Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 02 – L030B

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Al-Baqarah 221-228 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 221-222

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Lesson number 30. So total belcarra i a 221 to 228.

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What does

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it mean and do not marry polytheistic women until they have believed

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in the verses that follow commands about family life, such as marriage, and divorce, and the personal relationship, the intimate relationship between a husband and wife are mentioned. Their detailed

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Islam faces great importance on family life, especially the relationship between the husband and wife. Because the family is the basic unit of the society, if the family is okay, if the family is proper, if the relationship between the husband and wife is okay, then the rest of the society is also going to be okay.

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The Islam of the family means the Islam of the society and the facade of the family means facade of the entire society.

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We see that marriage in Islam is not just about enjoyment. It's not just about fulfillment of one's physical desires, or attaining some temporary benefit. And then moving on know

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when a man and woman come together, there are certain duties and responsibilities that are laid upon both.

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Why?

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Because both the husband and wife are to live together in the same house. And there has to be peace and harmony between the two.

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Therefore, certain responsibilities have been placed upon both the husband and wife so that the family can live in peace and by large, the society can also be peaceful.

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And this is why we have been given clear guidelines regarding marriage, especially about choosing the spouse.

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For example, a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam explains to us that don't go home Allah to lialda a woman is chosen for marriage for four reasons. Lee marry her for her wealth while he has a visa for her social status. While he gem idea for her beauty, while he Dini her and for her religion, felt for be there to deem teddy bear to darker, so marry the religious woman, may your hands be filled with sand.

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So a woman could be married for different reasons. But what is the best reason what is the most important reason why a woman should be chosen because of her religion.

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Because the more religious, the more obedient a person is, to a loss of data, the more careful he or she will be towards fulfilling his obligations, the duties and the rights of the other.

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And remember that this heaviness does not just apply to when searching for a wife, but it also applies when searching for a husband.

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We see that many times we have a very fairytale image of marriage happily ever after. And happily ever African only be possible when both are on the same page

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when both share their venues, when both share their principles, and both give the rights of each other.

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So this is why the command has been given over here. That one Thank you. Hello mushy Cathy hacker you mean

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do not marry polytheistic women until they believe

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because a person who does not have Dean or a man who does not have faith, then a Muslim a believer should not marry them.

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He should choose the person who has a man.

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So let's look at these verses.

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Left. Thank you. left over here is for prohibition.

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So it's a prohibition. You all Muslims are not allowed. Latin key who do not marry you are prohibited from me.

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The word Thank you who is from the reflectors noon gaff have from the word Nika.

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And nica means to marry. It is marriage.

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Literally, NACA means of them. It means to unite, do things together, to join to collect two things together. This is the literal meaning of the word nigger.

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And the word nigga. It actually means GMR.

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It actually means sexual intercourse.

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Is the literal meaning of the word nigga.

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But then the word is also used for the act of nigga the marriage contract. Why?

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Because only if two people are married, are they allowed to have sexual intercourse?

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So the word nigga actually means GMR it actually means sexual intercourse but it is also used for academica.

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It is also used for the marriage contract.

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What is the marriage contract?

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The marriage contract is a legal contract that is between a man and the guardian of a woman

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who has this contract between the man and woman okay. Remember that? It is a contract between the man meaning the husband and the wives guardian.

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And it is this contract through which both become hallel for each other.

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Both become halaal for each other meaning they may live together there is no veil between them they become the best for each other, as we have learned earlier that husband and wife are the best for each other.

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So let Thank you who do not marry meaning all Muslim men do not marry who are mostly cat wishek women.

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The word mostly cat is the plural of mush Liga.

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And wish Rica is a feminine of mushrik. And who is mushnik? One who does shake

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so much the cat women who do [???].

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So don't marry women who do shake the polytheistic women.

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Now what does the word shake me?

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Shake is from the refactors sinn vaka and CIC is to associate partners with Allah.

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Either in worship, that a person worships others besides Allah along with Allah or instead of Allah

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or in different ways.

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As we have studied earlier inshallah you will study more details in a pita,

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that you trick is to associate partners with Allah either in his or Buddha in Riba in lulea, considering someone else to be Illa in rubia, considering or believing someone else as the creator, or in the names and attributes of Allah.

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So who is the most sick person?

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Much that person is one who associates partners with a lot.

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And the word Muslim is also used for those who don't believe in any revealed religion.

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It is also a term that is used for who those people who don't believe in any revealed religion, what is it revealed religion, Islam,

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and the religion that a Lost Planet Allah sent down, people changed it, some change it into Judaism, others change it into Christianity. So mushnik is a term basically that is used for other than Muslims, Christians and Jews.

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It is a term that is used for who

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other than Muslims, Christians and Jews, by large, and there are other exceptions, such as sabians, the mundanes, the sabio, that we learned earlier, however, mainly it's Muslims, Christians and Jews other than them or who wish.

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Now, the question is that, if you look at it, the Jews or the Christians still solution, isn't it? For example, the Christians they believe in reincarnation and they worshipping they consider him to be God. They consider them to be Son of God.

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Similarly, we'll learn about the who some of them said, crusade is the son of Allah. So what is that?

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So yes, the people of the book, they do commission. However, the rules concerning the people of the work are slightly different,

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which is why the term mushnik does not apply to them.

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For them, the word kitabi Lupita is used.

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mushrik is like someone from the people of McCain the time of ignorance, someone who worships idols. Okay.

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Similarly, if there is a person who claims to be a Muslim who is a Muslim, but as we know that with all the innovations that are very prevalent in the Muslims, if there is someone who is involved in some sort of [???], we're not going to give the label mushnik to him.

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We're going to say that he has he commits stripper, we're not going to give the label mushrik to him.

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Okay,

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so let them keyhole mushfiqur do not marry Muslim women had their young men until they believe.

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Notice the word you mean there's a shutdown the noon isn't it?

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This shutdown the noon? What does the shutdown on electricity

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There are two letters, right? So the first letter is off the root. What's the root Hamza noon email.

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The second noon is our feminine.

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I want you to notice this over here, because a lot of words are going to come, which are going to have this noon at the end which indicate feminine plural,

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you may know means they believe you minute, means the women believe.

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So this noon at the end indicates feminine, and it's called noon. nisswa.

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So let me

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tell you men do not marry them until they believe why.

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Because if a person does so, if a person marries a Muslim woman, if a man marries a mushrik, woman, then what's going to happen?

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He is only going to do one of two things, what are they?

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That first of all, he is going to compromise his religion. Either, he's going to compromise his religion, his values, so that the relationship can work.

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For example, if the wife wishes to go to the temple, what is he going to do, he's going to have to drive whether maybe he's going to go participate with her, maybe he's going to have to go with it. Similarly, if she wishes to have some idols in her house for worship, he's going to have to allow that. So either he's going to end up compromising his religion, his values, so that the relationship can work. Or because of the differences, there will be a constant strife, a constant clash between the husband and wife, which will not allow a healthy relationship, which will not promote a healthy relationship.

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Why? Because the heat and shake Islam and they're completely different, just as a night and day, just as the east and west, they're completely different.

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They cannot be the same, they cannot coexist, they cannot be the same, a person cannot have [???] and Islam together.

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So a mystic, and a Muslim, cannot be married together. Why? Because they're completely different.

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And because they're completely different. Either they will have to compromise their faith in order for them to coexist, or they will have to live with constant strife with constant fights and differences, which will make their life very difficult.

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And we know that marriage is a source of sukoon.

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Marriage is what brings comfort and peace to a person.

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And if marriage is what is making his life very difficult, then what's the purpose of that marriage.

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So, we see that when it comes to acleda, when it comes to belief, when it comes to values when it comes to faith, then both the man and woman have to be at the same page, they have to be the same. Why? Because other differences can be ignored.

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For example, differences in language differences in culture, differences in preference of different foods are different colors or different styles, or different things they can be ignored. Why? Because they change over time. And a person can live without them.

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But religion is a part of a person. Faith is a part of person. What did we learn a man is a man is what is in the heart. It is proven by the actions as well. And the tongue. So what is in the heart is going to come out and the actions in the actions are going to contradict then How can two people live together? How can there be harmony between the two?

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So let thank you very much decad had the human do not marry the mystic women until they believe.

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And if a person compromises his team, he says okay, fine, I love this person, I cannot live without her. Doesn't matter, I will stop going to the masjid. Or I will let her raise them. However she wants, not as Muslims, but however she wants. Okay, what's going to happen? He's going to lose his Lumia.

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And even if he doesn't join the dunya in the Hereafter, the relationship is going to cut off from the moment of death. And they're going to be enemies to each other in the hereafter.

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So do not marry them until and unless they believe.

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So we see here that the prohibition of marrying polytheists is clearly given.

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It's clearly prohibited. It's clearly forbidden to marry someone who is mushy. Unless of course, if they believe

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and if they don't believe, then what does Allah say? Well Am I

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On minaton

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and surely a slave woman she is hired on she has much better. mushy cotton than a polytheistic woman.

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A slave believing woman is much better than a mosaic woman.

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Well, our job is good, even if she pleased you who pleased you, the mystic woman please do.

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The word Emma is from the root directory is Hamza meanwell. And Emma is the feminine of

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who isn't a slave, and is used for a male slave. And the word Emma is used for a female slave.

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And others say that the word Emma is not just used for a slave woman, but it is used for a woman, whether she's free or not.

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Just as you may have heard the name amatola. What does it mean save of Allah doesn't mean that she's actually a slave. No, she's free, but at the same time, she's a slave of Allah, just as any other person is a slave of Allah.

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So, some say that ultimate Minato means believing slave woman. And other say that amateur movement means just believing woman, whether she's free or not, whether she's a slave or not.

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So the believing woman, she is much better than me, shaker.

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shaker is a singular of Michigan.

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One Oh rg.com. Our job ethical is from the root letters. I'm Jean, but

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we did the word you're a Jew buka Kung Fu, the word the statement of a particular person, it pleases you.

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So, our job, your job is to please to amaze, do arouse feelings of attraction and likeness in someone. And basically, our job is to attract someone to the level of amusement,

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to attract someone to the level of amazement that they're not just attracted. But they're amazed. They're excited, they're pleased, they're very impressed.

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And your job can be done through anyway. It can be done through words, it can be done through statements, that, for example, somebody docks and you're very amazed, you're very impressed by their speech. And you like them because of the way that they talk.

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Similarly, it could be because of a person's money, that you're just amazed by the money that a person has. And you like them, because they're very rich, they give you good gifts.

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Similarly, it could be because of a person's beauty, that they're very beautiful. They're very handsome, very beautiful, very pretty. And it's their beauty that attracts you. It's their beauty that makes you like them.

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So over here, law says that the slave woman, or believing woman, she is much better than a Muslim woman. Even if you love the Muslim woman,

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no matter how much the mystic woman attracts you, no matter how much you like her matter how much you're impressed by her, no matter how much you admire her.

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Because of her wealth, because of her beauty because of her family because of her education, because of her anything whatsoever, no matter how much you like her, no matter how ideal she may seem,

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but still do not married.

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So we see over here, that the best quality that a person can have is even the best quality that a person can have is a man. Therefore, a man is to be given preference.

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Because even if a person is a slave, she's uneducated, she doesn't have any wealth. She doesn't have any status. She's maybe very poor. She's maybe not that fun. She doesn't have that much experience, you cannot relate with her mentally on the same level. But because she has a man, she is much better than the mystic woman who may have many other qualities that you're impressed by.

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So the best quality that a person can have is a man. Therefore, the quality of a man is going to be given preference over any other quality.

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We learn from a hadith in Sahih Muslim in which the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said at dunya Mata on the life of this world is a delight. It's a temporary enjoyment, it's a delight. Well, hieromartyr is dunya and not too slowly.

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And the best of the delights of this earthly life is a righteous woman is a righteous wife. So the woman

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Who has the man, the woman who is righteous, even if she lacks worldly status, even if she likes beauty, even if she likes education,

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even if she likes anything of this dunya still, she is the best Mudhar that a person can have. Why? Because she has a man

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because she worships her.

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Because she is loyal to her. And if she is loyal to her, she will be loyal to you.

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To the slave woman, because she's a believer, she's much better, therefore give her preference.

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Then Allah says, One, I don't care one machine, and do not give in marriage, the polytheistic man,

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notice the word don't care who it has a llama on the tongue, the word that we had previously was less than you with a photo on Twitter. And there is a difference between the two.

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Let Thank you who means do not marry, let don't care who means do not give in marriage, do not give in marriage, do not get someone married. So over here, the address is to the guardians of the Muslim women,

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the addresses to the guardians of the Muslim women. Because as we learned earlier, that nikka is a marriage contract between who the men and the women, the guardian of the woman, because a woman cannot just go marry herself. It's her Wali, who will marry her off to a particular person.

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So over here now a lot of dresses the men, he addresses the earlier of the women, that you should not give your Muslim women in marriage to who to them wish the key men

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to understand the difference. First the address was to the men, you all Muslim men should not marry mistake women. Now the addresses to the men meaning the earlier of the women that do not give your Muslim women in marriage to who didn't wish they

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wish you can as you know as a Florida wish they

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had the you know, until they have believed

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previously the word was your min because it was about mushfiqur now it is you know because it is about wish he came until they believe.

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So we see that the guardians are being addressed. The parents are being told, do not give your women do not give your daughters in marriage. To those people who do shake.

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Do not give in marriage who your daughters to those people who do shake.

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So we say that a man can do his own nikka but a woman cannot do her own nikka

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the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said lanica have elaborately there is no Nika except with a Wali.

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There is no nikka except with a Willie.

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So the only error being told do not give your own daughters in marriage. Do the mistake men

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hotter you know until they believe.

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So of course once they believe, then don't have an ego problem. Once they have become Muslim, then give your daughter's and marriage to them.

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Many times it happens that a person who was a non believer before he converts to Islam. And just because he's a convert, what do people do?

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They don't prefer to marry them. Or they don't prefer to give their daughters and marriage to them. Why? Because they were previously non believers. But what does Allah say? How do you know until they believe? Once they have believed then there should be no problem? They're believers, no ego problem. What our ultimate meaning and surely a slave man which slave man the one who is mean the one who believes he is higher on he is much better. Men wish they can then a polytheist man well our job even if he pleases you, even if you like the mushrik man, even if you think that he is ideal for your daughter because he's educated, because he has worldly status because he has money still give

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your daughter in marriage to who to the one who has been because the one who has a man has value and the one who does not have a man does not have value.

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And if a person does give in marriage, his own daughter do a mistake man. It is as if he is throwing his own daughter into higher

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because what is the is a hula aka Tarun Illa no these people who does what I call refer to the mushrik men and women

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They call you to the fire. So if you marry them, if you marry your own child to them, it is as though you have thrown your own daughter into the fire.

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And we see that a marriage that is contracted between a mushrik person and a believer is not considered Nika.

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It is not valid in Islam. Between Who? A Muslim and a Muslim.

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It is not nikka it is Xena. It is a life of Xena, not of marriage. Because over here Clearly, the prohibition has been given. Let them be who latunski who had their human heart the human condition is of a man. Because Allah aka the owner, Elena, these people they call to the fire. What does anybody call to the fire? Do they verbally call to the fire? Do they verbally invite to the fire? No. They say come marry me. We'll live a happy life. I love you. You love me. That's it, we'll be happy forever. So how is it that they're calling to the fire? How is it that they're calling to the fire, they're calling to that which will take you to fire.

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They're calling you to ship which will take you to fire because it is not possible that a man and woman are married and they don't influence each other. It's not possible. They influence each other. They affect each other. They affect each other's actions, they affect each other's personalities. So it's not possible that you live with him or her and you don't get influenced by shake. The shape doesn't affect you. It's not possible.

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So they invite you to fire. They invite you to that which will lead you to fire.

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And also when a person marries a mushrik. Obviously, what is he going to do? He's going to compromise on this theme. When you compromise on Dean what's going to happen? He's going away from the team. He's going to end up disobeying Allah, which will result in the hellfire.

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Well, luckily Andrew iljin and Allah invites to paradise. Allah calls all of you to Jenna, how to the Quran, one more Pharaoh and also the forgiveness mean he invites you to forgiveness, the evening he by his permission.

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So when Allah commands you to marry those people who believe only then he is calling you to what he is calling you to gentlemen. He is calling you to forgiveness. How? Because when you marry a believer, then that believer is going to help you indeed that believer is going to make you successful in being that believer is going to help you practice your deen which is why preference should be given to them and not anything else.

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We see that when a husband and wife are together upon it, they support each other. They wake each other up for Salah they remind each other of Salah

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they remind each other of praying to Allah. They remind each other of reciting the Quran. So they help each other live a righteous life.

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As I mentioned that Hadees to you that this dunya has a matar and the best matar that a person can have is a righteous wife. Why a righteous companion? Because he is going to help you she's going to help you remain on your deen. We learn from a hadith that is in Muslim Ummah, that may Allah bless the man who gets up during the night to pray. May Allah bless that man who wakes up during the night to pray, and he wakes up his wife. And if she refuses to get up, he sprinkles water on her face. And may Allah bless the woman who gets up during the night to pray and wakes up her husband. And if he refuses sprinkles water on his face. Why? Because both are helping each other will be a lot. Both

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are helping each other worship.

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If you think of it, if it's a pushy person, that's a person who's not in the scene. And if you sprinkle water on their face, how are they going to react? And if you try to wake up during the night to pray, are they going to that you? Probably not they won't be happy.

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So Allah invites to Jana, Dima Farah how by telling you to marry only those people who believe.

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Let's listen to the first

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ends with it and he clearly explains his I mean, his commands for hula Nancy for the people why there are lomita karoun, so that they remember if the Quran is from VIXX? And what does that mean to remember, or to mention something? And that of course, means to remember a lesson. What does it mean? To remember a lesson that a person has taken and not forget it.

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Also the core is to accept a reminder to take a lesson to accept a reminder that is given to a person.

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So Allah mentions his commands to you, he explains them clearly over here, so that you can accept them.

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Notice how the reason is given behind not marrying mushy people. And what is that, that they will call you to fire, you will end up in fire, if you live with them.

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As for marrying wishek men and women, we know that a Muslim man is not allowed to marry a Muslim woman. And a Muslim woman is not allowed to marry a Muslim man. Both the Muslim man and woman are forbidden from marrying a mystic person. But as for the people of the book, the Jews and the Christians, there is some permissibility. And what is that, that a Muslim man can marry a woman from the people of the book. But a Muslim woman cannot marry a man from the People of the Book. What's the evidence for that? The I end of

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it stated in the Quran clearly, that the more sonet the chaste women from among the People of the Book are permissible for Muslim men. To me.

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The question may arise, why is it that a Muslim woman cannot marry someone from the people of the book? Why?

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Because men is the boss, he's the CO one. And he is going to affect her. He is going to affect the children at the end of the day. It's his decision that is implemented.

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If you think of it, a Muslim man believes in the messengers of the Jews and Christians. So if he marries a woman from the alligator, he is going to respect her faith, he's going to respect her messengers. But on the other hand, if a Muslim woman who believes in Mohammed serrulata, Salah, marries a person who does not believe in Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam, is he going to respect her faith? No, not necessarily.

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Women are generally more emotional, weaker compared to men and they submit, they just want to please their husband. And many times they will sacrifice and sometimes it may go up to the point of sacrificing their religion.

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Will you be you know it nurse or lomita? Calm?

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And remember that Christian or Jewish women, the condition for them is more sonet

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or sonet is chaste.

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And why is the contract between a man and the woman's guardian for the protection of the woman that she's not alone? There's somebody with her because many times what happens that a person would go marry a woman and he will cheat her he will not give the mother to her. But she has some male relatives behind who are going to make sure that she's treated properly. Okay, so it's for her own protection.

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We see that there are many commands in Islam that apparently seem against women, but they are in fact for the protection of the woman. And inshallah the next comment that we're going to study that is also for the protection of women.

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With aluna and they asked you, meaning the Sahaba the companions, they asked the Prophet sallallahu Sallam about what

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I need to know healed about

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menstruation

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they asked the Prophet sallallahu Sallam about menstruation. Why? Because there is no higher. There is no shyness when it comes to the matters of religion,

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when it comes to worshipping Allah subhanaw taala.

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Yes, we should be decent, we should be appropriate. But if these issues were not clear about them, then it can affect every bed.

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So therefore, they asked the Prophet Salama medicine about menstruation.

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The word Mahela is from the root letters had Yeah, but

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and the word my heel is understood in two ways. First of all, my heel is understood as a Muslim. Remember the word Muslim, the main word from which other words are derived, just as sub proof. Amen. So my heel is a Muslim. And mahila means menstruation period.

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And it is from the Ruth address hi elbowed and others they have elbowed, which literally means to flow.

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And if you look at it, the menstrual blood, it begins to flow, and it ends without the control of the woman.

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Other things are extracted from the body, a person does have control over it, he can delay, he has some control over it. But as her menstrual blood, a woman does not have any control over its flow over its beginning and always ending.

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So how to flow because it flows by itself and it seizes by itself it starts and stops by itself. So mohib is menstruation, the blood that flows out of a woman in specific days by itself and it is of certain characteristics. It is of specific characteristics as well.

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Secondly, the word Mihail is understood as its mover,

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what does it mean by that

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a noun that describes the place or time of an action. Just as a word mush, what does that mean? The place or time of rising of the sun mllib the place or time of setting of the sun.

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So similarly mahila is the place or time of hail.

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It is the place or time of menstrual blood flow.

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This is what my heel is.

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Just as a word my beat is the place of spending the night mckeel is a place of Lula likewise my heel is a place or time of help.

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As for the time, it is the time when a woman is having her period. And as for the place it refers to the vagina.

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So yes, aluna aka I never healed. They ask you about mahube.

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Now what was this question? This question is not a medical one, or an obstetric one, but rather, it is about the limits of sexual contact the limits of sexual intercourse while a woman is menstruating.

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That To what extent is sexual contact allowed with a woman while she is on her period?

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To what extent is it permissible?

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Now why did this a habit ask this question? We see that the people of the book, the Jews and the Christians, they were upon extremes regarding this issue.

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The Jews on one hand, completely stayed away from even physically contacting or touching their women while they were menstruating.

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They will literally stay away, they will not share the same bed they will not eat from the same food, they will not eat the food that she had prepared, they would not drink the water that she would offer. So the Jews were on one extreme completely, that when a woman is menstruating, she's like an untouchable.

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And still today, in some societies, this is actually practiced.

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And on the other hand, there's another extreme we learned that the Christians they considered that everything was permissible, even sexual intercourse with a woman was permissible while she was menstruating.

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Now this question may seem a bit awkward whenever direct and such issues are mentioned in the Quran. Why?

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Because they are about our day to day life. They are about our personal issues just as eating and drinking. We need to know

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What we can eat, what we cannot eat, what we can drink, what we cannot drink, how we can earn our money, how we cannot earn our money. Similarly, this issue is a major part of a person's life. And you should be clear about what is permissible and what is not permissible.

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And this is the book of Allah. It is a sacred book, where the words of the Quran are sacred. But Allah subhanaw taala mentions these issues in the Quran, why? Because they are very important in our daily lives.

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We should be very clear about these issues in our daily lives.

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And remember, that when it comes to these issues, there is absolutely no higher obviously a person should remain in the realms of decency, he should speak with decency, he should not become obscene. But it is important to learn and teach about these issues.

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Because Allah does not shy away from the truth.

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I shut up the learner. She said, that how good are the women of the unsolved shyness does not prevent them from understanding their religion property?

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China's does not prevent them from understanding their religion properly. So when we read these following verses, yes, these topics we do not discuss them in our gatherings, especially in public gatherings. And in fact, we should not because we should have higher However, when it comes to learning about these issues, we should learn about them, we should talk about them. But obviously, with appropriateness with higher

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so yes, alone a Canon mahube policy, meaning all prophets are allowed to sell them say to them, then who are other. It is another

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what is another?

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Who, what refers to Mohit, and what were the two meanings of mahube? Either the menstruation or the place or time of menstruation. That is an other it is an ailment it is a harm.

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The word other is from the roof letters Hamza, then yeah.

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And other is every harm or pain that is suffered by a living creature.

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What is it

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any harm, any pain that is suffered by a living creature.

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Whether this pain is physical, emotional, mental, whatever pain it is,

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if you hit the table, it's not going to feel anything. It's not going to get hurt, even if it breaks, even if it gets burnt. But if you hit an animal, if you hit a person, if you hit a bird, it's going to get hurt, physically, and also perhaps otherwise. So other is used for anything any suffering that is suffered by who and living be.

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And the word of that is also used for a slight harm or a slight injury or trouble. It's not like hitting someone so hard that they get a bruise. No, that's not what another is. That is a very slight one.

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So Paul, who are other saying that it isn't other?

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Meaning menstruation, the time of menstruation is a time in which a woman is suffering from either she's suffering from pain.

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She is closer to sickness than she is to help.

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And we see that a woman while she's menstruating. She's not just physically suffering, but she's also low spiritually or emotionally. Sometimes women just want to cry for no reason. Sometimes they become very sensitive, you say the slightest thing to them and they start answering back they start becoming very reactive. They become very irritable. So, Paul, whoever it is another

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other question is Who is this menstruation and other for?

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It is for the woman. But it is also for the men.

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It is for the woman how that she undergoes some physical changes, emotional changes, she suffers from PMS, so it is an other for her.

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And for some women, it's very extreme. It's extremely painful for them. So it's another for the woman

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and if we take my hat off to be the place of hate being the vagina, so sexual intercourse during this time is extremely painful for the woman. This is what the meaning is then.

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And other It is also another for who for the men. How is it and other for the men

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that he is living with the woman and when she suffers from PMS when she

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has a period, when she has her menstruation, then he has to take her anger and frustration and irritation.

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So called her other say that it is another. So we see over here that the men are being told to understand the state of the woman while she's menstruating. And don't say why are you reacting like this? And why can't you be normal? Because she is suffering from other father's evil, therefore keep away from Wu from aneesa from the women when filmer heal during the menstruation.

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Fourth, as you know, is from I say, lamb and as Allah is to keep away from something,

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what is it to keep away from something?

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The word Morteza you may have heard of that is ultimately the same route. Because there a way

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we learned that West will be an author who was you can say the founder of Mozilla. When he differed in his opinion, it was said that it doesn't mean he has deviated he has left us he has kept away from us. So as a means to keep away from something your desire is to separate or to keep oneself away from something. So Eric, does he do keep away? From who? From aneesa?

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When filma here during the menstruation, what does it mean by this? Keep away from them.

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Over here, Erica, that means keep away from sexual intercourse.

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Keep away. Stay away from sexual intercourse from the sexual organ while the woman is menstruating.

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It doesn't mean that you separate your beds you separate your houses. But what it means is that you cannot have sexual intercourse while she is menstruating.

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We learned that I showed it on her she said that Allah's Messenger used to ask me to wash his hair. While I was having my period.

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He would lay on my lap and read the Quran while I was having my period.

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It is also important in the Hebrew hottie that I showed it on his head, that while having the period, I used to eat from a piece of meat and give it to the prophets or a lot of Saddam who would eat from the same place I ate from

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I used to have sips of a drink, and would then give the cup to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam who would place his mouth where I placed my mouth. So far, it doesn't really say a filmer. He does not mean don't touch them, stay away from them. No. What it means is stay away from sexual intercourse.

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And Mahela over here is understood as stay away from them upon the place of the hide meaning stay away from the contact with the vagina, which is why everything else is permissible. sexual contact is permissible, but sexual intercourse is not allowed when a woman is menstruating. Which is why we learn from Hadith that is not rucola shagun illa Nika do everything anything except sexual intercourse. So far, it has no Nyssa effin Mohave meaning keep away from the sexual Oregon, keep away from the vagina and everything else is permissible

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whenever possible one and do not approach them do not go near them. And by going near them, it doesn't mean go near them physically but what it means is do not have sexual intercourse with them

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hotter until you have to Horner they have become clean.

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Now again, you see your tahona ends with the noon. What does that indicate? feminine for

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any other woman is from total power. However taharah What does it mean? cleanliness.

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So don't approach them meaning don't have sexual intercourse with them until they have become clean.

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What does it mean by this they have become clean,

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meaning they have become clean from the flow of menstrual blood.

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Meaning the bleeding stops completely. The period comes to an end.

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in Qatar with them It refers to the cessation of blood there is no more blood flow. No more spotting completely clear

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fighting there. Then when the Havana they have attained purity for up to one, then come to them mean hi to Amara como la from where Allah has commanded you.

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fader to harness the power

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Hama is from for her as well. But we see that two different words have been used.

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One is the yellow one, and the other is delta.

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If you compare the two, the Havana has a shut down on the hair. Right? So it's giving an additional meaning. And what does that mean? The hook is to obtain purification.

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What does it mean? To obtain purification, to purify oneself, to clean oneself, to wash oneself.

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So hat Warner means until the blood has stopped. And fair enough Tahoma means that after the cessation of the blood flow, when they have purified themselves by taking the hosel

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remember, there are two separate things. One is that the blood flow stops. The other is that the blood flow stops and the woman takes a vessel and then she completely purifies herself, so that she's in a state that she will press on her now.

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So once they have attained the purity, once they have taken the bath, then forget to hold them in hatred and welcome Allah, then come to them from where Allah has ordained you meaning them, you may have sexual intercourse with them, if you wish. But it will only be when,

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after the woman has purified herself. And when does a woman purify herself. Once the blood flow stops, remember that you cannot just say that I'm tired of my appearance. I'm just going to go take a shower and I'm going to start praying No, a woman cannot do that. Once the blood flow stops. Then she takes a shower, she cleans herself, she washes herself and then she becomes clean.

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to one another come to them and tonight is from Hamza Daya that I think needs to come. So come to them meaning approach them have sexual intercourse with them from where men Hazel, Amma komova, from where Allah has commanded you Hazel is also isms love and it is used to refer to time or place.

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It is used to refer to a time or place.

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So what is that place that Allah has commanded

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for a man and woman to have intercourse at it's the vagina, and not anywhere else.

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So if I do when I'm in Haifa, Morocco, mala, meaning, a person may only approach his wife, a person may only have sexual intercourse with her in the place which Allah has permitted. And that place is a vagina. And that time is the time of it cannot be done while she's menstruating. And it cannot be done at any other place.

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So we see over here, that the only permissible way of sexual intercourse is in the vagina and not anywhere else.

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So to approach a woman from her back, you know intercourse, that is completely forbidden.

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Because it is contrary to mean hi to our common law.

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We learn from a hadith that is mentioned in a testimony that lay younger Allahu Allah will not even look at who in our module into a man who attacked radula on a whim or attend Fedora, a man who had anal sex with another man or a woman.

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So we see that the only permissible way is one way it is at one place, the place that Allah has commanded the place from where the menstrual blood comes because the Sahaba asked about if sexual intercourse was allowed in health. What was the response that they were given? Stay away from the women while they're menstruating, meaning do not have sexual intercourse with them. If no sex was allowed, they would have been told, do whatever else you wish. But what were they told?

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For does he lose keep away from sexual intercourse?

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So no. intercourse anal sex is completely forbidden because it's against when Hazel and manakamana

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and according to the majority of scholars, even oral sex is forbidden because it is against men hated America.

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The only permissible way is the vagina and not anywhere else. I mean, Hazel Amato Kamala,

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in Omaha, your rebuttal webbing. Indeed Allah loves those people who repent, when you have been Matata hidden and he loves those who purify themselves.

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Look at the end

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And Allah loves those people who are bent. And Allah loves those people who purify themselves.

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The web is a part of the web, who is the web? One who does tell that again and again.

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As soon as he finds out this is wrong, he stops doing that.

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So what does it mean by the way being over here,

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this is understood in the general sense those people who do doba from their sense, alone loves them.

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And a specific sense, from the heroine sexual acts from the harem ways of fulfilling sexual desire. When they do Toba, Allah loves them.

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Well, you have one with a heading with a PA heading is a Florida with a PA here. And who is Matata here. One who obtains purity with a PA here is from Tata Hannah, what was sahana? they obtain purity they purify themselves. So those who purify themselves, Allah loves them. Who are these people who purify themselves? This is understood in different ways. First of all, it is said that for the women, once their period ends, once the blood flow stops, and when they clean themselves, what are they doing? They're purifying themselves. So those people who purify themselves, the women who clean themselves, Allah loves them.

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Secondly, it has been said that a lot of the hidden refers to that those who after sexual intercourse, what do they do? They take the hosel alone of those people.

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And this is done how through water primarily.

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Thirdly, the set that mutata Heron refers to those people who purify themselves, meaning who stay away from the filth, from the uncleanliness. of other wrong acts and ways of fulfilling sexual desires, such as anal sex, or other incorrect ways. You have been with overheating, he loves those people who clean themselves.

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So we've seen this ayah that clearly, sexual intercourse during menstruation is forbidden.

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And otherwise, sexual intercourse is only permissible where men hate America law from where Allah has commanded. The only place that is permissible is where Allah has commanded.

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And if you look at the way the ayah ends, Allah loves those people who purify themselves.

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If you think of it, if a person is having anal sex, he is doing what he is approaching a place of impurity. He is approaching the place from where deification is extracted, that is not cleanliness, that is not purification.

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A person who stays away from these things, he is the one who is beloved to Allah.

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And we see that in this, the women are being protected. Just imagine if everything in anything was permissible. Who would suffer, the woman would suffer a night of sexual intercourse was permitted when a woman had her period.

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I mean, some women because of the cramps, they cannot even move. They feel dizzy. They're so hurt. They're suffering from so much pain. And imagine if it was permissible, how much pain would a woman go through?

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So in this is a protection of the rights of the woman?

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And also we see that the people have looked on insulin. What were the indulgent. What was their problem, homosexuality? And how did that begin through anal sex? That when the men did that with their women, they realized oh, we can also do that with our men. So they moved on from their women, to their men. And this way, what happens? The women there right, is not being given. They are being deprived of their right. They are being harassed, they are being used in a wrong way.

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So Allah loves those people who are clean. Allah loves those people who Toba. We also see over here that do actions have been mentioned, through which a person can obtain the love of Allah

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through which a person can strive to gain the love of Allah. And what are those two things what are those two actions, the Oba and the Oba and bajada

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Toba repentance and cleanliness. So the next time that you take a shower, next time that you do will do next time that you clean your face, next time that you clean your hair or your nose or your ears or anything like that, but should you think

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I'm doing this for Allah because Allah likes me to be clean?

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matrons we do it just as a chore. Really, some people think

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As a tour doing will do this or difficult

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or sometimes they do it why? But it represents beautifying themselves so that they can gain other people's appreciation. But the fact is that if a person changes is near, my Allah wants me to be clean, he likes it when I'm clean. So if a person does that and even this act becomes an act of worship

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either

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been you know,

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we see that the way Allah has guided us, the way Allah has guided people as to how to fulfill their sexual desire is also a way that is very clean. It is a way that is clean, and any other way that is unclean, approaching the place from where filth and impurities are excreted, or doing anything that is incorrect, that is impure, that is unclean. All of those ways are forbidden.

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Allah is to you. And he likes that which is a love loves those people who purify themselves.