Remember Me and I Will Remember You – Qur’anic Healing #1

Omar Suleiman

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Santa Monica de la heat over a cartoon of blasphemy Are you gonna shave on our jeans now, Mr. Heyman handed in a banana. I mean, what one is not alone, I mean, we're happy to have him alongside us. And I'm about to cut avocado, suka Mohammed in Salalah. And he was alone, and only he was happy to sell him to see Monica theater. I want to welcome you all back to our nightly program keeping connected with the Quran. And this is our first episode of Quranic healing and panela. As we have been connecting with the Quran in so many different ways over the last few nights, from the parables to the miracles to, you know, the reflections and the themes, we have to remember that the Quran is

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called a Shiva, it is a healing for what is in our tests, and Allah knows that we need a lot of healing at all times, and especially with everything that is going on. And it's wonderful to be able to approach the Quran from an interdisciplinary standpoint where we extract some of the gems and some of the miracles from it, that involve layers that we probably would not have been able to consider due to our lack of expertise or whatever it may be. And so we're blessed and humbled to have with a sister najwa tonight and show what's on it to help us to look at it from a healing perspective to look at a verse from a healing perspective. And every week inshallah, we'll be

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integrating that element of mental health and emotional health, to understand the world on a deeper level and connect to it at a deeper level and to extract from its verses of healing but not atana and reflections of healing. And so the verse we're going to be talking about tonight, inshallah tada is fast could only have Kodachrome watch karate without a Quran, verse 152, from sort of Bukhara, where Allah says, Remember me and I will remember you be grateful to me and do not deny me. And I'm not going to go into detail with the verse except just the first part to touch on this idea of fifth Cutrone, Kodachrome remember me and I will remember you. remembrance has a formal manifestation and

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vipkid as in the ritual of the kid. And remembrance is something that is inherently embedded in every one of our iba dots, particularly are about to include the acts of worship that emanate from the heart. And so how do you remember a lot in terms of the kid in terms of the actual practice of remembrance of Allah with the prophets lie Southern called hustlin, Muslim with the Prophet sly, some called the fortress of the Muslim, and he sets like that It blocks out the shape on that the remembrance of Allah blocks out the shape on that is the remembrance of Allah in terms of the car subpanel on handed land it not a lot like what are the various phrases that we say, of glorification

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of declaring his perfection of affirming his oneness of affirming his greatness, and seeking His forgiveness through is to fopp affirming his absolute power through Hola, Lakota labella. These are some of the formal remembrances and if you remember from the angel series, that idea of gatherings of remembrance that whoever remembers the loss of Hannah Montana says, I had these Pudsey, whoever remembers me in a gathering, then I remember him in a gathering better than that gathering. And whoever remembers me with himself than I remember him with myself. And so that's the kid in that sense, but a lot also calls salon he calls prayer, they can a lot of calls the call on the kid

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itself. What this means for us is that there is no elements in your life in any act of worship or otherwise, that you remember Allah, in the capacity of worship and the capacity of gratitude and the capacity of seeking forgiveness, except that Allah will reciprocate in a better way. So if you seek forgiveness from Allah, Allah will overwhelm you with His mercy in a way that you would not have thought as possible. If you thank Allah, the vicar of Allah, the, the element of remembering a lot, particularly in Acts of gratitude, I talked about when God sends you a dog or a drunkard. A few Well, it's been a long time, I think it's been like five or six weeks ago in that, in that hope, but

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the reflections where we talked about this idea of that person who's giving water to that thirsty dog and check out a law a shutout Allah who was grateful to Allah so Allah was grateful to them now, I'm going to leave that part to Sister najwa inshallah, but the idea that that person connected, that I was thirsty in a lot provided for me, this dog is thirsty, therefore, I should provide for that dog and a lot overwhelmed that person with a lot of gratitude to that person. So panela even though a lot owes us nothing, he shows us gratitude so you never remember a lot in the capacity of anything except

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remembers you in a better way, whether it's in the capacity of worship gratitude or forgiveness, and somehow it's very interesting the next I Oh, by the way was that you know, you had been lost plenty of calls out to the believers to seek help. The sobriety was salaat with patience and prayer, and some of the right amount said that patience here refers to the act of fasting many of them have vested in said that, that actually means solid here means asleep, the act of fasting, and Salah is the worship or the act of worship that is most befitting to gratitude. And that's why shavon sought to disconnect us from Salah through making us ungrateful and so Allah says practice patience and

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gratitude, but in the in the manifestation of actual worship deeds of worship through fasting and prayer. And this is how you draw close to Allah subhanaw taala with works with patients and works of gratitude. So inshallah Tada, I want to welcome with that inshallah, Thai Sister najma, who, of course, needs no introduction, has done many of our programs and handed out written much at European we're very grateful for her presence. We're very grateful for her insights. We're grateful for what you provided to us in the post Ramadan and the pre Ramadan webinar to talk a little bit about some of the elements of this idea that we can take from a mental health perspective and from a healing

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perspective and Chatelet on

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exactly what they are for such a warm welcome. This is one of my my favorites, is because it's so simple. And then the wisdom that comes from it that touches on mental health and well being is so profound. And so panela when we when we think about gratefulness, or even just emotions in general, when we talk to our children, we talked about others with primary emotions, we usually think of what happiness, we think of sadness, we think of fear, when we tell our children express yourself, how do you feel? Do you feel angry? But rarely do we say?

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Do you feel grateful, or we identify that as a primary emotion. And a panel of the philosophers in the past used to say that happiness is a byproduct of gratefulness, that it's not that happiness is the primary emotion in and of itself, but it's a byproduct is something that cannot happen unless you are grateful. So I enjoy, I'm just going to talk about a few things from a psycho spiritual perspective. I think we all know the benefits of being grateful from a spiritual perspective. It helps us connect to Allah, it's commanded for us to to be grateful to him, in fact, it's a minor shock when we deny the the blessings that he has bestowed on us. And, and we are ungrateful in that

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way. So it's not just something that is recommended, but it's something that we that we need to do.

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And it's in the best interest of shavon, as she mentioned, to, to take us away from Allah and one of the ways that he does that is through ungratefulness. And we know that instead of

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then I will come to them from before them and from behind them and on the right and on their left, and you will not find most of them grateful to you. So panela, like one of his tactics, one of Satan's tactics in taking us away from a VA is you know, not just distraction, but ultimately being ungrateful to him and misery loves company. So it's not just that shaytan is, is ungrateful to a lot of colleges, imagining what he said to to Allah, but that it

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being ungrateful is not good spiritually. But then we also find in the mental health literature, that it's not good from a from a research perspective, either. So it's gratefulness is something that kind of touches all aspects of our life.

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Whether it's whether it's getting closer to a lot more or getting away from him, but also getting going moving towards depression or moving away from it.

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So when we, when we look at the benefits of gratefulness, one of the primary things that it does is that it it has healing factors in many different ways. And one of that is that it protects us from cognitive distortions. And if you read the trauma series that saw and I had done,

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each of our chapter addresses a cognitive distortion. And cognitive distortion is really just a fancy term for unhealthy way of thinking. And we all sometimes have unhealthy ways of thinking, distortions. But gratefulness is a way to protect ourselves from that. So I'm just going to pick a couple from our series and just talk about how gratefulness protects us. So catastrophizing. catastrophizing is when something bad happens to us and it can be something really significant. But then we turn it into, we make it such a big deal and we forget

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The Grateful, being grateful and the and the blessings that Allah has bestowed on us. So let's just take a few major things like divorce, or maybe you fail the semester. And so if you were to catastrophize, you would say something like, my life is over, there's nothing good about me, there's nothing good in my life.

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There's no benefit in continuing. And so while these things are really significant, it's just taking those things and,

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and rejecting all of the other good things in your life. And so when we look at gratefulness, what gratefulness does is it shifts our mindset, and it helps us identify that there are negative things that there can be negative things in our life, but there's always something to be grateful for. So for example, if you are going through a divorce, you can say, I have a wonderful children as a result of this marriage, or I have learned so many things from my marriage, although, you know, we're going to get separated, if you fail the semester. And you can say, Okay, well, maybe I didn't do too well. But I learned a lot of things, or I made certain connections, or and now I have the

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motivation to push me in ways I didn't I couldn't have done before. So it's looking to that silver lining and saying, yes, this thing could potentially be a bad thing in my life. But they're good, there could be good that comes from it, or there's so much other good things in my life, that it's okay i can i can cope with it, I can deal with it.

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Another kind of distortion is filtering. And what happens with filtering is that it kind of becomes like a lens. And so

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you end up over time filtering, only the the negative things in your life, or sorry, you're actually filtering out the positive, and you're only seeing the negative. So what happens is, our brains reinforce whatever it is, that becomes a habit for us. So if we put on these glasses, and the whole world looks negative to us, then all of a sudden, only those negative things are going to pop out and we start to disregard some of the positives.

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And so gratefulness again, it offsets that by

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correcting that filter and saying, you know, there is negative, there's so much negative in the world right now. But then, you know, there is a lot of positive, too.

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And

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so it almost like it has an effect on on how we view the world, which really affects everything, right? It doesn't just affect our mental health, but also our spirituality. And it protects us from falling into some of these cognitive distortions, because once they set in, it's very hard to to get out.

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And

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as I mentioned before, what happens is it gets reinforced, so over time, it just becomes easier and easier to participate either in gratefulness, or ungratefulness.

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And so having done that, like that, that's a major thing in terms of mental health, in terms of how we look at the world. And the other thing is, they found that just from like a chemical perspective, it helps people who practice gratefulness, they found in the research, they have better sleep, they have better heart health.

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And they have lower cortisol. So even from like, if we're going to look at it from a holistic perspective, because we already talked about the spiritual, and then we have some cognitive, if you're going to look at it from like a physiological perspective, it also can have a lot of positive effects on your body as well. And the reason it is so abundant on on gratefulness, they've even found it to be an elixir healing non Muslim researchers have said that great practicing gratefulness can be a healing. And that's such a profound thing. Because we know that we know the benefits from a spiritual perspective for someone else to say that we already believed it but that just reinforces

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how important gratefulness is for for depression, for example, they found that it increases serotonin and dopamine, something that protects you from depression or anxiety, they found that practicing gratefulness activates your sympathetic system. Again, something good for grief. As as difficult as grief can be for us, they found that gratefulness being grateful for whatever you lost whether it's a person or something really important to you, has helped facilitate grief for those people. So almost feels like there's nothing that gratefulness can't touch that it it makes it better. And and that's one of the reasons why I love the so much because it's literally just you

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know a few words and such a such a healing for for us.

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And, you know, I think there are myths sometimes about gratefulness in that you know, if we are are grateful that that means we can to be sad sometimes we can you know have grief sometimes

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They're not opposites, it's certainly protects us from things like depression, and anxiety. But you can be grateful and sad at the same time. Those don't contradict each other.

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And I think sometimes people have unnecessary guilt, especially when they're grieving, or they're going through a hard time, why am I not more or less something here a lot, I should be more grateful I should, and you are more grateful and continue to practice your gratefulness. But it doesn't take away from from those feelings. Another thing that I hear oftentimes do is when we talk about people coming to therapy, like I want to come to therapy, but ultimately, I'm just going to be, I'm just gonna be practicing on gratefulness, because I'm just complaining. I'm just backbiting about other people. And that's not what therapy is about, you are not going to necessarily to complain, you're

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going there to express your feelings, express them the difficult things that you're going through, so that you can get better. It's almost like being proactive, you're not going there to backbite you're going there to problem solve, you know, I have issues within my family. And you can be grateful, I'm grateful for my family. But we have issues that we need to resolve and that's not backbiting. So I think sometimes we have our own myths, that being grateful, just having happy face all the time. It's not necessarily the case. Well, so you know, what are some of the ways that we can practice gratefulness? We know just from a from a spiritual perspective, we can we can pray, we

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can do that. And that even ties into the beginning of the eye about remembrance of Allah, remembering him praising him

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all those things from a spiritualist, connecting with him and just reflecting on the blessings that He has given us. Research, however, shows that however, Research also shows that being grateful to people is a great way of fostering gratitude. And we know that we cannot, we have to think people in order to think a lot as well, like if we think that people and that we think a lot. So one of the things they found in research is writing like a gratitude letter. And it just takes five minutes, they found that gratitude letters help. They have to, they recommended that they are detailed, but just five minutes. And they found that just a five minute note to someone saying thank you for

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whatever it is that you have done, has such a big impact on that person's mental health. We found having a gratitude journal, you know, writing, just having a private journal, and going over the blessings that are in your life. One of the easiest things you know, for me is reflecting on blessings, whether in the morning or in the evening, it's a great thing to integrate with your children. That's actually a family thing that my my husband does. What are you thankful for today, and that's a way of cultivating gratitude with children, as well.

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So when you go and you research about gratefulness, there's so many ways to be grateful. hemmed in by like, you know, Allah has made it so easy on us.

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So those are just some just some of those thoughts.

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So hello, so many things that came to mind as you were speaking.

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And by the way, the What are you grateful for? We do that with our kids, as well, every night three things that you're grateful for, you have to save them before you sleep.

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And, you know, it definitely cultivates a great sense of analog within a family. And I, I want to seize upon one thing that you mentioned that really, really I think hits home,

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which is the idea of being grateful in sadness,

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since people see those as two contradicting states that you can't be grateful and sad. And then you look at the structure of the eye out a lot starts off with Vicki, remember him and when you remember him, you can't help but be grateful to him, right. So it's like an extension of the good there is no way you're going to become more aware of Allah, except that you will become more grateful to Allah. And then the next verse assumes that you're in a hardship all of a sudden, right stay in over slavery or Salah to see closeness to Allah with patience and prayer in the Lama slobbing Allah is with those who are patient. So it's like there is an assumption that, look, you're remembering

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Allah, you are grateful to Allah. And then as soon as something happens, or as soon as you find yourself in a difficult situation, you seek help through those practices of patience and prayer. And so it's an assumption that you're going to face from gratitude into a state of hardship, and patience, in hardship is basically gratitude through perspective, right, you're in the midst of a hardship, and you're grateful for what you still have. And you know, you're using all of those tools and techniques that you've mentioned, that I'm obviously not familiar with in terms of the technical terminology, or the full depth of those subjects, but

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are using perspective to get ahead and to maintain step sanity and stability, you're not necessarily negating the sadness, you're, it seems like you're you're magnifying the happiness or the sources of happiness that are still in your life. Right?

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Yes. And I love that you said that all the I, you know, tie into each other. And there's so many. I was just reading last night, that there's so many ways to be grateful and to remember him to write that there is with our tongue, and then with through our limbs and through our heart. And so like, whatever circumstances that we are in, sometimes we don't have the luxury of being able to win a practice openly or whatnot. That there, there is a way to practice gratefulness in any given situation, whether you are able to do it secretly or openly.

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What's the what is the relationship? I mean, I think that a lot of people,

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when we're talking about conflation, there's a great sense of guilt Subhanallah, like when it comes to seeking help. And as you were speaking, the only analogy that I could make in terms of the difference between getting help, which will necessarily involve some sort of divulging of details. That's not in the capacity of the lever of backbiting or gossip or Chautauqua or just empty complaining. But problem solving, though the analogy that I thought of was sending, you know, the Hadith where the prophets lie, some condemned a job just to publicize your sin, the prophet sighs I was not talking about a person who goes to get help, because they have not been able to privately

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combat that sin. The Prophet slicin was talking about a person who boasts and who unnecessarily exposes themselves when Allah has covered them. And I think that this is an important, subtle, but very important point, because I think it stops people from getting help sometimes because they feel like

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just the basic divulging of details in your life, takes away from the quality of your data and takes away from your relationship with a law. So how do you tell someone that feels too guilty? To go to therapy, or to get help from someone? Whether it's in a formal or informal capacity? How do you tell someone that you're not, you are not betraying your faith, this is not a betrayal of your, of the quality of your diet or your Chautauqua. But this is a means of you getting closer to Allah subhanaw taala? What are some things that you help people get through?

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it? You know, it has been a challenge. And one of the things that I'm personally grateful for is that, you know, there has been such

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a merging of the field of psychology and Islam in the past. Well, I mean, it's been forever, but more recently, the resources are more accessible. And so I think that also, one of the biggest obstacles that

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prevents people from seeking counseling is they have this mindset that they're going to go and talk

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from a non Western perspective, that it's completely secular based, I think a lot of people still have that image of Freud in their head, here, and they're thinking, Okay, so it's going to be this person who I don't know that I it's shameful for me to disclose all these secrets, things that I should keep private. Once upon a while, when we look at therapy as a means of getting closer to a law, that I have something that

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that is, is harming me, what for whatever reason, the sadness, or the grief, or the anxiety is preventing me from being able to fulfill that purpose that Allah has put me, put me on the earth for, because a lot of times you find people with depression, anxiety, becoming, they say, I can't pray, I can't pray, I want to pray, I can't. Or I used that for sure. And now I don't. And so we find that these mental health issues when you're keeping it to yourself,

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and it's preventing you from doing all the good deeds that you want to do, it becomes a barrier between you and your event. So looking at it, maybe from the up from another perspective, that this could be a way for you to get closer to Allah. This is a way to break cycles for generations that have passed down unhealthy behaviors, time and time again. Now, is it ideal to be able to solve some of these things within yourself? Yeah, I mean, of course, but there shouldn't be that guilt that I am betraying my family, or even some kind of sin. We know the people that went to the prophet SAW some and asked for advice.

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And then even if you want to take it a step further, and say, let's look at it from a medical perspective, you know, none of us feel shame, when we have diabetes, or we have low blood pressure or whatever, and we go to a doctor, nobody, I mean, and you can say that there are factors that you factor, personal choices that you're making that might be contributing to that

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Your medical conditions, right? When nobody goes and says, Well, I don't want to disclose to, to my doctor that, you know, I eat a bag of chips every day. And that's why we run to the doctor, right? Fix me fix it. And so even just looking at it from that perspective, that we have these professionals and you know, that are available to us. And that can help us and everything is spaced confidential. It's not like your therapist will go and betray you or go to other people.

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And expose you, it stays, it stays private. And when you do find a Muslim therapist, for example, they're able to connect, hadden, they're able to connect at so that you can start to put the pieces in your in your life and find that psycho spiritual healing that we

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that we strive for. So with that concept of therapy, and you know,

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you know, I don't want this to become a full discussion on whether it's okay to go to therapy or not, well, we know it's okay to go to therapy, but go to therapy, and this is your this is your outlet. I mean, are there elements of doing that? Have? You know, you mentioned practicing gratitude as a means of warding off looming depression, that certainly does not mean that there are not levels of depression, right? And so are there certain things that we should keep in mind here, with our personal practices, right, I personally by that connection, right, that would ward off sort of the necessity to take it to that next level to escalate it to the next level.

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up Yeah, there are definitely things that we can do to promote mental health. And I, you know, you bring up something very important in that there are different kinds of depression.

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And, you know, having met with people over a while, I've been able to see the the different manifestations of, for example, some people is a purely physical, physiological thing. So you might see a woman, for example, who has never experienced depression, but then has a baby has postpartum depression, we know that all the hormones and all that there is a big physiological aspect to it, right. So that's an example of

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something like more of a medical, physiological kind of depression. We know some people have environmental depression, for example, you might be very mentally healthy, but you might live with a narcissist, or someone who abuses you. It's not necessarily you, it's your environment, or, you know, a very common thing is you might have a boss, right, who was just very, very toxic. It's not necessarily you, but it's your environment. So that can cause you know,

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depression, some of us might be engaging in unhealthy behaviors,

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you know, poor diet, not getting the sleep that we need to not getting a lot of exercise, all these things can contribute to depression. So there are some people who is kind of personal choices. And so those are things that they can control that we can control. And I think that we should look at practicing gratefulness falls into that category of something that's protected, something we have a choice with. And then I've seen spiritual depression, where, you know, you see people who

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is it direct result of disobeying Allah, like, they, they're, there are certain sins that they are, they are they know, are wrong, and they continue to do it for whatever reason. And it brings so much,

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so much trouble to their life. And just as a direct result, and sometimes they say, Okay, well, I feel like, you know, you know, Allah hates me, because, you know, I'm committing these sins, and, you know, bad things are happening. And I try, have them distinguish, there are natural consequences to your actions. So if you are engaging in things that you shouldn't be doing, whether illegal, or how whatever, there's going to be natural consequences, you might argue that by luck, you know, punishing you or whatnot, might actually be something good for you, and that he's trying to deter you from that. But I just want to point out that there is a spiritual depression, and sometimes

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people have a combination of all of them.

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flow in terms of what we can control, focusing on the behaviors we can control, like eating, sleeping, having good company, reading the Quran, you know, although I think bigger also, there's research that improves mental health. So those are the things that we can control and we should do those. But then when it becomes a physiological thing like postpartum depression, which is very common,

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then then that's something that we need to to go after, if it's something spiritual, also consulting with an Imam. So it kind of depends on what the person has, but for sure, we can be proactive in getting the help that we need and safeguarding not just our mental health, spiritual health as well. There was one thing you mentioned and perhaps we can talk a little bit about this. Why do we feel so good when we do something good

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For someone else, and they thank us, right like you know, the way that you feel when you do something where you work an act of gratitude. So you, you send someone something that they weren't expecting, you basically show axon to someone else, excellence to someone else, right, because you exceed their expectations of you. And then you see a heartfelt thank you note, write a text message, and it brings joy to you. Why is that?

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You know, I was reflecting on that a while ago, I don't know that they know. But we can we have a lot of potential ideas as to why this might happen. It could be just the inherent blessings of Allah and that, like, we are thankful to the people. And we know that when we're thankful to Allah, He gives us more, it could be that just by itself, but if we were going to look at it from like a pro social behavior when we are when we do good things for other people, for whatever reason, it makes us feel good, it releases certain chemicals in our brain. And also, it just, when we see someone else reciprocate, that also makes us feel good. And it motivates us to want to do more. So it's one

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of those things where, like, so much good come from it in so many different aspects, it's hard to know which one causes it.

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But if you're right, I mean, the research totally supports that when you do something good for somebody, it definitely comes back, magnified. So the reason why I was asking is because and I think you know from from a shocker to Allah gurunath, Guru calm, remember me, I will remember you a lot does not need you to remember him. But if you remember him, It's for your own good. Whether you remember him or not, it is not going to affect him. subhanho wa Taala, it will affect us. Wish guru Lee and be grateful to me not because Allah needs your gratitude, but it's good for you. I was just reflecting on a statement from our parking lot. And he was talking about good deeds, because good

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deeds are purist, when they're done out of a sense of sugar to Allah, that is Exxon. Right? That's excellent that you feel motivated by just how the Prophet seisen did when he when he stood up and prayed all night, should I not be a grateful? I've done shockula should I not be a grateful servants of Allah subhanaw taala. And I thought about him Allah, He said that everything that happens in life, every good that you have, it expires, you know, it has it has a term to it, an expiration to the right. But when it comes to good deeds, you feel good. When you do good deeds, you feel good every time you think back and remember that good deeds. So there's a thicket of the good deed and

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the loader was talking about this, by the way, in our automatic reflections. So the remembrance of the narrator, as a memory actually was talking about in the webinar, the remembrance of the Nam as an airman so he said, to remember the way you know, to remember the good deed, like you don't look back and say that time I, you know, I did PM, that time I volunteered and I hated it. No, I mean, you feel good, when you think back to it. And he said, the greatest joy is when you meet Allah with that good deed. So three periods of joy, the joy of doing the good, the joy of remembering the good, the joy of being remembered with the good on the Day of Judgment, because you allow to remind you of

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the good on the day of judgment that you did, and allow rewards you for it. And you know, you think about the blessing of good deeds. Like when you think back to the time that you read, that you were a source of joy in someone else's life, that you acted gratefully towards someone and that you lit up someone's life that person felt good, especially if it's someone that's beloved to you. Every time you think about it, it's it's a sweet memory. So panela

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Yeah, it's so beautiful that we go back to allow with, with those good deeds waiting for us. Sometimes I hear people say, Well, I you know, I do things for other people and they don't reciprocate, or they don't do something back to me. But when you do for the sake of Allah, you know that no matter what inshallah, he's going to reward you for that good deed. So doing it for his sake, alone. Support Allah is something that nobody would be as a need that nobody would be able to fulfill besides Him. And that's why some of them out there said that guru, Guru calm is not wash guru ash guru calm because it's already established that remember me, I remember you. So it's not be

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grateful. And I'll be grateful to you because that's established in the first part of the I remember me and I'll remember you and some people hold back doing good deeds are showing acts of gratitude. Because the fear of rejection writer, it's not going to be reciprocated, but with a law you have that certainty that it will be reciprocated, right. So that fear is gone. You don't have to worry about it not being repaid in a way that's going to disappoint you or not even being acknowledged. Right? How

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does that get a lot of hate on SR natural This is very beneficial handling a low reward you and the loss of Hannah Montana, allow all of the people that are typing good things and things as I can lo hate on to you may allow allowed to overwhelm you in your life with good, isn't it time and be a source of balance in your life as well. So we're great

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