GEM #07 How The Prophet SAW Minded his own Business

Nadim Bashir


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The importance of avoiding wasting time in personal matters and avoiding activities that will harm others is emphasized. Personal matters, especially religious matters, are also discussed. The speakers stress the need for a community to be strong and not give up, while acknowledging past actions and avoiding harms from others. The potential consequences of harms from others are also discussed.

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First of all, I want to begin by asking all of you a question that if someone were to ask you what is the definition of a good practicing Muslim? Most of us will say, a good practicing Muslim is that person who fasces on Mondays and Thursdays, perhaps, who is punctual about their Salaat who is someone who reads Quran every single day. He's very particular about his God and so forth. That will be our definition of what a good practicing Muslim is our mindset. It has been created in such a way that when we say good, practicing Muslim, the only thing that comes to our mind is very bad that and that is why many of us we are lacking and we're suffering when it comes to our character. When it

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comes to our behavior when it comes to the way we interact with others in our community. There are so many people who pray salads, but there'll be the most rude amongst others. There are people who read Quran, but they will be the ones who cheat often too. So that is why Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says in a hadith Minh Hosni Islam Bill Murray, that Kumala Yanni this hadith Wallahi. First of all, Imam Novia, Allah, Allah has placed his Hadith in his 40 Hadith, meaning that it has some significance to it. But on top of that, if you really say the Hadith in itself, it is Wallahi a very, very powerful Hadith of the Prophet alayhi salam, first of all, is Rasulullah

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sallallahu. So from this hadith, what he's telling us is two things. Number one is, we should never engage in something that will not benefit us. We know this from the Quran, Allah says that those people who stay away from Allah, Allah Vina, whom I love we, what are you doing, those who stay away from a lover, those who stay away from anything that will not benefit them in this dunya or in the era. And if they have other characteristics that are highlighted to me, no one, but this is one of those characteristics, they will be amongst those who will be the dwellers of Jana, and not just Jana, gentle for those. Why? Because it's very easy to waste time I talked about this one other time

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before, especially in summer, we have to be very careful of how we spend time. If we even waste three hours a day, that makes up 21 hours a week, and 21 times 10, which is 10 weeks of summer, you're talking about 220 210 hours, wasted 210 hours wasted, there are so much time that we are wasting without even us realizing so this is the very first meeting the Hadith. But the second meal of the hadith is what I want to highlight today. And that is that in a simple way, the Prophet said someone said Do not engage in something that does not concern you. Meaning what, that there is no reason to interfere in other people. There is no reason to into interject in other people's matters.

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And ultimately, a person shouldn't mind their own business. This is what Rasulullah sallallahu is, is teaching us and this is once again something that we often are not doing. Let me give you a few examples. First of all, is one of the areas where we should never ever interfere, we should never get involved is other people's private matters. Now once again, if you have a really good deep friendship with someone and you know that you can ask them a question, you can ask them a question, but you should never interfere in someone's life. If you don't know them, do not try to be don't try to be a person who can solve every single problem, when you see a problem something that is going on

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in someone else's life. Let them try to figure it out Rasulullah sallallahu ala he was sending one of the most beautiful things that we find about him is he was four of course Rasul Allah, if he wanted, he could have gone and ask any Sahabi he wanted that what is going on in your life? Roswaal some will not do that. Yes, you will come and ask religious matters, but when it came to other people's personal matters, their family, their children, and things of that type, he would never ever interfere. And that is why this is somewhat one area that we should never ever interfere are also some could have but he never would unless they will come to the province on them. And they will

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say yeah, Rasul Allah, I have a problem. And by the way, there were a hadith there are a hadith that tell us that sometimes when people would come to the prophets of Salaam, sometimes the Prophet alayhi salam would ask some very sensitive questions. He will ask some very personal matters, but it is very important that we do not ever interfere into other people's matters, whether and not just about family, even personal things. What is your salary, like? What is your job like? What is your you know, your your your family matters, your wife, your kids and so forth. There's no need to ask these kinds of questions. Why? Because once again, this is not our place. If I see something

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regarding someone else's family is still

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does not give me the authority to go to that brother and said, Oh, brother, I saw the other day something's going on in your family, can I help? No, if they come to you, they come to you. Otherwise, you should never go and interfere into other people's life. What that does is, let me tell you exactly what that how that affects the community. When we don't matter, when we don't mind our own business, then we're focused on others, and we're not focused on ourselves. When we are focused on others, then these are the things that create a vision, a create bad, it creates a bad assumption. When it creates a vision, a thought, an idea, you see something, you've created an idea

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about that person about that family and so forth. What that does is Allah subhanho wa Taala says in about the Vani Ethem. Then he says wala, just so that do not spy, when you have a thought, you're asking yourself, you know, what is this thought correct or not? That leads you to step number two, which is what, let me go interfere in their life. Let me go and spy on their life. Let me go and spy on that family. And you begin to ask others. One is to go and spy on them. But one is to go and ask others. You're asking others what do you know about this family and so forth? Why are you asking about other people's families? Why are you asking about someone else in their personal life? Mind

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your own business, worry about yourself? Allah will not ask any one of us. What did they do? Allah will ask us what did I do? What did we do in my family? So that is why Allah says Walter just says to and then he says, the third step one, you're about to combine, it all started and then it leads to backbiting. So when you don't mind your business and you're focused on others, it creates a vision in your mind. That one leads you to what to spy on others, does spying leads to what to backbiting? And then you're committing a sin. That is why the Prophet SAW law why some tells us mind your own business, worry about yourself, another place where we should mind our business. And this

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is not a place where we should interfere and so forth. That is regarding any kind of judgment regarding anyone. This is something that we often do, especially the religious sector. A lot of times we look at someone who does not have religion in their life, and we say You know what, they are far from Allah's mercy, they will go to jahannam they will do this, we start to pass a judgement. Basically, in this situation, we began to play God. It is only Allah's authority to decide who will go to Jana and who will go to Jana. This is no one else's place. No one else's position. And fact even if there is a person who's a complete sinner, who knows, Allah may forgive

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him, may Allah may not forgive me. That is why in body there's a story mentioned by Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam of a man who was an extremely sinful man. And he knew how sinful he was, you realize that I am so sinful, that if I die, Allah will punish me severely. He instructed his family, that when I die, I don't want you to bury me because I am fearful of the Wrath of Allah subhanho wa taala. So he says to his family, that I want you to burn me and take my ashes and spread it into the air, like throw it into the air means that I've become into dust particles, and I'm just within the atmosphere and within the air. It is mentioned that the province ism says that Allah says

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that this man his family, carried out his orders as he as he wanted, but Allah subhanho wa Taala commanded the earth to gather those particles, and he was resurrected, and he was brought together. And Allah subhanho wa Taala asked this man that why did you say to your family to do this? He said, Yeah, Allah, I was fearful of your punishment. Because of this. Allah subhanho wa taala. He understood this, you know, this man, he understands it. He's guilty internally. He's guilty internally, Allah subhanho wa taala, a result of his guilt, Allah subhanaw taala forgave him. Now think about this for a moment. Imagine watching a person who is such an excessive sinner, how many

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times we pass a judgement about that kind of person. There was a man and the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who was an excessive drinker. By the way, this teaches us that even the community of the Prophet sunnah was not a perfect community. You know how many people I when I talked to them, they say, oh, Don't compare me Don't compare us to the to the life of the prophet sundown. That was a perfect community know, even the community were the province that um, was mean that overall people there in that society, there was sense, there was drinking, there was Zina these things did take place. Why didn't Allah give a perfect community to the province of Salem? Because

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then we will not be able to compare ourselves to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam it's a very, I mean, think about the Hikmah of Allah subhanho wa taala. So there was an excessive drinker who was brought to the masjid and the Sahaba of the Allahu Anhu began to criticize him that what kind of person are you?

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And then once one person said to this man who was a drinker that may or may you stay away from Allah subhanho wa Taala as mercy he says something along those lines that you will stay away from Allah's mercy, or may you stay away from Allah's mercy at that time Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he stopped that person. Because once again, the profile is always teaching us that do not hate the sinner, Hate the sin. This is what the Bible is teaching us. So the Prophet Allah you some said that do not become an ally, oh shaytaan against your brother. And then the Prophet saw some says that this man, he loves Allah and His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, at the end of the day, he

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doesn't give us any right because a man a woman may love Allah and His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and we leave that matter to Allah subhanho wa taala. Another area where we should never ever interfere in mind, our own business is regarding someone else's past. This is something that in our day and age is called what canceled culture, okay, canceled culture. Anything that a person has done in the past, bring it up, you know, it becomes resurfaced, and then they get judged based on what they have done. Once again, we is not our place our position to dig up someone else's dirt to dig up someone else's crimes. Because Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he teaches us also in a hadith

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Narrated by Abu Musa al Assad Milady Allah and the Prophet alayhi salam says that anyone who tries to find faults, anyone who tries to find a fault within others, Allah subhanho wa Taala will expose their faults while they are sitting in their homes. Allah will expose their faults in front of the entire community, in turn for the entire society while they are sitting even in their homes. Why is this quote so important while they're sitting in their homes, because the only way someone's going to know you is when you go outside and you talk to others, right? The more you talk to others, the more you're social, then people are gonna know your life. Imagine if there's a person who stays at

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home, they're completely antisocial, there's no way that they will come to know about you. Roswall some scientists telling us that if a person is continuously dedicated to just finding fault with others, than Allah will find will expose their faults, Allah knows her faults, but Allah will expose her faults, even if they're sitting in the comfort of their homes. So that is why it is absolutely important that we don't even if someone has done something, if Allah subhana wa Tada can forgive a man who has committed murder 100 times, then who are we to say, let's bring up something of the past and let's try to disgrace them. And by the way, even if someone has done something in the past, it

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is not our job to say that they have to make Toba to Allah subhanho wa taala. You know, today there are people who say that a person has committed a crime. They have to make a public apology. There's no such thing in our deen of a public apology. When I said it Allah Allah was accused of a sin and there was no worry that came from Allah subhanho wa Taala What did the problem say to either the Allah Juana now keep in mind, I etias matter I says matter had become a social matter. There were people sitting inside the masjid measured never we talking about ICER the hola Juana asking and talking about this. And there were some who did not pass any judgment about our about our mother

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eyes, or the hola Juana and there were some Muslims and they were lashed and punished later on because of this, because they did it they did involve themselves in spreading this rumor that I shall the Allah Juana did not want to be let commit a sin. But what did was was some say to Aisha at the very end right before the war he came. The Prophet it is I'm told the Aisha Yeah, I shall I don't know. If you have committed a sin if you are if you are innocent, Allah subhanho wa Taala will let me know. But if you are guilty, if you are guilty now once again it does matter become a social matter. Everyone was talking about it. The Prophet some did not say hi Isha, you have to go and make

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a public apology. He said I Isha. There will be a low on Hmm. If you have committed a sin. If you have I don't know that make a sincere Toba to Allah subhanho wa taala. When a person commits a sin, and we may know of a sin that they have committed, then it is not our job to say that they have to make an apology. It is not our job to say that did you make Toba to Allah subhanho wa Taala does between them and Allah subhanho wa Taala it is on our place. So that is why it is absolutely important that especially when it comes to sins of the past and finding faults within others. This is an area that we should never ever interfere. And the last thing where we should not interfere is

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things that especially next thing is intentions. This is one area that often we see people doing something oh I know the intention of this brother. I know the intention of this sister that is on our plate

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This is a matter between Allah Allah, that person and Allah subhanho wa Taala if that person has committed a sin, if that person has no Eclass that's between them and Allah subhanho wa Taala but this is also another area where we have absolutely no right to interfere into other people's matters. I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to grant us the o'clock of Rasulullah saw Salam May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us amongst those who have the excellence of Islam in our life. I'm a little bit I mean, what is that Kamala hate Islam why they come around to live

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