Channel: Yasir Qadhi
Born To Die – a talk by Sheikh Yasir Qadhi. It’s a frightening title isn’t it? But there really is nothing to be frightened about. Certainly not once you’ve listened and absorbed the information imparted to you.
Despite what the movies portray, there is no immortality on this Earth. All that breathes must leave but what you need to know and then constantly be in a state of remembrance is that YOU are in control of what you leave behind – family, deeds, legacies.
Do you plan to leave an everlasting legacy like that of Imam Bukhari whose writings are referenced daily till today? Imagine for a moment that you are leaving behind a legacy that continues, in fact persists in reaping rewards for you even after you’ve left this earthly abode. Wouldn’t that be fantastic?
Then comes the next question-are we required in Islam to leave legacies? If yes, then what types of legacies do we leave? The answers, explanations and proof to support all this and more is addressed by Sheikh Yasir Qadhi in this profound talk Born To Die.
He was literally a heartthrob. He was put on posters, and he had fans 10s of 1000s millions of fans, his albums and his CDs were the most important and the most wide selling and spreading throughout that era. And if he had died in that phase, Allah would have knows what his legacy would have been. But Allah azzawajal had other plans for him. And after exposure to Islam, of course, he's born and raised a Muslim, but you know how it happens after exposure to Islam, he repented from that lifestyle. And he completely turned away from the music industry. And he, for a while lived in difficult circumstances, because he realized that it is how long for him to even earn an income from
his previous CDs. And that was his only source of income. Now he's at the middle of his life. He has no career and profession other than singing, when he turns his back on it. And he realizes that that money in his opinion, and I also agree with this was unethical. So he made the decisions of how to learn to stop receiving a penny from his royalties. And he lived a very difficult life for a while he did not know what he would do. And it was then that Allah opened up other doors for him. And of the doors that opened up was business. He was never a businessman. But now you have to earn so he opened up a men's boutique clothing boutique, where there were quotas and very fashionable, very
good quality. And his name brand became the most famous and the most prestigious and frankly, I loved his and I still love his his quotas, I actually have at least I think at least seven or eight of them in my in my closet I love his quotas are very good quality, and his name brand became so he earned money from that. And then somehow Allah Allah azza wa jal opened up the door for him to use his talent, and that is his voice, for a cause that was beloved to him. And that is singing nasheeds praise in honor of Allah and praise and honor of the messenger. And he achieved a bigger legacy, even in this dunya by becoming one of the most famous Nasheed artists of the world alive. And he
dedicated his life to Islamic causes. And Subhanallah one of the ironic stories that I mentioned just as a personal anecdote, he was not a friend of mine, I only met him as an acquaintance at fundraisers and other events as we all participate in and you just happen to, to meet, you know, these the them and just as an anecdote to show you how other Allah how we analyze, which brings people together and different paths criss cross, when I was
younger, when I was doing my education in the University of Houston when I was a chemical engineering major, so I was very much involved with the MSA, you guys have gone out of ISOC I was the main person of the of the MSA, the Muslim Student Association, and I was, you know, very, very active with the MSA. And one day in the summer of 1992. We heard that Junaid Jamshed is coming with his rock band to the campus that I study at, okay, so he came to our campus, but not as a diary, but as a rock band singer. And we saw the groups of people coming in the party folk and you know, the activities that are associated, you know, with, with those types of events, and this is America, so
free country. And so you're gonna have those types of people and those types of drinks coming in, you see the reality in front of you and you. So those days, believe it or not, I was a much more harsh and radical I know, it's difficult to believe I'm so common and collect now. But in my younger years, I was a much more firebrand, the world was black and white. And I had a very strict vision of Islam. And I keep on saying that with knowledge and experience, you temper down with knowledge and experience, you become more mature. I don't regret that phase. I wouldn't be here. We're not for that phase. But in hindsight is always 2020. Clearly I went overboard. And I did something that
perhaps wasn't the wisest thing to do. I don't regret it. But at the same time, had I been alive. Now at that stage, I wouldn't have done it again. What did I do? So I called up all the MSA brothers. I said, call us we got to do something. Okay. So what did we do? This is America. It's a free country. What do we do? We decided we're going to protest the event, the way that American law allows, and that is to pass out pamphlets and flyers you're allowed to do the American Constitution. I don't know how it works in England in America, you're allowed to protest anything as long as you do it in a peaceful manner the constitution actually guarantees this the peaceful right to protest
Okay, so anybody can protest anything given certain dynamics. So we decided we're going to protest the event islamically and we went to the the the computer lab I still remember as if it was yesterday. The old Macintosh remember, those big boxes are no if some of you go
have no clue I'm talking about but we typed up from how to from my whatever we had the resources I typed up half a page of more evil no see how this was pre Medina right This was I'm still a college student and this is before going to Medina prinos you know, pre Medina phase, still hardcore that phase and I typed up a half a paragraph of Fira law all Muslims you know, Fear Allah, how can you come to this event? And this is how I'm going on and the Muslim life is being shed in now. This was 1992 the world was much more innocent. Right now I could mention five paragraphs of grievances right 1992 I could only mention Philistine and Kashmir's simple world back then wasn't it right these days
Philistine and Kashmir are now background we have now Syria we have this we have the whole world's battle back then I can only mention those to us that there's Philistine in Kashmir going on. How can you spend money on how on how can you be you know singing and dancing nightclub atmosphere and shut up but how can you do this? Right? So we protested the police were called by the way, and the police told us to go a certain number of feet according to their law they have you can have to be a certain amount of feet. So outside of that range, we're allowed to hand out our street, our protest flyers or whatnot. So we did that 1992
some minor scenes Cause you know some Muslims saying you fundamentalist fanatics with this and that, you know, we had some interesting anecdotes. I remember from my time at university, fast forward 15 years. So I've been to Medina graduated. Now I'm doing my PhD at Yale. And do you know the global peace and unity event goes on the GPU event goes on. And that was the first time I actually met Junaid Jamshed, obviously. In Houston. He was inside thinking I was outside protesting, right. So in Houston, I didn't meet him we were just inside outside halls. So I meet him. This is in 2007 I believe
2007 or maybe 2000 or 2007 you know, the global peace and unity event that used to take place in London is the largest event of its type in the Western world. 45,000 people come and and are used to come it's no longer happening now. And so I knew he was going to be there. And so I took my dog book and I gifted him as a to Junaid Jamshed from the so called D and I gifted him that books I met him behind the stage we were both speaking one after the other, he gave his machine and then I gave my talk and then we went back to the room. And then I introduced myself with this story. I said you know 15 years ago 15 years ago, you came with vital signs and you rock band to Houston and I was
actually protesting your event. And now Savannah look at how Allah azza wa jal you know brings people together now you are my brother in Islam and faith were speaking on the same stage to the same audience with the same complimentary message
Even though 50 years ago how it was right and i gifted him my book and whatnot and so hard Allah I'll never forget like he was so moved for whatever his memories and whatnot where he was where he is now he was so moved that model that he just hugged me tight right then and there just as a surprise like didn't wasn't expecting that just hug me tight. And I remember just seeing his emotion he was tears were welling up in his eyes. And of course I met him a few more times at fundraisers and whatnot I was not his friend and whatnot but when I heard of the news of the debt will lie it really it shook me
because Hannah law What a beautiful legacy he has left and we asked a lot to reward him even more and to raises rank even higher. What a beautiful legacy that he has left. And the fact of the matter is that this leads us straight into our talk let me actually take my jacket off is very hot in here Mashallah. You're British weather.
The weather predicted will be freezing cold I showed up yesterday it was burning hot. Now today so I don't know London weather is something one of the one of the problems of living in London but in trouble of middle low reward you for that. So this leads me straight to my talk because it really is about leaving a legacy.
The talk today is to encourage me and you to leave a positive legacy. The first question that arises is should we even leave a legacy? Do we have any precedents in this regard? Are we supposed to leave a legacy? Are we supposed to think long term are we supposed to be thinking what will my children grandchildren know about me? What will the world remember of me? And the response is very clear that yes, the Quran is explicit. You are supposed to be thinking in that way. Allah azza wa jal mentions in the Quran, the Prophet Ibrahim makes it to our to Allah wa jal li li sinus lidocaine fill in our long leave me now. lisanna sukrin has a number of interpretations. One of them is leave that
positive legacy in the later generations that they will know me as a righteous man. And Ibrahim alayhis salam is universally the paragon of worship to Allah. No other human being is out.
universally venerated. Christians, Jews, Muslims, all three, venerate the Prophet Ibrahim. And this was something he made up for that Oh Allah make my legacy a positive one, make it a positive one, a truthful one amongst the later generation and the desire to become a role model, the desire to be a positive legacy in your own life is in the Quran. In the end of surah Furqan what is the door that Allah asks us to make? robina Helena mean as wodgina with Ria Tina kurata Union what jalna Lil mattina Mama, oh my lord, give me a righteous progeny make my wife and my children the comfort of my eyes and make me uneasy mom for the believers. What does he mean make me any mom for the believers.
This means you should aspire to become the Imam of eastland and mustard. That's a great position. But that's not what the ayah is talking about.
Make me an Imam for them within make me a role model by Imam is doesn't mean the one who leads the Salah by Imam here the one who is a role model for the righteous. You are supposed to establish your legacy in this world before the next enough I am comments on this verse and he said there is a difference between legacy for fame, lust for power and between legacy for Allah. He comments on this verse. He says there's a difference. When you make dua to Allah, Oh Allah, I want to be an Imam for them with tequila. If no Chi em says there are two. There are two, if you like nias that you can have one of them is positive, the other is negative. The negative Nia Nia that you're never supposed
to have, make me famous. Make me Beloved, for the sake of my ego. Make the people know me as me. This is not what Allah is wanting us to do. Obviously, Allah wants us to have a floss. So then what is the interpretation when we ask Allah Oh Allah make me any amount for them attain when Abraham says I will love leave my memory to be a positive memory. What is the right near ignorant pay him says that the right Nia is you want to you want a law to be exalted by your exemplary manners. You want to become so righteous, that others are inspired to be religious because of you, not you become famous, but rather a law is worshiped because of your impact on other people. You see, this is a
fundamental difference when you're Nia is that Allah is worshipped. And you want to be raised up to a level so that Allah is venerated and worshiped. This is a class this is a class Don't you want to have a positive impact on your children, on your family on your circle of friends? Don't you want that people wherever you go, that people are influenced positively by you. Do you know in the on the profits made this drop? He said it he said um he said um, what do I do they make greed Subramaniam, which I learned more about MOBA, rockin anaa mcrent This is in the Quran. Allah made me bless it wherever I am. Or Allah make me bless it both are allowed. Allah made me and Allah O Allah make me
Blissett make me Mubarak. Even Abbas commented, what does it mean making more make me more about like, make the blessing. He said, wherever they go, they influence people through their knowledge, they benefited the people through their o'clock. You want that every gathering you go to when you leave, that people are better than when you came. Because that is your reward. That is your sacajawea that will cause your ranks to be raised up. You want that wherever you go, you are a positive influence. You don't want to be a negative influence. You don't want to cause people to become worse, you should and you do want to cause the positive influence and therefore leaving a
legacy is a part of a class to Allah. As long as it is done with a lot in mind. Now, if you want fame, and you want your own ego and you then this is a major problem, and you're opening up the door to your own destruction, obviously, but with the right intention, leaving a legacy and being a positive influence is a part and parcel of being a Muslim. And in fact Allah reminds us of this in the Quran in Northfield Mota. Why not to boo maka demo? wa salam surah Yaseen. We shall resurrect the dead. And we have written down my demo what
we have written down what they sent forward and the lead
See they have left behind. Think about this ayah. Because when you go, when you go and all of us are going to go and that's why these deaths like Jenna, Jim says, and others, they should really cause us to pause. Because one time it will be me. And one time it will be you, inevitably, nobody has lived eternally when you go, and when I go, Allah says, I have written down two things. What are those two things? Number one, what they sent forward number two, what they left behind? Think about that. What do you send forward? Your pure rituals, your Salah.
These are things that, okay, they're not with you anymore. They're in that you're going to meet them in the afternoon. What do you leave behind? This is what we call an English your legacy. What do you leave behind it? Is your legacy, your legacy? What did you build the children you raised? How demonstrative are they of your Latin Eman and taqwa, the people that you influenced, and then realize it is a chain reaction. It is the domino effect, or you can call it a pyramid effect.
You are knocking off some dominoes. How long it's going to go and how far it's going to go is something only Allah knows. But you can set up the circumstances to meet bigger and longer look at the legacies of some of our dilemma. Some of our scholars of Islam, you know, people like a mama's boy Howdy. I really just wonder I'm amazed at the type of legacies that these great giants left behind. A moment ago, Holly lived only for 62 years, 63 years short life overall, just an average lifespan.
And that's it. He went to the grave 1200 years ago he's gone.
But you cannot give an Islamic talk. You cannot give a holdover you cannot give a more either a hearty mouth except that you mentioned something then you say Rahul buhari, buhari narrated it. You try to quote any Howdy. And you're going to end up for sure. Quoting some editor body bohart is long gone. But to this day, his hassanal are being written down. His legacy is to the Day of Judgment. What an amazing amazing who remembers the kings and the moon look at the time of Buhari who remembers the rich people at the time of body who remembers the movers and shakers in the political scene at the time of Makati. I swear by Elian positive hardly anybody here even knows the name of
the halifa at the time of body. Even though when Buhari lived and died. Who was the big shot? Think about it. Buhari is a scholar. Right? The politicians are ones on the media. The politicians in the front of your magazines and journals, the stars the movie people these are everywhere. Buhari is living his life kinda sorta away from the public scene. He's writing, reading, researching, but where are the mu Luke and the Kings? Where are the politicians and the rock stars of their time and they had their equivalents of rock stars. Where are they now? You don't even know their names.
And Buhari Rahim Allah, Allah and all of the aroma all of them have been to me Imam, Abu hanifa, Shafi and Noah Azadi These are great giants. They lived one lifetimes but their Baraka their blessedness is quite literally the equivalent of hundreds of millions of lifetimes hundreds of millions every Muslim that is even somewhat knowledgeable knows the names of urban Tamia Rosati and for so and so and so and so, this is what the real legacy is. So the question arises, brothers and sisters,
what should we do to leave a legacy? How do we go about leaving a legacy some simple points in shallow data, and then inshallah, after the break, we'll come back and take some questions as well. Some simple points, how do we leave a legacy number one, number one, to leave a legacy is to have a knowledge of this religion, and a knowledge of what is most beneficial. In order to really be productive, you need to know the field, you're going to be productive and as a Muslim, you need to study your sciences. You need to know how to pray, how to worship, what you need to have, you're just like in any discipline, you cannot become a computer scientist without knowing those
disciplines without knowing programming. You cannot become an engineer without knowing thermodynamics. You cannot become a doctor without knowing human biology. Well, if you want to be a good Muslim, you had better study of the sciences of Islam. So be around knowledge and the people of knowledge. Number two, to leave a legacy. You had better start making dua to Allah for that legacy. Because if you don't make dua, you're not gonna get nothing. If you don't make dua, you have no desire. If you don't make
Do I how are you going to get what you want? Start making Ibrahim this thing which I live beside a citizen for the afternoon. We are being commanded to London with Tatiana a mama. We should start making drama Oh Allah bless me and make me bless it wherever I go. This is the door of your hand and Isa make me bless it wherever I go. Wherever I go, I want to influence people positively for your sake Oh Allah, make dua to Allah subhana wa Tada. Number three, we need to start aiming high and acting, aim high and act. Look at the earliest revelations of the Quran. The Quran never preaches laziness. In order to do anything, you need to be proactive. You want to get good grades on your
GCSE or on your exams or whatever, you're gonna have to study hard. Nobody can get to the result without putting in the effort. So what is the law say the earliest revelation when Allah azza wa jal appointed the Prophet system as a net, the NRO soon, what did he say? Yeah, you hit him with death fear. What's the next ayah?
oh, you whose envelopes in your cloak? Every one of us feels so good. When we put our envelope have that blanket on at night, right? It feels comfortable. You feel so nice and peaceful. And Allah tells our Profit System, or one who's wrapped up and feeling all safe and sound. You can't remain in that posture. You cannot remain in the safety of your blanket, comb, stand up fences, go and do something. You have to stand up and get the deed done. Look at what Allah says in the Quran to us. Look at the verbs Allah uses. Allah says in the Quran fulfill rule in a law fleet to Allah. Allah says in the Quran was sadhu Isla molfetta Mira become Run quickly to get to Allah. Allah. Allah says
in the Quran for study of Allah hi rod, when the race against others for the deeds of good look, fleeing, running, walking quickly getting to Allah winning the race
will love He brothers and sisters, most of us we have a stronger desire for winning the race of the dunya than winning the race of the era. This is our problem when you don't even have the desire when you don't even have the the him to do something.
How you going to get it done. So the Quran is a proactive book. It's telling you to become active is telling you to do things and allow reminds us what galera Maru go ahead and do actions for Sayonara la mina Kumara Sulu, Allah we'll see what you have done and the Prophet of the Day of Judgment listen and we'll see what you have done. So doing and in order to do you need to have motivation are a part and parcel of leaving high legacy. Look at this beautiful Hadith of the Prophet system in which he said the true truest names that any person can be called are al Hadith and and hammam. These are the truest names. These are the most accurate names and hadass. And then her mom, what is
her mom? Not her mom? Does the bathroom guys not have mom? No, nobody should have called him mom with the hat hum with that ha ha Mom, what is hum mom mean? hammer, the one who has high desires and aims. This is hum. He has high goals. Every one of us should have high goals, especially for the hero and had is what has had it mean the one who reaps what he sews, the one who gets back what he invested how it is like the plant or the farmer, whatever you seeds you plant you will get the same fruit back, you planted apple seeds. Don't be surprised when you get apples back. You planted corrupt seeds. Don't be surprised you get corrupt seeds back. So hammam is the one who had it sorry,
the one who gets what he what he planted. And her mom, the one who plants high The one who aims high. So her mom is the one who plants the best had is the one who reaps the best. And the Prophet system said these two are the truest names we have in English, the saying you reap what you sow. This is what this means. The better you sow, the better seeds the better effort you put in, the better your fruits are going to be. So this too is of the ways that we leave a legacy of the ways that we leave a positive legacy
is that we look at the impact that we can have given the talents that we have. People have different talents, and people have different areas of influence. And the wise person takes into account that each one of us can only be good in one or two fields. It's very rare that a professional doctor is also a professional engineer. It's almost impossible to find and there are exceptions that prove the rule. Allah has blessed you in a way he has not blessed me and Allah has blessed me in a way he has not
Lest you you look at what are my talents and you see what can I do for the religion of Allah to leave a positive legacy? Look at the Sahaba look at how very they were. I'm doing now a series on the Sahaba in my Masjid, you know, I've done a series of the Sierra. Now I'm doing a series on the Sahaba. And one of the goals is to demonstrate the variety of talents the Sahaba had. Right now I just finished Harley Davidson worried about the last one. We went over all of his life in times highly limited. What do you know? How did you know what it was not known for?
Giving fatwa? He was not known for narrating Hadees he barely has a handful. And these are these are generally very, they're they're just they're found in other traditions as well by other Sahaba as well. He was not known for his knowledge of Tafseer. But let me ask you Did we need cotton, elite for intercede,
hardly available he had had a role to play. Did he not play that role?
Abu hurayrah de la Juan, he had another role to play that was not the role of college. That was not the role of how to delete more, or the bingeable, who was the name of the Sahaba he had yet another role to play. In abus. Each one of them somebody like Hassan had been sabots very interesting Sahabi rhodiola, one who was not known for participating in any of the battles because he was not predisposed to fight. You know, some people, some people, they simply are not capable of getting involved in physical fights. And that was assigned in February or the last one, he was not able to fight so much so that when the treaty or when the the trench took place, right when the Azov came,
assigned a bit. sabbat was essentially the only man that was placed with the women and children, because he could not carry a sword. And he had it in his fifth row, people are different. People are different. Some people are good in this not good. And that has added this habit was not a fighter. He couldn't hold a bow and an arrow or a sword and read and I'll mention his story in detail when I get to it, read what happened and read his and that's his character. But despite that, did he say Oh, simply because I cannot be involved in a job? I'm useless. What has suddenly been sabbat? Did even obachan or could not do?
Do you understand what I'm saying here? what it has to do with having to do all know, by the way, what was I said with habits role.
He was the official poet of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, the official poet. And when the aurash would write bad lines about Islam and the Prophet system, the prophet system would say to his son, homea, Hassan and respond back to them, and God will help you. Hudson said O Messenger of Allah. I need I don't know the fact Hassan was on Saudi has done was from Medina. He says, I don't know the facts that I need to write these in the lines, right? You need to know what happened. You need to be able to mention something. I don't know that information. So the process of said abubaker going to help him I will bucha becomes the helper to his son.
Even abubaker Sudhir could not write the poetry of his son. But did we need his son to be an abubaker? No, we have our abubaker is we needed his son to be his son, or your loved one. What is the point of all of this brothers and sisters? Each one of you, each one of you, has talents has a strength that you know about. Do not judge your weaknesses in the light of strengths of others. That's ludicrous. Don't judge yourself based on your weaknesses and say, Oh, I can't memorize 1000 Hadith. I can't become a fucky. I can't. Okay, maybe maybe you can't. Maybe you can't. I'm saying four is verified because sometimes you're lazy. Suppose you can't, okay? The oma doesn't just need a
The oma needs people involved in each and every field. And the least that you can do, which will be a unique legacy for you is to influence and impact your circle of family and friends. Nobody in the world walks in your shoes other than you. Nobody in the world has the same group of colleagues, acquaintances, neighbors and friends and family that you do. If you can leave a positive legacy amongst them. You have done something unique that nobody else could do. So when you're talking about legacies and leaving a legacy, think have a program have a model, have a like the businesses have a business plan, you have a legacy plan. What can I do given my resources, given my financial, my
intellectual might whatever I have, bring it to the table and ask yourself and ask your close family and friends that where do you think my role is what is my strength that I can utilize and whatever your strength is and will love
You must have a strength a lot created as this way. Allah created us this way that everybody has something that somebody does not have. No one has all knowledge and all power Allah says in the Quran that that Allah says that which Allah
Subhana Allah, the ending hula dijadikan holla ffl, odious Rafa Ababa confocal bhatinda Raja chin, Leah broken femur attack him, he is the one who has given some of you things that others don't have. And so some of you are above others, and each one will be tested in accordance with what they have. This is the son that Allah He helped he Allah Suna in his creation, no human being can live without others, even the rich and powerful, even the richest businessman, he needs the car mechanic to repair his car. He needs the shoe cobbler to prepare to even prepare his shoe to make his shoe. Even if he does not going to repair it, he's going to throw it away who made it, somebody has to make it
at that chain level. Everybody benefits from everybody. This as soon as a law, no role is less trivial than the other. It's your loss that matters. It's your loss that matters. No role is less trivial. It doesn't have to be in the limelight. It doesn't have to be behind the cameras or in front. No, everybody has a role to play. And Allah azza wa jal is in fact, monitoring that role. And of the things I don't have to wrap up, it's almost time for the setup of the things that we can do to leave a positive legacy is to be around people that encouraged us that are productive, that are proactive. One of the biggest problems is to hang around people with low ideals with low vision.
That's why as the saying goes, aim for the stars, even if you fail, you'll get to the moon.
Aim for the stars, even if you fail, you'll get somewhere. If you're hanging around people that are always aiming high, what's going to happen, you're going to be motivated, you're going to be wanting to do something. Whereas if you're hanging around people who have no positive influence people who are just wasting their lives what's going to happen to you, if an ambassador of the law when the famous Sahaba in a bus
when the process of a bus was 1314 years old,
little kid in a bus used to play with one of his friends from the console.
It would play out as we play soccer sports they would have their games to play. One of the processes that Eben Abbas said to his friend, come me and you let's go and study in from the Sahaba Abubakar Omar with mothers go to the big guys and study
and his friend snorted in contempt. Who do you think you are? that people are gonna benefit from you? You're just a kid.
What did even Abbas do photography to who I let him go cut him off photography to send negative influence for truck to who and I started going to the houses of the Sahaba I would wait outside the house of Abu hurayrah the house of Zaid the house of Abu Bakar wait for hours until they came out he didn't want to disturb them they're sleeping when they come out I asked him must either almost entertain one or two one or two questions so as not to overwhelm you know, the share codes the teacher as well, until finally one by one they began to pass away and what happened with him in a bus he became the greatest Artist of the Sahaba now imagine if he had listened to his friend and
said Who do you think you are and have done nothing you have to have positive influence around you and of the things that you need to do. And especially I speak to the younger members of the audience said by the way young doesn't mean 15 young is something in the mind so shall the all of us are young I'm still young and child as well in that sense. But young in the Islamic Sharia essentially is you know above the age of 30 below the age of 35 or so you reach the pinnacle at the age of 40. That's what the the scholars of the Arabic language will say 40 is one hot day who should who are born in Asana arbaeen Asana is one you are at some type of a milestone in your in your in your life.
So before that agent, of course, especially in your teens and 20s no doubt that is a young phase of your life. Make sure you take advantage of your time and your energy and your enthusiasm, the energy and time you have when you're in your 20s will never ever come back to you. This is something that a lot of you hold it again the way that Allah azza wa jal creates us that at that young age, and that is why you go to college and you go to uni at that age. That's why standard when do you train to become a career at that age in your 20s, early 20s Well, along with that as well have something of this dunya as well. One of my mentors and teachers she of Jaffa these great scholar he is very
elderly now May Allah azzawajal give him a long life and cause him to die upon him and and taqwa Jaffa disease.
One of the first things that he taught me I remember this, this is 19 9019 9091 when I was still a student in, in, in university, and he never went through formal training. He has a PhD in philosophy from Ministry of London, and he is a well known alum. But he said to himself, he told us this story that when he started studying, and he
saw the quantity of books he had to read for his degree, he made a condition upon himself. Every book I'm going to read in my secular studies, I shall read an equivalent size in Islamic Studies.
Every book I'm going to read for
the dounia I will read similar size for the author. And so panelist slowly but surely, his own knowledge is every edition, his classical understanding, made him one of the world famous odema he used to sit on panels with chefman Varsha called are we well known Adam now he's very sick and elderly and railed male ours was give us you know, but the point is in his lifetime, that is exactly what what he did. So take advantage of that young age. famous story comes to mind of Yeah, yeah, lazy. Emma Malik had hundreds of students hundreds, they would come from all over the world. Do you know his most famous student is a young teenager who traveled from the other side of the world and
the lucea the west to go and study in Medina, the more senior students are not as famous as this young kid. And his version of the mortar is the most authentic version of the mortar. one incident shows you His relationship and his thirst for knowledge. Once in Medina, a traveling circus went by there were traveling circus is even at that time. And that traveling circus had an elephant in it.
There were elephants that would travel the world and be shown to crowds at that time. It's not just London Zoo, and people began to raise the cry. There's an elephant, there's an elephant. Everybody's rushing out of their houses out of their places to see the elephant and my mother is giving his head aka, when somebody shouts into the masjid, there's an elephant outside. Everybody. There are young men at the end of the day, everybody rushes up and leaves the Hannukah leaves the head. So Mr. maryk postpones the class callers go watch the elephant. And he goes and looks at his notes looking at his lecture. He looks up there's one student remaining. One student
says Who are you?
What are you doing go Don't you want to see the elephant? Everybody else is gone. And this little 20 year old young man says Oh Mr. maryk there are plenty of elephants in the world. There's only one Mr. Money
this was the student that was to become the most famous even though he studied with him ematic only for two three years a family passed away. But this level of dedication shows you what
this is what I'm talking about when you say set your standards very high. So the bottom line brothers and sisters inshallah I know it's time to wrap up the bottom line brothers and sisters aim high, aim high. And even if you don't get all the way there inshallah Tada, you will get close over there. Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, in the famous Hadith whoever asks a love for Shahada sincerely, Allah will give him the rank of Shahada even if he dies on his bed. Whoever asked a lover The point is you want to die a good life. And with this Heidi we conclude inshallah, with this hadith we conclude inshallah, our Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, when you ask Allah for Jenna,
ask him for Fado cell, Allah now pause here.
Do you think that everybody who asked for those we'll get to for those?
Do you think the majority of the mo will get to for those tell me? No, the majority of mo is not going to get to for those because for those is special, correct. So the majority of the oma will not get to for those it is for what fully documented Illumina small groups of people, not everybody's gonna get to fit those. But the command is when you ask a law asked for for those even though you need to understand as well as I understand the majority of those asking will not get to for those. But here's the point brothers and sisters, if you don't even aim for for those, how are you going to get there? Number one, if you don't even aim for fear those how are you going to get there? And
number two, if you aim for those and you try to get to for those and you quote unquote, failed, what will that failure mean? versus if you aimed just to struggle right into Jenna? Oh Allah let me be the last person tend to agenda that's not the goal. What if you missed that last person
Then what? So here's the Point, aim high, aim as high as you can aim for for those. Firstly, that's the only way we'll get there. Secondly, even if you don't get there, even if you miss for those, if you aim for it, you might just be one level below it and with that inshallah tada we conclude and ask Allah azza wa jal for for those that other
brothers and sisters were the last part of our program we have Professor Kirby here who will take some questions inshallah. So from the brothers you can raise your hands we'll take some questions and the sisters can if you can write and send it off please through the volunteers shala but for the questions please do not give a lecture and make a comment. Just short, sharp questions. inshallah, I would like to take from you on this topic, especially what the chef has spoken on how to be best so we still are we stay with our subject matter inshallah.
Allah Salam Alaikum.
I'd like to thank you for coming for this lecture today for coming to UK. My dear, venerated Czech yasir, Qadhi. First time I'm meeting you. And this is a question that has always bothered me, I've watched quite a few number of your lectures. And to follow your advice.
I try my best to have time with my family and talk about Dean and what I've learned from your lectures and all the other scholars I follow. One of the things that have bothered me is the
question from the young ones in the family, they think wearing a certain type of dress
is more Islamic? And I don't have the answer to that, because that's what majority of them are portrayed in some way or the other. Even I didn't have a beer two years ago. And
I'm trying to be a tolerable in, as I say. And I've learned a lot from you. And I would like a very honest answer and this is this is bothering me because I cannot change into a certain type of dress to actually physically get the question show the tape. So this is the first question and shall it very briefly, no doubt the Sharia has guidelines and all of our affairs, all of our affairs, there are guidelines. So we need to ask ourselves what are the guidelines in this field? The shady eye tells us what to eat and how to eat. The shady ad tells us how to use the restroom. The shady eye tells us which foot we should use to enter the masjid which put we should use to enter whatever all
of this is well defined. It's well understood. So the question that we need to ask ourselves what does the show do? Tell us about dress code. So when we look at the text of the Quran, and the sooner we find that Allah azza wa jal commands us to wear clothes who do Zina to come in the Quran msgid and Allah tells us in the Quran that he has blessed us with clothes Yeah, but he Adam are the unsung Alaykum lieberson you already so article militia are children of Adam, I am the one that has sent clothes down upon you, in order to hide your nakedness to hide your immodesty and also as a decoration as a beauty. So the Quran is explicit and the sooner is explicit that the primary purpose
of clothing is to protect our modesty to cover that which needs to be covered and what needs to be covered the outer and the outer comes from the Arabic verb IRA, which means to criticize, because when you expose the outer, you are subject to criticism, when you expose the hour people are going to criticize you. So the purpose then of clothes is to cover our modesty and chastity. The Sharia has outlined what is the hour and for men the hour is the navel to the knee by unanimous consensus of the format I have some have if the love is the knee in or out but the point is, navel to the knee is pretty much agreed upon with some minor differences in sentiment that but beyond the point of our
class inside, the outer is more than the navel and the knee. The outer also includes the chest. So inside out you also have to cover the chest This is for men and for women that are out in public is the entire body other than the face and the hands and the face is an issue of some that often the classical scholars, but none of the scholars said none of the scholars said that the hair can be exposed the hair should be covered in a dignified manner along with the body and loose clothing. With that having been said the Shetty I did not specify the cloth, the cut the material and the color. All of this is something that the shady did not come and lay down upon. So different Islamic
cultures have adopted different cloth and materials. And that is why you see the diversity of the oma the Muslims of Indonesia do not dress like the Muslims of Nigeria and the Muslims of Nigeria do not dress like the Muslims of Bengal.
A dish and the Muslims of Bangladesh do not dress like the Muslims of Saudi Arabia, which one is more Islamic, none of them, they're all equal, they are all equal, our profits of the loss of them did not come and tell us that we should wear a long garment what we call the thobe. He did not call it a thought they would call it a commies. He did not say we should wear the homies, this is something that is open. And therefore
if a person wishes to dress in a manner that is in accordance with his or her cultural norms, as long as the guidelines of the city are followed, then there is no sin whatsoever in this regard. And in fact, even al Qaeda makes a very, very strong argument, that the sun when it comes to dress, is to follow your own people in as much as the Sharia allows you to follow them to follow your own people in as much as the shediac allows you to follow them. And he says this is the Sunnah, because what did the process that I'm used to where? Did he change the fashion of Makkah? Did he alter what the other chorus used to wear, if you could magically be transported to the Battle of button, and
you see the two camps on each side, you could not tell them apart from their clothes. You could not tell them apart from their throat. They're both wearing so they're both wearing turban, they're both having the way that the Arabs of that time used to dress.
I understand some people say that they want to dress like that. And I'm not saying that that is wrong. I just don't agree with it in a polite manner. The ones who want to dress like this, and they think that it is encouraged by Islam, we should say Do you also wish to resurrect the cuisine of the Prophet system that nobody eats is gone that cuisine Do you wish to resurrect the housing material made out of dried mud that he used to live in? the Sunnah of the Prophet system is of two types. So not the sheer iya cylinder that he told us to follow. And the sooner that just happened to be the norms of his time, he spoke in a certain accent of Arabic, he spoken a certain dialect of Arabic, he
dressed in a certain manner, he ate a certain cuisine, he wrote a certain animal, he lived in a certain type of house, those things are not cut and pasted later on. And that is why wherever Islam went, the cuisine of nudge did not or Hejaz did not spread, the clothing did not spread either. And that's why Muslims of Nigeria dress differently than Muslims of of Indonesia, the clothing did not spread. What did spread was the theology, the beliefs, the rituals, that is the real center. So
my humble opinion in this regard with my utmost respect to other scholars, is that it is not just permissible, it is better for us in this context, to design our own garments that have elements of East and West both in them.
So that there's some elements that make us stick aside as Muslims because at the end of the day, in the end of the day, we cannot wear tight clothes, even men. And all too often men are wearing tight jeans and clothes when they're going to center that's not allowed, right? We should have loose garments, we should preferably have long tunics or shirts, preferably, it's not how long to tuck it in. But if you tuck it in, make sure your pants are baggy or loose, because you cannot have so a blend of East and West so that we don't stick out like sore thumbs Why? It's psychological brothers and sisters, when you resemble the people and you speak their language and you're a part of their
culture and customs as much as possible, then you come forward with a new religion, they're going to be more open. But when you are an alien, and you dress like an alien, and you look and talk and walk, then your religion as well is an alien religion. And that's why in the Quran, Allah says, We're not our son number a student ilibrary sonnet pomi we sent messengers to spoke the language of their people. Allah says we left them with a home saw that whenever they enter a home show Eva, some someone saw their brother, their own men came to them, he looked like them. He spoke like them, he dressed like them, he acted like them as much as they should be allowed. Then what the Shetty says
you cannot do you do not do we don't go to the pub, like other people do. We cannot do that. But to dress in a regular manner or whatnot. There should be no problem with that. And this is the position that I follow. And that is why even what I'm wearing now is I think in blend of Eastern Western or not, this is the way that I do it. But in I have another life outside of this life. I I teach meaning I don't I'm not just a cleric. I teach a university. I'm a professor at a university. I dress properly and a suit or a pant or a formal jacket and I
Make it a point to dress up formally even when my colleagues are not dressed up. Why? Because I understand that to my non Muslim students, I am representative of the religion of Islam, and I want to dress up and look dignified for the sake of Allah. When our Prophet system would meet dignitaries and visitors from other tribes, when non Muslims would come out, it isn't so knitted. Maybe when non Muslims when delegations would come the Hadith says he would wear his Yemeni cloak, his Yemeni Juba, you know this is like a thing on top that you put the Arabs call it the bishop, the bishop is the remnants of the joke, but something you put on top now, who told our Prophet system that a Yemeni
Juba is an upgrade, who told the Prophet system that wearing a Yemeni garment is what you do when you're going out when you're wanting to look dignified. He didn't invent that this was the norm of ages, when you wanted to dress up, you would wear the Yemeni jopa he followed the customs of the ages. No problem. Now, what is the equivalent of the Yemeni Juba in our times when non Muslims come and speak with us? When we are visiting dignitaries or dignitaries coming to us Should we go and resurrect the actual Yemeni Juba, which nobody wears anymore find actual wool from the sheep course garments those people with I'm not trying to be sarcastic will lie but I'm just being factual. Those
people who think they're wearing the sooner the fine material that your tailor made thobes are made of our process have never touched it, please. The nice cufflinks you put on right, those nice little caps that you you buy with the you know the the most precious material on you think are processing more those types of things. So don't pick and choose what is convenient. Nobody resurrects the actual cloth, and the actual cut which was handmade and the act Nobody does that. And there is no heavy that commands us to actually wear a garment well lucky if there was such a commandment, we follow it because it becomes Islamic. But there's no authentic ID that
that the Prophet system told us to dress in a certain manner. And, and therefore in sha Allah, it is completely permissible to dress as you please, as long as the as long as the shutdown requirements are met and the sharing requirements I mentioned loose garments and our be covered one other point when it comes to quote, to clothing, we have been prohibited from imitating that which is recognizable as Cofer that which is recognizable as something other than Islam. What is imitating that which is Cofer or recognizable as other than Islam. In our case, it will be for example, wearing a cross, okay, or wearing what a priest wears, this would not be allowed, because you are
recognizable. Now wearing the clothes that are universal, is not imitating the kuffaar because the process isn't worth old, and the co founder of maca worth old and he said this hadith in the context of the co founder of Morocco wearing the Pope, he didn't imply just because they're wearing a soap I cannot wear it though. He is saying if you're going to go out of your way to imitate out of your way because it's the Shabaab to imitate specific poofer or ideologies that are not a part of Islam. We cannot dress like Buddhist monks. We cannot dress recognizably something that is not something that Muslims were you cannot do that. But to say that pant and shirt is imitating the kuffar. I'm sorry,
that's not accurate. islamically. And I'll just leave it at that question from the sisters.
I have five minutes left because I have to make my way to believe it or not, Birmingham sheriff, so I have to go far away. So
how should I help my family who don't focus on Islam? And how would I help them to basically be more religious and leave some of the cultural things that they are doing? My dear sister in Islam? This question is a very common question. It is a question that all of us struggle with Subhan Allah, one of the most difficult struggles of this world is the struggle within your family. This is one of the most difficult struggles to struggle within your family, and to bring about a better situation.
Honestly, Sister, I want to be frank with you realize that hedaya comes from up above and not from you.
So he Daya is not in your hands. Why do I say it like this? Maybe you do everything that's right. And it doesn't cause an impact. Don't become depressed and blame yourself. You have to do what Allah has required you to do and Allah is in charge of the result. Allah says in the Quran about the Prophet system of authority in Galatia demon Dr. Wallach, in the La Jolla demon Yeshua, you do not guide the one whom you love. Rather Allah guides the one that he chooses to guide our Prophet sallallahu Sallam could not guide him and he wanted to guide him. So realize you might not be able to bring about a betterment
Have your family but number one, number one, it's clear from the question that your family are Muslim Alhamdulillah from Alhamdulillah a father who lowers his head in stature, and also does some other sins is a million times better, in fact infinitely better than somebody who never lowers his head to Allah subhana wa Tada. The fact that your mother comes to Juba at least for example, she prays Ramadan stank, Allah azza wa jal that she's fasting Ramadan, she's doing something and then along with that there might be some other sins. So put it into context, don't despair, look at the positives. The fact that your siblings are Muslim and identifying as Muslim 100 enough, if they have
some sins, major or minor, those are sins in light of their emaan in light of their positive so look at their positive number two sister realize that psychologically speaking, if you are the youngster in the family, for example, your parents are always the youngster, usually, typically, that work cannot be done by somebody who is psychologically of a lower status. You are the daughter, your parents have raised you since you were a toddler, they fed you they've taken care of you since you were a baby, now you become Mashallah 15 2025, they will always be a generation older than you. So you come along and you think you know it better than them psychologically, they're going to say, Who
are you to preach to us? Keep this point in mind? Not I'm saying I'm not saying don't, I'm saying usually that we're from below is more difficult than that we're at the peer level or, at a higher level. Sometimes the best data can be through your uncles and Auntie's that are religious you go to them to influence your parents, not necessarily you directly. Look at Abraham and his father as his father as the one that was the idol maker. He refused to accept anything from Ibrahim alayhis salam, not that Abraham didn't do his job, he did his job. But no matter what you do, sometimes you're not going to so number two, realize that number three, whatever you do, my dear sister and I speak to
all the brothers here, you will never ever, ever win the hearts of your parents through angry emotional argumentation. Never.
The worst way to give Dawa to your parents is to throw what I call a teenage emotional tantrum. And know it all attitude where you say this is how long this has been that this is and they're doing it for their entire lives. That is the most ineffective way, you will seal their hearts against any future that way. You will approach them through love infinitely better than you're approaching them through anger and hostility. Do not think that argumentation is the best way with your parents. It might work with your friends, it might work with people at your level with your parents. The best way is to lead by love and tenderness and example. And if you must intellectually debate, do so with
the utmost love and respect. Look at Ibrahim and his father as a yeah Betty Yeah, Betty. Yeah, Bertie. Never once is Ibrahim raising his voice. Never once is you throwing an emotional tantrum. Abraham Allison was addressing his father, my dear father, why would you want to worship that which will not benefit or harm you, my dear father, or a man exists, but I'm worried a man might punish if you worship other than a man read that beautiful passage how Abraham debated with his father and then compare how most of us debate with our parents. Look at the the differences there. And then the final point is shall allow you to make dua to Allah. Make dua to Allah. You really want your parents
and your siblings to be guided. Realize love mercy, tenderness, da da da da da is the weapon of the believer drop is what will bring about what you want. Raise your hands up to Allah subhana wa tada and constantly make up that Overlord, the one who guided my parents to Islam, guide them to a better understanding of Islam, or the one who guided my parents to worship Him. Make them worship him regularly. Worship Allah regularly five times a day for their brain one city for example, the one who makes them pray one city Oh Allah, make them pray five times a day. Do Allah to Allah subhana wa tada your own personal Love, Your Love Your tenderness, your mercy. This is the way in sha Allah to
accomplish and in the end, he dies from a law alone does aka moolah Hydra it's always a pleasure to come to your Masjid I hope that inshallah we meet again soon as akmola halen said I want to convert him into law. He
may just remain for a couple of minutes. inshallah, can I request our chairman brother Muhammad Abdul Rahman. Just to say if you were to shoreline conclude the program.
Hemel hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam O Allah say you deliver saline water early he was admired
Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah here.
Brothers and sisters, just take a few minutes. First of all, to
thank chef yellow Hardy, for being here today. And for all of you for coming to this event. Today, when we found out that we had the opportunity of inviting Shakira, sir, we took, we jumped to it, and we thought it was, we have to do this. And I'm so grateful that he was able to come to us for this. Apologies that he needed to be a ticketed event. But as the brother, the Lord mentioned, that this institution of hamdulillah still has a very large debt, or shortage of funds that needs to be paid back. So that's why you need to continue to do that. In that
token, he's mentioned to you about this legacy giving and I hope to something different, something new, and I hope inshallah, from what we've heard today, this could be one of the things that we could be our legacy that we could actually make some, in fact, visibility by Sharla, that will be of assistance to us, in the hereafter.
I am really touched by what he talks about, and, you know, soheila, his legacy is already huge. And, you know, very rarely does a night pass, when we do, we don't go into YouTube and listen to one of his talks. And this is something really wonderful. So whenever we have the opportunity, we will try to make it available to you to come and listen to him in Sharla in person. But also at the same time, there is this opportunity to continue to learn all of the things that he talked about today, that opportunity is actually there.
But one thing I would say to chef yesterday is that there is a need for a lot of us ecologies.
And we need more scholars. And you know, this is evidence, your being here, your your thirst, your hunger for knowledge, and swallowing, got two big holes filled up with sisters elsewhere in this building today, just goes to show that there is this need, so I hope inshallah, you know, I mean, he's doing wonderful, whatever he's doing, he needs to do more to encourage more young people. And you know, as he says that all of us have different talents. And not everybody's going to be a scholar, but I'm hoping that there will be some of you here that will follow that route because that is a very necessary area in which we need to benefit from Sharla.
You know, we have Alhamdulillah spent a good amount of time here, which has been very beneficial for us. And I think inshallah so many different ways, just the fact that we are actually here in the machine, which is the best place that you can be, and the fact that the angels are actually recording you being here, and being witness, and all of the things that we want to do you know, that these talks about, we say we want the agenda, and Allah says you can have the agenda is we want salvation from hellfire. Allah says you can have salvation for hellfire. We say we want forgiveness initially forgive all of them. So just being here, we've benefited a great deal, haven't you? I
think we've also learned a lot from the talk that Sheffield has given us, and shall Our hearts are a bit soft now. And, you know, we are, inshallah remind is increased a little bit from what we have heard from the reminders that we've had. And also I hope inshallah, that he's has inspired to act. And if we take anything from chef er, sir, about our legacy, about what what is it that we want to what is it that we want to live, what is going to be our legacy, and as you mentioned, that not everybody is going to be, you know, the scholar, not everybody's going to be making the contribution like Abu hanifa did, or Mr. Bahari did, and so on and so forth. But he also said that every one of
us has something that all of us was, has blessed us with. And again, you know, we cannot, we cannot be grateful enough to Allah subhanaw taala of the of the, you know, bounties that he's given us, what we do need to do is take some time to reflect, you know, take their time, say, what is it that I can contribute to, and I think, you know, this time is our time, this place is our place. And this is the time for us to make that contribution, whatever little that we can do. But it's important for us to spend that time to identify what it is that I can contribute to, with the time that I have with the bounties that Allah has given us. And if we're able to as you're talking about your
business plan, if we're able to plan like that, then we can inshallah make that contribution in sha Allah, and Allah knows we are not going to judge them and we're not doing it just for the legacy. Allah knows how he's going to reward us for that Allah knows how he's going to be remembered. Allah knows how he's going to be of benefit for us in the hereafter. The other thing to bear in mind is that there's a lot of things that you can do individually and of course, you know, our first and foremost priority
Who wants to sakamaki Kumara. We want to save ourselves and our child from the Hellfire as the Quran states. But also, there are a lot of things that we can do individually. But there's an awful lot of things we can't do individually we need to come together to be able to do that. Look at this society that we live in the challenges that we face. Look at the situation of Islam and how it's been demonized by people. Look how Muslims are being demonized. Look at, you know, the challenges of Islamophobia and all of these other challenges that our brothers, our sisters, young people are going through at the moment, there must be something that can be done about those things that we can
actually contribute to. So it's really finding at least something that we can do inshallah, together. I was just downstairs a few minutes ago, those of you who played a lot of us are here, you will have seen that a brother took his Shahada immediately after I met some other brother just now James, his name is another teacher. He's here also to take his Shahada. There's a lot of people despite all of the negativity that we you know, face in here in the media and so on and so forth. Alhamdulillah there are lots of people who are being guided by Allah subhanaw taala in this machine Alhamdulillah almost one everyday move, sometimes more than one every every week, take Shahada here,
and there are opportunities here brothers and sisters, through the open days and so on that we do that you can contribute to just come look, I will accept your offer Mashallah. salaam aleikum wa Slovakia