Habits & Addictions #05 Recovery

So is there really any hope? After all, what we have discussed in the previous episodes seems that addiction is really something very, very tough. Can we really get rid of these addictions? The answer is absolutely. Absolutely. Absolutely. You're going to know inshallah Tada after a sip of coffee Bismillah

Allahu Akbar as Salaam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh my brothers my Sisters in Islam Welcome back. Episode Number Five be in later Allah. On the habits and addictions particularly we'll discuss the about rehabilitation and recovery strategies to break free from those vices in sha Allah Todd, did you hear the story of Abu metagenic coffee, or the Allahu Anhu herba

a man who was addicted to alcohol before Islam and after Islam, the man who was punished by Prophet sallallahu Sallam for his addiction to alcohol and he was punished by several leaders of the Muslims even afterwards. Above imagine, coffee even told The Sun before Islam when I die, bury me under a grape tree. Look at this so that the dry grapes the full will quench my bones and, and dust after I turned to the skinny imagine how addictive that was? A boy Majan a coffee? Rock The Allahu Anhu although may Allah be pleased with him, excuse me, Brother, why are you saying may Allah be pleased with him? Isn't he a drunkard? Isn't he a man who used to be addicted to alcohol? Yes, and he was

able to defeat that addiction by Allah's will. And this is what everyone needs to know

that even though you're addicted, even though you are stuck, there is hope, if you follow the right methodologies in Charlottetown, and then in the next two episodes today, and next episode in the law, we want to give you some of those methodologies that worked very well with many people are handling lack of land, I mean, to get rid of your addiction, but remember, you need to exert some effort on your part. And we'll metagenic for coffee Radi Allahu Anhu or Darwin, he was called by Saddam Abbey or cos and one of the battles the Battle of Odyssey in Ramadan.

He handcuffed him I say you know what, you don't deserve to fight with the Muslims during jihad. You don't you don't deserve. So He handcuffed him. And he left him there and they went to fight the enemies. And subhanAllah It was that moment when he was prevented from something very, very rewardable by Allah subhanaw taala he felt so guilty, and he begged the wife of Saudi Arabia us to release him. And he promised that he will come back after the battle and handcuffed himself.

One of the lessons to learn here is that you need to be handcuffed.

You need to be restricted.

You can't be free anymore until you are sober until you are told by an expert Alhamdulillah. Now you can be on your own provided that you will follow the same lifestyle.

I read written and several books about the trick or the trap of shaitan. That is called the little bit the little bit trick.

Some people when they remain sober

for a couple of weeks, couple of months, couple of even years, sometimes two or three years people will be sober and all of a sudden, they say oh let me just watch one, one video little bit or YouTube not even hardcore something. And that little bit can be all what what it takes for you to go back to square one Allah I've seen people who relapse after five years of sobriety. Why? Because he did not maintain the lifestyle that worked for them. So here's the basic rule. Whatever works for you. Whatever works for you, whatever methodology that worked for you. Take it to the grave.

Don't ever say hey, let me now relax today.

Let me take a break today. No, no, no, whatever works for you. For example, if you develop a system that you don't want to go to weddings where mu

They can dancers and all these people wearing inappropriate clothes. And that can be your trigger. And you quit that, quit it for life. And don't feel sorry to apologize and don't feel, you know that you're obliged to go to Beyonce. Sorry, I can't attend your wedding. You congratulate them, you send them text messages, you visit them in their homes, but you're not obliged to go to places where it can take you back to square one in your addictive behavior. May Allah subhanaw taala grant us the right understanding. One of the things that the Prophet Muhammad salatu salam established when he migrated from Mecca to Medina, was to establish a hub, a community and a support system that can

serve the Muslims in the new faith, because they didn't know what to do. Yes, they took the shahada Is he a shadow Allah, Allah Allah? was how do under Mohammad Rasool Allah Akbar, witness, there is no God worthy of worship except Allah Subhana Allah, and that Muhammad is his messenger. But what's next Subhanallah I'll even hamdulillah I've been traveling a lot in Southeast Asia, Philippines, Hong Kong and, and the light and we have seen so many people coming to Islam, but we have seen so many people

quitting Islam after the shahada, there was no any follow up. You see, that's the importance of immediately developing good system to protect people from slipping back and going back to their bad lifestyle and bad habits. You see. So the Prophet SAW Selim understood this. And when he was driven out of his home in Makkah and his beloved Mecca

and went to Medina, the first thing that he thought of is building the Prophet Masjid. So the first thing you need to do my brothers and sister after being restricted. Remember, after being restricted, if you visit any rehabilitation center, may Allah subhanaw taala, grant all those who are addicted whether to either you know, substance or to behaviors, or whatever else may Allah free them from the shackle of addiction because it tastes bitter, it feels miserable. May Allah protect us all. If you wanted to know even more, there was an actor who just passed away recently, his name is Matthew Perry. I listened to his audiobook four times,

four times, because he is narrating his miserable story. May Allah protect us all. A man who used to earn $1 million a week.

And we're talking about many, many years back, we're talking about from, I think, 1994 to 2004. That was the series they used to act the $1 million a week he said he had back then he would have given them all away.

To get rid of his addiction to drugs, to pills and to alcohol.

He would give up everything that he owned $20 million home worth home, that he had an apartment, just an apartment, he said.

And he said it in a very honest manner. Whether you agree with him or not, he's Muslim. No, no, it doesn't matter. We're talking about a man who was stuck all his life from the age of 14 until 56 or 54. When he passed, all his life is within this miserable life of addiction. It's not an easy thing. It is not easy. And why was it I listened to the book several times because I wanted to know what were the main issues that made him stuck into that cycle for the rest of his life. And one of them was he was always alone.

He was always alone. He said in his book that my mind was there out there to kill me. Whenever I'm alone, I'm afraid. I'm worried because I know that it's going to happen.

So again, it all comes to something very important. You need to be restricted, and he cannot be restricted while you are just, you know, lying down in your bedroom with your phone slipping, swiping up and down as you please No, no, no, you have to restrict yourself. Number two, you have to build a support system, people to run to people to go to whenever you feel that you are triggered. And you're about at the verge of relapse. Number three when you relapse, don't remain there. Don't feel like it's hopeless. It's there is no turning back. You know some people like that they give up when they relapse couple of times. Part of the recovery they always tell us

you know among the package of recovery includes relapses

in part of the recovery journey is to relapse sometimes, and learn what led you to relapse in the first time. And when you avoid those triggers that lead you to relapses you will not relapse again and so on

so forth, it will take time but Wallah, it's doable. Ask yourself this question, isn't it better to restrict yourself for a year or two, then being stuck within the cycle of addiction for the rest of your life, but which is better,

which is better to be restricted for a year or two. Until Allah subhanaw taala opened doors for you and to, you know, you can live on your own without the hassle of being watched, being monitored. Another thing the devices that we use unless you filter them, filter them, there are software's out there that are as cheap as nuts, or free, even free. You know, they can monitor your your your your behavior online, and they can block nudity, and they can send reports to your accountability partners, people, as we mentioned in previous episodes, you need people who know about your struggles so that they can assist you whenever you need. You can't find that ghost on your own

period. You cannot defeat addiction by yourself. It's as simple as that.

You see, so may Allah subhanaw taala grant us the right understanding. And last but not least, this is just something like among the recovery methodologies that you may use in your life. Insha Allah to bring about goodness in sha Allah is serving others, raising awareness. Wallahi my brothers and sisters, the man that we spoke about the 18 year old boy that we talked about earlier. He is now part of the aware Academy, that little organization that I started some years ago, and he's one of the coaches that teach others about the harmful impact of pornography, believe it or not,

and handle and he's now he's married, your three kids Allahu Akbar. One day he wanted to kill himself remember? And because he followed and he gave up his cell phone for two years, he never used a cell phone. Allahu Akbar who amongst us today can even breathe without Wi Fi Allah Allah.

Allah protect us all. So I hope that those four methodologies can bring you closer. Inshallah, next episode and the conclusion of this series inshallah will be something called the critical alignment model. How can we live in a manner that is so aligned with our principles and values, that is Islam? And once you put that in place in sha Allah, Allah things will become more brighter? Bismillah Desikan la hyaluron May Allah protect us all? Amina Brahmin, we'll see you next episode. Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh