Taleem al-Quran 2010 – Juz 04 – L054D

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An-Nisa 1-6 Word-Analysis and Tafsir 4-6

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I was a bit lame in a ship I never Jean Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim

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lesson number 54 Soto to Nyssa number four

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What else? Oh, Nisa also Ducati Indonesia

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and give the women upon marriage their bridal gifts graciously. for employment Allah C'mon che min who enough sun for kulu honey Marie.

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But if they give up willingly to you anything of it, then take it in satisfaction and ease.

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As you know that in salata, Nyssa, the rights of the week, the rights of the oppressed, are given. We know that in the Arabic culture, before Islam in the media, the women were married for several reasons. Sometimes they were married, just so that the men could get her wealth, just so that the men could gain some financial increase some financial status. And another tradition that was prevalent in that society was that at the time of marriage, the women were not given anything. The women were not given any money.

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In fact, on the contrary, it would be demanded from them just as it is still existent in some cultures today, that at the time of marriage, the woman is not given anything. But wealth is demanded from the woman, that she has to give a gift to the husband, she has to give gifts to the entire family, and nothing is to be given to her. And if she cannot afford, then too bad, nobody's going to marry her.

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Similarly, in the Arab culture, this was also a tradition that a man would give the sister in marriage to another man. And he would take his sister in marriage, their two men and what are they doing, they're marrying their sisters off to each other. And as a result, they wouldn't give anything to their wives. Why? Because the mother to the other man was that I'm giving my sister in marriage to you. So you give your sister in marriage to me. I'm not giving anything to my wife, and you don't give anything to your wife.

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Because the women, they don't have any rights.

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So over here, the people are commanded, that were added to Nisa for the party,

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that give the women upon marriage, what their bridal gifts,

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add to all of you should give. Who is this command? This command is either to the men meaning the husbands, that the husband is commanded that at the time of marriage, you have to give them a hug to the wife, or this command is to the earlier the guardians of the women, because many times upon marriage, who takes them out of her father, or brother, or something like that, and the woman does not keep anything. So the command is to the LDS that Oh, you guardians at the time of marriage, who gets to keep them?

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The woman and not to you?

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What are two Nyssa? The women should be given? What should they be given for Ducati in so the court is the plural of sidecar. So do just as you write the word Sadako, but with a llama on the sidewalk? And satoko is the bridal money, or the bridal gift that is given to the woman by the husband at the time of marriage.

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What is satoko? What is a vital gift? The money or the gift or whatever that the husband gives to the wife at the time of marriage? What's the root slot Dell path? What does it mean? truthfulness? So what does it satoko do? It proves the truthfulness of the men in accepting his responsibility as a husband, that for the rest of his life, he is going to take care of the woman he is going to spend on the woman it shows his truthfulness in accepting the responsibility.

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Now sometimes the word sadhaka is translated as adultery. However, this term is not appropriate. because technically, dowry is the property or money that is brought by a woman to the husband or to the house of the husband at the time of marriage. Whereas in our Dean, what is the case? It's the exact opposite. The woman does not bring anything rather the woman is given the gift. So give to the women so to Fahd their bridal gifts, their bridal money. How nationalization happily willingly

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the word Nicola is from newsletters noon, her love. Noon Hallo

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and the word national is literally to give something to someone

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Happily, to give something as a gift to someone how, happily willingly without expecting any return, and it is out of the kindness of one's heart. So if you have to give something to someone with this feeling out of the kindness of your heart happily, without expecting anything in return, what would you give? What would you think about it? The best that you can do the best that you can offer, the best that you possess. If you give something to someone, happily, without expecting any return out of the kindness of your heart, then what are you going to give the best that you can offer? So over here, the command is that when you give them a hug, how should you give it me?

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Nathan has been understood in several ways over here. First of all, it has been said that Nicola means as a gift, give it to them as a gift, as a hibben, as an athlete, without expecting anything in return. Because sometimes a woman has given him a hug. And what happens with the rest of her life, she's reminded you were given this much, and you should stay, she was given only this much by her husband, but you were given so much. Look how much we gave you. So you better do this and this. So what is the command that give it as a gift, give it as a Hibbert as an affiliate without expecting anything in return.

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And so have said that what this means is that because in the time of joy here, the women were not given anything at the time of marriage. So over here, Allah says, Latin meaning this is as a gift from Allah.

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Meaning this command is Nish Latin minella. It is initially, it is a gift for the women, a Heba for the women from who, from a loss of panel data, and this is an obligation upon the men.

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And the men don't get anything in exchange in return.

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It's not that if a man gives 10,000, then he has to receive 5000. No, it's a gift for the women exclusively, not for the men.

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Secondly, it has been said that nicoleta this means for the 11. I showed the language she interpreted this as a fungible, meaning as an obligation. It's a must gift. You don't have any choice with regards to this.

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The man cannot say, Oh, I don't want to give anything. No, he has to give something. It's an obligation. It's a free ebook.

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Thirdly, it has been said that Nishan means that give it willingly give it happily, not unwillingly, or not with dislike, considering it to be a big burden, or waiting for them to demand. No, give it happily give it with the happiness of your heart willingly not disliking Li not grudgingly because sometimes, unfortunately, we give gifts and we think it's such a big burden on us. What does Allah say? Give it with the goodness and the happiness of your heart. Because only when a gift is given like this, then it increases love. Otherwise, it does not increase love. What does it say? The hairdo to have? Give her the year and also increase love. So give the women so Ducati in Latin. So

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it's an obligation fundament to give the model to the woman at the time of marriage?

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What if the woman says, I don't want it, or the woman says, This is too much. I don't want all of it. But if she feels embarrassed, this is too much. For example, the man says, I'm going to give this house to you, I'm gonna give a cartoon we'll give this much money to you, out of his love and out of his kindness. But the woman feels embarrassed or shy or she feels that she doesn't need that much. And maybe the husband should keep something for himself. Some of you looked at me like this, and why wouldn't the woman want?

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Sometimes if a man is giving everything that it's possible that the woman says keep something for yourself, you have other responsibilities as well, you have a life as well.

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So for instance, when I look on labor from the roof that was fiber from the workplace, the workplace was from the same route and pleases goodness, pleasure. So if they happily meaning if they please look on for you, meaning for you all men, unshaven from something, meaning from all that you offer them, or that you give them as much as a sadhaka. At the time of marriage, if they willingly give up anything of it. Notice the word is slipping. If they willingly give up anything of it, they're not forced. They're not forced, but rather they willingly give up something of it. Knutsen out of oneself, what does this mean by Nelson? meaning out of their own decision, not by coercion, not by

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force. Because sometimes at the time of marriage, what happens? The other relatives they come and say you should feel

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Have you taken so much give something back? No. Why should she be forced? If she out of her own? Well, she gives something to the man or she gives up some of her mother, fuck Hulu, then you all eat it, meaning take it accepted.

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Who is this command to, to the husband.

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Then take it how honey, enjoyably and Marie and pleasantly, take it happily, the word honey, and Marie and honey is from the root that was her known Hamza, her known Hamza, and Hannah is something that is pleasant, something that is very delicious. And in particular, honey is used for something that is easy to obtain, that is easy to receive that in taking it in receiving it. In using it, there is no difficulty, there is no hardship.

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So for example, you go buy some groceries. One is that you go, it's so difficult for you, you're tired, you're exhausted, the grocery store is far away, it's not easy for you at all. And the other is that it says at the end of the street, all you have to do is just walk down the street and go. So in obtaining something when there is no difficulty, that is what honey is, there is no difficulty or no hardship.

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And sometimes the word honey is also used for that which is good in its consequence, that once you use it, once you eat it, once you enjoy it, there are no harmful consequences afterwards. So for example, you go to the groceries and at the end, you're exhausted. That's not what honey is. Honey is that in obtaining there is no difficulty. And after obtaining there is no difficulty either.

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So what does it mean by this, then take it honey and mean take it in satisfaction. Accept it with happiness, that at the time of acceptance at the time of consumption, don't feel guilty. Don't be reluctant. Don't be reluctant. Don't feel guilty. Take it if she's giving it out of our own happiness. Take it because if you refuse it, it's possible that she will get hurt. Just imagine you offer something to someone and they say no. How do you feel? Not good. So take it happy.

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The second word that has been said is Marie. And Marie is from the root letters mean, what are Hamza mean ra Hamza

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Mara, is the food that is easily swallowed. Mara is when somebody easily swallow some food and it reaches the stomach, it reaches the insides of a person without any difficulty.

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Sometimes you swallow something and if it is, if it's getting stuck, we have a bitter aftertaste. We have absorbed feeling in your throat or something like that. So Mara, is when the food is easily swallowed by someone.

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And in law is to make some food very delicious, to make it tasty to make it very delicious. Because when the food is like that, it's easy to swallow it, it's easy to eat it and after eating it as well, there are no bad effects.

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So basically, money is something that is laid will be something that is not harmful, something that is not harmful. And it is modular, aka, meaning it is good in its consequences in its end as well. It isn't muddy athon when the food is fully digested. When the food is fully digested, you've eaten something, it's fully digested. And you know, you feel good after eating it. Sometimes you eat food and what happens if it is if it's sitting inside. Sometimes you get heartburn. Maria farmers when the food reaches the stomach easily goes down and it's fully digested. And it doesn't give you any bad consequences.

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So what's the difference between honey and Maria?

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Honey and is particularly at the time of receiving at the time of obtaining. And Marie Anne refers to after consuming after taking. So in the context, honey is there at the time of receiving it. Take it happily without any hesitation without any reluctance without any guilt. And Marie and is that once you've taken it, then don't just leave it don't just let it sit and decay. Because sometimes if somebody gives us a gift, we take it but then we don't use it. Why?

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Because there's still that feeling of guilt in our hearts. Like No, I feel bad using it. Sometimes we get rid of it. Sometimes it's sitting there for so long. But does Allah say Maria use it as well enjoy it as well. It shouldn't bring any bad consequences upon you. It shouldn't be just sitting there making itself a burden upon you. So honey and Maria.

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Others have said that Marie and refers to that there will be

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No harm upon you for consuming it, for using it for taking it in the earth.

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Because marine is what in its consequences on the other, there will be no harmful consequences for you for having taken that. So for kulu, honey and Maria,

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what do we learn from this ayah?

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First of all, we learn about the mouse, the obligation upon men, to give them a hug, to the women, at the time of nica at the time of marriage. And the question is, then, how much should a man get? We know that a man must give, how much should he give?

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Is there a particular limit? Is there a particular minimum or a maximum amount? No, then what is it that tells a man how much you should give whatever he can afford. So, basically, a man should give according to his capacity, whatever suits his financial position, whatever he is able to get, whatever he can easily afford,

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the culture that should be considered, because remember that in all of these ayat, which tell us about the commands pertaining to social life, you will notice the word maruf come so often, what does that show? That it has to be something that is culturally accepted? Right, it shouldn't be something so strange. So yes, culture should be considered, but a man should not give less thinking that typically women are not given this much money. So why should I give more No, I will give less only. So culture should be looked at. But what is going to decide is the man's financial position, if he can afford to give 15,000 he should give it if he can afford only five, he should give that if

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he cannot even afford 1000. And typically, the matter is 2000. Let's say the Sisters of the girl got 10,000. But he can only afford 1000. should he get 10,000? from somewhere? No, he will give whatever he can afford. And it's possible that the girl sisters got 10,000 only but he can get 50. So should he give 10 only know, what should he give whatever that he can afford? whatever suits his financial position, whatever suits his financial status. That is what the men should get.

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We learned that the profits are the loading salon, he also gave money to all of his wives. And it's a Muslim, it is narrative that I will sell him. Number one, he said that I asked I shall have the land, the wife of the Prophet sort of on this island. But what was the matter given by the prophet sallallahu Sallam to his wives. And she said the mother that he gave to his wives was 12 rupees. And

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he said, Do you know what a nursery is? She said, it is half of an Rukia. And that was around 500 dirhams. So whatever is valuable at the time, whatever is reasonable at the time, whatever a person can afford, that is what he should give.

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The second thing that we learned from this is that it is not permissible for the wealthy, to take any of the money that the woman has been given by the husband,

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it is not permissible for the father, or for the brother, or any one of your male relatives, to take any of the manhood that the woman has been given at the time of marriage. And from this, the scholars have also derived that awali at the time of marriage, you cannot set a condition that I will only give my daughter in marriage to you, if you give me this much money, I will only give my sister in marriage you if you give me this much. If you put this under my name, no, a man cannot do that. Because the Wali does not deserve anything at the time of marriage to a woman, because she is getting married, she is being given to a man.

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Also we learn from this ayah that the model that the man gives, at the time of marriage, how should he give it

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happily, without reminding the woman afterwards of the huge favor that he showed? It should be given happily graciously.

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Similarly, a man should not differ, giving them so much so that the woman has to keep asking. Because sometimes at the time of marriage, as we learned early on to the doctor, sometimes the mother is not given at the time of marriage. The woman is told that okay, you'll be given this much money, within five months, within a year, when I've made this much money, then I will give it to you. So the man should give it as soon as he can. He should not delay it, that the woman has to keep asking him, because how will a woman asks, it's so embarrassing. Similarly, how can her father come and ask but you still haven't given them a hug to my daughter. That's not possible. So the man has

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to give them a hug to the woman at the time of marriage and if it's not possible that he should give it as soon as possible. Nicola then graciously, with kind heartedness without remaining it as a favor afterwards and without delaying it unnecessarily.

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Also, we learn from desire that a woman she has the right to

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forego the Maha, she has the right to give up some of her him or her if she wishes, but it will only be with the three meaning with her satisfaction with her agreement. She cannot be forced, she cannot be made to feel embarrassed and out of shyness out of embarrassment, she gives up something of it. No, she will only give it up out of her own way, she would not be forced into it.

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Also, I don't want to say that if someone gives up something of theirs willingly. If someone gives up something of theirs willingly, they give you something willingly, then what should you do? Take it accept it, honey and Maria. Don't feel guilty.

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Like for instance, so imagine two people, they're working together on something, let's say one friend is helping the other sort of her stuff. Other friend says, All Mashallah, this hedgehog is beautiful. And she says, Take it, please take it. He says, No, no, that's why I said that. She says, No, I want you to take it. She's giving it out of the happiness of her heart. So at that time, don't feel guilty. That I shouldn't have said that. No, if she's giving it out of her willingness, out of her happiness, and what does Allah say? For kulu? Honey, I'm Maria. Don't do, as I said,

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don't impose difficulty upon yourself and upon the other person. And we also learn from this that if someone gives something unwillingly, if somebody gives up something of theirs, unwillingly, out of embarrassment, or out of compulsion, then is it permissible for you to accept it? No. Because what is the condition over here? Fair in three minutes, if they willingly give it. So if somebody is being forced into giving something, then don't accept it.

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Like, for instance, sometimes a child is forced, the child doesn't want to give his candy, he's being forced that no, you have to give it to this friend of mine. So in that situation, don't take it. Because if the child is forced into it, is it I'm going to like you for the rest of his life,

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he's not going to like you at all, he's going to have those bad memories. So from this, as far as I derive that, if somebody is being forced to give up something of theirs, then it's not permissible for the other to accept it for the other shake. Sometimes what happens is, in different cultures, there has to be, let's say, a dinner that has to be held for some guests who has arrived. And there's a dinner at one person's house, and then there's a dinner at another person's house and another person's house. So if you find out that somebody is being forced into entertaining you, he's being forced, then don't go cancel that event. Why? Because if you go, and they're forced into

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entertaining you what's going to happen,

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it's going to be so difficult for the other person,

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it's going to be very difficult for them, they're not going to like you, you're probably not going to enjoy over there. So what's the point

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I worthiness of ease, lather up, pull out the rug don't harm the other and don't receive harm from the other.

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And we also learn from this idea that it is not permissible to take someone else's property without their agreement. It is not permissible to take someone else's property without their agreement. Because if you see, it's the woman's mother, the woman's mother, it's her property

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and her husband, but what is the husband told? That if she willingly gives her then take, what does this mean? That if she does not give it to you, and you're not allowed to take it, so even between a husband and wife, even between husband and wife, if there is no agreement, then the couples should not take from each other as well without permission. But if there is agreement that you know, we share the same bank account, no big deal, you can take money from my wallet as long as it's decent amount. It's okay. But if they don't like it, if they don't allow you, then you're not allowed to take from their money.

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We learned from a hadith the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said laya Hello men who marry in Muslim in Allah and three being of someone who

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that the wealth of unbelieving person is not permissible for the other it is not Hillel for the other, except without leaving us except without the agreement of the other person.

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Which is why we learned early in terms of Bukhara as well there. Yeah, are you letting me know let kulu Amala combinar COVID belted inla and takuna t gelatin and Dada,

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that don't consume each other's wealth unlawfully except at the time of the Jura at the time of trade or business transaction. And this business transaction also has to be with what that all the mutual agreement. So we see the importance of mutual agreement. And without it, you cannot take each other's well. So sometimes we think it's no big deal. It's the

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Person spending, it's the other person's books, the other person's notebook, not with you, I'll take it. Should you take it? No. If they're okay with it, then take it. But if you know that they're not okay with they're very possessive about their pens, then don't take it. If there is agreement, that's different, but if there's no agreement, then you don't have the right to take the other person's well without their permission.

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Federal law says without the sofa, and do not give the weak minded and welcome your property, which property allottee Jarl Allahu Lacan piano, which Allah has made a means of sustenance for you, what is the coven, but provide for them with it, work so home and clothed them will kulula home cola meroofer and speak to them words of appropriate kindness.

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One or two. Over here the command is to be earlier the guardians. As we know that in the previous ayat, we learned that the orphans, they should be given their wealth, then at the time of marriage, the women should also be given their mouth. It doesn't go to the Father, it doesn't go to the brother, it doesn't stay with the husband, who does it go to the woman over here Allah says, Do not give your property to the sofa. So in the previous I had, we were told as to who we should give the money to. And here we are being told don't give your money to such and such lead to sofa and welcome. So don't give the foolish your wealth.

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Now the question is Who are the sofa?

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So for her as you know the plural of Sophie, and who is

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someone who is weak minded, someone who is weak minded, someone who is not good in managing their affairs, or managing the affairs of others. It's the weakness of the aka the weakness of the mind.

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And this could be because of different reasons. First of all, it is because of one's knifes. What comes under it

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for example, lack of intelligence, lack of sharpness. When a person is incompetent, that is what suffer. Similarly, it could be because of silver because of being young in age. I for instance a child you give him $100 a three year old is he going with the value? It's probably gonna rip it apart, it's probably going to start sucking on it. So sometimes it is because of lack of intelligence or sharpness in competence. Secondly, it is because of silver being young in age. And thirdly, it is because of junoon because of insanity.

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So the one reason for suffer is because of one's knifes meaning there's a problem with the person what is a problem? either in the mind or the age or gender? The second reason is because of why and what does it mean. But the way in which to mean and deviation misguidance What does it mean by that? That for instance, a person does not know that he or he does not care about observing the deen. Does that mean that he has efa? Yes, he does. Because in sorbitol bacara. What did we learn? Well, many are horrible. I'm miletti Ibrahim 11 Steffi Han epsa, who were turned away from the religion of Ibrahim except the one who has Sufi have said except the one was being foolish. So foolishness is

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not just due to incompetence, or just because of being young in age, but it is also because of lack of the knowledge of theme or being negligent towards the when a person does not care about the theme when a person does not implement it. So over here, when Allah says don't give your wealth to the sofa, what does it mean by that? What does this sofa include? First of all, it includes those people who are less in their intelligence, meaning they're not intelligent enough, they're not sharp enough. And this could mean that in general, they're not sharp enough, they're not intelligent enough. For instance, a person is really mentally disabled, or they are not sharp in money matters.

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They're not sharp, intelligent enough in money matters. For example, if a person like me is told to calculate the tax or something like that, I'm not gonna be able to do that. Why? I don't have a degree in accountancy I studied accounts five years ago or something, and it was basic. So if you tell me to do something like that, I don't know. All I know is this is a debit transaction. And this is a cash transaction. And that's it. I don't know anything more than that. So, it could be because of lack of intelligence in general, or specifically in money matters. So for instance, children

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Once this friend of mine, her brother, we were walking by this particular stall, and they were selling one chain for $1 or something. And he really liked those chains. And he said, You know, I wish I had $1,000, I would buy 1000 chains. You wonder if you give him $1,000, he's gonna buy 1000 chains, what are you going to do with those chains? What are you going to do with them? So if you give this child $1,000, he's actually going to go buy 1000 chains. Is that reasonable? No. So over here, whenever the sofa, and while I don't give your wealth to the server, so who does the server include? First of all, someone who is less than aka, less than his intelligence, either in general,

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or in particular, in money matters. Otherwise, a child is very intelligent. He's very good at reading. Very nice and his mannerisms. But when it comes to money, he doesn't know. Similarly, it could be a woman as well. Sometimes girls get married, they're wearing gold jewelry, they go to the mother's house delivering here that either watch there, they drop a chain there, they lose a bracelet here, and other people are finding their jewelry from behind them. Similarly, they go somewhere, they leave their wallet, they leave their purse, they lose it, they forget it. So if you give the woman all of her jewelry, to wear whatever you want every day, what's going to happen,

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she's going to lose it, right. But if she is given one by one, one thing after the other, or a little bit at a time. Similarly, if she's not given all of the money to keep in her bag, but a little bit of money. For instance, if a woman is given $1,000, every month, she never checks the price of the items that she buys, what's going to happen within a week or something, she's going to run out of the money. Similarly, if you give her a card, use it however you want, instead of cash, what's going to happen, she's going to be swiping the card all the time without knowing the consequences. But if she's given cash, then what happens? She knows about what she's spending, she's

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going to be careful.

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So first of all, it is someone who invests in Apple intelligence, for whatever reason. Secondly, it is said that a super heart refers to those people who are mobile odd. Meaning those who are wasteful in spending their money, who are not that careful in spending their money, who to spend here they spend there, they don't care about how much something costs, if they need it, if they don't need it, they just spend their money. It includes men, women and children. It includes men, women, and children. Thirdly, it has been said that a super heart refers to those people who don't implement the dean, or who don't care about the dean.

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So for instance, there's a father and he has a son, and the son is an adult, let's say is 20 years old.

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The Father gives the son because he's in school, he's in university every month, he gives him $500 or $700, just to spend, because the father can't afford, what does Allah say, don't give him that money. Why? Because if he has that money, he doesn't care about if he's spending on heroin, or

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if he's spending on drugs, and alcohol on heroin movies. Similarly, we will go by things that are useless, that are not that beneficial. Because he does not care about the thing. He doesn't have the point. He's not that righteous, he's not that pious, so he's going to waste his money. And he might end up committing heroin by using that money. So that to sue for her. And

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then it has been said that so far, it refers to those people who because of their straitened circumstances, because of their little bit, because of their poverty, they lack that money sense. Bank, for instance, if a person has a debt, they have a debt to pay off, they have a loan to pay off. Somebody feels bad for them, like a relative, mother, sister, they feel bad for them. Okay, you know, you take this money, they give him $1,000. Now, because he has been so careful with his money recently that he's not been spending on himself and his desires. Why? Because every penny of his is going into returning the loan. Now, if he gets a gift of $1,000, what is he going to do? He's not

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going to be careful in spending that money. Sometimes, it's amazing that people have known and they will use their money for what to buy the latest cell phone to buy the latest computer to buy a really nice shirt to buy a really nice bag to buy really nice shoes. And you wonder this is why this money. No, I gave this money to you so that you could pay off your loan so that you could go eat some good food, put some decent clothes on yourself and you're going and buying a nice cell phone, which is not even a need which is not even a necessity. So sometimes because

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of the circumstances that a person is in, what happens is that he's not Money Smart anymore. He's not smart in using his money anymore. So in this case led to to suffer her. And

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don't give to the sofa, your wealth.

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Now, your wealth has been understood as the property that is theirs, but is under your care. So for instance, there's a your team, there's an orphan child, seven years old. And if you give him all of his money, what is he going to do? I can buy 50,000 candy bars with this, is that correct? No, don't give him it's his wealth, but it is under your care under your supervision. So don't give even the money of the sofa hair of the Sufi person to him. Similarly, a woman, she gets married, and at the time of marriage, she's given $50,000, as she thinks I have $50,000, I can buy jewelry, I can buy clothes, and I can buy this and I can buy that. So what happens within two years, her bank account

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is gone, it's finished. Whereas if she was a bit smart, if she was a bit clever, she would have used that money wisely. So although the money belongs to her, but it is in your care, it's in your supervision. So lead to suffer her unwelcome, so who does unwelcome refer to the wealth that belong to the sofa hair, but it's actually under your care. Secondly, it has been said that unwelcome actually refers to your wealth. It is your own personal wealth. So don't even give some of your wealth to who to the sofa. So for example, your own child, your own wife, or your own brother, your own sister, don't give it to them if they fall under the category of silver. Why? Because if you

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give it to them, what's going to happen? Either they're going to harm themselves, or they're going to waste the money. They're going to waste Well, it's not good for them, nor is it good for their money.

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And sometimes if the young child is fine with so much money, what happens? He's vulnerable, somebody could come in, attack him and take all the money from him. So not to suffer her and welcome

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which wealth unless he jaren Allahu Allah Campion that which Allah has made a pm. For who? for you.

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allottee What does ality refer to the well, meaning the wealth that Allah has made for you the M and

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the M is from the root that was all for me.

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And the word pm and has been understood in several ways. First of all, the M and has been understood as the meaning of support a standing.

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grammatically the word pm is a Master, master of karma. What does karma mean? He stood so can do stand standing.

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Piano Shea is to look after something.

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What does the AMA shaped me to look after something from this is the word originally a were Mona Allen beside the manor qalamoun meaning they're the ones who look after maintain the women.

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So pm is what a means of subsistence, a means of support that on which your life your well being your livelihood are established.

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So the money Allah has made it as a support for you.

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On your money is your livelihood. your livelihood is based upon your money. your well being is based on your money.

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And to the extent that even your deen sometimes is based on your money.

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If you don't have money, how are you going to give sadaqa? How will you travel to learn? How will you spend in order to buy books? How will you spend to go for Umrah or Hajj

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some money is needed not just for worldly affairs but also for religious affairs.

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So your worldly and your religious affairs, both of them What are they based upon? Money.

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So this money Allah has made a pm for you. Without this money, you won't be able to do anything.

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Secondly, the word pm has been understood as the plural of the word got him like we had earlier sort of earlier on and Medina Yes, Corona, la pm and La Kuroda

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sockeye salmon are ones who stand.

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So literally the word pm is the plural of climb. However, this meaning is not applicable in the context.

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Thirdly, the word pm has been recited as the word fisherman pm with a fatality yet only what do you see over here pm and with an Elif after the year. Another recitation is that there is no lF after the year. It's just the Yemen

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and pm n is a plural of peace.

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And what does payment mean? The value or the price of something?

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What is it? The value or the price of something?

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So, unless the Jalan la hula come to Yemen. So all of this wealth, Allah has made it as a FEMA for you. Meaning This is something of value to you. This is something that enabled you to spend enables you to earn enables you to eat enables you to work. So Allah de da de la hula Conklin.

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So pm and summarize has been understood as first of all a means of subsistence on which your life your well being your livelihood are established. With it, you fulfill your needs, and with it, you fulfill their needs. If you give all of the orphans property to him, how are you going to spend on his education, if he has wasted all of it? How you can't.

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Second, it has been said that the AMA means that Allah has made you the yam over the wealth, meaning he has made you responsible over it, meaning you are the guardians over the money, which money, the money of the orphan, you are in charge of it, you're supposed to guard it, you're supposed to look after it.

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And if you give it to them, what's going to happen? They're going to waste it. So don't give it to them. What does it mean that don't spend on them at all? Is that what you should do?

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Because many times men say that, you know, our wives, they don't know how to spend money, they don't have to use money. So every month I give him only $50.

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Because if I give her 100 she's gonna waste it. I can never give her a card. So I give her only cash for only a little bit. Is that what you should do? What does Allah say? What is the fear and provide them in it?

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Meaning give them something of it. Don't give them all of it. But give them something of it. Let them have access to money so that they can fulfill their needs. And remember that osako home from risk, what does risk include?

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Your food, groceries, lunch money, your house, your bed? Everything. That's what is included? So what does Olympia provide them in it?

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The question is, it hasn't been said What does Hoover mean?

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What does mean humming from it? And what does he mean? in it?

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So what does it mean by what is a human fee?

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provide them in it? How do you understand that? provide them in it.

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If it was said, What zuku mean? What is mainly some of it, part of it.

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And that would indicate that each time you are giving them some of the money, what's happening to your money.

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It is reducing

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each time you give them your money is reducing. But when Allah says what is your coven fee her in it, then fee refers to the profit that you're gaining on your man

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the profit that you're gaining on your wealth.

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So let them share in the profit that you earn on your wealth. Now in this is an indication that the property of the orphan, don't just let it sit, don't let it sit,

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let's say an orphan he inherited $50,000 from his father, don't let that $50,000 sit invested.

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And the profit that you gain on that money provide the orphan from that profit.

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Let him have a share in that profit.

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So you understand why he has been setting up minha minha would mean that each time you're giving them something your money is reducing. And we have what does that show? What does we have show that let them have a share in it, which indicates that the property of the orphan the money of the orphan cannot just sit in your house, but rather you have to invest it so that it grows and from the profit, you provide the orphan? What is the common fear

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works so long, and you also close them work. So one is from the infectious calf scene Well, from the word case, what what this case will mean clothing.

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And generally the word case was used for clothing that is put on someone else.

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So also include them. So don't just worry about their food about their residents, but also worried about their clothes. Sometimes parents or in other situations, husbands, they don't let the women or they don't let children have access to the money. And they only care about Okay, they should have food at home a little bit of lunch money and the fees for their school. And they don't care about the other needs. They don't care about the other needs of the children or the white. So let's say their clothes

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For example, with women, they don't just need claws, but they also need for their monthly period they need some extra money in order to take care of their hygiene. So sometimes women are not given that much or sometimes the daughters are not given that money. What does Allah say to include them? Now it doesn't mean that every month they have to be taken on a shopping trip with buy the latest clothes and most expensive ones on the sidewalk. Sumo. Any maruf, Suboxone

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wahconah home and say to them, oh no meroofer a word a statement that is recognized that is acceptable. What does it mean by this? That speak to them? A word that is acceptable? speak to them nicely. Why is this that over here? Sometimes it's possible that a person feels that he's in charge, and he's the boss and he can treat the other He can speak to the other however he wants. Sometimes, because he the word sofa has been used. Sometimes the foolishness of the person really bothers you. For example, children, this game is out now I want this game. I want this game. Give me money, give me money. I want to go here, give me money, give me money. What do parents do? Sometimes they get so

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sick and tired. so frustrated, they give it to the children? They shout at them? What does Allah say? But kulula honkala marovo. So sometimes, because of the foolishness of the other person, you get very annoyed, very irritated. What does Allah say? speak to them gently speak to them appropriately. And specifically at a time when they demanded from you. Or if they start complaining? Sometimes, you know, children, they have some money in the parents, they have kept it safe for them. For instance, at eat, children collect a lot of gifts. So what do parents do they keep the money for the children? Or did the children say you have my money? That's mine. It belongs to me. So give it

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to me. So at that time when they're insisting when they're annoying you don't be harsh towards them. speak to them in a way that is appropriate. Just turn their attention, divert their attention, distract them with something else. Go to the home column Malfa. Meaning, a word that is laying there soft, that is leaning that is gentle, don't be too harsh with them. So what do we learn from the cya? What's the first thing that we learned? Well, I had to sue for her. And when

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we learned about the prohibition of giving well to suffer, those people who cannot manage money, those people who cannot use the money properly. In this, it is a prohibition of giving wealth to them. Whether that wealth belongs to you, or that wealth belongs to them, whether that wealth belongs to you, or that wealth belongs to them, because sometimes children cannot look after their own money. So the parents, they keep the wealth, they keep the children's money for them. So in that case, children cannot say, my parents, you know, they keep my stuff and they don't give it to me so unfair. No, because Allah Subhana, Allah has said, Don't give well to do so for her.

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What else do we learn from this?

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What do we learn from this command? Why is this commandment given? Why

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give the money to this afar, let them spend, they will learn themselves when they have nothing left,

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to preserve the wealth.

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So we learn about the prohibition of wasting wealth from the side.

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It's not allowed for a person to waste Well,

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sometimes they say, I can afford this, okay, I can afford this, even though I don't need it, I can afford it, I have the money. But if it means that you're wasting your money, then that is also not permissible. Even though you can afford it even though you don't consider yourself to be as a fee when it comes to money. So we learn about the prohibition of wasting wealth, we learned that in an arena cannot afford a shelter in the mobile during those people who are wasteful. They're the brothers of shape.

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What does it mean? That they spend where chevonne wants them to spend.

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Also, we learned from this is that the wealth that a lot of parents had has given to people is for what purpose to maintain your livelihood, and also spend on religious affairs on deenie affairs. So the wealth and loss of power that is given to the people is a means of subsistence as a means of livelihood for them, and also for the betterment of their worldly as well as religious affairs.

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Ultimately learn from this that if a person has been given money for a specific reason, like Allah has given us money for a specific reason, then we can not use that money for something else. Because the money has been given to us as pm and

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therefore Allah has said, Don't give the money to the sofa, because if you give it they're gonna waste it. So similarly, if somebody has given us money for a particular reason, we're not allowed to use it elsewhere. For instance, a child, a student of knowledge, they're given money

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by their parents, and what do they do with the money? Instead of spending on their books, instead of spending on their education, they go to the mall and buy themselves nice clothes and shoes.

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Sometimes the government gives grants to the students, or the universities that give scholarships to the students. What do the students do? Instead of spending on their education? What do they do they spend on fashion they spend on clothes, or they spend on a more expensive place that they could rent and show off to their friends? What does it show us that the money that has been given to us for a specific reason we must use it on that alone and not elsewhere. It's like an Amana on us. It's a trust on us. So those of you who have been given money by your parents to come here to stay here to spend on the fees, use it wisely, use it properly. They've given the hard earned money to you so

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that you can benefit. And the money that they're given for a purpose, make sure that you attain that purpose as well. you attain your goal as well, how much they're spending your parents so that you can come here and study. And if you don't study, you're spending your time doing something else wasting your time. What good is that? It's like so you're wasting their money.

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Ultimately, from this idea that the person who is responsible The Guardian be in charge, what is he supposed to do? He is obligated to spend on those who are under him. He is obligated to spend on those who are under him on what on there is as well as their kiswa their clothing. If you think of it, clothing comes under risk, doesn't it? But hasn't mentioned separately. But don't ignore this. Especially with children, what happens they outgrow their clothes. And women, they want new clothes all the time. So also cloud them.

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Also, we learned that it is our job upon a person to not speak to the others harshly just because of their foolishness. Sometimes we're talking to someone and they're talking about silly things nonsense, and we get very annoyed. And we think that we can just shout to them, or say some harsh words to them, or just put it out or hang up the phone. So in talking to someone who is Sufi, we don't have the license to speak to them harshly. In every situation in every circumstance, how should we speak to the other column microphones? A statement that is appropriate.

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khulumani

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Wallah

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had either been Oh nikka

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and dusty orphans in variabilities until they reach marriageable age, Waterloo, Emmylou is from the roof letters bear lamb Well, from the word Bella, which is a test a trial and empathy lab is to test and examine someone how, by exposing them to different situations.

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We learned earlier in sort of earlier month, that led to believe when you will surely be tested how, when you will be exposed to different different situations. So if the law is to test and examine someone by exposing them to different situations, and it's also by exposing them to different accidents, meaning events that they weren't expecting, or incidents that they weren't expecting. And for such situations for which they were not mentally prepared. Why is it important to do that? Like, for example, or a surprise test? Why is it important to do that, to see if they're really capable.

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Because as you're told from before, if you're mentally prepared from before, then you approach the test differently. Then you make sure that you have prepared and everything. But if it's a surprise, then what is truly inside of you is actually going to come out, you can't fake anything, you can't pretend anything. You can't have something in your mind for some time. So this is what if the law is to expose someone to different situations to an accident that they weren't expecting, they weren't ready for. And it is also such trials that are manifest that are visible meaning other people can

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See them.

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So over here unless has one button only aterna. Just the orphans, examine the orphans doesn't mean make them live a very difficult knowledge, like, put them to difficulty throughout their lives know, what this means is that keep testing them, keep trying them, keep exposing them to different situations. Why? So that they can develop a sense of money matters. Because the theme is someone who has not yet reached the age of puberty.

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Sometimes what parents do is that they don't give their children any money. And the children, they don't develop that sense of spending money. Which is why when they grow older and they get money, what do they do?

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They waste their wealth.

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They're not responsible with their money. But if the parents have been smart enough that they keep training their children, that okay, this is your money, I want you to spend only this much and keep this much for the next month. Save this much. This is your saving box. This is where you save your money.

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Similarly, if a child has received a lot of money than opening a bank account for him, that this is your account, even if it has a few $100. Why? Because a child feels responsible for the money.

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So whenever they don't get ama exposed, they get ama to different situations, so that they develop a sense of money matters, examine them before they reach maturity. And others have said that this is not just with regards to money matters, but it is also with regards to their Deen because remember, suffer. foolishness is not just because of being young in age or because of lack of sharpness or intelligence, but it is also because of the lack of Deen in a person. So Dustin, are the regular intersolar are the truthful? Are they honest, are the generous.

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So once you test them, you examine them and you see that they have developed that smartness. When it comes to money, then you give them the money. So what's gonna happen until either below nica until they reach nikka

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the word myka as you know is marriage. And over here, a nikka means marriageable age until they reach marriageable age, what is marriageable age? It is different in different cultures. It varies from culture to culture.

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According to some scholars, for girls, the marriageable age is 15 years. And for boys, it's 18 years. And according to Jeffrey, it is the completion of 15 years for both boys and girls. So, had they either Veronica until they reach marriageable age. So, basically, depending on the culture depending on the society depending on what is legal. For example, over here, if a girl wishes to get married at 13 at 14, she will not be allowed to have Dido Bella nica.

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So, up until that age, keep testing them keep trying them keep exposing them to different situations. So, when they reach marriageable age and if they say I want to get married, they should know how to use money they should know how to spend money, they should know how to take care of their spouse their children, female as the minimum Rushden then if you perceive from them rushed notice over here a nigga has been said and some other word has not been used, like puberty has not been used for them and ask them some prisms annunci

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anessa the word internet from the same route as well according to some which is to perceive something. So for in an estimate in home, if you perceive from them, which then maturity meaning if you sense that they have rushed in then you give them their wealth.

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Now the question is what is this rushed? rush there are many many definitions many many explanations many many meanings out there

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are the most comprehensive one is that rushed is personal discipline

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is not the subject of what is present mean good. And the sort of you can say is management, disposal of affairs. So has not the soft love is when someone is good in the management of their affairs. So for instance, you give them $20 then you say this is your lunch money for you and your sister. What happens? They go, they come back, I lost that money. Or they go they come back and they say I saw a donation box and I gave all that money over there. That's also good. But if your sister's very hungry, you're supposed to feed her first. Or they come back and say I found something that was very expensive. And I only bought one serving for myself and I didn't buy anything for my sister.

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Is that good management of the affairs? No. What does that show that the child is not ready. But if you give them the $20, and they go buy a meal for themselves and also for their sister, and they also managed to save some money for a snack, what does that show her Smithsonian? good management.

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So, if you perceive in them Rushden majority sound judgment, whether it is in matters of religion, or it is in matters of money, then what should you do for the pharaoh in a human world? Then you give them their wealth, it for some newsletters dalfampridine that are literally used to push something. And when it's followed by ILA, it is to deliver to pay so far the pharaoh Elysium and Waylon, give them their wealth, return them their wealth, hand over their wealth.

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So what are the two conditions over here? First of all, a nikka marriageable age and secondly, rushed both are important.

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If you say that the child has rushed even before marriageable age, can you give them money? No, it has to be marriageable age, it has to be maturity, physical maturity as well.

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Because if the child is too young, physically, he's not that mature, then again, he's vulnerable, somebody else would come in, take the money from him. So two conditions,

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one konoha and do not eat it, do not consume it. And this addresses to the guardians of the properties of the orphans, that do not consume the wealth is so often will be done extravagantly and hastily, meaning, don't use the wealth of the orphan for yourself,

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don't eat the wealth of the orphan yourself ISR often will be done. Though it is often newsletter senior author.

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And as you know, his life is extravagance, it is to spend extra, or it is to spend, where one should not spend, for example, spending on how long it is to exceed the limits and spending. It is to waste the money.

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So don't consume it is rough and what does it mean by this,

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that don't consume the wealth of the orphan without tract without need, without necessity, without right without need, without necessity.

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So, for example, if there is a person in his house and orphan is living,

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so, from the money of the orphan, he buys some food for the orphan. And as we discussed earlier, that when it comes to these matters, it is permissible to mix. Now when he goes to buy food, for the orphan from the orphans money, what does he do? He spends extra money. Why?

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So that he can get some food for himself or for his own children. But his Nia is what is suave, taking from the orphans money. So Allah says laka Kahlua is often don't consume it excessively,

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wabi Dharan and hastily.

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Without us America is bad that or, and but literally is to do something before it's due time.

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What is it?

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It is to do something before it's due time is actually over. So it is to do something in less time that is designated for it,

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to do something in less time that has been designated for it.

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For example, we learn from a hadith that is mentioned in most of the prophets are a lot of lives that lead to bad the Rooney bill recording was to duty,

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lead to bad you're on the same route, in record and Institute don't do by the loonie meaning do not get up from the record before me. Do not get it from the such that before me rather Follow me. So the time that I take, take that time, not less than that.

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So without gives a sense of how really speedily, hastily, so don't consume their wealth hastily and Yakubu that they will grow older, who will grow older, the orphan children

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that before they're old enough, let me use all of it quickly. So by the time that they're old enough, nothing is left for them.

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One is a slough. And the other is be the

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what is it slough extravagantly, you don't need it. You don't need to spend on yourself from their money but you spend it anyway. You don't have any right over it, but you take it anyway.

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And beyond that sometimes because of some reason you may be allowed to use the orphans property and Shall we look at those cases.

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So what does a person do that okay, he

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Only 10 years old, maybe within a few years, you'll be old enough. So let me just use it quickly. So neither of them is permissible. Islam is not permissible and without is not permissible without a little

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woman kind of onion. And whoever is rich, meaning whoever from the guardians of the orphans is rich, he has enough and he does not need anything from the orphans property. What does Allah say? For the assertive, then he should refrain? folio starfish is from newsletters I infer from the word refer.

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And what does it mean, to refrain to abstain from something. So for your staff, if he should refrain from taking a wage, he should refrain from using the property of the orphan. Sometimes, when you're looking after the property of the orphan, you can charge a wage. For instance, you're spending two hours every month or every week to manage the account of the orphan.

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You're taking his banking whatever, to the accountant to the lawyer, you're spending so much time so much of your money. So in that case, you can charge a wage, you can take away from the orphans money, but unless as whereas rich, meaning he has enough, he has plenty he doesn't need any more. If he's spending some money in order to manage the orphans, well, he's not becoming poor. So for the starfish, he should abstain. woman can fuckin and whoever is lucky

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that he should eat with meaning you should consume from the orphans property, how will model

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the what is models? What does he mean by this consuming the orphans property with my room?

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If you think of it, something that is not yours, it's not yours? How can you ever use it will maruf technically it doesn't belong to you. So how can you eat it with models? This has been understood in a number of ways as well. First of all, it has been said that a person should take it as a loan, with the intention of returning it when he's able.

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So for example, there is a man and he's looking after orphans under his care, and the orphans of money. Now, the Guardian, he is in a financial difficulty, he needs money.

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Either he can go to the bank or to a friend or somebody or the other and borrow some money from them. Or it's just easier that the money is in your house. It's just easier. It's in your house. So what's the ruling

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that folia can remove that he should take it, but he should consider it as a loan. And as soon as he is able to pay the orphan back, he should pay him back.

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Secondly, it has been said that what it means by maruf is that a person should take only what is needed. And not more than that.

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A person should only take what is needed and not more than that. A person should not say that I don't have any furniture in my house. So the house he inherited from his father has a lot of furniture, I need that friendship, let me bring it. No need is when you don't have anything.

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Let's say a person loses his job, he doesn't have money left. And he needs to eat food. He needs to bring food for the orphans and also for his own family. So he can consume from the wealth of the orphan, but only what is basic necessity. And this we find in the Hadees that is reported in Masada, that a man he asked the Messenger of Allah sallallahu sallam, I don't have money. But I have an orphan under my care. The brother thought allowed himself to eat from your orphans wealth, without extravagance or wastefulness or mixing it and without saving your money by spending his

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without saving your money by spending his Why?

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Because this is like to hire you to this is like living together and mixing your affairs only as much as as necessary. So for instance, this month, you cannot buy the groceries you don't have money. So what do you do? This month you go buy groceries from your friends money. Next month, you will buy from your money for the next five months you're buying from your money. And then again, you don't have money. So what are you going to do? You can take from the orphans when because he's living with you. It's just like, when two sisters or two friends when they're living together, sometimes what happens? You spend and other times they spend when you go to the cafeteria one day

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you buy lunch, and the other day they buy lunch. It happens but you don't take advantage of them. You don't take advantage of them. That just because it's her turn to buy the lunch Okay, let me order this. Let me order that as well. You don't do that.

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Thirdly, it has been said that folia COVID maruf. What this refers to is that a person should take it as a wage. Meaning he should take only the cost of looking after the orphan or looking after the property of the

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Often, you should only charge for the service that he's offering. And that also should be will matter.

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That if you tell somebody about this is how much you're taking from the orphans property, it should be acceptable. That typically the wage for looking after somebody's property is let's say $100 per month, but you're charging 500 is that my roof? It's not my roof. So, failure could be my roof meaning as an odra as a wedge, but only the amount that is generally acceptable in the society at the time. So, failure could be love,

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failure the fire to LA then when you have paid when you have given Elysium to them and while home their wealth, when when will you give them their wealth

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when they have Bulava nica and secondly, an esteem booster. So, when these two conditions are fulfilled, and if you are giving their wealth back to them, how should you give it? What does Allah say? For us he do you then take witnesses upon them?

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upon who? upon the orphans, meaning at the time of giving the wealth to the orphan call witnesses.

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Not now this is something that is a command of recommendation. This is Mr. Hall, this is preferable, it's not something that is mandatory. However, this is preferable. Why?

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Because it's possible that after some time, they come and say that I actually inherited this much. And you gave me less than that. Or they come and say I didn't find this, I didn't find that. so in this situation, if you have witnesses at that time, there will be no miscommunication. no misunderstanding afterwards, but actually do I let him

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walk up I will a perceiver and sufficient is Allah as an accounting

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meaning we should call people to account but at the end of the day whose Shahada is enough?

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the name of a loss of power that has been used over years has seen and has seen this one the roof letters have seen

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from the word he said, What is his army to take account? So Hasib is one who takes account, one who takes account of the other.

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So first of all, it has he was understood as Mohammed who has a one who takes account.

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So also penalties has a meaning more has said that he takes account of the deeds of the people, whatever they do. Why is this name used over here in this context?

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The context is off accounting, you are managing their affairs you're being told don't consume a Seraph will be the only consumed with maruf.

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And when you sense the two conditions in them, then you give them their wealth. At the time of giving call witnesses. All of this is what he said.

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So when you're doing all of this facade, remember that there is someone else's going to take your hisab who is going to call you to account

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you're managing the accounts of someone and somebody else is going to ask you about your guns, somebody else is going to hold you accountable. So fear him. workers have been there he has even

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Secondly, it has been said that he gives meaning of Rocky, one who is observer, one who watches one who observes Shaheed a witness how because one who takes account, he can only take account when he's aware. And when are you aware when you've seen so has it gives a sense of Shaheed as well. So woke up I believe he has seen

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what do we learn from Messiah.

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First of all, we learned that it is an obligation upon the guardian of the orphan, to not just provide for the food and water and clothing on the orphan, but also to train him so that he is prepared for life so that he's able to manage his affairs, because whether the lulea can just examine the orphans, meaning expose them to different situations. Why?

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So that they can be ready, they can manage their own affairs in the future.

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Sometimes they're very protective about our own children or about young children. And we don't expose them to difficulties we don't expose them to different situations, which does not make them prepared to deal with life when they grow older.

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So when it comes to care of the orphan, it's not just necessary to provide for the food and clothing and shelter, but rather it is also to do tarbiyah.

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There is also to train them properly to educate them just as you would want good education for your children. Similarly, you should want good education for the orphan children under your care.

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Worried about that as well. Teach them skills, train them because they are

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To live a life without their parents.

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Secondly, we learn that when they get in, when the orphan child has reached the age of marriage, and he also has wished, then it is mandatory upon the guardian to return his wealth.

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It is mandatory upon the Guardian, then the Guardian cannot say that no, no, you're still too young.

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Or he cannot make excuses that no, you don't have rushed yet. So I'm going to keep delaying. And while he's delaying, he's charging a wage. Because if he were to hand over the wealth of the orphan at 15 years of age, and not 18 years, and he's missing out on the wage of three years. So what does this ayah tell us that as soon as you find these two qualities, these two traits in the orphan, it is mandatory upon you to return the wealth of the orphan to him,

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ultimately, from this is about the justice of the last panel,

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door to the orphan as well as the guardian.

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Because unfortunately, we become very biased. Once we start giving the rights to the orphans, we neglect the other party.

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What does Allah say? He does not neglect any of the,

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that the orphan, his wealth should be preserved should be guarded. But at the same time, the Guardian, he's spending so much money, so much time to look after the affair, so he should be allowed to charge, he should be allowed to benefit.

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So we learn about Allah subhanaw taala is justice towards the orphan, as well as the guardian of the orphan?

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Also, we learn from this ayah that the commands of the Sharia the laws that are lost, and God has given us in our Deen, they have a lot of flexibility in them. What does it mean?

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If you cannot pray standing, then you can preset it. How do we learn this from desire,

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that if a person is learning, you should not charge. But if he's four, he needs it, then you can charge he can take. So we see that there is a lot of flexibility in our Deen, that depending on the situation that the person is in, depending on that a command will be given to him. And this shows to us the mercy of our last panel that just imagine there was one hard and fast rule, you do it or you die, that no matter how much time you're spending, no matter how much money you're spending, you're not allowed to take anything at all, how difficult that would be for the people, how difficult

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also we learn from this idea that in situations where disagreements and arguments are possible in the future, then in such situations, witnesses should be brought.

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Because Allah says, For Ashley, do you then call witnesses Why? Because there is a possibility of an argument of a misunderstanding in the future. So in order to avoid that eyewitness as simple as that

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recitation,

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woman,

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woman,

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either.

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We learn about the mercy and the justice of a loss of panel data behind all of the commands and

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all of the commands that He has given there is justice. There is no bias. There is Rama, there is mercy. And there is also his great wisdom.

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For instance, the command that we learned earlier, the permissibility of marrying more than one wife, we become biased about a woman. What about her? It's not fair. How would she feel? Allah cares about her, but at the same time, he's also just towards the men.

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If he wants children, or he likes somebody, then Allah is just so if the man is told that No, you cannot have more than one wife at a time, so if he doesn't like his pregnant wife anymore, he likes another woman war, or he does not have children with her. One is that he divorces her and then he goes and marries somebody else. Is that fair? Is that just no. So we see the Justice

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Remember, all of the commands that Allah has given there is justice. There is Rama. Allah is not biased. It's we unfortunately, we are biased.

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What else have we learned

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the importance of exposing our young children to different situations so that they're equipped to deal with life.

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Because many times children are so protected, that they can't do anything. They can't manage their own selves at all. Forget about managing their spouse or managing their children. They cannot because all the time their mother is the one who cleans for them, who cooks for them, who feeds them, who washes the dishes and everything the girl doesn't know anything. So as a result, what happens when she gets married. And when she stole cook, she think it's injustice.

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And we can understand this with the example of little infants. Sometimes we people are very protective, and keep them clean and everything all the time. They don't take them outside. They don't let anybody touch them. And what happens is that their immune system is not as strong them because they're not equipped.

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You need to expose your children to difficult situations and sometimes difficult situations means no candy if you want it. No chocolate if you want.

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That is what difficulty is sometimes you have to make your children rough and tough as what they say. So that they're able to deal with the difficulties. Otherwise, what happens a small thing and they start crying. They give up. They cannot excel in life.

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