Tafsir Surah Surah Talaq #03
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Channel: Haitham al-Haddad
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The speakers discuss the concept of marriage and divorce, including the importance of understanding rules and avoiding false assumptions and expectations. They also touch on issues related to divorce, including the cycle of marriage and the idea of women not being harmed by their spouse. The speakers emphasize the importance of learning the basics of Deen law and waiting until a decision is made before committing to a divorce. They also discuss the legal framework for divorce, including waiting until a decision is made and not giving too many false assumptions and giving too many false false reasons to avoid divorce.AI Generated Transcript ©
Salam ala rasulillah Last time we started that
the first verse and we said that the first verse is full of rulings, very rich of rulings. And we might take
we might take number of classes in order to finish just the first verse.
We spoke about
the first statement Yeah, you have you either have a lot Tunisia, we spoke why Allah Allah, Allah address the Prophet sallallahu sallam, then we started to speak about some of the rulings of Palau.
And we define Pollock, and we define the ways marriage can end.
And then we started to speak about it.
And we explained what it is because of our analysis, adopt a lockdown Nisa for nearly a decade.
We stopped at that, that we haven't explained what it is properly. We will explain that here. Why do we need it to explain it? It's not just It is not just because it is mentioned? No. Because the ayah says, Yeah, you want to be without a lock tonisha if you divorce women, then divorce them lay that he hinted Lee that he now what does that mean? Yeah, it means ca that he na li la here means see that in in the era of Eb Massoud that the health sorry, not the health of Massoud.
ohana mencoba. De in our public
means in the beginning of their a de
in the beginning of their adult.
First of all, what does it mean, in order to understand what it means and the beginning of data, we need to understand how it works. If you remember we said that there is there is a period of time, divorce, or a widow wait before she can remarry or before she can marry during this period he had to observe observe certain rulings.
And those rulings differ from the divorcee to the widow.
The divorce he has certain rulings the widow has other rulings.
And the length of the data as well varies. And we said that in the book so you find a chapter called key tabulated
the chapter of a debt because there are different types of debt.
Okay, mainly, we said that there is a divorcee on there is a widow.
The widow there is the of the widow is how long
the age of the widow
which is the period a widow should wait before she can re marry
Yes. Whether the nine with our phone I'm in como una, as Rajan was he see ateliers virgin
birth and IBM fusina. What about Ashford in Russia? So they
have a widow is how long?
Four months and 10 days
four months and 10 days.
The widow didn't get a de is and is not allowed to remarry
at all
and she had to stay in her husband's house in the house
or in the matrimonial house.
She can go for short visits but she cannot live outside that house.
She should also avoid
adornment such as applying perfume,
makeup and so on.
wearing black clothes, this is or dark clothes. This is not
avoiding having also long showers. This is not the wrong decision. These are the three basic rulings she cannot remarry.
She should remain most of her time, or she should live in her husband's house. And the third one she should not apply, then he or she should not apply Xena, adornments, including putting perfume and
Xena, Indian Allah, I don't make up. And so,
these are the three main rulings will not get into the details of that of course, because the dose is not about the
widow. Now the idea of a divorce see the idea of diversity,
diversity is a general term, we said that the marriage can end by one of three ways
or if you like four ways, divorce
First they are
and we explained each of them before.
Now, let us talk about the idea of divorce, he
would not talk about the idea of
color or first and not talk about the idea of because as I said, the dose is not about the dead. It is about what the eye
and the eye is talking about. So we need to understand the idea of the date of Apollo, we said it is a period of time a woman should wait before she can marry or re marry.
And she should observe certain rulings during the period.
First of all,
what are the the rulings that she should observe the divorce he should observe?
Is she allowed to
leave? First of all, she, as we said she's not allowed to remarry.
This is the main point.
Let me stress on this point and explain it again.
Because, unfortunately, this point
is not clear. Although those who understand Islam read about Islam, they should understand this point clearly. A woman during her ADA is not allowed to remarry. If she was a divorcee, and it happened that she got married, then her marriage is invalid.
Yes.
That woman,
the divorcee from the first divorce or the second divorce, she is alive during the period. What does that mean? It means that if she dies, her husband will inherit her. If her husband died, she will inherit him.
This means that she cannot remarry any other person? No, she can't receive proposals.
It is how big how long for her to receive proposals during this period.
If she is divorced from the if she is
inherited the period from the first divorce, the second divorce and the third divorce but it is more how long the first divorce and the second divorce. Because you during that time she is the wife of her husband.
Is it clear
that she is the wife of her husband?
Okay.
We received this common question
that I was divorced from my husband. And after one month of brother proposed Mashallah his good Indian, etc, etc, as they always say.
And after one year, he is the worst person in the world. No problem. And then I accepted the proposal. I got married to him.
And we have so many cases she got married to him, she had two children and from him later on, she studied that during the period, she cannot remarry.
And then she comes and asks, What is the ruling regarding that?
Okay, so during that period, she is not allowed to remarry at all. Okay. I remember there was a scenario that I heard of,
in, in this particular issue, a brother and his excuse that he was reverted.
Although he been Muslim for some time, but that was his excuse. He asked me the following question.
He said that he divorced his wife because they agreed that they cannot continue it's not working.
And then
he said, because I have a child from her, I was looking for a good husband for her. Because the husband will be will look after my child or she will be living with my child with him. So he was looking for a man to marry his ex wife, he found the good brother, Mashallah, okay. Then he acted as the value of his ex wife.
Not only that, not only that, but he agreed that the new
husband or the new brother will marry her. And he got married to her after less than a month from the divorce.
So I said to him, so she got married to him within a month. He said, Yeah.
But he said, that was not the problem. I said, What else? Is that any other bigger problem than this? He said, No, I'm talking to because my heart was broken. And I don't know what to do. I said what he said, because he was living in my house, the brother who proposed to her, came to my house, and I was heavily. So we have done any cash in my house.
I said, interesting.
We have a metal saying out of it. Ah, ha Raja Ventura, Java. If you will live until the month of Roger, you will see so many amazing things. I said, Okay. He said, after we conducted the marriage, this brother
took her and said that you are my wife. This is in my house. So he took permission for me to go to another room to sleep with his new wife.
And he slept with my ex wife in my house.
I said very interesting martial law.
We love but we should cry for these incidents that we see in our community. All of this mighty respected brothers and sisters is because of what
ignorance.
We don't study our Deen. And then we put ourselves into so many problems.
I told you, I don't know whether I told you previously about that sister who her husband took care of during that period, or she slept with the husband during that period. And she became pregnant and then she got married to another man because her husband, her father refused or did not allow her to go back to her husband whom she slept with him.
So many problems are happening because we don't have enough information about the basics of our Deen. And that's why this kind of said, fallible might be
seeking knowledge might be obligatory if that knowledge is needed to correct your actions.
So if you are about to divorce or you want to get married, then learn the basics before you put yourself into the problems. Okay. So during that period, please brothers and sisters pass this information to you know,
the woman she's not allowed to remarry. And it is not allowed to it is not allowed for her to to receive proposals. And brothers are not allowed to propose to a divorce See, until her death is over.
Is it clear?
This is another common problem. very frequent question. Chef, this sister was divorced. And I want to propose to her. Yeah. How can I go for the procedure? I said she's divorced, how long? She's been divorced. I don't know or Yeah, she was divorced last month or
as one brother has done.
And this is a case I dealt with recently and his wife
Unfortunately, she was
She was not Muslim, and she accepted this law.
And her husband was giving her a hard time.
She was not Christian.
But she was from the People of the Book. Okay. She got married to a brother who gave her a hard time as she said, then another brother knew about her. And he felt sorry for her. And he facilitated the divorce for her.
And then when they went to an Imam, a brave Imam who dissolved her marriage.
Okay. The brother proposed to her immediately on the spot.
This is a big Hello.
If this wife
okay if it is not
provided that this person is valid, I don't believe that it was a valid first anyway. Okay. But if you propose to divorce woman inherited as if you are proposing to a married woman
is it the clear?
Yes.
Is it clear or not? As if you are proposing to any of your friends wives? Can you do this?
This is exactly the same.
So that's why we need to understand this ruling.
It is a ruling that is misunderstood. I always speak about it. The divorce see is what
is alive.
And that's why as we said yesterday, last time that she does not have to consent for her husband to take her back. Her consent is not conditional for a valid redo. Her husband can say I have taken you back. He either informs her or informs her what he or do this in front of to shoot and that's it.
Yes, because she already his wife.
Clear okay.
Allah Allah Allah says de la comunidad de means if you want to divorce them for the ohana. That means fear that in divorce them in the beginning of their read. What does that mean?
Okay divorces in order to understand that this What does it mean? We need to understand how it works. In terms of length,
that we said that it is a period of time a woman a divorcee should wait. Now, in order to understand that in a very easy way,
a woman can be pregnant.
Yeah, hi, Milan, or Iran.
Iran, the word the Arabic word for non pregnant woman.
Clear
the non pregnant woman can be either too young or too old. In other words, she doesn't see a man says
so the heart
can be a woman who sees a menses or a woman who does not see menses.
Clear. Okay.
Again, we will not mention so many details but the basics now.
Allah Allahu Allah says what
I do when I
have Lavina pregnant woman there is what?
To give birth to the to give birth.
Okay. With she gave birth after one hour of the divorce
or after nine months.
Is it clear?
If she gave birth after one hour, the idea is over
a person divorce his wife
and then in an hour time she gave us the idea is what?
over the finish.
Yeah, they mentioned one of the stories. A woman was pregnant. And she knew that he will give birth
and then she told her husband that
Listen, I had an old and
that you that I need to be divorced from you and giving birth now and please give me a divorce. Okay, give me a divorce just for me to feel satisfied. And then take me back. So he said Okay, no problem. So he gave her a divorce.
And then
he went and he forget to bring her back. She gave birth immediately. He came back, he found that there is a child and she said to him, that was a healer. Because I did not want you and I knew that you will give birth. So you divorce me and you did not take me back. Yeah. So it's done.
Yeah. So, I mentioned this some scholars mentioned this with that divorce is valid or invalid because it was heated cetera
It is likely that it is valid
although she lied or whatever, but it is valid Why did he divorce okay. So, that will that will smell it aloha Luna what what is the ADA the length of the pregnancy if they give
birth in an hour time is done.
After nine months she should wait and the headache there will be nine months
if she aborted if she had an abortion,
the child was aborted.
Then
if the child is or if the fetus can be distinguished as a child, then there it is.
Okay.
This is these are the basics as we said will not get into more details now.
The woman who is not harming his heart in
the non pregnant woman, we said she might see the period and she might not see the period if she sees the period. If she does not see the period.
What is her
other model Allah says Allah is nomina Haley
to hoonah salata to Ashwin will la de la mia heaven.
So those who do not see their period
because of age isn't a means they will not see it completely.
Okay forever
or it is unlikely to see it then that there is what three months
ahead and those who are young who have not seen that period yet. Three months.
Okay, now what is left?
What is left now?
The idea of
women who see the period
Yes.
Okay. The da is Allah Allah Allah says in the Quran, Allah to eta bus na da unfussy na da da da da
divorcees Wait, that the period which is what three. So
as you know that Peru has two interpretations,
either or two meanings, either it is the menses or the purity periods.
Okay, Hannity's and Hanbury they believe that it is worked
and how you bought
Sharpies and magic is believed that it is what
Yeah, in order to remember it easily
enough is embedded
bye okay. And there is they believe that it is what
the poor the poor
What does that mean? What does that mean?
Okay.
Before we explain this, we need to explain properly. Li
Li Li means fi if data is in the beginning of the day.
Okay, in the beginning of their data,
this caller said in order to divorce a woman in the beginning of her ADA, which is called palapa sooner
The tsunami of *
she should be divorced in the purity period
provided that the man did not have full relation with his wife in during that purity period.
Is it clear? So if a person wants to divorce his wife, according to the snap
he should wait until his wife is what you see is her menses.
Then once she is
she had Muslim
and now she's clean.
Okay. And instead of him going to his wife as men do when they are waiting for their wives to be free from the idea and instead of having intimacy with his wife, he will have a fight with his wife and he will divorce it
okay the sooner is not too far to have fight with her but just wait
Okay, she's free from her. She had also okay no intimacy but
that is the
son of Allah
which means as some scholar said this in a paddock should have seven conditions will not get into them because they might be confusing
which means that don't divorce while he is in
blood in half while she's in her menses
Moreover, don't forgive Paula while she is what inherit period if you had intimacy or full relation sexual relation with her during that purity period.
Is it clear?
So, if a person had a fight with his wife, look at the wisdom
Okay, look at the wisdom if a person had a fight or another argument or whatever and he wanted to divorce his wife, he should follow the suit.
So, he should ask him are you in your menses or not? Obviously a man will know this okay. But if he doesn't know he should ask if he is inheritances he should not divorce her.
He should wait until the man says is what
is over
Okay, she takes also and then if he wants to divorce, then he will divorce if you follow the same
way of divorce, the divorce rate will be reduced so much because most of the divorces that take place are happening in the middle or immediately after an argument
agree or not.
Yeah. So, if a person had an argument and he wanted to divorce just hold on Hold on. Wait,
okay, tomorrow things will change.
I agree.
Yeah, later on, if he wants to wait for 345 days
mode over.
If Normally, the man will wait for his wife to finish her head in order to have the hell out would have have any sexual intimacy with her.
If the man look at this, if the husband insisted on divorce, even during that time, when he is eager to have intimacy with his wife, it means that he has taken a decision and he cannot even sleep with his wife which means that he hated her.
Then Yes, divorce
okay, because if you really divorce her knowing that you can have intimacy with her now, is still you prefer to divorce her rather than having intimacy between means that you have hate to do right.
Or you cannot bear hurt at all.
Is it clear? This is the wisdom and wish if people followed us enough in divorce,
okay, when divorcing their wives and the rate of divorce will be what will be reduced to
Okay
so
in a divorce them in the beginning of their a death
and we said that there is a divorce he
who is not male who is not pregnant and who sees her period is either three periods four three or sorry 34433 menses or three purities.
Okay. So he said it's so, nice to vote to divorce her began in the beginning of data which means when she is what
pure after the menses provided that you don't have you did not have any intimacy or study you did not have full intimacy with her
Okay. Now, this caller
said this means that the person who wants to follow this or not he will divorce her in the beginning of the
period
is that clear in the beginning of the purity period, why because if he does this, that the period will be long
and sherea wanted to prolong
the period
in a moderate way of course, in order to give both husband and wife
an opportunity or opportunities to think again and to reconsider the panel
Okay.
What is the default divorce see if we say that it is what
three cycles
Okay, if it is three cycles okay catch your hand like this. This is the sign of what
any victory by for Raja inshallah by okay
the victory for people in Egypt and victory for people in Muslims in general
Okay, hold your fingers like this Okay. Now, in order to calculate it, each finger is the menses
and between the fingers is what
purity
okay purity. So, if he divorces her we should we said that he should divorce her in the beginning of what
the purity after amends is so after menses here
okay. So, he's divorcing head here. So, he will have a purity
Okay, and a period a purity Yes, and the period and purity
Is it clear?
Yeah, if we say that there it is three cycles, because we said the hanafis and the hangman is believe that there is there is the cycle is there what
the menses So, if he divorces heard here,
so, the first cycle ends here
by the end of the first cycle
clear by the end of the first cycle
not when she sees the cycle No, by the end of the first cycle, then a purity then what
the second cycle then a purity and then
the third cycle when she finishes the third cycle that is what
is finished.
Yeah, this is very if it is what the three cycles three months is.
Now if the idea is three purities
if that there is three purities Okay. So he divorces her here.
He divorces her here. So, this is a purity. So this is what
the first purity then she sees the cycle the first cycle, then this is this is the second period. Then she sees another cycle and this is what
The third purity when she began this cycle that is what
why because she has seen 123
declared
by many people don't understand this
okay and they might read it, but they don't understand it Is it clear? So, which one is longer?
Which one is longer
the HANA buddy which is what three cycles
okay if it happened
so, in both opinions the cycle is longer we said if he divorced her here and we consider the cycle our data by menses we said what one two and three
agree
if the data is measured by or the length of that as measured by the purity period we said 123 in the beginning
of the cycle clear
Yes, okay. Now,
if a person did not follow the suit
and he divorced his wife, he divorced his wife
during the period
This is the second case he did not follow this and divorce his wife during the what the period
so, this period will not be what will not be counted
Yeah, will not be counted and 123
if we say that he divorced his wife in the period and we calculate that
according to the purity period, then again the divorce heard here this is one purity, this is another purity This is the third purity there will be over here
clear okay. This is what
what what it means is Apple locked on itself upon Limbo not nearly enough.
There are many other
if a woman does not say see the period because of illness or she took certain medicine, to prolong her period, etc, etc. We will not get into that. Okay.
Either octoman Nisa, Papa Naboo Nelly
and calculate it accurately.
Because you want to be just
not for you, not against you.
Here Elijah levada is addressing what
we're actually
addressing
the husbands or the wives
to opinions, but it is likely that the vagina is added into the husband's they have to calculate the length of their death accurately. Why? Because if they made a mistake and they became shorter,
it is not in their favor.
Because they want some time
to think if they miscalculated and they became longer
then it is not fair on their
wives who want to leave the matrimonial house and maybe get married to another person.
Okay.
Is it clear?
Okay. We said that
if the husband divorces his wife, the first divorce, she should wait for that period. If he took care back within that period, they can resume their life.
Okay, so this is the first law and it's called a vocable Pella.
Then after some time they live together, again had problems he divorced her the second time. Again, she should wait for what
they
Yes If he took her better hamdulillah if he does not take her back, she should wait for them
and if they want to go back to each other then
he has to propose to her a new proposal. And if she accept and hair while he accepts, then she should marry her a new married new nikka Maha wedding shoot witnesses etc.
If he if he took her back and hamdulillah as we said they live together he devotes her time
then that's it
he cannot take her back. They cannot remarry even after the end of the IDA unless what
she married someone else
yeah, and that person divorces her and then she can get married to this person. We will talk about that later. So, here most likely as we will see that is Apple locked
in and calculate the death
is talking about the first divorce which is irrevocable the second divorce which is revocable and is not talking about the third divorce as we will see.
Okay, well actually calculate that accurately. So it will not work against you to not work for you. Elijah Nevada is the one who decided that
yes, and you should okay. I'd have to the commandments of a large in Nevada
okay.
Allah Allah Allah says what the law
okay before that
I remember reading maybe 10 years ago that
some scientists found that
any woman who leaves her husband somebody who leaves her partner
partner means men partner we have to be
specific if she leaves as a female leaves her main partner
she should wait for some time before having sexual relation with another partner.
Otherwise it will have some
she will develop some illnesses and maybe some psychological illnesses as well.
Hannah law
Yeah.
She will develop some illnesses if she replaced partners that quickly. Yeah, it is not good for her health. She should wait for some time.
I'm looking for that report if you find it that will be good. Yeah bring it please.
Okay, what is the purpose of the duck?
What is the purpose of the IDA
Okay, first of all, what is the reason for that is not the purpose there in the for the ADA
is the commandment of Allah de Laval
Okay, is the commandment of Allah Allah Allah, what is the purpose, the wisdom behind it?
What is the wisdom
this color said different possible wisdom.
different possible wisdom.
Okay, before discussing that, I will ask you a question in order to make the discussion, any fruitful. And in order to understand why we are stretching on this. If a woman
being abandoned by her husband
for 20 years.
He got married to her. And he left
to jihad in Syria as many brothers do.
By and when he left to jihad in Syria,
which as I told you, I don't encourage brothers to do it. But brothers young brothers don't listen.
As you do so. They don't listen. They say that this chef is against you.
By so they go. Now we have brothers
sisters who don't listen, there are sisters who go for Jihad by themselves.
You know about this.
As I mentioned this today today, I received a question regarding a sister
who went edivert Myskina she wants to go to any Muslim country, she came to know me
online. The Wonder media had had some time Yeah, I need to go.
But anyway, maybe they forget it was doing he had over internet
looking for some new websites that helped him and he had and by accident machine, he went to a matrimonial website.
Okay. So, anyway, she came to know him, and they agreed to get married.
Okay, so she traveled all the way to Turkey, by herself.
And she met him in Turkey. And they got married there.
She came here had no certificate nothing.
She contacted us in the Islamic Sharia council to produce her certificates that she got married to this brother so she can join him again.
I said most likely This is a scam. The to the sister that she contacted me to help the sister said most likely This is a deceit. Okay, this man who is rejected by he is responsible to find a way to get the marriage certificate. Agree nachi
Okay, and if she got married to him, she should go back there. She should live with him there why she can't came back here.
Yes. Anyway, so sisters, please. They should be careful.
As I mentioned this, I was going to write an article about sisters going for jihad. I consulted some brothers. And they said maybe it is not a big issue. So I changed my mind. The reason I wanted to write this article
is the fact that I heard some weird stories about sister's going for jihad in Syria.
In in Norway last year, two sisters one think 16
Yeah, 16 or 17 and the other 190 they just left their parents and they went for the hug.
I said, this is interesting, Mashallah.
Okay.
I want to warn the sisters and the brothers, when they go for you have they become really very, very vulnerable.
And they might meet some jarhead who are fake
or who are liars, or they might meet with our heads. And then we get hit then my dear respected brothers and sisters are not all practicing people. Many of them are just him. They just joined Jihad because they want to die. FISA venular they don't know some brothers who went for jihad. And they said those who were doing good with us, they were not praying the five times the daily prayers, but they joined jihad. Okay, and some of them, they were, they are just fighting fighting the regime that they are not really doing it. feasibility law. And the sisters because they are naive, they think that okay, let us just go by and they came to know this brother who had the beard martial law
and who's a foreigner sooner they think that he is one of the companions, one of the Sahaba they get married to him. Okay.
When I, I was thinking about writing this article for a long time. A few days ago, I received an email from one of them.
And so the idea who collected the tweets of one of the old Mujahideen, who joined the jihad in Afghanistan, in the early 80s, in the 80s. And that person who is any our normal guy he's living now and so davia he wrote in the Twitter, okay. He said that I'm writing this to warn the sisters from going to Jihad to Syria by themselves.
He said when we were in Afghanistan doing jihad, many of the women of the Mujahideen when hellfish, Mr. De Masaru, Cha and others took over he said,
Many of the women have them we get a dean were raped and took as slaves by the war Lords in Afghanistan.
And he said he remembered a story that you will never forget. In his life. He said, when we were in Kandahar, and the the Americans were bombarding us case, throwing bombs, etc.
And then we were attacked by some of the
allies against the Mujahideen. He said there was a mega hit with his family, big family, within children. And everyone left. And this person he left of course, to run from here and there.
A group of people came to those women and they captured them. They hijack them. And they distributed them in front of our eyes to that word loads, and the word loads, took them in their car and left.
It was a word we could not do anything. The brother, the husband came back. And he was asking, Where is my family? What is my family, all of us knew that their family, their, his daughters and his wife, were kidnapped by those people and were given as the slaves to the warlords. No one could tell him the reality. Because we could not see he was looking at them between the killed people. He did not find them. And he said, where they hijacked, where they hijack where they kidnap where they kidnapped, no one could tell him the reality. He mentioned so many stories, sad stories, really. He said, After some time, in Kandahar, when they the Americans and their allies were
bombarding us and it was chaos. There were a group of Mujahideen out of Mujahideen who were killed, and their wives and their children remain there. He said, I contacted Hekmatyar and I told him that listen, those are ups came to defend you and now their wives and daughters will be taken and raped in front of your eyes. Shame on you of wanting people to allow those women, the women of the Mujahideen to beat it in front of you. And you know what happened to so and so?
And he said I contacted and at that time, Pandora was under the leadership of Malema. So he said Malema when he knew this, before Hekmatyar, he says, By Allah, I will not let in my body a single drop of blood until I secure those women to live on the heart, even if all the Mujahideen were killed.
So he said he stopped all the Mujahideen from leaving
under Ha. And then Hekmatyar and some other people came to help the people in the heart. And then they manage to find a secure path for those women that are women to leave on the heart and many people were killed.
That's why many scholars in the past said that it is makrooh to take women for jihad.
Yeah, if you know that they will, something like this might happen to them. It is very disliked to take women to the head and it might be held on.
Okay, do we want this to happen to our sisters, just because they want to go for Jihad out of just zeal and hype. So I would like to send this message to our sisters.
Okay, I strongly advise you
not to vote for jihad, and I will meet Allah, Allah And I will tell her what the law that I told him not to go to jihad in Syria, I will be responsible for that. But to go there and to become a burden and then you'll become raped, etc, etc. And then we'll try to find a solution for you to come back and then and you know what may happen? many brothers who have went to the hurt, they have been kidnapped, you know this.
You know, they are not, they are kidnapped by the Syrians. And as has happened during that time, there were just Morteza. What is Morteza for those who just kidnap people and they go and sell them to the Americans. There are people who keep adding up some of the Mujahideen hoquiam to Syria for jihad. they kidnap them and they sell them to the Syrian government.
You know this, the story of that mother, for her husband was getting up, no one knew about him. And then she traveled by herself with her daughter, she met the authorities there. And of course, they ripped her off. She paid a lot of money in order just to see her son.
She found that her son was kidnapped, okay, and he was imprisoned by this volume regime. They said that when she saw her son, she didn't know him. Because he was tortured, prevented him from food, etc, etc, he lost more than half of his weight.
So do we want this to happen to our sisters? Of course not. Yeah. And the legend, oh, Allah did not make it obligatory. on you, I said to one sister, who asked for with that it is obligatory, I said to her, as I said to all brothers who asked about this, I said to them, is this the only obligation for the lion that you have?
You have many for blind?
Everyone has so many for blind. So why are you looking for this further line? Only?
Yeah, no one.
Why? You need we need to understand you have forgotten to obey your parents.
You have other types of Fulbright. Okay. And moreover, moreover, who is giving you factor that you have to go forward? You have to senior those who are giving this are known people in Syria, not all the scholars in Syria, I confirmed this long time ago and I have been confirming this all the time, whenever I see a CD and this color, or I know of a CD and his color, etc. I double check with him. Have you declared that it is widely for every single one in the world to come to join the herd? And they say no.
It is just only very few people who go there. And the Mujahideen there, they tell them that? No, it is why they called the brothers to come and let them come and cetera, et cetera. And I believe that many of those calls are coming from people who have been infiltrated.
Yes, infiltrated. So young people should be careful and should not be naive.
Yeah, she should not they should not be naive. There are hundreds of ways we can help our brothers and sisters in Syria or anywhere in the world. Okay, but through this anyway, so. But in particular, I was saying about this marriage,
marriage over Skype with the Mujahideen or with them. We are headed
by because I told you about that story of a sister who said that she's a metalhead and she was looking for the brother to get married to her. Have I told you last time about it? Yeah, there was a sister. I think on Facebook, she announced that she is in the land of revolve and land in the land of Sham and the land of victory in the land of so and so. Yeah. The religious typical religious blackmailing. And she was calling for brothers to get married to her. Yeah. And two, three brothers went and it was a scam and they were arrested or maybe kidnapped. Okay, so we have to be very careful. The younger brothers have to be very, very careful. Otherwise, they will put themselves
into so many problems and they will put us into so many problems. Okay. For no fee at all. Okay, so I was saying that.
The divorce?
Yeah, if the husband leaves her for more than 20 years without divorce.
Without divorce, can she re marry another person?
Yeah, and the answer is no.
Unless she is officially divorced, or she goes to a well known reputable court if there is no Islamic court. Well, reputable court or Muslim tribunals or Sharia council to those to dissolve that marriage?
Yes. Okay. Imagine, imagine
her marriage was dissolved
by an Islamic party.
The marriage was dissolved on Saturday.
Yeah, Saturday
have suffered the month of suffer because we calculate things according to what? The hegira calendar not according to the Gregorian calendar.
how can how long she can stay before remaining? Shall we say that she has been away from her husband for 20 years? So she doesn't need to wait for it.
Is the question clear?
Shall we say that she doesn't need to wait for it because she has been already
left abandoned by the husband for 20 years?
Shall we say this?
And the answer is no.
The answer is
no. She should wait. There is the proper rate the period after the divorce not after separation from the husband. Once he is legally divorced by her husband for legally her marriage was dissolved. Yes. Or she received or
even if she has left her husband or she has been away from her husband for 100 years. Still, she has to what? Wait for the duck period? Okay, so what is the point behind the ADA?
What is the law?
If we say that she should wait in order to make sure that she's not pregnant?
Yeah, definitely. This lady who has been away from her husband for 20 years. She is not pregnant.
Yes. So why she needs to wait
for the
because Allah Allah Allah said so
clear.
Okay, if we now we have pregnancy tests.
She was divorced. She wanted the doctor. She had the best than the most accurate tests or tests and it was confirmed that she is not pregnant.
Yeah.
Should she wait for the door? Not
a lot. It is clear now. She should wait for that.
Period. Okay. If her husband said to her that listen. Listen down. Linda, I divorced you and you've been away for 20 years from me Hello. Okay. I divorced you. I am 454 go my Ada right.
Can he drop that?
He can't because there it is the light of who of Allah.
No one can drop it clear.
Is it declare Okay.
Yes.
Long solution Amanda.
If she got married during the period
then what do we say? If it is after the first divorce or the second divorce
then we say to her that as if you are married, when you are married
will the second so called marriage be valid?
It will not be valid. So if she got married
during the period, then that marriage is invalid. Okay.
Then, inshallah Next time we will speak about
what the law
of return I mean beauty Nah, yo, Jenna Ilana Tina,
Marina insha Allah this, this will be enough inshallah for today desert Mahara Barak allottee from any question or is too late now. Okay. Many questions as we always say, when we have these topics, yes.
If that was analyzed, so she said that she said, he said find a divorce. You
If the divorce is based on a lie, okay, the scenario is a woman says to her husband, okay, that she slept with another person in order to teach him and then he divorced her. Yeah. is valid.
Yes.
Yes.
You mentioned
at the beginning of the query
period, yeah. And then
during the
what if one does the end?
Yeah. The scholar said that, if we calculate the period by the purity, and he divorced her, okay, he divorced her. And there was one minute
in her purity period left. That is counted as one purity period.
Yes, yes.
Hey, left hand behind.
He's gone for it. He had no
fight.
stays in the house, but
there is no relationship. Yep.
Yep.
They are married. They are married. Yeah, they are living as friends in the house.
If they accepted to both accept, like to live like this, yep. That's fine.
Okay, I'm pregnant. And then the husband.
But then she avoid and deliberately. Yeah. And at the time of abortion, you couldn't identify that, either because you said if it is distinguished as a child, as soon as it's finished, yeah, it is not as a child and was a Yeah, abortion if the aborted child is not distinguished as a child. So does that and there is a long discussion between the scholars.
different opinions, so each case has to be judged according to its own merit. Yes, yeah.
So
is it possible?
Is it allowed for a person to have a person means female? Yeah, otherwise because later on maybe men will become pregnant. Okay, but a female
pregnant female to have abortion
before four months, again
before 40 days, I don't like to answer questions related to abortion in
the over there is a specific case we will deal with the potential Yes.
condition.
What is it
after the divorce
if a husband is proposing to
Yeah, and just let me
he put up whatever he saw that he thought that he's so discolored.
If a person proposing to
sister for proposing for a sister, then he's putting a condition ordinarily
who is putting the condition
putting
the husband is putting a condition on the body or what?
On the wife
matter him
before he gets hired, saying he has a suspicion that she in future she might be wasn't very nice.
The next so it says condition that she was not married.
Is this the question?
So this is not the question.
Don't ask two questions one
provoked another question know what the origin of the question What was
the wife?
The wife wants a divorce,
a divorce and the husband.
He said to her, okay, I can divorce you, I will divorce you provided that you don't get married to that person.
As long as
Mashallah
she will say to him, Okay, no problem. I promise you that I will not marry him. Then he will divorce said once that is over, she will go and marry the other person. What can he do?
Forget about valid or invalid What can he do? If he does like this?
He will.
If I did not divorce you.
Okay. Another question.
Yes.
You mentioned that.
Yeah. So it
asks gets another distribution. And what is it? It
after the first Yes, during the period
wants to take back to why he can't.
It after first, this is the main difference between first. And Paula.
If the marriage was dissolved by a court, yeah, by a Muslim court,
then the husband cannot take her back to the example we had earlier about the husband is bounded the wife for many years. Yeah, it's probably best for the wife to get the proper bus. Yeah, even if she gets a fast she should wait for the IDA. Yeah. But she cannot remarry during that. Yeah. Yes.
No questions are from the sisters.
Anyway, I'm giving them chance. So if they complain later, because there is an one lady, he or she is proposing that
universities should not be bullied by those extremists and fanatics who force women to sit
separately from men. Yeah. Which means that during Islamic events, she's proposing this and she's collecting signatures by so later on, what if she is successful in doing this, then she will ask for massage to be together. And so we pray next to sisters.
Yeah. Who knows? By if we allow something to happen, then other things will happen?
Yes. Is it forbidden to
have to wait is it
it is the sooner it is this? Next time we'll speak about it, whether it is valid or invalid, the validity of it. We'll talk about it and also, you know, some people
say, Boy, if I don't do this, or if I come back so for example, you're come back to this house. My wife is divorced. Yeah. Is that if he does if he if you come back to the house? Yeah. We The question is, this is a common problem where the husband put a condition on his wife or his becoming angry or he wants to stop his wife from doing something. So he says that if you do this, then you are divorced. If I if you don't do this, then you divorce. Yeah, and something like this. See, questions related to divorce are quite sensitive. And that's why I advise all day moms for level etc not to answer questions related to follow up in public. And I don't answer them in public. I answer
to explain them rather than fat words regarding these things is very harmful to give fat words about these things.
in public, yes. What you said as a joke to your wife
Are you married?
When you get married? We advise you
to joke with one with your wife.
Yeah, but we're not with divorce.
If you do the work if it happens, let me know.
Discuss it, but I advise you not to do
any work. You want to accept what you write and say, Oh, no.
I love you. I was thinking about you for the whole night. yesterday. Darling, you are divorced.
Last question. Yes, yes, sir.
If a woman is in her, does she still fulfill her wife duties? Does the husband still have rights over? Okay, this is a very important question.
A very important question.
And because it is so important in Java, we'll answer it next week and
Zack ignored this in order to get the sister to come