أَعُوذُ بِاللهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطانِ الرَّجِيمِ … وَإِذْ قِيلَ لَهُمُ اسْكُنُواْ هَذِهِ الْقَرْيَةَ وَكُلُواْ مِنْهَا حَيْثُ شِئْتُمْ وَقُولُواْ حِطَّةٌ وَادْخُلُواْ الْبَابَ سُجَّدًا نَّغْفِرْ لَكُمْ خَطِيئَاتِكُمْ سَنَزِيدُ الْمُحْسِنِينَ فَبَدَّلَ الَّذِينَ ظَلَمُواْ مِنْهُمْ قَوْلاً غَيْرَ الَّذِي قِيلَ لَهُمْ فَأَرْسَلْنَا عَلَيْهِمْ رِجْزًا مِّنَ السَّمَاء بِمَا كَانُواْ يَظْلِمُونَ وَاسْأَلْهُمْ عَنِ الْقَرْيَةِ الَّتِي كَانَتْ حَاضِرَةَ الْبَحْرِ إِذْ يَعْدُونَ فِي السَّبْتِ إِذْ تَأْتِيهِمْ حِيتَانُهُمْ يَوْمَ سَبْتِهِمْ شُرَّعاً وَيَوْمَ لاَ يَسْبِتُونَ لاَ تَأْتِيهِمْ كَذَلِكَ نَبْلُوهُم بِمَا كَانُوا يَفْسُقُونَ وَإِذْ قَالَتْ أُمَّةٌ مِّنْهُمْ لِمَ تَعِظُونَ قَوْمًا اللَّهُ مُهْلِكُهُمْ أَوْ مُعَذِّبُهُمْ عَذَابًا شَدِيدًا قَالُواْ مَعْذِرَةً إِلَى رَبِّكُمْ وَلَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَّقُونَ (سورة الأعراف – سورة 7 آية 61-64)
ربي اشرح لي صدري ويسر لي امري واحلل عقدة من لساني يفقهوا قولي
الحمد لله والصلاة والسلام على رسول الله وعلى آلـه وصحبه ومن ولاه
Just a brief reminder, I’d like to add a couple of things, very little things added to what was already said and much of what I am planning to say has already been brought by Abdul Nasir Jangda, so, I gonna keep this speech short and hope every speech I say. “I gonna make it short and not gonna be extra-long but I think I actually needed this time, I think. Only time will tell, have hope.
So the first thing I wanna share with you guys is just some recommendation after this topic is done. When you get time on your own, there’s something I want you guys to watch on YouTube. The professor’s name is Professor HESHAM AL-AWADI, he has an hour long lecture on NOT LOSING HOPE and I think it’s one of the best presentations of the topic I ever heard personally. I’ll show you some of the things from that video and I’ve changed some things from his talk … but I think while watching this video, it’s wise taking notes also. It’s just personally very beneficial for Muslims, I think. It’s just … even for your family to hear… but I advise you guys to hear it yourself seriously especially the Arabic ……in sha Allahu Wa Ta’ala and try to discuss some of those things on your own with your kids instead of sneaking them in front of the TV screen or computer screen and let them hear the video that they want.
So one is here a couple of things in terms of … something that students of the Prophet , the best students of the Prophet , the companions . Something they just understood about sins, something that they are very clear about and we nowadays are not getting clear about and I wanna just wanna literate them so we can refresh ourselves and our attitudes in terms of sin.
The first thing is when you and I sin, we’re disappointed with ourselves. That’s a matter of fact. I mean if you have any ounce of decency left in you, when you do something wrong at the end of the day, you go back and you say, “How could I do that?” Now you lost hope in yourself in some respect and that’s what disappointment by definition is. You lost hope in yourself and you ask yourself: “How could have I done such a thing?” That’s natural, it’s normal. It’s not something bad to be disappointed in yourself. It’s not something bad to be sad about your sin ….. It’s actually a gift from Allah , because you still have a conscience. But…that disappointment will never confuse…you never confuse it and allow that disappointment that they lost hope in themselves. They are not confident in themselves anymore. They did not let that become … by itself, Allah has hope over you. Just because I don’t have hope in myself doesn’t mean Allah doesn’t have hope in me; or Allah does not expect more from me; or Allah Himself is disappointed in me. He didn’t ….. for that. Because if you’ve given up on yourself, a Muslim knew, he understood certain qualities of Allah that are permanent. You know our feelings and our temperaments; they go up and down. We have good deeds and we have bad deeds, like Abdul Nasir said, you have good and bad deeds because Allah’s Mercy and His Power to forgive us all is always there. So you don’t confuse your mood, and your state of being and your level of sadness with Allah’s constant open door policy.
Then the second thing, they understood that no matter how big their sin is, there should be a parable even about smaller sins and they were…they were sensitive to the smaller sins ….smaller sin. But regardless, no matter how big your sin is, they knew Allah’s Mercy is still bigger. So they would never think I’ve done so much bad now that I’m beyond the point of no return. That there’s no hope left for me, I’m way past hope.
One time I gave…I was talking to a bunch of youth about forgiveness, just a small reminder about the regular ISTIGHFAR and ask Allah to forgive you, etc., and one brother came up to me afterwards and said: “Can I talk to you in private?” I said, “Sure.” So we go in the corner, “Woo, look, I’ve done a lot of messed-up stuff?” I mean I’ll ask for forgiveness because you’re saying but I’m pretty sure God is not gonna forgive what I did.” And I was like: “Well, I’m pretty sure He will…” “No, bro., you know what I did, real bad?” I was like; I know you’re mad, pretty bad…I can appreciate that. But know that even…, you don’t have to tell me how bad you are; you don’t have to list to me the crimes you committed so I could go … “You’re right. You are going to Hell, ha ha ha.” You don’t have to do that to me. But know that Allah knows your sins and He has forgiven people that have crimes far more than you in the past.
Not only that. People that Allah knew…Allah already knows what’s gonna happen to the future. Yes? So Allah knew FIR’AWN will die a KAFIR. Yes? Allah already knew FIR’AWN is going to kill babies. He’s going to…can you imagine that? Just picture the idea…he’s gonna kill babies. How evil that person has to be? Not one, by the thousands every other year. Not to mention the innocent people. This is…in humanitarian crime that even the atheist would say “FIR’AWN should die.” Even a human rights activist would say “FIR’AWN should die. He should suffer a thousand deaths.” This is above and beyond what he says about himself declaring himself “god.” Allah already knows what kind of evil person this is. It’s hard to match that kind of evil, it’s hard. We come pretty close in the Muslim world sometimes, but it’s hard. May Allah help the Muslims…… But regardless, I wanna make a point. When Allah said to Musa to talk to FIR’AWN? He said: لعله يزكى LA’ALLAHU YAZ-ZAKKA. Maybe he will get purified by benefiting from the reminder. Allah puts hope in Musa when talking to FIR’AWN even though Allah already knows where he gonna end up. He already knows. But you’re not allowed to give up your hope on people. And they themselves, even as terrible as he is, Allah knows he still have the potential. He is also not at the point of no return. He can still make the choice. Subhan-Allah! Not even giving up on FIR’AWN! Who’s bad?
I met a mother not so long ago; she is a Muslim mother, very religious, very devout mother. And she have two sons, one of them very religious and the other one, let’s just not describe him. So she comes to me at the end of seminar on Surat Ar-Rahman. And she said: “Brother, I can’t make Dua for my other son, I can’t do it. I’ve taken him out of my heart. He’s no longer my son. He parties, he goes to clubs, he has a girlfriend or two and he’s on drugs and he doesn’t listen to me, he hasn’t prayed in two or three years. My other son is Hafidh Al-Quran and ……. I don’t have any hope on my other son. I’ve taken him out of my heart …” And the first thing, you know what I told her? Masha Allah? No.” I said: “How dare you, lady? Allah meant to worry you. Allah made you, your son. Allah created that connection. You are not in any position to cut a connection that Allah Himself made. The only day on which connections are cut is the Day of Judgment. وتقطعت بهم الأسباب WA TAQATTA’AT BIHIMUL ASBAB. Until then you are bonded to your son and until that command of Allah comes, you cannot cut yourself off.” And she said: “What about this? You know Nuh . He was trying to save his son and Allah told him NO.” “Did Allah tell you? You gonna cite that revelation came to Nuh to cut his relationship from his son 950 point something years still hoping for his son and the only time he stop is when Allah tells him to stop. So your six months of frustration compared to the 950 years of Nuh ? What’s wrong with you? You can’t do that.” You can’t lose hope on people, as I mentioned before. So now I wanna share with you the second thing that your sin is not greater than Allah’s Mercy.
Then a third interesting thing that the Sahaba understood…and sometimes we don’t clearly understand. Your sin is not more powerful than you are. Your sin doesn’t have control of you. You’re in control. People say I can’t help myself. I just get angry and then….my lights turned off. I don’t know what’s going on after that and a few hours later, my cover has changed back from green to back and … it again. I’m trapped inside…then I don’t know…I have no recollection of what happened in the past. A bunch of incredible hoax in our community … but their anger. Once I’ve gone out of prayer I can’t help myself about a ….what I’m saying, it just happened. What can I do? It’s beyond me, I don’t have any power over myself, I can’t help myself. I can’t help my finger from quaking. I can’t help but respond to the text. I can’t help from looking at that stuff. I can’t help myself. Sahaba understood, yes, we make mistakes and sometimes our sins get the better of us. Shaitan wants to get the better of you. Your Nafs gets the better of you but Allah created you with control over yourself. And only you can give up that control. You understood…it’s like guarding a territory…your heart is like as this castle in your garden, and Shaitan is hovering around trying to dig his way in and then one moment of heedlessness like a guard who falls asleep and the crooks slip right in, you knock your guard a little and slips right in. You made a mistake but that’s not made you…he has won. If you woke him up, you could go and pick him up again and lock the doors again. That’s what ISTIGHFAR is. That’s what TAWBAH is. That’s what … is. It’s reinforcing your defenses. You cannot allow your sin to win. You can sin yourself once, it’s won. It’s already got the best of me, I’m beyond hope. Just like we don’t say the sins are…” My sins cannot be a lot greater than Allah’s Mercy? My sin is not greater than myself?” Allah created us much more noble than that. Allah said: ولقد كرمنا بني آدم WA LAQAD KARRAMNA BANI ADAM. لَقَدْ خَلَقْنَا الْإِنسَانَ فِي أَحْسَنِ تَقْوِيمٍ LAQAD KHALAQNAL INSANA FI AHSANI TAQWIM. Human beings are created in the best possible fashion. Human beings were honored…an honor human being cannot be given up in this happy ending end. So we understand our sins, in addition just…and in addition to that main point, we understand our sins as an enemy, an enemy that disguised himself as a friend. Hands up! If we do something wrong, regard Shaitan himself as an enemy. So we recognized that enemy the moment we wake up, and be just friends to ourselves. We caught ourselves off and maybe you will fall into that sin again just because we’re human but that doesn’t mean we’ll get used to it and we’re gonna be fine with the fact that we’re just this ourselves and say: “I know I am doing these things anyway, it’s alright.” It’s not gonna be like that….you’re never meant to accept defeat from your sin. It will never happen…this is the attitude of our companions . Sahaba understood.
Another thing and this is very important concept when dealing with sin and losing hope. People lost hope and they think they messed up way too much. No, they can’t turn back to Allah anymore. The idea is when you gonna turn back, Sahaba understood no matter how much…even if we think we disappointed Allah, where do you gonna go? I’ve got nowhere they go. There’s no place I can hide. There’s no place Allah doesn’t see me. When you get your point, your mother, your boss, your teacher, you can avoid eye contact, even if you go into your room and close the door. Even you disappointed a friend; you said something mean to them. You are embarrassed to talk to them again. You don’t call them. You don’t respond to their text. You’re kind of…it’s awkward…coz you don’t wanna deal with that, so you just avoid contact. The problem is Allah is constantly in contact, whether you realized it or not. ونحن أقرب إليكم من حبل الوريد WA AQRABU ILAYKUM MIN HABLIL WARID. We’re closer to them than their jugular veins, right here, this rope…that connects life. Allah is closer than that. How you gonna distance yourself? Allah will not distance, He’s already there. We’re the one that pretend He is not here. And you know how offensive it is when someone there you pretend they’re not there? I’m sure you do it all the time to your friends. Two of you are talking, a third one watching, you pretend they’re not there, you keep talking about yourself and you take another language to talk in, so they really don’t know what you’re talking about. Right? It’s offensive to Allah that you pretend He is not there.
So the next point … when they did seem to realize that Allah is right there. They’re caught in camera. You know what they did? Immediately, “Sorry about that.” Astaghfirullahil adhim! Honestly! They don’t just say ASTAGHFIRULLAH. They’re talking not about Allah. They’re not just saying something. They’re talking to Allah. Have you ever seen a kid whose mom said go and wash to pray? And looks around? And have those …..? And then he hears, “Hhhhrrmmmm!” And he turns on, his mom standing right behind him? What would he do? His mom is there. “Sorry mom, I’m not gonna do it again, I promise.” You recognized the presence of the one you disappointed…you turn to him immediately. There’s no lapse in between. You don’t waste any time. This is the next point. They understood there’s no time. They understood: “I can’t wait to come back to Allah.” I’ll mend this relationship. I have to do this immediately. There’s a shortage of time, it’s a sense of urgency.
Then, the last one, the last point I gonna share with you. And this is one of the most important. A lot of times we meet people that make us lost hope. They say things to us that disappoint us or make us feel like: “Yeah you’re right, I am a scum.” That’s how you help Haram, you and your actions are. How people you become etc., etc. don’t confuse the disappointment people have with you with the disappointment Allah might have with you. They’re not the same thing. Your parents disappointed with you. Your husband disappointed with you. Your wife disappointed with you. Your friend disappointed with you. Your Imam disappointed with you. It’s not the same when Allah disappointed with you. It’s not the same. People can put you down…and they will … but Allah will never abandon you. So Allah let you know. I wanna … I don’t like to give a talk without turning back to Allah and put in one way or another. So I wanted to share this one of my favorite passage with you that deal with the last discussion that Sheikh Abdun Nasir had with you guys which was about not giving up upon people. And he gave us several instances from the instance of the companions’ lives.
I wanna refer to a nation that we think that they are damned ‘Bani Israil.’ Every time the Muslim will think the worst community to talk about is ….like Bani Israil. ….call them cursed, we hate them, and they’re going to Hell, that’s one example of people who are in this … completely damned. There’s no hope in them. So I picked the passage that have to do with Bani Israil, so we’re clear about something. So we understand how Allah talks about them. وَإِذْ قِيلَ لَهُمُ اسْكُنُواْ هَذِهِ الْقَرْيَةَ WA IDH QILA LAHUMUS KUNU HADHIHIL QARYAH. What was said to them: “Settle down in this town.” This was said after they have crossed the water after they have already disobeyed Musa and questioned his authority and have undermined him on several locations. Even if you undermined a messenger once, it’s enough for you to be damned. But they are given opportunity after opportunity after opportunity at the end of it all … Allah said I’ve given you a city and a house, go ahead. So الْقَرْيَةَ وَكُلُواْ مِنْهَا حَيْثُ شِئْتُمْ AL-QARYAH WA KULU MINHA HAITHU SHI’TUM. And He promise whatever you want. وَادْخُلُواْ WAD KHULU … in one condition. As you go in, you should be saying HITTAH which means forgiveness. As you walk into the city as conquerors, you should enter the city in the state of SAJDAH. وَادْخُلُواْ الْبَابَ سُجَّدًا WAD KHULUL BABA SUJJADAN. Enter into the city in the state of SAJDAH. How long might be that to you? How do you enter the gates of the city? In the state of SAJDAH. Like a SAJDAH on the ground, how you gonna enter, it’s gonna hurt your forehead a little. You try to do that. Well, understand what will be the…….like a passage …….the one like 16th century, 14th century video game. They draw a map of these ancient cities for you, these gigantic gates. They have a colossal gate …this is what cities are like, they were gated all-around and you have this one massive gate you go through. And the conquerors are riding into that gate…through that gate on their horses and their heads are on the legs of these horses in SAJDAH. How come he walks in like this!? Because he’s dominated the people, the people’s heads are down and Allah said, “Your conquerors?” He said, “No, no, no, you put your heads down to Allah when you conquer this city.” And as you’re putting your heads on SAJDAH, while you are doing so, what should you say? HITTAH, you should be asking for forgiveness forgiveness forgiveness. As you are doing it in the state of SAJDAH, you’re asking for forgiveness. Allah said, “All your past crimes are forgiven, just do this.” Just do what? Ask for forgiveness. All your small and your big crimes in the past, huge crimes, not just in the absence of the Prophet, in the presence of the Prophet, they have done huge crimes. What are some of those huge crimes? Let’s see! Oh, yeah! Worshipping someone other than Allah.… You know the story…crimes like murder…crimes like this…you’re disregarding gifts of Allah saying, “This is not enough! Where is the rest of the menu? What’s for dinner? SALWA and MANNA. What’s for lunch? SALWA and MANNA. What else we got? Can you go and ask Allah to change the menu, please?….just like you talk to Allah…
Allah says: “All forgiven if you just do what?” Ask genuinely for forgiveness and they played with that. Has Allah forgiven previous sins before? He let so many sins go. ثُمَّ عَفَوْنَا عَنْكُمْ THUMMA AFAWNA ANKUM. THUMMA AFAWNA ANKUM. THUMMA AFAWNA ANKUM. Then We pardoned you. Then We pardoned you. Then We pardoned you. But when they played with forgiveness, Allah says now, “نَّغْفِرْ لَكُمْ خَطِيئَاتِكُمْ NAGHFIRLAKUM KHATI’ATIKUM.” You just ask forgiveness, We will cover your extended list of sins. سَنَزِيدُ الْمُحْسِنِينَ SANAZIDUL MUHSININ. We will increase those who have IHSAN. And you guys know there is ISLAM. And then what? IMAN. And then what? IHSAN. Allah is talking to people that have a long list of sins and He says: “Just if you ask for forgiveness, there’s no end to how awesome you can become. You can even become from the MUHSININ. You’ll never know what some has given to you, even if there’s a truckload in his back. Allah cleans the state of slaves only because they ask for forgiveness. And what did they do? فَبَدَّلَ الَّذِينَ ظَلَمُواْ مِنْهُمْ قَوْلاً غَيْرَ الَّذِي قِيلَ لَهُمْ FABADDALAL LADHINA DHALAMU MINHUM QAWLAN GHAYRAL LADHI QILA LAHUM. They replaced the word that was given to them. The word instruction was forgiveness. They replaced forgiveness with mockery. They made a mockery out of forgiveness. That’s one thing Allah won’t forgive. Allah gave you one thing that…yet with all your crimes…and you made fun of that one thing which is what? Asking for forgiveness. What did we learn from that and Allah sent them a punishment from the sky immediately. He didn’t even wait for Judgment Day. He didn’t even wait for…the rest of Bani Israil, Allah told that … إلى أجل مسمى ILA AJALIM MUSAMMAN. Until a given time…but for this group that played around Allah’s offering of forgiveness, the one that played with that, Allah sent them the punishment immediately. بِمَا كَانُوا يَفْسُقُونَ BIMA KANU YAFSUQUN. Because of the corruption that they used to be engaged in. What do we learn from that? Don’t make fun of the power of forgiveness. Don’t take lightly of forgiveness. Take it seriously that you gonna ask Allah for forgiveness. Don’t say, “Ah, ASTAGHFIRULLAH, ha ha ha.” No, no, it’s not a light matter. It’s a serious matter. It teaches you to come back from Allah; because that’s something Allah will not procrastinate, how you sinned before. This is what will connect you directly to Allah . So don’t you play with it. Don’t be like that. Now he is going to hope in other people. Allah said, “وَاسْأَلْهُمْ WAS’ALHUM.” Ask them about the nation الَّتِي كَانَتْ حَاضِرَةَ الْبَحْرِ عَنِ الْقَرْيَةِ ANIL QARYATILLATI KANAT HADIRATAN BAHAR. They used to live right at the very edge of the ocean, in other words, they were a beach town. That was a group of Bani Israil that were a beach community and they, obviously, if you are in a beach community, what is your primary economy? Fishing! That’s your primary means of sustenance. إِذْ يَعْدُونَ فِي السَّبْتِ IDH YA’DUNA FIS SABTI. They used to violate the Sabbath, the Saturday. You know how they used to violate the Sabbath, right? You’re not supposed to do any business on Sabbath. You’re supposed to just worship Allah. That will be an instruction of Bani Israil. Allah said they violated the Sabbath. Now Allah explains why they did that? إِذْ تَأْتِيهِمْ حِيتَانُهُمْ يَوْمَ سَبْتِهِمْ شُرَّعاً IDH TA’TIHIM HITANUHUM YAWMA SABTIHIM SHURRAAN. When their fish would come to them on the day of Sabbath jumping out of the water. Make eye contact with them, so. …..am I …..so I have to know. And then Allah says, “As a test وَيَوْمَ لاَ يَسْبِتُونَ لاَ تَأْتِيهِمْ WA YAWMA LA YASBITUNA LA TA’TIHIM. On the day that there were no Saturdays on them, no fish would show up. So they looked at the fish and ahh, it’s Sunday… gain day…on Sunday, no fish. Saturday, they jumped out of the water again, ohhhh…so they have to come up with some way of capturing those fish and not violating the law of Allah…so they got more. They ……something of … you know….high tide, the water comes in, they placed the net, the water would come in and water recedes, some water gets stuck with the fish in it, they got it! Right? What happened, they didn’t do anything on Saturday, right? Technicality, getting off from the technicality in court…not in Allah’s court, you can’t argue technicality. You would say, “You shouldn’t talk to a non-Mahram.” I’m not talking of…just pressing my fingers on the screen…that’s not talking! And you shouldn’t talk in…… I’m at the airport; I’m at school; people all around me, I’m …technicality? Hide them with Allah……but I wanna….the main subject, the reason I wanna share with you guys وَإِذْ قَالَتْ أُمَّةٌ مِّنْهُمْ WA IDH QALAT UMMATUM MINHUM. You know there was a group among them that tried to warn them not to play with Allah’s Law. Do these guys know that that’s Allah’s Law? They don’t have to play with Allah’s Law. Do they know that that’s Allah’s Law? Yeah, so then there’re two kinds of sinners. There’s this sinner who doesn’t know any better, he didn’t know anything. And there’s this sinner that know that what they are doing is wrong and they do it anyway. Now when they know that they’re doing something wrong and they do it anyway. You say, “Man, there’s no point telling you.” “Why not?” They already know. It’s not like me telling him he gonna change anything because whatever I was gonna say he already knows. But a group among them would go regularly and try to give them advices sincerely; and say, “Please, don’t do this. It’s not good for you. It’s not good for us. It’s not becoming of Muslims to play with Allah’s Law. Ask for forgiveness, there’s still hope for you. Just make TAWBAH.” They will try to keep going back.
There was another group among the Muslims who are not playing with the Law of Allah, who said, “These people are Munafiq.” There’s no way to talk, there’s no justification to talk to them, don’t waste your time talking to them. The next Ayah is a dis-agreement between two groups of Muslims. Go to them who are not playing with Allah’s Law. One is saying, there is no hope in this sinner and the other’s saying, but we still have to talk to them.
Allah says, وَإِذْ قَالَتْ أُمَّةٌ مِّنْهُمْ WA IDH QALAT UMMATUM MINHUM. A group of among them said, لِمَ تَعِظُونَ قَوْمًا اللَّهُ مُهْلِكُهُمْ LAM TA’IDHUNA QAWMAN-ALLAH MUHLIKUHUM? …….Why you are giving advice to a nation that Allah has already decided to destroy? Allah is going to destroy them, guaranteed. Who…….use. Why? Because in their minds, He said it’s guaranteed to be destroyed.أَوْ مُعَذِّبُهُمْ عَذَابًا شَدِيدًا AW MU’ADH-DHIBUHUM ADABAN SHADIDAH or He is going to torture them with an intense kind of torture. Why are you even going near them? Don’t get caught in the blast, fired. Stay away from them because Allah’s punishment is any second now. Don’t worry about them. Leave them alone. Don’t bother with these people. You still have that……in a man, those guys are rebels. Why even bothering ….? What’s the point? There’s no point talking to them……No problem. Don’t argue, they don’t even come to the Masjid. There’s no point talking to them. The entire lecture is dedicated on how some Muslims are; and how they penetrate; and how do they deal with the Munafiqun. There’s no point talking to them. Allah has already decided to take care of them. They’re aggressive; and they’re rebel; and they’re secularist; they’re modernized; this and that; you know…those guys. Don’t bother with them.
I met a Muslim like a couple of months ago at the Irving Masjid. He went to the Masjid after twelve years for the first time – first time, no Jum’ah, no Eid, nothing. It’s the first time. He owned like eight bars, all sold-out. And just one night in Ramadan, something good in his heart that just bloomed. He started; he had actually never read the Quran in translation, ever. He started reading the Quran in translation, and he decided overnight, just that Ramadan, no one opposes that except Shaytan. Right? He gonna pull out, all of it. His brother kicked him out of the house. His friends don’t want to invite him anymore because even in the beard doesn’t ….for a long time. Then he goes to his brother’s house, all Muslims by the way, they’re all Muslims. He goes to his brother’s house, they have to drink together, just like a sign of brotherhood, so when he said, “I’m not gonna drink…” he kicked him out. He’s completely isolated and ……Those are the kinds of people whom we say, “I met that guy few months ago.” “No way, this guy in the Masjid, come on! Are you kidding me? There’s no way. He wouldn’t expect anything from him. And you know part of that? The more religious…some of our community guests at least the more you look like a little bit like this, the more judgmental they become. You start looking at others as less. They look at your face before, you know, and judge your heart from it. There’s no Hijab on this one. There’s no beard on that one. I know what they’re about already. I know the scale of their Iman already. And I know they have no hope. They have no potential. Even have bad judgment on people, this is absurdity. The AHKAM of Allah are one thing, judging people is something entirely different, we’re not allowed to. This doesn’t take away the AHKAM of Allah, the rules of God, the expectations of Allah. While on the other hand, He doesn’t give us license to judge. It’s just nonsense, simply doesn’t.
So what does this other group say? This is what I wanna end with. One group said, “Why bother?” Right? The other group says, “مَعْذِرَةً إِلَى رَبِّكُمْ MA’DIRATAN ILA RABBIKUM. It will be an excuse that people are present ….. must fear must. In other words, Muslims advising other Muslims and not losing hope in them. INTA’IDUNA WA’AD means to give an advice that goes inside the heart. Not YASDAJIRUNA FASTAJIRUNA. While you are scolding them; why are you yelling at them OSAYYIHUNA ALAYH. No, no, no, SA’IDUNA. Start counselling them, giving them words that are actually go inside the heart. That’s what وعد WA’AD is. You see we’re doing this because if we do this, at least we will have an excuse in front of Allah, not they, we! مَعْذِرَةً MA’DIRATAN go back to them, in other words, we have to care for other believers even if they’re falling in sin because Allah will ask us, “What did you do about your fellow believer? What did you do about your fellow Muslim who was fallen off? Did you …upon him? You just let him go? Is that what you did?” They say, “No, we gonna continue to advise them at least in front of Allah…we can’t change people’s hearts but at least we have an excuse in front of Allah, “Ya Allah, we considered, we tried.” You have cousins, uncles, family members, extended family that you don’t see except on Eid…and they don’t look like you. They don’t want …. And they don’t even know the address of the Masjid. And you see them every once in a while. And they’re very different from you. They’re raising their children very differently from how you’re raising your children. They’re very different in every way. A lot of things are easily HALAL on them that are not HALAL to you. They know they can’t do them but they do them anyway. And you decide to cut yourself off from them completely because you don’t want to get corrupted. It’s the other way around; you’re supposed to be the cause to be advising them, give them good advice. You’re supposed to remain connected. Allah gave you a family for a reason. Allah puts you in the same neighborhood for a reason. Allah brought you to the same community for a reason. Allah put you in the same company to work as coworkers for a reason … so you can have opportunity to share advice for each other مَعْذِرَةً إِلَى رَبِّكُمْ MA’DIRATAN ILA RABBIKUM and then they add finally وَلَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَّقُونَ WA LA’ALLAHUM YATTAQUN. What do I …with? Hopefully, maybe…so that they will have TAQWA also. What this people expect? Just because they are doing things but they know what YAWM AS-SABT right now. Knowing they’re doing that, that does not mean they don’t have a heart anymore. It might still mean after they done playing with the day of Sabt and they got those fish, while they’re eating it and after they’re done eating it, something goes in their hearts, “I shouldn’t have done that.” I hope to get fish this time, so the next Saturday; I don’t have to do it. Something like some conscience might still be in there, and maybe I’ll just go and give them a little bit noise…let’s just hope just a little bit. You don’t understand the power…Allah has put so much hope in sincere advice. If you genuinely do it for the sake of Allah and because you care about somebody else. Generally, if you give advice for that reason, all rules are paused for Allah puts power in them. Allah puts a small ……in them. He puts His BARAKAH in them. You will never know how much BARAKAH Allah will put inside your world, if they come sincerely.
I have to tell you personally…there are friends of mine. Back when I was in college, I didn’t use to make Salat or any…that’s the reason of my problem back in college. And this one guy just one time ended up, “Hey, why don’t you pray?” He said it to me nicely. I started praying. I didn’t miss the prayer since. I just listened to that guy. Allah put something in his hearing. He didn’t give me along lecture. He didn’t show me how Salah is Fard, the one who leave his Salah will burn in Hell, you gonna have this….squeezed in the grave; and instead of ….he said the Fuqaha …he didn’t give me a reason to leave. Okay, let’s go! ………Open your eyes. People would come to you and, “What’s up man? Let’s just leave him alone. Okay. Don’t give him advice! Is this….” And you can save somebody in so much trouble, so much trouble. You can’t give up hope on people and the proof of that will be, “How ready are you to be soft and considerate when giving sincere advice?” If you no longer maintaining … by the way, don’t just help people to give them advice. That’s stupid. Don’t go and give them advice. Call people to be their friend. Have a relationship with people. Be genuine friends. Help them out in the hour of needs and then…their hearts will open to you for advice. Otherwise, all they see is someone who is self-righteous who thinks they gonna tell me how to live my life; they think they are so much better than me. Don’t do that to people. That is self-righteous. Be genuine friends to people before you start giving advice, before you start telling them how to live their lives; and how to educate their kids; and how to spend their times. Don’t do that. It will backfire. And you say, “Ah, I did my job!” Our job is not to warn. بشيراً ونذيراً BASHIRAN WA NADHIRAN. In your case نذيراً ونذيراً NADHIRAN WA NADHIRAN. Right? I did my job, now he has to be better than that. No, that’s not gonna work. That’s not how it works. You just have to find the best opportunity again. May Allah open up our hearts and never allow us to lost hope in Allah . And may Allah make us of those who become a source of hope for others. May Allah make us of those who never lost hope in our family; in our children; in our parents; in our elders; in our community; in our Masajid; in our institutions; in the world. May Allah make us a piece of hope and may Allah give us BARAKAH to our genuine expectations of Him and أنا عند ظن عبدي بي ANA INDA THANNA ABDI BI. Allah says, “I am what My slave thought Me to be.” We have expectations from Allah. He expected us from Allah and you get the best; because that’s what Allah promised. May Allah give all of us the best in this life and the best in the next life.
بارك الله لي ولكم BARAK-ALLAH LI WA LAKUM.
السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته AS-SALAM ALAIKUM WA RAHMATULLAHI WA BARAKATUH.