Controlling Anger
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Channel: Nouman Ali Khan
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Episode Notes
Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan delves on the issues with controlling anger and how we should strive to abstain from getting angry.
When someone benefits from the goodness of religion, of this Deen, they get what they are supposed to get out of Salah and they want to share that goodness with others. But others have no appreciation of that. This is one of the main causes of getting angry.
What are some other occasions when we get angry? When we have expectations and Whenever we have expectations and they are not met, we get upset. People also get angry because they feel that justice is not being served. The lack of justice makes someone get angry.
All of these are legitimate kinds of anger.
But what should that anger turn into? According to our Deen, it should turn into Sabr. It’s a feeling that goes through our heart and our heart should convert that into Sabr. Now when our heart is not connected to Allah then Sabr is out. Then that anger comes out in other ways.
So we should exercise patience and there is a greater need to learn how to be patient. We need to learn how to take that anger and transform it into ancient intelligence. We must respond to ignorance with intelligence and should not turn into impulsive people. We cannot let our anger get the best of us.we must protect ourselves from that evil deed of arrogance.
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what
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a brief reminder, I'd like to
share some thoughts with you that I hope to benefit from myself. I hope that they are all of you as well, in regards to a very dangerous, and at the same time, a very natural sentiment all of us have. And that is our anger.
Anger is very natural. It's not an unnatural sentiment for us to get angry in many occasions that make you angry.
Sometimes those things are small, and sometimes they're big. But this feeling is rooted in something else. It's really something else. And if it's not something healthy can become very vicious. It's really a symptom of a much larger disease. I chose this passage to share with you because this is a passage in which the Bible
is giving advice to his son.
And there are other occasions when others are talking to sons, but
you know, a lot of stuff.
So this idea of a father giving advice to the son is not unique,
multiple times, but something we should pay attention to.
And you think of this picture to see as an older man and his wisdom and wisdom
is giving advice to young people how
you got older and you find yourself and you'll notice something. As you get older wisdom kicks in. If you are fortunate enough to benefit from wisdom, what happens also is patience. And what you'll notice in your sons and your young men growing up
and they will
easily so one of the very important pieces of advice for a young man to get from someone who has wisdom above his father is for him to calm down himself and check to control himself. So with that in mind,
let's see some of the things he tells them to do first.
This is a conversation with the Messenger of Allah
So this is not just using the official sense of the five games, I will reveal to our messenger,
every messenger was given their own form of slot. And finally, the protection of it is anonymous, and there's some love for it.
But this digital sense,
which means connection, maintain a connection with,
you know, practically this discussion to the sun, this council began
to shift with a lot
of associations with ultimate crime of distancing yourself from a law by putting someone else in between yourself.
And practically, practically, not just theoretical
ideological.
One has to be connected to a law.
And the device, the mechanism by which a believer that's connected to
this connection, it doesn't let anybody else come in between when you and I are making slides, just in conversation with a lot of directors.
A lot of rather than responding to every part of the article, every person has a direct connection, okay?
This creates a transformation inside some of these characters, it's like a revolution happening inside of yourself.
Because change that happens inside yourself cannot remain inside yourself, you know, something that's not the threads. When it came to snake, it doesn't just find itself widespread. When a person gets sick, once a lot lights you up, and it will have an impact on your surroundings. So the natural results have real connection to a lot, a lot. A natural result of that is what the Father the father full of wisdom.
He says what
was
the man enjoy advise people to do good advice
suggests
because it doesn't just mean commands. It actually also means that models are to suggest in different situations, the different things.
Sometimes the only suggestion
is advice.
situation calls for, you know, for instance, you have a sibling.
And his sons, obviously, he's their father was the commander. So when they come back with a dirty shirt for the blood of blood, he is in fact in a position to commander because he's the deputy commander. No, because he's awkward
for me, because he doesn't matter what time
it is wisdom to have authority, it's still not easy. You know, that's something we learned.
We
establish
that as a result to truly be able to suggest or advise or even connect.
Good right.
Now,
objective
implies that
you know, what is known to be good, you're giving somebody advice, and
this is something good.
First thing to do something they already recognize.
You have to be a decent human being.
Start with that, and then move on.
Then predict and prevent from something unrecognized, literally something unrecognized, something nobody recognizes to be good. It's the third opposite of a formal language
is good.
cursing someone being rude to someone raising their voice
or not even the people who do it.
Why? Because that's just the progression of people.
to benefit from the greatness of salaat, yourself, then you or others the benefits of goodness. So you give them something.
And then eventually, when you have a relationship with them,
you will be
giving advice to somebody, go straight after them.
Know what you're doing this long
this will be here, you can talk like that you can do this, you can do that, and the first defense mechanism built into the human psyche.
Tell me who you think you are.
You can talk
to me,
he cannot respond to that.
You have to respond to that. If somebody comes up to you,
you don't respond to that.
Just
have to be a little bit more intelligent.
Was
this what I wanted to get to
connect
with an owner of the unknown.
When someone benefits from the goodness of religion,
you get what they're supposed to get out of. And they want to share that goodness with others, but others have no appreciation. If I
don't care about
it, take it to the curb. And you say to yourself, some really good advice, I went out of my way to help you. And this is what you do in return, naturally, you get a this is one of the manifestations of trying to get somebody
to do something good. And they will appreciate it.
This is an occasion
for you and I get
an expectation from my son or my daughter, or my wife or my husband.
Their expectation is not that I'm going to
show up on time, because I'm 40 minutes late. That's what I'm going to do.
Whenever we have expectations that they were not met,
whenever we have rights,
I have a right to be respected. I have a right to be
a teacher.
If I
have a husband or a wife
either way
for violating your rights
when a speech was very inappropriate.
He gets upset because my
expectations aren't met. When
when injustice is done.
Do
you know
the other half is I'm going on vacation? And do
you don't have the right when justice is not?
Okay, look at all those Occupy Wall Street occupy
because they feel like justice is
justice for
all of these are legitimate kinds of
contact or people who get angry when something is said against
something inappropriate
or unacceptable. Some people say
To put this in perspective, you and I have a right to get
the camera right.
What that what that should turn into according to our needs.
The ethics opinion is it and it goes through our hearts in our hearts to convert that anger into something that's really supposed to do when our heart is not a lot and
then the anger comes out.
What am I doing exactly?
nothing compared to what a lot
of people in this in this world will claim that
this statement makes not just believers.
Lot.
It makes him so angry that he says
perhaps the size of the Earth
Every
every
offensive that
I want you to remember, how can we apply guess was something inappropriate about this, there's multiple reasons.
One is something inappropriate.
It's alive
and alive.
And now this
is multiple accounts.
Keep that in mind as we go for
a group of Christians used to live in this area
at the time of the process of
messenger to check it out.
So they came to visit the messenger.
So where do these questions come
in?
They stay.
The same people who believe the most offensive things
are honored guests are honored guests in the house.
And every person speaks in
the conversation,
the messenger over
there talking to the messenger by justifying
inside the house of Allah
inside the house, there's a frown on the messenger
for the sake of
if
and if there's something to be offended about is the statement.
You are free. He's what
he calls us Abu Kiba. It's also implied there were people that were in contact with the books, they have access to the text, they were literally people that knew what they were talking about. And they were still coming up with the wrong conclusion.
Because the people who don't
know.
And yet the attitude of my messenger.
Whoever tries to debate with you try to stump you
is when you try to disagree with somebody going back and forth, and you come up with something.
These people are trying to one of you in conversation, find out the messenger online conversations.
Just think about that, in addition to the fact that
in addition to all of that, they are trying to be offensive in their discourse with the messenger of a loss of a loved one from this. Amen. Muslim, Muslim,
Muslim, how
do you call it
into the messenger
just open the customers name itself.
But they didn't say he said
that he says
don't
want to do that.
Just because you call him by his name just because of that because you were too casual in your in your lack of respect for the message.
And these guys are doing what?
They're debating with him.
How much more offended first because he's a
second
With the message of love, and
color with your kids that you will come with
a lot of different things. In South Dakota.
We need to learn how to be patient, we need to learn to take that anger and transform it into into patient intelligence.
We cannot be the people
we love are going
to be upset.
Because this way, I have a right to be treated fairly at work. If I'm asked
to do one of those feelings, those feelings are stemming from something far worse than anger. That is, it's arrogance, pride, your pride is hurt. If that's the case, then you've got way bigger problems and anger, then
that's not a real problem.
When people come back to the good
times pretty much
what we'll do one time.
Originally, somebody can ask for the good, because they felt the goods themselves when they got connected to them.
But as you get used to connect people, you start forgetting about yourself, it's just about you having the authority to tell others what to do.
Forget about yourself, and
what to do, and when they don't use your
nose, people which is an expression for what
all
these people that do this.
Don't be condescending to people
is your anger if you don't have
this conversation, that's
incredible, was
just a walk around.
You're sitting in
the slammer on the floor.
Books
is basically to keep yourself in check when you
know where you are.
He says
you
need to check yourself. And then if you do want to raise your voice,
the worst kind of sound or the most
of sounds
compared to the angry guy raising his voice to a dog in this one I want to end with why.
First of all, it's it's very it's very
I don't want to pretend to do it.
But there's another adult who was used
to Lowe's
and described
as follows of that
stuff piled on to it until you put so much on an attempt at it anymore. And
if
you keep piling it up, in other words,
you've tested my patience when you
reach this limit.
When you reach your limit
that is the
that's the time you
will find. You won't find any relief in releasing your anger and that's not to help you
naked people that can control a lot of people that can be patient with each other.
protect us from that to charity in
a court of law does not have anyone who is full of this imaginary themselves, whose primary advisors are protectors for time.
A new
advantage of it in a model of an effect
out of committed
Can I block out a lot.
I got a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot more than
what you have even put up
for everybody
in the USA government