Channel: Omar Suleiman
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So, first of all, I just want to make something very clear. You know, when when Shahab dinozzo was talking about the importance of the parents and
you know, in a very moving talk, you know sometimes when we talk about like the cellophane, the stories of the people that came before and you know, there was a mohalla, who didn't get married until his mom passed away who refused to get married till his mom passed away. Or you find you know, zenonia Aberdeen rahimullah wouldn't eat from plate until his mother ate from playing those types of things. You know, there are people even today that still hold their parents in that same regard.
How many of you ever heard of chef Mohammed methodic at Rahim ALLAH hafiz Allah. He's a son of the former Mufti Mohammed ammunition PT.
Very famous scholar in Medina, you know, he didn't get married till his 40s because he applied the same thing as Imam Ahmed Rahim Allah where he said, I'd wait, I would not be able to fulfill my rights towards her if I'm married. And that's it's not sooner, you don't have to wait. But somehow he just felt that same, that same sense of burden that he did not get married until his mother passed away. Also, how many of you have heard of shifts are the lumbee?
You know, Shahzad Olam de has been approached by the Saudi government to become the Imam of the harem twice. But he refused both times, because his parents live in demand, and his parents wanted him to stay close to him. So panela, we still find even today, some of you know, the scholars and great personalities that truly put their parents Above all, and that's really the meaning of this debate. That's not just any typical study about the rights of parents, it's, again, putting them before everything else. Now compare that to, you know, our, our our day and age, or where we are today, and what we see happening in our communities where someone wants to get married, and they're
willing to sacrifice the relationship of 2025 years, because of a person that they met two months ago at an MSA.
And I'm willing to forget about all of that, because I want to marry that person. And that's it. Now, I'm not saying that sometimes the parents are unjustified, or not unjustified.
Or are justified whenever they whenever they stop a person from getting married, but the point is, again, you know, just the, the complete lack of respect, lack of understanding, lack of appreciation, sometimes really disturbing is how a lot it ties into all of these situations. And the beauty of this Hadeeth is that all three of these situations taught are tied in with one another. This the second situation, which is the one I'm going to cover how many of you are going to college next year.
Sisters Mashallah, how many of you are already in college? How many of you live alone?
Not many of you. How many of you plan on living alone?
I forgot your DC. You guys stay living with each other forever. You get married and you just bring the wife into the house too. I know how it goes. But anyway, in essence, this concept of being alone, being unmonitored. Finally having some privacy finally having some freedom, and what we realize sometimes when we go off to college, when when we go to when we go to our schools and we're we're no longer under the eye of our parents. What we realize sometimes is that when we were growing up we really didn't have Taqwa of Allah. We kind of had taqwa of our parents. But we didn't have Taqwa of Allah, because it exposes you because now all of a sudden you're alone. All of a sudden you
have the chance to disobey Allah subhana wa Tada, all of a sudden, you are your own man, you are your own woman and all of these temptations start hitting you from the right and from the left from behind you and from in front of you. And Allah subhana wa tada exposes either your true taqwa or your lack thereof. And this had these by the way. By the way, why were these three men in the cave in the first place? Did you guys talk about that?
Okay, in hajah last colonial Rahim Allah, He says that there was a storm. There was a storm. So it's not like these three guys went to a cave and started you know, having a bonfire or something like that and started talking. There was a storm that forced these three men into a cave to shelter themselves from the storm. And during that storm, the stone had moved the rock or the boulder had moved to shut the cave. And that's when they started to make this deal to invoke Allah subhanaw taala with their good deeds. Now what you
You'll notice about this situation, the second situation. It's unlike the first one, why was the first situation about a man who did a good deed? Or was it about a man who left the sin?
A person who did a good deed? Okay, he did a good deed for his parents. This person that I'm talking about right now, is someone who did not do a good deed, he just happened to leave a sin. But he considered it a good deed. He considered it a good deed, and so did a loss of hydro. It's sad, because when he made the drop, the boulder did move. So that was a sign of acceptance of that. And as we, as we read, the second person also last I sent him says, he said, Oh, Allah, I had a cousin who was the dearest of all people to me. And I wanted to have intercourse with her, but she refused. Later, she came across hard times during a year of famine. And she came to me, and I gave her 120
knots on the condition that she would not resist my desires. And she agreed, when I was about to Fulfill my desires. And by the way, just for this, it's important to sort of show you the depth of the situation, then the explanation of this Hadeeth is when he says I was about to, it's not that he was talking to her that he was starting, no, they were already engaged in the act. And he was about to take it to the next level. He was about to take it to the next level. So they were all already laying together. Just to show you again, how intense This was at that moment. At that moment, she said to me, it is illegal for you to violate my chastity except through marriage, except through the
way that Allah subhanaw taala made it permissible, he said, so I realized it was a sin. And I left her and I even had some gold with me that I left for her so so the 120 pinatas and the gold, I left it all over there. And I went away understanding that Allah subhanho wa Taala had forbidden this. And then he made that there are to Allah subhanaw taala Oh Allah. If you know that this was done for your sake,
please relieve us from this present calamity. So anyway, we get to the situation. Number one, and there are many things to break down from this idea. If you're not taking notes, then you have a problem. So number one,
the fact that this person said twice in the Hadith, while he had been asked Elijah, she was the most beloved person to me. So this was not just some crush that he developed overnight. This was not just someone that he found attractive. This was someone that he developed feelings for a humbleness EDA, he says this in the beginning, and he says this, in the end, to emphasize I actually had feelings for her, she was the most beloved person to me, this was not someone that just caught me out one night I was developing my feelings for we were getting closer to each other. And I still left it for your sake, Oh Allah.
Many times what happens these situations again, we go off and we have some privacy, we start developing a relationship, sometimes subconsciously. Sometimes it comes through an MSA through an organization through y m, maybe whatever it is, and we start sending Facebook messages to each other. And we start adding those little smiley faces all the time. And you know, we start on, we start saying different things, we start becoming a little bit more flirtatious, we start laughing a little bit more with each other, we start developing feelings for each other. And it's kind of understood that you know what, I'm going to marry you and you're going to marry me. Now the problem
with all of that is that you start talking.
And you're still you know, you're still convincing yourself, or rather shavon is telling you look, you're not doing anything wrong and Hamdulillah, you didn't do this. And then when you do that, then say Thawne says, well, it could have been a lot worse than having to lie, you didn't do that. So you know, you start talking, you start meeting in public, maybe with a group of friends, then you start meeting alone. Then you start tapping each other on the shoulder, then you start maybe you know, touching a little bit, but you're not getting completely intimate. Then you go to the parents.
You see the problem with the equation here. Then you go to the parents and you act like nothing ever happens.
And then the daughter says Dad, you know, this guy wants to marry me. What do you think? And he says, I don't like him. He's not Hyderabadi I don't like him. He's not from Philistine, or he's not from Karachi. Or he's not this. He's not that or I don't like him. He hasn't finished enough of his education.
Then the tragedy starts from there.
But wait a minute, I love him.
I can't let him go. What do you mean the Is that all? Isn't that Hadith about the Willie? Can I find something in the Hanafi folk that says I don't need a woody How can I get around my parents now? Let me find the man who's going to do this marriage. Let me let me see how I can get around this. Now. You
start creating your own look, and customizing your relationship with a lot to conform with the haraam relationship that you already established with someone else. And then you want to say Islam is not fair. Why does Islam say that the parents have this authority? Why does Islam say this? Why does Islam say that? What Why is this happening to me, but I love him, I love her, I can't let it go, you shouldn't have developed the relationship in the first place. If the equation was proper, then you wouldn't have found yourself in the dilemma that you're in. And then you say, but I can't live without her. I can't live without him. It's your fault. You started it, you developed you
allowed yourself to develop that relationship. So now for the sake of saving your other relationship with Allah subhanaw taala. And then the second most important relationship with your parents, you need to sacrifice the one that is that is that is grabbing your heart at that moment. So he allowed himself to develop feelings for her. And he didn't stop it at its roots.
Now, is it permissible in Islam to marry your cousin? I know it's gross and disgusting in America, because we're Americans, and we see it as weird. But is it permissible? Yes.
So could he have approached this the right way? Yes. But he didn't. He allowed the feelings to develop, he kept getting close to her. And in particular, what do you think allowed those feelings to develop more?
The fact that she was his cousin.
Right? Let me tell you what happens in some Muslim countries, and even here, but even in some Muslim countries, because we always, were always told about how bad we are as American Muslims, in some Muslim countries, female cousins will not wear hijab, even if they are, they are regular and want to hedge about in front of their male cousins. This is extremely common. So the and it's not just the cloth, but the whole, you know, the rules of modesty, the rules that govern hijab, the situation in the state of hijab, when it comes to cousins, it's not there. It's not there. So you know it, even though it's permissible, people, you know, and this person is just as strange to me as any stranger
on the outside. From an Islamic standpoint, that person is supposed to observe just as much a job in front of you as they are in front of any other man on the street. But she's my cousin. He's my cousin. So you start developing feelings, you start getting close to each other, oh, you're just like my sister. And then you've got the whole brother in law and sister in law thing. And this is crucial, by the way, this is not racism at all. And if you're Dacey, I consider myself half DC, because I was in a DC community for six years, I can't even eat air food anymore. So don't take any offense to this. But this culture, this culture, of moving the wife in, when I've got a brother,
who's the same, who's close to my age, and who's going to interact with her without her a job, and without any bounds whatsoever, is a destructive culture. It's so much so that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi, wasallam, said Alhamdulillah notes, the brother in law, his death, can you imagine that statement, the brother in law, his death, that doesn't mean you should hate your brother in law. That doesn't mean you should hate your brother in law. But it's easy to assume while he's like my brother, now, you know, husband and wife starts talking. She's like my sister. He's like my brother now. And then you start establishing a relationship with each other, you start you start being more
friendly with each other, that a job becomes lacks in front of the brother in law. Now, if it's not the clothing of hijab, just the barriers are blurred there. I've seen people that are that are considered to be extremely religious, right? They'll pose for pictures with their female cousins. They'll pose for pictures with their sister in law, it's it's whatever.
She's my sister. He's my brother. And also loss I sent him said no, he's death.
Why? Because you know how many times I'm telling you as a mom when I was a mom in Orleans will lie. How many times I had a situation where a brother in law was at home alone with his sister in law with his own brother's wife, and then one day groped her. But they decided to save face in the family not to tell anybody. But the but the girl was distraught forever.
Just a few weeks ago, when I was visiting a community, a girl in full hijab and folded up and I'm talking about her hijab comes down to her wrists.
She was telling me that her male cousin, her male cousin, took her to school. She's in high school, he always used to take her to school. And all of a sudden he pulled the car over and this is a Masjid goer, and she's a mustard Gore, religious family. All of a sudden he pulled the car over and started to make a move on her. But she didn't tell anybody because he threatened her. said if you tell anyone, I'm going to tell you. No, I'm going to tell your dad that you did this.
And this and this and that it'll be my word against your say on starts to play in those times. But you know how many times whenever the hijab gets blurred, you stop understanding, or you stop abiding by the limits of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So Allah allows you to fall into destruction, you destroy yourselves, everything in the city is for our own good. Everything in the city is for our own good. She's like my cousin, she's like my sister, and she's my cousin, you know that I would never think about marrying her anyway, I would never think about anything like that. And you know, even again, the brother in law, the sister in law, all of that it all gets blurred. And that's a problem. That's
a problem. When you read in the classical books, the fuck,
even brother and sister are supposed to observe certain limits with each other. I'm not saying she has to wear hijab in front of her brother, absolutely not. But even brother and sister are not supposed to get too comfortable, not supposed to be in the same bed. You know, even if it's just whatever they're not, she's not supposed to dress in decently in front of him. Right, the way that they hug the way they're, you would actually find instructions, the way that they hug should not be the way that a husband would hug his wife or son would hug his mother. Because even that can get bad. But of course, this is something where you have a situation with non Muslims, people that are
actually prohibited for you. But you allow yourself to develop a close relationship with them, because the culture does not consider them to be non Muslim. So that's the first thing, understand the bounds that Allah subhanaw taala has set for you. The other thing where he had been nasty lay whenever you're developing that feeling, don't allow yourself to be alone and halwa. Don't allow yourself to be alone with that person, whether it's physically or whether it's virtually, cyber halwa, chatting, emails, text messages, whatever it is, don't allow yourself to be alone. And the scholars say, if you have feelings for that person, then don't allow yourself to be in their
company, even if there is no Hello whatsoever.
Even if even if there is no seclusion, because it's dangerous for you at that point. So you need to, you need to exercise some boundaries, you need to separate yourself from the situation, because you are developing, you're developing feelings for that person. Now.
Another thing and this was something that personally, one of my one of my scholars said Homer, Alaska, Allah, I remember back in one of the conferences, and I was a kid, so but it was the Maya conference, they used to have the Muslim Arab youth of America. And they used to bring up before before America used to, you know, not allow scholars to come here used to have serious or they're not coming from all over the world to this country, having major conferences that couldn't be held anywhere in the Muslim world. And there was once a cut off, there was once a decision from the scholars of Maya, that a young man because obviously they were addressing a group of immigrants,
young men that were coming here to start their lives, and they were college students that no young man should live alone.
Either he gets married, or he gets a roommate. Because once you're alone, shaitan can start playing games with you, it starts to open the doors for things, some of the scholars and I'm not even gonna say their names because they're banned. Now. Some of the scholars went so far to say that it was hot, um, but it would be hot. I'm in the situation that we are in now because so many youth were coming from the Muslim world. And they were in a, in a strict situation. All of a sudden, now they had this free world, and all of a sudden, they were opening themselves up to so many different forms of how long they destroyed themselves. So the point is, don't allow yourself to be in close contact
with that person. But the heart of all of this, the heart of all of this is the concept of Maracaibo, the concept of being watched of being observed by Allah subhanho wa Taala. And knowing that Allah subhanaw taala is observing you as an Imam Kodama, Rahim, Allah said, and rocky will allow, allow your people you are observing Allah and Allah is observing you. You're observing his presence, by worshiping him as if you can see him and he sees you. So you are observing him and he's observing you all of a sudden, Allah subhanaw taala created a cover for you. A lot created a cover for you. All of a sudden, now you're off to school, you're independent, you've got your own car,
your parents are not giving you curfews, you have your own time alone, you can be with certain people, you can do certain things that were off limits and safe on wants you to experiment. It's only natural. He wants you to experiment.
But at that moment, you need to make sure that you're observant of a loss of hundreds out of that Allah is watching you because the peak of hypocrisy, the peak of hypocrisy, and the worst of the worst of people in the sight of laws, the profit slice of themselves is to attain one who is two faced, one who is two faced, not two faced in the sense
Study tells you one thing and it goes to another person says another thing that you're a totally different person. Literally you have two faces. You have one with your parents and one outside you have one with the masjid and one for school. Now we have multiple faces, multiple faces through social networking, Mashallah multiple faces, you could create five different profiles for yourself.
Okay, and it's upon a lot you could portray yourself as something that you are totally not. But that shows that you're no longer observing Allah subhanho wa Taala one of the scholars
at the moment Kodama Himalayan, Eric's that one of the salaf. He said that my father taught me that every night before I go to sleep, so he kept on increasing this for me, he told me to say, a la humare Allahu shahadi, Allah who normally don't eat a hat, to highlight
that my father kept on telling me every night before I go to sleep to say a lot is with me, Allah is witnessing me, Allah sees me. He was implanting in me this concept of maraca and he would tell me every single night to say it more and more and more and more until I tasted the sweetness of that till I understood a lot is with me allow Mary allows it allows watching me alone all day Don't eat a lot is is is Allah is witnessing me and then Allah is watching me until I tasted the sweetness of that till I understood when a law creates you that cover you know one of the scholars one of the poets he said, for either hello to theory but in oneness to there yet and either to Leann and then
whenever you find yourself under a cover, and the soul the self starts to call you to rebellion. Then remind yourself in the lovey holler called wala Milani, the one who created darkness, the one who created the cover that's on me right now sees me right now. The one who created that for me in the first place, I had youth that would, that would be in the masjid whenever they're trying to get into med school, making sure I'm telling you doing errante calf in the masjid that they pass their MCAT that they're going to get into this med school. Once they got to med school, they started dating, they started establishing relationships, their parents sent them off my salon, now they're
in the dorm. And for another time. This is whenever I go off on the parents for expecting their kids to remain pure until the age of 2830 years old without getting into any relationship in this country, which I think is absurd and ridiculous. So if you're a parents fear of loss of adults out with your children, but it doesn't absolve the children of the responsibility, you'll get punished to if you still do it. It's just a greater test for you. A lot created a cover for you. Allah gave you a blessing of going to school, Allah gave you a blessing of having a social life. And then you use that cover that Allah gave you, you use that blessing that Allah gave you to disobey Him.
So remind yourself, the one who created this cover for me in the first place. He sees me right now. So it's not about who else sees me. I know that Allah subhanaw taala is watching me, I know that Allah subhanaw taala who gave me if I have beauty Allah who gave me this beauty, Allah subhanaw taala is watching me at this point. Also remember, the jealousy of Allah, the honor of Allah. Now I know this one is gonna sound really, really weird to you all. But it's very important. Jealousy always has a negative connotation. In the English language. It doesn't always have a negative connotation in the Arabic language alita I believe it's more of an honor and dignity because
jealousy means you accuse an innocent person in English, right? And those if any of you take the behind the scenes class, I go into a long discussion about this, the leader of Allah, the leader of Allah, sorry, I didn't know about that. Or the Allahu anhu one time or maybe it was Saturday. I forgot which side it was. But he was telling the Sahaba He said, If I ever caught my wife
in the act of Xena, I would kill her and I would kill the guy with the sharpest part of the sword.
So this will hava came to the Prophet slice on them and they were like, this is a little too much, isn't it? On the profit slice. I'm setting a Tanja vulnerability side. Are you amazed? Are you impressed by the honor of side?
And they said yes a lot too much. And he said what law he learned earlier Roman, I have more a leader than him while law who have the auto mini and a lot has more Leila than me. You know how on all the Hollywood movies. You're always you know, they always got the girl that's being chased that has the big scary father of keeps a gun. Or what was that movie? What was that movie called with them? I hated that movie. What was it Meet the Parents, right?
That was a little psychotic and overboard. I only watched the first one. But uh, you know that whole concept
The scary dad, the dad that's gonna try to kill you, you know, it sort of creates the the, the rabbit you know the rabbit Hunter, it sort of creates that Chase, right that pursuits and guys like that, you know, running after the girl trying to get around the big scary father. Well obviously, in college and in school when or whenever you're alone you start establishing these relationships, it's not in the presence of the Father.
Now you act with more other you act with more dignity, you're a little bit more scared. Let's say if I told you guys, specifically guys, that the girl that you're trying to mess with right now, her dad owns 20 guns.
And he's a former Marine. And he has a formal, he has a former conviction or he killed somebody before. I don't care how pretty the girl is. You're gonna watch yourself. And we're like, Nah, I'm okay.
Are you sure? Yeah, I'm stuck with a law. You will become you. You will look at your shoes and you'd be like, Oh, I didn't realize my shoes had some blue on them. All of a sudden you're gonna start lowering your gaze, you're gonna be scared.
Now what is the Messenger of Allah slice of them telling us? Sula Salalah how to sell them is saying even if a woman has no man who has Leah of her. Allah has more avita than any other men. And a lot doesn't just own 20 guns a lot owns hellfire.
So you better be careful. You're overstepping your bounds. Sisters, the same thing happens to because you know what happens with a really jealous that he kills you and he kills the guy.
So you are offending Allah subhanho wa Taala whenever you whenever you make yourself promiscuous or whenever you open yourself up to that relationship, even if they don't have a man who's going to be a real man, Allah subhana wa tada has more leader than any man, we asked the last contact to protect us and that's why the mom even said in Rahim, Allah, he said, I used to see a woman in my dream, while I'm on the halacha Hello, Lee, and I know that she was not allowed for me. Now, here's the thing in your dream, I'm gonna give you guys a shimmer of hope. If you see something in your dream, it's okay. That doesn't mean that you can sit there before you sleep and try to think about somebody
until you can dream about her. or sisters. You can do the same thing. All right, you can't just sit there and dream about the guy until you think of him and then you have a dream or whatever it is about that person. But if you have a dream about a person, you don't have to lower your gaze in your dream. Enjoy your dream. Okay?
Enjoy it. You don't have to lower your gaze. And you probably won't because you're in a dream anyway, you're not thinking about Helen Holman those types of things in that situation. But he might have been sitting Rahim Allah He says that I used to see a woman My dream was under holla to Hello Lee and I know that she's not allowed for me for us to leave football. Sorry. So I lower my gaze. I would take my gaze away from her. Even in my dream
it's panela you develop that strong sense of Allah is watching me right now. I'm shy I'm ashamed. I'm shy I'm ashamed. I'm scared. If you need to make yourself feel a lot more think of Hellfire more think of Hellfire more I am scared of a loss of I know it's out of offending Allah subhana wa tada of going over the boundaries that Allah subhanho wa Taala has created for me and he mom has an embassy Rahim Allah, He says something very powerful. He says that and this he says you know he gives us the scenario. Again a law creates for you a cover this man is alone with her now he has the full opportunity to do what he has to do.
Any man has an embassy Rahim Allah He said that a thief.
whenever he's robbing a house, and he hears the doorknob rattle or he hears the door starting to open, what does he do? He runs any heights. He runs in the Heinz okay. And he says at that moment the thief went from committing an action of theft, to committing an act of [???]ting
he didn't become a Catholic. He committed an act of disbelief. Why? Because Allah was watching him the whole time and he only got scared. When the doorknob started to rattle that's when you know you're being a complete hypocrite when you're on your computer. And then when you think someone's coming close by you need to start minimizing your windows. That's when you know something is wrong. When you're afraid of the gaze and you're afraid of the the sight of people, you're afraid of other people seeing you.
Allah was watching you the whole time and that kills your heart. What's worse, a public center a private sin. What's worse, a public sin right? But also loss is I'm sad that Allah would forgive a person on the Day of Judgment a believer for everything except for the sins that he made public that he boasted about why cuz you're proud of it. You're proud of it. It's it's a safe Bonney type of attribute, say Titanic, right? You go out there and you tell people
You know what I did last night I was talking to this girl and I was talking to this now. It's a funny it's a tannic in its nature.
But the scholars of teskey they say that the ones that kill the heart more and that hinder your spiritual progress more are the secret sins. And that's why the Imam Ahmed Rahim Allah, he said in the very famous poem, either mount God or de Robbie, Ms da da da da da salini. What to them Ban halki rebellious Jani Tini.
I'm afraid that my Lord will tell me on the Day of Judgment, weren't you ashamed of disobeying me, and hiding the sin from my creation, my lowly creation, and with your disobedience coming to me, flaunting To me it hinders your spiritual progress more Why? Because it increases your to fakeness. It increases your hypocrisy. It kills the sense of Baraka, you purposely try to ignore a loss of Hannah horchata. I remember when john edwards did what he did, and he got caught. It did what he did many times. And but then when he got caught, I remember Newsweek or Time magazine did it did a paper or did an an addition on the psychology of a cheater, the psychology of a cheater, and in essence,
when a person is cheating on his wife, or when a person is trying to cheat on whatever it is, when a person is trying to have an affair. What do they do?
They try to ignore every portion of reality that they possibly can think about it. When a person's cheating, they don't sit there and take out their phone and say, hey, check out this picture of my kids. Yeah, she's, she's pretty, isn't she?
And if his wife calls, he's not going to answer the phone and just talk normally. What's that person going to do? He's going to turn his cell phone off, he's going to hide his wallet, he's going to hide the pictures of his kids, he's going to try to ignore the consequences of his actions. He's going to try to ignore reality. So in essence, whenever we cheat on a loss of hundreds add on our relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala, we do the same thing. We try to ignore the circumstances we try to ignore the consequences of the sin. We try to ignore reality. We try to pretend he's not there. If I close my eyes enough, maybe I can pretend he's not there.
But he's there. And he's watching you. And he created that cover for you and he knows what you're doing under that cover. And it's more offensive to him Suppan, who it's Allah, when you have the audacity to sin, with that major sin with that great sin just because his lowly creation is not watching you at that moment.
When you go off and you find your time alone, when you're on your computer and you have your time alone when you're on your phone and you have your time alone. Know that Allah subhanho wa Taala knows what all of your text messages look like. And even if you delete your cookies in your history online, Allah subhana wa tada knows what they were.
You're not fooling Allah, you're not fooling Allah.
The last thing that I want to come to, I want to end it on a positive note because all of you look scared right now.
I want to end it on a positive note.
Allah subhana wa tada rewarded this person
who was in the act of committing Zina, and had there not been children in here I would be a little bit more explicit as the scholars of Hadith were, but I won't, but he was right there. He was in the process. And he held himself at that moment and he left that act.
For that you get rewarded.
Think about that. Think about the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. For that you get rewarded. Right? And then we look at the famous Hadith of the messenger salallahu alayhi wa sallam where he says that if a person makes a good intention, and follows it up with a good action, then how many times has he rewarded
he's 10 times and has not too bad actually, I'm sorry huh? 10 times the reward so a lot multiplies the good deed if he makes a good intention, but he doesn't fulfill it with he doesn't follow it up with action What does the law give him?
He still gives him a good deed I met well you had a good intention a lot writes down for you the good deed as if you performed it as if you did the good deed a lot just want multiply it for you.
If a person sins and He follows if a person has the intention of doing something bad and he does the bad what is the last point I write for him? Just one sin
if a person has the intention to sin, but doesn't follow it up with an act of sin
what is the loss of Hannah tada right for him?
See, some of you said nothing.
A lot of rights for him a good deed.
How crazy is that? panela and I mean crazy and like awesome crazy. I don't mean crazy like in June I mean crate like wow. Human beings can't even fathom that. Right? That's like somebody coming to your house with a baseball bat. About to bust up your car. I don't know if any of you know Britney Spears or if you have
Some relationship with her in the past, but apparently she likes to beat up cars with a baseball bat. So anyway, she shows up to your house or not see, let's say a person shows up to your house with a baseball bat is about to bust up your car
and then says you know what? No, and then goes and knocks on the door, says, Hey, Mohammed, you know, I just wanted to let you know. I was on I was really upset about the conversation we had last night about all that trash talk about the stuff for 76 years in the Celtics. So I decided to come to your house and bust up your car. But I'm sorry.
Now Mohammed's if he's a good guy,
he just says, Okay.
So Michael closes the door. He's a good guy. He's a normal guy. He calls the police and says there's a guy with a baseball bat on my promises. That came to bust up my car. But if he's a moisten if he's one who excels? Well, actually, that's not even that's that's even human axon doesn't fathom This doesn't you know, doesn't encompass this. You imagine if Mohammed says, oh, man, that's okay. Here. How much gas did you spend coming here? Let me pay you for the gas.
And you know, how much did you buy that baseball bat for? I'll buy your bat to, like, well, thanks, man.
That's if that's not even human, right.
But that's a law.
It's not human. But that's a law.
A law would actually give you a good deed because you were about to do something offensive to him. You were engaging in the sin. And then you held yourself and you stopped Allah gives you a good deed for that. panela and that's why on the Day of Judgment, one of the men and one of the people in the category of those who are seated by the state of Allah subhanho wa Taala, when on the day when there is no other shade, amongst the Adjust ruler, right? Imagine adjust ruler, someone who grew up in the masjid attached to the masjid. amongst this high category of people, you have a person origin data and raw data has been watching man for color in near half Allah, a person who was approached by a
woman of status and beauty and it applies to sisters to not with sisters but with brothers. Okay, and said, I fear Allah. I'm afraid of Allah. I'm afraid of Allah. I fear Allah, not any ethical law. No, sometimes you need to scare yourself. You need to remember that Allah owns Hellfire, that I'm offending the one who holds my destiny in his hands and can put me in hellfire. I fear Allah, I'm holding myself back. And for that Allah gave him that elites company, the company of the Shahada, the martyrs and the de Polan, and the truthful, and the prophets. Allah gave him that status and that honor, because he held himself back, he stopped. Now, obviously, you don't want to put yourself
in a situation. You don't want to put yourself in a situation where you're going to get anywhere close to zero. That's why I lost contests as well. takota bozena Don't come close to it. Don't get yourself started. You know, don't don't ruin yourself. Don't get yourself in the relationship and then try to go to your parents and try to make it all halaal and try to make people kick it under the rug. A lot is gonna get you a lot is gonna get you if you offend the law, a law will get you unless you repent. And the only way to sincerely repent is to leave it.
But what if you're already engaged in a relationship?
What if you've already put yourself in that danger zone? What do you do? I'm going to end on this one story.
And this is in the tough seat of the mountain Cathy Rahim Allah, Allah verse number 201
verse number two a one of sorts out off. And the mount even Kathy Rahim Allah titles this Siobhan you have to had death metal copper, a young man who spoke from his grave. And even I'm even Kathy Rahim Allah he narrates that there was a young man
millesimal messenger who was always in the masjid, lob, ameerul momineen, honorable hottub from the students of none other than honorable hottub are they allowed to add on who he used to sit in all of the halaqaat he used to keep the company of amateur mahatama de la tada and who, and his father was a shave. And when they say his father was a shake, meaning he was an old men, not a chef, as in a scholar and old men and old men, but somehow so and the reason why these narrations would make it a point to mention that is because, you know, he was a person that had a level of independence, his father was dependent on him.
So he was a pilot, but he was a student of knowledge. He had the presence of ornamental hubbub. He had you know, he was always in the masjid. And then one day on his way home.
There was a woman that was calling him to her home. She was a beautiful woman.
And he fell for it.
And that shows you by the way, just because you're religious doesn't mean that you're not going to fall for these things. Sometimes you might fall for them. It's not about if you fall for them and or it's not about how you fall for them or if you fall for them, it's about how quickly you get yourself out of the situation.
So he followed her to her home,
as he walked behind her as she invited him into her home. As he walked behind her.
To that Caracalla he remembered the words of Allah subhana wa tada and this is the number to one of certain add off in alladhina taco either Mr. homeboy, if one minister upon that Carew either mobile zero on
those who truly are conscious of their Lord, either must somebody familiar shape on if they are tempted by a little touch of the safe on. And again, it shows you that you're never absolved. Don't feel bad if you fell for this once or twice. Don't feel bad. It's about how you get yourself out right now. I know some of you are in these relationships right now. religious or non religious cepung got you. He touched you. He tempted you. He got you for a moment. He staggered you he got you off your feet. And he was following this woman to her house and he remembered this ayah Allah subhanaw taala says at that moment to that Cairo they remember Allah
that Eva who mobile see rune. So now all of a sudden, they can see, you know, bustle, and basura are two different things bustling he can see right now, but he can't see.
He doesn't understand what's he's not really seeing. Like some of you are looking at me right now. But you have no idea what I'm talking about.
And some of you are extracting things from the words that I'm saying that even I can extract because the profit slice of them said that sometimes the listener gains more understand something more than the speaker some of you because of your boss leader because of your attentiveness, because your insight, you're getting things from this lecture that even I'm not getting.
So lost, contact us for that whole mobile zero. And so he's following along then all of a sudden,
what am I doing?
Let's talk a little longer law.
He passed out.
He passed out.
And the woman shut the door on him and she left him sleeping in front of her door.
He woke up and he started to cry and he went to his father. And he told his father what he did.
And his father said, and he was crying. When he was talking to his dad. He said, I can't believe I did this. And he was shivering out of the fear of a loss of Hannah Tata. He didn't do it. He just was about to do it. But he caught himself. And his father said to him, yeah, Bonnie, oh, my son, what did you say, you know, that made you stop.
And he recited the eye again to his father, and then he fell and he died.
He fell and he died. And this was a student of almond brittle hataoka the alojado
so I want him to have understood what happens. Almond milk, hottub knew what happened. And they prayed on him that night and on top when he sat next to him.
While the people were while the people were there, after the janazah after they buried him and on top of the Allahu anhu talking to a student imagine what what a humiliating way right? What a humiliating way for my students to go out this was a pile of L a student of knowledge to the one who the Prophet slicin um said if there was to be a prophet after me it would have been all model he was spoken to by the angels. He was a student of him not a student of almost today man or a student of administer of the Nasir jaggery, ma'am, so hey, Bob. He was a student of automobile hip hop. And r&b hip hop was heartbroken. So I'm gonna I'm gonna hop sat next to his grave, and he said, Yeah, fetta
Oh, young men. What do you man Hotham? a comma b he Jonathan,
and for the one who feared the power of his Lord, his two guardians.
And the young man spoke from his grave America from Allah subhanho wa Taala. And he said jabil, Fatah, pada Pani Omar, Omar watain, Allah has given it to me Oh Amata twice, model attain some of the scholars he said twice, because of the time he held himself back from the fear of Allah. And then the other time when he was speaking to his father, he got fearful again and he passed out again. Allah gave me four gardens instead of two.
Why I held myself so if you're in that relationship right now, or if you're thinking about getting in that relationship, or if you think that Allah has created a cover for you so you can do whatever you want. Allah subhana wa tada sees you. Allah is the one who created the cover for you in the first place. But don't lose hope. Even the student of armor got lost. Don't lose hope. Just pick yourself up before it gets worse before you end up losing your parents your reputation destroying your future prospects of a holiday marriage. Get on
Have that out the way Stop it now Yes, you will feel the hurts because you might have developed a true love for that person. This man when he's talking to Allah, He makes it a point to say to this to a loss of hundreds out of twice well he I had oneness, Allah, Allah, I love her. I love her. You know how much I love her. She's the most beloved person to me in the world, but I left her for you.
I knew it didn't start on the right foot. And for those of you that are wondering, well, if I'm in this relationship, can I just make it Hello?
Can I just make it halaal now and I want to tell you that nothing that starts with offending Allah subhanho wa Taala will become blessed by Allah subhana wa tada in that way, unless there's a sincere repentance in the in the way. Now what I mean by that, you know, it's let me put it to you this way. If you were to bring a girl home or sisters, if you were to bring a brother home, and the first thing that person did was curse your mother out and throw a shoe at her.
It doesn't matter how many cards he brings, and how many flowers he brings. You threw a shoe at me. You cursed me out. I remember. Now at last the parents Allah forgives and Allah Subhana Allah accepts sincere repentance. But what is sincere repentance at that moment? What is sincere repentance when you're engaged in that relationship? What is it?
To leave that relationship? That relationship is a sin? Not to say Oh Allah, I'm in this relationship. Can you make it Hello? Now that's like, you know, Subhana Allah, there's an expression in Arabic that you know, you fix someone's hat and then you slap him in the hat goes to the side, and then you try to fix the hat again. You can't do that with a lot as well. Of course, Lisa committed he shaved, but I'm saying it's offensive. It's like you would offend the human being like, I'm still engaged. I'm not willing to leave this hat on. So can you make this hot on holiday for me? No, that's not sincere repentance. sincere repentance is, I can't talk to you anymore.
I know I have love for this person. But look, I can't talk to you anymore.
And then while you're alone, Allah forgive me.
And then if Allah subhanho wa Taala, forgives you. And then maybe later on down the line, after you've really withdrew yourself from that,
then maybe it can work out if it starts off the hell out away. Again, if you come through the front door now, go through the proper channels go through the proper means maybe then it will work out. But don't try to Don't try to play that game with Allah subhanho wa Taala. You know, I'll give you a correlation of that. And Islam zawada to heal is haraam to heal is basically If a woman has been divorced three times a man and woman were divorced three times, then they cannot be together anymore. Unless, unless the woman wants to get married, and wants to become intimate with her husband and then divorce him too. Because that means that that's a woman that probably has some
serious issues with marriage. So Fine, it wasn't it wasn't you. It wasn't about the compelling compatibility of you and her or her and you it was that, you know, you guys aren't very good marriage material. So maybe you deserve each other.
But in Islam, it's how Tom, for a woman to say, Oh, well, I've been divorced three times, let me go have a paper marriage. Just so I can say I was married again. So I can come back to my old husband and say, Hey, we're married again. Why? Because it wasn't real. It's artificial, it's superficial. It's on paper. So for you to have a lot, bless your relationship. You need to leave that relationship and you need to seek forgiveness from Allah, repair your relationship with him and repair your relationship with your parents. And then if later on down the line, if when you're when you're when your mind has become free of those impurities from those thoughts. You think to
yourself, that's the best person for me in my Deen. Then you go through the proper channels.
On May Allah subhanaw taala help you all, because it's tough. I know, May Allah help you all, because it's tough. I mean, that from the bottom of my heart, I really feel for you. And I understand that our culture is just suck when it comes to this. Let's face it,
but that's a lot of testing you a little bit more. Take the test inshallah. And with any test, when you pass the test, it's that much sweeter. It's that much sweeter, will
take you a few more years to get married. But once you get married, and that's the only person you've ever shared your secrets with. That's the only person you got close to. It's that much sweeter. It's that much sweeter. It's not Jenna, because some of you are like, wow, that's agenda. It's not Jenna.
Jenna z even sweeter than that. Because even after you get married, you'll still have issues not with not necessarily with her. You will have issues with her and you will have issues with him. But life will still be a test and that's what makes agenda so sweet. You struggled for it. You toiled for it. Does that be my quantum tap Malone, this is a reward for that what you used to do, that's what genda is. So when you get married, it's a little minor agenda for the first year.
Second year is kind of bad sometimes.
I'm just playing May Allah subhanaw taala bless you all.
Allah May Allah subhanaw taala allow us all to have good pure religious spouses in sha Allah Who better us in dunya and then Deen everyone say, I mean May Allah Subhana Allah not allow our marriages to come in the way of our relationships with our parents. May Allah subhanaw taala not allow our relationships to come in the way of our relationship with Allah. May Allah subhanho wa Taala allow us to be amongst those who love and who hate only for his sake a llama I mean, does that come along with I don't know who to call the other stuff like that. Como Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh