Roaming Ramdaan #30 My Wife – My Life
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The "lessons on the road" series discusses the emotional impact of their desire to travel together as a family, and their desire to have a strong connection with their brother. They share their experiences with roaming dashboards and feeling sadness and loss, and encourage viewers to learn from experiences and find their own way of thinking. They also emphasize the importance of not letting things happen in perfect situations and remembering to leave memories for future generations.AI Generated Transcript ©
My brothers, my sisters in Islam, welcome to
this really very special episode to my heart
because
my wife is with me
on the last episode of Roaming Ramadan
Lessons
on the Road. Final episode this season, InshaAllah
this year. But I don't think that roaming
Ramadan will cease to exist after
Ramadan. I'm thinking to rebrand it to lessons
on the road
where whenever I am, if there's something that
intrigued me
to open my video camera and record record
something that will benefit you InshaAllah, I'm going
to do that.
So watch out after Ramadan we will continue
the series but under the name of lessons
on the road InshaAllah.
But today I got my wife with me
because we have a lot to share.
And recently,
we've been
to Kuala Lumpur for an event that left
an impact on both of us. But we're
gonna talk about a variety of things inshallah.
How has Ramadan been for you this year?
Like, I know that we have seen a
lot of things up and down. Sad, happy.
How was it for you, miss Meera?
Miss Meera, first of all, I would like
to,
comment
or to say something about the
roaming Ramadan,
series which you have initiated
and,
what was the intention
behind it
before we proceed with the Okay. Next topic.
So now I wanna tell you something that
you maybe don't know about my wife. When
my wife commend anything I do, it means
it's awesome
because she's the greatest or the biggest critic
for me. She always
she always,
point
at things that I should improve at, and
and that's,
why sometimes, we need someone like her in
our lives.
She's there for me always to criticize what
I do. Okay. Anyways, so before I get
What's so good about my full gear. Okay.
What's so good about Don't worry, my love?
Yeah. So Romy Ramadan intention was to be
with our family and and create a memories
together as a family.
And, also, this is one of our,
big wish that to be able to travel,
together as a family in different country
And the countries that we really want to
be with our kids is the
Umra 1, the the the Hajj. I Why
are you so emotional?
I'm just,
like this. We didn't start here. Yes. I
know. But, anyway, this is the main intention
is for us to create a memories with
our family and our kids that has grown
up now. And, eventually, they will have their
own family.
So at least this will create an impact
on them and at and perhaps they will
also bring about this kind of experiences
in their children's to
come and to their generations and how it
can be done. That's right. So and I
would like to thank the people
who have invited us in
in UK,
especially Mufti Mink who has given us the
chance
to to to be together, to to travel.
So if he has not given us this
opportunity, we'll not be able to do that.
So I want to acknowledge those people who
have treated us.
Like their their own. I cannot imagine
what how else I can explain my strategy.
So let's now if we thank Wuhti Menck
for initiating
our visit, we should also thank, brother Yacine,
the head of Light Up All Light Light.
Yes. Who, immediately responded to the call of,
Mufti Menck and
and all the people of Imaan Channel, everyone
who made our life very, very easy during
our visit in And don't forget
also that the guy who have given us
this amazing
amazing
hotel in Mecca.
I cannot believe myself
being in that hotel.
And I was so happy and blessed
that, you know, I said that I will
give us this gift.
And
and we are so thankful
for
for that. Brother Abdul Aziz, we met in,
we met first in Hong Kong. He came
with Mufti Mink. He's a friend of Mufti
Mink, and he came to attend one of
our conferences in Hong Kong. And we met
him in the UK. He was volunteering
for, the Light Upon Light Conference,
and then he heard that I'm performing
Umrah with my family, and SubhanAllah, it was
just a casual conversation.
And by the way, we booked our accommodations
in Malina and Mecca already, like it was
booked, it was paid,
everything. He said, no. Cancel it. Such a
lovely brother. Say, no, Allah, you must cancel.
And he gave us one of the
best, biggest
hotel machines in Mecca. Where you can literally
see the cover. Yeah. And he said even
that he tried to do that for Madinah,
but all the bookings were fully
occupied. So JazakAllah Khayim and brother Abdul Aziz.
And may Allah reward you for that. I
mean,
wow. I didn't we didn't plan that she
gonna do that
acknowledgement. That video was about me asking about
my book. Yeah. Of course, we have to
acknowledge people who have,
behind the scene
for all this that has happened to us
with this roaming Ramadan because without them, there
will be no roaming Ramadan. Okay. One thing
just for those who are watching us sitting
like that, my wife appears on the camera
as taller than I am. That's because I
put her on
on a high stool. But if you have
seen us in real life,
Alright. So
jazakalohahem. And as a result of this, we
acknowledge now since we have started this video
with acknowledgment,
we have to acknowledge everyone who has made
our life
very easy whenever we travel.
Especially you don't come with me all the
time to events like these. But, even when
I travel alone,
all organizers, all people who look after us
during those journeys, we thank you so much
from the bottom of our hearts, and we
ask
to grant you goodness and to reward you
in a manner that is unimaginable, that you
can't even fathom. Ameen, Ameen.
Let's get to the real business now. Yes,
tell me. Okay. How was Ramadan so far?
We are recording this
on 9th
27th
Ramadan. And we ask Allah that if it
is
then may Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala forgive our
shortcoming,
accept our fasting, our PM, our Quran, our
Dua
and everyone who's watching. And beyond that, our
Ummah, the Ummah of Muhammad and may Allah
grant us all forgiveness
and write our names tonight and all the
nights of Ramadan as people who
are completely spared from the torment of hellfire.
I mean, I mean Tell me, how was
Ramadan for you? So so you want to
go on Ramadan already, or we're still in
the Ramadan roaming experience?
So first of all, you you you commended
Roaming Ramadan. I thought you were commending Roaming
Ramadan for the person who speak and produce
Roaming Ramadan videos. And I was hoping, like,
you say, oh, roaming Ramadan is a beautiful
program.
The speaker is awesome. You know? But you
didn't start talking. What's your name? You didn't
need to you didn't need to hear that
from me. You know that from the bottom
of my heart. I know your best. That's
that's for me. And I know. That's the
lie part which the prophet
allow is to praise your spouse even if
it's not so accurate.
Yes.
I know that, a lot of people have
benefited from you and which I'm so happy
to to that you'd be a part of
the So do you still wanna talk about
roaming Ramadan?
Or do you wanna shift to your personal
experience
and maybe deduce some lessons? We have for
this It doesn't matter. We will edit as
we can. Okay. So now we can talk
about, the Ramadan. Personal experience in this Ramadan.
First of all, you have taught me this
Ramadan a very, very important lesson, and I
wanna share this. It may it might bring
emotions of different types.
Yeah. So let me, But can I can
I just appreciate that? Because if you if
you tell that, maybe that's the one that
I will talk about. Okay. Okay. So this
Maybe you can do that at the end.
Okay. Go ahead. Yes. So this, Ramadan
this particularly, this Ramadan is a very, very,
how to say, mix of feelings and emotions
for me. Okay.
Why is that? First of all, we say
that roaming Ramadan is like it's a memory
that you have impacted with your family, and
and and that family is us,
you know. But I also have a family
like a brother and a mother
and a father.
So
It's okay.
This Ramadan
have my brother have passed
away. In Ramadan.
In
Ramadan.
Yes.
I mean, I didn't expect because he was
not sick.
He is not bedridden.
So,
I will not
I will not think of it that he
will just
pass like that. It was sudden. It was
sudden. It was sudden. He was on vacation
with his wife and kid. Yes. And it
just happened that he lost his breath. He
couldn't breathe. Couldn't breathe. By the time they
sent him to clinic and then to a
hospital,
it was over, and, alhamdulillah, he passed away
in Ramadan, which was a good sign, alhamdulillah,
and the community there in Palawan Island
have gathered and buried him alhamdulillah in the
same island. Yeah. And I want to thank
also those people. Brother Zubayd, imam Zubayd, and
all the people. Who have,
Support us. Supported and Brother Kamal. Although we
didn't know them, but they were there. They
they it shows us. It shows me that
I can rely on a Muslim wherever I
go and wherever I am. And even if
I and even if I die in a
in a strange land,
they will bury
me without hesitation,
without
you know, sometimes people help you for a
reason, but these people have no reason but
to please Allah
and to give the rights
of one Muslim to another. So that really,
I'm so touched and I'm so blessed
being a Muslim. Alhamdulillah. Yeah. My wife was
not born a Muslim for those who don't
know. She was a Catholic, and she embraced
Islam in the year 2,005.
And, this is how Islam
can impact people by talking like the way
you just heard a while ago. I want
to just say one thing about this incident.
I was in I was out of
town. I was not in Perth where we
reside when we heard the news of the
passing of my brother-in-law.
And I was in the middle of a
series of events around Australia.
It was fundraising events for Palestine.
And when I heard this, I made my
mind that I must go back and cut
the journey short.
Even the organizers
were in support of that. They actually
wanted to book me my flight immediately and
send me home. But, this lady stopped me,
and she told me, no. What you're actually
doing right now is greater
than the time that you will spend with
me when you come. Yes. I'm sad. Yes.
I'm angry and so on. But, actually, you
are doing something greater. You are raising funds
for the people of Palestine. And she insisted
that I should not come back immediately and
I should wait until I fulfill my commitment
with the organizers.
She told me that sometimes
the dua takes
over our personal
interest,
that conveying the message of Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala and helping those who are already alive
in this dunya, who are in desperate need
of help takes
over, takes the priority
of personal interest. So
for this, and may Allah
and he seize this opportunity to ask everyone
who's watching to make dua for my brother-in-law.
His name is Bong
Abdul Aziz or Mujahid.
That's the Muslim name. That may Allah forgive
his sins, pardon his shortcomings, and admit him
to the highest level of Jannah. I mean,
he and my mother-in-law, her mother who passed
away,
also after embracing Islam
some years, 2 years, 3 years ago.
Yeah. I think Alhamdulillah, my mother-in-law was the
hardest to convince to become a Muslim. She
was very stubborn even when she took Shahada
but Alhamdulillah
Allah guided her to take Shahada and I
think a year later also she passed away
as a Muslim. Alhamdulillah, both of them were
buried as Muslims.
So, Ramadan was full of mixed emotion, you
said. One of them is the passing of
your brother. Yeah. What else you wanna share?
This passing of my brother taught me
a lot of things.
One is, you know, I love my brother
very much. He's my only brother. I have
only one sibling. And
and
and And you grow up together. We grow
up together. I feel like I have lost
a child because he was like a child
to me.
So You looked after him. He he always
rely on me and everything.
So I felt like, you know,
I feel
sad.
At the same time, I'm also happy
knowing that
that he is now in good hands with
Allah,
and he will have a better life there,
a better a better
I mean, this world was not so kind
to him as much as kind to me.
And I had more privilege than him. In
terms of the material you need. In sense
of
there are many things that I've seen in
his life
and in my life, which is totally different.
So
this taught me also how to be
appreciative
of of the every moment that you have
with your family
because you never know when when they A
year ago. Yeah. When they and take this
opportunity
every moment, every single day, and don't let
the hatred or angry Or grudges. Grudges
live in your heart and
and just set up and Make things connect
from your families. Yeah. Make things
easy for everyone. So can can we ask
the the viewers now that those who quarrel
with each other, those who have problems with
family members, friends to pick up their phones
and send them
messages of greeting. I eat Mubarak is coming.
I eat in advance. I eat Mubarak in
advance and so on. And do not let
anything that happened
stop you from doing that. Do it first
and then think about the consequences later. And,
of course, from one person to another, the
the problems varies. But, wallahi, it's not worth
it to guide. You take the f if
you take that,
initiative,
there is nothing for you to lose. It's
only blessings from Allah. And the prophet said,
well, and the best of you is the
one who initiate reconciliation.
The best of you is the one who
will take the initiative to reconnect with his
brother, with his sister, or with your relatives,
of course.
Yeah.
Anything else related to
the one that you wanted to So,
I think my my brother passed away on
March 20.
Yes. And, we flew in Malaysia
in
28.
28 of So a week later only a
week.
A week later, I had an event with
the
The duck. Thank you, duck.
With the duck group, sister Viri Yousof, her,
beloved brother,
Fadza, and the entire family, they invited us
for me to conduct a what they call
staycation, a term that I heard about only
when,
this invitation happened. And my wife in her
state, I was afraid that she might not
be able to make it to Malaysia. But,
Alhamdulillah,
she was convinced to come, and we flew
to Malaysia. What what was the experience about
this event? I was in 2 mind going
to Malaysia because I'm still grieving because it's
only 8 days.
It's only 8 days and it's so fresh.
So I'm I'm thinking that, oh, maybe I
will not be in good mood. Maybe I
will not be able to to
to accommodate people because of this sadness that
I'm having. Bad moods. Yeah. So they might
feel offended that I'm not, but actually, they
don't know what's going on through me. So
that's what my fear. And and and also,
I thought that I need some space
for a while to to do that To
heal. Yeah. To heal. But then, on the
other hand, I said, okay. This this one
is for good cause.
And and this might take me away from
from thinking
rather than be alone, be together with the
people who worship Allah Together. Yeah. Together. And
this staycations
have And that was the main intention is
to bring people together of different backgrounds,
not at the same level maybe of iman.
Some people are still
trying to find their way to Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala. Some people are connected to Allah.
So bring all the people together in such
a decent
cozy place like a hotel. We don't want
to mention the names of the hotel, but
we we stayed in a very nice hotel
where
everything happened there. We we break our fast
together. We pray together.
The Hajjot Qiyamullah al Quran. Talk to us
about Yes. The the connection that we build
together. So what what I have experienced is
also this is another thing that when I
that take out for me from from from
being sad,
it's the family of
of the one who invited us. That's the
beauty. Makes us feel so at home. Mhmm.
And I I was That was so touching.
Yeah. That was so touching. I I felt
I
in that moment,
while I'm staying in Malaysia,
I never think of my brother
that he passed. Let me rephrase that. But
It mean it means the incident
the incident of her brother. Of course, she
always remembered him, but, what she meant is
that
the impact of the death of her brother
was not
showing on on her behavior throughout the the
the vacation. Like, you you actually very normal.
You composed,
yeah. I felt I I felt I felt
that strong connections that that even though I
have lost someone, but I have regained
more people and I have regained
some good friend.
And I feel their
their sincerity,
and I felt that kind of bonding.
So as if Allah was sending you people
to just tap your shoulders. And what touches
me is that
when I was in the plane, I was
contemplating what happened
in Malaysia. And I was crying in the
plane
because I I didn't see that. There was
there was an incident happened in in in
our sponsor's house that really moved me a
lot
and makes me think a lot.
What is it? What was it?
The malware of of of one of the
The mother of the mother of the father
of father. Yeah. The mother of Oh, the
organizer. One of the Yeah. The mother of,
brother father
have
as soon as he I come,
he was she was so welcoming. I feel
like I'm her daughter.
No. But that's not what she did. Yeah.
I know. But but she was so welcoming
and what she did was she call me.
Can I tell you what that she got?
Call me. Yeah. I was saying. I'm going
to say that. She call me and and
tell me,
come. Come. Come. I'll fix your hijab.
And then I follow her in the room
and she she
she start fixing my hijab and everything that
I look,
better, the the better way of doing the
the hijab. So my my wife my wife
is not an expert in doing things
in in in that perfect manner when it
comes to her own appearance. She she's a
very humble and simple woman. So she take
the scarf and just put it
whatever way so long as she's covered properly.
That's that's her style. No matter how much
time we tell her, hey, do it this
do it this way, She don't really bother
much about these, looks and so on. But
that mother took her and fixed her hijab.
What did you feel at that time?
At that time, I feel
so nice.
Somebody's taking care of me.
Some, you know, when I was in the
payroll You missed that bond with him. Yeah.
I was thinking that at that moment, I
felt that
this is what I need. I need someone.
I've been strong all my life,
and I feel like I've been the one
taking care of taking care of people that
I forget that I that I myself also
need someone
To look after you. To look after me.
And that Have you seen this one before?
That particular moment that somebody is fixing my
hijab and it's a mother,
it reminds me of Your own mom. My
own mom
whom I miss a lot, but but I
cannot,
express or I cannot tell someone that, you
know, to to have that kind of attention
that a mother is give. So when she
give me that kind of attention,
it moves me, and it makes me realize
that I'm not alone. And I also need
someone who can who can, Fix your hijab.
Fix my yes.
Can share my emotions and can share my
this little things really moves me. Of course,
I know my husband is with me also.
This is God. This guy
and my children. Alhamdulillah. But sometimes she need
an elder because we don't have an elder
here in Yeah. We don't have family members
of our own. So if you if you're
out there in Perth and you're you're a
family type of people, please get in touch
with us. We'd love to fix our hijab.
Now, Jazak Mawke, the, the one thing that
I wanted to ask because we want to
wrap the video.
The video is going long now. Yes. But,
you have experienced something some times ago
and we rushed to the hospital. Your high
blood was up in the sky,
and we discover something
that made me realize
that
I may lose you. That that was the
feeling that I came back. You were left
in the hospital,
tests after scanning and so on and so
forth. And then I came back home. That
night was the worst night in my life
because I was praying with the kids, Fajr,
you're not at home. And Shaitan started throwing
these thoughts, negative thoughts in my mind. And
I couldn't sleep the whole night until I
visited you in the morning in the hospital
because that sense of losing you or not
being able to be with you made me
realize your importance.
As a result, I love you.
Yeah. Yeah. That's the problem. So all in
all is that important?
No. No. No. The the the realization usually
happen when you are struck with calamity, with
with tragedy like this. Yeah. So But we
don't need to wait for that. Yes. That's
the lesson. That's the lesson that we we
should admire and value each other
before it's too late. But but this incident
in particular was a wake up call for
me that, oh, it might happen one day
that I'll come home and that's about it.
That's the norm. And I could not imagine
my life
without you being around. And so I wrote
a book called My Wife, My Life.
And that book, Alhamdulillah, was one of the
fastest books because the ideas and the notes
were with me a long time ago. She
said I don't admire, but actually I've been
writing about this for a long time, but
I did not
think of putting it into a book and
sharing it with the public because I know
people back in their minds like, who is
this guy who's writing about his wife? You
know,
it's not normal. It's not common. But I
decided to put it out there because of
the feeling that I went through that night.
But one day I came back home after
the book, hamdulillah, was printed and, alhamdulillah, I
received very good feedback. I came one day,
I saw you reading the book on the
dining table,
but I saw you also crying
so much.
And, you shared with me a few nice
words about why were you crying when you
were reading that book. Oh, well, it's just
bringing memories
of because
those book, those
written in the books was like like,
memories to me. Like,
What we went through? Like a flashback,
memories to me, what we have gone through
and where we are now. Uh-huh. And,
just I I appreciate
all those,
memories,
that we have shared together through through Dick
and Tim
that we've been through.
And,
I'm so grateful that
I'm gonna
that we are still together. 20
20 plus years. I don't want to say
the exact number because I always make mistakes,
but 20 plus years. Alhamdulillah. Say Masha'Allah.
Tabarakallah.
Final words to end Ramadan
with the audience. Ramay Ramadan has been one
of my favorite
videos that I created because it's
spontaneous because it has no much preparation to
it. It was just whatever comes in your
mind and you feel like you wanna relate
it to Islam so that you can teach
a point or 2. It was just very
quick
passing videos.
It's one of my favorite.
Before we end this video, before we end
this program, before we end Ramadan,
what message would you like to send to
the audience out there, those who are watching
us? Any message? First,
to everyone. May
Allah grant you goodness in this dunya. And
the next day, may Allah accept your fasting
and your Ramadan and your Ibadah and everything
and admit you to the highest level of
Jannah.
Well, to wrap up with this, roaming Ramadan
thing,
I think,
what I can think of is,
to all your loved ones who is still
alive right
now, take the time and moment to be
with them as much as you can and
and bring
those memories with you. And with them,
I mean, if you leave leave this world
to, you know.
So that's what I So so leave memories
before planning on leaving treasures and and money
that your your loved ones will fight over.
So instead
of focusing your attention on just building
empire of wealth and so on, you think
of always how to leave behind a memory
that will impact your children positively until they
follow you later Yeah. To the head of
And and until also they they can
also learn from those,
experiences
and and and pass it on to the
next generation.
And, also,
in the Ramadan,
you know, when we pray together,
learning more things about Islam together,
I think this is very important. These are
the memories.
The the band. Yes. And these are the
memories actually that we're referring to is that
Yes. Memories not necessarily going to the zoo
and having fun all the time, which is
so. Which is okay. Yes. Which is halal.
But what we are trying to emphasize here
are the Islamic
memories.
Balance. Yes. Because we also appreciate the the
beauty of what Allah has created. All these
natures that we have is also created by
animals,
the plants, my dream
is this is how we talk over each
other
The dream is that when I when I
die, the dream is that I want my
son, my daughter,
and all the children. This
is the vision that I have for all
the parents is that they will say, oh
my father used to immediately respond to the
adhan.
My father used to immediately do the sunnah
or tell us to read this or to
tell us to watch this. These are the
memories that we should make as priority. The
rest is fine. The rest is secondary. The
outing, the vacations You also can see the
world together Yes. And also have the,
they will also
there's a lot of a lot of things
to learn
outside
other people's
culture,
environment,
way of living, way of life, way of
thinking.
There there are many things to learn outside.
So you go outside the box and travel
the world and learn.
Save money.
Travel in the world. They require money.
That cost a lot.
Allah
bless you all. It was
lovely, lovely, lovely month of Ramadan. May Allah
accept from all of us. And may Allah
make these videos beneficial to 1 and all
those who watch it. And please, if you
enjoyed the discussion, share it with those who
maybe didn't see it or didn't hear about
it. But for now, we're gonna leave you
InshaAllah Ta'ala to enjoy perhaps your final night
of Ramadan. And we'll see If I made
you cry?
Never my wife's fault.
Never my wife's fault.