40:03

The authentic the the Saba said

01:40:07 --> 01:40:09

Can you see this luminous face? Can you

01:40:09 --> 01:40:12

see this brilliant human reclining? He himself is

01:40:12 --> 01:40:13

Muhammad

01:40:18 --> 01:40:20

Listen, I am very loud. I'm strong in

01:40:20 --> 01:40:22

my speech. So I'm gonna ask you, I'm

01:40:22 --> 01:40:24

gonna raise my voice. That's my nature. Don't

01:40:24 --> 01:40:26

feel offended. Nabi salawam said,

01:40:27 --> 01:40:29

Go for it. We have no issues.

01:40:30 --> 01:40:33

Wow. That was the demeanor of our Nabi

01:40:35 --> 01:40:37

The 3rd time he came back and he

01:40:37 --> 01:40:40

invited. And Nabi said, and my Aisha? He

01:40:40 --> 01:40:42

said, yeah. She's also invited. The narration of

01:40:42 --> 01:40:44

Sahih Muslim, they both then go.

01:40:46 --> 01:40:48

The the commentators commenting on the hadith say,

01:40:48 --> 01:40:50

why did the prophet of Allah decline on

01:40:50 --> 01:40:51

the first two instances

01:40:52 --> 01:40:54

and then oblige on the third instance? He

01:40:54 --> 01:40:56

said there was hunger at home.

01:40:56 --> 01:40:57

So he decided

01:40:58 --> 01:41:00

that if it is sleeping without food, we

01:41:00 --> 01:41:02

both will sleep without food. And if it's

01:41:02 --> 01:41:05

eating, we both will eat, my love.

01:41:08 --> 01:41:09

That's love.

01:41:10 --> 01:41:12

Not an emoji and a bouquet and whatever

01:41:12 --> 01:41:13

and teddy bears.

01:41:15 --> 01:41:16

That this is this is real.

01:41:21 --> 01:41:22

This is a connection.

01:41:22 --> 01:41:25

This is a feeling. This is empathy.

01:41:25 --> 01:41:26

This is human

01:41:27 --> 01:41:27

relationship.

01:41:28 --> 01:41:29

Both ways.

01:41:31 --> 01:41:33

When when when when when Assia

01:41:35 --> 01:41:36

told pharaoh,

01:41:37 --> 01:41:38

don't kill Musa.

01:41:38 --> 01:41:39

She said,

01:41:41 --> 01:41:43

basic Arabic grammar. I don't wanna give grammar

01:41:43 --> 01:41:44

and and

01:41:45 --> 01:41:46

lessons here.

01:41:48 --> 01:41:49

Basic Arabic grammar,

01:41:50 --> 01:41:52

it's a plural, but she's talking to one

01:41:52 --> 01:41:52

person.

01:41:56 --> 01:41:59

She addressed her husband with the plural

01:41:59 --> 01:42:00

to denote respect.

01:42:02 --> 01:42:04

How do you call your husband my sister?

01:42:05 --> 01:42:06

Do you use respectful

01:42:07 --> 01:42:08

expressions and terms?

01:42:09 --> 01:42:10

And vice versa.

01:42:11 --> 01:42:13

What impressions are we giving the children? Are

01:42:13 --> 01:42:14

we showing respect?

01:42:19 --> 01:42:21

Our addiction to our phone,

01:42:21 --> 01:42:22

our own

01:42:22 --> 01:42:24

children are not getting the right message. I've

01:42:24 --> 01:42:26

always said the old folks

01:42:26 --> 01:42:27

are an example

01:42:28 --> 01:42:29

of not breaking marriages,

01:42:30 --> 01:42:33

but they're not necessarily example of happy marriages.

01:42:33 --> 01:42:34

Ask me.

01:42:35 --> 01:42:36

One day I was giving this and this

01:42:36 --> 01:42:38

on old man is going like this here.

01:42:38 --> 01:42:39

I say, hey, uncle. Not so much. You're

01:42:39 --> 01:42:41

telling everyone I wasn't talking about you.

01:42:50 --> 01:42:51

Old folks are an example.

01:42:52 --> 01:42:54

They come from a value system. Your must

01:42:54 --> 01:42:57

leave from here. But they're not necessarily example

01:42:57 --> 01:42:58

of happy homes.

01:42:58 --> 01:43:01

The old folks started sleeping separate when, you

01:43:01 --> 01:43:02

know what, the deep heat was too much

01:43:02 --> 01:43:05

and the urine ate. The young generation are

01:43:05 --> 01:43:07

sleeping separate in their thirties.

01:43:12 --> 01:43:14

What's the common exact he snores too much.

01:43:17 --> 01:43:19

What what what are we married for?

01:43:30 --> 01:43:32

My word I don't know what to say.

01:43:33 --> 01:43:36

Allah knows and when I read Quran, I

01:43:36 --> 01:43:38

I cannot in words tell you

01:43:38 --> 01:43:40

the ecstasy that grips me.

01:43:45 --> 01:43:46

So what did Assia say?

01:43:47 --> 01:43:48

She said,

01:43:52 --> 01:43:54

She didn't say coolness of my eyes.

01:43:56 --> 01:43:59

Then she's trying to prevent pharaoh from killing

01:43:59 --> 01:44:03

Musa, So outwardly, apparently, supposedly, logically, it would

01:44:03 --> 01:44:05

be coolness to your eyes don't kill him.

01:44:05 --> 01:44:08

But she said coolness to my eyes then

01:44:08 --> 01:44:09

coolness to your eyes

01:44:09 --> 01:44:12

because she knew her desire,

01:44:13 --> 01:44:15

her passion meant more to him than his

01:44:15 --> 01:44:16

own desire.

01:44:27 --> 01:44:29

She said, love, I like him.

01:44:30 --> 01:44:32

Love, I like him.

01:44:34 --> 01:44:36

Wow. How much regard do we have for

01:44:36 --> 01:44:37

each others?

01:44:40 --> 01:44:41

He came back tired from work.

01:44:42 --> 01:44:45

Oh, I'm feeling for sandwich. Get up. There's

01:44:45 --> 01:44:46

the micro. There's the oven.

01:44:49 --> 01:44:50

And don't take off your socks here.

01:44:51 --> 01:44:53

No, man. No, man. No.

01:45:03 --> 01:45:05

The narration of Bazar, get married, your wife

01:45:05 --> 01:45:06

will bring you wealth.

01:45:09 --> 01:45:10

Your wife will bring you wealth.

01:45:12 --> 01:45:13

How will she bring you wealth?

01:45:34 --> 01:45:34

The right

01:45:35 --> 01:45:37

where the prophet said your wife will bring

01:45:37 --> 01:45:39

revenue, bring wealth, what? Because money per se

01:45:39 --> 01:45:40

is not the object.

01:45:40 --> 01:45:42

There's a greater purpose behind it.

01:45:43 --> 01:45:44

Right? You ask you, why are you traveling

01:45:44 --> 01:45:46

to be happy? Why you got married to

01:45:46 --> 01:45:46

be happy?

01:45:48 --> 01:45:49

Well, yeah, hopefully.

01:45:51 --> 01:45:53

You know, I always tell the youngsters, you

01:45:53 --> 01:45:54

know, when I'm married and I got 2

01:45:54 --> 01:45:56

kids, I'll be happy. I say, how's your

01:45:56 --> 01:45:57

father happy? He's.

01:46:09 --> 01:46:10

In the struggles of obedience,

01:46:11 --> 01:46:12

there's pleasure.

01:46:13 --> 01:46:16

In the apparent pleasures of disobedience, there's misery.

01:46:17 --> 01:46:19

There's misery, my brother. Allah's Qasem. 25 years,

01:46:19 --> 01:46:21

I can tell you. I haven't come across

01:46:21 --> 01:46:23

one person who sinned in his life and

01:46:23 --> 01:46:25

was happy. There was a friend of mine

01:46:25 --> 01:46:26

who was close to me in the early

01:46:26 --> 01:46:29

years in Australia. Young man. So listen to

01:46:29 --> 01:46:30

my talks and took a liking to me.

01:46:31 --> 01:46:31

He

01:46:32 --> 01:46:33

was young. He was

01:46:33 --> 01:46:34

experimenting.

01:46:34 --> 01:46:37

He was freelancing. He was trying the world.

01:46:38 --> 01:46:40

And, I kept on telling him you're going

01:46:40 --> 01:46:42

into a darker web. This thing is gonna

01:46:42 --> 01:46:44

shackle you. You're gonna you're getting into a

01:46:44 --> 01:46:45

darker place.

01:46:46 --> 01:46:48

Sadly at some point, unfortunately, he then claimed

01:46:48 --> 01:46:49

his life and, you know, I just got

01:46:49 --> 01:46:50

a news to say this is what had

01:46:50 --> 01:46:51

happened.

01:46:52 --> 01:46:54

Sin just leads to a dark road. It

01:46:54 --> 01:46:56

comes to an end. It's just misery. There's

01:46:56 --> 01:46:59

just nowhere. Finally, the last thing the devil

01:46:59 --> 01:47:00

says, just take your life.

01:47:01 --> 01:47:03

Whatever the nature of the crime is, sin

01:47:03 --> 01:47:05

was never gonna take you to happiness.

01:47:06 --> 01:47:07

That's for sure.

01:47:08 --> 01:47:10

Sin can make you look happy, only obedience

01:47:10 --> 01:47:11

will make you feel happy.

01:47:12 --> 01:47:14

Every Ramadan, my message to the world wherever

01:47:14 --> 01:47:15

I travel is,

01:47:17 --> 01:47:18

where's the answer to happiness?

01:47:20 --> 01:47:23

Whole year you're eating. It's a lavish breakfast.

01:47:23 --> 01:47:25

It's a sumptuous lunch. It's a finger lickin

01:47:25 --> 01:47:29

dinner. It's decadent desserts. It's a great spread.

01:47:29 --> 01:47:31

It was alright. Nothing to write home about.

01:47:31 --> 01:47:32

Nothing to scream.

01:47:32 --> 01:47:33

But come Ramadan,

01:47:34 --> 01:47:35

from a 5 year old to a 75

01:47:35 --> 01:47:38

year old, everyone is excited for 30 days

01:47:38 --> 01:47:39

for 1 meal.

01:47:40 --> 01:47:43

Why? Because moderate deprivation is the only thing

01:47:43 --> 01:47:45

that can bring happiness to man.

01:47:47 --> 01:47:51

Deprive yourself, limit yourself, behave yourself.

01:47:51 --> 01:47:53

The youth of today, we were was speaking

01:47:53 --> 01:47:55

about lethargy.

01:47:55 --> 01:47:57

If if everyday is a weekend, then how

01:47:57 --> 01:47:59

can you be happy on a weekend?

01:48:08 --> 01:48:11

There's a 1,000 things to do. I just

01:48:11 --> 01:48:13

can't get through the day. And he's like,

01:48:13 --> 01:48:15

no. I'm just chilling, boss. What's up?

01:48:16 --> 01:48:16

Yeah.

01:48:18 --> 01:48:19

What?

01:48:19 --> 01:48:21

Get a life, man.

01:48:24 --> 01:48:26

I said to the youth and I used

01:48:26 --> 01:48:27

to say to my students,

01:48:27 --> 01:48:29

you enrolled in the seminary

01:48:29 --> 01:48:31

at your elementary rudimentary years.

01:48:32 --> 01:48:34

Perhaps you need a jumper cables to boost

01:48:34 --> 01:48:36

your car or someone gave you a a

01:48:36 --> 01:48:39

push from the rear to get your car

01:48:39 --> 01:48:39

started.

01:48:40 --> 01:48:42

But don't think or expect for somebody to

01:48:42 --> 01:48:43

push you to the destination.

01:48:45 --> 01:48:47

Your father told you get up. Your mother

01:48:47 --> 01:48:50

told you get up. Life threw some curve

01:48:50 --> 01:48:51

balls at you.

01:48:52 --> 01:48:55

The Arabic proverb, the death of my seniors

01:48:55 --> 01:48:57

made me a senior. I'm driving in the

01:48:57 --> 01:48:58

car. I just seen my dad having a

01:48:58 --> 01:49:01

heart attack. I've seen the steering moving. I

01:49:01 --> 01:49:02

never sat there before. But when I looked

01:49:02 --> 01:49:05

around me, my siblings were smaller. I had

01:49:05 --> 01:49:06

to just take the leap.

01:49:07 --> 01:49:08

I had to take the leap and hold

01:49:08 --> 01:49:10

the steering to rescue the other passengers.

01:49:11 --> 01:49:13

Grow up. You seen your dad go with

01:49:13 --> 01:49:16

with cancer. You seen your mother fall. You

01:49:16 --> 01:49:18

seen an empire crumble. You still drunk.

01:49:27 --> 01:49:29

Some people grow old, they don't grow wise.

01:49:30 --> 01:49:31

I read an amazing

01:49:31 --> 01:49:33

saying the other day. I met a 15

01:49:33 --> 01:49:35

year old adult and a 40 year old

01:49:35 --> 01:49:36

boy.

01:49:38 --> 01:49:40

I met a 15 year old adult

01:49:40 --> 01:49:43

and a 40 year old boy. He behaves

01:49:43 --> 01:49:44

like a kid.

01:49:50 --> 01:49:52

Yasmin Muawiyah was walking.

01:50:03 --> 01:50:05

And behind him there were 4 great

01:50:06 --> 01:50:07

in their flowing robes.

01:50:09 --> 01:50:11

And he was leading them.

01:50:11 --> 01:50:13

So suleiman ibn Abdul Malik said,

01:50:15 --> 01:50:16

how old are you?

01:50:16 --> 01:50:17

He said,

01:50:22 --> 01:50:24

I mean, woe be to these great scholars

01:50:24 --> 01:50:26

in this robe, people of the cloth. And

01:50:26 --> 01:50:28

they got one young man who barely got

01:50:28 --> 01:50:31

facial hair leading them. How old are you?

01:50:31 --> 01:50:32

He said,

01:50:35 --> 01:50:37

I am no older than the young Usama

01:50:38 --> 01:50:39

when the Nabi of Allah made him the

01:50:39 --> 01:50:41

leader of the expedition and behind him he

01:50:41 --> 01:50:43

had the giants and the stalwarts of Abu

01:50:43 --> 01:50:44

Bakr and Umar.

01:50:46 --> 01:50:47

Those were our youth, man.

01:50:50 --> 01:50:51

They were leading us.

01:50:54 --> 01:50:55

Today's youngster,

01:50:56 --> 01:50:58

you can't even tell him to take take

01:50:58 --> 01:51:00

his mother to the shop. Mommy, how long

01:51:00 --> 01:51:00

you'll be?

01:51:02 --> 01:51:02

What?

01:51:09 --> 01:51:10

He says I went to visit Omar bin

01:51:10 --> 01:51:11

Abdul Aziz.

01:51:11 --> 01:51:13

I'm gonna mention 1, 2 things and start

01:51:13 --> 01:51:14

wrapping up. Wallahi, what I was hoping to

01:51:14 --> 01:51:17

speak on, I haven't even touched it. And,

01:51:18 --> 01:51:20

it's gonna it's really a topic of its

01:51:20 --> 01:51:22

own. I wanted to speak on about 12

01:51:22 --> 01:51:22

fitnas.

01:51:23 --> 01:51:24

It's a whole write up of.

01:51:29 --> 01:51:30

It's 12 fitanas.

01:51:30 --> 01:51:32

I was hoping to get there, but inshallah

01:51:32 --> 01:51:34

for another time whenever Allah has willed it

01:51:34 --> 01:51:35

to be, it would be there.

01:51:48 --> 01:51:49

We all are stuck

01:51:51 --> 01:51:52

with boulders

01:51:53 --> 01:51:53

blocking

01:51:54 --> 01:51:56

our own caves of life.

01:51:57 --> 01:51:58

Those 3 people in those caves

01:51:59 --> 01:52:01

did some amazing feat for those boulders to

01:52:01 --> 01:52:02

move.

01:52:03 --> 01:52:04

Do we have

01:52:05 --> 01:52:06

actions in our reserves

01:52:06 --> 01:52:08

that we can tap into

01:52:08 --> 01:52:10

when we're seeing things are just not making

01:52:10 --> 01:52:11

headway?

01:52:12 --> 01:52:14

But we all have some boulders

01:52:14 --> 01:52:16

blocking. Some child is not

01:52:16 --> 01:52:18

recovering from his addict addiction.

01:52:19 --> 01:52:21

Some this is not happening. That is not

01:52:21 --> 01:52:21

happening.

01:52:23 --> 01:52:25

Let me come back to that incident and

01:52:25 --> 01:52:27

mention 1, 2 things and tie it up

01:52:27 --> 01:52:27

with this here.

01:52:29 --> 01:52:32

There is a fake pleasure in sin.

01:52:32 --> 01:52:33

There is a wholesome

01:52:34 --> 01:52:36

spiritual ecstasy in obedience

01:52:36 --> 01:52:38

and in between that there is a divine

01:52:38 --> 01:52:40

pleasure in resisting sin.

01:52:42 --> 01:52:43

There's a divine resistance

01:52:44 --> 01:52:46

sin. You're just in resisting mode. You didn't

01:52:46 --> 01:52:48

go into any obedience. You're just in resisting

01:52:48 --> 01:52:52

mode. He's messaging me. He's messaging me. But,

01:52:52 --> 01:52:53

no. You Allah, I'm not going to do

01:52:53 --> 01:52:54

it. You Allah, I'm not going to do

01:52:54 --> 01:52:55

it.

01:52:56 --> 01:52:58

Of course, for the time, there is restlessness.

01:52:58 --> 01:53:00

There's no doubt about that. There is restlessness.

01:53:00 --> 01:53:02

At the at the time when the urge

01:53:02 --> 01:53:04

is in full swing, there is restlessness. There

01:53:04 --> 01:53:07

there that's real. That that this world is

01:53:07 --> 01:53:08

a place of test. There is that restlessness.

01:53:10 --> 01:53:12

But once you've overcome the restlessness,

01:53:13 --> 01:53:13

oh, man.

01:53:14 --> 01:53:15

That that joy is indescribable.

01:53:16 --> 01:53:17

It's ineffable.

01:53:18 --> 01:53:20

It's something else. You can't quantify it. It's

01:53:20 --> 01:53:21

something else.

01:53:23 --> 01:53:25

So these 3 people were desperate.

01:53:27 --> 01:53:29

And then they said, listen. We're blocked up

01:53:29 --> 01:53:30

in life. Yeah?

01:53:31 --> 01:53:32

There's no way we're gonna come out.

01:53:33 --> 01:53:35

You need serious actions in your life

01:53:35 --> 01:53:37

to get you out of

01:53:37 --> 01:53:40

the the the the crisis in which we

01:53:40 --> 01:53:41

are engulfed.

01:53:42 --> 01:53:42

Yeah.

01:53:44 --> 01:53:46

You you know the

01:53:46 --> 01:53:48

you need to go buy something and

01:53:49 --> 01:53:51

the child say, no. No. My got lot

01:53:51 --> 01:53:52

money.

01:53:53 --> 01:53:55

Now in his little, weak, simple mind, he

01:53:55 --> 01:53:57

thinks that he's lot. He doesn't know. What

01:53:57 --> 01:53:58

you need here is much more.

01:53:59 --> 01:54:01

Josefa ibn Yaman said,

01:54:02 --> 01:54:03

a time will come,

01:54:03 --> 01:54:06

nobody will be rescued from the but

01:54:06 --> 01:54:09

the one who begs Allah and cries incessantly

01:54:10 --> 01:54:13

like how a drowning person screams for help.

01:54:19 --> 01:54:20

When a person is drowning,

01:54:21 --> 01:54:24

he's not like, are there any life savers

01:54:24 --> 01:54:24

available?

01:54:26 --> 01:54:28

Please notify them.

01:54:30 --> 01:54:32

I've mentioned this many times and let me

01:54:32 --> 01:54:33

just say it here. My wife is gonna

01:54:33 --> 01:54:35

say why I said it. But Anyway, we

01:54:35 --> 01:54:36

were in the Bahamas

01:54:38 --> 01:54:40

and, on a jet ski. There's a child

01:54:40 --> 01:54:42

in every adult and that child was in

01:54:42 --> 01:54:44

me at its full at that day.

01:54:45 --> 01:54:48

And, I needed to show her my expertise

01:54:48 --> 01:54:49

on the throttle.

01:54:50 --> 01:54:51

And, yeah,

01:54:53 --> 01:54:55

I flipped the whole machine.

01:54:56 --> 01:54:57

Literally flipped the machine.

01:54:58 --> 01:54:59

And due to panic,

01:55:00 --> 01:55:01

I forgot I had

01:55:01 --> 01:55:04

a life vest on and so did she.

01:55:04 --> 01:55:06

She's holding that side, I'm holding this side,

01:55:06 --> 01:55:07

and we're screaming.

01:55:08 --> 01:55:09

And at that time, this thing kinda dawned

01:55:09 --> 01:55:11

on me. You see, often when you're in

01:55:11 --> 01:55:11

a situation,

01:55:12 --> 01:55:14

then it hits you. We were doing

01:55:14 --> 01:55:17

humanitarian work in Lombok Island after the earthquake,

01:55:17 --> 01:55:19

but shortly after Hajj. I just come back

01:55:19 --> 01:55:22

from Hajj in 2019. And then immediately, we

01:55:22 --> 01:55:22

went to Lombok.

01:55:23 --> 01:55:25

And then we drove for 3 hours. We

01:55:25 --> 01:55:27

summited the hill. And then I looked around

01:55:27 --> 01:55:29

me, it was nothing but ruin and debris.

01:55:29 --> 01:55:31

Nothing but ruin and debris.

01:55:31 --> 01:55:34

And I rotated my gaze. Said, Nali

01:55:34 --> 01:55:35

used to often.

01:55:38 --> 01:55:41

He would just sit in solitude and then

01:55:41 --> 01:55:43

rotate his palm and then talk to himself.

01:55:43 --> 01:55:43

Ali

01:55:44 --> 01:55:44

Ali

01:55:50 --> 01:55:51

I leave the journey to Aqir. It is

01:55:51 --> 01:55:53

so long. The road is unknown.

01:55:54 --> 01:55:55

The path is hazardous.

01:55:55 --> 01:55:57

But do you have adequate do you know

01:55:57 --> 01:55:58

where you're heading?

01:55:59 --> 01:56:01

So I sat there when we summited, it

01:56:01 --> 01:56:04

was scorching, sweltering, blistering hot.

01:56:04 --> 01:56:05

I rotated my gaze.

01:56:06 --> 01:56:08

They had gathered everyone in a make shelter

01:56:08 --> 01:56:10

and I had to give the talk there.

01:56:10 --> 01:56:12

And when I looked around, there was no

01:56:12 --> 01:56:13

home, there was no dwelling.

01:56:14 --> 01:56:16

That's the time it hit me. The prophet

01:56:16 --> 01:56:17

sallallahu alaihi wasallam said, if you miss one

01:56:17 --> 01:56:19

salah it's like you lost all your family

01:56:19 --> 01:56:20

and all your belongings.

01:56:21 --> 01:56:22

Now I'm like seeing it real.

01:56:27 --> 01:56:29

None will be rescued from the fitna of

01:56:29 --> 01:56:30

that time,

01:56:30 --> 01:56:32

but the one who makes dua to Allah

01:56:32 --> 01:56:34

like a drowning person.

01:56:38 --> 01:56:39

Create a home of tahajjud.

01:56:40 --> 01:56:42

Create a home of salah.

01:56:42 --> 01:56:45

Put that phones down. Allah give me tawfiq.

01:56:45 --> 01:56:46

Allah give you tawfiq.

01:56:47 --> 01:56:47

Honestly,

01:56:48 --> 01:56:48

limited,

01:56:50 --> 01:56:51

Wi Fi free connection

01:56:51 --> 01:56:54

that has just brought misery in our homes.

01:56:55 --> 01:56:58

We're only browsing, perusing, surfing, and nothing other

01:56:58 --> 01:56:59

than depression and misery.

01:57:01 --> 01:57:04

Because constantly you've seen something else so you

01:57:04 --> 01:57:07

automatically feeling ungrateful about yourself.

01:57:08 --> 01:57:10

I didn't have, I didn't enjoy, I didn't

01:57:10 --> 01:57:11

experience.

01:57:15 --> 01:57:16

So this person,

01:57:16 --> 01:57:17

Asmari,

01:57:18 --> 01:57:20

he goes in the search and he comes

01:57:20 --> 01:57:22

to this particular tribe in Yemen.

01:57:23 --> 01:57:24

Banu Hudra.

01:57:24 --> 01:57:26

They were known for preserving the language. You

01:57:26 --> 01:57:28

know, if you go in the outskirts also,

01:57:28 --> 01:57:30

they speak the more pure language or the

01:57:30 --> 01:57:31

climate is better.

01:57:31 --> 01:57:34

Well, now it's so, you know, industrialized and

01:57:34 --> 01:57:34

there's

01:57:35 --> 01:57:36

so much,

01:57:36 --> 01:57:37

you know, pollution

01:57:38 --> 01:57:40

everywhere so it's questionable.

01:57:42 --> 01:57:42

Anyway,

01:57:43 --> 01:57:45

he's walking there. Many incidents had happened there.

01:57:45 --> 01:57:47

So the people of this tribe were known,

01:57:47 --> 01:57:50

the men, to have soft hearts, and the

01:57:50 --> 01:57:52

women were known to have exceptional beauty and

01:57:52 --> 01:57:53

modesty.

01:58:07 --> 01:58:10

The men were very soft and the women

01:58:10 --> 01:58:12

were very modest and very beautiful.

01:58:14 --> 01:58:15

So he passes by and he sees on

01:58:15 --> 01:58:17

a plaque it's written that

01:58:25 --> 01:58:26

Oh, people

01:58:26 --> 01:58:28

and this is now in eloquent,

01:58:29 --> 01:58:32

refined, pure, wholesome Arabic.

01:58:32 --> 01:58:34

Oh, people you know, like, we have graffiti.

01:58:35 --> 01:58:37

You know, sometimes sitting in the toilet and

01:58:37 --> 01:58:38

following the arrow.

01:58:45 --> 01:58:47

And then you have this myth in our

01:58:47 --> 01:58:48

communities

01:58:48 --> 01:58:49

that when you go to the loo and

01:58:49 --> 01:58:50

the lavatory,

01:58:50 --> 01:58:52

then you clear your throat to dispel the

01:58:52 --> 01:58:53

gin.

01:58:53 --> 01:58:54

What a joke.

01:59:01 --> 01:59:03

Then what you is is that how jinnads

01:59:03 --> 01:59:04

go?

01:59:06 --> 01:59:08

There's this myth

01:59:12 --> 01:59:14

The Fuqaha speak about if you clear your

01:59:14 --> 01:59:17

throat without any reason, that certain scholar say

01:59:17 --> 01:59:19

it invalidates your prayer.

01:59:20 --> 01:59:22

The jurors say do the clearing of the

01:59:22 --> 01:59:24

throat if you have a problem that urine

01:59:24 --> 01:59:27

is dropping and just change your posture to

01:59:27 --> 01:59:29

make sure that there is no drops remaining.

01:59:30 --> 01:59:32

It's got nothing to do to drive away.

01:59:35 --> 01:59:35

It's like

01:59:36 --> 01:59:38

knowledge is so important.

01:59:43 --> 01:59:43

So

01:59:45 --> 01:59:47

he comes there and it's written on this

01:59:47 --> 01:59:47

block

01:59:53 --> 01:59:55

or people help a young

01:59:55 --> 01:59:57

man who's gripped in a crush,

01:59:58 --> 01:59:59

in an infatuation,

02:00:00 --> 02:00:02

and he's head over heels over a woman.

02:00:03 --> 02:00:04

How does he help himself?

02:00:04 --> 02:00:07

This is so he's here to learn Arabic.

02:00:08 --> 02:00:09

And I told you in the 7th century,

02:00:09 --> 02:00:11

he was a philologist, he was a grammarian.

02:00:11 --> 02:00:12

There's

02:00:12 --> 02:00:14

so many incidents about his. One day I

02:00:14 --> 02:00:16

couldn't sleep at night and I got up.

02:00:17 --> 02:00:19

So I went in my dining room and

02:00:19 --> 02:00:20

I took out my kitab and

02:00:21 --> 02:00:23

I started reading and I stumbled over an

02:00:23 --> 02:00:26

incident of which is captured in.

02:00:27 --> 02:00:28

One day he was walking.

02:00:29 --> 02:00:31

I mean, makes mention of this Asmari.

02:00:31 --> 02:00:34

There's so many incidents about him and, there's

02:00:34 --> 02:00:36

this young girl singing

02:00:37 --> 02:00:40

and in her melodious voice she's saying that,

02:00:41 --> 02:00:44

you know, I fell in love with this

02:00:44 --> 02:00:46

person and it has destroyed me.

02:00:52 --> 02:00:55

I ask Allah to forgive me for the

02:00:55 --> 02:00:57

love and the infatuation I had over this

02:00:57 --> 02:00:58

man.

02:00:59 --> 02:01:00

So Asma'i said

02:01:00 --> 02:01:01

she was repenting

02:01:02 --> 02:01:03

from her infatuation

02:01:04 --> 02:01:06

but her voice was so sweet that I

02:01:06 --> 02:01:08

said your voice is so attractive and seductive

02:01:08 --> 02:01:09

and melodious.

02:01:09 --> 02:01:12

She's making tawba but I'm like, she's creating

02:01:12 --> 02:01:13

a sin with the tawba if you know

02:01:13 --> 02:01:14

what I mean.

02:01:14 --> 02:01:16

You know when it's a strange woman even

02:01:16 --> 02:01:18

when she screams, ah, but she's so sweet.

02:01:19 --> 02:01:20

But she's so cute.

02:01:21 --> 02:01:22

And when it's your

02:01:22 --> 02:01:23

own,

02:01:23 --> 02:01:24

then it's gruff.

02:01:29 --> 02:01:31

Somebody else is honey, then here it's like,

02:01:31 --> 02:01:32

smell the coffee.

02:01:33 --> 02:01:34

Excuse the pun.

02:01:36 --> 02:01:37

May Allah give

02:01:37 --> 02:01:39

us. May Allah give us. May Allah give

02:01:39 --> 02:01:41

us love. May Allah give us warmness. May

02:01:41 --> 02:01:42

Allah give us affection.

02:01:43 --> 02:01:44

Date your spouse.

02:01:44 --> 02:01:46

Excite your spouse. Surprise your spouse.

02:01:47 --> 02:01:48

The prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam said when

02:01:48 --> 02:01:51

you're outside and if you're attracted to anyone,

02:01:51 --> 02:01:53

come home because your spouse is no different.

02:01:53 --> 02:01:55

Islam calls you back home. The world is

02:01:55 --> 02:01:56

calling you outside.

02:02:02 --> 02:02:04

So, Asma'i said, I said to this girl,

02:02:11 --> 02:02:13

Wow, sister. That's so

02:02:13 --> 02:02:14

articulate.

02:02:16 --> 02:02:17

That's so stunning.

02:02:18 --> 02:02:20

So she didn't fall for that. She said,

02:02:20 --> 02:02:22

why are you praising me? Why are you

02:02:22 --> 02:02:24

lauding me? This is not eloquent. Eloquent is

02:02:24 --> 02:02:25

the words of Allah.

02:02:57 --> 02:02:59

We're gonna do q and a. Maybe I'm

02:02:59 --> 02:03:00

gonna do a sharp landing.

02:03:06 --> 02:03:07

Okay. Let's mention this and call it today.

02:03:07 --> 02:03:09

May Allah bless you. I hope I've,

02:03:10 --> 02:03:11

you know, as Mona said, wanna keep it

02:03:11 --> 02:03:12

formal, informal,

02:03:13 --> 02:03:15

that that we take something. There's a lot

02:03:15 --> 02:03:17

of things to take, to process, to digest,

02:03:17 --> 02:03:19

to comprehend, to relate. Look here, I must

02:03:19 --> 02:03:22

also say, every delinquent child

02:03:22 --> 02:03:23

is not necessarily

02:03:23 --> 02:03:25

a result of poor upbringing

02:03:26 --> 02:03:28

because you're gonna have serious problems than reconciling

02:03:29 --> 02:03:32

with the rebellious children of yahoo balayhis salam.

02:03:33 --> 02:03:34

And you're gonna have a serious challenge

02:03:35 --> 02:03:37

explaining the rebellious sun,

02:03:37 --> 02:03:38

khanahu alaihis

02:03:39 --> 02:03:42

salam. So, every every rebellious child is not

02:03:42 --> 02:03:42

necessarily

02:03:44 --> 02:03:45

is not necessarily

02:03:45 --> 02:03:47

a result of wrong upbringing.

02:03:48 --> 02:03:51

Commonly, averagely, yes, We are fallible and we

02:03:51 --> 02:03:53

have so many mistakes we've made and we

02:03:53 --> 02:03:54

can see that. We can see that. You

02:03:54 --> 02:03:56

know, you've seen your son doing nonsense but

02:03:56 --> 02:03:57

you know that's you in him.

02:03:58 --> 02:04:00

You can't tell him that's me but you

02:04:00 --> 02:04:02

know that's that's you. You know the boy

02:04:02 --> 02:04:03

who said, dad, I brought my report and

02:04:03 --> 02:04:04

I found yours also.

02:04:05 --> 02:04:07

You say, okay. Leave both in the closet

02:04:07 --> 02:04:08

there. But because

02:04:09 --> 02:04:11

he knows what you did, so what are

02:04:11 --> 02:04:12

you gonna thrill him with?

02:04:14 --> 02:04:16

The challenge is let me be frank. As

02:04:16 --> 02:04:16

I said earlier,

02:04:17 --> 02:04:19

today outside, it's too dangerous.

02:04:21 --> 02:04:24

Me, I I was, you know, a bit

02:04:24 --> 02:04:25

of a delinquent in my school days

02:04:26 --> 02:04:28

and may Allah bless my parents.

02:04:55 --> 02:04:57

Though my parents in their own space were

02:04:57 --> 02:04:58

not educated,

02:04:59 --> 02:05:01

but they did everything to educate me.

02:05:04 --> 02:05:06

They were simple minded. They didn't know much.

02:05:07 --> 02:05:08

But they said, no. No. Give my children

02:05:08 --> 02:05:09

the best.

02:05:17 --> 02:05:19

I mean, till today I'm traveling for so

02:05:19 --> 02:05:22

many years, my mom still cries every time

02:05:22 --> 02:05:23

I travel.

02:05:26 --> 02:05:29

Till today my mom, she gets emotional.

02:05:29 --> 02:05:32

But, ma, you know my life is more

02:05:32 --> 02:05:33

in the air than on the ground.

02:05:34 --> 02:05:35

But that's a mother.

02:05:36 --> 02:05:37

That's a parent.

02:05:39 --> 02:05:41

They gave me knowledge. They educated me.

02:05:49 --> 02:05:51

Today I can stand tall in society,

02:05:52 --> 02:05:54

I can rub shoulders with the simple and

02:05:54 --> 02:05:55

the elite. It's because of the values of

02:05:55 --> 02:05:58

my parents that they have impressed upon me.

02:05:58 --> 02:06:00

In our time when a child was

02:06:02 --> 02:06:02

playing truancy

02:06:03 --> 02:06:05

and he scaled the fence of the school

02:06:05 --> 02:06:07

and he was being a naughty boy,

02:06:08 --> 02:06:09

what was a naughty boy? He went to

02:06:09 --> 02:06:12

the shop around the corner there. He maybe

02:06:12 --> 02:06:15

picked up one uncle stompy from the floor

02:06:15 --> 02:06:16

and he played Pacman.

02:06:17 --> 02:06:19

I don't know if I'm too old here.

02:06:21 --> 02:06:22

I'm I'm I'm talking of eighties.

02:06:23 --> 02:06:26

I'm talking of eighties here. Now I'm just

02:06:26 --> 02:06:28

being generic here, but actually that's what Allah

02:06:28 --> 02:06:30

forgive we all did.

02:06:31 --> 02:06:33

That that was a naughty boy.

02:06:34 --> 02:06:36

You know the old folks that say, Allah

02:06:36 --> 02:06:38

must forgive us, man. Hey. We did a

02:06:38 --> 02:06:39

lot of wrong, man.

02:06:39 --> 02:06:41

We did a lot of wrong. Lot of

02:06:41 --> 02:06:43

wrong. Is uncle what you did?

02:06:48 --> 02:06:50

You know me and a

02:06:53 --> 02:06:55

Wallahi Allah is my witness.

02:06:56 --> 02:06:58

I still have a vivid memory.

02:07:00 --> 02:07:03

Probably I was 10 years old.

02:07:05 --> 02:07:06

Right?

02:07:07 --> 02:07:08

Mid eighties.

02:07:08 --> 02:07:09

We plain.

02:07:10 --> 02:07:11

Someone said wife

02:07:14 --> 02:07:15

you are so rude. I'm going to tell

02:07:15 --> 02:07:17

your mother you didn't say auntie.

02:07:23 --> 02:07:25

When the world cup took place here,

02:07:27 --> 02:07:30

there was a mainstream media that carried an

02:07:30 --> 02:07:30

article

02:07:31 --> 02:07:32

on some of the infamous

02:07:32 --> 02:07:33

players

02:07:36 --> 02:07:36

in mainstream

02:07:37 --> 02:07:37

football.

02:07:39 --> 02:07:41

1 out of that, turned that article during

02:07:41 --> 02:07:42

world cup,

02:07:42 --> 02:07:43

was guilty of *.

02:07:45 --> 02:07:46

Another

02:07:46 --> 02:07:49

in an interview had said he had bedded

02:07:49 --> 02:07:51

and slept with 500 women.

02:07:53 --> 02:07:55

My son, 3rd son now, who's a father,

02:07:55 --> 02:07:55

alhamdulillah,

02:07:56 --> 02:07:57

I think he was 5 years old.

02:07:58 --> 02:07:59

I was giving a talk back then.

02:08:01 --> 02:08:02

He came out. He said, Abu,

02:08:03 --> 02:08:05

how did all the aunties one room?

02:08:12 --> 02:08:15

That's how clean nature sends them.

02:08:16 --> 02:08:19

That's how pure mother nature dispatches them.

02:08:20 --> 02:08:22

And this is what we do to them.

02:08:22 --> 02:08:23

This is how

02:08:24 --> 02:08:25

we destroy them.

02:08:26 --> 02:08:29

That mine was so clean and pure. Wallah,

02:08:29 --> 02:08:31

I remember this as a 10 year old

02:08:31 --> 02:08:34

child. That wife was crude, was harsh, was

02:08:34 --> 02:08:37

brutal, was not dignified, was not respectful.

02:08:37 --> 02:08:40

It was auntie, it was uncle. You couldn't

02:08:40 --> 02:08:42

go straight to use those terms.

02:08:43 --> 02:08:45

You take a youngster today doesn't know diplomatic

02:08:46 --> 02:08:48

language when speaking to an Ustad. He wouldn't

02:08:49 --> 02:08:49

say,

02:08:50 --> 02:08:51

is your wife here?

02:08:52 --> 02:08:53

Is that is that language?

02:08:55 --> 02:08:58

Sayyidina Musa is returning with his wife from.

02:08:59 --> 02:09:00

She's in confinement.

02:09:01 --> 02:09:03

He sees a flame. He sees an amber.

02:09:06 --> 02:09:08

He tells his wife, hold here.

02:09:09 --> 02:09:12

I see some flames there and live ember.

02:09:15 --> 02:09:17

Maybe I'll get a sense of direction there.

02:09:17 --> 02:09:18

And then he says

02:09:20 --> 02:09:22

stay here. The word

02:09:22 --> 02:09:25

is a plural expression for a single person.

02:09:25 --> 02:09:28

Again, an expression of absolute respect and dignity

02:09:29 --> 02:09:31

when talking to his own partner and spouse.

02:09:36 --> 02:09:38

The wife of Lut has been referred to

02:09:38 --> 02:09:39

as ajuz.

02:09:39 --> 02:09:41

Ajuz means old lady.

02:09:41 --> 02:09:42

She was a kafira.

02:09:44 --> 02:09:47

Some scholars say she was not old by

02:09:47 --> 02:09:47

age.

02:09:48 --> 02:09:50

Not withstanding she was a disbeliever

02:09:50 --> 02:09:52

but the term ajus

02:09:52 --> 02:09:55

elderly woman was used because she was the

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spouse of a.

02:09:59 --> 02:10:02

Sorry, uncle, is your wife here? What?

02:10:02 --> 02:10:03

What?

02:10:05 --> 02:10:07

Is Muhammad's mom here?

02:10:08 --> 02:10:10

Auntie is uncle Ibrahim here?

02:10:11 --> 02:10:13

They come to the door, wonderful looking.

02:10:18 --> 02:10:20

Can you bring him in? Can you usher

02:10:20 --> 02:10:22

the uncle in? Can you sit him down?

02:10:22 --> 02:10:24

Can you make a conversation?

02:10:24 --> 02:10:26

How you keeping uncle? My dad's in the

02:10:26 --> 02:10:28

bathroom. My mom is just in the kitchen,

02:10:28 --> 02:10:29

she'll be here. Can I get you some

02:10:29 --> 02:10:31

water? Do you want to use the bathroom?

02:10:31 --> 02:10:32

How are you keeping uncle? Where are you?

02:10:32 --> 02:10:33

All okay? How's things?

02:10:34 --> 02:10:36

Can you make a 5 minute discussion and

02:10:36 --> 02:10:38

then connect the seniors to the seniors? Or

02:10:38 --> 02:10:39

even that's a big ask.

02:10:44 --> 02:10:46

Let's mention this here and hopefully I don't

02:10:46 --> 02:10:47

digress here so that we can do some

02:10:47 --> 02:10:49

basic q and a. So

02:10:49 --> 02:10:51

he wrote here the next day, he said

02:10:51 --> 02:10:53

when I seen this, I wrote it,

02:10:58 --> 02:11:00

I I responded to the sentence.

02:11:01 --> 02:11:01

I said,

02:11:03 --> 02:11:05

treat your fantasy

02:11:07 --> 02:11:09

conceal your your treat your melody,

02:11:10 --> 02:11:11

conceal your fantasy.

02:11:11 --> 02:11:12

And listen life

02:11:14 --> 02:11:15

is

02:11:16 --> 02:11:17

about.

02:11:18 --> 02:11:20

The next day I pass by, this unknown

02:11:20 --> 02:11:23

person responds again and he writes there, on

02:11:23 --> 02:11:24

a stone there.

02:11:26 --> 02:11:29

So many who come out relapse, come out

02:11:29 --> 02:11:30

relapse, come out relapse,

02:11:31 --> 02:11:33

simply cannot re even the sky is not

02:11:33 --> 02:11:34

your limit.

02:11:34 --> 02:11:35

You can do anything.

02:11:36 --> 02:11:39

The sahaba, they dropped it. I always marvel

02:11:39 --> 02:11:41

at the sahaba, they were humans.

02:11:41 --> 02:11:42

Anak

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was a woman of beauty.

02:11:46 --> 02:11:48

Had a relationship with her. Now this is

02:11:48 --> 02:11:51

this is emotions attached. And I like to

02:11:51 --> 02:11:52

say to the youth out there, may Allah

02:11:52 --> 02:11:54

transmit my message. You know, they would phone

02:11:54 --> 02:11:56

me. I'm inundated.

02:11:56 --> 02:11:58

Oh, I like her. She likes me. We're

02:11:58 --> 02:12:00

happy and everything. Her parents are happy. It's

02:12:00 --> 02:12:02

only my father's got an issue.

02:12:02 --> 02:12:04

I said, you know what's your problem? 1st,

02:12:04 --> 02:12:05

take responsibility.

02:12:05 --> 02:12:07

You go in the shop, you take a

02:12:07 --> 02:12:09

jacket, you put it on. You like it,

02:12:09 --> 02:12:10

everything is good. You post it on social

02:12:10 --> 02:12:12

media, you get the likes, you get everything,

02:12:12 --> 02:12:14

everything is good, you negotiate the price, you

02:12:14 --> 02:12:16

say you're gonna wait for this occasion, work

02:12:16 --> 02:12:18

out everything, then you ask your mother, mommy

02:12:18 --> 02:12:19

can I buy a jacket?

02:12:21 --> 02:12:23

Now when she says no, it's just not

02:12:23 --> 02:12:24

a no to a jacket. It's a no

02:12:24 --> 02:12:26

to the post. It's a no to social

02:12:26 --> 02:12:28

media. It's a no to the occasion. It's

02:12:28 --> 02:12:30

a no to the function. You created this

02:12:30 --> 02:12:31

whole

02:12:31 --> 02:12:32

relationship

02:12:32 --> 02:12:34

and this whole attachment to this here. Now

02:12:34 --> 02:12:36

you say, no. I don't wanna hurt my

02:12:36 --> 02:12:38

mother but I don't wanna let go. And

02:12:38 --> 02:12:40

then this just goes on and on and

02:12:40 --> 02:12:43

it's a unending vicious circle and cycle.

02:12:44 --> 02:12:46

Every second day, this is the story. You

02:12:46 --> 02:12:48

start the relation, create the emotion and then

02:12:48 --> 02:12:50

9 out of 10, there's gonna be one

02:12:50 --> 02:12:52

parent that's not happy. No. I don't wanna

02:12:52 --> 02:12:54

go into it without my parents' blessings.

02:12:54 --> 02:12:56

Well, then you you have to drop it.

02:12:58 --> 02:13:00

Had a relation with Anak. He then accepted

02:13:00 --> 02:13:03

Islam. Anak said to you, come. Let's meet

02:13:03 --> 02:13:04

up. He said, no. I can't meet up.

02:13:04 --> 02:13:06

I'm a Muslim. Now this is an emotion.

02:13:06 --> 02:13:08

It's not easy. It's not easy to part

02:13:08 --> 02:13:09

with an emotion.

02:13:09 --> 02:13:10

It's an

02:13:10 --> 02:13:12

attachment. So she said, okay. Let's get married.

02:13:12 --> 02:13:13

Allah revealed the verse

02:13:23 --> 02:13:25

You can't wet the polytheist

02:13:25 --> 02:13:27

till she doesn't take the

02:13:27 --> 02:13:29

shahada. He said, I can't. Done. Over.

02:13:31 --> 02:13:33

I mean, how When the verse was

02:13:36 --> 02:13:37

revealed,

02:13:41 --> 02:13:42

Some narrations say at that time said, no,

02:13:42 --> 02:13:45

Umar had 2 wives who had not accepted

02:13:45 --> 02:13:47

Islam. And the verse came down you need

02:13:47 --> 02:13:49

to part ways. He ended it. Finish.

02:13:49 --> 02:13:52

You know, no. Okay. Listen. We're not getting

02:13:52 --> 02:13:54

married but we can still be friends.

02:13:54 --> 02:13:56

You never know.

02:13:56 --> 02:13:57

Yeah. You know.

02:13:57 --> 02:13:59

And, you know, even if I don't have

02:13:59 --> 02:14:01

your phone number on my phone, you'll always

02:14:01 --> 02:14:02

be in my heart.

02:14:03 --> 02:14:04

Yeah.

02:14:05 --> 02:14:07

Yeah. Remember, I'm always there for you.

02:14:08 --> 02:14:08

Yeah.

02:14:11 --> 02:14:12

What?

02:14:19 --> 02:14:19

So

02:14:26 --> 02:14:27

he said If you cannot

02:14:28 --> 02:14:30

behave, manage yourself and say, no. This is

02:14:30 --> 02:14:31

not a life, man. I I can't be

02:14:31 --> 02:14:33

playing this game, man. Time is running. I

02:14:33 --> 02:14:35

met a man in London who attended my

02:14:35 --> 02:14:37

talk and he really appreciated it. He said

02:14:37 --> 02:14:40

I went back and forth for 20 years.

02:14:40 --> 02:14:42

And after 20 years, I said no. And

02:14:42 --> 02:14:44

I'm grateful that Allah has given me a

02:14:44 --> 02:14:46

life. He went back to his native country

02:14:46 --> 02:14:48

Pakistan and he opened up rehab. Mashallah, he's

02:14:48 --> 02:14:50

doing great work. I met a man in

02:14:50 --> 02:14:51

Australia. I did an interview with him as

02:14:51 --> 02:14:53

well. Also lived the life on the streets

02:14:53 --> 02:14:55

and then he said no, it's enough man.

02:14:56 --> 02:14:57

You know what? I've I've I've got to

02:14:57 --> 02:14:59

turn the corner, man. I've got to turn

02:14:59 --> 02:15:00

the corner.

02:15:00 --> 02:15:02

I've got to stand up for myself. And

02:15:02 --> 02:15:03

he said, I was determined.

02:15:05 --> 02:15:05

Discipline.

02:15:06 --> 02:15:08

He who lives a life without discipline

02:15:08 --> 02:15:10

is exposed to grievous ruin.

02:15:11 --> 02:15:14

An undisciplined person is a headache to himself

02:15:14 --> 02:15:15

and a heartache to others.

02:15:17 --> 02:15:18

Yes.

02:15:18 --> 02:15:20

Discipline. Life is all about discipline.

02:15:22 --> 02:15:24

On a recent trip to London, when I

02:15:24 --> 02:15:25

was taking the train in Dubai from terminal

02:15:25 --> 02:15:27

a to terminal b,

02:15:27 --> 02:15:29

So I just hopped on in. Every time

02:15:29 --> 02:15:31

my eyes just, you know, on aviation, I

02:15:31 --> 02:15:33

just pick up so many lessons because travel

02:15:33 --> 02:15:35

just teaches me so much so much.

02:15:37 --> 02:15:38

Earlier this year when I was in Mumbai,

02:15:38 --> 02:15:40

I was standing at the wrong carousel waiting

02:15:40 --> 02:15:42

for my bag. And I said, searching for

02:15:42 --> 02:15:44

happiness in this world is like waiting for

02:15:44 --> 02:15:45

your bag at the wrong carousel.

02:15:46 --> 02:15:48

How frustrating is it? You turn in this

02:15:48 --> 02:15:50

bag, you're rotating that bag, you're looking at

02:15:50 --> 02:15:52

the monitor, then you're oh, you're at the

02:15:52 --> 02:15:53

wrong carousel.

02:15:54 --> 02:15:57

If you're looking for happiness in material things,

02:15:57 --> 02:16:00

you're waiting at the wrong carousel. Happiness will

02:16:00 --> 02:16:03

never arrive at your at before

02:16:06 --> 02:16:07

you.

02:16:07 --> 02:16:10

Yes. Indeed, you will find that peace.

02:16:10 --> 02:16:12

Your bag might not be as big and

02:16:12 --> 02:16:13

fancy as that. It will be simple, but

02:16:13 --> 02:16:14

it will be wholesome.

02:16:15 --> 02:16:16

But it will be yours.

02:16:17 --> 02:16:19

It will be yours. It will be real.

02:16:19 --> 02:16:20

It will be tangible.

02:16:21 --> 02:16:23

I often say when you're traveling,

02:16:23 --> 02:16:26

2 boarding gates next to each other,

02:16:27 --> 02:16:28

but they're flying in opposite directions.

02:16:30 --> 02:16:31

It's in New York.

02:16:35 --> 02:16:38

Last announcement. Oh, so you said in New

02:16:38 --> 02:16:39

York next to no. No. No. No. No.

02:16:39 --> 02:16:41

The gates are next to each other. 2

02:16:41 --> 02:16:44

people can be buried next to each other.

02:16:44 --> 02:16:46

One in paradise, one in *.

02:16:48 --> 02:16:49

The the the the the

02:16:50 --> 02:16:51

were also with the Sahaba

02:16:53 --> 02:16:54

In Uhud,

02:16:55 --> 02:16:57

the Sahaba had peace. The

02:16:57 --> 02:16:58

were restless.

02:17:25 --> 02:17:27

The next day when he came back,

02:17:28 --> 02:17:30

he found a response and he found a

02:17:30 --> 02:17:31

corpse there on the floor.

02:17:47 --> 02:17:50

We tried. I couldn't manage the grave. I

02:17:50 --> 02:17:51

couldn't resist the temptation.

02:17:51 --> 02:17:54

My soul passed away. I'm happier off dying

02:17:54 --> 02:17:56

in Allah's obedience than living in his disobedience.

02:17:57 --> 02:17:59

May Allah bless you all. My dear brother,

02:18:00 --> 02:18:02

Karinaim, is a good friend of mine. Our

02:18:02 --> 02:18:04

relationship goes back to

02:18:04 --> 02:18:07

the early nineties when I had enrolled at

02:18:07 --> 02:18:09

the seminary and that's the time our relation

02:18:09 --> 02:18:12

developed and evolved. And Mawlana Muhammad Sidat, mashaAllah,

02:18:12 --> 02:18:14

for he's still in work. Hafiz Shokat is

02:18:14 --> 02:18:16

a good family friend as well and of

02:18:16 --> 02:18:17

course there are many others here. Please these

02:18:17 --> 02:18:20

are just few that have been, you know,

02:18:20 --> 02:18:21

actively,

02:18:22 --> 02:18:23

pursuing me to

02:18:24 --> 02:18:27

agree and obliged to this program and I'm

02:18:27 --> 02:18:29

hopeful to the almighty that insha'Allah

02:18:29 --> 02:18:32

whatever interactions we had and whatever message was

02:18:32 --> 02:18:32

transmitted

02:18:33 --> 02:18:35

it would inshallah drive a message, it will

02:18:35 --> 02:18:37

ring a bell, it resonated with you and

02:18:37 --> 02:18:39

hopefully we can go back to the drawing

02:18:39 --> 02:18:41

board, effect the changes,

02:18:41 --> 02:18:43

change the coordinates on our compass insha'Allah

02:18:44 --> 02:18:46

and drive a fresh journey. On that note,

02:18:46 --> 02:18:48

I conclude and then we'll ask them to

02:18:48 --> 02:18:50

open the floor to the q and a.

02:18:50 --> 02:18:51

We'll try and keep it brief to wrap

02:18:51 --> 02:18:52

up,

02:18:52 --> 02:18:53

shortly thereafter.

02:19:04 --> 02:19:05

Masha'Allah.

02:19:07 --> 02:19:09

We say JazakAllah here to Hazza Mulla Salim

02:19:09 --> 02:19:13

Ansap. May Allah preserve Hazza Mufti Salab. Keep

02:19:13 --> 02:19:14

him with afiyah and he shed over us

02:19:14 --> 02:19:15

for a long time

02:19:16 --> 02:19:17

guiding us

02:19:17 --> 02:19:19

in every matter inshallah.

02:19:20 --> 02:19:20

For those

02:19:20 --> 02:19:21

profound advices.

02:19:22 --> 02:19:24

If I sum it up basically hitting the

02:19:24 --> 02:19:26

nail on the head, Alhamdulillah. I think every

02:19:26 --> 02:19:29

aspect has been covered and inshallah we're looking

02:19:29 --> 02:19:30

forward to the next program

02:19:30 --> 02:19:32

whereas the Muftisib indicated

02:19:32 --> 02:19:34

the 12 vices and so on.

02:19:35 --> 02:19:37

May Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

02:19:38 --> 02:19:40

make it easy upon the Ummat of Rasulullah

02:19:40 --> 02:19:40

SAWSALAM

02:19:41 --> 02:19:43

that I want to say to our parents

02:19:43 --> 02:19:45

and this would be on behalf of all

02:19:45 --> 02:19:46

our institutes.

02:19:47 --> 02:19:48

Our Muslim Schools,

02:19:50 --> 02:19:51

our Madaris, our Makatib.

02:19:52 --> 02:19:54

Alhamdulillah, Allah has blessed us

02:19:55 --> 02:19:55

with teachers.

02:19:57 --> 02:19:58

We are saying to our parents,

02:20:00 --> 02:20:02

let's tie the educational triangle.

02:20:03 --> 02:20:04

Our commitment

02:20:04 --> 02:20:06

to our students and our children and to

02:20:06 --> 02:20:07

the youth

02:20:07 --> 02:20:08

is at a 1000%.

02:20:09 --> 02:20:12

We look forward to meeting them every single

02:20:12 --> 02:20:12

day.

02:20:13 --> 02:20:14

We're saying to our parents,

02:20:15 --> 02:20:17

inshallah you come on board with us and

02:20:17 --> 02:20:18

let us steer this together

02:20:19 --> 02:20:20

so that we can get the best out

02:20:20 --> 02:20:22

of our children and they will become leaders

02:20:22 --> 02:20:24

inshallah in the ummah of Rasulullah

02:20:24 --> 02:20:25

Next

02:20:25 --> 02:20:26

up inshallah,

02:20:26 --> 02:20:28

we're going to move on to the q

02:20:28 --> 02:20:29

and a session.

02:20:30 --> 02:20:33

I'm going to ask, the principal of Roshni

02:20:33 --> 02:20:33

Islamic

02:20:34 --> 02:20:36

School, mister Hafid Shokat Ali Khan to join

02:20:36 --> 02:20:37

me on stage.

02:20:38 --> 02:20:40

Avisab will be chairing the q and a

02:20:40 --> 02:20:42

session. We probably would have maybe about half

02:20:42 --> 02:20:45

an hour or so and, immediately after the

02:20:45 --> 02:20:47

final dua is made Insha Allah, we'll perform

02:20:47 --> 02:20:49

our Isha Salah in Jama'ah.

02:20:50 --> 02:20:52

And, we have some ulama in the background.

02:20:53 --> 02:20:55

Mufti Muhammad Nana was the principal of our

02:20:55 --> 02:20:57

Vidma, Muttabia in Roshni

02:20:58 --> 02:21:00

who will be going through the questions. There's

02:21:00 --> 02:21:02

also a QR code that's going to be

02:21:02 --> 02:21:02

posted

02:21:03 --> 02:21:05

on the screen. So you can simply take

02:21:05 --> 02:21:07

out your phone and you can just scan

02:21:07 --> 02:21:08

the q r code and it will take

02:21:08 --> 02:21:10

you to a form and you can put

02:21:10 --> 02:21:12

your question there. Although Alhamdulillah questions have been

02:21:12 --> 02:21:15

coming in already over the past few days.

02:21:15 --> 02:21:18

And, I would ask Abaha Patel who's our

02:21:18 --> 02:21:20

deputy principal at Roshni Islamic to make a

02:21:20 --> 02:21:22

way around the ladies section if anyone wants

02:21:22 --> 02:21:25

to ask a question and will indicate to

02:21:25 --> 02:21:26

us on the side.

02:21:26 --> 02:21:28

And, brother Idris

02:21:28 --> 02:21:30

answer on the mail section inshallah.

02:21:30 --> 02:21:32

So how it's basically going to work? We're

02:21:32 --> 02:21:34

gonna take 5 questions from the floor and

02:21:34 --> 02:21:36

then we're gonna move to 5 questions that

02:21:36 --> 02:21:38

we've already received

02:21:38 --> 02:21:41

via the link. So inshallah without further ado,

02:21:41 --> 02:21:44

I'll ask, mister Khan Afishoka to to take

02:21:44 --> 02:21:45

the proceedings forward.

02:21:52 --> 02:21:56

Alhamdulillah. Firstly, we thank Allah for the bounties,

02:21:56 --> 02:21:56

the blessings,

02:21:57 --> 02:21:59

and the gifts that Allah has

02:22:00 --> 02:22:01

bestowed upon us.

02:22:01 --> 02:22:04

And we send durood, salaams, and salutations

02:22:05 --> 02:22:06

to our beloved prophet Muhammad

02:22:09 --> 02:22:09

Alhamdulillah,

02:22:10 --> 02:22:12

Allahu Akbar. How blessed,

02:22:12 --> 02:22:14

how fortunate are we that we spend the

02:22:14 --> 02:22:17

time in the company of Mufti Sahib.

02:22:17 --> 02:22:18

Allahu

02:22:18 --> 02:22:21

Akbar. The words of wisdom, the pearls that

02:22:21 --> 02:22:22

came out this evening

02:22:23 --> 02:22:25

truly, truly I'm sure inspired each one of

02:22:25 --> 02:22:26

us.

02:22:26 --> 02:22:28

As as educationists,

02:22:29 --> 02:22:29

certainly,

02:22:30 --> 02:22:31

there's fantastic

02:22:32 --> 02:22:34

ideas that Mufti Saab has shared with us

02:22:34 --> 02:22:35

and Insha'Allah,

02:22:35 --> 02:22:38

we'll try our level best level best to

02:22:38 --> 02:22:39

implement

02:22:39 --> 02:22:41

and try and make a difference in the

02:22:41 --> 02:22:41

lives

02:22:42 --> 02:22:43

of our beloved learners, insha'Allah.

02:22:44 --> 02:22:45

Allah give us the strength,

02:22:46 --> 02:22:47

the good health, insha'Allah,

02:22:47 --> 02:22:50

to continue serving and trying to make a

02:22:50 --> 02:22:50

difference

02:22:51 --> 02:22:52

in the communities

02:22:52 --> 02:22:54

and the lives of the learners that we

02:22:54 --> 02:22:55

serve, inshallah.

02:22:55 --> 02:22:58

So like Mawlana said, we'll take 5 questions

02:22:58 --> 02:23:00

at a time. We'll start off on the

02:23:00 --> 02:23:01

right. Ladies are always right like this in

02:23:01 --> 02:23:03

my seats perfectly set from where I am

02:23:03 --> 02:23:06

seated. Men on the left because ladies are

02:23:06 --> 02:23:08

always right. So I'm gonna ask Abba, how

02:23:08 --> 02:23:08

are Insha'Allah

02:23:18 --> 02:23:21

we'll get Mufti Sab responding to to those

02:23:21 --> 02:23:22

questions Insha'Allah.

02:23:33 --> 02:23:34

Abohawa?

02:23:34 --> 02:23:35

Oh, okay. Sure.

02:23:37 --> 02:23:39

Nothing at the moment. Okay.

02:23:39 --> 02:23:41

Then maybe we can go on to the

02:23:41 --> 02:23:44

men's side. Any questions that we have? I

02:23:44 --> 02:23:46

do have few questions that have come through

02:23:46 --> 02:23:48

online. Maybe we'll start with that just to

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to warm up the

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the the the the mujah, inshallah.

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So the first I'll do the first five

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questions that I have here.

02:24:03 --> 02:24:04

The first question

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is

02:24:06 --> 02:24:07

how to deal with

02:24:07 --> 02:24:08

addiction.

02:24:09 --> 02:24:11

Is there any hope for an addict? The

02:24:11 --> 02:24:12

drugs,

02:24:12 --> 02:24:13

alcohol

02:24:13 --> 02:24:14

or even *?

02:24:16 --> 02:24:17

The second question,

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how do you convince kids

02:24:20 --> 02:24:22

that have girlfriends before marriage?

02:24:23 --> 02:24:24

That is wrong.

02:24:26 --> 02:24:28

What is a suitable age

02:24:29 --> 02:24:30

to give

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your child a cellphone?

02:24:33 --> 02:24:35

Question 4, educators

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and our are putting in the effort

02:24:39 --> 02:24:41

but parental and learner support

02:24:41 --> 02:24:44

towards raising academic standards

02:24:44 --> 02:24:47

and the enthusiasm to study is lacking.

02:24:47 --> 02:24:50

There is lethargy from certain parents and learners.

02:24:51 --> 02:24:52

How do we change the

02:24:52 --> 02:24:53

minds

02:24:53 --> 02:24:54

within the parents

02:24:55 --> 02:24:56

and learner community?

02:24:57 --> 02:24:59

And maybe the 5th one,

02:24:59 --> 02:25:01

speaking lies

02:25:02 --> 02:25:03

are becoming common.

02:25:04 --> 02:25:05

What steps

02:25:06 --> 02:25:06

can be taken

02:25:07 --> 02:25:08

to resolve

02:25:08 --> 02:25:11

this issue with the community?

02:25:12 --> 02:25:13

Okay.

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I always like to say this year that

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every question is merited. Every question is important.

02:25:20 --> 02:25:23

We appreciate every question. No question is too

02:25:23 --> 02:25:25

simple, too easy or irrelevant.

02:25:25 --> 02:25:27

So, please feel free within the time space

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that we have. We welcome

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and to the best of our ability, we

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will reply those questions inshallah.

02:25:33 --> 02:25:36

I think pretty much my address kinda overarchingly

02:25:36 --> 02:25:39

addressed in a comprehensive way those things, but

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maybe now we're choosing to single them out.

02:25:42 --> 02:25:43

Is there hope for an edict? Of course,

02:25:43 --> 02:25:45

there's hope. As long as you breathe in,

02:25:45 --> 02:25:45

there's hope.

02:25:52 --> 02:25:55

There's hope for you to repent quickly. Quickly

02:25:55 --> 02:25:57

here many scholars say means that as long

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as you live in and you change, there

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is hope. Now, when we say to change,

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you have to

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make adjustments in your life. So when when

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a youngster, for example, comes out of the,

02:26:09 --> 02:26:11

rehab, I say to him, you have to

02:26:11 --> 02:26:13

give up all your friend circle. No. I

02:26:13 --> 02:26:14

cannot do that. No. Then you don't wanna

02:26:14 --> 02:26:15

change.

02:26:15 --> 02:26:16

Then you don't wanna change.

02:26:18 --> 02:26:19

If you want to change, then you have

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to be ready to give up that network.

02:26:21 --> 02:26:23

You have to get get give up that

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phone. Because on that phone, there's that context,

02:26:25 --> 02:26:27

there's those messages, there's that back and forth

02:26:27 --> 02:26:29

thing. You have a * addiction, your phone

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needs to become public property.

02:26:31 --> 02:26:33

You need to go and do your work

02:26:33 --> 02:26:34

in the kitchen. You need to do it

02:26:34 --> 02:26:35

in in the room where anyone and everyone

02:26:35 --> 02:26:37

has access. You can't have a private code

02:26:37 --> 02:26:40

to it. Now, if you choose to continue

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to give safety and amnesty

02:26:43 --> 02:26:45

and to to to give shelter and and

02:26:45 --> 02:26:48

cover your wrong, then obviously the whispers will

02:26:48 --> 02:26:50

will continue and you will continue doing the

02:26:50 --> 02:26:52

wrong. So Allah says regarding

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the they didn't participate in tabuk. And they

02:26:55 --> 02:26:58

said, oh, we really wanted to. We so

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desperately wanted to. Allah said,

02:27:05 --> 02:27:07

If they wanted to participate,

02:27:08 --> 02:27:09

there would have been active

02:27:09 --> 02:27:10

planning to participate.

02:27:15 --> 02:27:18

The scholars say it means if you claim

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something, but you don't take steps towards it,

02:27:21 --> 02:27:23

that means your claim is fake.

02:27:24 --> 02:27:25

So I want to change. I want to

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give up addiction. Of course, you can give

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up. We just spoke about it how how

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people have done it in their life. But

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then you need to break away from that

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friend. You need to give up that device

02:27:35 --> 02:27:38

totally. You need to deactivate your access to

02:27:38 --> 02:27:40

that so that your access to Allah can

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be opened up. And then you would see

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that happening.

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I think there was another question there, Harissa.

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Converse kids that have girlfriends before marriage. How

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do you convince? So so this is this

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is a two sided thing.

02:27:52 --> 02:27:53

Number 1,

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we need to tell them

02:27:55 --> 02:27:57

that you know what and and I I

02:27:57 --> 02:27:59

can give you just simple basic,

02:28:00 --> 02:28:03

facts on the ground that by you dating

02:28:03 --> 02:28:03

and courting,

02:28:04 --> 02:28:07

you're only complicating your life because all what

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you're doing is creating a rosy image,

02:28:11 --> 02:28:12

to a fantasy,

02:28:12 --> 02:28:14

and both of them are playing up for

02:28:14 --> 02:28:15

the moment,

02:28:15 --> 02:28:18

which is a facade and an optical illusion

02:28:18 --> 02:28:19

and a deception

02:28:19 --> 02:28:21

because they meet up at the appropriate time.

02:28:21 --> 02:28:24

They they dress up according to the likes

02:28:24 --> 02:28:26

of each other. So you you playing into

02:28:26 --> 02:28:28

the hopes and the expectations

02:28:28 --> 02:28:30

and you're not seeing the real person. And

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this continues and continues and you you you

02:28:33 --> 02:28:36

begin to imagine that, oh, you know what?

02:28:37 --> 02:28:39

She's really got green eyes because the I

02:28:39 --> 02:28:41

only I'm using this as a gen as

02:28:41 --> 02:28:44

a figurative expression because she's only wearing contacts.

02:28:44 --> 02:28:46

And you know what? Her teeth are straight,

02:28:46 --> 02:28:49

man, because she's got braces on. And you

02:28:49 --> 02:28:50

know what? Her hair is like this. But

02:28:50 --> 02:28:53

it's all this that's just a facade that's

02:28:53 --> 02:28:55

on top. And then suddenly, you get married.

02:28:55 --> 02:28:56

And this is a figurative,

02:28:57 --> 02:28:59

expression to all what I said. Now you're

02:28:59 --> 02:29:02

seeing there's rage, there's anger, there's anger management,

02:29:02 --> 02:29:05

there's lack of composure, there's addiction, there's habits,

02:29:05 --> 02:29:07

there's a past, there's so many things. So

02:29:07 --> 02:29:09

this 3 year that you were doing was

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just a lie in which you were going

02:29:11 --> 02:29:13

around in circles. That's the one side. The

02:29:13 --> 02:29:15

second side of it is, as parents, we

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also need to start taking active measures that

02:29:19 --> 02:29:21

as soon as they are of age, we

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need to start processing it. Now, that being

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said, and I talk again from the capacity

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of just not a humble scholar, but a

02:29:27 --> 02:29:29

father as well. The time in which we

02:29:29 --> 02:29:31

live, unfortunately, our children are not,

02:29:32 --> 02:29:35

economically viable and responsible enough. By us getting

02:29:35 --> 02:29:37

them married, we need to do a lot

02:29:37 --> 02:29:39

within our own means to get them off

02:29:39 --> 02:29:41

the ground. It would mean getting him a

02:29:41 --> 02:29:43

house. It would mean getting him the rental.

02:29:43 --> 02:29:45

It would mean getting him a car. It

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would mean supplementing, complimenting. That's the brutal truth.

02:29:49 --> 02:29:51

But if Allah has given us and our

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children are on the right and we can't

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use it for them, then for who are

02:29:54 --> 02:29:55

we going to use it? So that's not

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the ideal thing. These kids need to live.

02:29:57 --> 02:29:59

They need stand tall. They need to understand

02:29:59 --> 02:30:00

the responsibility.

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But today, averagely, commonly speaking, there are the

02:30:03 --> 02:30:05

exceptions. There are those that have excelled. They'll

02:30:05 --> 02:30:07

only take the leap once they've got everything

02:30:07 --> 02:30:09

covered. But by and large, that's not the

02:30:09 --> 02:30:11

case. So we gotta find a common ground.

02:30:11 --> 02:30:13

So I'm saying, we need to make them

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understand that this is, you know what? It's

02:30:15 --> 02:30:17

it's it's it's a fantasy you're going down.

02:30:17 --> 02:30:19

You're gonna get nowhere with this here. You

02:30:19 --> 02:30:22

just you you're just deceiving yourself

02:30:22 --> 02:30:25

by supposedly assuming you're getting to know that

02:30:25 --> 02:30:27

person and you're not coming to know anything

02:30:27 --> 02:30:28

about that person. I mean, you're married 20

02:30:28 --> 02:30:30

years and you think you know your partner

02:30:30 --> 02:30:31

and then you get a curve ball like,

02:30:31 --> 02:30:32

oh,

02:30:32 --> 02:30:34

I thought I knew him. I thought I

02:30:34 --> 02:30:36

knew her. You don't know after marriage properly.

02:30:36 --> 02:30:37

Where you gonna know before marriage?

02:30:38 --> 02:30:40

Right? And what happens is there's no excitement

02:30:40 --> 02:30:43

left to nika. There's so much dating and

02:30:43 --> 02:30:43

courting.

02:30:44 --> 02:30:47

You can only enjoy iftar if you restrain

02:30:47 --> 02:30:48

the whole day.

02:30:49 --> 02:30:51

Then iftar is iftar.

02:30:51 --> 02:30:53

But if whole day you're smelling food, you're

02:30:53 --> 02:30:55

nibbling food, then what's iftar?

02:30:56 --> 02:30:59

So that moment of joy, happiness comes with

02:30:59 --> 02:30:59

that discipline.

02:31:00 --> 02:31:02

And also parents need to take a bit

02:31:02 --> 02:31:04

of an active role, find the common grounds

02:31:04 --> 02:31:06

that if they're of age, let's give them

02:31:06 --> 02:31:07

the leap, let's give them the push start,

02:31:08 --> 02:31:10

propel them, get them going, and then help

02:31:10 --> 02:31:11

them out to to to make the beginning

02:31:11 --> 02:31:12

and take the steps.

02:31:14 --> 02:31:17

Next question. The suitable suitable age to give

02:31:17 --> 02:31:17

a child

02:31:18 --> 02:31:20

a cell phone in this day and age?

02:31:20 --> 02:31:21

It's a it's a real question.

02:31:22 --> 02:31:25

It's a merited question. It's a difficult question.

02:31:25 --> 02:31:26

I wouldn't

02:31:26 --> 02:31:29

say this is the age. I would say

02:31:29 --> 02:31:31

stall it as long as possible.

02:31:32 --> 02:31:35

Stall it as long as possible. As long

02:31:35 --> 02:31:37

as you could be with them and give

02:31:37 --> 02:31:39

them. You know you know what I say?

02:31:39 --> 02:31:40

Is,

02:31:41 --> 02:31:42

Rabi'r bin said,

02:31:43 --> 02:31:45

when I seen the prophet sallallahu alaihi wa

02:31:45 --> 02:31:45

sallam,

02:31:50 --> 02:31:52

I was so impressed

02:31:52 --> 02:31:54

and I was so consumed

02:31:54 --> 02:31:56

by his beauty

02:31:56 --> 02:31:59

that I no longer had space to be

02:31:59 --> 02:32:00

impressed with anyone else.

02:32:04 --> 02:32:05

I was so intrigued.

02:32:05 --> 02:32:06

So I'm saying

02:32:07 --> 02:32:10

keep your child connect with you with physical

02:32:10 --> 02:32:14

activity, engagement, things that by the time the

02:32:14 --> 02:32:14

phone comes,

02:32:15 --> 02:32:18

he doesn't get intrigued to substitute this but

02:32:18 --> 02:32:20

rather he knows what is real, what is

02:32:20 --> 02:32:23

absolute, what is tangible. You remember we used

02:32:23 --> 02:32:25

to go here. Mama, you remember we did

02:32:25 --> 02:32:27

this. He he or she has those fond,

02:32:27 --> 02:32:30

good, rich, wholesome memories. So I can't say

02:32:30 --> 02:32:32

this is the right age. I'm saying stall

02:32:32 --> 02:32:34

it as long as you can. And to

02:32:34 --> 02:32:36

stall it, that means discipline we need to

02:32:36 --> 02:32:36

do.

02:32:38 --> 02:32:41

In our quest to raise the academic standards,

02:32:41 --> 02:32:44

we find that our learners have a lack

02:32:44 --> 02:32:45

of enthusiasm.

02:32:45 --> 02:32:47

How can this be turned around?

02:32:48 --> 02:32:50

So I think I touched on the ADHD,

02:32:51 --> 02:32:52

attention deficit hyperactivity

02:32:53 --> 02:32:53

disorder,

02:32:55 --> 02:32:55

And,

02:32:56 --> 02:32:57

again for me, significantly,

02:32:58 --> 02:33:01

it boils down to this distraction and disturbances.

02:33:03 --> 02:33:04

Try and read Quran

02:33:04 --> 02:33:07

or do research without the phone next to

02:33:07 --> 02:33:09

you. And try and do it with the

02:33:09 --> 02:33:11

phone next to you. And you will be

02:33:11 --> 02:33:12

appalled to discover

02:33:13 --> 02:33:15

how distracted you are. So when the prophet

02:33:15 --> 02:33:17

sallallahu alaihi wa sallam went for,

02:33:17 --> 02:33:19

if I can just ask the brothers to

02:33:19 --> 02:33:20

settle down there just so that we can

02:33:20 --> 02:33:22

just do this q and a quickly inshallah

02:33:22 --> 02:33:24

and then wrap it up. When the prophet

02:33:24 --> 02:33:25

sallallahu alaihi wa sallam went for Mi'raj

02:33:26 --> 02:33:28

and then there was a spectacle, there was

02:33:28 --> 02:33:30

beauty, there was splendor, there was so much

02:33:30 --> 02:33:30

there.

02:33:31 --> 02:33:33

Right? Anybody's eyes would be dazzled by the

02:33:33 --> 02:33:34

beauty there.

02:33:35 --> 02:33:38

And Allah praised the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam

02:33:38 --> 02:33:39

for the discipline of his gaze.

02:33:44 --> 02:33:46

The prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam's gaze did

02:33:46 --> 02:33:48

not stray this way or that way, but

02:33:48 --> 02:33:49

it remained focused

02:33:50 --> 02:33:51

to the point on which Allah

02:33:52 --> 02:33:53

had presented.

02:33:54 --> 02:33:57

Today in anything that we do, ask yourself

02:33:57 --> 02:33:59

how often and how long can the children

02:33:59 --> 02:34:01

remain focused. So I think

02:34:02 --> 02:34:04

we need to start some exercises,

02:34:04 --> 02:34:05

you know, like,

02:34:06 --> 02:34:09

free phone zones. Do some lessons whether we

02:34:09 --> 02:34:10

read in some or Quran

02:34:11 --> 02:34:13

and and just off the bell, off everything

02:34:14 --> 02:34:16

and try and maintain that for this duration

02:34:16 --> 02:34:18

we're gonna remain focus.

02:34:18 --> 02:34:20

And if we can move out those things

02:34:20 --> 02:34:22

in addition to I mean, I think today

02:34:22 --> 02:34:24

on on the side of of lethargy and

02:34:24 --> 02:34:25

and lack of enthusiasm,

02:34:26 --> 02:34:27

you cannot exclude

02:34:27 --> 02:34:30

the intake of foods. You are what you

02:34:30 --> 02:34:30

eat.

02:34:31 --> 02:34:32

You are what you eat. Right?

02:34:33 --> 02:34:34

And and and and you just see give

02:34:34 --> 02:34:36

a child, a toddler, an infant,

02:34:37 --> 02:34:39

something heavy, fizzy in sugar, and the child

02:34:39 --> 02:34:41

is hyperactive. The child just cannot be focused,

02:34:41 --> 02:34:44

cannot be calm, cannot be tamed, cannot be

02:34:44 --> 02:34:46

regulated, cannot be kept, you know, in one

02:34:46 --> 02:34:48

place. So I think it's a combination of

02:34:48 --> 02:34:48

factors,

02:34:49 --> 02:34:51

but I doubt we could navigate

02:34:52 --> 02:34:54

without bringing the dimension of the phone in

02:34:54 --> 02:34:56

the equation. But again, for the phone thing,

02:34:56 --> 02:34:57

if you really think about it,

02:34:58 --> 02:35:00

we need to do some discipline on our

02:35:00 --> 02:35:00

self.

02:35:01 --> 02:35:03

Maybe maybe it's going to feature later. Let

02:35:03 --> 02:35:04

me just say this here.

02:35:06 --> 02:35:08

One of the most effective ways

02:35:08 --> 02:35:09

they say

02:35:10 --> 02:35:12

communicating to children is like dialing a phone

02:35:12 --> 02:35:12

number.

02:35:13 --> 02:35:14

If you miss 1 digit, you don't get

02:35:14 --> 02:35:15

through.

02:35:17 --> 02:35:19

Reaching out to children is like dialing a

02:35:19 --> 02:35:19

phone number.

02:35:20 --> 02:35:22

And if you remember the number as a

02:35:22 --> 02:35:24

afterthought, it doesn't work.

02:35:25 --> 02:35:27

So if you you dial this number 78623

02:35:28 --> 02:35:30

and then somebody said 082. Okay. 082 in

02:35:30 --> 02:35:31

the end. No. No. No. No. 082 had

02:35:31 --> 02:35:33

to happen in the beginning.

02:35:33 --> 02:35:34

You had to tell him this when he

02:35:34 --> 02:35:36

was 3 years, not when he's 13.

02:35:37 --> 02:35:39

You dial in the code in the end.

02:35:40 --> 02:35:42

I'm not saying give up hope. I'm just

02:35:42 --> 02:35:43

saying take responsibility

02:35:44 --> 02:35:45

that you know what? We came in a

02:35:45 --> 02:35:47

bit too late too long too long. If

02:35:47 --> 02:35:48

we came in earlier, we would have been

02:35:48 --> 02:35:50

smarter. So one of those

02:35:51 --> 02:35:52

effective ways

02:35:53 --> 02:35:54

is to curtail

02:35:55 --> 02:35:57

perks and privileges.

02:35:58 --> 02:36:00

That's the most effect. But now when the

02:36:00 --> 02:36:02

child at a small age, so you don't

02:36:02 --> 02:36:04

have to get wild or aggressive or anything,

02:36:05 --> 02:36:07

And I think it took me so many

02:36:07 --> 02:36:08

years to learn, understand, and appreciate.

02:36:09 --> 02:36:11

Listen, you're not gonna be getting this here.

02:36:11 --> 02:36:13

Now the child is gonna throw a tantrum.

02:36:13 --> 02:36:15

He's going to rebel. He's gonna get aggressive.

02:36:15 --> 02:36:17

He's gonna go wild. He's gonna become and

02:36:17 --> 02:36:18

compose.

02:36:18 --> 02:36:20

The key thing is don't lose your cool

02:36:20 --> 02:36:22

and don't buckle under pressure.

02:36:23 --> 02:36:25

And the worst thing you can do is

02:36:25 --> 02:36:27

when one parent is putting the discipline, the

02:36:27 --> 02:36:29

other parent overrides the discipline.

02:36:31 --> 02:36:33

That's the worst thing you can do.

02:36:33 --> 02:36:34

I cannot find

02:36:35 --> 02:36:37

a more amazing example

02:36:38 --> 02:36:39

than the Quran.

02:36:41 --> 02:36:43

The delegation came to the prophet sallallahu alaihi

02:36:43 --> 02:36:45

wa sallam and they asked him 3 questions.

02:36:45 --> 02:36:47

Tell us about the 7 sleepers,

02:36:47 --> 02:36:49

Tell us about the soul. And tell us

02:36:49 --> 02:36:50

about Dhul Qurnayn.

02:36:51 --> 02:36:53

And then we will believe you're a prophet.

02:36:53 --> 02:36:56

And Nabi said, come tomorrow I'll tell you.

02:36:56 --> 02:36:58

On the reliance that Jibril will come, communicate

02:36:58 --> 02:37:00

it with Jibril and then I'll

02:37:00 --> 02:37:03

transmit it to you. And he sallallahu alaihi

02:37:03 --> 02:37:04

wasallam unintentionally

02:37:04 --> 02:37:05

inadvertently

02:37:05 --> 02:37:06

slipped up to say insha'Allah

02:37:07 --> 02:37:09

and that created a pause in revelation

02:37:10 --> 02:37:13

and these people started exploiting the delay in

02:37:13 --> 02:37:15

the response to say Then you're not a

02:37:15 --> 02:37:15

prophet.

02:37:16 --> 02:37:18

We said give us these answers, you're a

02:37:18 --> 02:37:20

prophet. You said come tomorrow.

02:37:22 --> 02:37:22

And Allah

02:37:24 --> 02:37:26

impressed upon the nabi of Allah salallahu alaihi

02:37:26 --> 02:37:28

wasalam the importance of insha'Allah

02:37:29 --> 02:37:31

and it was put on hold momentarily.

02:37:33 --> 02:37:33

And Allah

02:37:34 --> 02:37:35

is aware

02:37:35 --> 02:37:37

that what these people are saying and doing.

02:37:39 --> 02:37:41

And after a duration of 15 days,

02:37:47 --> 02:37:49

Now you take the phone away Friday. You're

02:37:49 --> 02:37:51

not getting this phone till next week Friday.

02:37:52 --> 02:37:54

Saturday morning, he's gone with his phone nicely.

02:37:54 --> 02:37:55

Everything is over.

02:37:56 --> 02:37:56

Nothing.

02:37:57 --> 02:37:59

You got to maintain discipline.

02:37:59 --> 02:38:01

There will be a tantrum. There will be.

02:38:01 --> 02:38:03

But like I said, it's gonna happen at

02:38:03 --> 02:38:05

the right stage. Some of us, our kids

02:38:05 --> 02:38:07

are a bit too old and too advanced.

02:38:08 --> 02:38:10

And now if we take drastic measures, the

02:38:10 --> 02:38:11

rebellion becomes worse.

02:38:13 --> 02:38:15

That that's real. He'll walk out. He'll walk

02:38:15 --> 02:38:18

out. He's too silly, too naive, too daring.

02:38:18 --> 02:38:19

He's got no,

02:38:20 --> 02:38:22

guilt, nothing. He could be walking. There was

02:38:22 --> 02:38:24

a mother that phoned me and I cried.

02:38:24 --> 02:38:26

She said, oh, my heart just sunk.

02:38:27 --> 02:38:29

She said, I'm tired of crying out of

02:38:29 --> 02:38:30

fear for my daughter.

02:38:31 --> 02:38:33

I'm tired of crying out of panic that

02:38:33 --> 02:38:34

the car will knock my daughter.

02:38:35 --> 02:38:37

I'm tired of crying out of fear that

02:38:37 --> 02:38:39

my daughter will come drunk because I've I'm

02:38:39 --> 02:38:42

I I've exhausted all the fears

02:38:43 --> 02:38:45

because she's been out at the most odd

02:38:45 --> 02:38:46

hours, at the most odd times, in the

02:38:46 --> 02:38:49

most scary places, with the most unknown of

02:38:49 --> 02:38:50

strangers.

02:38:50 --> 02:38:53

So she has dried up my tears out

02:38:53 --> 02:38:56

of every fear. I can't cry anymore. So

02:38:56 --> 02:38:58

if if if if somebody tells me, you

02:38:58 --> 02:39:00

know what? She's with this person who's so

02:39:00 --> 02:39:02

evil nothing can be I've I've just cried

02:39:02 --> 02:39:03

it right out.

02:39:04 --> 02:39:07

So anyway, I'm saying discipline by curtailing and

02:39:07 --> 02:39:08

continue in the love.

02:39:09 --> 02:39:11

Listen, you're not gonna get this here. You're

02:39:11 --> 02:39:12

not gonna get this here.

02:39:13 --> 02:39:15

There's gonna be no allowance and this is

02:39:15 --> 02:39:17

it. Now no allowance or eat out means

02:39:17 --> 02:39:18

you gotta eat at home yourself.

02:39:19 --> 02:39:21

When you wanna go out and eat yourself.

02:39:21 --> 02:39:23

So there needs to be harmony between parents.

02:39:23 --> 02:39:25

You need to sustain the plan of action

02:39:25 --> 02:39:26

and maintain it.

02:39:27 --> 02:39:28

The last question

02:39:29 --> 02:39:31

of the 1st batch of 5 of course.

02:39:31 --> 02:39:33

Speaking lies becoming very common in our community.

02:39:34 --> 02:39:36

How can we try and resolve this situation?

02:39:37 --> 02:39:39

I mean, we all grew up as kids,

02:39:39 --> 02:39:40

you know, when you spoke a lie, they

02:39:40 --> 02:39:43

put chilies in your mouth. Right? When you

02:39:43 --> 02:39:45

use vulgar, they put chilies in your mouth.

02:39:46 --> 02:39:47

But we live in a lie a world

02:39:47 --> 02:39:49

where lies is the norm.

02:39:50 --> 02:39:51

You know? It's it's,

02:39:53 --> 02:39:55

look at the irony of our society. Right?

02:39:55 --> 02:39:57

If a beggar comes or a poor person

02:39:57 --> 02:39:58

comes and he steals a loaf of bread,

02:39:59 --> 02:40:01

people whole mob will get onto him, you

02:40:01 --> 02:40:03

know. And then you'll get

02:40:04 --> 02:40:06

the drug industry, the business industry,

02:40:07 --> 02:40:08

the food industry

02:40:08 --> 02:40:11

that will rob the daylights out of you

02:40:11 --> 02:40:12

and they'll call it profit and they will

02:40:12 --> 02:40:16

exploit and abuse, but that's legal theft. That's

02:40:16 --> 02:40:18

legal theft. We're living in a life and

02:40:18 --> 02:40:21

a world where lies is just perpetuated.

02:40:22 --> 02:40:24

You can deceive. You can lie. You can

02:40:24 --> 02:40:26

distort. The irony of the whole thing is

02:40:26 --> 02:40:28

people are caught out and they still persist

02:40:28 --> 02:40:30

on the lie. Like you exposed.

02:40:31 --> 02:40:33

You exposed. No. I never steal. Okay. One

02:40:33 --> 02:40:35

minute just, rewind the camera.

02:40:35 --> 02:40:38

No. The camera is fake. No. No. I

02:40:38 --> 02:40:39

mean, just like process your own words. Look

02:40:39 --> 02:40:41

in the mirror and see what you're saying,

02:40:41 --> 02:40:43

man, you know. So lies has become the

02:40:43 --> 02:40:44

norm. The prophet

02:40:45 --> 02:40:46

was set in and he said,

02:40:47 --> 02:40:49

must I tell you people about major since

02:40:49 --> 02:40:50

the hadith is in Bukhary?

02:40:52 --> 02:40:53

We said, tell us he said,

02:40:54 --> 02:40:55

a scribing part to what Allah is a

02:40:55 --> 02:40:56

major sin.

02:40:57 --> 02:40:59

Disobedience to your parents.

02:41:01 --> 02:41:02

He was relaxing. For jealous,

02:41:03 --> 02:41:05

he got up. He said,

02:41:15 --> 02:41:19

lies, false evidence, lies, false evidence, lies. Sahaba

02:41:19 --> 02:41:22

said he repeated himself so much in our

02:41:22 --> 02:41:24

hearts we tried to say I wish the

02:41:24 --> 02:41:26

Nabi of Allah keeps quiet and observe silence

02:41:26 --> 02:41:28

in the sense we got the message. But

02:41:28 --> 02:41:30

of course the prophet of Allah as in

02:41:30 --> 02:41:33

Rasul Muhamalim it's mentioned He repeated himself salallahu

02:41:33 --> 02:41:35

alaihi wasalam to impress the repugnance.

02:41:36 --> 02:41:39

The repugnance of lies. The scholars say

02:41:43 --> 02:41:45

the obligation of an injunction

02:41:45 --> 02:41:46

can be appreciated

02:41:47 --> 02:41:49

in the context with which it's spared

02:41:49 --> 02:41:50

And the repugnance,

02:41:52 --> 02:41:55

of an offense can be understood again in

02:41:55 --> 02:41:57

the context of which it appears in the

02:41:57 --> 02:41:59

Quran. I know this is academic. Let me

02:41:59 --> 02:42:01

put flesh to the theory and simplify it.

02:42:01 --> 02:42:04

So, to appreciate the richness of of goodness

02:42:04 --> 02:42:07

to parents, Allah pays it up with monotheism.

02:42:08 --> 02:42:10

So, Allah is talking of tawhid and when

02:42:10 --> 02:42:11

he's talking of tawhid, he says, and be

02:42:11 --> 02:42:13

good to your parents. So, the most important

02:42:13 --> 02:42:15

of things is tawhid. That's the basis.

02:42:21 --> 02:42:23

Worship Allah, be kind to your parents.

02:42:23 --> 02:42:25

Then when it comes to lies,

02:42:25 --> 02:42:28

Allah says in chapter 22 Surah Hajj,

02:42:33 --> 02:42:34

Give up and abstain

02:42:35 --> 02:42:35

from idolatry

02:42:36 --> 02:42:39

and coupled with the prohibition of idolatry

02:42:40 --> 02:42:41

Allah pays lies.

02:42:43 --> 02:42:46

So the wicked nature and the repugnance and

02:42:46 --> 02:42:49

the evil of lies can be understood that

02:42:49 --> 02:42:51

it has been paired up with polytheism,

02:42:52 --> 02:42:53

with idolatry.

02:42:54 --> 02:42:56

So as parents, we need to lead by

02:42:56 --> 02:42:56

example

02:42:57 --> 02:42:59

and we need to put measures in place

02:42:59 --> 02:43:01

to say these consequences of lies.

02:43:02 --> 02:43:04

We'll take some questions from the floor.

02:43:06 --> 02:43:08

Any questions we have here on the floor?

02:43:11 --> 02:43:12

Hey. That's gonna be a dangerous one.

02:43:31 --> 02:43:32

Oh, my word.

02:43:34 --> 02:43:35

Meet me after the talk.

02:43:44 --> 02:43:44

No.

02:43:45 --> 02:43:48

Basically, I mean, it was a humorous ending

02:43:48 --> 02:43:49

but I I kinda tied it up to

02:43:49 --> 02:43:53

the sentiment of how desperate and frantically I

02:43:53 --> 02:43:54

was screaming.

02:43:54 --> 02:43:56

So my better half was on this side

02:43:56 --> 02:43:58

of the of the jet ski. I was

02:43:58 --> 02:44:00

on this side here. And due to the

02:44:00 --> 02:44:01

panic, I was overwhelmed.

02:44:02 --> 02:44:04

And I'm telling her, like, love hold there.

02:44:04 --> 02:44:06

I'm holding here. And we're screaming. Only when

02:44:06 --> 02:44:07

the guy came to rescue, I realized, hey.

02:44:07 --> 02:44:09

You know what? I got a life jacket

02:44:09 --> 02:44:12

on. I was in such panic that I

02:44:12 --> 02:44:14

didn't realize that. And the dua of Husayfar

02:44:14 --> 02:44:15

radiAllahu anhu,

02:44:15 --> 02:44:18

fitnas will come only the one that will

02:44:18 --> 02:44:19

be rescued

02:44:19 --> 02:44:21

who calls out to Allah like a drowning

02:44:21 --> 02:44:21

person.

02:44:22 --> 02:44:24

And that's the time he kinda jolted me

02:44:24 --> 02:44:26

and he gave me that year. Like even

02:44:26 --> 02:44:28

when you got measure and cover, you know,

02:44:28 --> 02:44:30

I keep on telling people, unfortunately,

02:44:30 --> 02:44:33

today we listen to the Jummah lecture like

02:44:33 --> 02:44:34

how on a flight we listen to the

02:44:34 --> 02:44:35

emergency

02:44:35 --> 02:44:38

in in a in a emergency landing, the

02:44:38 --> 02:44:40

the the the rules and that you're you

02:44:40 --> 02:44:42

know what? You're sitting at the emergency exit.

02:44:42 --> 02:44:43

Are you happy to help? Yeah. Yeah. We're

02:44:43 --> 02:44:45

happy to help you. You know what? This

02:44:45 --> 02:44:45

mass will

02:44:46 --> 02:44:48

close the doors and take off. That's how

02:44:48 --> 02:44:50

unfortunately we listen to the talks of Allah

02:44:50 --> 02:44:51

and rasool Allah SWAN. Like, you know what?

02:44:51 --> 02:44:52

This is not gonna happen to me.

02:44:56 --> 02:44:56

Do

02:44:57 --> 02:44:58

you have any questions?

02:44:58 --> 02:45:00

Okay. I'll go on to the online. I'll

02:45:00 --> 02:45:01

continue with the online questions.

02:45:03 --> 02:45:05

What is the terbiyah process in the upbringing

02:45:05 --> 02:45:07

of children? The role of the father and

02:45:07 --> 02:45:08

mother is outlined

02:45:09 --> 02:45:11

in the Quran and practice of Rasulullah

02:45:13 --> 02:45:15

Yeah. I I I think I I I

02:45:15 --> 02:45:17

did touch on this here. The the the

02:45:17 --> 02:45:19

reality is there is no perfect parent. The

02:45:19 --> 02:45:21

perfect parent was Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.

02:45:22 --> 02:45:25

What kind of works sometimes for one child

02:45:25 --> 02:45:27

doesn't necessarily work for the other child. And

02:45:27 --> 02:45:29

Allah teaches you through that system that it's

02:45:29 --> 02:45:31

not your upbringing, it is Allah that guided

02:45:31 --> 02:45:33

them. Because what happened? You got 3 kids,

02:45:33 --> 02:45:35

someone say, Hey, Mashallah. Your children are very

02:45:35 --> 02:45:37

disciplined. You are me, line and length. Oh,

02:45:37 --> 02:45:39

I got them measured. And then comes number

02:45:39 --> 02:45:41

4, and he sorts you out.

02:45:42 --> 02:45:44

And he just goes against the whole norm

02:45:44 --> 02:45:46

of the family. And you ask yourself, wait,

02:45:46 --> 02:45:46

man.

02:45:47 --> 02:45:49

But the same house, same value, same thing.

02:45:49 --> 02:45:52

And then Allah makes you understand it's not

02:45:52 --> 02:45:54

you that did it. It's Allah that allowed

02:45:54 --> 02:45:57

it to happen. So coupled with everything, here's

02:45:57 --> 02:45:59

a reflection from the Quran. Allah tells the

02:45:59 --> 02:46:00

prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam

02:46:05 --> 02:46:07

If you had to spend all the wealth

02:46:07 --> 02:46:09

in the world, you wouldn't able to unite

02:46:09 --> 02:46:11

them, but Allah united them.

02:46:22 --> 02:46:24

Hakim al Ummah writes under the we learn

02:46:24 --> 02:46:25

from this

02:46:25 --> 02:46:28

that to instill a good value in the

02:46:28 --> 02:46:29

child

02:46:30 --> 02:46:34

is not in the, the the the jurisdiction

02:46:34 --> 02:46:36

or the control or the grasp of the

02:46:36 --> 02:46:38

father nor is it in the grasp of

02:46:38 --> 02:46:40

the teacher to instill that value in in

02:46:40 --> 02:46:42

in the student. So we need to work

02:46:42 --> 02:46:45

together. I said earlier on and I'm saying

02:46:45 --> 02:46:45

again,

02:46:46 --> 02:46:47

don't don't oppose

02:46:48 --> 02:46:51

each other's views. You are trying different strategies

02:46:51 --> 02:46:53

and angles. Some might try what worked for

02:46:53 --> 02:46:55

them as a child with their parent. Of

02:46:55 --> 02:46:56

course, we need to be cognizant of an

02:46:56 --> 02:46:59

evolving world and evolving challenges,

02:47:00 --> 02:47:00

but,

02:47:01 --> 02:47:03

it is only Allah who can ultimately

02:47:04 --> 02:47:05

steer them onto that right.

02:47:07 --> 02:47:10

Parents are becoming more lenient. The question here.

02:47:11 --> 02:47:12

J j j, please, sir.

02:47:13 --> 02:47:14

Hello.

02:47:15 --> 02:47:16

Assalamu alaikum. Assalam.

02:47:17 --> 02:47:20

And I ask that, in today's time,

02:47:21 --> 02:47:23

the are becoming very daring,

02:47:24 --> 02:47:24

and they

02:47:25 --> 02:47:25

are trying to,

02:47:26 --> 02:47:28

self harm themselves,

02:47:29 --> 02:47:30

to get joy.

02:47:30 --> 02:47:32

So how can you advise and guide these

02:47:32 --> 02:47:33

children

02:47:34 --> 02:47:36

on the importance of value of life?

02:47:38 --> 02:47:40

So, this is a very common thing. I

02:47:40 --> 02:47:41

mean, I've done a talk, a dedicated talk

02:47:41 --> 02:47:43

on suicide where they say,

02:47:44 --> 02:47:44

men resort

02:47:45 --> 02:47:48

or youth resort more while while girls are

02:47:48 --> 02:47:49

more prone

02:47:49 --> 02:47:50

and susceptible

02:47:51 --> 02:47:53

to to to do certain things, to give

02:47:53 --> 02:47:54

off the nature.

02:47:55 --> 02:47:56

Very recently,

02:47:56 --> 02:47:59

I dealt with someone who I considered to

02:47:59 --> 02:48:01

be from a someone who who I would

02:48:01 --> 02:48:04

least imagine resort to some drastic measures of

02:48:04 --> 02:48:04

this nature.

02:48:05 --> 02:48:07

And the individual was experiencing

02:48:07 --> 02:48:09

serious low self esteem.

02:48:09 --> 02:48:13

Serious low self esteem. And obviously, the usual

02:48:13 --> 02:48:15

slit in the wrist and cutting things and

02:48:15 --> 02:48:17

doing that type of things or writing suicide

02:48:17 --> 02:48:19

notes or going on to websites and and

02:48:19 --> 02:48:21

and and and and seeing things to to,

02:48:21 --> 02:48:23

you know, do, like, harmful and lethal and

02:48:23 --> 02:48:26

dangerous things. So generally, it's just like you

02:48:26 --> 02:48:27

go medically and you say, you know what?

02:48:27 --> 02:48:30

It's a persistent headache. You know, symptomatically, it's

02:48:30 --> 02:48:33

a but there's an underlying condition. There's an

02:48:33 --> 02:48:36

underlying condition and it's cyberbullying. It's a sense

02:48:36 --> 02:48:39

of loneliness. Like I always say, you know,

02:48:39 --> 02:48:42

solitude is wholesome. Loneliness is not wholesome. We

02:48:42 --> 02:48:44

need to make a distinction between 2. People

02:48:44 --> 02:48:46

need solitude, not loneliness. There are a lot

02:48:46 --> 02:48:48

of the youth out there that are suffering

02:48:48 --> 02:48:48

a complex.

02:48:49 --> 02:48:52

I mean, some someone is of marriageable age.

02:48:53 --> 02:48:54

You know what? Faith,

02:48:54 --> 02:48:56

has it that the the knock is not

02:48:56 --> 02:48:59

on the door as yet. Now sometimes this

02:48:59 --> 02:49:02

person starts feeling challenged. Then you have,

02:49:03 --> 02:49:06

the insensitive nature of society. How many sisters

02:49:06 --> 02:49:07

have emailed? No.

02:49:08 --> 02:49:10

I get the comment you're not marketing yourself

02:49:10 --> 02:49:11

enough.

02:49:11 --> 02:49:14

How more low can society be? You have

02:49:14 --> 02:49:16

someone battling a particular

02:49:16 --> 02:49:19

emotion hoping to settle like anybody would have

02:49:19 --> 02:49:20

that aspiration

02:49:20 --> 02:49:22

and then you go to a function and

02:49:22 --> 02:49:24

somebody throws a nasty comment like this, say

02:49:24 --> 02:49:26

you're not marketing yourself enough. And what would

02:49:26 --> 02:49:28

that do to the emotions of that person?

02:49:28 --> 02:49:32

Completely gutted and shattered, right? Now you feel

02:49:32 --> 02:49:33

so depressed, so dejected,

02:49:34 --> 02:49:36

somebody makes a nasty remark, it destroys your

02:49:36 --> 02:49:39

self esteem. We need to be very cognizant

02:49:39 --> 02:49:42

that we're boosting the self esteem of our

02:49:42 --> 02:49:45

kids. And even when we're addressing them, if

02:49:45 --> 02:49:47

we don't have the right language and the

02:49:47 --> 02:49:50

right discipline, walk away. I say to youth,

02:49:50 --> 02:49:51

you say, you know what? I don't wanna

02:49:51 --> 02:49:52

visit my mother. I'm gonna have a blow

02:49:52 --> 02:49:54

up there. I said, right. Don't visit. My

02:49:54 --> 02:49:56

mother is gonna be upset that I didn't

02:49:56 --> 02:49:58

go. I said, rather she's upset that you

02:49:58 --> 02:49:59

didn't go, then you go there and you're

02:49:59 --> 02:50:00

disrespectful.

02:50:01 --> 02:50:02

I know if I'm gonna go by my

02:50:02 --> 02:50:04

mother, me and my mother gonna have you

02:50:04 --> 02:50:05

know what? She's gonna say words and I'm

02:50:05 --> 02:50:07

gonna say paragraphs, and it's gonna be ugly.

02:50:07 --> 02:50:08

Don't go.

02:50:09 --> 02:50:12

So these are serious things, but what I've

02:50:12 --> 02:50:14

observed that children who've lost the touch of

02:50:14 --> 02:50:15

life, who've become despondent,

02:50:16 --> 02:50:18

who just wanna throw life away, it's there's

02:50:18 --> 02:50:20

a deeper reason. And,

02:50:21 --> 02:50:22

we need to put our hand around them.

02:50:23 --> 02:50:24

We need to meet with them. We need

02:50:24 --> 02:50:27

to talk with them. We need this rapport.

02:50:27 --> 02:50:29

We need this rapport where we can we

02:50:29 --> 02:50:30

can we can talk. We need to talk.

02:50:31 --> 02:50:33

Girl is eating 12, 13. Mommy needs to

02:50:33 --> 02:50:35

have a frank open discussion with her. You're

02:50:35 --> 02:50:37

becoming an adult, my girl. Boy is eating

02:50:37 --> 02:50:39

12, 13. Dad needs to have an open

02:50:39 --> 02:50:42

frank discussion. Take him together. Sit him out.

02:50:42 --> 02:50:44

Go out for a meal and talk friend.

02:50:44 --> 02:50:46

I had a youth conference in, Toronto

02:50:46 --> 02:50:48

and then it was Ramadan.

02:50:48 --> 02:50:50

After everything wrapped up, we said we're having

02:50:50 --> 02:50:52

an exclusive q and a for the youth.

02:50:52 --> 02:50:54

It was full mischief. Good 5, 600.

02:50:56 --> 02:50:57

No action, no movement.

02:50:57 --> 02:50:59

Again we said he said I gave my

02:50:59 --> 02:51:02

talk. He said can the elders leave? Wallah,

02:51:02 --> 02:51:03

as soon as the elders left

02:51:04 --> 02:51:07

those youth kept me busy for 2 hours

02:51:07 --> 02:51:07

till suhoor.

02:51:08 --> 02:51:11

The questions were just firing up.

02:51:11 --> 02:51:13

I've got this problem, I got that x

02:51:14 --> 02:51:16

fantasy, I do these type of things, I

02:51:16 --> 02:51:17

have to give pleasure to myself, I got

02:51:17 --> 02:51:19

this So we have to be talking to

02:51:19 --> 02:51:20

them.

02:51:20 --> 02:51:21

So, I I,

02:51:22 --> 02:51:24

I believe that them resorting to cutting their

02:51:24 --> 02:51:27

wrists or being suicidal or making comments,

02:51:27 --> 02:51:30

These are displays of low self esteem.

02:51:33 --> 02:51:34

He was a person

02:51:36 --> 02:51:36

the hadith

02:51:37 --> 02:51:39

who lacked physical beauty.

02:51:40 --> 02:51:43

So social standing, he didn't enjoy that prominence.

02:51:45 --> 02:51:47

He was a person who didn't have all

02:51:47 --> 02:51:49

that apparent looks.

02:51:49 --> 02:51:51

So simple and he was even living hand

02:51:51 --> 02:51:52

to mouth.

02:51:53 --> 02:51:55

This is the hadith that speaks about it.

02:51:55 --> 02:51:55

Generally,

02:51:56 --> 02:51:58

society people would, you know, say, hey. What

02:51:58 --> 02:52:00

happened to you? Your brother is so slim

02:52:00 --> 02:52:01

in you?

02:52:01 --> 02:52:03

Hey. Your brother is so clever. And you?

02:52:05 --> 02:52:07

Hey. Your sister's married and you? No. I

02:52:07 --> 02:52:10

mean, like, I've I've hopped on this. I've

02:52:10 --> 02:52:11

hopped on this so many times

02:52:12 --> 02:52:13

and my clips are out there that please

02:52:13 --> 02:52:16

for heaven's sake if you can't heal don't

02:52:16 --> 02:52:16

hurt.

02:52:18 --> 02:52:20

And so Zayr would come and take his

02:52:20 --> 02:52:21

stable and sell his vegetables.

02:52:23 --> 02:52:23

Simple man

02:52:25 --> 02:52:27

didn't have much physical beauty living hand to

02:52:27 --> 02:52:28

mouth standing

02:52:29 --> 02:52:31

there, and he would come outside the masjid

02:52:31 --> 02:52:33

Masjid in Nabi and sell.

02:52:34 --> 02:52:35

Nabi al Islam comes from the back,

02:52:36 --> 02:52:38

puts his hand around his eyes,

02:52:40 --> 02:52:41

casually interactive,

02:52:41 --> 02:52:42

informal,

02:52:42 --> 02:52:45

puts it around and blindfolds him. And he

02:52:45 --> 02:52:48

says, hey, Zahir is selling this, I'm selling

02:52:48 --> 02:52:48

Zahir.

02:52:50 --> 02:52:51

Wow. This is Allah's Nabi.

02:52:52 --> 02:52:53

This is Allah's Nabi.

02:52:53 --> 02:52:55

Sadly, in our masjid so many times we

02:52:55 --> 02:52:58

have people from neighboring African countries.

02:52:58 --> 02:53:00

Never mind greet them. When they greet us,

02:53:00 --> 02:53:01

we don't reply the greetings.

02:53:02 --> 02:53:04

We don't reply the greetings. I've seen this

02:53:04 --> 02:53:04

happening.

02:53:05 --> 02:53:07

He greets you alone like, what's it?

02:53:07 --> 02:53:09

Where where are we? Who are we? What

02:53:09 --> 02:53:10

are

02:53:12 --> 02:53:13

I'm

02:53:14 --> 02:53:16

selling him. I'm selling him.

02:53:17 --> 02:53:17

So

02:53:17 --> 02:53:19

he feels the palms

02:53:19 --> 02:53:21

and that's a giveaway because nobody else can

02:53:21 --> 02:53:24

have such delicate and soft amazing palms.

02:53:24 --> 02:53:27

So he gently moves the hand

02:53:27 --> 02:53:29

and then he makes eye contact.

02:53:29 --> 02:53:30

And then he says,

02:53:33 --> 02:53:35

You're gonna sell me, but I'm so cheap.

02:53:36 --> 02:53:38

I have no much value.

02:53:38 --> 02:53:39

Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said

02:53:42 --> 02:53:43

but in the eyes of Allah, you're the

02:53:43 --> 02:53:44

most valuable.

02:53:45 --> 02:53:46

One statement

02:53:47 --> 02:53:50

from Allah's Nabi, what would it have done

02:53:50 --> 02:53:52

to the self esteem of Zahir radiAllahu anhu?

02:53:53 --> 02:53:55

How would it have elevated him? There's a

02:53:55 --> 02:53:57

child in the class probably he's got a

02:53:57 --> 02:53:58

bit of a slow learning.

02:53:59 --> 02:54:01

He needs special attention. He needs a bit

02:54:01 --> 02:54:03

of a you know help and assistance.

02:54:03 --> 02:54:04

You as a teacher, I know it's a

02:54:04 --> 02:54:06

challenge. I've been a teacher. It's not easy.

02:54:06 --> 02:54:08

You have your own challenges. You have your

02:54:08 --> 02:54:10

own dynamics. I'm saying, Apa, what you're saying

02:54:10 --> 02:54:12

is great but for me that's symptomatic.

02:54:12 --> 02:54:15

There is an under fever and there is

02:54:15 --> 02:54:17

a current there that needs to be addressed

02:54:17 --> 02:54:18

so that we don't have the display of

02:54:18 --> 02:54:19

these symptoms.

02:54:23 --> 02:54:26

Sorry. Parents are becoming more lenient in Okay.

02:54:26 --> 02:54:27

I think there's a question there.

02:54:29 --> 02:54:31

Yeah. I think we better wrap it up

02:54:31 --> 02:54:31

now, Insha'Allah.

02:54:32 --> 02:54:33

We'll do that and one more question.

02:54:47 --> 02:54:47

So

02:54:49 --> 02:54:51

I think I've indicated and I want to

02:54:51 --> 02:54:51

reiterate

02:54:52 --> 02:54:53

that,

02:54:53 --> 02:54:54

it's guttering,

02:54:55 --> 02:54:57

it's breaking homes

02:54:57 --> 02:54:59

and it's hitting far and wide

02:54:59 --> 02:55:01

until and unless

02:55:01 --> 02:55:04

we don't consider the fall of my neighbor's

02:55:04 --> 02:55:05

son to be my fault.

02:55:06 --> 02:55:07

We we

02:55:07 --> 02:55:09

we we we we we we're not moving

02:55:09 --> 02:55:11

up to the speed with which this is

02:55:11 --> 02:55:13

being unleashed upon us.

02:55:13 --> 02:55:17

Until and unless we don't move together

02:55:17 --> 02:55:19

to say what had happened. Hey, you know

02:55:19 --> 02:55:21

what? This happened by my brother's son. I

02:55:21 --> 02:55:23

I know myself personally of mothers

02:55:24 --> 02:55:25

who've come to the rehab center

02:55:26 --> 02:55:27

with their

02:55:27 --> 02:55:28

cards

02:55:28 --> 02:55:31

because they don't have funds. So we've got

02:55:31 --> 02:55:32

some people that have come on board. May

02:55:32 --> 02:55:35

Allah bless them. And we've worked with them

02:55:35 --> 02:55:36

to say that, you know what, as soon

02:55:36 --> 02:55:38

as there's a genuine case and he wants

02:55:38 --> 02:55:40

to, have him admitted, we'll cover the entire

02:55:40 --> 02:55:42

cost. Now we need society to mobilize.

02:55:43 --> 02:55:45

I'm also speaking to few stakeholders.

02:55:45 --> 02:55:48

When they come out, we need them integration.

02:55:48 --> 02:55:51

They can't go into active work in force,

02:55:51 --> 02:55:53

but they need to be brought back into

02:55:53 --> 02:55:55

some space. You know what? Keep him here

02:55:55 --> 02:55:58

for routine and discipline. I'll pay his salary

02:55:58 --> 02:56:01

just so that he's got discipline because it's

02:56:01 --> 02:56:04

more to help him to maintain discipline than

02:56:04 --> 02:56:05

to get any work out of him. Because

02:56:06 --> 02:56:07

just like a person comes out of accident

02:56:07 --> 02:56:09

then he goes to a rehab center to

02:56:09 --> 02:56:11

rehabilitate him, to get him back to walk.

02:56:11 --> 02:56:13

It's gonna take time. But if you don't

02:56:13 --> 02:56:14

get him into activity,

02:56:15 --> 02:56:17

then you predispose him to a potential relapse.

02:56:18 --> 02:56:20

So like I said, it takes 1 it

02:56:20 --> 02:56:22

takes 20 people to help 1. This thing

02:56:22 --> 02:56:24

has to be a much wider thing. And

02:56:24 --> 02:56:26

I think we all know there isn't a

02:56:26 --> 02:56:30

single family immediate or close by where there

02:56:30 --> 02:56:33

isn't some member in some form or shape

02:56:33 --> 02:56:35

or size who unfortunately hasn't been involved in

02:56:35 --> 02:56:37

it. And now it's gone to the extent

02:56:37 --> 02:56:38

that they're taking the codeine.

02:56:39 --> 02:56:40

Codeine and Sprite.

02:56:40 --> 02:56:42

That's that's the common thing. It's it's cough

02:56:42 --> 02:56:45

mixture. Right? So you're taking your prescribed medications

02:56:45 --> 02:56:47

at an abuse level. So it's not your

02:56:47 --> 02:56:48

recreational

02:56:48 --> 02:56:51

drug, it's your prescribed drug but it needs

02:56:51 --> 02:56:51

an

02:56:51 --> 02:56:53

abuse. So I think we've we've you know

02:56:53 --> 02:56:56

what? The fire is guttering. The smoke inhalation

02:56:56 --> 02:56:58

has killed so many people. The fire siren

02:56:58 --> 02:57:00

is out. If we still can't get up

02:57:00 --> 02:57:02

out of our slumber, then what will wake

02:57:02 --> 02:57:02

us up?

02:57:03 --> 02:57:05

Okay. Last question, I think.

02:57:05 --> 02:57:07

Teens do not want to listen to

02:57:08 --> 02:57:11

lectures. They are more inclined towards instant messaging

02:57:11 --> 02:57:15

via WhatsApp and apps like TikTok, Instagram, etcetera

02:57:15 --> 02:57:17

for their guidance and advices.

02:57:17 --> 02:57:19

What proactive steps

02:57:20 --> 02:57:22

can be taken as a community to address

02:57:23 --> 02:57:24

this? Yeah. So I mean, of course, there

02:57:24 --> 02:57:26

is definitely and this brings in the challenge

02:57:26 --> 02:57:29

for scholars. You know what, to to to

02:57:29 --> 02:57:31

come into that space or not because when

02:57:31 --> 02:57:33

you come into that space to meet the

02:57:33 --> 02:57:35

demands of that space then there is of

02:57:35 --> 02:57:37

course a negative impact on you because it's

02:57:37 --> 02:57:40

infringing on you. It's also giving off some

02:57:40 --> 02:57:43

coloring on you as yourself going into that

02:57:43 --> 02:57:45

space. So at one level, it is being

02:57:45 --> 02:57:47

tackled because this is where

02:57:47 --> 02:57:49

the battle has been fought and this is

02:57:49 --> 02:57:51

where it is happening. That's the brutal truth

02:57:51 --> 02:57:53

that everything is there. So of course there

02:57:53 --> 02:57:54

is good,

02:57:55 --> 02:57:56

info and material,

02:57:57 --> 02:57:59

that is being presented on these platforms as

02:57:59 --> 02:58:01

well. But

02:58:01 --> 02:58:03

the the the the the harsh reality is

02:58:03 --> 02:58:04

through the device

02:58:04 --> 02:58:07

setting and scrolling is nothing but information.

02:58:08 --> 02:58:10

The transmission of knowledge will never

02:58:11 --> 02:58:12

change.

02:58:13 --> 02:58:15

You have to sit in the traditional setting

02:58:15 --> 02:58:16

when knowledge is transmitted,

02:58:17 --> 02:58:18

Where richness is communicated.

02:58:19 --> 02:58:20

Where values are communicated. That's why they could

02:58:20 --> 02:58:22

read, you know what? I mean, you'll get

02:58:22 --> 02:58:24

a message. Wow. Today I read something

02:58:24 --> 02:58:26

brilliant. Wow. This is amazing.

02:58:27 --> 02:58:28

And it inspires him for half an hour.

02:58:29 --> 02:58:31

And then the battery cells are dead again.

02:58:31 --> 02:58:34

The battery cells are dead. Right? So so

02:58:34 --> 02:58:35

this,

02:58:35 --> 02:58:38

constant need for gratification and addiction

02:58:39 --> 02:58:41

to this phone and and and, you know,

02:58:41 --> 02:58:42

somebody said we live in a strange world

02:58:42 --> 02:58:44

before you had a diary and you kept

02:58:44 --> 02:58:45

everything secret,

02:58:45 --> 02:58:47

right? You kept the diary and the diary

02:58:47 --> 02:58:48

kept you.

02:58:49 --> 02:58:52

Post your death, that was your

02:58:52 --> 02:58:53

your record.

02:58:54 --> 02:58:56

Now it's so strange

02:58:56 --> 02:58:58

that you throw everything out on social media

02:58:59 --> 02:59:01

and you don't keep it secret. You get

02:59:01 --> 02:59:02

offended

02:59:02 --> 02:59:05

if people don't don't compliment you on it.

02:59:05 --> 02:59:06

Before, hey, don't touch my diary. I don't

02:59:06 --> 02:59:08

go in there. It is after my mort

02:59:08 --> 02:59:10

you can read it. Hey, not now. It

02:59:10 --> 02:59:12

was a private thing which was a confidential

02:59:12 --> 02:59:14

thing and you kept it. Now the whole

02:59:14 --> 02:59:15

world has just changed totally.

02:59:16 --> 02:59:18

So this is a challenge. We need to

02:59:18 --> 02:59:20

reach out to them. We need to have

02:59:20 --> 02:59:21

I was in London recently.

02:59:22 --> 02:59:24

There's this youth club, masha'Allah.

02:59:24 --> 02:59:26

And of course our is doing great work

02:59:26 --> 02:59:28

in this and he's made great strides and

02:59:28 --> 02:59:31

alhamdulillah it's happening on many fronts. The Harari

02:59:31 --> 02:59:34

launched recently a youth wing as well. They

02:59:34 --> 02:59:35

invited me to speak on the trucking. They

02:59:35 --> 02:59:37

had a similar set up and it was

02:59:37 --> 02:59:39

very very well received, very well attended.

02:59:40 --> 02:59:42

Same thing like this year, dealing with adolescent

02:59:42 --> 02:59:45

kids, the challenges, how to navigate etcetera.

02:59:45 --> 02:59:47

So I I think we are making the

02:59:47 --> 02:59:49

the the the the impression and we are

02:59:49 --> 02:59:51

making the mark, but the onslaught is too

02:59:51 --> 02:59:53

heavy. Let me come back to that one

02:59:53 --> 02:59:55

comment I made. I was saying about the

02:59:55 --> 02:59:57

woman who said that if a child is

02:59:57 --> 03:00:00

born and for 3 years you make an

03:00:00 --> 03:00:02

impression on the subconscious mind of that child

03:00:02 --> 03:00:03

to eat healthy food.

03:00:04 --> 03:00:05

She says after 3 years,

03:00:06 --> 03:00:10

exposure to the first bill board of fast

03:00:10 --> 03:00:12

foods has wiped out 50%

03:00:12 --> 03:00:14

of what you did in 3 years. This

03:00:14 --> 03:00:16

wasn't my report. This was on a talk

03:00:16 --> 03:00:17

show radio program.

03:00:18 --> 03:00:19

She said for 3 years

03:00:20 --> 03:00:21

you're making a subtle.

03:00:21 --> 03:00:24

So, you know, I'm I'm, in tafsir uthmani

03:00:24 --> 03:00:25

it is written,

03:00:26 --> 03:00:26

in

03:00:27 --> 03:00:28

in in chapter

03:00:30 --> 03:00:32

11, somebody asked him that,

03:00:32 --> 03:00:33

does

03:00:34 --> 03:00:34

does,

03:00:36 --> 03:00:37

wipe out your sins?

03:00:37 --> 03:00:38

So he said,

03:00:47 --> 03:00:50

Will Tawba wipe out your sins? Yes.

03:00:50 --> 03:00:51

Provided

03:00:52 --> 03:00:52

your detergent

03:00:53 --> 03:00:56

and your soap is relative to the impurity.

03:00:57 --> 03:01:00

So you know what? You got you got

03:01:01 --> 03:01:01

you soiled

03:01:02 --> 03:01:03

your entire body and you come in with

03:01:03 --> 03:01:05

one drop of detergent

03:01:05 --> 03:01:06

and you're trying to clean out. It's a

03:01:06 --> 03:01:08

relative. It's not relative.

03:01:09 --> 03:01:11

So I think where the youth are running,

03:01:11 --> 03:01:13

we are making inroads. We're trying to reach

03:01:13 --> 03:01:16

out. Sadly, unfortunately, we then have our own

03:01:16 --> 03:01:17

internal bickerings

03:01:17 --> 03:01:20

and other related challenges where, you know, we

03:01:20 --> 03:01:22

we we we which kinda,

03:01:23 --> 03:01:26

of creates a paralysis in our activities but

03:01:26 --> 03:01:28

nonetheless we're trying to reach out but the

03:01:28 --> 03:01:29

onslaught

03:01:30 --> 03:01:32

is far more greater. I'll share this here

03:01:32 --> 03:01:34

quickly reflection as well. There was a program

03:01:34 --> 03:01:36

on a on a lottery on a radio

03:01:36 --> 03:01:38

station as well. So,

03:01:38 --> 03:01:40

this guy was challenged to say, you know

03:01:40 --> 03:01:42

what? You guys promote and advocate the lottery.

03:01:42 --> 03:01:44

You say if you play the lottery once,

03:01:44 --> 03:01:45

your chances are good. If you play it

03:01:45 --> 03:01:47

twice, your chances are stronger

03:01:47 --> 03:01:49

which might be true but your chances are

03:01:49 --> 03:01:50

still slim.

03:01:50 --> 03:01:51

You tell the public, you know, play 3

03:01:51 --> 03:01:53

times, you stand a better chance. But even

03:01:53 --> 03:01:55

better is is is is relative. It's it's,

03:01:55 --> 03:01:57

you know, it's like a one one day

03:01:57 --> 03:01:58

old baby

03:01:58 --> 03:02:00

and a 2 day old baby. So the

03:02:00 --> 03:02:01

2 day old baby is bigger than the

03:02:01 --> 03:02:03

1 day old but he's still small.

03:02:03 --> 03:02:05

He's only he's bigger. He's elder. You know

03:02:05 --> 03:02:06

the twins they say no I'm elder. I

03:02:06 --> 03:02:08

was born 5 minutes before.

03:02:09 --> 03:02:11

So it's still it's it's

03:02:11 --> 03:02:13

it's it's still small within himself. He might

03:02:13 --> 03:02:13

be bigger.

03:02:14 --> 03:02:16

So they ask this person that you're having

03:02:16 --> 03:02:18

this lottery and you're advocating it and you're

03:02:18 --> 03:02:20

telling people you stand a better chance,

03:02:21 --> 03:02:23

but you know there's no good chance 3

03:02:23 --> 03:02:25

times or 4 times or 5 times. So

03:02:25 --> 03:02:28

why are you lying to people? Open. You

03:02:28 --> 03:02:28

know what?

03:02:29 --> 03:02:29

Straight on.

03:02:30 --> 03:02:32

He said, we know they won't win and

03:02:32 --> 03:02:34

even they know they won't win but at

03:02:34 --> 03:02:37

least we give people the opportunity to fantasize

03:02:37 --> 03:02:38

being a millionaire.

03:02:39 --> 03:02:39

What?

03:02:40 --> 03:02:42

I'm like, did I hear you right?

03:02:43 --> 03:02:45

That's the kind of lie and that's what's

03:02:45 --> 03:02:46

thrown out there.

03:02:46 --> 03:02:48

So we're giving you a chance to fantasize

03:02:49 --> 03:02:50

on your dinner table to say, hey, what

03:02:50 --> 03:02:52

if my numbers hit the jackpot? Imagine I

03:02:52 --> 03:02:55

got this here. So at least we tickle

03:02:55 --> 03:02:56

the fantasy of a pauper.

03:02:58 --> 03:02:59

That's the world you know. So what I'm

03:02:59 --> 03:03:02

saying is the onslaught is too big. The

03:03:02 --> 03:03:05

counter is too small. You're taking probiotic to

03:03:05 --> 03:03:07

restore good flora. How much probiotic No. No.

03:03:07 --> 03:03:09

No. No. No. You got serious IBS. You

03:03:09 --> 03:03:11

need to take much more. You're taking but

03:03:11 --> 03:03:13

the volume is not right. The quantity is

03:03:13 --> 03:03:14

not right.

03:03:15 --> 03:03:16

I think I'm gonna hand over to Moran

03:03:16 --> 03:03:17

Asidah to

03:03:18 --> 03:03:20

continue with the program Insha'Allah.

03:03:22 --> 03:03:23

I think we just

03:03:30 --> 03:03:32

And I'm gonna ask some good few questions

03:03:32 --> 03:03:34

are coming through via the link, but we're

03:03:34 --> 03:03:35

not gonna get into any of that.

03:03:36 --> 03:03:38

Inshallah, maybe at some other time. Just like

03:03:38 --> 03:03:40

to extend the vote of things and say

03:03:40 --> 03:03:40

to to

03:03:42 --> 03:03:44

Hazrat Mufi Soleiman, Moolasa, Moolasa.

03:03:44 --> 03:03:47

Really appreciate the time in addressing the pressing

03:03:47 --> 03:03:47

issues.

03:03:48 --> 03:03:50

To everyone that has, stayed till the end

03:03:50 --> 03:03:51

of the program and those that are also

03:03:51 --> 03:03:53

listening on air, as well as those that

03:03:53 --> 03:03:56

are following us on, the YouTube via the

03:03:56 --> 03:03:58

YouTube link. Uncle Baygora Badat,

03:03:58 --> 03:04:00

uncle Mohammad Dokra, Jazak Mullahaira,

03:04:01 --> 03:04:03

brother Rashad and his team yet in Yata

03:04:03 --> 03:04:04

waiting in conference center,

03:04:05 --> 03:04:07

for availing this facility, and all the support

03:04:07 --> 03:04:08

with your team.

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Aviz Imran Islam at CI Radio. Mullen Soleiman

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Ravatsa from Radio Islam International.

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Our sound master, uncle Ahmed Sirat.

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Brother Ahmed Asma, by excellence.

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The in educators from Roshni Islamic School and

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Vidma for your support and your presence here

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today. Have a as well for your presence

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here.

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The deco by sister Farzana and her team.

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Karinaimsab

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for

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spearheading the program with Muftisab.

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Brother Idris Hansa was here with us as

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well. Brother Fayyaz Badat, RMW and all those

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who supported and assisted us in the background.

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To each one of you. There's a lot

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that we're gonna take from the program Insha'Allah

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and I think we need to listen to

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it a second time and the third time

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and the responses

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to those questions and digest it and Insha'Allah

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see how best wherever and however it affects

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us to implement what doesn't Mufassa be shared

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with us. Insha'Allah we request Mufassa to

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