Funerals – 2 What should a dying person do

Mohamad Baajour


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AI: Summary © The importance of learning proper etiquette of burials and remaining fearful of death is emphasized in a series of conversations and advice sessions. The speakers emphasize the negative impact of death on one's personal and family, including loss of family members and negative health impacts. The segment also touches on the negative impact of death on one's personal and family, including loss of family members and the negative impact on one's health. The speakers stress the importance of fulfilling obligations before death and not giving back money to anyone who is intending to pay it back.
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salary comm not a lot here are gonna get

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smaller hamdulillah salatu salam ala Rasulillah Muslim no main file now and finally Mr. Lim Turner was in the in manjar hammer I mean, ask Allah Subhana Allah teachers would benefit us benefit us from the tutorials and increase as a knowledge. Ask Allah subhanaw taala to bless all the brothers and sisters who are attending and may Allah subhanaw taala put Baraka in their life in sha Allah and may Allah subhanaw taala make us from the people at the end of the gathering, there will be there will be told Kuhmo not for unlucky get up all your sins are forgiven and in your

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genre Tada. We started the series about funerals last week and we will continue inshallah Tada

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with Allah's permission till we finish the book Inshallah, like I mentioned before, this book will cover from the moment you get sick,

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and you're the person who is on his deathbed, all the way till the difference and the burial and everything, how to do it in the proper manner, according to the Kitab and Sunnah. Unfortunately, our one, our funerals, most of the time, they are

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controlled or they are

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operated by our culture, not by our team.

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A lot of times the culture dominates over the dean. And like I mentioned last week, at the time of the funeral, I cannot advise you because you are very emotional. And I'm very emotional at that time, you can talk to the person who is grieving. So, this is the best time to learn the proper etiquette of the burials and the janazah and the following of the janazah and all that stuff, this is the time to learn it otherwise at that when the process is taking place, it will be very hard to advise anybody

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so hamdulillah bad I mean, we started last week with the general information that this is definitely coming and

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we explained that Allah told us in the Quran many places, Cologne if

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you'd like to know

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why in

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number two a phone call me a woman

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behind in the religion or the

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woman to dunya in Malta

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coolness in dichotomy mode, every soul will taste in a coma, you know, maybe, yeah, Mohamed, you are going to die and everyone around you, everyone. Every human being every creature is going to die.

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So we finished that introduction last week and today in sha Allah, Allah, the topic is

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arrival of death, chapter two, arrival of death.

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What should the dying person do? Whether it's me, or I am in the presence of a person who is dying? What should I do? That happens all the time? My aunt, my father, my mother, they're on their deathbed. And the last moment and you get this phone calls Brother, what should I do? The doctor just said few hours few days, right? We have that all the time. So what should we do? Or what should he do first? Or she do and then we will discuss what should we do the people around them first.

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A dying person should have personally one Billa a dying person should have good thoughts and hopes with his

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remembering his great generosity

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and looking forward for his blessing and forgiveness Jabra bin Abdullah or the Allah Han reported that also as I said and said, Leia mutina.

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Allah. Well, who are you seeing a Vaughn Billa heeta Allah jabber reported and the hadith is in Muslim

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that are suicidal and said none of you should die

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without having good expectations with Allah subhanaw taala he has good expectations.

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He has good assumptions about about Allah subhanho wa Taala he is hoping that ALLAH SubhanA wa Taala will forgive him. And at the same time, he the dying believers should be in a state of combined, he should have a combined feeling of fear that Allah might punish him and hope that Allah will forgive him. Fear and hope together. Okay. Ross Ross, I sent him one time he visited the young men who was dying and he asked him

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can you finish your book?

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How do you feel?

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So the man said, Yeah, rasool Allah, I have hope and Allah, and I fear my sins.

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So the man said, I have hope and Allah, and I feel my sins, or Salah Salem told them

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lie to me and fear can be Abdun famously has an Moulton, Ill thought Toro hula, now you're a Jew, we're a minor who didn't know your half luck.

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So Suzanne Santo told him those two qualities Do not dwell together in a person's heart in this situation. Yeah, the one deathbed

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they do not dwell in a person's heart, on his deathbed.

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But Allah will grant them what he's hoping for, and He will protect him from what he's fearing.

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Subhanallah so the person is hoping for the Mercy of Allah and feeding his sins at that time. So they do not gather with somebody's heart at that time, except Allah subhanaw taala will give it to him. So the first thing is, if I am dying,

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feel feel that, you know, something's last moment and, and by the way, this is a Subhanallah This is an AMA, if someone knows that, you know, feels like he's about to

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be gun finish.

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It's harder than the it's easier than the most fragile, sudden death right. So, even the impact on the family is much less when you know that your father's in the hospital for three months or three weeks and they told you you know, things are not working out is different than you heard your father's dead right away right, its impact is different. Of course the the loss is the same but the impact on the person is is different. So the first feeling is we should have hope that Allah will forgive us and at the same time I'm fearing that he might not.

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Raja will Amman, Raja well, we'll have

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then the second point is loving to meet Allah subhanho wa Taala loving to meet Allah.

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As death approaches, a true believer will have a strong desire to meet his Lord

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Shri Ben Hani reported that um Herrera said that as soon as I said and said, Man, belly call Allah, Allah holy woman carry hellicar Allah carry Allah liqueur.

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Whoever loves meeting Allah, Allah will love to meet him. And whoever hates meeting Allah, Allah will hate meeting him. So should I when he heard this Hadith from Abu Huraira he immediately ran to eyeshadow, the hola Hannah, and he said, Yeah, hi Isha. I heard something from Abu Hurayrah and it's very scary. She said, What did you hear so and he narrated the Hadith and he narrated the Hadith. So she explained.

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Allah rasool Allah says, Allah has indeed said this, he was first of all he wants to check is this before him? She told them yes, this is true. Whatever I told you, the Hadith Messiah, I heard it from Allah say seldom, but does not mean what you think why should I was afraid?

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Why should I was afraid. The hadith said, If you love to meet Allah, Allah will love to meet you. And if you hate to meet Allah, Allah hates to meet you. And he was so scared that this hadith is true. Why he was so scared.

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Exactly, because that means

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you hate death. I mean, if you hate death, Allah hates meeting you. This is what he understood. So I Isha our mother, the mother of soccer,

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is explaining she said

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Resource Center has indeed said that, but he did not mean what you think

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he meant.

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When the gaze becomes fixed, and the shifts and the chest rattles, the skin tightens, and the fingers tremble at that point.

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At that point, whoever loves to meet Allah, Allah loves to meet him and whoever hates to meet Allah. Allah hates to meet him. Previously Aisha had a similar misunderstanding

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when that when a Sousa Salim said Daddy, she had a seminal misunderstanding. She was she went through supersize Salam and said, Ya rasool Allah, do you mean hating death? Because we all hate death. Aisha is telling us what do you mean when he said the Hadith whosoever hate meet Allah Allah would hate to meet and said yes or no do you meet Hey, do you mean hating death? Because we all hate death. So Salah Salem

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responded like psychedelic lacking in movement either. haidara Hulu effect Bushi Robbie Rahmatullah worried one worker on finagle sachet

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II min Amana Benicar Allah what I have hola hola con. We're in El kheir Farah, either howdy Ron Boucher, the other biller he was a hottie here. Wow, cool. That fella is Sasha Accra, La Mina Anana *ery Hanukkah Allah wa Carrie Humla who Lika Susannah was explaining the meaning of the Hadith. He said, This is not what it means. Yeah Isha, it's not it means that you hate death. No.

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When death comes to a believer, he's giving the glad tidings of Allah's Mercy of Allah has acceptance, and he's giving the glad tidings of gender. So nothing is dear to him than meeting Allah subhanho wa taala. So Allah who love to meet, and the kaffir at that moment, when the death comes, he's giving the tidings of Allah's Anger, torture and punishment. So nothing is more hateful to him

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than meeting Allah. So Allah subhanho wa Taala hate to meet him. So this is explanation of the Hadith by the one who said the Hadith himself Alayhi Salatu was Salam. So yeah, when, at that moment, subhanAllah you know, if you notice

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those clips that we get every once in a while that somebody died, while he's playing, while his one time chef was giving a lecture, you see them looking up,

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as if they saw something Subhanallah you know, this is the sign that you know, it's it, that's it, the gun, they're about to the Lord, the soul is going to be taken Subhanallah so, at that moment, or a little bit before that, if somebody is on his deathbed, and they feel that you know, the death is coming, and they start Allah subhanaw taala bless them. May Allah make us amongst them. Allah will bless them that they will start seeing the gentleman and the seeing the Rama and you see sometimes somebody you know how many times you saw a Shaheed smiling, you know, while he's dead already, the smile is up to here Subhanallah because they saw something that we don't see. And as we go through

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the book, you will be amazed about the stories of people who died, and they saw their position agenda. So when you see the position agenda, and you can imagine, this is something you've never ever seen before, so you can't wait. You can't wait to go there and you can't wait to meet Allah subhanho wa taala. Third, returning the people's rights. I found out I'm about to die. They told me you have canceled your stage for your heresy a few months to live few weeks to live. I start going and looking around who I owe money I owe anything. I'm gonna go and settle all my debts. a dying person should fulfill his obligations toward the people before death overtakes him. If he cannot

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fulfill it by himself, he should tell his family and make the arrangements to take care of his things before after his efforts death. Ebola reported for Salah salem said Subhanallah

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man Canada in the hood of lucha libre he mean the other day, I will naturally fill you at the LA Kubla and yet he young Malkia en la Yoko benefi he Deena was

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in Canada and alongside auki that mean we're off to Sarajevo when we can no I'm not on Saudi. Okay, then see Earth you saw me? For whom me that? Allah Subhan Allah. Allah Jaquan this hadith is I want you to open your ears and your heart.

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And think about this hadith really seriously. Whoever has oppressed his brother.

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Of course, sisters included also. Whoever you

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oppressed, his fellow Muslim, let's say, in his reputation, or his wealth.

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You spread rumors against him. You said, think about it, that's not true.

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You took money that does not belong to you. You told him lend me this $1,000 And you had the mindset, you're not even gonna give it back.

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You had preset my mindset that you're not going to give it back. I'm not talking about somebody who was in need, and he borrowed and he's intending to pay back. Because as soon as I said, I'm told us, if you borrow money with the intention to pay it back, and you were sincere, Allah would pay it back. Allah would make it easy for you to pay back.

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So this was, as Adam said, if you have any Muslim, Muslim from zoom, if you have any kind of oppression, whether it's in reputation or wealth against your brother,

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or your one, listen carefully, this is this we are questioned about these classes, let him remedy that before the Day of Judgment Day of Judgment. My Day of Judgment is when I die, right?

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This is much clearer, since you're TIAMO when you die, so he's not gonna wait to the Day of Judgment. What he meant here is my day of judgment.

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Let him remedy that before the day of judgment comes because on that day, no Durham no dinar, this currency will not work anymore. Like Allah says in the Quran, whether or not

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if they have the kufan if they have the earth, filled with God to save them from that day, it will not to lift the veil it will not work

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the whole earth full of gold, just your Allah save me from the punishment.

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Well, this Lahoma and another size of the Earth full of gold that will not benefit And subhanAllah can think about it. And that day the whole earth full of Earth full of gold will not benefit me. And now a solar side Salam he said donate half date will save you from

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half a date shock camera

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now half a day it will save you from hell and on that day Earth full of God can you imagine if just this Masjid was full of gold? How much would that be? Billions and billions of dollars. Earth full of gold that's why when we talk about South Africa and when we see the people asking for itab and orphans and you start complaining Allah Jaquan do not complain Allah we're going to regret any opportunity we will give him to give and we said you know what it's okay let me save it my this my that might give Allah give as much as you can any opportunity you have to give give you don't know which dollar is going to save you

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so let them take care of it now before that day there's no drum no dinar Yeah, brother. I have $10 million. Take it $10 million. What's gonna do for me now? I need 5000 escena I don't need your dinner on that Day no more dinner no that is Hassan that answer yet good deeds and bad deeds.

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No drummer dinar will be accepted. If he has good deeds, they will be taken from him and given to his brother. And if he has any fee does not have any good deeds, he will be burdened with with his brother's sins

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Subhan Allah, he wouldn't be burdened by his or her brothers since we see brothers sometimes. Sisters also. Now sha Allah, Allah of great deeds, a lot of fasting. A lot of Salawat in the massage and a lot of Imam Al Quran have FOV and then they sit down at a gathering after Asia or an invitation someone's house and one has an Obi one has an old God giving it free to others just because of the tongue

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they sit down and they start bringing people this did this did that this got divorced this got this get that start making fun of this and making fun of that. Oh this some of it and hydrogen ombre giving it away and giving it away. We worked very hard. Yeah. We work very hard for this Hassan so watch that tongue Encik Allah in Cali cernak aka webinar Marathi Allah Han came from source Isilon and he told me are a salt Allah give me the secret for salvation. He gave him three advices one of them control your tongue and SIG Allah, you can control that control the trunk. So I have to give the hoc now sometimes my, you know, my tail heavy to go to my brother and tell him I did this to

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you. I'm the one who sent that email. I'm the one who did that. So what do I do? I go I go and I give some back on their behalf. I ask Allah to forgive them as Camilla to forgive me first for whatever you have done. And I do as much as I can, as much as I can, on their behalf hoping that Allah would accept because as we know if

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I go to you and tell you, listen, I have spoken behind your back. It's very hard. You have to be really a true believer to accept it. Otherwise, really, nobody accepted, how dare you and it's going to create more fitna and more problems. But if it's an issue of money,

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if it's an issue of money I'm talking about the first example is you spread rumors, but if there is money, and you have that money now, and you know where that brother is that you want that money from year to five Wallahi find any way you can and get it done.

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Because you might think he has forgotten you might have think that he has forgiven you, but maybe he No, and on that day, you cannot afford it. You can't give me 5000 Hassan for the $5,000 Here you go. You can say no, let's make a deal. No,

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no negotiation, no haggling.

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Sir second, that

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gave the next scary Hadith, the Hadith of the bankrupt, that we all know I'm gonna go straight to English. Indeed, a ruin person of my own is the one who comes on the day of judgment was solid and cm and zakat, however, he had abused so and so and defamed, so and so and unlawfully consumed the wealth of so and so shed the blood of so and so and beat and so on. So thus this and that will be given from him from his good deeds, if his good deeds finish before fulfilling what he owes, he will be burdened with their sins, then he will be thrown in hell.

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Listen, where did this man come with? Salah 10 cm okay. It was not like he does not pray. He does not fast. No, he came so out and see Evans the cat,

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the cat, he came with all that, and another Hadith jeberti Hammer mountains of Hassan, shush about a man fura

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This is very scary. How do you how do you feel worthless. It's called the Hadith of the bankrupt.

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Let's take one more trauma and

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I have a gift for your trauma.

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a dying person should make sure that his will is current. This is something that we are behind and His will is current and to his liking and to his liking. In addition, he should give final instructions to his family and friends and other people around them, reminding them of Allah and directing them to take care of fulfilling his obligations after his death. Jabra Bill Adela for the alarm reported that one of the on the eve of the Battle of his father summoned him and instructed him. I expect to be among the first of the prophets companions to be killed tomorrow.

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So yeah, but his father's telling him I'm expecting tomorrow to be a Shaheed in.

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So I'm not leaving after me. Any soul more dear to me than you stuck into the sun.

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Except for Rasulullah sallallahu yourself, can you imagine somebody is dying, and he's giving mercy at his son. And he remembered that he loves us more than his son. He said, I don't keep anyone dear to be more than you. And then he said except Rasul Allah,

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Allah. So I owe some debts. So pay them off and take good care of your brothers and sisters, and there's a detailed discussion of this, when coming up Inshallah, what to do for a dying person. Now we are standing in front of this brother, at the hospital or at home, and he's about to die. What should we do Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, he spoke about three, four pages, which is all he gets. All that hadith about the team is called Talquin giving the Lachman shahada to the person it's called Tomkin la que no Mota con la ma woman can I ask you to confirm that Ilaha illa Allah in the mouth the halal Jana the halal Jana. So this is he mentioned three four Hadith about the same exact

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That the last, if you are present in at the time when someone's dying lockin tell them a prompt your dying person with that Allahu Allah.

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Like we said before you do not shake him you Do not scream and yell say Dinah and Allah say you do not know what that person is going through. You have no idea what's going through. So you tell them

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just like I'm told his uncle remember for them say that Allah him Allah I would have shofar for you with a sailor in quietly don't scream and yell because you might see things that scaring you. C'est la ilaha illallah kaleida

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Are you by yourself and the group of brothers or over the family members at that time? You say

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he's hearing it. He's hearing it. You never know it could come to his. You don't have to see it yourself. Who matters Allah?

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Allah matters if you seen it or not, if he heard it or not, to just say it around them

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is enough. If you can say Muhammad Osama is good but the Hadith said, Allah, Allah, mankind Africa, the Illa Illa Allah the Harlingen. Now like we said before, many times, it's very easy for us to say it now. But at that time, only the one whom ALLAH given tofield will be able to say it may Allah make all all of us here. Our last words Lila help us and our wives and our children and our parents. I mean, you're barely making this from your heart on a daily basis, along with Kalyani.

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Allah homage can be

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saved from your heart, and Allah will grant it to you in sha Allah. Now,

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like I promised before, there's a I think we have enough in sha Allah or maybe you know, there's, for solos, I seldom said that whosoever say this, before he sleeps, before he dies, on his deathbed.

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There was so not the nor will not touch him.

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Hand will not touch him. But

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how can I remember it? You know that time? La ilaha. illallah, by itself is hard to remember. It's hard to come out. How can you remember this long that it's not really long, but it's longer than usual. So how can you remember it?

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If I constantly say it all the time, right? Now, for example, I have a habit. If I lose something I say, Lola, or I get lost GPS today ilaha illAllah. So why don't I make my habit? Instead of Allah Allah Allah make it this which is I'm gonna tell you what it is. It's all about Allah. So the Hadith said

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it's long Hadith. And at the end said, whoever is blessed with this, these words at the time of death, the fire will not touch him, touch him.

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There are five statements

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and they will start with the hail Allah. So the first part of the DUA is coming to all of us. We all know it. And the second part is all coming. It's just remember to put them together. Ready? Okay. There yeah in Allah. Allahu Akbar.

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Repeat after La Ilaha illa Allah Allahu Akbar

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La ilaha illa ma

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la ilaha IL Allah Nasha de cada

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La Ilaha illa Allah Allah Allah Allah will hunt

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in llama weather hola Quwata illa biLlah

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easy right who's gonna repeat it you know them all in order love it

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there's no way that this will naturally occur

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this is previous memory not now

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because I gave it to him a long time ago

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for inshallah and practice it please and keep saying it all the time. I asked FedEx to give me 100 So if anybody did not have can cannot get it I can text it to you and Sharma so brother asked about

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use of give it to the brother Zachman locker welcome Africans not leave without taking one inshallah. And like I said, if you want me, I'm going to send it to brother Bilal who has most of your numbers you send it to you in sha Allah

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Subhana Allah, masha Allah, Allah, Allah and stuff Utica on a tuning