Relationships In Islam

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Tawfique Chowdhury

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smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa sallahu wa salam ala nabina Muhammad in early bH mine salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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fo t my brothers, my sisters in Islam.

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The brothers, when they asked me to speak today, they asked me to speak about relationships, about how a person, a Muslim relates to Allah azzawajal to his creator, to His Prophet, to other Muslims around him, his father, his mother, his children, his wife, his brothers and sisters, both siblings as well as from Islam.

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However, when I pondered and thought about this topic, I thought, there's something else that I should, should speak about. And that is something that is related to this topic of relationship. But that actually is the most important point when you talk about relationships. We all know that we have a particular relationship with Allah azza wa jal, we know we have a particular relationship with Rasulullah Selim, with all the people around us, our family, our friends, and our brothers and sisters around us, we know that the point is not that the point is what we do with these relationships, and how much we actually look after these relationships. That is what is important.

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What is not important is to know exactly who's right is what and who's happy is what because but Allah you know what Allah has already given us a heart. And Allah has given us some basic knowledge. And Allah has given us wisdom and Allah has given us the community and society around us to see what the basic level of relationship is. But where the problem really rise is in something we call an Arabic known as an Maha Sabha, which is self reproach, looking at the self and suffering collection, looking at your own deeds and your own actions, how have you behaved towards Allah? How have you behaved towards your profits or sell them? How are you dealing with your family and friends? What is

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the nature of your relationship with your children? Do children come up to you and tell you about the most important things to them? Does your wife confide in you as if you are your wife, soulmate? Or vice versa?

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do you do that? Does your brother and sister take you as their brother and sister and this is the most important topic and that is Maha Sabha, that is self reproach, taking account of oneself. You see Allah subhana wa tada has given us two things that we can, we can truly see the effect of however we don't, we can't see these two things. Number one is something called the heart. And number two is something called the soul of

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Allah subhanho wa Taala gave us these two things one of them leads us towards sin. The other one is always something that leads us towards good and that is why Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us and the Sahaba used to consider following the heart and following your heart as we say, you know in English we say this all the time, follow your heart. What do they really mean? what they really mean is following your soul because the heart and his desires, unfortunately lead us to sins, whereas the soul and its reproach lead us to good things. Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us in the Quran and he says one FC one Massawa for Allah Maha fujikura Hava taqwa hemmens aka wakad. Hoberman this very

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important verse in the Quran, very important few verses in the Quran about the knifes and taking the knifes into account. Allah says one of many he swears by the soul. And when Allah azza wa jal swears by something that means it is pure. When Allah subhanho wa Taala swears by something meaning it is high. So what Allah says what thenI was a tomb we know that a 14 and zaytoun the fig tree as well as the olive tree are the best of threes. Because it's worn by that if Allah has mentioned something in the Quran, it is better than something else. If Allah is swearing by the laughs, that means Allah is is testify to the purity of the knifes that he has created in every single human being will never

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see one Massawa and I swear by the knifes that every single human being has, and what it has done for us the hammer hammer fujimura ha ha ha and it is the soul and the goodness of the soul that leads it towards its good or towards his bad. god awful humans are indeed the one who was rectified his soul that is the one that is that is on the right path. We're called Herberman this and the one who is destroyed is the one who has led his soul astray. My brothers, my sister

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Islam, Allah subhanho wa Taala has given us the criterion to know whether we are right or wrong and that is the soul. Allah says in the Quran, we're carnal in San Juan de basura. Well, karma do verily mankind is always a witness over his own soul, even if it gives 1000 excuses. So you can get every excuse. Yeah, the reason I couldn't praise because I'm so busy working. And if I don't work, you know, this will happen. You go to your wife and you say, and your wife is angry, why aren't you coming home early? Why aren't you looking after the kids? Yeah, but I have to work after look to look to look after you. You at one point you want me to look after you. And another point you don't

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want me to work? I mean, how's that self contradictory? And that is what Allah subhanho wa Taala says, verily, the soul of a person is enough.

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is enough as an accounting for himself. Yeah. If a person truly wants to look inside himself, he will find within himself or herself.

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Enough clarity and all the excuses that He has given all the excuses that cloud that clarity, but Allah will no longer be excuses anymore. And that is why it will kill him or him Allah, he said, in his beautiful book called era for the law firm, he says, look at the web, the companions. Yeah, very strange. They were the most severe in action. So they did every act that they could think of right? And there's more severe action, from praying on night and struggling in the cause of Allah all day and fasting all day, and looking after the family who cook and every single thing Mashallah severe action, yet they were so afraid of Allah subhana wa Tada. Yeah. On the other hand, they did not take

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the actions as a guarantee. On the other hand, us, we are the least in action, and the most in safety,

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with the least in action, and the most in safety. And what is more amazing than that, is that it will pay him said this about himself.

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That he himself looked at himself and he finds himself least in action, and most in safety are thinking that we are safe from punishment Allah, then what do you think about us today? In our time, 800 years of Allah passed away? How have we become today in this century that we live? Where Subhana Allah, how little do we do? And how much we think about Allah is Allah for him, he will forgive us he will have mercy on us. What is the mohabbat enough's? Where is the taking your own self to account? Where is that it was reported once that out of the Hata, rodya, luevano Amaro de lado, that he used to take account of himself so severely, that every single night he would write down every

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single thing that he did on that day, and he would weep over his good deeds, he'd read over his bad deeds, and he would pray to Allah to accept his good deeds. Every single night, just like we have a ledger and we look at how much money is left in our account. This is what Amara do lado do is reported another authentic hadith, the unece rhodiola, adho, the little boy and us who have become a grown man at the time of Amara de la when he was a Khalifa said once I was with Amara viola, and when we are passing by, and we're passing by a, a hut, until a while separated between me and Mr. Rolando, so you know, how when we are walking, sometimes walking by and then something separate, we

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let go of the hand. So and this was passing by the other side of the world, and armor was passing by this side of the world. And then they thought about it, and that's what they love and who, as armor was passing by the other side of the hut, heard armor rhodiola and who say,

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armor.

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If you don't feel Allah soon, the Punisher Allah will hit you.

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Maybe what Amala the Allahu anhu did not find a single opportunity when he was alone, except that he would remind himself and take account of himself.

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Ask yourself, cells, my brothers and sisters Islam, when was the last time you took account of yourself? When did you actually take account of your own actions? When you actually sit down and say what have I done?

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What am I about to do? Let me write down all the people that I have to have a good relationship with. Or Allah will ask me about

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Is there any hack that I've actually overlooked? My mom perhaps my dad is something that they angry with me about?

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Because if your parents are angry for example, that lesson with you take it I guarantee guarantee guaranteed if your parents died whilst they're angry with you, you will find a lot angry within the Day of Judgment guarantee. This is what the prophets have said

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in the llama riddle while again was sakata llama softer quality, authentic hadith Rasulullah sallallahu Bukhari Muslim. Verily the anger of allies that is with the anger of the parents

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At the happiness of the of Allah, the happiness of the parents. So if your mom is angry with you for whatever it is, but like could be something as simple as, Oh, I didn't give her a gift, or I don't smile, I don't call her every day, whatever it is that you can take it a guarantee, Alessandra with you.

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Do you think a lot will be accepting your good deeds when a less angry with you

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to say Allah wants to accept a good deed from you? You know, when when I'm angry with my kids, for example, and my child tries to do things to make me happy. You know what, sometimes the anger makes me overlook all the good that they do. Have you noticed that? Sometimes when you're angry with somebody, let's say sister's angry with the husband or brothers and the wives, you overlook all the good that they do, simply because that anger has overcome every single thing.

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Yeah, and sometimes it's this is this is the case. Because sometimes we are so blinded sometimes by our anger because we're so angry with something. And indeed, Allah subhanho wa Taala does not accept your good deeds when he's angry with you. So be very, very, very, be very wary. If your parents are angry with you. Then you've angered Allah azza wa jal. And if your parents are happy with you, Alhamdulillah you made a lot of what you're happy.

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So when was the last time you took yourself to account for what you've done with your parents? When was the last time that you took yourself to account

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for your relationship with your wife? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said authentic hadith. Be wary of Allah it duck Luffy amatola fear Allah regarding the women that are under your care, for indeed, with Allah's permission, you will make them halaal for you. And therefore they are under the sanctity of Allah azza wa jal. When was the last time we actually asked Allah? What when we actually looked out into our own selves, and said, Have we been good to our wives? Is there something that we're falling short regarding our families, and perhaps our wives as well? When was the last time we did that about our own husbands? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, the authentic hadith

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in Bukhari, Allah He the husband and such a havoc in the eyes of Allah, the husband is such a hack upon the wife, that even if the husband had a boil on his arm, from which pass was coming out, and the only way the wife could clean that passes to lick that pass of his hand, this would not make up for anything that the husband does for the wife. This is what the prophets have said authentic, heavy. This is what the prophets have said about authentic hadith about the Huck of the husband over his wife. Think about brothers and sisters, about the Huck that you have with your children. What did the prophets of Allah you send them say about your children? He said it? Allah decom fear Allah

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regarding Allah.

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Yeah, Fear Allah regarding Allah. When did he say that? He said it at a very amazing time. This had it was reported that the prophets have said this to one of the Sahaba when one of the Sahaba just gave a gift to one of his children rather than the other child. So he had many children. So he loved one of them more than the others what he did, what did he do? He simply gave a gift to this one. Because you know how we do that sometimes. Sometimes we love one more than the other like I like my probably my youngest one because of the purists, for example, you tend to love it a little bit more, perhaps you play with it a lot more. And others notice at the Prophet sallallahu seldom said it.

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Will Allah fear Allah regarding your children, for indeed you will be asked about them, indeed, you'll be asked about them. In one authentic narration was reported that a boy was brought in front of camera, the man who by the boy's father, the father, but the boy in front of camera and said, Oh, my son doesn't listen to me. He doesn't obey me. Ask him why. And so I said, Why don't you be your son? Don't you know this is haram.

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But you must have been your father. So the boy said,

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meaning

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my father never gave me any of my hug. never gave me any of my hope.

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Really. So I'm gonna ask how is it the case he never looked after you or give you a hug. First of all, he married a woman who was very bad. My mother is a person of extremely bad o'clock and doesn't pray, and doesn't fast many bad Islam. So there was a first half of every child, that their mother be a righteous woman,

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the mother be a righteous woman. Number two, he gave me a bad name. He did not call me with the name of respect. He called me with the name of disrespect. And if you think that a name actually has a bad, you know, like, doesn't mean anything. Then you should read about the Nelson report that was published recently where it said that if you name your son by some of the particular names, that he has a higher chance of success in this dunya. And if you name your son by particular name, he actually has a lower chance of success in this in this domain. So if you and this was obviously the West

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Some contexts, but they were saying, if you name was sundeck, Harry, john smith, and Tom, these are the top names that actually has a higher connotation that they apparently get chosen more or more popular. But if you name them something else, okay, O'Connor, or you name them something else, like Jr. Yeah, is actually has a worse connotation. Now, we don't know how that is the case and I'm sure you can think of 101 exceptions to the rule correct. You can think of a lot of exceptions to the rule. But the reality of the fact of the matter is, names do have an impact. When renewable solar systems called Mohammed Sinhala, seldom we have a different reaction to that name. Because Mohammed

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means the one who was praised in this dunya and the afro, the one who was praised in this world, and also in the heavens, correct. So we have a different feeling when we say Mohammed says Salaam, one of the things I admit, yeah, when you call the sources and one of his name is Ahmed, what an amazing feeling you have, because Atman means the one who praises I love the most. So you know, therefore our solar system was the most praising of Allah of any human being. Any human being mankind of jinn. No one could praise Allah as much as the Prophet says, and that's why the followers of Rasulullah sallallahu muslimeen, are also the most praiseworthy of Allah xojo that any creation on this earth?

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So can you see how names have an impact in a meaning? Imagine that the Prophet says I was called Joe.

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Would you say, you don't have the same impact? Do? You don't Alhamdulillah that is why the Prophet systems names are very amazing. Mustafa, the one who was chosen, isn't that right? So look at the amazing effect it can have. So that was a second thing that this father did not do. Did not name the child with the night names of righteousness. Yeah. Number three did not teach him Islamic knowledge. So the boy said, my father never taught me my Quran. never taught me Islam, nothing of Islam. SubhanAllah isn't that one of the hook? How many of us have children, we don't teach them anything about Islam. We're sending them to schools because you're more worried about their A Levels and all

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levels. And we're very, we're not even worried about the Islamic Studies. Or perhaps we think hamdulillah ensure the way the javelin at least pray the Juma prayer. But the Huck is far more than that. You have to teach them. You have to teach them Arabic language, you have to teach them to us, you have to teach them that which will protect them from straight on, right. So if you haven't done it, you haven't fulfilled the heck upon you.

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And number four, the fourth thing that the father did not do was what the father did not get me married, when I needed to marry.

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Yeah, and that is what law is something that all of the parents today, unfortunately fall in. We get our children married, so late, PhD masters, and whatever else, but a lot they can get a PhD and masters Believe me, and I will encourage that. But as long as they don't have to fall in sin in the process, how many of our children are being forced to go through universities with their hormones raging and the parents don't care about it? Or actually say You know what? Now that's shame. And we look at our our children and say they think about getting marriage that's shameful.

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This is something you're doing wrong, you are going to be asked by Allah azza wa jal about this. So that is why when this son said, my father married a bad woman, so my mother is a very bad person. Number two, didn't give me a good name. Number three, never taught me Islam. Number four, never got me married when I wanted to get married, or needed to get married. That's when he agreed, saying that's right. So your father did not do any HAC, any of you who took upon you. And so I'm about your love and who understood why the son did not want to obey his father.

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On the other hand, look at the children and the parents. You will have towards your parents are so amazing. Let me give you one handy formula that demonstrates how much Huck your mom has over you and how much goodness to parents is the most amazing thing you could do. most amazing thing, I came across a hadith Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam I told this to my team members from mercy mission once I said I came across a hadith Rasulullah sallallahu, a double Muslim of Al Bukhari

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Bukhari al Bukhari generating an incident that happened to the Sahaba even a bass or the alarm that a man came to even a bass was even at bass was giving his class in Makkah, and even bass was a professor of the Quran, he would get the seat of the Quran. So even the bass was giving us class after that a man came to us and said he had been a bass. I've done a very tremendous thing. After the massive scene, what did you do? I killed somebody.

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Okay, I killed somebody imagine killing someone. How how tragical tremendous is that scene. So panela

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so he said I killed someone and I want to repent to

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Allah, how can I repent to Allah?

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So even a boss said,

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the first thing listen to what he said he kept quiet. Yeah. What do you think you would say? The first thing you would have bested in this authentic hadith in other bamboo for the fall Buhari in a bus looked at the sun and this man and said, also and so do you have a mother?

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He said, What do you have a mother?

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So the man said, No, I'm sorry. My mother has passed away many years ago. I don't know I don't have I don't have a mom or a dad anymore. They passed away. So when the bus looked down, he kept quiet. And then he said, Okay, I luckily had repaired to Allah azza wa jal go to the family of the pillar person that you've killed, do good to them. Give them the blood money and repent to Allah. May Allah forgive you. Okay, that's what I said. So the man went away. So when the man went away, the students or even a bus was very surprised.

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They were very surprised. And they looked at even a bus and said,

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Oh, nephew of officers, or even a bus, right? Or even a bus.

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Why did you ask that question? Do you have a mom? Why did you ask that question?

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I listen to the answer. Even the best. He said what la isla de la ilaha illa. Oh, by the one in whose hands is my soul.

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Right. And there is no god but He I cannot think of any good deed.

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Better after La ilaha illAllah than being good to your mom.

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So much so,

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so much so that he was willing to make it a means of exploiting the sin of killing somebody. Yes.

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When we are good to our parents, we look at it so lightly.

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We look at it like yeah, it's just you know, Mom, that's just Mom, you know, it is just mom. It's not just mom.

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She is the surest way to enter gender. The strongest power that you have the strongest link when you don't have your mom.

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You don't have that anymore.

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Remember my chef may Allah have mercy upon him. His father died of colon cancer. Rahim Allah He looked after his father. You know Subhanallah like any son, any good son was

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on the day that his father died, he picked up the phone and I called him I wasn't there and Medina. So I spoke to him saying sheriff, I hope you're not feeling too sad. And he was crying on the phone to me and he said, I came across a narration in February

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and was integration of the Israeli art okay with Israeli narrations. And it was reported that a man needs to look after his parent quite a lot. So Allah had a lot of mercy on him. And on the day that his parents passed away, Allah sent Angel down to that man.

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And the angel told the man say also and so Allah used to be good to you, because of your goodness to your parents. Now that your parents have passed away, seek another reason for Allah to be good to

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seek another reason to be a lot of good for a lot to be good to. Equity when we have a parents we have the strongest way to make Allah happy. All it is is a hug all it is is a case of phone call. Voila. It is so easy will lie. When I look at how easy it is to please my mom is just ridiculous.

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just ridiculous. A chocolate sometimes. You know in Australia used to be really expensive to make to call home. You know she used to be in Australia wanted to call her own mom was Mashallah still alive.

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All she wanted was a phone card. $5

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a medical doctor I can afford 50,000 Medical phone cards. simple, cheap, affordable. When I realized how easy it is to make my mom happy will lie every day one phone card.

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So easy to make my mom happy. How many of us have our parents alive online.

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And Gemini is just under their feet.

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It is just like one of the Sahaba one of the scholars Islam, but the name of Muhammad Moncada used to say, he used to put his mouth on the ground, and he used to tell his father and his mother, oh, my parents stepped on me, so that I may take gender

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equity.

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This sounds ridiculous, doesn't it? It sounds ridiculous. Because our parents are not like that. They don't need us to put and humble ourselves to that level. But But Allah This is the way our religion is.

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And it's about time that we took ourselves to account because we do so little and we expect so much for Allah

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We do so little and we expect a lot mercy to be so great.

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Whereas it's a habit, it's so much and they were so fearful or less.

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How

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do you know how fearful they were?

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Just one incident is enough online, authentic hadith or Rasulullah sallallahu Bukhari was reported a profit solar seldom was seen at the depths of the lights is that also the Profit System? So listen to this. The prophets SLM at the depths of the night, he was seem to be walking up and down, pacing up and down from his house, to Sahaba got up. Because they heard him pacing up and down, what's going on what's going on depth to the night, when it should be praying, right? You're the praying of sleeping at that time, walking up and down, walking up and down. So I'll be back when Omar got up, and they saw the prophecy walking up and down to Santa Monica, what's wrong with you? Why are you

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walking like, you're like, you're so worried. Listen to what the prophets have said. He said, Well, he after a short prayer, I went to my bed, I went to sleep there. And as my hands touch the side of the bed, I found a date,

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a date, you know, a date, date, and I ate it.

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And it went down in for my neck, into mice, my stomach. And then a thought came to my mind.

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Where is a thought? The thought that came to my mind was?

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Is that date that I ate? Was that a gift that was given to me? So that's permissible for me to eat? Or was that sadaqa Zakah that someone had given, brought to my home, my home and just hold on for me.

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So I can't go to sleep, being worried about it, that my flesh will be

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will be nourished by something Hello.

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This is self accounting.

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This is taking your soul to self account fear of Allah to the level that by law

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you cannot go to sleep at night because you're so worried.

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So the time is now to self recollect to come back to yourself as a SLR. What have you done in the UK of Allah?

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Masha, Allah have mercy pronunciation PT Abdullah, great scholar Medina. He used to sit in his chair, just like I'm sitting and used to give a lecture is 5000 people would would attend this lecture. And you know what he used to say? There's one verse he recited all the time. And the way he used to recite used to send shivers down my spine. I still remember that versus the following. He used to say your hasakah

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toughy Jamila was in control Amina serene.

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What is this verse? It's a verse where Allah subhanho wa Taala quotes, the people on the Day of Judgment, what they will say, and there is not a single person who will say this, no prophet, no angel, except that they will say this statement. What is this? Mr. Chef would say the way I'm saying Yeah.

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What does it mean? It means well to myself, whoa, to myself, it's like oh, no, you know, when you had complete distress and despair, do you know the expression that you make that is expression? Oh, no, what have I done? You know that expression? Everyone has his own way of saying it Allah says, a man will say Yeah.

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What did you say after it? Allah Fijian Villa? For what? I did not take into account of the hug of Allah upon me. Well, to me how I overlooked Allah sock upon me, was to me had I witnessed how great Allah is, and how much Huck and right he has upon me and how little I have done to witness that hack upon me.

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Allah Fie Jamila are in control Amina Zachary world to me how diluted and how much of a delusion I was.

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And this is what every single human being will do on that day.

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We don't need the angels to witness against us We don't need our skin and our boss who is against us, we don't need the earth to witness against us. We don't need human beings witness against us. We don't need our books to witness against us. We don't need anything else. to witness against us. We have also

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that will very easily witness against us.

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McConnell in sound while NFC basura welcome

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mankind has ever witnessed over himself, even if you were to give 1000 excuses.

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You know, it's because we don't take ourselves to account. That's why we don't repent enough. You know, it's because we don't take ourselves to account. That's why we're arrogant. Otherwise we'd be humble. If you took

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After count will be dependent two or more. If we took ourselves to account,

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we wouldn't think so low of a lower grade for Allah. If we took ourselves to account, we would truly know how far away We are from Allah subhanho wa Taala. And how great is Allah nevermind blessing upon us. If we took ourselves to account by Allah, Allah, we would have less to answer for the Day of Judgment, when we would have a lot more to be happy about on the Day of Judgment.

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And that is why the Sahaba used to say to themselves, has Hebrew and fusa, come to hasta boo.

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take account of yourself today, before that day, when you will have a show to take account of yourself. And on that day, you will not benefit.

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The equity taken from a medical doctor who deals with life and death every single day.

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Until telling you about law people at the time of death. I've got no time they're alive, but they might as well be dead.

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Because they're dying of some sort of breathing problem, or some sort of severe heart attack, or some sort of severe pain, when we will drag them out so much that they cannot even think about anything else. No time to sell stock for law, no time to say la ilaha illa. No time to take account of anything at all.

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The equity, take my word for it. My brothers, my sister in Islam, take my word for it. account yourself today before that last day we'll learn.

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So how do you account for yourself? Three ways. Two ways, actually.

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But the last one has three different things.

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You account and take x self account

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before the action and after the action. That's number one. Before the action before you do something, take a moment to take self account. What does that mean? It means executing at any given point in time, we have multiple obligations upon us. We have multiple responsibilities upon us. So take account of yourself. Is this the best thing that I can do right now?

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Is this what I should be doing? You know, it's like how they say you know how you said sometimes economics you do good deeds? How does sometimes I can make you do good deeds? Because by doing that good deed you actually overlooking a greater good deed? Right? Is that right? So it's time for tarawih? Prayer, for example. Shaytan says no, no, no, he should start to read the book. Go read that book. Sera, did you want to read seerah book? Or did you want to read the fantastic time to go and pick up the book, go and pick up McAfee time to read McAfee. That's how she can fool you. Because he knows a lesser D. If you can take away from a greater D the shutdown has achieved his

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goal correct. And so the first self accounting is even before the action itself.

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So look at everyone have everyone's hack upon you. Allah has Huck the prophets have the religions, happier brothers and sisters have your parents hope your children's will cook. Everyone's for cook everyone's right upon you. And think this next deed that I'm about to do is is the best thing that I could do. That's number one. Yeah, very important. So self accounting starts even before the deed itself.

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And then self accounting happens after the deed, after you've done something.

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What is this self county after the deed in three ways?

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Number one,

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what did I miss out in the deed?

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Subhanallah how little I just prayed to I really know about my Salah. What if I made something wrong?

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So I'll give you that as an example today. Today, we will pray.

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And one of the brothers was leading the Salah.

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And he made a mistake, which actually obligated why's Islamic why's that he should actually make two prostrations

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and the brother probably has been praying like that for some time you never knew. So if self accounting doesn't come in, perhaps such

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would not have actually thought about this. And YouTube, for example, everyone here

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and me as well. I'm sure if I was praying in front of my chef who would say this is wrong, that's wrong, whatever. But what if we did not actually take ourselves to account and say, You know what?

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Subhanallah I just did a deed. And I did not know whether actually it is correct or not.

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So the first most important thing after you've done a deed is

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Have I made anything wrong in my deed that I just did. So self accounting after that.

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And that is why the first thing that comes to your mind is a stickler for law.

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By the way, have you noticed? Have you noticed something really amazing?

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What did the Prophet salaallah Selim do after Salah after he finished a Solomonic

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So what did he say?

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Where is it? so far? Right? Everyone knows the right stuff from stuff for law stuff. Love returns, right? But what did he do? He inducing, he just prayed.

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He just prayed anything stuff for law, meaning he just did the best he could do and then it seems tougher. Imagine, therefore, when we are not even praying what we should be, how much should we be doing?

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Think about this. He just did the best deed anything stuck from?

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And what about every other time when we do when we are not praying? How much was the flesh would we be doing? So that's number one.

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Sephora Collection after a deed, this will force you into one way. Do you know what this will make you do? It'll make you want to gain knowledge to make sure you're right. Yeah, that's great. Sephora Collection will mean next time you have a chance to learn about one good deep, you learn properly. Across is happening about business and trade classes happening when marriage and divorce classes are happening about solar eclipses happening about the harder, you're not going to miss it. Because it's far too important. Because you want to make sure you're Salam. Am I right or not? You know, I still remember.

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I left my medical degree that I was about to complete. The first time we did my medicine. I went to Medina to study. Remember, I studied with my chef for three, four years. And then I say I told my chef, do you think it's worth it? I

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just asked him to stop like that, you know, instead of him asking me, I actually asked, Do you know what he said? I still remember. I said of course it is. Sal. hamdulillah now you know how to make a dough.

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hamdulillah you know how to pray?

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You know, at that point, I didn't even think about it.

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That Subhanallah how many times you make will do in your lifetime? And how many times do you pray in your lifetime? If the thing that you do the most in your life that you're making mistakes in? Wouldn't that be a great tragedy to come on the day of judgment? And let's say you know, you will do this battle. So you saw last battle? You Salas battle or invalid? Because you made that mistake?

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At that point, if you're gonna say, Well, I never knew what I'm not gonna say.

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I gave you 70 years to live in this dunya I gave you internet.

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I gave you scholars at the phone call. You have

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you know, you had laptops, you had smartphones? You have Islam QA, right? You've got books that can be downloaded from Kindle, you've got YouTube, where you could type in the ultimate will do. And you're saying after 17 years of all of this, you didn't gain knowledge you didn't know.

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You expect my mercy? With all due respect, think about it.

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Yeah, so if one is making a mistake now fine, we can forgive him because he doesn't know. But for 17 years, he doesn't know that's because he didn't care to know that's the problem.

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And that's why that's why I've been female. Allah says ignorance will never protect you from the Punisher Allah. Let me say it again. Ignorance will never protect you from the punishment of Allah. You know why you know we say that hamdulillah I'm ignorant

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there are some people say that

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to say that

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why aren't you why? It's because I'm the latter. You know, if I know too much then too many things will obligatory upon me.

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I said that uncle you can't give the excuse for your lifetime.

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You can say that about now. Okay, your ignorance and so you're forgiven. But you can't say about your lifetime. I didn't know alcohol was around. I didn't know Salah was obligatory. I didn't know how to make Hutch. I didn't know how to give zakat.

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Oh, I didn't know how to pay back my wife. I mean, he didn't know all this stuff.

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Do you notice what I'm saying ignorance will not protect you from the punishment of law. So the first benefit of taking yourself to account after a deed is done is that you will gain knowledge and hamdulillah What a great thing that would be. Because the prophets are seldom said in authentic hadith incidental media he said

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Allah subhanho wa Taala gives this dunya to those whom he loves, and those whom he doesn't love. But Allah subhanho wa Taala gives this Deen and the knowledge of this Deen only to those whom he loves.

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authentic hadith

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of Rasulullah sallallahu amazing. Isn't it? Amazing.

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If Allah is choosing you to give you knowledge of Islam, which is this talk, for example, it must be some good you have done must be some good you have done a poor beggar that you've helped an orphan that you've looked after someone door that you made, you made your mom happy or your parents happy. You said your Salah, nice, whatever it is, Allah like that. That's why I sent you here today. So you're getting knowledge. How many of us could be spending some other time you

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What a great way to spend this cafe which normally we spend talking frivolous talk and use this vain speech right? Talking about this and chit chatting of the cup of coffee and talking about how bad the coffee is or how great the weather is, or whatever it I'm sorry, how great the coffee is or bad.

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This Joker

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I hope they don't ban me from this cafe. So, no, but what a great way to spend this time isn't it? And look how Allah chose you to gain knowledge about this, Allah will only give Islamic knowledge to those whom he loves. And he'll give Deen and dunya he'll give vineya to whom he loves and whom he hates as well.

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So consider use as privileged, and thank Allah azza wa jal for this, that's the first thing you should do. Number two, the second thing you do after a deed is done first is take into account about the deed itself. Number two, is about the prohibitions of Allah subhanho wa Taala that you happen to encroach upon by doing the deed take yourself to account about that. And number three, as I said, think about all those other things that you missed because of that the that you did.

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So you just prayed Yeah, but you also missed out on Baker so go back to the car quickly. Yeah, not that you should have done the car but the whole point is that when you think about taking your soul to account you think about these things all the time number one What did I miss in that particular deed? Number two, what how long have I have undertaken because or what have I missed because of me doing that deed and number three

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what other good deeds have I missed? Because I was busy doing that particular thing? In the same thing to all my brothers and sisters who work with me and mercy mission same thing when you have done your day of work in that hour it mercy mission do the same thing number one

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What did I miss? What did I do wrong? Did I overlook my hijab today? Did I overlook my Salah did i was i did you also say the values that laptop or computer for personal use. And that's why I keep encouraging my brothers and sisters when you're using your laptop or your phone for Islamic dental work. But then you also end up using have a personal day. Make sure you keep a charity box or put some charity in there. Put some charity and you know I implemented this system at home for my kids every time they're not here put some money in the chatbox Have mercy mission every time they're not it's hurting me a lot so I'm making sure that they are not anymore.

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Because every time it's like where's that money? All we put in the charity box Why? Because they will not. So oh no now

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it's true. Once it starts pinching you then you start noticing Yeah. Number two, remember what things you did wrong What harm you overlooked and number three what other things you missed out because you were busy with mercy mission doubt work. reading an

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attachment prayer, calling your mom and dad Yeah. And do it straightaway inshallah and be in love with this Maha Sabha itself recollection insha Allah a time will come.

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When you will be in Allah, you will rectify all the relationships that you have upon you.

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Yeah, shall I end this talk inshallah by reminding of one Hadith Rasulullah Salah Hadith is very nice. And it tells us a summary of what we're talking about today. It tells us how we can enter Jannah in peace and harmony. Yeah, he feels amazing. It tells us how a Muslim can ensure that he can enter Jannah right with no one having any problems with him. I love not having any problems with him and no human being or gene on this dunya having any problem with him. Okay, that's what we want, isn't it? We want an easy route into general not a difficult one where we're being stopped this way we're being stuck that way one trial after trial after trial. We don't want that stuff. We want an

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easy route into general wake up on the Day of Judgment. Everyone's happy no one's got a problem. No one's coming to your neck and grabbing using You did this to me that that to me, straight entry into gender we want that. How can we do this? How can we do this? The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said then authentic hadith insulted me. He said and this is the Hadith which I think I've spoken about this before two brothers and sisters before especially mercy mission I would have done it in one of the talks perhaps Let me remind you this hadith again because I remind myself this hadith all the time. What does it say? The prophets Allah seldom said

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our lamassu Soumya and Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam Jolla, Dr. Medina, the very first thing that was heard from Rasulullah Selim whilst he was entering Medina, this is when he was coming from Hitler right and then

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Coming to Medina first lecture that he gave was you harness all mankind up or up to Salah masala milele were NASA neon, that the whole agenda to be Santa? What did he say all mankind meaning all Muslims and non Muslims everyone alike listen to this important advice that I have for you, because this advice will ensure that you enter general in peace and harmony without any difficulty from anyone. Number one, he said, up there are few people who will actually set up a spread the salon will suddenly be lelee we're not so near and pray at the depths of the night when people are asleep, that the whole agenda to be salami will enter agenda and peace and harmony.

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So this is a summary of what we spoke about today. Because feeding people food means you look over over, you look after the heart of those people that are the most destitute and poor, correct. They have a knock upon us, the orphans, the poor people, the underprivileged people, our families, our neighbors,

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our neighbors, all of those people that are in need of us look after the after salon spread the salon. And this is obviously to those people that we have good relationship with. And when the prophets have said spread the Salaam, he doesn't just mean the Salah, he means the smallest thing. And of course, therefore the greater things fall into it, right? If he's told us to do the smallest D that means the greater deeds also fall into it. So spreading the cylinders, to who, to our families, to our friends, to our children, to our parents. Correct. And by Salaam, it means to make love for them right? And to be good to them and to look after the heck upon us. And then Allah

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subhana wa tada sock upon us, the greatest relationship that we must maintain is Allah azza wa jal, the one who created us and sustain this looks at looks after us every day. And the greatest way to do so is to do a deed that is purely for Allah named me one day that you can do where anyone

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would never know. I mean, one day that you could do it, but no one would ever know.

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Perhaps fasting is one of those but even sometimes you have to unfortunately tell them because brothers are forcing you to eat.

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And sometimes you have to force them to know Well, I can't eat Why can't you eat?

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Eat? Sit? No, I can't even when I you know, when you're forced to sell fasting, right? That is one way that you can do, which even your wife will not know. And your family will not know and that is a lot at the depths of the night. Yeah, and that's one good deed you could do very easy to do scale up just easily. Just Just Just do it. Just do it.

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Next time, Shut up.

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Shut up, and just pick up the Mikado doesn't have to be eight. Okay, don't know what to do with it. If that's difficult that's stopping you in your head or have to do with that as well. Three rocker seven rocker five rock, chill strikers start with that. Okay. And then you'll slowly fall in love, then you add to fall. slowly fall in love with it slowly, slowly, slowly, slowly, just to lacquers yourself. That would be the difference in the heavens and the earth.

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And when you do that you rectify relationship with mankind you rectify the issue with Allah azza wa jal. Then you enter genuine peace and harmony.

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Thank you to all my brothers and sisters for attending and thank you to my brothers for reading this talk. I apologize for these technical errors. This is not my fault.

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And please enjoy the coffee.