Friday Sermon Workshop #01

Adnan Rajeh

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Oh, my Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen Allahumma salli wa sallam America and venum, Hamadan earliest ideas remain.

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So inshallah This is the first session with the series of federal Capalaba. Without Babu so we'll be talking about public speaking, and specifically public speaking related to melodrama to the public speaking human drama today in sha Allah on Mondays, it'll be for adults and for the younger ages like high school, early University High School, it'll be on Thursdays and shelled after Aisha. So if you have that age group that would like to attend, then that's the day for them in sha Allah. And the reason that I made it to two groups, because it's a bit easier for when we do the practical part, to have kind of the ages a bit separated. Because when I focus on talking to the adults, it's

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a bit different than when I'm going to be focusing on talking to the to the youth, it's not the same, it's not the same approach. It both age groups have different have different struggles or issues when it comes to doing public speaking and giving whole buzz. So it wouldn't be fair to have everyone in the same in the same group. So that's Inshallah, the intention. So I'll do today is I'll give a little bit of an introduction, and I'll explain to you Inshallah, what the plan is going to look like. And we'll talk about a few topics regarding kind of the broader aspect of what this is. And I need, I'll go into some detail of all that, first of all, the disclaimer, I am not a great

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public speaker, I'm probably not even a very good public speaker. But that doesn't matter. What really matters is that we can talk about the theory, and then we can talk about the practice, and we can go back and forth with that I try my best and you'll be doing the same as well in your life to really all of this is, is the ability to kind of understand and comprehend the theory behind what makes a good public speaker, how it's done, and then being given the opportunity to, to try and fail and then try again, until you kind of get a feel for what it's supposed to be like. And then you get into your own zone and you're happy with how you're doing things and you go on, you may never be you

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know, an amazing public speaker, you may be, you know, you may be an amazing, I don't know, there's no way for any of us to know, we just try our best to kind of learn this properly and give it given give it our best shots. So that's kind of like a beginning. All right. Now, issues about public speaking, or giving your mom is the most effective tool for social change. Historically, the most effective tool is public speaking, it's always has been when you were talking about huge movements in history amongst large amounts of p&l numbers of people, populations, always the fuel of these movements have been great, amazing public speakers who are able to, you know, affect people were

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able to impact their lives and be able to actually convinced them of something and move them towards the goal that's always has, how it's been, it's never been anything else besides that. And if you just go back historically, and study all the big movements, civil rights movements, or religion movements, or, or political movements, or you know, the,

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there's always going to be public speakers behind that making sure things happen. So when we underestimate the effects that public speaking has on societies and communities, we don't do ourselves a favor by doing that. And really, that's why I think this, this series that we're going to have is extremely important. Because no one has a more solid public speaking venue than we do we have an extremely solid public speaking venue. It's it's beyond me, it'll turn and I'll rant a lot about that and show so don't worry, you're looking forward to a lot of me just ranting about about random stuff. And the reason is that it just doesn't make sense. How is it that we have this very

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solid venue, and still, we're not able to actually make the change that we hope to, or once

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the only common thing between leaders, effective leaders is public speaking, is the I didn't say Good leaders, by the way, be very careful. I'm very careful careful with what I said effective leaders. Effective leaders are good public speakers. whether they're good or bad, doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. I mean, between there's nothing in common between the prophets of Allah, Islam, and Hitler, nothing. There's nothing in common. But both of them were extremely effective leaders, completely different goals, completely different directions in life, and their the effect of what they did is completely different. But when it comes to leadership, they're both effective leaders.

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And I know the comparison is horrible, but it's just to explain that this is, this is the only commonality that you will find amongst effective leaders, if they're capable of speaking to large groups of people, even that orange trashcan that is no longer Hamdulillah, the president of

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you knew how to speak to people.

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Maybe he didn't he wasn't articulate for the for the more educated part of the world. But when he stood behind the podium, and he spoke to the public, the public listened, and it doesn't matter that he had no agenda. He had no ethics, no morals, no goals, no plans.

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It still works. So it's extremely effective. It is extremely that's why it's so important. And having what how many Germans exist in the world today and if you count the numbers

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Just it's mind blowing that we don't need, we're not doing better than we're doing right now. Let's talk about a little bit about the caliber of the prophets of Allah Allah Salam, by the way, Johanna Jamal, prior to maybe three centuries before the Prophet Alia sought to son's birth, His great grandfather, great, great grandfather cool. So even Caleb changed the name of the day, the day it was called Yeoman arroba. And it was called that and the word iRobot comes from from gathering, people used to gather in large markets and, and poets would give their poetry and those who had written really, really effective or strong sermons would give their sermons and people would gather

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to listen. And that's what that was the what the day was known for. And it was only changed to majorna by one of the prophets, I said limbs early ancestors, and it was called the human eye because your mind means gathering. So you just changed the name to for it to suit what was actually happening on that day. So when his time came along, it wasn't very difficult to get people to, you know, to buy into the idea of gathering on June. Why? Because Arabs had been gathering on Jomo hub many, many centuries before that, just in a different place for a different reason. Right, but now things were gonna be a little bit different. The prophet Ali Asad sent reputation in Arabia, for

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those who weren't Muslims. What was it I mean for you, and I use it also to Allah, Allah, your salatu salam, and that in itself is Janya is huge. And there are so many meanings to that for you and I and and the dimensions are almost endless. But I want you to think about an Arab who's living during the prophet of your southwest. And it's not to Sam Stein, who doesn't believe in Him, and never actually did meaning he died not believing in the Prophet, if you were to ask him about the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, and he's finished saying all the bad stuff he wants to say, what was the actual reputation? What was he known for? He was known for for Saha, he was known for his Baba,

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he was known for being an extremely articulate, powerful public speaker. That was his reputation out of your solitude, and that this man can stand anywhere, anywhere, doesn't need a podium doesn't need an audience doesn't need introduction, doesn't need preparation, he can stand anywhere and start speaking and people will listen. People will gather around to hear what he has to say, during a time where the only gift people had, the only thing we're good at.

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Articulation was was their tongue, that high Arabic that only only the extremely intelligent, well educated, were able to speak people. There's all different tongues in Arabia, people spoke different types of Arabic. But the higher Arabic the false, ha, oh, that was a big deal. Poets spoke that leaders spoke that the rest, listen to it, enjoyed it, repeated it to memorize it sang it, but they didn't speak it. They didn't have the ability to stand up and speak it. So the Prophet alayhi salatu salam was known for being an extremely fussy human to be very articulate, very capable, probably more than anyone else during his time. And when when non Muslims study his legacy out of your solid

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wisdom, that's what they look at. That's how they define him in many ways to define him as someone who was an extremely powerful well, because public speaker now

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as a human being, what was he What was he know? How was it? How was he known to be? Anyone who knew the Prophet alayhi salatu salam spent time with him knew him to be someone extremely soft spoken. He was very calm, or your thought was

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very calm, soft spoken, very easygoing, very tender, very merciful, unlike you know, me, very

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different type of very calm. And if he wouldn't speak unless he was spoken to, if he spoken to speak a lot, didn't have a loud voice wasn't yelling, everyone will be quiet. But then he would get on the member.

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And when he got on the gun on the member of some of the hottie, we sell them, everything changed.

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It's like he had a different persona out there was a character switch he got on the member, and then Jabra will tell us and you'll find this another Hadith, authentic to the property. So it's not called either side. And maybe you're someone who is element number,

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a mirage who will also have to who will shed the vulnerable.

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He was his his voice would become louder and higher pitch. And you could see his face would turn red. And he would be much more aggressive and much more passionate, let's say maybe not aggressive, but we're passionate in his in the way he's speaking. Now who Moon zero hub, your kudos of Barack Obama circle when he's speaking on the member you if you didn't understand what he was saying he would think that that man is warning the people in front of them from a war an army that's just behind the hill coming to destroy everyone and they need to immediately take action immediately change things to save themselves. And then he would come down with some of the highest selling and

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go back to being the laid back extremely calm, easygoing person he was obvious to us to them. So when he did public speaking, that there was

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the word for it in English, they say showmanship. I'm not against the word. I don't think it's bad, but I think needs to be used in context properly. So it's not misunderstood. It's just you need to make sure

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that when you're, when you're speaking to people you're doing it, you're doing it properly, or they start to sound understood. That's why he didn't speak. He didn't, he didn't use the same tone, that he uses people in his dumps or when he was speaking to those who knew him, he didn't use the same to another member. Now on the member, it was different and people appreciated that. And we'll talk about in shallow a lot of these details, once we come to the to that part of this series, you need to remember that, regarding Jomar, this member is his family history.

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This is the member of Rasulullah Arias, wherever it may be.

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You can put this number anywhere you want. It's his members that Allah is like you said, you're standing there, because he's not here, period. So every time you stand up for a whole bunch drama, you will need to remind yourself of that I do this as a ritual that I'm standing right now. I'm filling in. I'm filling in for Rasulillah.

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So I can start thinking I'd put my mind mentally into what would he think right now, of the situation? What would he want to say? What would he What would his approach be? Respecting the, at the the holiness, really the sanctity of what this member is and who it was built for? And who was was in whose name we're speaking? So Allah audio CIBJO Salam, I feel that's an aspect that has been forgotten over the years. It's kind of been left no, when you stand, it's his audio salatu salam, just make sure you never forget that.

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All right. Regarding couple of Joomla. Like I said, this, this series will be divided or

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it will focus on both aspects. It's both focused on public speaking in general, we'll talk about every form, you know, giving a Delta speaking in either speaking in a wedding speaking I need two different types of, of audiences where they're educated. Yeah, I need the scientific nonscientific. We'll talk about all that. But we're going to talk about Gemini specifically as well. Why? Because I believe it's the most difficult form of public speaking that exists. That's my opinion, others may disagree with me. But after looking at all the different types, I think Gemini is the most difficult, there are so many restrictions that surround it. There's so many restrictions that

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surround Joomla that make it very difficult to do well. And to do properly. Which is why you think when I want to give excuses to why is it that Joe MyHotel around the world don't really work that you like, what is your, if I ask you a question, it's a random question, what is your chance of walking into a masjid around the world and listening to all the drama that you'll remember?

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Almost everyone here will give me a very small number. It will be about 5% 10%, maybe for optimistic, like maybe one out of one time out of four. And why is that? Why is that because it's a difficult, it's a difficult art, it's not easy. There's a lot of restricted, you can't use a lot of props, you can use a normal, even using something like this is not as easy. Not everyone accepts using

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PowerPoint or slides, you can't walk around as you would do, you're not supposed to in JAMA be doing too many gestures with your with your body language. There's certain things that make it specific Arabic is a strong component. So if the audience is not Arabic speaking, that takes away because you have to read a few verses in Arabic, you have to make sure that there's some part of that there's a beginning, there's a middle, there's an end, there's time limit, there's all these different restrictions that make it difficult. And of course, then the content itself on what the content is supposed to look like. And then the fact that you're not speaking like right now I have an audience

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that hamdulillah has been filtered to a certain extent. Right. So it's easy. But when you're doing Joma, you're speaking to everybody, which doesn't exist in public speaking one on one public speaking, there has to be a target audience, you can't be speaking to everybody doesn't work, you have to define who are you speaking to, or else what you're saying will not reach any ear.

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So that's why I think it's important that we that if you master giving a drummer, I hope well, then everything else will be much easier. Strong, complete can speak anywhere, no problem. But even if you don't end up wanting to do a whole bunch, I'm sure you'll find within this series something to benefit beneficial.

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Systematically Joma is attached with leadership. You cannot you cannot disconnect them yet. Islamically it's impossible. They've been trying to do it for centuries. The reason that one of the main reasons that it doesn't work anymore is because some people have been successful in sucking the leadership outside of out of jhamora Nothing is left in it. It is embedded in what it is. Joomla is a concept of his leadership. And he's a faith leader for Muslims. They got there somewhere in a part of the world that it's not never reached, let's say somewhere in northern Alaska, a small town of 400 people there are two Muslims there guarantee there's gonna be a masala Anna Juma. That's, that's

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how we define our communities. That's how we know about each other. That's how we find each other. That's how we connect. That's how we make sure that our society has some direction. We need to find a member and a hotspot so that we can move forward. That's how it does. That's how it works. No matter where

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We are in the world go you'll find you'll find it.

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And there are people who've done this, just travel randomly to parts of the world that are far away from wherever Muslim to find the masjid, and you'll find that your mana and that's how we maintain and sustain our societies. The concept of leadership is very strong. The Prophet Alia saw him as the one who gave the hope. And after him, Mr. hodda, even though some of them were not strong public speakers, not all the Allahu Anhu know what I mean? Because television wasn't a great public speaker. He knew it about himself. But he was the leader, he had to do it anyway. He still had to stand up and get the hook but wasn't about who was stronger. was a better speaker. No, it was about

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who was the leader. So the concept of leadership is still there. And you can't completely disconnect Jim from it. And it's beyond me, to be honest, as a side rant. How we screwed this up, I don't understand. I do not understand. How is it that Allah Subhana Allah puts a system in place for you for all of us. We're here you're going to gather every single week. Every week you will gather and your leader will tell you what's been happening, what's going to happen next. How is it that we were able to completely ruin that? And ended up aimless communities? I don't understand it. We are professional, we're lucky and ruined because it's impossible. This is something Allah subhanaw taala

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himself he is Yanni he instilled into into the deen see, the third point are obligated to deliver what I mean by that.

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When when a speaker gives a halting or gives a does, maybe what 5060 people show up, maybe, maybe. But when it gives you a man, you're speaking to 1000. Why because they like you know, they're not here for me. They're here because Allah subhanaw taala obligated them to come here, they have no choice. See, ALLAH SubhanA, Allah is telling us, I will gather them for you, you just deliver, you just make sure that you offer something worth their time, make sure that you're understanding what they're going through, and make sure you have some answers and solutions you're going to and you have some plan for the future for them, I will gather them for you don't worry about it, you don't

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have to do don't you don't have to worry about that. That's why no matter how small domestic is, no matter where it is, they had to do two infusions around the world, correct what you need. Why because there's so many people are gonna come to Joomla.

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But our luck can run out. We're just something that we don't seem to understand. Our luck can run out, meaning people can come to a point where they don't want to come to Joomla anymore, and they don't come anymore. And that's exactly what happened to GitHub before us. And we were told by Himani have sought to send that whatever happens to them will most likely happen to us unless we find some way to change our trajectory.

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And just like the churches and synagogues, empty most of our Messiah can end up the same way. Unless we deliver something we're there while they come in to find something that they will actually mean.

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That is meaningful to them. So it's important to kind of think about that, that we are heat when you're standing in drama, that people didn't come to listen to you. It's a humbling feeling. It's a good feeling. I like it. That's my favorite part of public speaking, I do drama, because I know no one here is here to listen to me. They're here because there's drama, and they have to come to Joomla Believe me if there was a chef who had some credibility, who told them they didn't have to come to Joomla they wouldn't show up for Joomla I get asked the question every single week, I get a message from anonymous people on my phone like just drops me a voice message asking whether they

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have of course you have to go to Joomla

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but I don't understand the language and I'm living it doesn't matter if there's if they're speaking it in Chinese and you've never used it for Joomla it's just a part of the deen is one of the obligations though. It's the most important prayer Salah that exists in the week. Yeah, Malayalees Nice. Sooners. Nice, and then fold is important. And then Joomla tops them all. Nothing is similar. We have to come that's why the whole but what is the whole actually? Isn't it just a substitution of Toluca. It's like it's prayer itself. It's not beyond public speaking, it's something much more precious and much more valuable.

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All right.

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So we'll talk about two things right now, what the audience wants and what we want. You're a public speaker, you want something that people will listening wants something right now that dynamic exists as well. This may be a bit different, because it's a course. So it's not the same. But in general, when you're doing public speaking people want for things they want to relate to the content. You want to connect with the speaker. They want answers to their questions, and they want solutions to their problems. These are four things that every person who is coming to any public speaking, venue, any Joomla, hookah anything at all they're looking for all four or at least one of the four, if they

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walk out with none of the four, notice to them define anything as a waste of their time and a failure of a whole bunch. They're looking to relate to the content. When you talk about something. You have to make sure that your audience understands the references. It makes sense to them. These are things that they're going through, which is of course will go into more detail in shoulder in depth, but that's the problem today. When the Imams or the haba aren't a part of society. They don't live in the community they live in between the wall

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So the messy that they exist in, and they've been in there for 10 years, they have no idea what's happening outside, it's impossible for them. It's not their fault, even, it's impossible for them to be able to say something relevant, it's impossible. Because you're not there, you're not living. If you don't live life, how do you walk? How do you stand in front of people who are living life and, and share their pain and talk about their problems and give them you can't. So in order to be relevant, you have to be doing, you have to be outside, you have to be working on the outside with people from different backgrounds in different situations, it has to be relevant.

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You can give examples that are outdated. The moment you start giving yourself a, I used to have certain routines and things I would say. And I used to have examples that I gave, and then maybe five or six years, when I came to Canada, I had to literally shovel out like hundreds of my examples completely because they would not work at all, because no one understands what I'm talking about. Because they're very specific to the place I was living in. And the people that I was talking to that I came in, I had to give Sierra, and coos Oh, story. So there's all these parallels I was I used to draw to draw like 100 parallels and, and then here, none of those parallels work. None of

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them. I remember the first time I tried one that I was used to getting a good response from the audience I spoke to, it was completely quiet, you could hear the alcohol in the background, because it didn't mean anything to them. So you have to make sure that what you're saying is relevant, you have to connect, connecting is a different thing, connecting to the actual person connecting is different. It's not just not about the relevance of, of the content is being able to connect to people, as a person. And we'll talk a lot about that how it depends on how you deliver as well. That's why delivery is extremely important. Because you already can't connect, if you stand there,

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and within a couple of minutes, you still haven't connected to to a good amount of people. It's a power connection. And it's very, it's a very interesting phenomenon. It really is because you want to connect to everybody, you just have to connect to enough people, because those who don't connect, you will feel the others who did. And that will mean something to them. And they'll be okay to continue to listen for a little bit. But someone who connected to no one will also be No, they will know and the people in front of them know it's very interesting. This human connection thing is very interesting. You'll feel it, you'll say this is pseudoscience, fine. It's pseudo. Give a minute and

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talk to me about the students lands later, it's extremely, you'll immediately identify whether you will connect it or you didn't, and to how many people you did, and what did that mean to you, and how that helps you help them and help everything move forward. Connecting is important. We'll talk about how that needs how you can do that. And, and what will kind of make it difficult for that to happen. Answers. People have questions, you're not supposed to stand and just answer a question. This shouldn't be the this is the question, this is the answer. But you're supposed to make sure that you insert answers in your talks all the time, to questions that are commonly asked, you have

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to know what those questions are, we have to listen and keep your ear to the ground and hear what people are asking and make sure that you insert the answers in your talk. You can't just send up and say this is the question that was asked this is the answer that kills almost a 75% of whatever impact is going to have people are looking for answers, you need to make sure that you you deliver these answers and provide them solutions is the most difficult one of all people have problems, real problems and a 1520 minute hook was almost impossible to deliver a solution. But we need but that has to be a part of what we're doing here. There has to be some movement, some direction some steps

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taken towards offering a real solution.

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What do we want? We want one thing, we want to change behaviors. That's all we want. We want people's behaviors ourselves included to change. They want all that stuff. Fine, you want to answer solutions connecting that Alright, well, we'll provide you with that. But really what we're trying to achieve with all that is just one thing. I like to simplify things just makes it easier to think when you're building your your talk or your speech or your husband, you're thinking about how is what I'm seeing going to change behavior. You asked that question who never give a hug about the importance of drinking water and not Coke, you never give a cold. You don't talk about stuff that

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are that are trivial, that don't change people's behaviors,

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or that change behaviors that aren't important, that don't actually make an impact that don't, that don't take this society forward. You think about things that are much more,

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much more profound, because you're thinking but how do I get people's behaviors to change? It's hard to change people's behavior. It's almost, it's not impossible, but it's very difficult to do. But that's the goal. That's what we're doing. That's what we're in. We're talking trying to get people to consider

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revisiting the way they go about their daily routines and their lives. And wondering maybe that, that word and that thought and that activity needs to needs to change, why and how all that has to be has to be offered but extremely important. If you don't change behaviors, if the goal is not changing behaviors,

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behaviors won't change. This is one of those times where it won't happen by mistake. You won't talk for years without the goal of changing behavior being there, and then behavior changing anyway. No, that has to be the goal in order for you to achieve it was extremely difficult. When you think about the prophet Ali Asad. Is that exactly what he did?

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That's exactly what he did. He was able to change people's behavior. So Allah is

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Like you said,

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All right, how do we change behaviors, for four basic things to think about? Okay, this is just food for thought. So that as we go through the delivery and the methodology and the content, all that you have something to kind of build it on, you have to focus on one behavior. When you talk, you can't talk about five things at once. Sometimes, if you're young, and you want to give a football, and you're excited, you end up covering six or seven, I still do it, I'm still I'm very guilty of this, I get excited, I go everywhere, you have to make sure it's one, it's one behavior, and just focus on that one change that needs to happen. And just keep on drilling that one change until you start

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seeing the impact of what you're doing. And the behavior of people in front of you, in their lives. Focus on what behavior, you ensure it's measurable, it has to be something that can it's tangible. It can't be It can't be something that you don't, there's no way to know if an actual change or not, there has to be ways to measure whether this behavior is actually changing or not. And you have to provide people with ways to measure that in their own lives. That makes sense that this is an important part of monitoring, change and monitoring behavior, there has to be a way to measure this change, or else it's not going to do anything. And that's, that's something that's probably the most

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missed point. And we'll talk again, I'll go into detail about these things in sha Allah was one of the most missed points, we talked about change. And I never, I don't do it well, either. It's hard. It's hard to get people away to measure their change. And to measure behaviors actually getting better or getting worse even. You need to describe need to paint a very vivid picture.

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Describe what the problem is, and what it needs to look like. And what will happen if it doesn't change. Painting. That picture is what makes a good public speaker. That's what will kind of help you do.

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You have to learn to how to do that, how to be able to talk about something and allow the person listening to you to actually imagine everything about the topic, imagine what how bad the negative part of it is, how positive things would be if it changed, and how horrible things will be when doesn't and all you have to do is look at the Quran. No one does this all the time with the Quran is is is where you learn from you learn from how the Quran describes change to people all the time, giving all the examples painting all these pictures, listen to these stories. That's where storytelling comes in. And that ability to do that. But you have to paint a picture people don't

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can't imagine it can't see it, they won't change, they have the will to see. Because at the end of this tunnel, if I keep on going, and what's the end of the other one if I change. And if you can't describe that that's your fault, we're held to that we're held to the lack of being able to show people how dangerous certain behaviors are and how beneficial others are people. When populations don't change when societies don't change. Public Speaking of talking about the importance of doing something, it's because of all the speakers aren't doing it right.

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All societies on Earth, if they are listening to their features, or speakers, or leaders describe to them the negatives and positives about any experience, they will start shifting, they will start shifting.

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And the last point is you have to lead by example.

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Which takes me to another disclaimer. Yeah.

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So measureable mean, there has to be a way for me to for you. For the person who is listening to this change that you're talking about, regarding a behavior, how do I know if I'm changing? Like if I'm talking about a class, for example, we talk as a class is a big deal in this lab. And so it's almost everything, how do you measure the class? Are there ways to measure it? How do I know if I'm getting more and more close? There are ways but you have to be able to explain those ways, you have to give certain ways to measure to help the measure, it has to be progressively valid, it can't be silly stuff has to actually be something that that's meaningful, and that they can go back to and

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that they can, you know, build on. So whatever change you're talking about, you need to have something that can measure within the talk that you're giving in something that they can go back and look at themselves later. You know, I have I made some change here. Anyway, for example, anger, anger management is a known thing that people change all the time they go to these talks into these new groups and everything and you're able to measure how am I am I getting better with my anger? Am I getting less angry, more angry? How many times a week? Am I losing my temper stuff like that? answer your question. Okay.

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Another disclaimer, you broke my.

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So lead by example, right.

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Now, I said this last time, but it didn't like that. I said, let me say it again.

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It's not to scare you. But it's the reality that I have to tell you. The moment you stand here, not not all public speaking. This is for July specifically, don't you stand and give a whole bunch. you're held to a different standard. It just happens. you're held to a different standard. You are not judged like everyone else. If you don't like that don't stand there. The moment you do, you can't walk around thinking that I'm just like, No, you're not because you stood there because that's how sacred the concept of joy this is, by the way in everything. Politicians are held to different standards and they believe in nothing

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thing whenever you stand and speak to people preach people hold to a different standard but whatever I'm talking about Jim I specifically what do you stand on the member of Rasulullah are your thoughts and your health is example. So Allah, he's like do sell them. You can't complain later in life. You can't say, Well, you know, everyone else made this. No, no, you're not like everyone else is a risk is a huge risk. I think it's worth taking. But I have to tell you, because later on, you may look back and say I didn't know what he's getting into know what you're getting into. We you know, we're taught from a young age. You stand in front of prayer, you start reading the Quran. Well, good for

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you. From now on. This is these are your limits. You mean to be very careful and the way you're going to behave from now on? What's okay, what's not okay. You can't make the mistakes that everyone else makes. You can't No, no, no, you can't, because you decided that you're going to stand up in front. If you're not ready to stand behind fine. And that's just something you don't have to think the risks the stakes are high, the stakes are high.

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Yanni in Sharla with the stakes being high, the idea was also very high as well. I mean, doesn't it's not it's not a lose lose situation. But that's why the profit is even in the Quran. You

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and the Prophet alayhi salatu salam

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we were spoken to go through this Ryan I don't like reading the some of the verses are difficult to read read what ALLAH SubhanA tells him about it when maybe he was affected by someone they said something and it affected him in a negative way read the verses go look into it and find it and read it because I think you saw to Islam is held to a different standard. And if you stand in this place and give it to them ah then you're held to that as well.

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Not to scare you off or anything but

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so what are the goals of the strategy? Am I specifically from the Quran? Where do I get this from? I get this from sutra Joomla very specific, simply Alright, so to Joomla what are the what are the elements of Joomla we'll go through them quickly. So to jump out you have who already but if you know me, you know or Sula Minho, you have to allow him to use a key himolla Lima multitap I will ACHEMA four things right off the bat this is in the Quran twice or three times is inserted Joomla for a reason this because that's what you're doing. Number one, you're explaining the Creed you're telling people who God is you're telling him the signs of Allah to Allah He is not reciting the

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Quran is telling them the Signs of God is in his signs. I was explaining to people who Allah subhanaw taala is so they understand the relationship between them and Allah and what that entails. So they understand their creed what they believe in and how that belief actually works. That's the number one that's number one is very important. Number two use a key him purify the hearts actually help people cleanse their insides change the way they think and they will change the way they feel later on. We will change the way they behave. We will eliminate will Kitab teach them the rulings what's hello is haram what's okay what's not okay, well hikma and the wisdom of when and how to

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practice because not all rulings will be a practice at the same time. Not every ruling is going to be practiced at every moment. Some rulings are practice now other rulings are practice later. You need wisdom to know when to practice. What will hikma now after that in the sutra, methadone Lavina from middle terracotta some Mala Mia millou haka, methyl Hema, Yama was Farah, these verses you're talking about those who learn but don't learn. They just no information. There's no awareness being they're not truly educated. So the point after that is making sure that where is it being risen, you're raising awareness, you are being educated people actually be enlightened. They're actually

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reading and understanding and that technique is taking a toll on them. And it's impacting the way they who they are.

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You who are told but yeah, it will let you know. I'm done. And gloom Olia Olli, let him and joining us for them. And now we'll note in quantum Saudi Pinnawala, Atom unknown or whoever the why, because the Jews said is just based on our background. We are the sons and daughters of Musa were the sons of daughters of his help and Yaqoob and Ibrahim, we don't need to do this. No, it's all action. You emphasize the importance of behavior. It's not about where you come from, or who you know who your forefathers are, how much money you have what family belong to, none of that matters. No, that means anything. All that really is important is your action. There's all the little little places with the

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drama itself. And then in a motel that if you're rude, I mean, who accountability, reminding of accountability. These are the goals of Joomla and the Quran, the content of just Joomla and why am I why am I saying this? Like why are you saying this? Because Joomla has, you know, commonly when people talk about it like it's a reminder, it's a reminder. Yeah, what do you think Allah says, I love this left this open with no with no explanation of what he's looking for us to do and what He wants us to talk about. No, so let's just go to the sewer that's called Juma that has in its you're Latina ama with a new de la sala de Miyamoto mortifies out, then you have all these elements in this

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sort of being explained very clearly.

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So something to kind of think about.

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Here's the plan Inshallah, for this series, we're going to do theory, and we're going to practice theory. I'm hoping I'm hoping six sessions and I'm hoping I haven't done this in a while.

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I haven't done it for an old right audience, usually values are a bit younger. So I don't know how long this will take. But in Sharla, hopefully six sessions will go through the theory. And then we'll have Yanni to practice the theory three things. I'll talk about delivery, talk about the aspect of how,

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how to do this. Body language, tone, voice, articulation, sitting, sitting, is sitting better is on the floor, better standing is moving around,

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gestures, all that stuff, using props, using slide not using them. All these things are a part of delivery, how you talk about things, and how things are going to be done. Meaning I'm not going to be that part, we're not going to look at what's being said, we're going about how it's being done, which is actually way more impactful. And you'll see as we go along content, I'll talk about content, how to put together content, what content qualifies as, as something that you can do in a job specifically, and then later and other Danube forums or public speaking, what content is relevant and what content can be talked about and, and how to find the twists and everything you're

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talking about today. You can stand up and give a hook bubble and say Akula who Yeah, you're letting you know, I'm gonna talk Hola Hola, como se bien? When they do so I said, let me in.

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Or you fall asleep. You've heard this before. Everyone has heard this before many, many, many times, you wanna talk about SIDS? You better have a twist, you don't have a twist and find something else.

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Just understanding what the content needs to look like.

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And then do my specifics. Issues that are specific for Joomla W Joomla. And issues that are going that that you wouldn't need. Again, that's why Joomla is difficult. Because other forms of public speaking you don't need their specifics or the specifics are simple stuff. There's a few things here and there that you can pick up quite quickly on your own. But when it comes to Joomla, either a lot of specifics.

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dresscode is a domain specific thing, dress code.

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You can give your mind jeans and I hear the end of it. I won't hear the end of it, not you I won't hear the end of it. But people saying Oh, is he giving a Jumanji? Yes, yes, he's not blinking. He's just wearing jeans but but it's a part of drama. It's a part of certain things have to be considered if you're actually a good public speaker. And your goal is to change behavior. You have to make sure that you don't leave holes in what you're doing for people to poke at you try to close it's impossible to close them all but you try to do as much as much as you can. So people will focus that was being was being done. That's the theory they'll take and hopefully successions Inshallah, and

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then the practice, there will be preparation, I'll ask you to prepare something and come in and we'll divide in groups. And you'll you'll have a topic that's prepared and you'll go ahead and you'll give it and we'll listen to you sometimes I'll have you improvise, I'll give you here's the topic you have three minutes you have a phone you have three minutes do it. I was in a car one day with my with my my teacher, and just were he was taking us through it as someone had passed away. And just before he actually parks he's like, Okay, you're gonna be talking about you know, the hadith

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of what happens to there's a long Hadith Yaniv, a lot of men will cough and when they die, I didn't even know the Hadith. Like I didn't even know I had never memorized the Hadith. I don't know, like, I know what it is. But I didn't memorize it. He was like, Yeah, you're talking about that now. But there's like, there's, there's like, maybe like 15 steps, just like a minute. Yeah, that's your problem now.

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And I completely bombed? Yeah. But but you know, that's how you learn to kind of have to quickly learn how to organize thoughts, have a structure, and be able to be resourceful pick things up, used to ask me to come up with poetry on the spot. I always feel that that I never did that, right. I used to prepare things at home, I used to think of scenarios. I'm like, Okay, what are the scenarios that could possibly put me in, and I would prepare my own stuff and memorize it, so that if you and it would work most of the time, but then one day, it didn't work because of someone who died who I didn't know. So I had nothing prepared for it, and I couldn't. But actually, when he put me on the

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spot, I was able to produce one. So you'll be surprised when you're put on the spot that you can actually do better than you think you would do. If you if you have the tools if you learn the tools and you practice tools a little bit, you can do more feedback and learning to take feedback, learning feedback and important styles will be asking you to do different give me public speaking different styles. I mean, it's not just all German, there'll be different examples and scenarios, different types of scenarios where you put in to actually talk it all started all out. So don't worry, I'll say something and I'll ask you to rip me to pieces and you can go ahead and you know

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I'll be the first person to stand there and I need to listen to people telling me how horrible and how quickly I speak and how much I stutter which will be fine but once you get used to the fact that there are parts of your of your persona and what you do that needs to you know be bettered and worked on and parts that are doing well and you're okay with listening to that it'll you know, you'll be on your you'll be set and with with the attributes of successful speaker just so that until I see you next week, you have something to kind of think about number one knowledge you have to know your material. You have to know stuff you actually have to learn. You can I remember, bought

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it this way that has a long series on on public speaking Arabic. I listened to it when I was really young. I think I was like what

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40 hours or something like that he had, I think he has something summarized like six hours or so somewhere online. I don't know. But it's an Arabic. English. I think Stephen Covey has a lot of public speaking so you have resources to look at. But they'll all tell you let it tell us.

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Don't talk about you don't know, don't, don't go into something that you understand properly. Don't try to explain to people something you don't understand yourself. Make sure that you know what you're talking about. If you don't know the material, then just leave it talk about what you know. And if you're asked about you don't know say I don't know about this, because it's important that you and knowledge building knowledge is going to be all of our missions for the rest of our lives. We're building knowledge Everyday everyday we're trying to learn something new. We're trying to strengthen our understanding of something within Islam and with anything really, the more you know,

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the more you can speak about things in life in general, not specifically it for Jamal really, actually, what what lacks sometimes in Jehovah's is the not the knowledge of the Shetty alpha, at least for a lot of us. It's the knowledge of everything else that seems not to exist and talk. And then I actually at least that's what I found out a bit back home. And then at least here it was different, I find a mix of different speakers, speakers who haven't left the message in 50 years and the figures who who don't know really without, does not know you're not going to get in you need to you need to build, you need to build a bit more knowledge to actually go ahead and talk about Islam.

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Number two, preparation, preparation, preparation, preparation, respect your audience. Regardless of who they are.

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Do you don't have to prepare for hours, but you have to prepare. I never even if I go do something I've been doing for years. And I know by the back of my head, I always make sure I take 10 minutes and I just prepare it even if I'm talking to kids, you know, I'm talking to you, I need it to family members will just come by for a drummer at the house, I'm always prepared something just out of respect for the audience that you're speaking to. And that's an important part. And we'll talk about that and show them more detail. articulation. Language, in command of the language, whether it's English or Arabic, command of language is important. You have to be able to play around with

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language and use it differently and talk about things from different angles, you have to have a wide vocabulary understanding of grammar. And that's an important part of public speaking, that may take you a lot of time, if that's something you weren't, you know, if you're lucky and young age, you're taught that you know, great. If not, then that's something you have to spend time working on. Because it will affect significantly, it'll significantly impact your ability to connect with people language, the first thing they listen to the first thing is the articulation. Whether your Arabic isn't good, or your English isn't good, or both aren't good, both are great. That's what they're

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going to look at and listen to. And sometimes you know, you you could completely dismiss everything I talked about, if you're articulate in the languages that people are listening, you know, people understand, then you'll be fine. Even if you don't have all the other tools of public speaking,

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focused. Someone, a successful public speaker is focused talks about one topic, talks about it from different angles, very clear, doesn't in Arabic is called is to thud I use all the time. Oh my god, it's horrible. It's one of the problems I have a meeting, I'll be talking about one thing. And then I remember another story and it will take me in a completely different direction, I'll end up talking about something that has nothing to do with the initial and even though I don't remember what brought me here, I don't remember their initial topic was and no one in front of me has an idea what's happening. So you need to stay focused and know what you're talking about and know your, your

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topic, confidence. And it's a very thin line between arrogance and confidence. It's a very thin line, it's important that you if you're, if you're not confident, it's better not to come off as not as non confident than arrogance. It's better and if you're gonna, if you can't hit confidence, then you're better off being a bit shaky, because people will, you know, sympathize with that a little bit. But if you come off arrogant, that's it.

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It's hard. Well, it's hard. It's not easy, especially for those who are confident, who think that you know, feel that they have a good

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they know what they're doing and they feel good about their material and then they want to talk passionately, they can come off as arrogant and it's hard. Just make sure that confidence we'll talk about that inshallah. And again, all these things will try it will things will try to work on most theoretically and practically. Honesty, honesty, credibility. You see people have I don't know, wow, really, I don't think there's a scientific way to describe this but human beings to sniff out to hypocrite really quickly.

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You know, almost immediately the person actually believes and feels and practices what the what they're saying or not. And credibility and honesty are very, very important when you're when you're talking if you don't fully believe in what you're saying. If you don't feel it if it's not a part of who you are. If your people can feel it. I don't know how Don't ask me how it just no matter how you have to even

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no matter how much of a psychopath someone is people can feel something's not right there. They will go and if you ask them what's wrong, I don't know what it is just something I don't know. Honesty being being honest, being sincere actually being genuine in what you're what you're doing. Relevant. Making sure that you're talking to people

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based on what they know what they understand where they come from their age groups, their backgrounds, their experiences, all that has to be information that you absorb. And then you go ahead and use when you speak to people, but how do you finesse it? According to him, as we know, speak to people based on their I

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know, I've said this story I've told the story before but never done it on camera. I'll tell you the story

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are one of my teachers whose name is shift. We're the ones who will cost him he came to our village I think 2001 or something. Young guy, he was in his late 30s. I was young, pretty young, I was 21 or 20 or something like that. And he came to the to the village and he started

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I was listening that when you wonder what was going on, it was

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not that old. So he came and he and mashallah Allah, he was very, he was very passionate, and he was really smart. And he was extremely well educated. I learned a lot from him, but he would get on that member. And for the few first few months, nothing worked for him, like he couldn't get to people. He was extremely emotional guy, very, very soft, spoken very soft hearted. He was 10 and talk about love and the love of the Prophet and love Allah and he would always Yanni, but people from my village are Mountain People. They work in the fields old all day, I mean, there are holes and there are cracks in their hands, you can put your keys in them, you know, these guys have you know, they

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have very little they none of them have ever expressed emotions in their lives ever, not to their children, not to their wives, not to anyone, they sit there and they stare at you with a dead look in their eyes. There's nothing so this Imam is on the mend, but he's talking about the love and the love and nothing is happening with Allah and nothing and he's almost considering half of the Allah He still gets it leaving, he was gonna leave the village. I'm like, no, no, you gotta leave. We need you here. Can I give you advice and I was exchanged to give it again this year. So these are my people. And I got a job. Your toilet, I hope boom, I hope name should be remembered. Oh Yasha Ma, he

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was Alicia, huge culture. Sarbanes in The Hague, now to tell him that you will fall for 70 years and you hand them if you don't do this, right. If you don't give your your daughter her inheritance, and he's like, I don't speak like that. I know you don't. But if you want to stay here, you have to try that. So he's like, alright, I'll do it once. But if it doesn't work, it's beyond you. So he did it. Six lines and Fajr the next morning, six lines and he couldn't believe and he looked at me like what is that what you do do this next weekend. And he was with us for 10 years and you stayed for the layout you changed. He literally is someone who was able to change that not because of what I did.

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He's actually someone who's very genuine and actually made a difference. But sometimes you have to know what the you know, who you're speaking to, and what they're like and their nature and kind of what moves and what doesn't.

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observant. See, this is hard. This is hard today. What do you mean observant you have to read your audience? All you when you're speaking? You are constantly every single moment reading every single person. That's why with masks This is so hard now. Well lie so hard is because now I have to learn to read eyes. Like I have to understand what that squint Is it a smile? Or is it a frown? Or is he even yawning behind all that I don't know, it's very difficult because when you know people are with their facial expressions. So if that's what you're seeing,

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then you're not going to be a good public speaker. If it's just a mush, you can't see anything, which will be like that, at the beginning, you'll be very tense. So you won't see facial expression. But after a while, you have to start reading your audience. If they're bored, and they're tired, you have to see that if they're if they've had enough of this topic you have to move on. If this is something that they didn't understand, they're looking at you, then you need to clarify. And that's important. If you don't read if you aren't observant, you won't be a good public speaker, you have to be taking feedback as you go every single second.

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And you have to be as I said bias.

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It comes with the act of lead by example you have to be truthful about what you're talking about. You have to practice what you preach. What you're saying to people needs to be exactly what you think needs to be done and you're going to take the lead on it are you gonna I'm gonna limit Hakuna Matata following cable or Nocturne and Allah and tokoto Mallette if I don't, I don't want to necessarily bill, but then Sona and Fusco and tutorial. I felt that afternoon. It's a big deal. You have to be pious you have to learn you have to work on yourself doesn't mean that you can't speak unless you are perfect. And that doesn't exist. But you have to be working towards don't tell people

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to do something you're not doing. That's all I can tell you don't tell someone to do something that you're not doing yourself, leave it say I need someone to tell me and you to do this. But also I can tell you about this, maybe I can give you example, or give you advice of this piety. People look at your example and how you move forward with it. It's a big deal. And I can't emphasize that point enough because it's very,

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it's just very crucial. So that's my spiel for today. I hope I didn't talk too much time. The planning shortly next week is that we start with delivery. I'll talk about talking about the methods of the delivery aspects of delivery. Again, I'm just giving you tools and we'll try not to take too long with these a couple of weeks and then after that we'll move into the practices fun and it's enjoyable and it's maybe some people feel a bit not too sure about it, but inshallah once you know you kind of you just break the ice and you try something and it doesn't work and you know you get ripped and that's fine, and then you'll be fine.

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after that and you'll be able to build on yourself and actually, you know, move forward and feel better about how things go. But the theory is important because I can't really expect anyone to do things properly if we don't talk about what needs to be done in the first place and where the where the kind of the downfalls are and what we need to focus on doing to know in order to be successful. So that's the plan in sha Allah for for next week again I'll be doing this similar the similar talk on Thursday for kind of the younger age groups if if we have Why don't we have one or if we have one I'll be doing it for them and shoulders also if you have someone young in the family who wants to

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learn something like this I'll be talking to them Yanni. I'll be giving something similar on Thursday after Isha Subhanallah we have an external data hayleigh And he's talking to Blake or some Allah Hafiz Salam harmony earliest hobbies remain inshallah in the future just because we didn't even took a long time I'll I'll open the

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floor for questions like the at the end so you have any questions we can we can discuss any topics that were unclear or anything that you want to talk about but I think for today well when Yes, go ahead. Yeah.

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Yeah, you can do each one of them. They're not share them with anyone.

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So he's not gonna look back. I think I'm gonna tell you something back. I see them early. He used mine