10 Lessons from my Life
Channel: Mirza Yawar Baig
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Salam Alaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato
Alhamdulillah horrible alameen wa salatu salam ala l mursaleen, Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
I wrote this because I was asked to give this last lecture and so I'm giving it
I call it
I call it the last lecture not because I don't mean that literally,
but because to underline one very important point for myself and also for you, which is
the point based on which Rasul Allah Allah said, Pray every Salah as if it is your last.
And so, therefore, whenever I do any lectures or I teach any class, I tell myself, this is my last lecture, this is my last class.
And I say that because, whatever you may have done in life, people only remember the ending.
So, therefore, it is very important to make sure that the ending is good exit or a height. So, if something is to be ending, it should be the best.
Therefore, if you treat every interaction as if that is the last, that inshallah every interaction will be the best.
And therefore, I remind myself anew that we should live deliberately, we should live consciously, and we should live with awareness.
We should live deliberately, we should live consciously and we should live with awareness, because merely to draw breath is not to live.
Breathing and living are two different things.
Every action must be done consciously and deliberately. And that is why manava coolala in his book, or rather Saleen in the merkabah, in the opening chapter of the book in the introduction, he described Nia
because the first half the first half is in that book, as well as in Bukhari and Muslim is the heavies of Nia narrated by our Catalano, where a soldier Salah was reported to have said in our Albania, that the deed depends on the intention.
So therefore, re defined intention. And he said, I'll inherit Nia fee equally acquire more frequently amahl, we're frequently our L bar is a total of
five things. He said, his hair of the near the awareness of the near bringing forward the near understanding the near remembering the near expressing the near,
equally awkward in everything that we speak, we're frequently ama, in every action that we take, we're frequently in every condition, we find ourselves in a bar is a coffee, whether it is visible and in in the outer world or whether it is hidden inside ourselves. See this beautiful definition of the near, he said that a person must be aware of the intention of doing something
the intention of saying something, the intention of doing something and when he or she is in a situation, his intention or his condition in that situation must be top of mind awareness, whether this is expressed or whether it is.
So imagine if a person and what is therefore the expected knee of the Muslim. What is the one standard near for every action for the Muslim, the pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala right. Every action, every speech, every action, every hall that we find ourselves in must be only and only for the pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala geladeira.
So therefore, if a person is aware of this near in every single situation of his life, then it becomes impossible for that person to do anything wrong.
So the greatest safety from sin is the awareness of the knee.
And that's the reason why I say last lecture not because I know that this is the last one such thing, Allah only Allah Subhana Allah knows what the future is, but because this is the intention, and this is the way in which we need to live our lives.
The actual title for this lecture is 10 fundamental lessons that I learned from my life.
I hope they will be useful for you as well. The first and foremost fundamental lesson that I learned from my life is to make Allah subhanho wa Taala the first in your life.
I say make Allah a part of the equation because he is in it anyway.
Make Allah a part of the equation because he is in it anyway. Allah subhanaw taala is
a part of the equation in our lives, whatever we do in our lives, this is being witnessed by Allah subhanaw taala
Was Samuel Bashir is the one who here then he is the one who sees who Alamo visa De Soto He is the one who is aware of what is in our hearts. So there is nothing for Allah subhana wa Taala which is nothing which is hidden in this world, whether it is within ourselves or whether it is in the external world, Allah subhanho wa Taala is aware of all of them. The question is, are we aware of the fact that Allah is aware
and that's why I say to myself when you make Allah subhanaw taala number one in your life.
Three things to do. Therefore, one is inculcate in yourself a love for the column of Allah Subhana Allah the Quran,
the Quran is the closest that we will get to Allah subhanho wa Taala in this life,
we ask Allah Subhana Allah Jalla delallo to grant us His desire and to grant us his vision. When we meet him in sha Allah was down on the Day of Judgment. But in this life, the closest that we will come to Allah subhanho wa Taala is through his column through his speech, which is the Kitab of Allah, the Quran will carry.
The second one is to see the glory and magnificence and majesty of Allah subhanho wa Taala in his creation,
to be aware of this and to see the glory and majesty of Allah subhanaw taala and his creation.
My latest book is
the second latest book, the latest book is called a voice in the wilderness, the one before that is called the world we don't see
which is a series of essays on mine on nature and on wildlife and so on the world we don't see
and I have differentiated there between looking and seeing between hearing and listening.
The difference between looking and seeing is the same difference between hearing and listening. One is a function of the organ,
if your word functioning eyes, it will see
you will look if you are functioning yours You will hear
the other one is a function of the intention, it is an expression of the interest in something
a person listens only if they are interested.
everybody hears me there is sound happening, our eyes at least have lived the years of knowledge. So there is a sound, the sound is there is going to come into yours. But whether you are listening to that or not depends on your interest in the subject, let me give you a very quick and easy to understand example. Many times you might have found that you have some friends and so on in your house and they are visiting you and you're in the living room. And maybe you have a small baby an infant who is in the next door bedroom.
Now that baby is sleeping, you and your wife are here in the sitting room entertaining your guests. The baby makes a small sound in his or her sleep
when you hear it.
And between the mother and the father who will hear it was the mother.
What is that an expression of the guest probably won't even hear it.
Even if they hear it when it comes out.
But for the mother, it is my baby.
It's an expression of interest. And therefore when I say see the glory of Allah subhanho wa Taala I'm not talking about going there like your usual tourist, jaw hanging out and hanging down and just looking at things and going war. I'm saying look at the glory of Allah. Look at the majesty of Allah subhanho wa Taala the thing that gives me the greatest pleasure is to photograph small birds,
tiny little birds, little locks, which nest in the ground, they rest on the ground.
And they nest in a place which is infested with monitor lizards.
And with grass snakes, and with rat snakes, all their food is birds eggs. The food is vertex
yet lacks type.
Yet those little tiny Robins they thrive. Tiny little birds. The cover my book is a little black bird I don't even know the name of that bird. That's okay because I don't think the bird knows the name either
sitting on a single blade of grass, and the blade of grass is not even bending.
So what's the weight of that bird?
next to nothing.
The glory of Allah the glory of Allah subhanaw taala is not necessarily visible only in the you know great and and huge and
massive things that he has created. I think is most visible in the tiny things that is clearly
one of the
When I lived in the US in the in 9497,
I was looking for a place to conduct an Outward Bound leadership course.
So there's one white American guy who told me he has a he had a piece of land in the northeast, in Maine, and it was a mountain drop. And he said it's a it's a whole forest of oak trees. So we said, let's go see. So he and I went there, we drove up there, and I parked the car under those trees, you have to see an oak tree. I don't know how many of you have seen an oak tree, you have to see an oak tree to understand you know what a massive creation it is. There are a couple of other species which are bigger than that the California redwoods and so on. But the but oaks are the oak trees are the secret of the British ruling the oceans. The oak is the secret why the British took over the oceans
from the Arabs.
The Arabs were mariners long before the British, the Norse the Vikings were mariners long before the Arabs centuries before but neither the Vikings neither the loss nor the Arabs actually ruled the oceans, the British rule the oceans, and the Spanish roll the ocean and the reason is the Arctic they completely change the engineering of the ship. And because of the oak tree they were able to create ships which could cross oceans the north and the Arabs their ships and their shipping was the hug the the the the you know the the land, they hug the land, they were in the show waters they never went across oceans. But for the first time they created the British greater ships the what
they call the drop ship tall ships and it's an it's a magnificent piece of human creation. I mean it was to see a tall ship in action and to imagine that this thing used to be run by people that they used to sell them and use to raise those sales and bring those sales down and so on and and actually climb up those things in stores. You have to actually first sit in a in a boat on a sea in a rough sea I mean I'm not talking about a strong just a rough sea even have a an inkling of what I'm talking about. But imagine now that multiply that a million times on a tall ship, double the mast
it's in what's called the crow's nest which is the viewpoint at the top of the mask. I mean every movement on the at the at the ocean level is magnified 1000 times when at the height of the adoption and people live and people they stay there
in those storms in icy winds.
And they took years to cross the ocean. No, we're not talking about months here we're talking about years.
And that was the oak tree. So now they are I go to this place
this forest of oak trees and the ground is bare. There's not a blade of grass because these trees are so massive and the shade is so thick that nothing grows under it is absolutely clean ground.
But do I surprise I see the little
What I thought was buried in the ground is strewn with his little green berries.
I'm talking about the magnificence of the visual as well.
So here are these oak trees with maybe 200 feet tall or something massive you can put your arms around the two of us together couldn't put arms around it The trunk is so huge. So I picked one of those berries and I realized it was it was compacted leaves it was leaves all together looking like a like a fruit. So as is random I said What is this?
So he I think he must have been Hyderabadi at some point in his ancestry because he typically like like as you are if you ask somebody, a guy
named Marla patiska.
So whenever I said what is this all you don't know.
So then he told me absolutely mind blowing story. He said, he said open this. So I opened it I appealed it. And I find inside that a small caterpillar.
A small caterpillar.
He says there is a little fly
is a tangled line. He said this lie lays its eggs on the terminal bird of the oak. Now what is it all about? The terminal bird is the growing chute, which is at the topmost end of the branch. So we're looking at a terminal bird which is 200 plus feet in the air right in the middle of all that thick and storm and wind and everything is way high above. This line goes up there and lays its eggs
It's egg on the terminal bud of the oak. And he says when that happens, a strange thing happens.
He says the terminal bud stops growing. And the leaves around the terminal bud start growing and the envelope the egg,
the color of the egg. And he says when it is complete, it drops off.
It breaks and drops off.
And where does it drop and fall under the shade of the rocks were nothing integers.
And he says this, all those leaves are the food for the caterpillar. Who's like being born inside a bar of chocolate, you can eat your way out. And that is what the caterpillar does, until the caterpillar comes out, becomes a chrysalis and fly the planet.
This is Allah
he makes something as massive as the OIC,
subservient to the needs of the egg of of life.
The entire growing pattern of the old changes when that fly lays the egg
achieve the wholeness of Allah.
So make Allah number one in your life
and recognize Allah subhanho wa Taala in his creation.
Allah subhanaw taala introduced himself to us in two ways. One is through his creation where he created these things. And I'm giving you only one or two examples. I don't want to keep you around all day. So do the rest of it yourself.
A second way in which Allah subhanaw taala introduces himself
his through his guitar through his collar.
And in this column, Allah subhanaw taala introduces himself in two ways. One is by mentioning his own glory and majesty.
And the other one is by mentioning his Asana
his favor is upon us.
So for example, Allah subhanaw taala said Allah will say
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Quran is asking a question, how many of the nabba of Allah subhanaw taala Will you deny?
And we say Allah we show you many of us here have been and Luca zebu visa Allah, we do not deny any of your number.
So the first
lesson is make Allah number one in your life. And the last of that first lesson is learn to make God
learn to make God and in learning to make, make it a habit to turn to Allah subhanho wa Taala. First, for everything. By all means resort to your material means there's nothing wrong with that.
But if you have a headache first make God then take a Tylenol.
Don't Don't reverse it. Monitor yourself. Every time anytime you have an issue of any kind, monitor yourself and think what is the first thought that comes into my mind? Is it about a material means? Or is it about data loss,
which is the first thought that comes into my mind, whatever the situation might be?
What is the first thought that comes into my mind when I am looking at any blessing of Allah subhanaw taala
somebody sent me
an advertisement for Mercedes
shows this family in Australia of this family has been in this massive car crash. And then there's all of these fuzzy yellow Mercedes of how the seat hugs you and how the you know airbags come out and how the the thing crumbles. And this happens and that happens. And then there's this thing say that these people are alive today because of Mercedes in Nadella whenever somebody one of my brother sent me this clip and I said to him, please send them a message ask them then what happened to Lady Dyer?
Very simple question. And the and the Mercedes in which nearly die was
traveling in was a far superior Mercedes than the one that these people were traveling with. This was an ordinary, you know, garden variety Mercedes. That was a absolutely top of the line Mercedes and it was armored.
So I'll come to diet.
Think about Allah subhanho wa Taala gelato, life and death is not in the hands of Mercedes it is that
it's not in the ad of any doctor. It's not in the hand of everybody. It's an act of Allah subhanaw taala We ask Allah subhanaw taala to enable us to live our lives completely in obedience to Him and to take us in a state when we are in obedience to international second lesson in my life, which I learned was to make Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sahbihi wa sallam solna
my means of guidance.
There are many ways of living your life
and many are good ways.
There are many ways and many are good ways. But there is only one way in which there is a guarantee of success. There is only one way in which you can never go wrong. And that is the way of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam because it because it's only about the way of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam that Allah subhana wa Taala said Colin contempo a boon Allah pata Mooney, you have eco La Jolla. cocobolo. For Rahim, Allah subhanaw taala said say to them, God, Mohammed, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, who claim to love Allah, say to them, make my ativa Follow me emulate me imitate me, do what I told you to do, and do what I did not even tell you to do only because you love me and you
imitate me. Make me your brand.
And what will happen that Allah will love you and Allah subhanaw taala will forgive your sins and Allah Subhana Allah is most forgiving and most merciful.
Because that is the only way which is guaranteed as the way to journal. The sunnah of novellas Allah is the field book of the Quran.
You know, in science we have this system of what's called a book of theory and and what is called a field book. A field book is where the theory is applied. So there is a theory and you say, Well, how am I going to apply this theory? What is the method? You go and look for that in the field book, the center of gravity is the field book of the Quran. Allah aku Salah, yes, Lubbock, Allah. Allah, I'm ready. How must I do that? Go ask Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said Sir Luca arrived to Mooney Hussain de la Salatu. Salam. He said, Pray as you have seen me pray.
I mentioned all of these things in great detail in many hotels. I'm not going to repeat that here. Just a marker.
The third thing is gratitude.
gratitude. And remember one very important thing, gratitude, you know, I realized is Angela vizilite. Allah have had very good teachers in my life.
And so a lot of lessons came to me very early. Like, one thing I realized very, very early in life is that you can never repay anybody.
You can never ever repay or pay back, anybody. And you know what?
Because they did it first.
They did it when you needed it. They did it. When they did not need to do it. They did it when you didn't even ask for it.
How are you going to repay that? Because you are repaying because they did it? They did it without cause you are repaying with cause there's no way that you can repay anyone who has done you any good. No way. It's not possible.
You cannot pay back. What can you do, you can pay forward.
You can pay forward, what's the meaning of pay forward, carry forward what you learn,
carry forward that goodness, do that to somebody else.
I learned many things from my teachers.
And I have spent the rest of my life teaching them brothers.
I hope that in some way, I will be able to pay forward the favors that I received from them.
Some are Muslim, many were not Muslim. It doesn't matter.
It does not matter. A teacher is the teacher. Knowledge is knowledge no matter where it comes from.
So always, always, always. gratitude. Always thank never let a word of ingratitude Come on your tongue. Very often we ask this question, especially in husband and wife, spouse relationships. You asked the husband did you ever you thank your wife for doing this job? But she knows.
Doesn't she know? So my simple question is, doesn't Allah know?
Why then did Allah subhanaw taala say Allah in shocker Tulasi Donna COVID kumala in copper tominaga Villa Shadi
Allah said Verily The one who tags me I will increase my blessing on him and the one who was ungrateful, I will punish him, let him be afraid and fear my punishment. Shadi, as Avi Lucha de Malaga, severe, why is Allah saying that doesn't Allah knows you are thankful or Allah knows what's in your heart.
thankfulness and expressing thanks is not about the other person is not about whether they know or not, it is about you. It is about your attitude of gratitude.
Of Us expressing this in the case of Allah subhanho wa Taala. It is the expression of a Buddha. It is the expression of the fact that you are a slave of Allah subhanaw taala you are, you are accepting and and and realizing that and therefore you're thanking Allah Subhana Allah in the gaze of other people. It is a question of understanding and expressing this gratitude towards that person who went out of their way to help you no matter how small it was. And that is why Rasulullah sallallahu very specifically, he said,
the one who has not thanked the people love Yes. quirinus lamb Yes, karela he has not thanked Allah. The one who has not had the people has not thanked Allah. So don't worry about whether or not you see they know they don't know. It's not a question of whether they know or they don't know, the question of Did you tank or not? If you have not done them, then you are among those who would be counted as ungrateful to Allah subhanho wa Taala and therefore Allah said, we will have his punishment, be afraid of that. Third point is gratitude. Always thank
Alhamdulillah I have tried to do that all my life
in my 400, where Rahmatullah Allah has installed a program called text pan Pro.
So text pan Pro is a very nice but very buggy program. So he he always does this he installs buggy programs.
I have to keep on referring back to him to debug the program. What's that span bro does every once in a while it gives you a statistics about the terms that you're using the most often. So testament row has this feature where you can have small English, Roman script abbreviations for Arabic terms. It doesn't have all kinds of similarities. So for example, in my phone if I say if I type j s Zed K, it puts a Jazakallah O'Hara if I put a s a it says a Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. So, those of you are wondering how how do I write all these albums? This is the secret, I just read as it comes in. Now, the point is, that,
it this statistics cover comes up. So one day he tells me he says, You know what, you know which one which is the term that you use the most often, according to expand pricer Which one is it? He said, Jazakallah
it is dua to Allah, it is making a dua for the person may Allah subhanaw taala give you the best of reward. So gratitude, always, always, always tag people. Number four is discipline.
As they say, we must all suffer from one of two pins, the pain of discipline, or the pain of regret, you must all suffer from one of two pins, the pain of discipline, and the pain of regret. And you know, the key is to learn to love discipline,
not do things, not be disciplined as a Oh, this is a big pain in the neck, which I have to somehow put put, put put up with no, learn to love discipline. Learn to love discipline, because you understand and you see the value in it.
Believe me, right, these words of mine down
and then write them on, you know, on something with zafran and
put them in milk and bring them up
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no matter what talent you have a person who is disciplined, and a person who is structured will always beat you.
You will never ever beat a person who is disciplined, and a person who has structure No matter how much talent you have.
Talent is highly overrated. And structure and discipline is highly underrated.
I know personally, many people who have used
amazing memories, amazing talent, do nothing.
Look at the output, zilch.
People who make fantastic speeches.
The whole audience is totally moved and you know, everybody's sitting in a puddle of tears.
But after the speech is over, it's gone. Now, one week later, you say well, what did he say? Whether he remembers Now you remember and you know why? Because they don't write it up.
That is discipline that is structure is to document is to record.
So you can take it as a pain Oh my God, I have to document distinct I can say well, you know, I wish to be remembered.
I'm giving you only one example. Structure and discipline.
A structured approach always beats an unstructured approach.
So my fourth lesson is discipline and structure.
Discipline begins with getting up in the morning and making your bed discipline begins and how you put your shoes in your how you leave your shoes in your house. Are they arranged together or not?
discipline is to check your your car and see whether it is polished and shining or not. And not because your driver did it because you did it.
Discipline is to see if your shoes are polished or not.
It is the attention to detail.
To quote Coco Chanel
who said when you have fully dressed and completely accessorized and you are about to leave your house, turn around and look in the mirror and take one thing off.
Turn around look in the mirror and take one thing off.
Not to not put one thing on take one thing off. Why?
Because the essence of style is to be understated. Not in your face.
That is the meaning of attention really attention to detail.
Very, very important. Structure and discipline. Everything must be structured. Everything must be reasonable.
my right hand and my left hand get very irritated with me they seem to be getting more irritated nowadays because suddenly they have not discovered that they've got talent and they've got knowledge and all that so I interview a lot myself and
they get very irritated me why why do I ask so many times I said the fact that I'm asking so many times means that you are not doing what is will close the loop.
I say do something they would have done it they won't tell me so that was
the actual code for them. So I tell them something, I watsapp the thing to them then I send them an email then I send them an SMS saying look at your WhatsApp, I look at your email, then I call them and say Did you see the WhatsApp anyway? This is my process for
what I don't care because I am very concerned about my parameters. So I will do what I need to do. Including bug the daylights out of them.
The rest of the day I am convinced Alhamdulillah God help us because you know all these bugging is
structure and discipline make your life structure.
It means sleeping less. It means getting up at the same time every day. It means being on a keto diet.
You know what? You know what what's the best thing I love about the keto diet is you stop worrying about food.
You're not concerned about food anymore.
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with the keto diet, nothing you need to boil the eggs are good for the day. And those are the end of End of story you will need some nuts.
Things are water
The thing I love about the keto diet is discipline puts it into your life, you will not eat carbs, you will not eat sugar.
And then you also discover that there are people who are chefs in restaurants who do not know what the cheese omelet Can you believe it
magnifies the outer Lego dreiser Can you give me Eggs Benedict, he looks at me as I'm talking about the Pope.
I said you don't know how to make Hollandaise sauce is no as a very good idea. I don't have the time to teach you how to do that. Go look up on YouTube.
discipline and structure. Number five, learning. Learning is like breathing.
You can't help it.
How many people do you know don't breed?
Right? Only 10 people, right? So just like that learning is like breathing. But just like breathing. Learning will give you value only if you do that consciously. And according to a system.
You know, in yoga, there is this program and the people of yoga declaim a lot of benefits of our program, you know, take the breath through one nostril and down to the other one, and so on and so on all of it. And they say improves concentration and this and that together, whatever. So also, if you go to a gym and you're lifting weights, especially then there is a big breathing pattern, you know, you when you're lifting the weight you exhale and inhale and so on. And in terms of the reps and so forth, there is a breathing but now, why is all this being done
to breathing anyway?
So why must I exhale when I'm doing something and I'm inhaling when I'm doing something? Am I selling in any in any way? Well, what is the third thing to do?
Because there is breathing and there is breathing.
One is just drying but the other one is doing it consciously feeling it going inside, hold it for a while feeling and coming out. And according to a system. Same thing applies to knowledge.
Learning is free. everybody learns everybody and his grandfather and his dog and his dog and his cow. They all learn.
Experience happens to you as long as you are alive. But experience in life is not what happens to you. It is what you do with what happens to you not one of my sayings a very old adage
everybody learns. Knowledge is free knowledge is transferable knowledge can't be stolen. Knowledge increases with sharing.
Uncle Ella was going in a caravan and they got waylaid by a gang of robbers.
And in that whole turmoil, Mr. Hazara suddenly saw the robber chief with a naked sword standing in front of him. So he said to him, take whatever you want, you want money, everything I'll give you but don't take these.
And he had his saddlebags so the hour, the chief said, What is this? He said my books
He said, What's in the books? He said, my knowledge. He laughed at me said what knowledge is this that somebody like me can steal it?
He laughed and he said, what knowledge is this that somebody like me can steal your knowledge?
What was that he said, From that day I made I made a promise to myself that I will memorize everything.
Now, I'm not saying that you should memorize these people read in the new entire books.
But the question I'm saying too is very simple.
is is automatic, but learning will happen only if you do it consciously and according to a system and that system begins with other It begins with respecting knowledge and respecting the people of knowledge. Let me ask a very simple question. If I give you the entire books of Yama, Chaparral will you become shabby?
If I give you all the books of Obama now he will be kept away.
In a monochrome Talalay had 1000s of students, but there was only one shopping. There was only one exam shopping
and Emma was loaded onto lolly had 1000s of students, but there was only one Malik bananas.
Ask yourself, the Pfizer have Malik winners was whoever was coming.
haga only one Imam Shafi Allah Allah from the gathering.
Is it because of your money? Or is it because you will have to be shopping Which one?
It is a student.
The teacher will teach the teachers that river the river has water
do what you want.
Bring it jump in a drought in it, whether it use it positively or negatively.
And that is one reason why very paradoxically, some of the students who have the closest proximity of the teacher learn the list.
The gain the list, they are the closest to the region. They may be living in the house of the teacher. The region I love them very much. We're not talking about that. But the knowledge of the teacher they get nothing. And the reason they get nothing is because they treat the teacher like one of them.
They treat the teacher as if
you get nothing
if they Abbas Rolando Abdullah bin Abbas, who is he? He is the cousin of Rasulullah Salah rasa, which is brother
Abdullah nabasa galanos says Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam woke up in the right for maybe 232 o'clock, something like this.
Who is editing this abdulai bnab boss who is he the cousin Omar masala. How old was he at the time maybe 1012 years old. He says Rasul Allah is Allah Allah woke up in the night for Iran to get water for Budo for him when he made Budo I bought the water he made Budo Then he put his hand on my chest and he said, Oh Allah give this boy the understanding of your color.
Ask yourself this question. Rasulullah sallallahu was sleeping. He woke up at two o'clock. How does abdulai bus know that Nebuchadnezzar woke up at two o'clock
did his hair as soon as he woke up and woke me up? No. He's saying I saw the Prophet sallallahu Sallam wake up for the hedgehog, which means what was he doing?
dcra Maggie's, my cousin rmrs Jana, when they when
they will start is those that it doesn't matter, maybe your own cousin, maybe your own brother that is Eurostar That day you discount those that you have destroyed yourself.
The day you have discounted those you have destroyed yourself.
You know among the among the sufia they say knowledge synthesis in a meta
synthesis, you know data, the people who are dialogue today they think that you hug somebody and the knowledge transfer that that's nonsense. You're not to mobile phones, you know, put one on the other and the data changes series a tsunami is what it means the law of the EU stands for the students.
Every us that will make dua for the well being of this room I'm not talking about I'm talking about this God or Allah put the knowledge of Quran in this heart.
Same as many years later. He's a grown man. He was a wealthy man.
His father was a big time businessman.
And Angela Davis at that time is the greatest professor of the Quran. He's one of the greatest Allah of Islam.
He wants to ask somebody a question is or some other savvy he wanted to ask him about somebody some question. So he comes out of his house and he realizes that this is now the siesta time is the middle of the afternoon is very hot. So he goes to the house of that other person, and in the shade of the wall outside the house is on the ground.
That person woke up, and he came out of his house for Salah terrassa. Who does you see sitting outside? Abdullah Abbas, he said Walla Walla, water, Why is he here?
He said, I came to ask you a question. He said, Why did you knock on the door? He said because I was afraid you might be sleeping, I would be disturbing. He's in Allah, he was an energy what he said you are the cousin of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam.
You are the family of Muhammad.
You are from the animal bite.
Your position to my position is nothing.
He said no. He said no. I came to ask you. So I am your student.
It doesn't matter who I am.
I came to ask you my need.
So I'm your student. So I will wait. I will not inconvenience you. I will wait. When it is convenient for you. I will ask you uten
Alhamdulillah I have had many teachers.
Till today I have teachers. Because the one who thinks is free from Islam is sitting in the lap of shatter.
The one who resents being corrected is sitting in the lap of shatta
Alhamdulillah not on them.
I have teachers I have Mr. hain, I have people who correct me. And I go there and I sit at their feet and I ask for correction.
And allies witnesses their witness.
I've had many teachers. I'm not saying I was their best student. But one thing if you ask any of them, some of them are no longer here. But if they were here, and if guns were here, not one single one of them will ever tell you that I discounted them, or I disregarded them or I disrespected them. Or I was lazy or that I was someday I was late for a class or I did not do what what I was told to do, or I ever needed reminding. Allah is witness.
Never in my entire life. I'm 63 years old today.
No teacher of mine ever needed to remind me about anything. No teacher of mine ever needed to ask me about something a second time. No teacher of me ever had to wait for me.
Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen Bye robbers guarded me Never in my entire life. And that is the reason why are hamdulillah I learned whatever I learned. As I said, I'm not saying I learned everything. I'm not saying I was their best student.
But this was definitely not one of them will write a complaint to say he was lazy, he didn't come on time he was you know I to tell him something 20 have never, never, never, not even a second time Alhamdulilah number six, focus on contribution and not on consumption.
Today it is the this is the biggest beaver it is the biggest sickness that we have. We are focused always on consumption, buying and buying and buying an possessions and possessions or possession.
Look at contribution. You want to see how powerful you are? See the number of people you have benefited.
Focus on contribution, not on consumption. What is your share what you contribute, whether it is share of business, sometimes in my consulting, practice, family businesses,
you know, we talk about division of business between the sons and so on. And sometimes the son comes to just tell me, give him give him give me my share as a short term, I'll tell you what, definitely how much is OSHA?
He says 50% I said How did you come to that?
When did the business start? When did you enter business? How is it 50%
is the name Agarwal you know?
What is your share of the business? He said what do you mean I said what did you contribute in this business? That is your share? Not 50% What did you contribute in this business?
For a lot of them the contribution is to dress up nicely and you know, put some rock back or a barn perfume and then get into into a nice bottle.
His car and drive to work and come and sit there and drink some tea and go, this is contribution.
Focus on contribution, what is your output.
And in my way of thinking, what I don't measure does not exist.
What you measure exists, what you measure, you can control what you measure, you know, so absolutely important. And that's the reason I say to myself, I will not allow what is not in my control to prevent me from doing what is in my control.
It is not in my control to change the whole world, but it is my but it is in my control to try to change a few people I keep doing that.
Number seven, relationships are more important than arguments.
But they are not more important than principles.
Remember, this, relationships are more important than arguments, but they are not more important than principles. Don't lose a relationship in order to win an argument. It doesn't matter who the argument
was lose or
maintain the relationship. But when the argument is about a matter of principle, especially obedience of Allah subhanaw taala following the tsunami, Muhammad Sallallahu Salah, then the relationship is not important anymore.
Relationships are more important than arguments, but not more important than principals. Show respect and respect.
You cannot gain respect without showing respect. And finally, value people
The way of valuing people is to insist on quality. This is a big problem with our Muslim people. We think valuing people we think good relationship means to take an accept substandard work. Sorry I don't accept
valuing somebody means to insist on quality. I will not take substandard work from you because I respect you.
I expect you to give me top quality work because I respect you. If I didn't respect you if I thought you are you are some piece of trash then I would accept trash from you. But you are not some piece of trash you are somebody who I love you are somebody who I respect. So I expect top quality from you and if you don't give me top quality, I'm sorry I will be very upset.
Which brings me to the point number eight which is quality.
One of the people who I see from time to time and read his sayings
is the famous coach of the Green Bay Packers. Chicago Green Bay Packers.
One of the things he talks about is is winning.
He said winning
is not everything. Sometimes people say or you lose and so on is a is okay winning is not everything. He's a true winning is not everything he said winning is the only thing.
Right? Winning is not everything is very easy. Only thing Vince Lombardi that's in a Vince Lombardi winning is not everything. Winning is the only thing and I say that about quality. Quality is not everything. Quality is the only thing.
Quality is the only thing which counts.
And quality comes from consistency. Not from doing something right once
in golf with a a hole in one is a hole in one because it's a hole in one.
I was once in a blue moon, you have no idea how it happened. You either hit the water it went and landed inside the hole and it's called a hole in one. If you can do a hole in one every single time. That's expertise, expertise is repeatability.
So quality comes from consistency.
Consistency, creates reliability and reliability builds confidence and trust. Trust, invokes respect and enables influence.
It all begins with quality. You give a quality product and you give the same quality product every single time. People learn to trust you they learn to rely on you for that product and service. Which is where which is when they stop worrying about the price. You can charge a premium for it. Gucci family slogan
quality is remembered long after the price is forgotten.
You guys only buy the brand. You don't look at
why Chanel anybody
Whichever you don't look at the thinking behind it.
Quality is remembered long after the price is forgotten.
That's the beauty of having this level
of quality which comes from consistency, which is a factor of repeatability which has expertise which produces reliability, which invokes which builds trust and confidence which invokes respect and enables influence.
Look around you in the world. The most influential people in the world are the people who give you quality products and quality services every single time
Rasulullah Sana Salim is respected Why? Because you always always always give quality. The reason is Allah was never late for anything.
Today being late is a is one of the is the sixth pillar of Islam.
in daily life.
Every Muslim thing has to be activated. If you are not led that we have to question your MRI you really was, you know, maybe you want to reject the Kalam again. God come you're on time.
There is no Salah was never late. Never. Never. And sometimes we think you know, we talk about breaking your promise. Allah subhanaw taala said, Yeah, you know, how foo will Oh, he said have wafaa on your accident. He said, Have faith and keep your promise. So we think this promise only means, you know, great, big
intercontinental agreement. A promise is a very simple thing by itself. I'll meet you at two o'clock. That's a promise. Now either you meet me at two o'clock or if you are not able to come at two o'clock before two o'clock you call me and tell me why you can come if you just don't show up.
I did that once in my life.
And that happened like two weeks ago. My entire life one day.
And that's because I completely forgot. totally blank.
And it was not even my calendar. I actually that was a big, big, big huge pop. I'm saying this to publicly apologize to my very dear friend and brother sericata Bora. I gave him an appointment to meet him here in Hyderabad. He came from Bangalore, he and I think three or four people.
And I was zelinka.
And in Sri Lanka, his friends of mine, I was almost 13. So I told him I come on 14
on 13th his friends of mine told me We'll go to wilpattu to the wildlife sanctuary. He said, Do you have anything in pending any appointments? So I looked at my calendar it was it was like there is no nothing I'm free. So we will postpone your ticket and we will go live.
So now I'm sitting in the middle of the boondocks, there is no phone there is no signal there's no nothing. When I come out our place on the 16th or 17th icms
was a randomized Oh my god, voila. I mean, the first time in my life I did this I had to do to my my dear friend, Sherry completely he I totally forgot I called him and I you know grovelled. And I said please, please, please, please forgive me because it can absolutely add. I just did not remember. I mean, there's no way otherwise I would have missed out having given an appointment either I would have called him and said please, I need to go to this thing. And all the leopards are asking for me. So you know, change it. Or I would have just said sorry, I can't come
keeping your word. This is our isn't.
Our word is our reason.
And our word is it is not some great agreement it is every single day. I will do this means what? If you don't do that it means that you have no respect for yourself. How do you expect anybody has respected
them by every single time you are breaking your word, you are knocking up one before also, number one, and number two, your respect in the eyes of people is going down. People may not tell you that.
But believe me your respect in the eyes of people is going on people don't respect you anymore because they're you can't be trusted.
Anyone who has to be followed up is not somebody who's respected Believe me.
Because if you have to be followed up it means that you are unreliable if you are unreliable, you are on you're not worthy of respect.
You are a slave you have to try you have to be followed up. You're like a like a like a cow or a bull or something in a vacuum and you won't do anything.
Seriously, this is what you are saying about yourself is not me. You are making this statement about yourself. You are saying to the world please don't rely on me. Please don't respect me. I'm unreliable. I cannot be relied upon. Don't trust me. This is what you are saying to the world. Look in the mirror and ask yourself Is this how you want
Want to project yourself?
Seriously, those who are like this, I hope you are seriously offended. So you will go and change yourself. Otherwise, believe me, your life is going to be very difficult. Very, very difficult.
I don't know of anyone who is not respected, who's not reliable, who has succeeded not one single person, you will fail, read my lips.
Unless you learn to keep your word
ninth life is finite resources are finite, time is finite.
Therefore, be very clear about what you will do. And be even more clear about what you will not do.
We do not have time to waste.
Forget social media.
Forget attending these, you know, unending marriages. Somebody asked me how what do you do with your time I said, I don't attend marriages that
I wrote and other people's marriages. I said to one marriage I needed to attend 35 years ago, I learned that that was hamdulillah. That was only one in which I was needed. All the rest.
He's one he's very gigantic because I had no choice but other than that.
Don't waste your time.
Time is free. It comes. But the day we were born, the clock started ticking backwards.
Neither you know nor I know how much time we have left.
Don't waste it.
Same thing with resources. Nobody has unlimited money. Nobody has unlimited energy. Nobody has unlimited and do the other. Use it where you get the biggest bang for the buck. Use it where you get the best leverage.
Everything has a payoff. And everything has a price.
There are no free lunches. There are no free breakfast, there's no free dinners, even on a keto diet.
Everything has to be paid for.
So be very clear. Look at the price tag. If I am spending my time here, I am doing it at the expense of something else.
Is it worth it?
If it is not worth it, say no. Please understand there is no question of being polite. Say No. Politely be nice about it. Say no big smile on the face. No, I'm not coming. Thank you very much. Goodbye, bye.
But don't go do not go
halitosis social media, oh, it always make sure that every single second of your life is accounted for, and that you know what price you have paid for it. And that you are happy with that price.
Because the worst thing in the world is in the final days of your life. And I've lived long enough to see all that final days of your life. You sit there and you look back in your life and you have regrets.
Oh, I wish I had done this at that time. Oh, I wish I had gone there at this time in 911. There is no point that regret is worthless because you can't get it back. Now. No matter how much you cry, it's not gonna come back.
Use every single moment of your life because that is the only moment we have.
Most of us spend our life either in the past or in the future. You either dwelling on stuff which has happened, or you are afraid of something which has never happened, never happened to you in any in any case. Just think about this today how much of conversation goes in useless political rubbish?
How much goes into this I mean, almost all the time you only talking politics, politics, politics, none of us is in politics. All this talk in the world is not going to influence anything is not going to change anything. But what has happened is your time has got spent in that you're watching all kinds of nonsensical programs on television which are based on politics, this talk show that talks of all of which is utter nonsense. Your time has gone.
Please, nine Listen, life is finite. Then finally, the most important is that one day we will meet Allah subhanaw taala.
And when we meet Allah subhanaw taala we will not be asked what happened. We will be asked what did you do?
Allah will not ask you what happened? Because Allah knows whatever. Allah will ask, what did you do?
Today we are stuck with what happened. You know why I am against social media?
The reason I'm against social media is because social media gives you this deception of having done something.
It does it deceives you into believing that you've done something by forwarding a message.
And you think that Oh, I've heard a message Therefore, I changed somebody else's might forget that. Just show me how many better
Do people signed tilde to rehab? Which float around? If you follow the petition to say, Did any change happen? How many messages have you have you forward about showing us? What has happened to the owners? How many messages? Have you messages? Have you heard about Palestine? What is that what is happening in policy, I can give you any number of examples. The biggest problem with social media is it gives you an illusion of having achieved something. If you did not have that you would actually get out of your comfort zones, and you would go and create that change. You would go and actually take the pain to bring about the change. Social media gives you this.
It's like something else which I don't want to mention here, because we're sitting in a budget.
That's what social media is doing it. Be very clear in your mind.
Do not waste your time. And remember that one day we have to meet Allah Subhana Allah and Allah subhanaw taala is watching is with us. So let us make sure that every action of ours is such that inshallah was done on the Day of Judgment, we will not be ashamed to stand before must
ask Allah us right Allah to bless all of you, who accept you're coming here. ask Allah Subhana Allah to make this Ramadan, the best out of your life, and to make every Ramadan that you get in your life, the best of your life, until the last one which will be the best of the best, when he will accept you in his presence, asked Allah subhanaw taala to fill your heart with his note and to fill your license Baraka and to be pleased with you and never to be displeased. ask Allah subhanaw taala to accept all your drawers and with apphia and with high ask Allah subhanaw taala always ask Alemany Asafa with God Allah, Allah asked us Allah subhanaw taala for asking us to accept all your dogs with
all your doors with all your doors with all the blessings that Allah subhanaw taala gives, ask Allah subhanaw taala to grant you all that you asked with Africa and then to add to that, from his generosity and grace, asked the loss manager to protect you from all evils those which are visible and those which are hidden. ask Allah subhanaw taala to protect you from all kinds of vasavi subjects on and off your enough's. ask Allah subhanaw taala to accept you in the path of the work of his deed and to accept this work from you to take this work from you to make you tired in this work, and to give you the energy to continue this work day after day after day until the day you meet him
jell o jell
o sallallahu alayhi wa aalihi wa sahbihi wa rahmatullah avahi or hamdulillahi Rabbil alameen wa salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.