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Nouman Ali Khan

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Episode Notes

Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan delves on the actions that we adopt after a sin has been committed.

The first thing is when we sin is that we’re disappointed with ourselves. That’s a matter of concern. It’s not something bad to be disappointed in oneself and to be sad about our sin. It’s actually a gift from Allah because it depicts the presence of a still intact conscience.  We should realize that Allah knows our sins and He has forgiven people that have crimes far more than us in the past. No matter how big a sin is, there should be a parable even about smaller sins and how they were sensitive to the smaller sins. We must know that no matter how big our sin is, Allah’s Mercy is still bigger. Our sin is not more powerful than we are and our sin doesn’t have control of us. Rather it is we who are in control. 

How do we overcome this sense of hopelessness when it devours us? We must pray to Allah to open up our hearts and never allow us to lose hope in Allah and make us of those who become a source of hope for others. We should pray that Allah gives us an immense amount of Barakah to our genuine expectations of Him and give all of us the best in this life and the best in the next life.

Episode Transcript

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Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah. On early he was a busy woman with a

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brief reminder, I'd like to add a couple of things, very little can be added to what was already said. And much of what I was planning to say has already been has already been robbed by an asset as usual. So I want to keep this speech short. And every speaker says I'm going to make it short when they're going to make it extra long. But I think I actually need it this time. I think Only time will tell I have hope.

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So

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the first thing I want to share with you guys is just some

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recommendation after this talk is done. When you get time on your own. There's something I want you to guys to watch on YouTube, I believe it's how long

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it's professor named Professor Sherman, our the professor and Chairman, he has about an hour long lecture on not losing hope. And I think it's one of the best presentations of the topic I've ever heard personally, I'll share some of the things from that with you. And I've changed some things from his talk. But I think it's worth listening to and worth taking notes on also, it's just personally very beneficial to Muslims, I think, and just even for your family to hear. But I advise you guys to hear yourself, parents, especially just hear yourself. And hello, Carla and try to discuss some of those things on your own with your kids, instead of sticking them in, in front of a

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TV screen, or a computer screen and having to watch a video because they won't. So I want to share a couple of things with you in terms of the something that the students have the profits on the law to send them, the best students of the Prophet the companions or the along with Allah has made something they just understood about seeing something that they were very clear about that we nowadays are not very clear about. And I want to just reiterate them, just so we can refresh ourselves in our attitudes in terms of sin. The first thing is when you and I sing, we're disappointed with ourselves. That's a matter of fact. I mean, if you have any ounce of decency left

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in you, when you do something wrong, at the end of the day, you look back and you say How could I do that? Now that you're you've lost hope in yourself in some respect, and that's what disappointment by definition is. You've lost hope in yourself and you ask yourself, how could I have done such a thing that's natural, it's normal. It's not something that to be disappointed in yourself. It's not something that to be sad about your sin, it's actually a gift from Allah zoas it means you still have a conscience. But that disappointment was never confused. They never confused it. And allowed that disappointment that they've lost opened themselves, they're not confident in themselves

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anymore. They didn't let that become more translated to a lot has lost hope in me. Just because I don't have opened myself does not mean a lot has not have opened me or a lot is not does not expect more from me, or ally himself is disappointed in me. They didn't extend it to that. Just even if you've given up on yourself, the Muslim knew they understood certain qualities of a law that are permanent. You know, our feelings and our temperaments. They go up and down. You have good days and you have bad days like everyone else who said you have good and bad days was a lot. So just mercy. And his his power to forgive is always there. So you know you don't confuse your mood and your state

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of being and your level of sadness with a laws constant open door policy. Then the second thing, they understood that how no matter how big their sin is, and they should feel terrible, even about smaller sins, and they were they were sensitive to the smallest infractions, the smallest sin. But regardless, no matter how big nursing gets the new unless mercy still bigger.

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So they would never think I've done so much bad now that I'm beyond the point of return, that there's no hope left for me. I'm way past hope. You know, one time I gave you I was talking to a bunch of youth about forgiveness. Just a small reminder about just regular Stefan and escalada forgive you, etc. One brother came up to me afterwards and said, Can I talk to you in private? And I said sure. So we go in the corner and he says bro, look, I've done a lot of messed up stuff.

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I mean, I'll ask for forgiveness because you're seeing, but I'm pretty sure God's not gonna forgive what I did.

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And I was like, Well, I'm pretty sure he will he goes, No, bro, you don't know what I did wrong bad.

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I was like, I know you're bad, you're pretty bad.

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I can appreciate that.

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But know that even you don't have to tell me how bad you are. And you don't have to listen to me the crimes you've committed to I go, Oh, snap, you're right. You ain't going you're going to hell.

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You don't have to do that to me. But know that alarm just knows your sins and has forgiven people that have transgressed far more than you in the past. Not only that, people that Allah knew a lot always knows what's going to happen in the future. Yes. So Allah knew that Alan will die accosted. Yes. A lot already knew that Alan is going to kill babies. He's going to can you imagine that? I mean, just picture that idea. He's gonna kill babies. How evil does a person have to be? Not one by that 1000s every other year, not to mention the innocent people. This is his humanitarian crimes that even an atheist would say that one should die. Even a human rights activist would say that he

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should die. He should suffer 1000 deaths. This is above and beyond what he says about himself declaring himself God. Allah already knows what kind of evil person this is. It's hard to match that kind of evil. It's hard. We come pretty close in the Muslim world sometimes, but it's hard. You know, you're gonna help them listen to the Arab Spring, you know? But regardless, I want to make a point. You know, when Eliza was on set Bousada, he said I want to talk to film.

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He says that

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maybe he'll get purified by benefiting from the reminder.

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Allah puts a hole in Musa alayhis salam when talking to Pharaoh, even though a lot already knows where he's gonna end up. He already knows where you're not allowed to give up on people. And they themselves even as terrible as he is. Allah knows he still has the potential. He is also not at the point of no return. He could still make the choice. He can still make the choice to Panama, not even giving up on down who's left. Who's left. I met a mother not too long ago, she came to a Muslim mother, very religious, very devout mother. And she has two sons, one of them very religious. The other one, let's just not describe it, right? So she comes to me at the end of the seminar also

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right?

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And she says, brother, I can't make the offer my other son, I can't do it. I've taken him out of my heart. He's no longer my son, he parties, he goes to clubs. He has a girlfriend or two and he's on drugs. And he doesn't listen to me as he prayed. He hasn't traded two or three years. My other son is a hospital for odd and he's resisting it. I don't have any hope and another son, I've taken it out and I personally know what I told her. No. I said How dare you, lady.

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Allah made her You want me to him, your son, a lot needed that connection. You are not in any position to cut a connection that align himself me. The only day on which connections are cut is the day of judgment, what's up after I've been with us, but until then, you are bonded to your son. And until the command of the law comes you cannot cut yourself off. And she says but what about this Ibrahima? You know, a new holidays around he was trying to save his son and I told him no is like electrical you.

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You're gonna cite that revelation came to New Orleans to cut his relationship from his son 950 points something years. He's still hoping with his son. And the only time he stops is when the love tells him this stuff.

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So you're gonna you're six months of frustration compared to 950 years ago.

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What would you

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you can't do that you can open people I was mentioned before. So now I want to share with you. The second thing that you're seeing is not greater than Allah's mercy. Then a third interesting thing that the Sahaba understood and sometimes we don't clearly understand, your sin is not more powerful than you are.

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Your sin does not have control of you. You're in control. People say I can't help myself. I can't help myself. I just get angry and yell No, then my lights turn off. I don't know what's going on after that. And a few hours later, when I'm, you know, my colors change back from green to back to human again. And I've shrunk in size now then. I don't know. I have no recollection of what happened in the past. You know, a bunch of incredible hopes in our community with their anger. Oh, bro, you know, when I once I get to my player, I can't help myself. You know, I go to college and I'm saying it just happened. What can I do?

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Can Oh, it's beyond me. It's I feel I don't have any power over myself. I can't help myself. I can't help my finger from clicking

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You know, I can't help but respond to the text.

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I can't help but look at that stuff. I can't help myself. So I have understood Yes, we make mistakes. And sometimes our sins get the better of us chiffons was was that gets the better of you. Your motto gets the better of you, but a lot of creative you have control over yourself. And only you can give up that control. They understood Yeah, it's like you're guarding a territory. Your heart is like this castle, you're guarding and champion is hovering around trying to make his way in. And then one moment of heedlessness, like a garden falls asleep and the crook slips right in you, you drop your guard a little he slips right in, you make a mistake, but that does that mean

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he's he's one. If you woken up, you can kill him, kick him out again and lock the doors again. That's what is the thought is that's what it is. It's reinforcing your defenses. You cannot allow your sin to win. You can see to yourself look, it's it's one, it's already got the best of me, I'm beyond hope. Just like we don't say the sin are my sin cannot be greater than Allah mercy, my sin is not greater than myself. Luckily, it is much more noble than that unless you come from nobody other than insanity actually occurring. Human beings here in the best possible version, human beings were honored on an honor human being cannot be giving up into sin he can't be caving in. So we understand

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our sins. In addition, just as an addition to that same point, we understand our sins as an enemy, an enemy that disguises itself as a friend, hands us and we do something wrong, it's actually gone itself is an enemy. So we recognize that enemy, the moment we wake up, and we distance ourselves, we cut ourselves off. And maybe we'll fall into that scene again, just because we're human. But that does not mean we'll get used to it. And we're going to be fine with the fact that we'll just mentally adjust ourselves and say, I know I'll be doing this in two weeks anyway. So it's alright. It's not gonna be like that you will never mentally accept defeat from your sin, it will never

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happen this this is the attitude of our companions will be alone with our non human brain.

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Then they understood one other another thing and this is very, very important concept when when dealing with sin and losing hope, people lose hope. And they think they've got they've messed up way too much. You know, they can't turn back to a light anymore.

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The idea is where you're going to turn back to have understood No matter how much even if we think we've disappointed a lot where you're going to go, I've got nowhere to go, there's no place I can hide. There's no place Allah doesn't see me. You know, when you disappoint your mother, your boss, your teacher, you can avoid eye contact.

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You can just go into your room and close the door. You maybe you just appointed a friend, you said something mean to them, you're embarrassed to talk to them again, you don't call them didn't respond to their text, you're kind of it's awkward, because you don't want to deal with that. So you just avoid contact. The problem is allies constantly in contact, whether you realize it or not, who are

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worried we're closer to them, then the jugular vein right here.

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This rope that connects like less closer than that. How are you going to distance yourself from a level not distances, he's already there. He's already there were the ones that pretend is not there. And you know how offensive that is when someone's there and you pretend they're not there.

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I'm sure you do that all the time. When the

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two of you are talking a third one walks in, you pretend they're not they keep talking about yourself. And you pick another language to talk and so they really don't know what you're talking about. Right?

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It's offensive to a lot that you pretend he's not there. So the next point, when they did seem to realize that lies right there. They're caught on camera.

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They realize immediately they're caught on camera. So you know what they did? immediately. Sorry about

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it, honestly. They don't just say your stuff through luck. They're talking not about luck. They're not just saying something they're talking to a lot.

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They're talking to a lot you ever seen a kid whose mom says don't touch the fridge

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and looks around

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and goes towards the fridge?

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And then he hears

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it turns on his mom standing right behind him.

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What does he do?

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his mama? Ha sorry, mom.

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Not gonna do it again. I promise.

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You recognize the presence of the one you've disappointed you turn to him immediately. There's no there's no lapse in between. You don't waste any time. This is the next point. They understood. There's no time. There's no I can't wait to come back to a lot and mend this relationship. I have to do this immediately. There's a shortage of time. There's a sense of urgency. Then.

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The last one, the last bit that I want to share with you. And this is actually one of the most important. A lot of times we meet people that make us lose hope.

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They say things to us that disappoint us or make us feel like yeah, you're right. I am scum.

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They'll tell you how wrong you and your actions are. How evil you become, etc, etc. Don't confuse the disappointment people

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have with you with a disappointment allow might have with you. They're not the same thing.

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They're not the same thing. Your parents disappointment with you Your husband's disappointment in your wife's disappointment with you, your friends disappointment with you, your mom's disappointment with you is not the same as a loving, disappointed. It's not the same. People can put you down, and they will. But a lot of villages will never abandon so long as you don't. I wanted to I don't like to give a talk without turning back to a month book in one way or another. So I wanted to share this one of one of my favorite passages with you that deals with the last discussion that Jacob Lawson had with you guys, which was about not giving up on people. And he gave us several instances from

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the instances of the companions life while the load on them was very, I want to turn to a nation that we think is just damn when he thought he

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every time Muslims would think the worst thing you could call them like bunnies.

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Right? That means like they're totally cursed or you know, we hate them and they're going to hell. That's one example of people that are just completely Damn, there's no hope in them. I picked a passage that has to do with bunnies like so we're clear about something. So we understand how it talks about them. With pinata homeschool you have what do you say to them settle down in this town. This was said after they had crossed the water after they had already disobeyed Masada Salaam and questioned his authority and had undermined him on several occasions. Even if you undermine a messenger once it's enough for you to be done. But they were given opportunity after opportunity

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after opportunity. At the end of it all Allah says IV I mean, even giving you a city and a house. Go ahead. What so Aria khudobin Howard would have been hypershade and he permit whatever you want, but who has is one condition as you go in, you should be seeing his law which means forgiveness.

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As you walk into the city as conqueror, you should enter into the city in the state of touch that one Baba soldier then enter into the city in a state of Saigon. Some of you might be confused. How do you enter the gates of a city in the state of Florida? Right to subsidize on the ground? Now how are you going to enter it's going to hurt your forehead a little if you try to do that? Well understand those of you that play like games like Assassin's Creed alone, like 16th century 14th century video games, they draw a map of these ancient cities for you with gigantic gates, right to have a colossal gate and this is what all cities were like they were gated all around and they had

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this one massive gate you go through and the conquerors are riding into that gate through that gate on their horses and their heads are on the necks of these horses in such that

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a conqueror walks in like this

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you know cuz he's dominated the people the people's heads are down and unless you're conquerors No no, no, you put your heads down to a love when you conquer the city. And as you're putting putting your head inside that while you're doing so, what should you say head fall you should be asking forgiveness, forgiveness, forgiveness, forgiveness as as you're going in, in a state of sight now you're asking for forgiveness. Allah says all your past crimes are forgiven just do this. Just do what asked for forgiveness. Have they done small crimes or big crimes in the past? Huge crime not just in the absence of a profit in the presence of a profit they've done huge crime what are some of

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those use crimes? Let's see Oh, yeah, worshipping someone other than Allah. A cat you know the story.

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crimes like murder.

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crimes like this you know, disregarding gifts of a blessing to see enough Where's the rest of the menu?

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with what's for dinner 197 What's

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up?

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What else we got? Can you go ask a love Please from additional orders? Please

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talk to a lawyer

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unless it's all forgiven if you just do what asked genuinely for forgiveness, and they played with it

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as a love forgiven previous since before

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so then he left so many things go to my folder and

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then he pardoned us and he pardoned us and he pardoned us, but when they played around with forgiveness, unless has nothing to do with them. You just asked for forgiveness. We will cover your extended list of sin wasn't as evil mazzini and we will excel increase those who have a son. Now you guys know there's Islam and then what? Eman And then what if son? Allah is talking to people that have a long list of sins. And he's saying just if you ask for forgiveness, there is no end to how awesome you can become you can even become from that mazzini you never know what someone can achieve, even if their track record is bad. Like cleans the state. Oh sweet only because they asked

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for forgiveness. But what do they do? How about the LLC now? What am woman home? Hold on, hold on, let me see the law. They replaced the word that was given to them. The word was the instruction was forgiveness. They replaced forgiveness with mockery. They made a mockery out of forgiveness. That's one thing alone. I'd like to give you one thing that can

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Get rid of all your crimes. And you make fun of that one thing, which is what asking for forgiveness? What do we learn from that and the lesson from a punishment from the sky immediately didn't even wait for judgment day. He didn't even for the rest of us law, even law told them, You know, I didn't musalman until a given time, but for this group that played around with the last offering of forgiveness, the ones that played with that Allah sent them the punishment immediately be back on the phone, because of the corruption that they used to be engaged in. What do we learn from that? Don't make fun of the power of forgiveness. Don't make light of forgiveness, take it

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seriously that you're gonna ask a lot for forgiveness. Don't ask.

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No, no, it's not a light matter. It's a serious matter. It means you come back to a lump. Because that's something alone will not procrastinate punishing you for this is what will connect you directly to a larger window. So don't make light of it. Don't be like them now. Now let's turn to hope in other people, Allah azza wa jal says was the home ask them about the nation and in Korea, and that he kind of has a lot of backup that used to be right at the very edge of the ocean. In other words, they were they were a beach town. There was a group of my buddies, that we're a beach community. And the obviously, whether you're a beach community, what's your primary economy?

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That's your primary means of sustenance. If you do enough is somebody when they used to violate the Sabbath, the Saturday you know how they used to violate the Sabbath, right? You're not supposed to do any business on Sunday. You're supposed to just worship Allah that was the instruction that Allah says they violated the Sabbath now light swing, why did that if that became an eternal home, you must have been you must have to him shoulder on when their fish would come to them on the day of seven jumping out of the water.

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And like, make eye contact with them.

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All right, what you're gonna do, you know. And then Allah says as a test, while your mind is we do not see him on the days that there were no set Saturdays on them. No fish would show up. So they look at the fish like I catch you tomorrow, Sunday. Game Day, you know, they show up Sunday, no fish. The whole week, nobody Saturday, they jump out of the water again.

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So they have to come up with some way of capturing those fish and not violating the law of a muscle they played with laws law. They made a casino high tide and low tide the water comes in. So they made a ditch, the water will come in and when it receives some water gets stuck with the fish in it.

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Right now, but we didn't do anything on.

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technicality. Getting off on the technicality from court nothing unless you can argue technicality. People say you shouldn't talk to a non Muslim. I'm not talking I'm just passing my fingers on the screen.

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Talking

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and you shouldn't talk install it. I'm not.

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I'm at the airport. I'm at school people all around me. I'm not in politics. technicalities. Try them with us. Yeah, that works out for you.

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But I wanted the real subject. The reason I wanted to share this with you guys. Well, as far as

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you know, there was a group among them that try to warn them not to play with a loved one.

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These guys know that as well as

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the ones that were paying with a lot more did they know that that's? Yeah. So you know, there's two kinds of sin. There's a sinner that doesn't know any better. Since

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then they're sinners that know what they're doing is wrong, and they do it anyway.

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Now, when they know that they're doing something wrong, and they do it anyway, you say, Man, there's no point telling him? Why not?

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You already know.

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It's not like me telling him he's gonna change anything. Because whatever I was gonna say he already knows. But a group among them would go regularly and try to give them advice and say, Please don't do this. It's not good for you. It's not good for us. It's not becoming a Muslim to play with a Muslim, ask for forgiveness, there's still hope for you just make over.

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They will try to keep going back. There was another group among the Muslims who were not playing with the law of Allah who said these people are monopolist. There's no reason there's no reason. There's no justification talking to them. Don't waste your time talking to them. The next day is about a disagreement between two groups of Muslims. Both of them are not playing with laws law. One is saying there's no hope in these centers and the other thing you know, we should still go talk to them. Allah says it's called a woman coming home, a group of among themselves. Eva Guna Coleman.

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Are you giving advice to a nation that Allah has already decided to destroy? always going to destroy them guaranteed Monaco visa is huge. Why? Because in their mind, these guys are guaranteed going to be destroyed. Oh, my God, shahidan or he's going to torture them with an intense kind of torture. Why are you even going near them? Don't get caught in the blast fire. Just stay away from them because it less punishment is any second now. Don't worry about it. Leave him alone. Don't bother with these people. We still have that today. Man. Those guys are liberal five minutes.

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Okay, I'll finish before then we will have to give you the minus three, like other nonsense.

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Okay?

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So

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why even bothering him giving him the point? What's the point? Do we find that today those Muslims are liberal their party didn't even come to the masjid there's no point talking to them entire entire lecture dedicated to how some Muslims are and how they're headed straight for the hell and there's a monopoly food and just

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don't bother talking to them unless already decided to take care of them. Those progressive dental liberals in those, you know, those those secondaries and those modernized Muslims, and, you know, those guys, don't bother with that. I met a Muslim like a couple of months ago at the Irving mushes

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came to the machine after 12 years for the first time.

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First time, no drama, no worries, nothing phobias, for the first time, he owned like eight bars

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of delta.

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And just one room of one night in normal bonds. something clicked in his heart that this is wrong. But he started he had actually he told me he had never even read the Koran in translation ever.

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We just got a visa for Han in translation. And he decided overnight, just that Ramadan know what goes out, Stefan right.

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He's gonna pull out of the business, he pulled out a hold of it.

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His brother picked him out of the house, his friends don't want to invite him anymore, because they've been in the beer business of the bar business for a long time. Even when he goes to his brother's house almost. And by the way, they're almost, okay. They go to their house, they have to drink together. That's like a sign of brotherhood, please. When he says I'm not gonna drink, they're offended, they kick him out. He's completely isolated and becomes a Muslim,

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is cut off.

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Those are the kinds of people we'd say if we met a guy two months ago, he says this is no way this guy must be

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kidding.

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There's no way we wouldn't expect anything from. And you know, part of that the more religious some of our community gets at least the more than look like they're religious, the more judgmental they become. They start looking at others as less than losers Look at your face before they you know, and judge your heart from it. There's a few jobs on this one, there's no beard on that one. And I know what they're about already. I know the state of their human race.

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And I know what they have no hope they have no potential, easily easy to pass judgment on people. Right? This is this is an absurdity, the outcome of a law one thing, judging people is something entirely different. We're not allowed to. It doesn't take away the outcome of a law. It doesn't take away the rules of God, the expectations of a law. But on the other hand, it doesn't give us license to judge. It just doesn't it simply doesn't say what it is. Other groups say this is what I want to end with.

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One group said Why bother? Right?

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The other group says, nah, give us an either or

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it will be an excuse that we will present to our message to your master.

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In other words, Muslims advising other Muslims and not losing hope in them and that he will not want means to give an advice that goes inside the heart. Not just that you do not ask that you do not Why are you scolding them? Why are you you know yelling at them? who say oh, no, no, no, no. That is una softly counseling them. Giving them words that will actually go inside the heart. That's what I live. Right? They say we're doing this because if we do this at least we will have an excuse in front of a lot not they we

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not you know goes back to them. In other words, we have to care for other believers, even if they're falling in sin, because Allah will ask us what did you do about your fellow believer? What did you do about your fellow Wilson who was falling off? You just gave up on us? Let them go? Is that what you did? They say no, we're gonna continue to advise them at least in front of Allah, we can change people's hearts, but at least we'll have an excuse for in front of Allah, Allah, we sincerely try. You have cousins, uncles, family member extended family that you don't see except on. And they don't look like you and they don't got no beard and they don't even know the address of the masjid.

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And you see them every once in a while, and they're very different from you. They're raising their children very differently from how you're raising your children. They're very different from you in every way. A lot of things are easily held on them that are not allowed for you, you know, you can't do them but they do them anyway. And you've decided to cut yourself off from them completely. Because you don't want to get corrupted. It's the other way around. You're supposed to be constantly finding opportunities to give them good advice.

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You're supposed to remain connected let me do a family for a reason. I love what you in the same neighborhood for a reason I love brought you to the same community for a reason. I'll put you in the same company to work as co workers for a reason. So you can have opportunities to share advice with each other lousy luck and you know don't be cold and then they add finally what I love all your support

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What I want to conclude with, hopefully, maybe,

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so that they will have

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will these people express just because they're doing playing with the yo yo myself right now knowing not I'm doing knowingly, they're doing that. That does not mean they don't have a heart anymore. It might still mean after they're done playing with the day of Sabbath and they got those fish while they're eating it, or after they're done eating it, something goes into harvest, and I shouldn't have done that.

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I hope they get fished this time, the next Saturday, I don't have to do

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something, my subconscious might still be in there. And maybe if I just go and give them a little bit of advice, it might just work. It might just work just a little bit nicer for you know, this is you don't understand the power of luck and put so much power in sincere advice. If you genuinely do it for the sake of the law, and because you care about somebody else, genuinely, if you give advice for that reason. Our words are powerless, but a lot with power in them a lot which is cool by a coolant that he puts his barakah in them. You will never know how much water will put inside your words. If they come sincere. I can tell you personally, there are friends of mine back when I was in

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college, and I didn't use the next slot or anything. That's the least of my problems back in college. I'm just one guy just one time found a good opportunity say hey bro, why don't you failed?

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He said it too nicely.

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I'm sort of praying.

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I didn't miss a prayer since just because of our God. Allah put something in his word. He didn't give me a long lecture he didn't show me house a lot is called and the one who abandoned Salah will burn in hell and is going to have these punishments in the grave. And you will be considered a cafe by certain Pocahontas. He didn't give me a list of three.

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Okay,

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let's go.

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People can let's not go that far. So good. All right. Well, how can you write?

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Simple let's come to Elsa pipe. Okay.

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You know, you're talking somebody's talking trash about me. Let's Let's leave them alone. Okay, I'm getting advice. Just a small software, and it can save somebody so much trouble. So much trouble. We can give up on people. And it will the proof of that will be how ready are you to be soft and considerate when giving sincere advice. If you no longer maintaining it. And by the way, don't just call people to give them advice. That's stupid.

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Don't call people to give them advice. call people to be their friend.

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have a relationship with people. be genuine friends help them out in the hour of need. And then they are their heart is open to you for advice.

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Otherwise, all they see is someone who's self righteous, who thinks they're going to tell me how to live my life. They think there's so much better than don't do that, to me.

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That sounds very self righteous. be genuine friends to people before you start giving advice before you start telling them how to live their lives and how to raise their kids and how to spend their time. Don't do that. It'll fire it'll backfire. And you'll say oh, I did my job. Our job is not to warn, but sheelane when the villain

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in your case, even when the villain, right?

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I did my job now the dots between them and a lot. No, that's not how it works. That's not how it works. We just have to find the best opportunity we can enlarge that we just open up our hearts and may never allow us to lose hope in the lives of women. And may Allah make us of those who become a source of hope for others, realize those that make us of those who never lose hope in our family, in our children, in our parents, in our elders in our community, in our massages in our institutions. In the world. We have large of the biggest of people hope and realize, oh just give us Baraka, who are genuine expectations of him and are in governing our DBMS as I am as my slave assumes me to be

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we have good expectations of Allah. We expect the best from Allah and you will get the best because that's what a lot promise allows me to give all of us the best in this life and the best in the next life logic alone.