Channel: Omar Suleiman
Qur’anic Healing Episode 2
Part of our nightly keeping connected with the program and for some some how to love this this program which allows us to look at the end as a sci fi and it is a sci fi source of healing in so many different ways really is so needed, right? why there's so much going on and particularly when there's so much going on, it's harder for us to sense the presence of a loss of Hannah Montana the knowledge of a loss of hundreds out of the all encompassing wisdom of Allah subhanaw taala and that's part of the joy and part of the struggle that we have is to actually see through those circumstances and connect with Allah subhana wa tada at a deeper level. Knowing that Allah is always
in control, you know, Allah subhana wa tada is ever so subtle as these things play out in our lives and inshallah Todd, that's going to be what we're going to talk about tonight is this concept of Allah, his look, his, his being subtle, in the midst of all of these circumstances, yet never losing control, never losing power and us finding great strength in connecting with a loss of Hannah Montana, who is always in control and always watching over us even if at times, we may be distracted by our circumstances and distracted by the conditions that are all around us. So we're blessed and humbled to have with us sister sada silcon, 100 and na who of course, is a regular, she's a fellow
at European and also a co author of the trauma series that you have seen and handed it out along with Sister najwa who we had last week and has really done a lot have did a lot to help us contextualize faith through the lens of mental health and our emotional health and I'm very excited to speak about this subject in particular inshallah tada of a love being a leaf and the implications of that and Charlotte's eyes so we want to welcome sister sada inshallah, and the floor is all yours
to zakon low height on this one level slotless llamada suit allow on it and he was happy here, woman Willa, and my bad. So I wanted to get to everybody, I just Aquila item for joining in. And hamdulillah. This is one of my all time favorite names of Ellis prime data. And I'm going to go a little bit into why that is.
But you know, when we're talking about this name, I want to just set up a context of it through the lens of mental health and spiritual health and how they are so deeply intertwined, right, where when we think about the impact, you know, these days, we're seeing so much of what's going on. And a lot of it is traumatic for a lot of people, particularly our brothers and sisters in the black community. But even for those outside of the black community and seeing in seeing everything that is happening, that has happened for a lot of people, our eyes are just now opening. And that can be, you know, a hugely
traumatic experience and being able to see that and see what everybody has experienced in their history. So Panama. And so when we're looking at it from that lens, and when we're looking at things from the lens of trauma, one thing we have to realize is trauma is not just a an experience that impacts our mental and emotional health. But it's something that it's something that can really impact our spiritual health as well. And so when we have experience in the focus in in what I wanted to cover today, is the experience of betrayal, the experience of disappointment, the experience of feeling pain, at the hands of somebody else, that in and of itself is what's called and the
disruption of an attachment bond, right? So when we are really close to somebody, when we have that sense of trust in somebody, and we have been betrayed by them, that can be a huge disruption in our lives. But it can also impact us from a spiritual standpoint and can impact our trust in everybody, including data. And so when we go through difficult situations, sometimes we think to ourselves, you know, I've done everything right. I don't deserve this, my life is still falling apart, I feel betrayed. And that sense of betrayal can be over generalized to even encompass a loss parent Donna, right, which is a very, very difficult experience for for us as as muslimeen when we're trying to
build that bond with LS Pat data. And what this then creates is this tendency, this overgeneralization, where one single event or several different events, can then paint a picture of our lives where we then expect the negative thing and the painful thing to happen over and over and over again. And what we do when that happens is we start to look for evidence that this is
being proven true. And when we look for evidence of tragedy, when we look for evidence of disappointment, negativity, pain, hurt, betrayal, disappointment, we will find it. Right because life is in and of itself a test and life is in and of itself imperfect. And then when we do that, the next step that sometimes can happen is we generalize that to almost data. And so that's what, when we're thinking about the plan as a source of shifa as a source of healing, when we're when we're trying to use to really use the Quran in that way for us, then, you know, looking at some of these at where Ls pathauto describes himself as a Latif can be very, very transformational. So one
of the most difficult things that comes with, with trauma, and the difficult experiences that we see in our lives, but then also, the difficult experiences that we see in the lives of others, is that it can sometimes push us away from the ultimate source of comfort and support. When we have experienced difficulties, we tend to feel frozen, we tend to feel panicked, anxious, isolated on edge, right. And so in order to start to heal from this, our experiences and our realities need to be rooted in feelings of safety, feeling understood, having our needs met and feeling a sense of belonging. And when we feel this, one trauma that impacts our relationship with Allah subhanaw
taala, that exact antidote to trauma, right, that feeling of safety, can be found with electronic data, and then it feels inaccessible to us. And that can be very, very difficult. So Pamela, and so in looking at this through the lens of healing through the lens of Ls pathauto, providing us with refuge and safety, that can then help us to rebuild our trust in Allah. And so, as we're talking about the clutter as a, as a source of healing, and regaining our connection and trust with a less data, one question that I think is really important to consider is, who in your life, do you really trust, right? Like, if I were to ask you to imagine a person that you trust very deeply.
Think about what it is that this person offers you. Right, you know, think about the qualities that they have, think about your relationship with them, very likely, this is a person that you know very well. This is a person who knows you very well, who understands you, they're there for you when you need them. And you likely have multiple experiences with them that show you that they are worthy of your trust.
If we are to translate this feeling of trust, toward Alice path data, and Alice pantallas example is beyond comparison, it's the highest example.
If we were to translate this to our relationship with LS Pat data, one of the questions that I think is really important to ask is, how can we trust someone that we don't know. And so getting to know us data, is one of the most profound steps that we can take toward trusting him and toward and toward healing, healing from any negative experiences that we may have had, right? Because trusting and LS Pat data solidifies our knowledge. You know, we all have this kind of the rational side where, you know, we've read the data, we've, you know, we know certain things about the data, that He's different from people, that He is someone who is all powerful, who knows us the best, who
provides us with the provides for us in the best way. But to get to that from an emotional angle, to access that, that intellectual knowledge from an emotional angle, really, it takes some work. It takes really getting to know LS Pat data. And I think one of the most powerful ways that we can do that is through his beautiful names and attributes. And so in when we're talking about that, like the name that I wanted to focus on was a Latif just because it's one of my personal favorites to tell you the truth. But it's a it's just a really beautiful name. And Latif means the one who is kind gracious understanding but also with just very, very subtle, the one who has a regard for the
subtle details of individual circumstances that allow us passata is the one who's aware of not just the external affairs like what's obvious, but also our hidden internal affairs unless panda knows what's in
Your heart and what's in your mind. He knows exactly what you're going through. He is aware of all of our secrets, despite us hiding it from everybody else. He knows everything about us every circumstance that that you've been in every circumstance that has led you to this point in your life, every past experience that has impacted you, every past thought, every desire, every struggle, every facet of your being that you try to hide from other people, but it's not hidden from us path data. And all those paths, it sees all of this. And he is the hidden presence that takes care of us every step of the way. We're in Surah cynomolgus Hazara says, Allah Allah moment, chanukkah wa,
merciful, Javier, that How could he not know his own creation? Because He alone is the most subtle, the all aware, right? That LS path Allah knows us best. And when we talked about the idea of the person that you trust the most, it's probably somebody who knows you really well. Right? Somebody who you have been able to feel vulnerable enough with so that they could get to know you on a really deep level. And unless you have that, as reminding us here, in this area, that he knows us best, how could he not know us when he's the one who created us. And then he also in in the cloud, and in using the concept of love, right kindness and subtlety. Ellis patha says, Allah is Ever kind to his
servants, and he provides abundantly to whoever he wills, and he is the all powerful the Almighty, He links, this kindness this little with risk with provision, right, where else pantallas provisions like what he gives us, what he provides for us will come from places that we could never fully expect, and we might not even know that they're coming from. There are some things that happen in our lives that are so subtle, that we don't even know that Alaska is taking care of them. So Panama, and this is part of his blessings, right? There are the blessings that we can easily identify, right, you know, our, our families, our the the money that we're able to gain through our work, the
food in our fridge, all of these different things, right? These are all of the very evident blessings that we have within there are a lot of really subtle blessings that we don't always identify. And that's where we really see this beautiful name of almost packed on on Latif, that he's the one whose mercy reaches us in ways that we don't understand that he blesses us in ways that we don't even know he takes care of our affairs when we don't even realize that they're being taken care of. And so, you know, one of the ways that I always think about this name manifesting is when you're going through a difficult time, and you randomly, you know, get a text message from a friend,
where this friend tells you, Oh, do you remember that time when we did this Ms. Or I was just randomly thinking of you and wanted to check in, or whatever, you know, whatever that text message says, or when you open the Quran, and all of a sudden, like, the first thing that you see is an idea that just really resonates with you in a way that it had never resonated before. Right? This isn't simply your friend reaching out to comfort you, this is a less patata sending that friend, getting that friend through his hidden guidance through his Hidden Hand. Right? To to then send you the text that you needed to be uplifted, right. And that's a Latif right that from Allah XPath todos Merci.
And from his blessings, he gives us what we need in ways we don't even realize we needed them. So power law. And so and one of the other things that I think is a very, very profound,
a very profound manifestation of this name. And I think we're actually seeing it a lot with all of the changes that are happening in our, in our society right now within the Muslim community outside of the Muslim community. Alhamdulillah is that he gives us what we need, in ways that we're not necessarily asking for, right, and it's through this incredible wisdom, right? That allows pathauto gives us what we need, even when it's not necessarily what we had asked for in the way that we asked for. Because we can't always identify what we truly need. We can always identify what society as a whole truly needs. Right? And so LS Pat that provides it in the most magnificent, wise and beautiful
of ways. So Pamela and so even when we see it through our own personal challenges, right, like through our own personal lives, a lot of times we're in a position and this is where I think a lot of a lot of our trust and data sometimes gets shaken is sometimes people say you know, I've been making dots, all those pads out or for something
Whether it's a child or to get married, or whatever it is, and it still hasn't been fulfilled, right, and knowing this name of illustrata as a Latif, that He gives us what we need, even when it's not what we want, it helps us to see things through a different lens. Right? When we're feeling that sense of hopelessness, realizing that we're seeing one pixel of our lives, while others have that AI sees the big picture, he sees everything, and that we might not see the way that things are working out. But alas, hatha is positioning us is precious positioning society is positioning the world for what we need most. Right, that we're illustrata in another area where he uses this beautiful man, he
says, no vision can encompass him, but he encompasses all vision, for he is the most subtle, the all aware. So common law. And so just knowing that sometimes Ls pattana is sending us the things that we need in forms that we might not necessarily have imagined or anticipated, or sometimes even wanted, but this is what we need to support them.
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ever subtle yet all aware, a hobby, usually when it's used in the poor, and it refers to a less awareness of things that are inaccessible to everyone else. So a lot is hobby, a lot is all aware, well aware of the deepest secrets that you have your heart. And so even when there is so much that is being shown on the outside, the true secrets, the things that are that are buried in the deepest cavities of the heart, Allah sees all of that Allah sees what you are concealing. And so so humbled by the fact that Luckily, is used with a hobby is actually very profound. Because when it comes to a lot of books, you're seeing so much you're you're the observer a lot is the observer in hobby, but
you're the observer when you're talking about a lot a lot. Even though what it means is that a loss of Hannah Montana is constantly observing you even when you cannot observe him with your sight. And so you see so much. But it is all encompassed what you see and what you don't see, by Allah subhanaw taala, Allah Subhana Allah, so just thinking about the way that you framed it, I think is very profound, that those two go together. And last week, we were talking about blessings, sugar, with Sr najwa. And this idea of blessings of gurunath orocommerce Garuda without the Quran. And this idea of blessings, you know, that's the way that you'd Connect deeply with a lost contact, because you see
your blessings, you see your blessings. And so when you see your blessings, and then you properly attribute them to Allah subhanaw taala, then you perceive a lot at a deeper level. And that allows you to magnify a loss of hundreds out through trials, whereas, you know, shavon seeks to magnify your trial, so much so that you can't perceive a loss of habitat anymore. So this idea of like perception, perceiving a loss of habitat, and that inherently being connected to a loss of habitat of perceiving everything and seeing everything throughout that entire time.
That's such a wonderful reminder. Does that unlock it? And? Yeah, you know, and so in all, I think it's an is it in all of these as that it's a multi fold hobbyists, right? They're always intertwined. So Pamela, and and that's absolutely amazing. I think, when you're looking at, I'm thinking about the story of Yusuf Ali Sam, right, where, where this is where this has manifested so beautifully, right where use is, is going through all of these different trials. But he's constantly perceiving the hand of LS data, getting him through it and knowing that almost half that is also uncovered, but he's all aware of what he's going through. But he's granting him that subtle kindness
throughout the process upon like, as he's betrayed by his brothers who intended to kill him, his employer who tries to seduce him towards sin he's wrongfully accused is put in jail upon all of these different things. And then throughout all of this, he's perceiving Ellis pantalla as a Latif where he realizes, okay, unless that is protecting me, by dodge helping me dodge all of this, this physical and spiritual harm when his brothers are planning to kill him, almost Pat that uh, you know, there's a suggestion that he's placed in the well instead, and when he's accused of rape, then there's physical evidence that's brought to the contrary. And when there's like he's constantly
bombarded with temptation illustrata positions him in jail away from that
To protect him spiritually and so even though when we're looking at it from the outside, we see all of these steps. And we're thinking he's moving backward because you know, he's he's fall he's getting betrayed left and right and now he's in prison. So Poundland it looks like his life is falling apart. But if he had missed any of these steps, then he wouldn't have been positioned to be who else path that I wanted or destined Tim to be. Right so Pamela and so that i think that that story just is is such a
manifestation of this beautiful beautiful name of allah tada and, and use of it Sam even says, you know that Allah has Allah is multifamily Maya right that that after he's been through all of this, he says that LS pancetta was certainly good to me. And he's he is subtle in what He wills. And he's the knowing and, and the wise. So how am I? So it's like, go ahead. No, sorry, I was gonna say it's profound how he's actually saying that to his father saying, like to comfort like I knew this whole time that a lot of those that was with me, I knew that this could be planned in ways that I had absolutely no control. But I was pleased with that, even in the depths of, you know, my misery and
my struggle, like he was he's conveying that somehow also as a means of not just conviction, but as a means of comfort. And oftentimes, by the way, you know, what I've noticed, and seeing p,
it's, so often the person that's in pain, has received some sort of divine gift of comfort and tranquility, to where they're comforting the people around them witnessing the pain. It's incredible. You see someone in a hospital bed, that's been through an enormous tragedy, and they're the ones comforting the people around them, as if it's some divine, you know, gift that's been given to them of understanding and comfort and clarity in the midst of that trial. And so with use of ice Now, every time I read him saying that, like Subhanallah, if there is anyone that would be jaded and bitter, it would be him. But he's not jaded and bitter to the contrary. He is tranquil and
comforting, you know, that to the to the people around him as well, how Allah subhanaw taala? Well, absolutely. And, you know, as you're saying that what comes to mind is this idea that sometimes when we're at our lowest points, right, and we realized that we can survive them, then you kind of I think you kind of let go, and that's when trust and all this pans out, I really kind of manifests itself, right? That all the things that I feared would happen, my worst fears came to pass, and I'm still here, and I'm still surviving, and I'm still inshallah going to be able to potentially be thriving. Right. And, and
it I think it comes down to at that point, you're like, Okay, well, this idea of trusting and almost pass out a despite not understanding the wisdom of his decrees about trusting a list, that one Ls patha directs our affairs, we're gonna end up in the best position, even if we can't grasp how he's taking care of it so powerful. And then from that position, being able to provide that comfort to other people. It's amazing it that's, that's post traumatic growth, you know, like we've talked about in our, in our trauma series before that, that sometimes when people go through really, really deep and difficult tragedies, they come out of them not just bouncing back to their to the way they
were before. But they bounce back to a position in life where they're actually thriving as a parent. And you know, so as you're saying that about providing comfort, that's what that's what comes to mind to power loss.
So how I think there's also, you know, there's a trend with the names of a loss of hands on, you know, we're developing that concept. You know, Dr. Todd Whitehead, Dr. De nanoose, actually just wrote the paper on heading. Now, he's been working on this as well, this idea of a lot of names and attributes. And one thing that's consistent is that the names of Allah subhanaw taala, demonstrate Allah has powerful presence, and sometimes our inability to sense that presence. And then Allah subhanaw taala has mercy in that presence to us. And sometimes there's There is so much to be said about how a person
you know, when you look at the Hadith of the Prophet sighs I'm a southerner and the submittal Allah patience is at the first strike, how a person finds strength that they never would have imagined they would have been able to find in the midst of something hard. And it's like, they don't even know where did that come from. So it's like, there's the post traumatic, you know, growth that you're speaking about. And then in the midst of it, sometimes you see people that really demonstrate something that they didn't know was inside of them. And I think that's also part of the subtlety right?
provides to us in the midst of all of these things. It's a panel that does that luckily. Right? You know, like I think a lot of times when we think about the the provision of electronic data like photos that he sends us, we think about tangibles, right, we think about material things that we can see that we can feel that we can count. But, but one of some of the most profound provisions that LS Python sends to us are, are not tangible, right, the the strength that we need in order to bear the trials, that we go through the qualities that tend to come up that we didn't even know we had, because we didn't need them, until the trials came to pass the Panama. And so it's also a part of,
you know, illest hats out of tying his look to his risk, right, like his kindness and his gentleness and subtlety to His provision that he provides for us, when we, in ways that we don't even know existed, and in ways we didn't even know that we needed. So Panama. And it actually, there's an A about a loss out of being a thief. And this is one of my favorites, where illustrata says, Do you not see that Allah sends down rain from the sky, and then the earth becomes green? And surely Allah is a multi celled hubiera that he is the most subtle of all aware. And when I, like heard this verse, I was thinking, you know, so Panama, all of the things like when we see grass for, for
example, right, all of the things that are needed for those plants to shoot up out of the soil that are happening underneath the surface, we have no idea, the intricacies that we don't see, and how that is taking care of that underneath the ground and the subtlest of ways. And, and so I was thinking about how that applies to us during our difficulties, recognizing that we're being guided and provided for by a Latif and that he's taking us somewhere that there's goodness in every step, whether we can see it or not. And that, you know, maybe a less path out through these struggles is positioning us to bloom just like causes all of these different, you know, the the earth to become
green, when he sends rain, you know, we think of rain as like a downpour of that, you know, we could be the struggles of how much and so could what I'm dealing with in this downpour of rain could that be what I need to grow, and what's happening beneath the surface that I might not be able to see or understand. That may be how Alice pads out it is giving me what I need in order to blossom to panelists. So just that was that's one of my favorite ads, especially with with with this particular name. Hello, you better Kiki, I want to just I think pick one more comment and then ask you out of this, you know that a lot of times when people come out of trauma, they want to see the wisdom of
that trauma right away. They want to understand why. And sometimes you're able to tell them as the mom or as a caregiver in some capacity. Look one day, it'll make sense to you. And you even start to portray possibilities, right? Maybe this happened so that this can happen. Maybe this happened so that this could happen. What happens though, you know, and I'm asking you as from a mental health perspective to what if a person cannot derive even in hypotheticals? how this could actually be good for them? Right, a scenario in which they grow out of this? How do we, you know, speak to people in a pastoral sense in a way that's caring and in a way that helps them grow? And how do people grow on
their own, you know, when I'm not able to and obviously, from Islamic perspective, the aka rectifying the Hereafter is ever rectifying. Right. So if that one day is not here, then the ultimate day awaits, and everything is restored. And you know, putting our trust in Allah subhana wa Tada. And then the ever rectifying Day of Resurrection in that sense,
you know, helps us grieve and get through these things. But how do you help someone that just, you know, you can paint every scenario for them, and they just don't see it working out, and it's not satisfactory to them. And when they try to paint their own scenarios, look, even if I got this even in your best case, alternative scenario, I'm still miserable, I still would not have wanted this tap. And I wish this did not happen to me.
Yeah, that's such a good question. And, you know, I think that
whenever somebody is going through has gone through a trauma, there's always some sort of loss, even if it's not through the death of somebody, it's it. Trauma creates the death of life as you knew it. And you're creating, you have to now create a new normal for yourself. And through any type of loss, there's going to be grieving. And grieving naturally, you know, necessitates that. You don't like what is happening, right and a struggle, even from an Islamic perspective, it wouldn't be a struggle, if you were happy with it, you know, and so and so.
For people to realize that number one, it's okay to grieve. It's okay to feel these emotions, right? That that's to be anticipated. And then that that bright side the silver lining, for some people, it, it may come right away, which is very impressive, Mashallah, for other people, it might take longer. And for other people, it never, it never comes about because, you know, it's so hard to imagine how your life after trauma could possibly be better than your life before it. And that is normal. And I think validating that is really important and times when people hear it, and realize, okay, it's okay for me to feel it. They don't need to fight against it anymore. And when you accept
the reality, right, when you accept the reality that this is your new reality, right, your new stage in life, and you accept that these feelings, you know, I always talk about, name it to tame it, you name the teeth, the feeling, and it tones it down a little bit. And when you don't feel so badly about it, you're not fighting against it anymore. And sometimes it naturally starts to dissipate, when you can sit with that discomfort, it naturally starts to dissipate. And then there's more space, in your life, in your mind, in your heart for other types of thoughts, and trauma. So I think name it to tame it is the gem inshallah, that we have here. And I think, you know, from from my
perspective, always what I recognize is that sometimes trying to rationalize the better alternative actually compounds the hurt. And it's, you know, you don't need to rationalize the better alternative, you just need to know that Allah knows best and that Allah knows better. And that's where you find your comfort in, not necessarily that you've been able to extrapolate from this incident, how my reality is going to be better but that Allah Allah Callaghan, and hamdulillah and all things and good and and bad, and in hardship and an ease and I'm sure that Allah has a better plan for me. And so whether that comes to fruition only in the hereafter if I'm patient, or it comes
to fruition in this life as well, there was a human hatred, I said, that there is some some sustenance or something, some growth that comes out of this in this life then and hamdulillah. So I think this is a profound way of I think, connecting with the name a lot leaf, and I want to thank you for for really, you know, giving us that, that connector that can help us connect more to that name and child lots on and hopefully find that presence in our own lives. And shall Is there anything else any final thought that you'd like to give? on how the ladders that come with it? It's been a privilege to talk about this, the only thing that I was thinking of when you were speaking
just now about this idea of not having to rationalize away the feelings and just realizing Okay, I'll just pass that I knows. And then also admitting and I don't know, right, and, and that's okay. And being at peace, I think accepting that accepting that reality of, I don't know, I don't know when everything is going to get back, you know, I'm going to start to feel differently. But I do know focusing in on what we do know and getting to know us patata in a way that we can feel confident in knowing that LS passata does know best is giving us what's best. And is the best of planners and Shama why eradications does not come off. Hey, Don, appreciate your insights and the
great work that you do it, you can as well hum the lasso for everyone, please get a chance to go through the trauma collection. And also if you go down on our YouTube playlist, you'll find you know, a wonderful series on the trauma collection that SR sada contributed heavily to in Shaolin China so please do check it out, and inshallah to Allah We will see you all next week with the light as we continue with this program is that Kemal height on most Muslim radicals kind of you know, Mohammed while early he was, he was Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh