Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 04 – L054C

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Taimiyyah Zubair

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An-Nisa 1-6 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 2-3

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Rosa Billahi min ash shaytani r rajim Bismillah Ar Rahman Rahim

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is number two. So within this app

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what actually Adama I'm while at home and give to the orphans, their properties one at a time, but the little hobbies, hobbies play and do not substitute the defective of your own for the good of theirs. While at Hulu and while at home, Eli unworldly, come in who can a human can be raw, and do not consume their properties into your own? Indeed, that is ever a great thing. As I mentioned to you earlier, that this solar has many comments pertaining to social life, and many of the people who are weak, such as women and orphans, who were oppressed in the society, they were given their rights. So, first of all, the Adana are spoken off,

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that they get Emma, the orphans, you should give their property to them.

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To all of you give meaning give them who is this addressed to the earlier the guardians, the guardians of who? The orphans. So for instance, Amanda is leaving behind young children, and there's a person who becomes their guardian to look after them.

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So the guardians over here are being addressed, that you should give the property of the orphan to them,

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for instance, and orphans living under their care, the orphan doesn't know I own a big house, he has no idea. So the Guardian can easily hide it from him. So what is the command that all guardians give the properties of the orphans to them,

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we can also say that this address is not just to the guardians, but also to the LCS. Remember, we learned earlier that at the time of we'll see, though, we'll see is made and it's given to who the executor of the will, the person who is made responsible for executing the will, the estate, he is supposed to distribute it. So for instance, a man dies, and his brother, or his lawyer becomes the executor of the will. Now what do they say, this orphan child, he's only a few months old, he's only a few years old, he doesn't have any idea, he doesn't have any clue, I can take some of this property, I can keep it with myself, I'll just change the name, you won't have any idea.

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So over here, both are being addressed the guardians as well as the executors of the will, that you must give a to is a command you must give and you must not keep any of it for yourself. You must not hide it, you must not use it, meaning consume it fully. nor should you destroy it in any way. But rather give it as it is, and completely. Give it as it is. and completely all of it keeping nothing of it for yourself. Who should you give it to? Alia Turner?

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He uttama is a total of your team, as you know, and it's from the route veterans yet that mean?

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From the word youth? And what does youth mean? In feraud? To be alone,

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and from this the word your team is used for the under age one who has no father, the under age one who has no father

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will matter a boo boo hoo hoo. So he is the one whose father has passed away while he's still young. He or she is still a child, meaning has not yet reached the age of puberty. So give to the orphans which are orphans, those orphans who are under your care, what should you give them? And why to whom their property? When should you give it to them?

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We know that their property should be given to them when they become mature in age. And your team as you know is used for who a child who is underage.

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So why is this word being used that atulya Tama Amala home?

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Because the word team does not apply to a child who was previously a theme and he grows older. So at the age of seven, okay, fine. He was 18 at the age of 12. If he or she became violet, then the term the theme does not apply to them anymore. So does this mean that you give them their wealth when they're still very young?

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Does it mean that that atulya Tama know, what it means is that give them their wealth when they reach puberty, or when they are able to manage their wealth when they're able to take care of it.

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So actually uttama Amala home, because it's their wealth, it belongs to them, they own it, they have inherited it, but it's under your care.

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And remember that when the property of the orphan is under the care of a relative or a guardian or whoever

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The Guardian is responsible for taking care of it and maintaining it, looking after it so that it does not get spoiled.

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And at the same time, if the cat applies on that property, he is also supposed to give Zakat on it on behalf of the orphan.

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So, for instance, the orphan child has inherited a lot of gold, a lot of silver, a lot of animals, than the Guardian is also supposed to pay the cats on it.

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So over here, the command is that give them their wealth, meaning when they reach puberty, when they meet the conditions,

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one or the other, but they do and do not exchange, other hobbies, the impure, built by you with the pure, do not exchange the impure with the pure,

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that about the newest from the bottom from the ruthless fatherland which means to change to take an exchange, meaning you give something and take another in its place, the deal is to alter. So, let it have a duty. What does it mean by this?

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First of all, this means that do not substitute the hobbies for the target, which hobbies which impure or which defective well, because remember, Hobbes gives the meaning of impure as well as defective, and five gives the meaning of Hillel and also good. So, do not substitute the impure or the defective for the pure or the good. Meaning, if you own something that is defective, do not exchange it with the pure or the good property of the orphan. So for example, there is an orphan who inherits a car from his father, and the orphan is still very young, he can obviously not drive the car himself. What does the person do the Guardian, he says, You know, I have a car as well, but mine

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is an older model, or it's not as good anymore. There's too many miles on it. What does he do? He says it's the same car, just it's not as good as the orphans car. So what does he do? He puts His car in the name of the orphan, and he takes the orphans car for himself. So the hobbyists have his own property, what is he doing? He is exchanging it with the, with the good of the property of the orphan.

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Because the orphan, how is he going to defend himself? How is he going to know.

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And many times remember, that when an orphan is being taken care of, in a household, his property is mixed with the property of the guardians, because you're living in the same house. And we learned earlier, and sort of Bukhara that there is no harm if you mix as long as the intention is good.

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Because if food that has been prepared for them separately in your food that is prepared for you separately, then life would be very difficult, it would be very difficult to manage your own affairs on their own affairs, you can't do that.

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So let it have no hobbies at a time. When the things are intermingled or when they're together, then don't exchange your defective with their good property.

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Secondly, it has been said that letter botelho kabisa defy What this means is that do not take their wealth, which is hobbies, for you, do not take their wealth, which is hobbies for you. And what does it mean by hobbies, then? How long for you, because you're not its owner, you don't have any right to take it. So don't take that wealth, because it is hobbies for you, it is how long for you, in place of the five year wealth that you could gain for yourself through halaal earnings.

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You could gain the same money, the same wealth, the same property, but how through play it means and it will be completely handled for you. But if you're taking the property of the orphan, then that is hobbies that is impure. That is how long for you. Let other hobbies have it for you.

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Because if you think about it, every person his risk is destined, every person that is destined, you can't get a penny more than what is written for you and you can't get a penny less than what is destined for you. So if Allah has already destined for you, then why should you try to get wealth through how long means? Why should you take it as hobbies?

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Allah has written for you for you. So why should you exchange that play with hobbies? Why should you exchange that Hillel, wait, hold on, let that about the little hobbies a bit a

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while after kulu Amala home and do not consume their wealth, that guru from UCLA and what does it mean to eat and when it's used for wealth and what does it mean to fully consume well,

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because once something is eaten, it cannot be given back. So similarly, that

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Aluminum do not fully consume, and while on their wealth, either and while you can do your work, what does it mean by this letter, kulu Amala home ILA. And while

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it has been understood as first of all Ma, meaning along with that do not eat their wealth do not consume their wealth along with consuming your own wealth.

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So you have their car parked in your garage, and you have your car parked in your garage. So do not use their car along with your car.

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That sometimes you say that is a newer model, it's much nicer and we just use it doesn't smell as bad, I'll keep the dirty one for the kids. I'll keep the nice one for myself. No

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letter could unwell at home either and while it could meaning to not consume their wealth along with your work,

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secondly, it has been understood as by adding it. Meaning do not consume their wealth, how? By adding it to by joining it to your wealth.

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Because if you mix everything together, what's going to happen it won't be clear as to what belongs to

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so let's ACU and welcome in and welcome. don't join the wealth don't mix the wealth in such a way that it cannot be distinguished. Don't mix the affairs in such a way.

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And sometimes, unfortunately, we do this out of frankness. It doesn't matter what is mine is yours and what is yours is mine. But when you become possessive about your things, then then what happens? All of your niceness and your affection and your frankness goes out the window. So don't mix things in such a way that it's completely undistinguished as to what belongs to who let the Kuru Amala hone in and welcome

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INVOKANA hruban Kabira indeed it is, again you see Canada, it is me, this is ever in the sight of Allah huben could be a sin that is could be

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could be the opposite of Saudi. And as we know that sins are of two types. So the and COVID. So this is a sin that is major, what is a major sin, consuming their wealth, taking their wealth unlawfully. This is a major sin can meaning in the law in the sight of Allah, this is a major sin.

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The word hope isn't newsletters however, and filbur is used for parents, siblings, children, is used for close relatives of a person. It is said in nearly holberton I have children and family help with a fatahna. Her hope is when children disobey their parents, or help is also used for the neglect of parents in doing therapy of their children.

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So when parents neglect taking care of the children, showing love to the children, or when children disrespect their parents disobey them, what is that? How. So basically, it is when people don't give each other their rights

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and which people, relatives, family members.

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So from this, it has been said that who is used for those sins that are pertaining to family life issues that are towards relatives. And it is also said that who is a saint that is against relatives that is in family life issues, but it's perpetrated me the one who commits that sin is worthy of being scolded, is worthy of being shouted at. He's worthy of being punished slightly.

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So no kind of Robin can be wrong, this is a hook, this is a sin, that is major, it is not a small sin. This is not something very minor. In fact, it is something very major.

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So what do we learn from this ayah?

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First of all, we see the permissibility of being a guardian of an orphan and his property. This is something that is permissible. Today, people adopt but you can also be the guardian. So it is permissible to be the guardian of an orphan as well as this property.

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Before Islam, the Arab society imposed a lot of injustice upon the orphans. And what was that injustice?

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That if an orphan his father passed away, or her father passed away, what would the male relatives do or the male uncles do?

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They would take the share of the orphan.

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Obviously, nothing would be given to the women. So if a man dies, leaving behind a wife and children, the wife would not get anything at all. And the sons, if they were minor, they wouldn't get anything either. And who will take everything? The brothers of that man, the uncles, they will take them.

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And if by chance an orphan did get something, what would happen? their relatives, they would take it from them by force, or they would take it unlawfully.

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In these ways that they would not return the property of the orphans to them, or they would mix it along with their property, but they would consume it along with their property.

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So over here we see that our Deen protects the rights of the orphans. It protects the wealth of the orphans.

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The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, joining his two fingers, that I and the supporter of the orphan are together in paradise like these two fingers. I and the supporter of the orphan mean the one who looks after the orphan and supports the orphan, speaks up for the orphan will be together in fairness like this.

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Secondly, we see that Allah subhanaw taala has special mercy toward the weak toward those members of the society who are weak, who cannot speak for themselves, who do not know about their own affairs even they have no idea about their matters about their affairs. And if they do know they cannot speak for themselves, they cannot defend themselves. Look at the mercy of Allah, Allah speaks for them.

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Allah subhanaw taala commands the guardians and executors of the will to give the orphans their left to give the orphans their left

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also we see in this ayah about the obligation of preserving the wealth of the orphan

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because it has been said atulya Tama Amato give the orphans there well,

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how can you give it to the orphan,

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when you have preserved it, when you have looked after it, when you have taken care of it, when you have maintained it, when you have not hidden any of it, when you have not destroyed any of it when you have not consumed any of it. So what does it show the obligation of preserving the wealth of the orphan.

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And it also shows the obligation on the Muslim society, on the Muslim community to look after the orphan and his property,

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that you can't just leave the orphan in this property on their own, somebody has to go and take care of them.

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Also, he learned that once the orphan grows up, and once the orphan is able to manage his affairs himself, then his property must be returned to him, it must be returned to him, it must be handed over to him as it is and fully completely without hiding any of it.

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Also, we learn from this idea that what a person earns through Hillel is by you, and what a person earns through how long his hobbies.

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So if a person wishes to get from that wealth, will that be accepted if it's hobbies? No, because alone, he accepts that which is fine, you

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also learn from this idea about the prohibition of taking someone else's sleeping, taking someone else's property in place of your own hobbies.

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Like for example, sometimes people walk out of the masjid, and they see, you know, the shoe rack, there's so many shoes over there, as you're somebody else's shoes are exactly like mine, but they're newer, nicer, cleaner, or they will leave their own shoes, and they will take somebody else's shoes.

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First of all, this is theft. And what's the idea behind it? That I will leave my dirty thing, my old thing, and I will take somebody else's clean and nice thing. This thinking is wrong. Why do you prefer for someone else? What you don't like for yourself? Why do you like for someone else what you don't like for yourself.

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You cannot believe until unless you like for your brother, which you like for yourself.

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Also, we learn from this is about the prohibition of mixing and joining another person's wealth with one's own wealth, the prohibition of mixing somebody else's wealth with your own wealth.

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For instance, you and your friend are shopping together. And both of you are using cash. And what happens that she has a lot of bags in her hand. So you say okay, when she gives him money, I'll take the money and I'll give it to you. And you mix it with your own money. Why so that you can say maybe this is not yours, and maybe this is mine, or maybe you can keep some of her money and pretend that it's yours. What's the intention behind mixing the wealth together mixing the money together. So that a person can take somebody else's Well,

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with this near mixing is prohibited, it is completely how

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it is the Nia is to take something that does not belong to you. If I mix it, I will get this benefit. If I mix it, I can take some of their wealth, I can take some of their money, I can take some of their food. If that's the intention that is wrong.

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Because if they're not willingly giving it to you, you don't have any right over. But if the intention is, let's say for the purpose of business that you have to mix the money together or for the purpose of

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hits for the purpose of protection and care of let's say, the orphans property, and then you mix their wealth with your wealth, while keeping everything clear, then that is permissible.

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We learned in sort of Dakota i 220, West aluna, Cornelia tamma call is left in the home, Hi, we're into Hollywood home for a while. And they asked you about the orphans say that improvement for them is best. And if you mix your affairs with theirs, then they're your brothers. And Allah knows about the Muslims, and I'm upset, who mixes the wealth with what intention Allah knows.

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Also, we learned from this, about the importance of

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the importance of topology. Because if your money if your wealth if your property is mixed with the money of someone else, with the property of someone else, what is it that's going to make you fair and just what it's the fear of Allah. For instance, if an orphan is living with you and their money, you're looking after it. Now, as we learned earlier, that it's not possible that you're going to cook your own meal separately and their meal separately. So you cook one meal. Now one is that when you're eating that food, you keep all the nice pieces of meat for yourself and your children, and the leftovers, or the not so good piece of meat, you give them to the orphan child, what is needed

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here DACA the fear of a loss that will make a person be fair, and just at the beginning, as we learned the importance of the core? Why is it important to be able to follow the commands of a las panatela property. And remember, about every single thing about every little detail, Allah subhanaw taala has not given us commands. But when it comes to this kind of meat, then you must give this piece of meat to that orphan child and keep this piece of meat for yourself. No, we have been given general rules and then it has been left to us. Ask your heart, ask your heart and where is the quote, heaven in the heart? Let the fear of Allah subhanaw taala guide you that what is appropriate?

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What is the correct thing to do? What is fair, what is just? Should I give this to them? Or should I not give this to them? Should I keep this for myself? Or should I not keep this for myself? And we've seen this either three prohibitions I've mentioned over here. First of all, the prohibition of keeping the orphans wealth, which is why it has been said that add to the aterna Amala. Home, what does it show that you cannot keep the orphans? Well for yourself? What does that mean for admission? letter but the Doha visa with a you do not exchange the hobbies with the player? And what's the third prohibition? Letter kulu and whatever.

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And if a person goes against this, then what is it a major sin who then could be a major sin?

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what interests them and if you fear a lot of possible failure, that you will not deal justly with the orphans, if you fear in system, that you will not deal justly with the orphans, meaning with the orphan girls, then what should you do? Frankie who metal but a communist nissa Muslim was lesser

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than marry those that please you have other women do or three or four, and don't marry those orphan girls? What does it mean by this?

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This has been understood in a number of ways. We see that first of all the Arabs, they would marry many women in the time of ignorance. A man would typically have 10 wives, some would have more, some would have less. So because of the existence of polygamy, men would marry several lives several women at a time. And they didn't care about idle amongst them about justice, when it came to dealing with their women. When it came to giving the rights of the women, they didn't care about that. Which is why we learned that the practice of we have existed amongst them that a man would say until a year because he only or he would keep divorcing the wife and he signs or it would be over he would

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do to do. Now man can only treat his wife in this way when he has several other women to enjoy. So they would marry many women. And they didn't care about giving the hoopoe for the women. So this I was revealed that now that you are concerned about the rights of the orphans, then you should be equally concerned about the rights of your wives about the rights of your women. This is why don't marry more than four women. The maximum number of women that you can marry is four and not more than that. So you understand the first way of understanding this is that the laws regarding the order

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orphans were given, which made the people very conscious about the rights of the orphans, about the property of the orphans. So it's being said that now that you're so conscious about the rights of the orphans, you should also be conscious about the rights of your wives. Therefore, marry only four wives not more. Why? Because you cannot do justice between more than four, up to four. Okay, a person can try very hard and manage. But more than four, it's impossible. Therefore, no more than four. This is one way of understanding this.

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Secondly, beside has been understood as that the guardians of the orphans, especially orphan girls, they would want to marry the orphan girls. Why? Only to get there? Well,

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because the orphan girl, let's say she was the only daughter, she inherited an orchard, she inherited a lot of land. So a man would be interested in the property that she had inherited. Now one way was just take the property of the orphan by force. What is your friend gonna say? And one other way, which looked very politically correct, was that I'm going to marry this orphan girl. Look, I mean, so nice. I married this orphan girl. But he didn't find any attraction in the girl. He didn't find her beautiful. No other reason, the only reason why he would marry her was to get a share, or to get hold of her wealth.

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In Bahati, we learned that I should have added on she said, that there was an orphan girl under the care of a man. And he married her while she owned a date palm garden. And he married her just because of that, and not because he loved her. Why did he marry her? Only to get her property, not because he loved that woman. So the divine verse game regarding this case, that if you fear that you should not be able to deal justly with the orphan girls, then what should you do? Don't marry that orphan girl. Instead, go marry somebody else. Go marry two women go by three, go marry four. But don't marry an orphan girl with the intention of just taking her wealth. No, because marriage is not

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just about giving money. It's about giving her hook.

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Thirdly, this has been understood as that a relative, he would marry an orphan girl, thinking that he would have to give her less money.

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Why? Because she's an orphan. Her father's not there to make sure that she gets an adequate mother.

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Just like some people today, they want to marry who somebody who was less than them, so that the mother is less, even if their Deen is not good enough, or they will marry someone who is humble is less than them. So that they cannot speak, they cannot demand their rights and they can continue to oppress them.

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So similarly, the Arabs, they would marry an orphan girl thinking that they could give her less money. And if she wants to be married elsewhere, she would definitely get more money.

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So they would marry such girls only because they could give less money to them. So this I was revealed that if you think that you cannot be just with regards to giving them a hug the orphan girl or living with her appropriately, then don't marry her. Instead, marry someone else. Instead, who should you marry? Someone else go marry to go marry three, four, but don't marry her. don't deprive her of her rights, give her what she deserves.

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We also learned that in Buhari, it has been recorded that are weapons obeyed. He asked I showed it on how about the meaning of this ayah. We're in 15 electrical affiliate.

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And she replied that Oh, my nephew. This is about the orphan girl who lives with her guardian and shares his property. Her wealth and beauty may tempt him to marry her. Her wealth and beauty may tempt him to marry her without giving her an adequate Ma,

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which might have been given by another suitor. So such guardians were forbidden to marry such orphan girls, unless they treated them justly and gave them the most suitable mass. Otherwise, they were ordered to marry women besides them. So do you understand the background now that there was a lot of injustice, particularly towards orphan girls, that people would marry them only so that they could get their wealth? Or they would marry them? Why? Because they wouldn't have to give as much more than that. What is she gonna say? What is she going to demand? If I don't give her them out at all? Who is going to come speak for her? And if I marry her, and I don't treat her nicely, who is going

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to come defender? Nobody.

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So the believers are being told that we're in fifth dome if you fear Meaning, if you think that I lead to closer to failure, that you will not be just concerning the orphans.

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Meaning concerning the orphan women to principle is under a better spot seen for foreseen

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and tuxedo is from aka SATA acceptor and observer yuxi. itself is to be just what does it mean to be just and also alpha is to be unjust. Which is why we learned in the Quran, there was a male posse tune for cannoli Johanna half of it. As for the posse tune, which is from cassava, they will be few for the Hellfire who are the positon those who are unjust, but muxia in a lie your hebbal mcrsi. Who are the oxyclean those who have suffered, meaning those who are just so do conceito, meaning you will be just an advocacy tool, you will not be just so if you think that you will not be just Philly Atlanta concerning the orphans.

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So what is injustice concerning the orphan women that first of all, a person marries them just for their money, a person marries an orphan girl. Why, just because of her money, and he does not give her any rights. He does not give her any rights after the marriage after marriage is like a slave. She's not respected, she's not treated nicely, she's not given anything.

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Secondly, a letter cassuto affiliate ama, that you have no inclination, or you have no desire for them, meaning you're not interested in their beauty and their looks nothing whatsoever. You don't have any desire to marry them. This is also injustice against a woman that a man marries or for some other reason. And he finds absolutely no attraction in her. Because he finds no beauty in her no attraction, or he's not attracted to her what's going to happen, he's not going to respect her, he's not going to show any love to her. And women need to be shown love to. So if you think that you will not be just towards women, how that you will marry them just for their money, and you will not give

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them their rights, or that you have no inclination or desire for them. Or that you give them less money at the time of marriage.

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And remember, that sometimes a man would marry a widow, the person would marry a widow, and with the widow who came, are often children. So the men are being told that if you think that you're not going to be just towards the orphan children of the woman, then don't marry this woman. Don't marry the widow woman who has orphaned children whom you think you cannot be just towards. Instead, go marry two other women, go marry three other women, but don't marry her and oppress her rights or be unjust towards her children and lead to conceito filiana

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Then what should you do? funky Whoa, then you marry Who? mouth all that which is pleasing to you, that which you like, meaning marry those women whom you like whom you find some attraction. And if you notice over here, my husband said, mine has not been set? Correct. Mine is used for person and my is used for inanimate beings. So what does it mean by malaba?

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In the Arabic language, when Matt is used for a person, then it's not the person or the name of the person that you're looking for. What you're looking for are the characteristics of the person, the qualities of the person. Like for example, one is the question that who is the accountant? What are you asking the name of the accountant?

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But if you ask, what is the accountant? What are you asking? What is the job of the accountant? What does the accountant do? So who you're asking about who that person is the name and what you're seeking the qualities, the traits over here when my husband said, meaning marry the person whose traits please you, whose qualities you like, whose qualities you're actually interested in moto bellicum and favas, wondering Petrus via the same route as the word to you and plead or cleaver is to be good to be pleasing. So metabolically, milanesa after women.

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Notice over here, it has been said marry women, not men.

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So mathoverflow come in and he said, What does he mean by this not over commit. And he said, first of all, this has been understood as, like you clean is that we just had. So those women who are highlighted for you to me, meaning by law, you are allowed to marry them. Not one sister, not one's mother, not ones on but a woman whom a person is allowed to marry like a cousin, or a person who was not related to him. Secondly, Martha with a coma is understood as that their characteristics please you they're quiet.

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Is the qualities of that woman they please you,

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you find some attraction in her, your heart is inclined towards her. So for instance, her beauty or her knowledge, and what's the best quality? The the best quality? Is that the or a similarity compatibility. So marry who someone whom you like what does it show

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that a person should marry who, whom they like. It doesn't mean that you go on looking for somebody whom you like, and you have to test someone, if you really like them. That's why you have to live with them for some time to really make sure you like them. No, that's not what this means. Meaning you find out about some qualities and characteristics that you find pleasing. You think that you'll be compatible, you think that it makes sense for you to marry this person. They speak the same language, they have the same culture, and they're religious as well. They have those qualities that that you were looking for. So Frankie homi Bhabha, come in and miss out of the women meaning some

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other women, women other than the orphans,

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how many women can you marry mesna in twos whatsoever and in threes, waterbar and inforce Muslim is from his name, it is from his name. What is his name me too. So, my name is his name his name into

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meaning some of you will marry to some of you will marry was a lesser entry. So less means selasa selesa. And robar means Aruba. Aruba. Does this mean that marry two plus three plus four? Hmm? What does this well mean? Plus, no. Wild gives a meaning of or what it means is that some of you can marry to and others of you you can marry three and others of you who can marry for meaning marry as many women as you want as long as therefore, this is just as in sort of athletes. I number one we learned 100 la fadli to some lft we'll have Jared Miller equity roussillon vouliagmeni hatin mesna, wosu lassa orba, that Allah subhanaw taala has created the angel Tao having wings, and these angels

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they have wings that are must not in twos was lesser, and in threes and enforce, meaning some angels have doing some angels have three, some angels have four. So, what does it mean? That there is variety. So similarly, if a man wants to marry two women go ahead, if you want an eye three, go ahead, if you want to marry four, go ahead. There is no compulsion. It's up to you.

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But don't go and marry a woman whom you are going to be unjust towards, whose rights you're not going to get. Instead, go marry to go my three go marry for but don't marry a woman so that you can impress her so that you can take her wealth and deprive her of her rights. No, don't do that. Instead marry two, three or four women

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find them then if you fear and let her do that you will not be able to do either 30 Lewis from other What does it mean, to add justly so if you think that you will not be able to be just with regards to with regards to multiple lives, more than one wife, when it comes to taking up their expenses, or giving each woman her individual share? So if you think you cannot be just when it comes to more than one wife, for hidden, then only one meaning the married only one funky, who are hidden.

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Oh, or mama got a medical or that which are right hands possess. What does it mean?

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Are your slaves meaning resort to fulfilling your sexual desire with who? Your slave women, because the same women, they don't have the same hoopoe as the wives do. The slave women they don't have the same rights as the wives do.

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Between wives A man has to be just just as between children, a person has to be just that if you give one thing to one child, you have to give it to the other child.

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Similarly with the wife, that you take her on vacation every year, then you have to take the other one of vacation every year as well. But the slave woman does not have the same status as a wife.

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Now, what does this mean by slave women?

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You see, at that time, slaves were a major part of the population and in Islam, because laws are not just for one year one culture, but they're applicable at all times in different cultures in different situations. Therefore, laws have also been given concerning slaves. What is permissible and what

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is not. So a man, if he owned a slave woman, he was allowed to have sexual relations with her. However, that slave woman could not be treated as a prostitute, that the man is enjoying her and her brother's enjoying her, and his son is enjoying her. No, that's not possible, she cannot be treated as a prostitute, she will only be in the possession of the man of one man, she cannot be owned by many at a time. Therefore, only he has a right to approach. Only he has a right to approach. And the slaves, it doesn't mean they don't have any rights, they do have other rights, which are not necessarily going to be discussed right now. They have rights. However, their rights are less or

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different than the wives of a person.

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So if you think that you cannot be just between your women, then marry only one wife or resort to your slave women. If a man likes a woman, you cannot change his mind. You cannot. If a man is interested in a woman, you cannot change his mind.

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And our Dean is the Dean of honesty is the Dean of loyalty, that you have to be loyal to Europe. And because Allah subhanaw taala has created the men, he understands the weakness of the men. He understands the needs of the men, which is why he has been allowed to marry more than one woman.

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Because if he is not satisfied with one woman, is he going to go and cheat on his wife? Is he going to go cheat on his wife? No. What is it all? If you want to enjoy another woman, marry her, you have to take responsibility for her. You can't just sexually user you can just sexually enjoy her and give her rent money. No, you can't do that. You have to take responsibility for her. So our Dean is the Dean of honesty, that if you like a woman, go marry her, take responsibility for her and give her her rights. And unfortunately, we think that marrying more than one woman is something that is wrong. And instead if a man has a wife and he's cheating on her, and if he has several mistresses,

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that is okay. It's not fair. It's not fair for a woman to be treated as a mistress, that a man is enjoying her sexually, and she does not get anything from him. She does not get to live with him. She does not get to be under his care and protection, that she has to fend for herself. And the men can just come and use her sexually No, that's when appropriate. So if you wish to enjoy more than one woman, take responsibility and marry her. But what's the maximum for not more than four?

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And if with four you think that you cannot be just then marry only one woman? Why do you put yourself in difficulty. But if you cannot keep yourself limited to one woman, then Oh, mama look at a monocle, then because that is what does that equal refer to? That refers to, first of all, that marrying only for women and not more than for meaning the maximum number that you can marry is a fourth, not more than four. What is this other than a letter, this is closer This is near that you want to incline only to one that you want to be unjust. So marrying only four and not more than four.

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Secondly, that you can refer to marrying only one for wahida marrying only one third leave that even refers to resorting to slave women. And fourthly, the Vatican refers to this command that has been given in this ayah that marrying other women instead of the aterna. Marrying other women instead of the orphan women, it is better for you. Why? Because then there's less chances of being unjust. Because a woman whose father is alive, he will come and speak for her. But a woman whose father is not alive, who's going to come defender you can easily be unjust towards her. So, that is a dinner, it is near meaning it is closer it is more appropriate at night from the roof letters that noon

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Well, from the word delu which has to be close, the word dounia is from the same root. So, it is closer a letter will do that you will not inclined to injustice that you will not be unjust that rulers from the roof letters einwohner from the way down which is to oppress or to deviate from the right course to oppress or to deviate from the right course it is to be unjust towards someone how by depriving them of their right and by taking their right.

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So for example, somebody has money, what is

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that a person who presses them and takes their money deprives them of the right and takes their right so this is closed

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So that you want inclined to injustice that you will not inclined only to one wife. Is there a crime in inclining only to one wife and neglecting other wives? Yes, there's a hadith which tells us the Prophet sallallahu. wasallam said, Whoever has two wives and inclines towards one of them over the other, that he loves her more. But the thing is that the heart is not in your control, you find one more beautiful, she's nicer, she cooks better, she respects you more, obviously, you're going to like her more, isn't it? So what does it mean by this? That he inclines towards one of them over the other? What does it mean by this, that in liking her he neglects the other, in liking her in

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enjoying her he neglects the other. This is for example, if a person has children. Now one child is very respectful to you very obedient, very hardworking, always does their homework is very good at school and the other child doesn't listen. That doesn't mean that you should be harsh towards the other child, and ignore them and not worry about them, not care about them No, both deserve your attention. You like one more because of the natural inclination of your heart. But that doesn't mean that you neglect the rights of the other. So if a person does this, that he has two wives and he inclines towards one of them over the other, then he will come on the day of judgment and one side

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of his body will be slanted.

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He will come as half on the Day of Judgment.

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So then he can identify and latterly

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some scholars have said that another Ulu over here what it means is, it's from re n, and re N means family. So marrying only one woman is closer, that you will not have a big family. If you have four women if you have more than one wife, what's going to happen, you're gonna have a bigger family. However, this opinion is extremely weak. First of all, grammatically, there are no is from our own and not even grammatically. And contextually as well, if you look at it, in our Deen, what is liked, big families they're like, as we learned, Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, the best of your women are those who are bearers of many children, loving to their husbands, comforting, tolerant, provided

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that they have that Allah.

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So this opinion, if you hear it, it is an opinion according to the Sharia. However, it is definitely a weak opinion and it is rejected by the scholars.

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What do we learn from this ayah?

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First of all, we learned about the obligation of being careful, being cautious when it comes to matters in which there is a risk of falling into haram unlawful that if you think that by doing something, you're going to do something forbidden, then what should you do? Stay away from it.

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So over here, if you fear that if you marry an orphan woman, you're not going to give her her rights, whether it is our manhood or kind treatment or whatever, then what should you do? Don't marry her. What does it show to us that in any other matter of our lives, if we think that by dealing with it by putting ourselves into it, we are going to fall into her arm? What should we do? Stay away from it, which is why it has been said left acaba, Xena, either I said I was told that don't even approach the tree, don't even go near the tree. Why? Because once you go near, then you can easily fall into it.

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Secondly, we learn from this idea that a person should marry who the person whom they like the person whom they are interested in, and that no one should be forced into marrying someone. No one should be compelled into marrying someone. And by this what is meant is that no man should be forced into marrying a particular woman and no woman should be forced into marrying a particular

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because sometimes in some cultures, girls are forced. And in other cultures, boys are forced, neither should be forced. Because if a person's heart is not in the marriage, if a person does not find the other interesting, he doesn't have any love or affection towards them. How can they give them the right? They cannot. And marriage is about love and mercy. Well what that environment and they cannot exist unless and until both parties like each other. So for this reason that permission is needed off the girl as well as off the boy. And it doesn't mean that a person should go set very high standards for himself. I don't want to marry this person because they don't fit this

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requirement. I don't want to marry this person because they don't fit this requirement. And you have a long list that only 100 of Jenna can fulfill

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or only a person of Paradise can fulfill. Be realistic, be realistic, because you can never really truly know a person lesson until you live with them until afterwards. You may have a very good image of them. They're so nice for so religious and afterwards you like

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They're normal. Similarly, you might think that they're not that good, they're very harsh, they're very mean. And afterwards you find out that they're pretty good.

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So don't just have a fixed list of requirements of the prospective spouse, but rather be a bit flexible. We know about recommendations in the dean that what should be given priority, that he

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also we learn from this ayah, that the decision to marry someone should not be based on the other person's wealth, or their status. Because what was the practice of the Arabs, they would marry the orphan women? Why? Only because of what the often women had inherited?

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what has been said over here? No, don't marry them just because of their wealth. Because marriage is about giving the ruku for the other as well. So the only factor should not be wealth or status, but rather, the person should also consider other things.

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Also, we learn from this ayah, about the permissibility of marrying more than one life, but it has to be less than four. Why? Why is this allowed in our reading? Why is this permissible in everything?

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Islam is a religion of fitrah. If a man has more desire, if he wishes to have more than one wife, which he will naturally, then he should be allowed. And some people, I don't know how they think that why is a woman are allowed to marry multiple husbands?

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This is something that doesn't make sense. Disgusting.

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A woman cannot fulfill the needs of one man, how can she fulfill the needs of more than one man? How it's impossible. Our religion is not of equality, it's of other that give to every person, what they need, what they deserve, what they are in, need off? Why else is it allowed? we learned earlier this weekend and in NASA Pusha T, what's the first thing I mean a NASA

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and as I told you, there's no singular for NASA Explorer.

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Also, we learn from the sky about the permissibility of slave women, if they exist in a society, if a person is forced into slavery, that is something that is completely forbidden, and it has great consequences in the field. But if there's a society in which slaves are a major part of the population, then in that society, this is permissible, however, otherwise, it's not permissible.

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And so you don't marry a slave woman. Because when you buy a slave woman, she's known by you. A slave is known by his master, his or her master, which is why even when a slave is freed, he is given the name of molar of so and so doesn't mean that you marry the slave woman because it's a different type of a contract.

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And similarly, marrying more than one husband is completely unnatural, which is why it's not a part of our thing. Our Deen is of fitrah.

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And if you look at it, generally, in other cultures, where people don't necessarily married women whom they love, what happens? Even the most educated people, even the most successful people, even the most influential people, the most apparently very honest ones,

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you find out that they have mistresses, and they have one wife, and they have so many girlfriends, and they're sending wrong stuff to their mistresses and their girlfriends, which ends up online. I mean, what does this show that men naturally, they have a desire for more than one woman. But in our Dean, what has been done is that a man is to be honest, that if you are interested in other woman, and if you have relations with her, make it public, don't keep it secret. Because when you make it public, then what's going to happen, you're going to be forced to give her her rights, and she's going to be your wife, you're going to be responsible for her.

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And sometimes, the only reason for a man having multiple wives is not that his desire is not fulfilled by one. Sometimes it could be that with his wife, he doesn't have children, and he wishes to have children. Or sometimes, it could be some other reasons that the wife is ill, she is sacred sick, she is unable to do anything for him. Now, instead of him having non Muslim nurses and maids coming into the house all of the time doing everything for him, maybe he cannot afford. So isn't it better that he has a Muslim woman in the house, who takes care of him, and also his wife. So it's better that way. So there could be different reasons for having multiple wives. So therefore, this

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has been allowed in our wedding. Because our Dean is the Dean of fitrah. But again, it has been said if you think that you cannot be just

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the married only want to keep yourself safe.

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And as we know that the population of women is generally more than that of men. So if there's so many women who are not married, sometimes because of the shortage of men, as in the first time

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Where it says at Jalan Catherine when he said if you notice the jam kathira has been mentioned in the sand Kathy rod has not been mentioned. Why?

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Because the katra the abundance of men is a source of his meaning it's a source of power. Because men, what do they do they protect and look after. And the women need to be taken care of. That's why the Jalan kathira has been mentioned, although the population of men has been generally less compared to women, but the Jan have mentioned is try to show that they are the ones who are responsible for taking care of the women.

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