Haitham al-Haddad – Tafsir Surah Talaq #01

Haitham al-Haddad
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of marriage in the Islamic system and the negative impact of marriages on women. They touch on the negative impact of marriages on women, including the requirement for men to have sex outside marriage and the need for men to provide a stable and predictable source of income. The importance of Islam's rule on marriage and the boundaries of law is emphasized, as it is a present form and may lead to problems for families. The speakers stress the need for women to be divorced before divorce and the importance of not rushing to answers and not giving answers until they have a clear understanding of the situation. The speakers also discuss the use of Arabic language in court and the importance of learning it.
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This is

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the charter of divorce,

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chapter number 65.

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And as we go out, as we have said before, that the Mondays will focus on matters that are related to how we conduct our love. So it includes rulings regarding

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how we conduct ourselves socially, politically, financially, and so on. So back in May

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describe that Islamic system in a comprehensive way, the Islamic system in terms of politics and the Islamic system in terms of social life, its learning system in terms of fine financial, Islamic system and so on.

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And this particular surah is covering a very important part of the Islamic social system.

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This part which is married and divorce,

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marriage and divorce is the cornerstone of marriage is the cornerstone of the social system of any social system.

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And as Fukuyama said,

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think of the American thinker, he said that he's not worried about the western civilization, because of the advancement of technology they achieved when he said that he lied about the

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western civilization, because of the family break down that all Western countries suffer from.

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So And somehow,

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he was not talking about this issue from an Islamic perspective, but he was talking about it from a social perspective. And in our league

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weezy that area, discourages marriages break out as much as it can, while because Sharia recognizes that marriage is the important the most important

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part of our social life. It is the most important brick in the building of the social life or the stability of any system.

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And that's why

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if we look at Julia, we see that Julia, engaging in getting people to live as hobbies, and prohibiting people from having * outside marriage,

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prohibited people from having children outside marriage, prohibited prohibited people who think that they might fall into sins from living by themselves. And Sharia recommended people in general to get married, the

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seller considered having sexual relationship

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actuality, when he bought the home, as a charity, not only that, the law says that this the best degree now, best money that you spent, is the money that you spend on your wife.

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When one of the companions often they know that they know that I spent I

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didn't spend as a gift, and so on what is the best dinner out of them, the professor said, The now

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dinner that you spent on your family or on your wife

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said that if the lady prays five times and fast Hara and God did her chastity and obey her husband, he will be sent to her on the Day of Resurrection. Look, these are the eight days of Paradise you choose which eight which gate you want to enter.

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What else ladies want other than this, and

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somehow that that is the highest and biggest and most important aim for any human being and for our life. It is the most suitable thing for her nature.

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It is the most suitable thing for the stability of what of marriage, because

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my dad died, he has nothing but something you enjoy. And the best of the idea is to have what a righteous woman

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described the righteous woman by saying, You enjoy the look at her, you feel happy, and she What?

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She obeys you, and she God, you will find out when you leave. That's all what is required for women, in order for them to go and to achieve the highest place in our men, they have to do a lot, they have to go for the house, they have to work day and night they have to provide they have to do so many things, they have to make up for failure to go in the why it is raining, and it is very cold in order to attend the sutra and

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just pray for five days a month or six days a month, she doesn't pray. And she gets the reward of those who pray. This is why in Asia, all of this all of this is meant to maintain the stability of work of the family. Why? Because a stable family means a stable society, a stable society means a stable country, a stable, stable, stable political state, a stable political state means a flourishing growing state that will establish

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or that will likely to establish a superpower.

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So that's why Islam plays so much attention to those guidelines that govern our

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our right. And in order to establish this, Islam also described in details how we can finish our marriages.

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That's why this law is talking about some of the rulings related to divorce, which is which is one of the ways to end the matrimonial relation ship.

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It is one of the links that talk about mainly the system. The system was mainly described in sola. And

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there were some rules that was not mentioned in sort of the bar. And were mentioned in this sutra, especially the rulings that are related to

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understand what does he mean?

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These two are the respected developers, as he says, if you really know Arctic, and you read it in Arabic, which I always encourage my brothers and sisters to learn.

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Just by reading it, you admitted that this

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is not Columbus

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is a law, that

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no human being can produce like this

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at all, at all, it is unbelievable. If you look at it, you reflect upon it, you say that this is impossible, who is that one who is so eloquent and is able to combine all these meanings on short words. Not only that, in short sentences, not only that, but he has a very powerful ability to mix between system

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and spiritual

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in a very eloquent coherent way, which is really his

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tone talking about.

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And then he

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something spiritual as this to do with laws with a legal system. And this shows that Islam does not differentiate between the legal system, the law, the Act, the statutory,

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spirituality, all intermingle. In fact, the legal system is heavily dependent on what on that email. I don't like to use the word

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spiritual system and then if you go

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to lead

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the way

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in a fairly attractive way, Rowling's normally when you talk about his big drive, because if then if then you might not be that interested, but the way a lot of other spoke it and mentioned it is in a in a very attractive way

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the Prophet

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Nisa even though it either it is like all of a sudden something it has to do it is considered here or in a shelter all of a sudden something happened. What is that in

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our addressing the Prophet

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back in a locked room is the if you are that oma, if you as Muslims, in a lot of English alphabet, una de la ciudad de la jolla,

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you read the ayah that I am talking about what the rulings of divorce the failure of

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an individual again,

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we'll find a way for him, what has to do with data.

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Either you can say that it is limited or in fact it is more general than if you

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find you away in your matrimonial life no

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find you away. Not only have Allah will provide you with subtle ways that you never imagined before we observe enhancer that then allows you

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to speak about the rules of Torah, all of a sudden,

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will get even funnier denied me they won't be

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allowed to start to speak about what

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another story

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other rooms full of them after talking about runes, Allah spoke about another area, which is what if there is a nation that goes against the rulings of Allah

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punish that nation, it is a different subject. However, there is a certain link that you need to listen to the commandments of Allah, Allah in all things in all systems. Because if you go against the system of Allah and Allah, either individually, or as a society, don't blame yourself, don't blame others, but you should blame your self

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to explain what may happen to that nation or to that society that goes against the commandment of Allah long while

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and then

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continue to speak about what may happen to that nation. And in Nevada, also a spoke that he 70 is the one who sent this prophet

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I mean it

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admin automatic in an order in order to take people out of the darkness of the area to the light of Allah, Allah and so on, then concluded this with a very powerful statement to the very powerful principle.

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That principle centralizes the issue of aims and objectives of Sharia law and linear color as embedded in our wamena of the mysteries of him yet and as

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a law likes to speak about himself.

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And Allah likes that we believe

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Allah likes to be praised. And Allah likes us to be praised. A lovely lady herself as a working woman and early on. And as we said before, the the fact that Allah is the only creator is one of the ways that a lot and Allah manifested his greatness and challenge anyone

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to have any of the qualities of Ruby of lordship then

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Yeah, I'm gonna lay in the home, the commandments will

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go down and from the sun our to Earth.

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What is that? Why is all this litter alemu unknown blah ha that couldn't be shaken buddy.

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all of this. So you will know that Allah Allah Allah overpowers anything, everything

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is able to do everything anything.

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And not only that, Allah, Allah Allah knows everything encompassed everything, by his knowledge, gender, Allah, Allah, Allah has done all of this just to establish that a lot of Ghana

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is able to do anything just to establish that a lot and Allah revealed all of these rulings mentioned the rulings of Tara mentioned the rulings of those societies who go against his commandments, just to establish that he is able to do everything anything and to know that he knows everything, yes, that is the ultimate aim of Sharia, that is the ultimate aim of creation.

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So, as I said, My dear brothers and sisters go through

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those who do not know

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re re they missed a lot, because they they do not enjoy

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camping be enjoy, well are they are not enjoying and they will not enjoy a lot you can read English, you can read the meanings of art, and you can understand some of the miracles or for our enjoyment,

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the translation is

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the translation is what there was a human being, when you read the words of the Creator, the know of the human being

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was that be equal to read the words of human beings impossible, that is impossible, you cannot really compare between this and that. And that's why I always encourage my respected brothers and sisters to learn Arabic and learn Arabic or odd or I will transfer you to something else to another life

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by reading and in the us a lot the liver diseases mighty respected brothers and sisters and they saw although as I said it is talking about laws, laws flow

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option number one, if you divorce women then this will happen. But this is the law of human beings. But the law the way a law mentioned it is totally different is another language is another language. We know it in Arabic, but we cannot simulate that. That's why

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I said

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this kita was built off those letters, I mean, being solid and so on. Yes gone. Can you construct another speech using the same words that we have used in this book? It is impossible to get another

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letter. That's why I call my brothers and sisters really to learn Arabic learn Arabic enjoy an enjoyable and before you die and you regret that you did not enjoy the hope of

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this law. It started with ya. Bu Yeah, you and the video.

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series was with the iu nmbu Kappa for the province of Ontario. So

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Yeah, and yeah, view

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is, as they say that

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is in the province of Ontario.

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directly. Some scholars said why didn't Why didn't Why did Allah say yeah, Mohammed? They said our two foot. Allah de la vida is respecting my

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It's all about money.

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And he wanted us to respect to this profit. So I need you it was it was in and out of respect and love for this prophet. Allah said to him, yeah, you have an appeal. Yeah. And that's why we should not call the prophet of Mohammed just like this.

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ba ba, ba ba. You cannot call Mohammed. Mohammed.

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You say Rasulullah sallallahu

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alayhi wa salatu

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salam B, he was sending them, even from an academic perspective now, they say Mohammed Prophet Mohammed. Yeah. No, even in academic perspective, we should show that no, he has his own status. We cannot just say, oh Prophet Mohammed or Mohammed, the prophet of Allah, Allah the prophet of Muslims. Yeah, we should respect them by saying Mohammed our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa early he was on bucilla Yeah, you and me you

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we might think that Allah Allah wants to add this

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Yeah, you have to be you

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then all of a sudden.

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So this is a way in this way to address the whole oma, this is one explanation.

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Or they said the other way, the other interpretation that I

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wanted to say to

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you in the last 10 minutes, but he said what he does a lot of the using what is known as royal

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royal Nah, again, yeah.

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There are a lot of this is another explanation. Or,

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Allah, Allah is saying to Mohammed Salam Yeah, you haven't mbu capital W equals if you divorce women then do this and that okay. The meanings are closed either our data is added

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from the beginning to end all our data is added

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your seller to address his people or according to an explanation Yeah. You just call them as if without putting a comma eat up a lot to manisa a shift in laws a shift regarding those who are addressed by this

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means Listen, everyone in our locker room UniSA una de la Jani those possibilities are inshallah clear and very close to each other.

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Also, some scholars said why why the law did not say in the old Anya you surely did not say in visa three. I interviewed him to have him

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say he didn't say yeah, you have rasuluh Yeah. Okay, but that was addressed. The profit Yeah.

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the lottery salata why it wasn't chosen here. Yeah.

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Yeah. And what is the difference between envy and profit? I think all of you

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are aware of this. We don't need to get into this otherwise it will be too much. Okay. Yeah, you and me you eat up a lot to manisa ohana

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as we said either here in the upper left one is either alpha or either the conditional if you want to be up. Now in Arabic, if you say this, if you use this style it means

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and in a story this was happening etc and go do this and that and if it means that this might happen, and it should not be what the know

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if it happened?

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Yes, either.

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It is not the No. Yeah. So

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That's why I bought Apple piano from NASA and Apollo is something disliked by cherry by consensus and as you know that there is a hadith although it is weak the Prophet it was attributed to the prophet SAW Selim that he said

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and holiday and the law the most hated hello yeah and decided to follow the law is what is divorce law but it is we can leave and there are many we can live with in that meaning either or not tonisha manisa cada una de hinda Okay.

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Here I'm not gonna say if you we and we mentioned why it was mentioned EDA lacunae

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our de la se either a lactone and Nisa. So you mentioned What? And Nisa although someone can say

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it is unclear if you divorce your divorce. What? Your wife?

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indica lactone. Fung yaku.

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Not to mention an ISA.

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No, there is a need of course. And no one can imagine that there is a letter in the book of Allah Allah Allah that has no meaning no benefit. Allah Allah wants to stress in is

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that Lisa are to be the divorcees

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in other words Allah the Nevada wants to stress that Apollo is in the hands of the man there is no possibility that Apollo be in the hands of the woman. Otherwise either a Latin maybe it can be understood to rephrase that. Okay. A woman divorces her husband. That's why what which what is common here in this country? To hear many sisters asking and saying this? Oh, I divorced my husband. And we say to them there is nothing called I divorced my husband.

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There is nothing linguistically is wrong. It is wrong. They say no, it is right. We say no. Yeah. And if you translated in Arabic that you did, it is not there

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are two Zodiac. Yeah. Okay, that is not there. So that's why I'm not gonna lie that even in the ayat of surah Allah, Allah Allah Allah attributes for up to what? Two men in a lactone Nisa sopan naipu Dena oscillator Yeah. Then divorce them in the beginning of their period.

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Yeah, you have to be

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careful the believers that if they

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divorce women, if they want to divorce women, because as this kind of set it up a lactone palico is a present form which means that if you want to divorce women, yeah.

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If you want to divorce women, then divorce them in the beginning of their journey. ohana Lee Dinelli here, law here means in their age that in the beginning of their adapt.

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This is the general warning. If you divorce women, divorce them in the beginning of their age.

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Yes, in order for them to stay for the whole period. And in order for you and them not to be confused about calculating that. That's why our dealer said well isolate that and calculate that

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This is we may stay in this ayah for a few lessons because it includes so many important rules, mighty respect to the brothers and sisters and we will conclude by this.

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Knowing the rulings of divorce is very very important.

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Why? Because if you know how to divorce you will want

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You will know how to avoid divorce.

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But if you don't know how to divorce,

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you might think that it is a joke, as many people do, and then you will fall into it. Yes. And this should panela It is amazing in this ayah, we will see that the word, Allah says, what many do the law can

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do to law. And these are the limits of a law,

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which is how to divorce, what has been described as the one who goes beyond the limits of a law.

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What will happen to him, first of all, he has wronged himself, he has caused injustice to himself for development after he caused the troubles for himself. So the rulings for the rulings for law are meant to help you to maintain a good family life to maintain a stable marriage. The rulings are meant for you not to put yourself into troubles.

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But if you don't listen to the boundaries of our law, then you will cause harm for yourself might be respected the brothers and sisters? Well, I love him, I see this in front of me.

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When I deal with the law cases,

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you will see many people

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are putting themselves into so many problems because of Pollock. First of all, the main thing is, they don't know the rulings of Torah.

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And that's why they put themselves into so many problems. Many of them don't know how, and when to divorce. And that's why they put themselves into so many problems.

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I can write books and if I have time, yeah, I may write books about the problems that take place, because of the law.

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A simple case is a person divorcing his wife one time, then another time, then third time. Then after the third time that is over. Then he thinks, Oh, now I cannot go back to her.

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I cannot go back. What about my children?

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Oh, really? Now my family has been destroyed. This woman who knew I used to sleep next to her with her. Now she will sleep with another man, any man in the street can go and take care and sleep with them. Wow. Then he ran to an event or a scholar. I divorced my wife three times will lie and I did not mean to divorce her. Well, I love her. Well I love my family will lie and so on so forth. It is over. And some of them who come they come really in a very rude manner. And then I always say to them, how was it me? Who divorce you? Why

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are you blaming me? You shouldn't blame yourself. You should blame yourself. And they say yeah, but Islam is not like this. I said Japan, Allah Subhana Allah in Christianity, you divorce once and that's it. Islam gives you three, three opportunities. And then you say, oh, Islam should not be like this fear of love. This word might take you out of the folder for Islam. So many so many cases. And not only this.

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People divorce once, twice, three times, then once they regret and most of those people who divorce regret. Listen to this. Listen to this. Most of the people who divorce regret, except those who divorce according to should not.

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Yes. And when they regret and they found that Oh, now my wife can go and marry any other person. They try to find what

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ways around the the divorce. And they go to the sheriff, black male the hateful emotionally or religiously black.

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So bring them back together. And unfortunately I have to say, and I will take this opportunity to say that many of the scholars in this country are misusing the rulings of Pollock.

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I normally don't like to speak against the scholars. But I have to say this because many of those scholars who give back was about Allah, they bring more troubles to those who have been divorced.

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Well, I, I can tell you stories. I remember one of the stories, a person divorce his wife, seven times,

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seven times. And then on the seventh time, he woke up and he said, If I want to return her, is she my wife, etc. Then he came. And I said to him, Okay, listen to them. But one by one, he listed them. Three of those divorces. He used to say to his wife, if you do this, you will be divorced.

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Yeah. And then she doesn't.

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And she's divorced.

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I took his case, I took his case, to the Mufti of Saudi Arabia.

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And he was afraid to give fatwa about it.

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And when he knew, he said, Where is this coming from? He thought that it is coming because I used my connection just to enter the to bring the case, among the cases of Allah. Yeah, because no one even I did not have the courage to give him federa.

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And I used my connection to just let this fight what to pass it through the other front. Was that other questions or other cases of data that came from that were coming in from Saudi Arabia? Then he just by accident asked, Where is this coming from? And where is it from the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia? Then the person had to tell him?

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He said, Where is it coming from? Instead, it's coming from Britain. Then he said, Take it, send it back to them. And he did not give federal. So this man was crying. This one was crying. He came with his wife.

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Mashallah good family of children. He is a professional person involved in

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a good reputable person. I never thought that he is the one who had these cases. And then he said,

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When I asked him, and or to cut the children, I asked him, Why did you divorce her seven times? He said, to be honest with you, those who gave her easy fat words, they are the people who ruined our life. I said, Don't put the blame on her alone or on the scholars alone, because you have part of the blame. He said, Yeah, I agree. But the second divorce, how it happened. I said to my wife, he was angry, his mother was ill, etc, etc. And he said to his wife, just keep quiet. You know, I'm really angry because I heard the news that my wife, my mother is on their deathbed, etc, etc. So she had kept arguing with him. And he told them, Listen, I had enough of you if you don't keep quiet,

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you are divorced.

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She said that he was angry. And then I said, Yeah, I want to challenge him done. I started, I continued speaking.

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Then, when we come down,

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we realize that we are divorced. What did she do? She called the scholar, one of the scholars that I know. And she told them this, this has happened. And they start this color. With all due respect to him. They made the big mistake. How on the phone? He said, Is this what happened? She said yes. He said, yeah, this just take a father to mean, and this is not a divorce.

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What was the message he sent to her and to her husband?

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What was the message he sent to her and to her husband?

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That you can do it again and again and again. It is a joke. Take a follow to mean and that's it.

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So when she told her husband, yes.

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They did not learn a hard lesson. Then he said, What was he she asked her one time I was angry because I I was stressed because of work, etc, etc.

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And she wanted to go to her friend. I told that don't go and she said no, I will go. He said justice stay at home. She said argument and he said, Listen, if you go you are divorced.

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If you go your divorce, then she said, Okay.

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Where did she go? She said listen, she opened the door of the back garden.

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She went to the back garden. And she said, Now I am out.

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Yes. So do whatever you want to do done.

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Then the second day, she said, What did I do?

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Oh, am I divorced?

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She called the chef again.

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And she said, Well, my husband didn't this and that and cried with him. You know, I love him. We have children. And he does. I'm sure that he didn't mean it, etc, etc. Yeah.

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Okay, no problem young. Be calm, young Islam. You know, Islam is peace and love. And

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it is a joke, but it is a very painful job. Many of the scholars in this country.

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Yeah, the divorce cases like this, unfortunately. And I always say, any scholar who deals with divorce cases like this, with all respect to him and other scholars, he doesn't know what he is doing.

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Our chef Rahim Allah,

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Who no one doubts his his piety and his wisdom, etc. He never dealt with a divorce case. On the phone. No, he has given an open federal. He used to ask both parties to come either in front of him or in front of a judge both parties, and they write down what happened and the judge

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signs that and then the sheriff looks at it. I asked one of the senior scholars in Saudi Arabia, he knew that I am Jajah dealing with divorce cases. He said

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Don't rush in giving answers even if you know the answer. Let them go and come back. In order to know that this matter is what is a serious matter. We are talking about what divorce. Because what if you say to a person, your wife is divorced, you are making her harm for you.

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Not only that, you are making Halloween for others,

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which is something Yes, very dangerous. The most honor thing in Korea is not after the life is not money, but it is worked the private part for the private part not to do any sexual activity except it is clear.

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So the life and after that is what Yeah, the chastity, the sexual chastity if the expression is correct. After that comes work well, so it is easy or not easy. You may make mistake and when you solve the dispute between two people regarding money, but to a new soul, the dispute regarding to people regarding

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the chastity, the private part, the sexual relationship, the sexual relationship, then, that is very, very dangerous. Our chef Abdullah, good luck. I asked him a few questions about divorce after the death of him, but at that time, I think he was 75. When I asked him, he said

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I have not how old am I now? He said I have not. I don't remember that I have ever ever given any fatwa regarding divorce.

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Because of what because of the significance of this matters. And now, most of this goes, Yeah, even if you say and I have seen this guy and he sent people that tell them that we need to think about it. They go to another school, and he's come to me, I'll give you

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a lot as if he wants to prove that he is a biggest color and he gives. Anyway, the merger is what is very, very sensitive. That's why we need to be aware of it rulings. The last thing that I would like to conclude is because of as we said, because of the ignorance of

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the ruling regarding Torah, as we said many people put themselves into so many problems during the discussion. I will tell you so many wrong understandings about this

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volts. And just now the case that came to me just now the case I was dealing with

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they It was a case of a sister that was divorced.

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I cannot tell the details, but around two years ago, and she said that her husband

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divorced her

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to her body and told him by the way, I took your wife back. I took my wife back. So this is

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Yeah, this is within the idea. He left her for two years.

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And then problems happened between them. So he went to the civil court and applied for civil divorce.

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He applied, then she received, what was that? Because your husband is the one who applied for civil divorce, then you are divorced from him. And this is something that we will discuss, what is the status of civil divorce in Chechnya. And I say to people, that you will hear many scholars saying that civil divorce is a divorce is a valid Islamic divorce. And many of them say that, especially if the husband initiated that asset to the sister

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that fatwah is there. But I strongly believe that it is wrong to

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assume that divorce is not an Islamic divorce. Why? Because we have something called civil marriage, and we have something called Islamic marriage, they are totally different contracts. Then one of the relatives of this lady started to argue, I said,

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I told you that I will listen to you just as a favor for me, because I really need to go for the dogs. And this is a big issue, we will not solve it at this moment. And listen, this issue, you will hear so many factors that this civil divorce is considered to be a divorce, but it is there is a question mark. And if there is a question mark about the validity of divorce, then we go back to the original principle, which is what that you are married. And I don't want you adulthood, the sister forget about your father, your

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your children, your brother's, your will stand before the date of resurrection. If there is a doubt about your divorce, then you don't consider your self as a divorce. Unless you see the divorce, as you see some in a clear sky. Other than that, don't consider yourself as a devotee. Otherwise, 10 years later, 20 years later, you will start as many sisters do use you will start thinking about your previous divorce. Was it a valid divorce or not?

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And I'll talk about a very, very painful story that I am still dealing with now. A sister came and she said 20 something years ago, she was married, she had one child, second child. Then she had problems with her husband, she left him

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and she decided to marry another man with no divorce from the first one.

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She got married to the second man.

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Then he got two children and from the second man, one child.

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And then she had problems with him. She decided to leave him she let him have family, including us. He said her religious father encouraged her to get married to a third man.

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And she said we had a big wedding.

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Without divorce from the second man.

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Then, around 20 years later,

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she started to read and she started to think about herself about her dream about her children. And then she heard something that Oh, if the first divorce is not valid, then maybe the children from the second man belong to the first one.

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Then she came, she was crying, what shall I do? What shall I do? Please help me. I said this is typical situation. This is a typical situation people put themselves into problems. And after they put themselves into deep deep into those problems, they say please help us and they want the solution like this. And I always tell them will lie it

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know some of those court cases to mix colors? And they say we have no answer. We have no answer. And many of them say you give them federal yourself. They don't want to put the burden on themselves. Because of what because of the complexity of the situation. Why? People don't want to know anything about Bala.

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Yes. People don't want to be worried about it. People don't take it seriously.

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I have a record, Guinness record in

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the record that I had is 1111. bollocks. Yeah, it happened twice.

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One time a couple of cane, martial law professional, wealthy, educated, good ajar. The brother looks Yanni practicing. And he said well,

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the system started to speak. In these cases, mostly women, women, more worried about these things. She said she, he divorced me eight times.

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And then he said no, no, no.

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Six times.

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I said Mashallah.

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And six times is okay. What do you mean six times is okay.

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I said, you know, we don't know. And he said, Well, I this is her words. She said, I am disgusted of this life. I think I'm living in *. I'm living in Xena.

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I said, Okay, and what are you happy to say this? You are living in Xena.

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If you feel if the minute that this is a message to all systems, if they think now that divorce is valid.

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And three divorces have been granted, which is how long? How long? How long for them to go back to their husbands? And some husbands are really evil because they go and they say we have john so and he told us that we can go back to each other. If the system does not

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have trust in her husband or does not have the trust in the person who gave her husband effect Well, she should not allow her husband to touch her unless she comes to a clear set where she goes she comes

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near that she is not divorced otherwise she is living in Harlem she is doing Xena with them. Now the record that I have 11 divorces a boy and again Kim Young 2021

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he said you're hungry

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Okay, what is your case? He said

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with I sat with my wife after started to practice and we counted the number of divorces that we remember that we made it for one year only.

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And we counted 11 divorces

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I said and why are you coming? He said because we you know we were like those boys and we got married and I said no support from the family. You don't ask anyone know support from the enam No, you don't he said we were just lost and we were taking life just like can you see enjoying your life and we thought that Okay, then we started to practice and I said as you started to practice is better for yourself just to depart from each other.

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And they said che please and we love each other and so on and we sacrifice I said this is my photo for you and it is up to you whether you want to take it or not. The point being is my dad respected brothers and sisters please carry this to others. Let us not take the rulings of Allah Allah Allah easily, specially those rulings, marriage and divorce. If you doubt ask, if you don't know ask in it. So our first victory income to bladder mood, especially as we said in those matters and learn the rulings that are related to divorce. I asked a lot Delilah to teach us what we don't know and the only ask Allah Delilah to the stories that

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some of us have.

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thing, you have to have patience with me because as I said this verse alone. Yeah, needs a lot of time.

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explanation there are many rules that have to be explained in this verse in this one does logical, logical saramonic

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