Akram Nadwi – Weekly Q&A 16-05-2024
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The woman in her thirties is hesitant to return home due to mental and physical oppression from her husband and mother-in-law. She advises the agent to find someone to support her finding a accommodation and report the police if needed. The importance of belief in one's own abilities and building their image is emphasized. The speaker emphasizes the need for regular prayer and volunteer practices, praying for others, and avoiding the "has" of Shaitan. The importance of education and a strong culture in the workplace is also emphasized.AI: Transcript ©
With Sheikh Akram Nadwi on every Thursday 6
pm BST.
Without further ado, we'll begin. Sheikh, we have
one private question today.
Bear bear with me, it's slightly,
a long question.
So I'll I'll pass, I'll read it out
and then you can answer inshallah.
So this girl who is a doctor got
married a few months ago.
Unfortunately, she is facing severe mental and physical
oppression
from her husband and mother-in-law.
She is currently 6 weeks pregnant, experiencing
health issues that prevent her from doing any
work. Her husband has accused her and said
that it's not his child. He physically assaulted
her, grabbed her neck last night, and even
threatened her or himself with a knife.
When she reached out to her parents for
help, her father advised her not to return
home,
suggesting that she should just adjust.
There are
these things are normal.
She feels completely alone and helpless. Her in
laws are also forcing her to do household
chores
despite her pregnancy.
She's become weak, couldn't even speak properly. She
fears for her own life and the life
of her unborn child. She is now thinking
if it is allowed for her to abort
the baby in this situation.
She also contacted her relatives if she can
stay with them for the time being.
Unfortunately,
everyone denied.
This really is, you know, no doubt and
very sad,
and there are many, many cases like that.
You know, we don't know really how to
why I always ask people when you get
married,
you know, don't stay with your in laws.
You have to ask your husband to provide
you independent accommodation. Where you live with your
husband, nobody is there. But whenever you live
with when with this parent,
so they basically want to use you and
to ask you to serve them. And, basically,
you know, they are tired of what we've
have done. So they get, you know, daughter-in-law
who's going to serve everything, and now they
can rest.
That was intentionally in in South Asia family.
And that is
exactly
what
happened.
Mhmm.
Yeah. If you could just hold the mic
a bit closer, chef.
Is that perfect?
Yeah. No. No.
That's much better. That's much better. Yeah.
Okay.
Should I repeat the answer?
No. No. I think you are fine. It's
just, it's a bit more clearer now. So
if you just carry on. Is it fine,
Nava?
Yes.
So yeah. So and I'm just advising that,
you know, whenever people get married, they have
to take the right right advice and should
not accept
to stay with
the, you know, father in the
because their intention is to ask you to
serve them. And they're restricted. They have been
tired of,
working, and now they want their their daughter-in-law
to be like a servant. So that what
they have done exactly with you.
And,
and then after that, suddenly, you know,
when you admire, you know, anger, angry, then
they abuse and all those things.
So this what happened with you. I don't
think you you you are allowed to do
abortion.
That is a very bad, you know, no
doubt.
But you have to find solution. Yeah. You
know, I don't understand why your parent cannot
see these things.
You know, it's so obvious that, you know,
you are being wronged
and, you
know, that should help you.
Otherwise, what what you can do, you can
go to the authority, you can go to
the court, and you can go to the
police. You know, be strong enough to go
to the police
and compare everything. Maybe they help you and
find that accommodation.
Because in this condition that you're dealing with
is not right. It's very dangerous.
You know, it is a danger for your
health and your baby or your mental health.
So you have to find somebody who can
help
you solve your problem or you go to
the police,
report that, and don't be scared. Reason is
because you remain scared. One day, you want
to do this. It was too late. This
is the right time. And, you know, your
parent I I I'm really surprised
that this is a time when the parent
should help. A relative should help.
So I don't know if you want to
be. If you have any friends,
ask her to help you to find accommodation.
But otherwise, the only solution I can tell
you is that you go to I'll report
to the police. Then nothing else can come
to my mind.
We'll
now take the questions in the chat box.
If any of you have a question that
you would like to ask Tashek,
please comment in the chat box and I
will then proceed to ask Tashek the questions.
The first question I'll ask, sheikh is from,
Fatihah
who says, salaam you sheikh. Could you please
explain,
the verse,
as mentioned in verse 41, Surah Al Ankabut,
the parable of those who take protectors
spider spinning a shelter and the flimsiest of
all shelters is certainly that of a spider
if only they knew. Do you have a
lot of data?
Yeah. I know this is,
really, you know, the parable that people need
to understand.
And I already have written something in English
on on this parable tool. I maybe you
didn't find it. So you could look for
that. I to explain all the details properly.
But since you have asked, I just explained
to you
that, you know,
all the houses which are built in the
world,
they are built by external materials.
Except the house, a spider that is built
really from inside. Something comes from inside the
spider.
It's so weak. So the people who worship
Allah
and people who've got a wrong
force,
these are the other force. They don't have
any,
reality on earth or outside the world. Nothing
support them. There's no no proof of them.
It is some desire from inside.
So as a spider, a house of spider
does not have any external support, it's all
from inside.
Similarly, all the desire turned by force and
people worshiped idols, you know, all this has
come from inside it. The real world
does not support any god other than that.
Nothing. There's no argument for that. No evidence
for anything. It's impossible to
if something which comes from inside
does not have supported the nature
and the figthral or the reason.
It is very, very weak. Very there's no
ground at all, really. It can any time
can fall apart.
You know, any
right argument can make it, you know, fall
in pieces. So that why has given this
example. Because people who have got a wrong
argument
of people who is worship other than Allah,
they don't have any support for their ideas
and thoughts
and whatever they do in external world. What
is happening is it is some desire from
inside
and house that is built from the inside
coming. It does not appear lost. They're very,
very weak. So that
how, either the weak or the ideal force.
But you may need to find out this
article. I'll read it until that will help
you.
The next question is by Mohammed Aqib
who asks, Salam, Sheikh, what are some of
the qualities we can understand, learn, and
imbibe from the personalities of the greatest companions
like Abu Bakr and Omar? What makes them
so unique and special?
No. This is actually a very good question.
The real thing really is
that, you know, their
personal life is very strong.
So they put their trust in the human,
you know. If Allah commands something, they do
it. You know, if a person know that
they are Allah, then they do it. And
second thing, the submission. The submission means
they obey the prophet. It
could be sometime possible that they don't understand
it.
Like, Omar Khattab al Hasan, no. He didn't
let us is to understand. He asked questions.
And once, our self has cleared his mind
and he know that it's Ramallah and from
the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasalam, then he do
it and then he surrenders.
So that what we need is a real
quality. In our time, we don't have this
thing. People can miss the prayer for any
reason.
People can misbehave a lot of this,
you know,
the girl, she asked this question about her
marriage.
So now you can see that her husband
and,
step human being, you know, to to to
help people, to be just and fair, but
nobody wants to surrender. So this is how
it happens. People do injustice, wrongdoing because they
don't want for submission. And more than that,
people have no trust
whatever he commands. They don't believe in it.
So, you know,
and so great. Even people who are after
them, you know,
and biggest, pious people. We are not even
like them.
These people, they're so pious and God fearing,
and they trust that we don't have anything
like that. So we need to build our
image. It's not knowledge. Knowledge if it helps
it in the right direction.
Knowledge itself would not be enough.
You know, people could have knowledge, but they
could be.
They don't believe in it. The belief is
something that a matter. That is what we
need to develop. When a belief comes, then
heart becomes cleaner, pure. Mind becomes cleaner, pure.
Then every actions become right. So your question
very good, but the thing is make effort
to make your belief.
Trust
in the stronger and the first solution. Or
whenever you come out
from, do it and never be lazy and
never change it.
The next question is, we have prayer apps
that tell us exactly when it's time to
pray.
What did the Sahaba do? Do we have
to pray right when the alarm goes off
on the phone, or can we pray 15
to 20 minutes before?
What's the ruling?
First thing on the story about timing of
the prayer, then we come to Sahaba.
The first thing, every prayer has got beginning
of time and end of the time.
So, like, for example, Fajr prayer, end and
first time ends when sun rises,
but the prayer starts at least 1 and
a half hour
before survive.
You have 1 half hour to do for
the prayer anytime you can do.
Similarly, Zohr prayer starts
when it will meet a decline of the
sun. You know, like Farafol in London and
area like that, these days, Zohr will start
at quarter past 1 or something like that.
That will continue until 5 or something. So
between,
this time, you can anytime,
That time of the last stars, which remains
until sunsets.
You can play any time, mother time, sunset,
and then,
you know, 1 hour or maybe a little
bit more. After that, you can pray a
shot anytime.
So
when there are 2 times, beginning time, end
time, then you can do the prayers in
anytime in between.
Though it is recommended
that you already do the prayers in the
beginning of the time. So, however, the law
on who, they were very quick. I estimate
they found out what the time is,
they do it. And they they used to
wait for the time. So like in Magari
where sunset,
they did not have, you know, wars and
something like that. So they will come to
the Masjid when we have sunset, and they'll
watch it until sunset,
then they'll pray. So every prayer they used
to make effort, they used to be before
the time.
Because the prayer was so dear to their
mind and their heart. You know, that what
should be our our way. So we are
careful to do in the beginning of the
time, but for some reason, if you're delaying
it, there's no harm,
either as you do before the end of
the time.
Especially in zone of prayer, it's a very
long time. You know, Hanafim would have some
time to be better to delay a little
bit, but not all well. Sometimes it could
be
prayer should be done as soon as possible.
It should be done that. You're looking at
the most of the
pay is between 2 times. Between the beginning
of the time and end of the time,
if you pay any term, your prayer will
be accepted.
Assalamu alaikum Shaykh. The next question is,
what
assalam. What are the best ibadah to do
for single women slash mothers if they are
unable to get married due to their tough
circumstances or weak condition like having illnesses?
You know, the thing is that people should
play all, you know, differently about us anyway,
but, now I ask a lot to help.
A lot of help is so different. To
first thing you need to do with the,
your father, Ibadha,
the father prayers.
And if you are rich enough, you have
to pay your Zakat.
When the month of Ramadan comes, you have
to fast.
And if you've got enough money to do
Hajj, then you should go and do Hajj.
These are the most important thing you do.
And if you still have
a time or a courage, then do more.
God, then at night prayer, similar prayers,
we do more. Sometimes you can also fast
the other days, like, 3 days every month,
you know, 13th, 14th, or 15th of every
Sunday calendar.
You can fast,
do some more charity,
even volunteer, but if you got enough money,
be kind to the people, help the people.
If you know how to pray, teach people
how to pray, teach
people how to read Quran, how to understand.
So there are so many things. Even helping
people, smiling to the people, right people. Oh,
this is a good way.
People should, do. The
believers are the one who,
turn to Allah in a way might turn
to
you can ask me if you see me
somewhere in the classroom. By general, I'm sorry.
This is what I have given to
you.
The next question is by Fariha who asks,
I always ask my kids to pray with
me whenever I read Salah.
They often do mischievous things which diverts my
attention.
Can I close my eyes during that time
so I have so I can have full
concentration?
Well, if if you are, like, spending time
to teach your children how to play, you
got more rewards because we're praying and also
teaching them something good. And if they play
and they do something wrong that was, desperate,
you don't worry about that.
You know, then then I can't tell your
attention.
Allah will reward you. But it is the
worst thing that you're doing already. They're making
them to pray with you. They love how
to pray, but don't close your eye because,
you know,
You
know, a right thing to do.
Keep open your eye.
Focus on the prayer. When your attentions are,
taken away, then again, force yourself up, to
your your prayer.
But, if something good is still done, don't
worry because you are doing the right thing.
You know, teaching your children how to pray
and spending time with them and, suffering, you
know, this hardship
because there's no children. It's not easy. So
don't be annoyed. Don't be angry with them.
Just stay kind and,
go to them. Inshallah, one day they will
learn and you'll see the fruit.
So be patient. That's what don't need to
change anything. Just be patient.
The next question is,
can a Muslim pray for the goodness of
other non Muslims like his or her friends
or family members who are unbelievers?
Yeah. I should pray for goodness of everybody.
You know, somebody helped or not feeling well.
And at the same time, you also pray
that,
So you can make a boat after that.
Somebody is not feeling well. So you can
just pray that you may Allah close that
person
and may Allah guide the person
It will there's no harm with that unless
somebody's enemy of Islam.
So then you are not allowed to
make this or like that. You can also
make that a mail like item. That's you
can do anyway. But, generally, people who live
with you will next you know, your neighbors
and people in your country where you live.
You know, you can make Dua for them
and ask
them and
also make Dua for their guidance for your
own guidance and for their guidance again.
The next question is by Hassan who asks,
salaam, Sheikh, that Ahmadiyya quote a supposed hadith
cited by Imam Suyuti
from ibn Abi Sheba in which Aisha radiaallahuhan
apparently said
do you know its authenticity? And if it's
authentic enough, how can one counter the claim?
No. They are not the users, you know,
things that, you know, certainly they'll be they
just they just want to, you know, follow
their opinion that you know, I don't understand
why people think it.
Means
they can't profit.
You know, if there are hadith, they could
just they need to observe this word because
the Quranic word
They don't both have the same meaning because
the reason is because some people think this
word is much better. But I I don't
really think it is any way. Anyway. Quran
was a very very clear when
when the prophet
wanted to marry
the wife of his adopted son, Zayd al
Haritha,
her name is Zaynu.
So he thought that she is wife of
his son. So how can he marry? So
then, you know, Quran made it very clear
that he's not your son. He's the you
know, you are you don't have any son
anyway.
So there are ups per se. Yeah. Could
it be possible that, you know, he he
not son. But why he needs to marry,
you know, there are so many other women
he can marry. So Allah said, he's
Allah's messenger.
He must marry because then Allah's messengers had
come
to corrupt people, to reform them, to break
the wrong customs. So he had to break
this custom. Corrupt people to conceal
a a doctor as the son. So he
had to break this custom that, you know,
a doctor's son like the not like the
son, and you can marry their wives if
they're divorced.
So then Arab could say, okay, he's a
messenger, he's a big man. But the small
prophets who come after him, they can they
can bear discussion. He does not need to
do these small things to Allah
He is the seal of all the prophets.
Nobody is going to come after him who
can tell this. So he has to do
this thing.
So the context actually is that there is
not never going to be a prophet after
him. They're the
contest. So these people lie really, and we
have no doubt
that this man who they call, Mirza Ghul
Ahmed Ayan, he was a liar, fabricated,
The next question,
is by Mohammed Sheri Khan who says, Sheikh
I
don't understand the meaning of 2 words,
I don't know which contest is like following
something
from
which means when something,
you know, very, very hot and
boils the water
to the.
Could be also people's feeling.
So I don't know what the context, but
the word is clear.
Is flowing.
Is,
I don't know what's here. If you're, that's
meaning
like a boiling.
Could it possibly be from, you know, on
the discussions around blood and where the blood,
someone bleeds,
whether the blood,
flows from from the wound or whether the
blood just stays there.
You know, we work we have to see
the work and text it. So if in
next time when you come, bring the whole,
you know, text,
you know, around that that I can see.
Next question is by Aisha who asked,
can a menstruating woman enter the Haram in
Mecca? And can she visit visit the Rawba
in Madinah?
Women are allowed to enter, you know, in
in this situation, they are allowed to
enter into.
So if you come that area and sit
there, you can see the Kaaba.
That's fine. By the Madinah Mosque, there's nothing
like that. It's either to be outside.
So I don't know really why if there's
no way, you're not going to pay anyway.
There's no need to go there. You can
I
I already said that if you can read
Quran, you can read Quran understand?
Do all these things and love will reward
you.
Entering the mosque yourself is not a hibada.
Entering to the mosque is a hibada when
you go to pray. If you're not praying,
just being inside the mosque is not an.
So I don't understand why people are so
keen to attend to the mosque of the,
to the heart if they're not going to
pray. That is the whole purpose to go
and pray. If you can't pray, then just
stay where you are or, you know, and
and do whatever I bother.
The next question is by Adnan who asks,
assalamu alaikum, doctor Nadawi.
Why in Islam does a man have to
provide and not a woman? I know it
is in the Quran, but what could be
the reason behind it? In case of necessity,
does education of a boy become more important
than a girl as he has to grow?
Obedience of a wife to her husband mean?
Is it like a child obeying her parents,
but the wife is also an adult? I
have extreme OCD and I am on medication
and I don't want to have these thoughts,
but they come anyway.
You know, your question, really, I've answered so
many times, so many courses. You know, I
I taught on the marriage and family life.
You can actually watch it as a very
detailed, and I have written this book, which
is still has to come out. If all
things are answered there.
But simple thing is,
you know, that, you know, people are working
in any
place.
So the women, when they're about to become
mother, they're they're not they got, like, a
maternity leave. So for a few weeks, they're
allowed not to work and they got they
got paid.
So, basically, it's now a thing. It's an
Islamic way easy. There is a difference between
men and women.
Women are going to be mothers. The mother
who is very important, she be respected.
And mother mother should be respected too. That
way, you know, we will have to get
protection then to get a cover of condition,
you know, expensive.
So they don't worry about anything.
So regarding their their life is very precious,
the their future of the human generation.
So, you know, you can see, like, you
know, if anywhere you are in the outside,
if something happens wrong,
people always protect the women first. Why? Because
their future and their humanity.
And because of them, the human generation continues.
So many will put their life in danger
where they will save the women. You know,
for this is natural
inside the people.
But, education is not for the purpose of
the money. Now in modern time, education has
been connected with the,
money and earning,
but that's not a problem. Education is to
make people good. So even you learn, you
understand how to have the right manner, wisdom,
thinking,
become wise.
So it's not always connected with the job.
Men and women both need to become wise.
Basically, that's the part. The purpose of education
is to make people wise.
That's the purpose. So men and women both
need to be wise. They need to learn
how to live together, how to be patient,
how to worship the Lord.
But the men also have duty to provide,
even, yourself, their self and their family. So
they have to work and then better work.
Women also can get a job, but they
don't have any such, you know, duty.
But if they have a job and they
want to help
their parent or themselves or get some charity,
or they want to husband,
their their children, they can do that, but
it's not okay to get refunded because the
duty of motherhood is much more important.
Really, it's very quiet, time consuming.
And women are in real hardship and suffering
that that to make sure take care of
them.
So that is belief I answered you. But
if you still got is not clear to
you, then find out some of my
classes that I taught in detail.
The next question is from Faraz Imran who
says, salaam, Sheikh. How do we interpret the
hadith that the sun sets between the two
horns of shaitan?
Is there evidence to support its not literal
but metaphorical?
You know, meaning basically is that, you know,
Satan wants people to worship him. So sometimes
he he puts his throne on the sea
to remember the throne of Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala. They become happy. Like, you want people,
like children.
Sometimes
they play that you want king, you want
mister, all these things, and they become
healthy. Shaitan is a curse. You know, he's
a curse.
So he wants to pretend that, you know,
he's important
to people worship him.
He told people used to worship, you know,
when sun rises
that time.
So sun, you know, always rises somewhere anyway.
So meaning at that time, Shaitan, you know,
imagine that they were speaking to him. So
he's between 2 so that why we have
to,
make effort not to make him happy. So
we a war sometimes anyway in the alibada,
but also we have to think already. Now
Shaitan wants to become happy
when we worship
that time.
So let's avoid that time.
So anytime which makes Shaitan happy or anything
that makes Shaitan
happy in this, religion,
we have to avoid that. We have to
think about, what Allah what makes Allah happy.
That way, the condition to the prayer are
more resembling the
condition for the,
angels.
Because angels obeyed the suhathullah. They don't disobeyed
me, while shaitan
disobeyed me. He repels.
So, we should not resemble those who,
you know, disobey Allah subha t'ala. You know,
what the whole Muslims, all those things.
They're different set of opinion, but whatever it
means,
the message is very clear that when sun
is rising,
don't do.
Wait until sun has risen enough, then after
that you do the prayers.
There's a question by,
Afab Hassan who says,
difference between loss of wealth and loss of
fruit is, it looks like it's the same
loss of property, wealth and money in Surat
Al Baqarah aya 1 155.
What is the difference bet what is the
meaning of the difference between loss of wealth
and loss of fruit?
They look like the same It looks like
the same as the loss of property,
wealth, and money.
So Arab people, you know, the most I
think that in
fruits and tears and all those things. And
was where they used to use it for
animals. So, like, they got sheep, caramel.
You know, these are the the you know?
So the Quran used to
differ. But,
you know, in every
language, sometimes you try to condition the people
certain words are used in the limited means.
So when Arab people used to call,
they meant, their animals. You know, the horse,
the tigers,
the sheep. But when they are samara,
they mean, you know, for agriculture products. Though
in our language,
fruits, your product. These are the things on
which the life is dependent.
The Quran mentioned, there are those on which
people used to depend. They do do not
have so much money to let go or
see. Some people have mentioned that as well,
but, generally,
these were the things on which people are
dependent.
Animals, so their plants are, of course, and,
you know, agriculture products, which.
You know, Allah's not a test. If you
have money, you have tested money, house, and
other property.
These two things are which were generally understood
by our people.
JazakAllah Khairn and Shaykh.
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