Channel: Omar Suleiman
Brothers and sisters, I was asked a question after last week's cotulla, which basically gave me my hopes. But today, the question was, as we were talking about this idea of owning our own mistakes, and the way that sometimes we overcompensate in the midst of our disputes, by not acknowledging our own mistakes for what we feel like is a deficiency on the other side, you know, if there are two people that are in dispute, I feel like that person wronged me more. And because that person is not willing to acknowledge this much wrongdoing, I'm not willing to acknowledge this much wrongdoing. And therefore, it ends up in a complete collapse. And some had a lot, it led me to think about this
concept, which is called serving the undeserving and serving the undeserving. And this as a concept usually refers to the realm of charity. But at a deeper level, there's a quote to the effect of, you know, I never regret good deeds, I just regret doing good deeds for the wrong people. And how someone might feel like, let's say, if I'm going to give that person the upper hand, if I do that, then that person will feel like they can get away with it, that person will feel like they're justified in their position. They'll feel like it's okay for them to act the way that they're acting. And so the question was, how do we reconcile that with our own teachings in the religion of
axon of excellence? Will Carolinian lie when I seen I didn't ask people that small of their anger, which really means swallowing your pride most of the time, and pardoning people even when you feel like they don't really deserve to be forgiven? Or Pardon? How do we reconcile that with the possibility of letting these things only get worse. And so let's talk about what this concept is not first, from an exam perspective, from an excellence perspective. First and foremost, it's important when a person looks back at their own lives or on their own relationships, or things that they have done for others, that they also think about, perhaps the good that they're not recognizing that
others have done for them. And sometimes, a person is only able to see the good that they have done for others, and not the good that has been done for them. They recognize and that's obviously, you know, that can become a much bigger problem than the extent or the scope of that one relationship. But sometimes a person only sees things, sees things through their own lens and fails to acknowledge that good that has been done towards them. And that's why the bad is exaggerated, that's been done towards them. And the good is minimized. And on their end, the good is exaggerated, and their own wrongdoings are minimized. So sometimes you have a very skewed perception about not just your own
level of giving out good and bad, but your own level of receiving good and bad. And that can mess up the way that you're looking at something. So that's that. But then there are other levels where there's a clear wrongdoing, right. And so what does this not mean, from an assessment perspective, it's not
for a person to not try to deliver what people need to those that are most in need. Meaning, you know, when you say serving the undeserving thinking about those who deserve, help the most, and trying to find out who's most in need, it's not a sign to just do away with all of that, and to in the process, hurt those that deserve the need deserve the help most. That's not a son. It's not a son, to perpetuate injustice, to perpetuate volume. How would you perpetuate when someone hurts you or oppresses you and oppresses other people and everyone decides to let it go and not talk about it? And in the process? You set other people up for being wronged in like manner, right? So you have a
corrupt person in business that has harmed people over and over and over again. And you hear that someone else is going to go in business with that person, and you don't tell it, take them to the side and say, Listen, you know, I just want you to know that this happened to me that this is a wrongdoing. And so it's not xand, to let alone to let an injustice go unchecked, that poses a societal harm, but to find a way to curb that injustice, and Sanne would be using the best possible methods, the best possible ways that are found in the sin of the prophets lie Selim to curb that injustice from growing without introducing another injustice in the process. Right. So it's not born
out of vengeance. It's not born out of revenge. It's not born out of wanting to hurt that person back in the name of some noble cause of preventing injustice, but really trying to figure out a way to curb the injustice from growing without actually making things for worse. So the axon serving the undeserving here are
Giving the undeserving does not mean letting injustice perpetuate in a society. It also doesn't mean subjecting yourself to repeated injustice or your community to a repeated injustice when the prophets lie. Some said the believer is not stung in the same hole twice. That has ramifications, not just in battle and in war, right where the prophets lie. Selim forgave a man and he promised he'd never come back. And then he came back the next battle and the prophets lie, some didn't forgive him that time. Right? It's not just that but it's also on an individual level on a community level, you know, to put yourself in a place of repeated harm from the same person is not wise,
That's not right. So you can forgive and then protect yourself from further harm and hardship from that person. So it would not be excellence would not be to even subject yourself to repeated injustice at the hands of a person. So what is it Sunda? What does it mean to serve the quote unquote, undeserving? In the charity sense, it's easier to reckon with this concept. Why? Because if you give charity to someone, and then you find out that they really didn't deserve that charity, you might feel a little bit bad about it. But at the end of the day, it's not that the person hurt you. It's that you came to find out that you know what, I could have spent that money better that person
might have been pretending to be in a more dire situation, pretending to be deserving when they weren't really deserving. And you know, you kind of pinch yourself but at the end of the day, the losses primarily financial if not entirely financial. So you really probably don't hurt too much over that. And there's a beautiful example from my beloved normal the allot of time and humor, and the love No matter the law and humor, According to NASA, who was a freed slave of Eben Ahmad, who became one of the greatest scholars of the deen, the teacher of Imam Malik Rahim Allah Tada. Now Pharaoh the Allahu anhu said that by the time of the love No matter what the law on whom he died, he
had freed over 1000 people from slavery. Do you know how do you know how amazing that is? When you're reading in the in the histories of people, people would try to store up enough money to be able to free five people 10 people sometimes 50 people 60 people we know the reward of freeing someone from captivity or freeing a slave and Islam throughout the Quran. Even Omar basically when he received money, he said, Okay, this, is it enough to feed someone if so let me feed someone is it enough to free someone, he immediately would take his money out and he'd go free someone and free groups of people. So now, he says, By the time he died, he freed over 1000 people, okay. And there
was a preference to him, that he especially when he would see someone who was righteous, a righteous person who was enslaved, he would, you know, really, really push himself to go free that person. So not that he said that, because they knew people knew how much the normal the law and who liked to free people, that there were those that would rush to pray in the first row of Salah, so bin Omar could see them because they knew even though the last time I saw them praying in the first row of Salah, then surely he would rush to free them. And so he would see them and of course in a normal day Allahumma would immediately tried to do whatever he could to free that person that was praying
in the first row of salah and never went to the love Norma not that himself who was freed by even Alma and he said to him, you have no Omar in the home you have the Runic they're deceiving you can't you see what they're doing. They're just they're waiting to they're making sure that that they're in your site, because they know that if you see them that you're going to do whatever you can to free them. For Canada yellow Haku were cool for their Anna filler Oh man, haha and a fella and
he would laugh and he would say, you know what, if they deceive us for Allah, then we will deceive ourselves. It's okay, we'll live in that delusion. I'm okay, I did what I was supposed to do. I'm freeing this person whether that person is righteous or not, whether that person was displaying an added level of righteousness and hopes that I would free them at the end of the day when I meet Allah subhanho wa Taala I want to be able to say that I freed this many people for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala so let them deceive me for Allah. It's okay. I did what I was supposed to do. I don't care what the reality was in that situation. There is another Hadith in Sahih Muslim that this
man went walking out one day and he said today I'm going to spend for the sake of Allah Subhana diamond I give charity for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So he goes out in the middle of the night. And he gives charity to someone. That person is you know, can't see who they are. No one knows who it is. It's just a secret sauce. And how beautiful a secret charity right? Totally a lot about what is the profits lights on set. It extinguishes the anger of your Lord. It's so pure, so pure, but he wakes up in the morning and the people are in laughter they say last night someone gave something
data to one of the wealthiest men.
Imagine a rich person someone walked up to him and gave him some data. And they say someone gave some data to a rich man. He heard it and he said along with that content, a lot of you belongs all praise. Perhaps a lot didn't accept it from me. Let me try again tomorrow. It goes out the next night. Give sadaqa to someone in secret. They wake up in the morning they said someone gave some thought to a zania to an adulterous who would give sadaqa to an adultery so llama can Hemant goes to sleep. He says I'm gonna do this again. Does it again third night, wakes up and they say someone gave sadaqa to a Sadek, to a thief. Imagine a thief was going out to rob people and then someone
said Here take this for the sake of Allah. Salaam Alaikum Hamed, he has the loss of Hamlet, he said, a llama can hand zania Well, honey was
a rich person, an adulterous, a thief. And an angel came to him at night. And said to him, it might be that as for the zania as for the adulterous because of your subject that you reminded her of a loss of Hannah Montana. And so now she will restrain herself from her Xena from fornication, the rich man might learn a lesson and start to spend from what Allah subhanaw taala has given to him. So it's a lesson for him to ask for the thief. Now, they might refrain from committing theft, because of your subaqua to them. So you don't know the extent of your charity. Now, the reality is, is that for the most of us, if not all of us, we're not going to have an angel come to us and explain to us
the wisdom of our charity and our dream when we look back at it. And we say, you know what, I gave Saba to this person I did good to this person, I did good to this person. And it seems like it was a waste.
But now that is between them. And Allah subhanho wa Taala. That is the realm of charity. When it comes to serving the undeserving, you don't know who's undeserving and you don't know what your charity might do to the one who you give to, to make them reflect and wake up and realize that Allah will sustain them. And they should earn and Helen and spend in header as well earning in righteousness and spend in righteousness as well. But it becomes harder in a relationship, right? When it's not just money. It's not just giving to someone that turned out to not be honest in asking, it's not just giving to someone or giving to a charity, and then the charity turned out to
not be legitimate. It's also that I was in a relationship that I had a business partner that it was my cousin that it was my my nephew, it was my brother, it was my sister and I showed them so much axon and they stabbed me in the back. they betrayed me in a marriage where one spouse, husband or wife gifts, so much so so much axon to their spouse, and then they come to find out that they were wronged and they were betrayed. And they start to kick themselves and say, Why did I show that person so much goodness, I was thinking about sort of the law and how we usually go to go back to the UK or the low angle immediately in the story. But there's a line in the narration of the show.
And he was slandered some of the people that slandered her. She's done so much good to them. And she was going out with
the mother of Mista, who she did not know was one of those who passed the slander. Imagine misled who was a recipient of the charity of her father, double bucket, a cousin, someone that you know, was showing so much good. And while she's with Ole Miss Ole Miss the trips, and she says daddy semester. She said Mr. Parrish, and I Isha out of her goodness, not knowing what happened. What does she say? She said that some equality? What a horrible thing. You've said, Well,
that was a man that witnessed the Battle of better she's telling the mother of Mr. What a great man. Mr. is not knowing that Mr. slandered her didn't show her that same courtesy. And she's showing more courtesy than the mother of Mr. Then she came to find out that Mr. was one of the key people passing a horrendous slander against our mother, or the law hotel. And then what happens with Rebecca so the call of the law and Rebecca says, I was giving this man charity and he goes around slandering my daughter. What are the lies are revealed, whether you're for whether or not to have been a fiddle?
Forgive, show mercy overlook, don't you want Allah subhanaw taala to do the same with you. This is powerful, powerful, because it's not just the son of a Sudeep. It's the son of a Siddiqa, the truthful one, the daughter of the truthful one. They're excellent all together. Mista has an affair with a loss of Hannah Montana at this point. Well, the alone time and he's a veteran of bed that and he may tell but he repented to a large, he has his relationship with a loss of Hannah Montana. He has to reckon with that now, in our own lives, dear brothers and sisters. Don't kick yourself over a goodness that you show to someone who didn't reciprocate it
Don't kick yourself over showing axon to someone who showed you the opposite of axon the opposite of excellence, because you will be questioned about your actions. And that's why mominul Rosario mo Lhasa, the greatest test of good character is the way that you deal with someone with no character personally. How do you deal with someone when
you want to know the goodness of your character? How do you deal with someone with no character at all, so don't regret the goodness that you showed? Because at the end of the day, help does our son in law exam. Let ally reciprocate it for you. Let a lot repay you the goodness that you were not repaid in this world. And if someone repaid you with evil and hardship when you gave them nothing but goodness and excellence, then that's even a greater gap for Allah subhana wa tada to fill on the Day of Judgment. Don't kick yourself over. Yes, be wise. Don't put yourself in situations of toxicity we will be hurt over and over again. But at the same time, don't regret the good that you
show to others and let it make you bitter or jaded. Keep on showing a son keep on showing excellence Allah subhana wa tada will never let it go to waste We ask Allah subhana wa tada to make us the people of our son and to forgive us for our own shortcomings alone. I mean, Apollo alejado was toppled Iraq and recycling Muslim infrastructure and horrible for Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen whenever you want to learn a lot I mean when applicable to the Mediterranean a lot more soluble cinema vatika avocado silica Mohammedan sallallahu alayhi wa Ala Moana Allah He was so happy was so interesting and cathedra a lot more familiar than what Medina was not willing misdemeanours,
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