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If a Man can Beat his Wife Lightly, why can a Woman not Beat her…
Is your career. I'm so grateful to the IRS that we get this opportunity to ask you some questions. And for the first time I've seen you and I'm glad that I can ask you a simple question. I am businessmen. And one of my other my only hobby is studying religions. So one of them obviously being the Quran. So my question is fairly simple. Like, I really liked what you spoke about Aisha, that was a very wonderful thing that you said. So my question is fairly simple. I'll make it very small. But I really hope that I have the opportunity to cross question you after you answer me.
On your answer.
So we see in Muslim, book number four, number two and two, seven, wherein it says a part of it that is, he stuck me I shot on the chest, which caused me pain.
Further down, if you look at Miska Masabi, volume to page number 690, repeated again in Muslim book number nine, number 3506. A part of it I'll just get to the point where an Omar is trying to say to the prophet or right rather trying to make him laugh, he says, messenger of God, I wish you had seen the daughter of Korea, where she asked me for extra money, and I got up and slapped her on the neck. God's Messenger laughed and said, they are around me, as you see, asking for extra money. Abu Bakar then got up went to Aisha and slapped her on the neck. And uma did the same to have sir, now we see something of a pattern coming in. Then if you just jump to Quran chapter four, verse 34. And those
wives you fear may be rebellious, admonish, banish them to the couches and beat them. Now, as I understand from your talk, and that there is equal punishment for both man and woman. I'm not contending whether they should be beaten tonight. My point is, what is the right of the woman if the man is wrong? Because he gets to beat her up?
Right that's a very good question and I give you the right to cross question me after the answer is granted.
The brother quoted hadith of a Muslim and rich Catherine wasabi.
Do you know the relationship between Hafsa and Alomar? Well, I've not really got to the point that much I'm still studying Do you know the relationship of Aisha and Abu Bakar? May Allah will visit them both her father if I'm not mistaken? That's right.
I'm asking you a question.
Are you married?
Yes, yes. Do you have a daughter? Two of them? Two of them fine. I get to go to heaven. Sorry. I get to go to heaven. No. If you bring them up correctly, I remember love and compassion then you will go to heaven.
But it's getting just but that is only righteous deed without demand you can't enter Jannah so for you to go to heaven besides upbringing your two daughters correctly you have to follow the laws of the Quran and the Thalia didn't be a believer I understand we'll discuss after answering I understand after answer inshallah. I'm asking a simple question. Suppose the daughter if you also jump from a 10 storey building what will you do? I'll stop
if she's a diamond What will you do? Point Yeah, so you get the point very good. Israel Magellan no other arm to go on to fly like Superman.
That you are preventing me from being your Superman. What do you do? Well, I'll I'll stop or obviously we'll use leopard or not. If if required isn't known to jump What do you do?
Well, I can ask the other way around when
I'm asked me. If you want to jump from the 10 story, I will hit her if required not normally you will arrive at the Superman backbone whenever nega
de Malaga up there okay that would view me on the fly. My
father is cool to be kind. Yes. Now of a beloved prophet masala Salam said,
Anyone who does not love Allah and His Messenger more than his own life. He's not a Muslim.
who does not love Allah and His Messenger more than his own life, he's not a Muslim. So there are many occasions that happen, that sometimes they were disrespectful to the husband, not a normal husband, Prophet, Mama selasa. There were many occasions not of an occasion. There are many Oklahoma malapropism and other other mobile carmello blew them when they came to know that one of the wives has caused pain to the Prophet. They were the father in law of the Prophet, but they love the Prophet, not only more than the daughter, they love the Prophet.
within their own life, there are many occasions which occasion you're referring to, I don't know. There were occasions when they came to know that my daughter has caused pain to the Prophet of Allah, how dare she does it they being father, they have the right to slap,
not you and me. For us. They are the water Momineen they are the muscles of believers, but they are. They were human beings, even the wife of the Prophet, though they were wives of the Prophet, they are the best examples yet they were human beings. And they did make mistakes, like the IRS it by the carry through and decides after force, do they want equal rights?
There was enthusiasm chapter 33 where the wives of the prophet tells the Prophet Why don't you give us the luxury of this world, the objective? Why are we undergoing such a life of poverty? So Allah says the revelation, if you want this world, I will grant it to you, but you will not get Jana.
The verse of the Quran says, I will free you that means if you want, I will let you go free DeVos not that he divorced. And you can get the luxury of this world but you won't get heaven in the Hereafter. And the wives of the Prophet repented and asked for forgiveness and ALLAH forgive them. So here also it's in context. And going against the profit is more bad than jumping from top.
Dumping from top your daughter will kill ourselves that's it.
But going again, the profit is no bad.
Did you get the answer, sir, but my question still stands. I understood your point. I haven't complete maths. Okay. You ask the question. No problem. My My question is pretty simple. I haven't completed my answer yet, brother. All right. Because I know your question was in two parts. Then you call it the verse of the Quran Student Chapter Four is 34. Yeah, and said about why beating on to complete that before you answer that he says I can answer half only answered one part of a question regarding Hadith. The second part is also on the site chapter four verse number 34, exactly after the verse that were recited by the curry afterwards, which says Raja one Munna Allah Nyssa that the
men are the protectors of the woman. The verse says that if the disobedient
if the disability then don't talk to her
after that, don't add the bed then that'll be covered is done ABA ms betta lightly, the Arabic word is beat lightly darba a boss may Allah be pleased with him said when you beat your wife, you should not be done the face. Point number one point number two when you beat your wife, there should be no mark left on the body.
And he gave an example beating with a miswak miswak is toothbrush.
In modern way I will say beating with a handkerchief.
handkerchief. Right if you beat your wife with a handkerchief.
It is symbolic. It is not vice bashing. By bashing in around Islam. By bashing means one shot on the face hit so hard so that the mark remains she will remember you for the next one week or two weeks. And Islam wife bashing is prohibited. It is not about Ms. betta lightly that means first you tell her she's wrong. You had Monisha don't share the bed with the ultimatum last warning. betta lightly. Now, what I said for any crime committed the punishment is same.
Punishment the same? Beating lightly is not a punishment as a warning.
Can you do the opposite?
Can the daughter hit the father? What if your daughter slaps you? Will you like it? Now? Why? Equality? let me commend Manson.
You talk about equality. If your daughter's happy, will you like it? No, no. There may be occasion when you get lunatic when you become very old. And if you want to jump out then she's happy. I would agree with that.
Though you said no. I'm agreeing. I understand. I'm helping you. You understand what it is you understand me? And now I'm helping you. Okay? If you grow up and become a lunatic, you become senile. You want to jump from the story of Obamacare or don't do father she may have to slap you she is doing in good faith except it right now here where a husband is giving a warning to the wife. If the wife does the same. What will the retaliation be? Imagined suppose the big the massive person bodybuilder comes and asked Masha with you if an all small man come maybe you hit him. A measure person 104 snigger comes and tells you something we need him.
Will you let him know? Though you may love gods but unfortunately I don't know. Why. Similarly, since Allah says in the previous verse, man has been given more strength than the woman. So a physical warning, a symbolic warning a man can give to a woman a woman can hear from a man
a woman can there are other things.
There are other things you can do. Such as such as for example, if she has to
Look food in the house.
It's the duty of the husband to get
market. She can refuse to cook. If you don't get market I will not cook chicken object
She can object saying I will not cook. It's an objection
on our part a for example, is not offering Salah offering Salah is important. She can object
nicely with love
and affection, my dear husband, Peter for Salah, then she may get a little bit angry also no problem. Getting angry with her husband is not allowed. Unless it for the sake of Alandra full
but not physical. She can't get physical. If she gets physical, they will retaliation, it will never work.
Imagine your wife slapping you in a lever, fine you method. And so what do you realize this is a symbolic beating what the Western media has done. They portray hazards by bashing, whereby bashing you know that is also so because of that Islam is the best way of life. It shows you how to lead life with your wives also, hope that answers the question. If you have any kind of question You're most welcome, brother. Yes, actually two points on that. Primarily, the first thing that is said is that ABA, which means basically tapping. And as I understand from the hands who are dictionary,
the it comes from the word eat rib. And now if you look at it, the Arabic word is used in two ways. One to strike up a poem The word drape which from which the word darba is taken out.
The first is to strike up a poem and a second, which is used well times in the Quran. For action of strike, strike off, Strike Up, up, OEM, or second,
strike up a poem, The metaphorically. Second part is the physical action of striking, it's used again in Surah 812, wherein it about an angel strike off their heads strike up the very tips of their fingers, the same word is used. So how can the same word be interpreted there as lightly? But here as well question the second part? Very good question. Very good question. The second part is that if we come back to Sahih Bukhari Volume seven number 715. Again, the respectable I truly mean that respectable woman, Aisha, a great scholar, I read about her narrated, Aisha said that a lady came wearing a green veil and complain to her that is Aisha and showed her a green spot on a skin
caused by beading. It was the habit at that time for women to support each other means when they get beaten up so you support each other. So when Allah's messenger came, I just said, I have not seen any woman suffering as much as a believing woman. Look, her skin is greener than her clothes.
That was my second part for a second but around so first and first part on the second, no problem. She's complaining to the profit that somebody has done injustice to her. It doesn't anything the Prophet agree with it.
If someone had the injustice read ahead in some other Hadith, the prophet meant justice to it doesn't say that someone bitter and the Prophet agreed with it. Correct. She says reporting that maybe there is injustice done to a woman that said the moment is complaining means in disagreeing with it. She didn't profit out a very good thing I saw that the woman were beaten up. The moment she's complaining means the wife has an HR Mala BPS disapproved of it. So the lesson we get from this is no one should beat the woman such a way that she becomes green. But sir, see, the exact statements he makes is that I have not seen any woman that's Aisha herself. It's not my
interpretation. I'm not seeing any woman suffering as much as the believing woman. So we see at the time of Muhammad, that women were really in very, very bad shape, even though you know, a hadith is saying I have not seen a person a believing person that has not been suffering. What was the suffering from his master tortured him and said Don't say there's one God and I will leave you hasn't Bilal Mala BPS with him on the desktop neither agree to die he will say I will not denounce Allah. I will keep on saying Lila illAllah Muhammad Rasul Allah, there is no God but Allah and Prophet Muhammad is the messenger. He's taking the mean. That means if I say hasn't beloved is a
believer who is being tortured that does not mean that what act that being done has Bilal Mala BPS with him is right it
He's wrong, but he's a believer who's taking the pain in this context, we have to see the context and go to the Shara.
Yeah, for the for the body. And what was the woman? Was she What was she who tortured or was it the master? Was she a slave woman? You have to go to the shutter? I'm not I'm not this. I'm telling you what the answer can be. You have to go to the SRA and find out. Why was she who hit her who betta did Jasmine do was has been a believer. There are 10,000 reasons. But just because excuse me in Miska tal Messiah.
Volume Two in the shaker. Yes. What I would like you to do, there are so many people waiting at all the mics. Precisely concisely I'd like you to put your question in a few words. And then close because you got such a big sheaf of papers. There are many people I see waiting with small slips. So we cannot allow this whole thing to go on. This is not a debate session. It's a question session. I want you to put your question in the next four sentences, let Dr. Zakir answer so that all the many ladies standing there here also get a chance. We have exactly one art 12 minutes left, we have occupied 20 minutes already, brother. Initially you asked to question answered. You said I want to
counter what counter you gave him the counter. You asked him one more question. I don't mind answering your 100 questions. But in this rule one question at a time go beyond the queue, no problem. You asked two questions if the answer you send out a counter question with the counter question you asked him one more question. So you know, I'm very keen I don't mind. I would love after finishing in come in the cabin. And inshallah I will answer all your questions I want to ask you after I answer your question, what will you do? Will you believe in the religion others I believe? Yes or no? Are you there to answer the question? Well, it's not just this one point. There
are many, many more I'll answer inshallah Allah, how many other 10 2050 100 How many? Well, we can sit on that? How many approximately? Well, there are many more. Many 1020 100,000 10,000 How many do you have now in your mind? Well, I do have how many? 1020 30? How many? probably quite a few, maybe quite a few is almost five or 10? Approximately, I don't maybe 100 Questions 100 Questions you have brother. After the session is over. We sit together. Okay. Write down all the 100 questions. Inshallah. Inshallah.
I will try and answer every one. Okay. I request to, we'll spend the whole night together.
I don't mind because you're a seeker of Truth.
And I'm also a seeker of Truth. And my job is to try and clarify the truth. Not that I'm a scholar. I will try and answer all the 100 questions, but I doubt whether we'll be able to write 100 questions, I doubt come into a main counter question whether that will be basically counter counter question of yours is that Daraa has got two meanings. One is type of the head. You asked me that? How do you come to know which is correct? Correct. Exactly. In the counter question. Don't ask one more question. That means are breaking the rule, sir, I'm just refuting what you said no refuting.
See, you asked a counter question. counter question was of that ABA has got meaning of striking. That is the counter question. In that counter question you asked one more question.
You can't ask one more question on the question. You can have one counter question, but there was a fresh question that you asked. Now coming to your question of data usage striking I agree with you, how do you come to know what time it is lightly beating? One time it is
striking of the head? You know, the verse in the Quran is there
instead of Miriam,
chapter 19 147.
Mary, may Allah be presenter, she says, When Archangel Gabriel says that you shall have a son. So she says, How shall I have a son when no man has touched me?
How shall I have a son when no man has touched me? Right? If you go to the lava, your hands were dictionary.
All lanes I believe read my dictionaries, all your internet. It's not difficult. You go on the internet and type your 100 question against Islam. 100,000 very easy. Not that a personal research. If you had done this well, you'd have come to know who was whose father and who was a husband and mother everything. But you want the internet to get this very easy. Now, the Arabic word Messiah has got two minutes physical touch, it means sexual touch. So when Mary mela BPS with her she says How shall I have a son when no man has touched me? It is understood it is not physical touch, it is sexual touch, correct? Yes. Similarly, there are several verses in the Quran. Now when there are two
three meanings, even both can be correct. Or one can be correct. To have more details you go to the Hadith, Hadith in the commentary of the verse of the Quran,
Maybe the same word has got two meaning in that words. It means meaning number one in
The second was in mini number two hadith is a commentary. So when we go to the hadith of this surah nisa chapter four verse 34, talking about that Abba Dead The Prophet said, Do not beat on the face,
do not leave a mark beat like a toothbrush, I gave the answer but he was so much concentrating on the notes you have that you forward Mansa if you have heard my answer, that if there are two three meanings, all meanings cannot be right.
Maybe one is right, maybe two, right? Maybe all three are right, they have to go back to the Prophet. The Quran says to Allah, Allah Rasool obey Allah and obey the messenger. So when there are two three meanings, you have to go to the Hadith and find out what did the Prophet mean by that word. So there when say spectrum then it means takes off your it means take lightly. So therefore, if you know the supplement is the commentary of the Quran, and the Hadith, without authentic hadith, you cannot understand Islam. So a prophet said, it means beat lightly like beating with a toothbrush don't beat on the face, don't leave a mark on the body. So these are the guidance given by Rasul
therefore it is obligatory that besides the Quran you have to follow the authentic hadith hold down to the question and inshallah I'll wait for you.
After 10 o'clock in the Speaker's lon inshallah. Yes, brother shaker. Thank you and since we have two daughters, you said you have two daughters and you want sorry, and one son, son, there's no Hadith in the Tamil degree Jana here. If you become the fire son, and if he prays for you Inshallah, he will be a part of the Janna what I want, I want to see to it that besides good deeds, you in faith,
faith is one of the important criteria to go to Jana, and since you have an urge to go to Jana to Paradise, inshallah I pray to Allah subhanaw taala me he make me the Zarya the pathway to take Regina inshallah