Performance Psychiatry Seminar #3

Tarek Kareem Harris


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Hello, and welcome back. So today in our third session, we're answering some of your questions and emails. And it's day three. So we're talking about results. What does the finished product look like? And why does it work as well as it does. And it's all about breaking down the received wisdom and myths from an amateur coaching, outdated psychology, self promoting gurus and that kind of thing. That kind of baseless stuff, which may work to some extent, but doesn't really have the evidence or effect when it comes to dramatic changes. And that's where we come in. And we've launched this product newly, and we've only just come online with a website ourselves, because for

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10 years, we've not really needed to have any online presence. As such, our clients, they work at a sort of higher level, they don't look up their companies or help from LinkedIn or Google, I just get a phone call from a friend or a colleague asking if I could speak to someone and so we'd meet at the Science Park or have a phone call.

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So let's get to the results and the techniques, we wanted to make an online version of our one to one exclusive stuff for a greater number of people. And we wanted to retain the exclusivity in so much as we want to make it individually relevant. So we're not just making a watered down version, which isn't that effective. We found this really was already a part of what we did, because we use toolkits to try and define an individual's niche. And this is really important to the central part of our toolkit to enable the client to find their own niche by looking at their faults and strengths, and really taking an objective view on how any of their qualities could be useful because

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what you have naturally is more likely to grow naturally if you give it the right attention. And we'll give you some examples of how these things have worked. When we roamed the fields as tribes, we were only too keen to exploit our different tendencies as valuable to the tribe. Back then, if you were an insomniac, yes, you might have had a difficult life but you were valued because you're the one who the tribe assigned as the nightwatchman, you saved your tribe, because you couldn't sleep. If you're a dreamer, you are not vilified, because you were tinkering around and messing around, you are given the privilege of being allowed to mess around because people might have

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believed that you were somehow different. So you're left to mess around and make up things at the Tinker. The one who discovered that putting a stone at the tip of your spear was better than sharpening the wood you innovated?

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Are you getting it

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you have no room or place in criticizing how you haven't got far enough. It's not that you haven't tried enough. It's not that you have somehow been lazy or not succeeded in your own way. Because of some kind of failure of character is a testament to the fact that you knew something else is out there.

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It's up to you to decide if you want to feel more in touch with your individual abilities, and rectify those patterns that you've never quite got around to understanding. If you believe this is something you can investing, then go for it.

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We all live inside our own head before we live anywhere else. Everything you see, do you sense your praise your influence, you know, everything you believe is a result of your own internal cognitive architecture. For many years, we believe that this can't be tweaked or changed, that personality can't be changed, that habits cannot be deleted, that your personal best cannot be beaten by much or that you're too old to learn and so on.

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I hope my last hour with you has shown that this itself is a misperception and that you must now take steps if you choose to correct it. And it takes courage I'll give you that your own ego will find this difficult to entertain. There'll be resistance.

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That's why when I do work with people, I tend to sort of work it with several people at once in a group setting. Why? Well because the group has benefits. The group effect has a dramatically greater influence on the most focused psychosocial change. Things like exercising, quitting smoking, losing weight, all of these things. They exploit some deep seated tendencies and instincts which we have as human beings as a group rather than individually. There's things like altruism, mutual reinforcement, there is troublesome things like risky shift and cautious the shift and bystander effects. These things are group phenomena not good or bad on their own. They're often troublesome.

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They are the reason why people don't interfere when there's a mugging in broad daylight in front of them, despite what people say they do. But what I'm saying is, the forces that we have within us can be turned to our use. That's kind of why they're there in the first place.

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So another bonus of what we do is we run a private moderated exclusive Whatsapp group you we use technology. So when we've got a group together, the participants can communicate within with each other in between seminars, they can share notes, and so on, they can have private conversations offline. We also have a formal space online to share learning and discussed joint projects, which are all part of their assignments that we cover. And we use platforms like Slack to achieve that.

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I tend to hang around and review those things always. So people get the joint benefit of both and individual journey. It's about finding a way of being that is more consistently, high performing, more robust, more resilient to failure, and more exploitative, of everything that happens, successes and failure in a way that your own instincts have found very difficult to entertain before. Sometimes the best lessons are those you I'm sure, you'll agree that you kind of knew all along. But you didn't know if they really made sense. Or if they're true. A lot of people get this feeling when I give this talk.

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It really does depend on if you believe you want to be more than a driver in your life more than the passenger.

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Most decisions, remember are made by your mind, before you're fully aware of your decision. They're made almost without your permission, using methods and information that you have had no role in authorizing or refining.

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It really is plainly obvious when you think about it, improve what you attend, to be more careful about the information that you take in and how you process it. Learn about where you in particular thrive, then you yourself can start doing exceptional things more consistently

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in the program might make it easier for people to learn online. In fact, the seminars are not the only thing. There's videos as assignments, this quizzes, all of which are tracked as you go along. And I've also written a book, which gives you chapter and verse on how this all fits together. The group course is the missing ingredient. And I'm thankful, I'm thankful that you've come forward. And I'm surprised and nicely that there's so many of you here. And as you can tell I'm a professional, I'm not a salesperson I but I do have the kind of zeal that comes from being a professional, who realizes that people need to know something that will make their lives a lot easier.

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I got into medicine to help people. And I'm glad to say that I still do that I still get to help people. But nowadays, I help people to become exceptional in the way that they could be given the knowledge and the techniques that would bring out these abilities in the best light, and in situations where they are best used.

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I'm focused on well being on honor ability. And I truly believe that if people are more able to be their final cells, it carries a weight and an aura of nobility and refinement, that translates to their life and to the lives of people they meet with this thing will spread and beget itself. It's not a zero sum game. If you gain then the people around you will also gain.

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So this is how I summarize it. This is what we do. Learning your own strengths. Meeting similar and diverse colleagues whose abilities complement an echo Juran, whose journeys you get to enhance and share.

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Learning via different media offline at your own pace, videos, articles, assignments, things which are marked, to make better and more far reaching consistently good decisions all round, and change the direction of your life in a way that you have been wanting to do, but not quite had the confidence or clarity to know how or where

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if you gain mastery over durability, and you gain the ability to do justice to your free will in a way that is making the most of your assets. You get access to a tremendous sense of well being. But what do we need from you? We have to be a bit selective. And I've been lucky so far I've worked with very intelligent people who sort of by word of mouth. But what we do need from you is we need belief. We need you to be cynical about what you've learned before, to be willing to take it apart and go well. I'm going to re examine this maybe it isn't as gospel as I thought. We need commitment. We need commitment from you to find a deeper and more useful truth. Truth is more important than

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consequences. So you may need to dismantle some of the things that you thought were precious, the myths that you thought were important.

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You have to have the strength of ego to question your own assumptions. Yours and other people's assumptions for both your and their good.

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And you'll need some clarity of what you want this for. Like I said at the beginning. What do you want it to improve calm

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Don't do it all at once. It's better off focusing what you want to get out of this? Is it your personal wealth? Is it your relationships? Is it your performance in a specific domain? Is it your happiness? Is it enhancing your impact in the world, an idea what what you would do with this improved stability.

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What I need to tell you also is that you need persistence. Many of the techniques, they're very sophisticated, but they're not particularly complex. And they may not even seem very clever.

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But they require repetition. You might learn a belief and agree with it and be fully on board with it, but you will not act it it will not be on the tip of your tongue. And it won't be at the root of your decisions at all. Unless you somehow find a way to laboriously. And dutifully repeat your awareness of that it's about training your attention to incorporate something. If you're willing to do these things, then get in touch to work it out with me, there'll be a link, which I'll send out to, I guess, if we put this up online afterwards, there'll be a link underneath.

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And then you need to know if you can clear the time, right? There's six modules. But there's plenty of stuff to do in between both formal and informal, I would suggest a minimum is six hours per week. But ideally, we're talking actually, two hours a day for the techniques. So we're talking about 14 hours a week, I started this story explaining how one of my early patients in clinic who struggled with what he thought was a mental health problem, but actually turned out to be a miss appropriated misdirected skill, I can tell you hand on heart, it has repeated itself a lot. Since that time, it was a reminder that so many of us feel like we're not doing well enough, despite our best efforts.

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And that's not because of our own failures. But because we don't have the right information, or the right context.

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And most of the work I do these days is still voluntary working in remote communities delivering ordinary mental health work.

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Get in touch now or once you've reflected here, let me have your comments and thoughts and look at, we do have a deadline, we do limit the numbers. But that's not a problem. If you're late, we'll just put you in the next cycle. But that's just for your information. Thank you again for coming. Best of luck. And I really hope you find the happiness and success, you see.

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Okay, so we'll open up to questions now. And remember, we've got a very healthy discount for all of you webinar attendees, just for the next seven days. So if you do want to take up this offer, please go ahead. I think you'll get a link either below the video

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or through your email.

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And it's well part of our Launch Initiative just to get as many people going as possible. May you benefit immensely. And let us know if you have any questions and sign up, get going. Take those steps. I wish you every success