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all Muslims believe in the perfect Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam

and one of our goals in life is to try to live as close to that as soon as possible.

Now many of his Sooners are small, for example, the tsunami of eating with your right hand while they're small.

So those that are very easy to practice, you can simply come out of come into your home with your right foot and you are practicing law civil law so the law to send them or you can you know start the salon be the first to say the salon and you're establishing the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam etc. These are all easy for them.

But then some centers are even though they're they're there. They're not very easy. They're very difficult. And some of the salon Allah Zoltan talks about in the Koran itself. We are some of the most important and some of the heaviest, some of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and one such for now is in suits.

And in the surah Allah with a gave these IOD some time after orphans. So the result of a loss of a loved one I do send them was engaged in war. And if I talk about offer, they will take too long. I'll give you some important points before we get to this is some reminders.

In offered the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gave instruction to one group of archers, the bow and arrow people. He gave them instructions multiple times 1012 times, don't come down from the mountain. Do not come down from the mountain. If you come down from the mountain. They will come from behind us because the enemy was coming from the front. So we can face the enemy. And the only way they cannot attack us from behind is because of you. Because of the people with their bows and arrows. They can stop their horses. But if you leave your position they will come from behind us. Eventually, the Muslims thought that we want a lie even said

You know what, up a tsunami evening, you are destroying them. You were destroying the enemy, and the enemy was three times bigger. They were 3000. They will become bigger and they were running away. And some Sahaba said, because the enemy came, and they brought women with them. And the women were all the way in the back. And the reason they bring women is now we will not run away from the battlefield. Because if you run away, our women are here, we can't run away. That's why they brought their women. And so the women were all the way in the back. And the men of the Kufa are all the way in the front. But a few minutes after the battle, the power running away, and the Sahaba said we

could see the backs of the women's feet. We could see as they were running up the mountain, meaning the men ran faster than the women

and ran away and the women were left behind. And they were running away from the battlefield. This is what happened in open, you know, but when this happened, the Sahaba on top of the mountain, they did not get any instructions, what should we do, they were told, even if we win, don't come down. Even if we lose, don't come down. If you see us lying down on the floor don't come down. If you see that the enemy is gone, don't come down. But they had a disagreement among them. There were about 50 of them. 40 of them said no, no, no, we want let's say it's over. So they came down. And when they came down, even though the courage we're leaving, from all sides, how have they been bullied who was

not Muslim yet, he was leaving. And he looked back and he saw that they're coming down from the mountain. So he made a U turn with about 100 of his people.

And they quickly came from the other side of the mountain. And they started attacking the Muslims. And at that point, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had only six people next to him.

So the army was far away. And also the loss of a loved one was by himself, maybe six people. And they had to find cover because 100 people are coming against six people. And when this chaos happened, long story short, the messenger

was attacked.

And one time he was attacked by an arrow. The arrow went through his helmet. It went into his cheek into his jaw, it knocked out his tooth, and the arrow was stuck inside his mouth, on the side. And on the other side, he got hit with a rock and the helmet, you know, the metal went inside his mouth on this side. So the prophets lie Selim was bleeding from both sides of his mouth. And on top of that, he got hit with a sword also. So he has three injuries, the Messenger of alleged injuries on Ubuntu on his head, on his face. And in the meantime, Musab ignore May, who used to look like the profits of abohar lucidum. And he was wearing the profits cloak. And he was carrying the flag when

he was killed, and he fell on the ground. You can't see his face. People thought that was a little luck.

And the Quran started saying we killed Muhammad Mission accomplished. So they started leaving,

because I realized, no, it's not over yet. And they came back. And by this time, the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam was up on the mountain, and they were already safe. But anyway, long story short, this is what happened it offered and Muslims suffered many losses. And not only that, in the beginning, they were running away. When they came back, they saw some Muslim people that had been Muslim Sahaba had been killed. They decided to cut up their bodies. They can open their bodies, especially hands out of the loved one. Because they knew the Prophet loves him. So they mutilated his body and said we don't normally do this. He said it also loved he said you will fit you will

find your your dead have been cut open and mutilated. We don't normally do this, but I don't mind. That's what he said tell us a little love for the love. And then they left.

After they left, the profit place alone comes back to Medina. And of course, we were ready for war and we were waiting. And the only reason everything must myself is because those people came down from their position. So those 40 people are very scared of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, how are they going to stand in front of Allah? So can you imagine he asked me what is now thank you injuries, because when he came home, I needed to be a lot more angle and pop him out of the lung when I had they were making they were crushing leaves and they were heating up mud and making paste and they were putting glue on his face because it wasn't stopped bleeding. And it looks like that

when he's giving the Hallmark Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam and all of this there are some people in the in the jamara is because of them because of their mistake, and they're sitting there and they see some

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what happens if cron comes about me? And what I did look at all the damage that was caused because of me. Look at all the losses of the Muslims look at the Providence

almost he'll look at his face. Look at faces because of me. This is the guilt that they have inside them. And they're still coming to salon. They're still sitting there and they're still gonna listen. And Ally's always revealed or on 60 or 60. in Amman, Allah commented on what happened in

the last commentary on what happened in open. One of those IR is the subject of my football with you today. Just one of them. A lot of times I would have to tell you this i a lot of talks to us of the loss of a loved one he was

he tells us a loss of a loved one is alone. Toby Mara methylamine Alon Yulin fellow.

It is only because of the special love and the special care that comes only from Allah

that you are soft towards them. You are gentle with them. Linton link in Arabic comes from me and Nene or llegan he actually means when you have a date, you know, and salt. It's called me. And when you deal with someone with soft words, or you make someone feel comfortable, or you're sweet in the way that you talk to them, you're gentle in the way that you talk to them. Lincoln, Allah tells His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it is a special mcma from a love, love and care from the love that you will love someone love more and even send them are gentle towards them. This is not the time to be gentle.

This is the time to say what did you do? I gave you instruction. I made it clear. Look at the damage that happened because of you. How could you disobeyed but this time, a lot of tells us messenger sallallahu alayhi, wa sallam, you are very soft towards them. You're very sweet with them.

And when he says, you know, one on one. And if if if it was the case that you were difficult or uncomfortable thought of in Arabic is actually used for when you have water, and it stays in the same place and it smells bad. That's helpful. And if you go near, you're uncomfortable. You go there, you know you're uncomfortable. They also used to say when camels because the camels urinate, right, so they make a puddle in the sand. If you go near the end, you feel disgusted as well. Actually, I'll use the word fun to say if you because if you're in trouble, like you know all of you have jobs. If you messed up the project, you messed it up completely. And now you're your manager

sitting right there. And you have to walk right past your manager. First you recite I will proceed until the class.

And then you try to avoid eye contact, you walk into cooler me sideways. Because if you look at him, you'll be uncomfortable. Just maybe sometimes your boss doesn't say anything. He just looks at you and you just melt. There's a purpose of discomfort.

A lot of calls and messenger some alumni because not only are you soft with them, but if you had been someone that if they came close to you, they would become uncomfortable.

alleging you don't even do that. You don't even let your face show anger or disappointment. You know, some people can destroy you without saying one word. They can just look at you.

That's it. They just give you one look and you're finished. It's over. Sometimes your father or mother can do that. Sometimes a wife and a husband can do that. You know, sometimes a manager can do that. Sometimes a friend

will give you a look. And the law says if you had created this comfort if you were someone around whom there would have been discomfort. And then he says he was telling me if you were tough hearted if you were tough worded What that means is right. I love you when I have to discipline. I love you but I have to punish you right now. You have to you have to feel the consequences. You have to suffer the consequences. You have to take a few steps back to understand something I told you in the story of what happened that those archers made a mistake. But let's take a few steps back. When the Sahaba left from Medina, they were 1000.

They were 1000. And among them were over 300 will ask the moon

and the moon as the moon came. They came because the profit was prepared some of the profit was the general. So he's prepared that I have 1000 soldiers this menu over here this

menu over here, this menu over here, this menu over here. How much time did the profits rise? And I'm happy to prepare, I can tell you about two hours, less than two hours to prepare the military. How long did the operation prepare for this war one year,

they prepared for one year of a pseudo loss on the long war. It was alone made the announcement in Juba that we're going to war we have to go. And before I said, they were already there preparing.

And the moon came. And the prophets of Allah is positioning everybody. And they what do they do? They after everything is planning, then 300 of them are walking away.

So now we're left with 700.

The army that's coming is 3000, the army that's left is 704 times more than four times more than four times. And the planning is all messed up now, because the plan was based on 1000. Now the plan is based on 700. And they did this on purpose. They could have said we're not coming, we're going to see Marina, but they wanted to destroy the plans of the Prophet. They wanted to make sure the Prophet gets killed. So

that's what we're trying. But the munafo don't have a sticker on their head, or a baseball hat that says when I think

they look like the rest of the Muslims, they pray to they pray also. So the ones that left, they also made a mistake. Yes. And the ones that came from the mountain, they also made a mistake, yes. But the ones that came down from the mountain, that is an acceptable mistake.

And the ones who ran away like ours, that is an unacceptable mistake, meaning Everybody makes mistakes. But the mistakes are people who will have evil intentions. And they want to keep hurting the profits of them. No, I asked him about them. In fact, here Allah says to the Prophet, you're not hard with them, you're not tough with them. But in another place in Quran, Allah says

he will go far one velocity was the most violent even

fight against the code for fight against velocity and be tough with the velocity. We talked with them. So two different policies, the ones who made a mistake, and it was the first time mistake. There's a big mistake, no doubt, it's a big mistake. But it's the first time mistake. And look, even though there were 700. They took that position. And that's a very risky position. There's only 50 of them, and the armies in the 1000 they can climb up the mountain, but they took that risk for themselves. And they put themselves in because of their love of the line is messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So Allah says yes, they made a mistake, but you have to show softness towards

them. lint, Allah whom you are very lenient towards them, you're gentle with them. And had you been harsh, and you created this comfort for them. What would happen? He says then from booming,

they would have run away from you. The Sahaba would have run away from the Sahaba we say about them on the alohomora. They're ready to die for Islam. They're ready to do they're ready to leave their homes and move to Medina. They're ready to coat they don't even have a sword, and they're ready to go into the battlefield. There are 10 year olds, 11 year olds that came into open and they begged the province Let us fight. There were children at the province at the sandbag No, why did you come? They hid and they came because they want to fight for the sake of Allah. This is how much love they have for the civil law. So in the long run, in this ayah, Allah tells us, why do they have so much

love for you, because you give them love.

Because you're gentle with them, because you're caring towards them, because you don't make them feel uncomfortable. And not only the message of Islam, but your gentleness and your love and the way you are as a leader that makes them love you. And if you become tough with them, they will like run away from you, even though you will still have

to still have the truth. But their hearts will not come close. Because you did not make a heart soft with your the way you are the way you are as a leader. And the word you use the problem with

balls in the balls in Arabic means when you take a glass and you break it and it shatters. It goes in all different directions. That's the word he used for the Sahaba. If you were harsh, they would have broken and fallen apart. And you know why that's important because when you break apart like that, you can't put it back together.

You can't put it back together and they all go in different directions. You know, that's the word he used was that they would have done that then. So what should the Prophet do some a lot more I sent him. He says back home.

Then pardon them. Forgive them. I forgive you for your mistake.

I forgive you.

That's the first job of his as a leader. Show them that you still love them. Why?

Allah is actually thinking about the Sahaba. He is going to hate me now. How am I going to pray behind him? If he sees me, he's going to feel hurt. I can't even show my face. How am I ever going to I know I'm so degraded and humiliated. And the first thing the Messenger of Allah comes to them and makes them feel comfortable and says, it's all on fire actually means it's erased. erased, forgetting ever happened. It's over. When you do afterwards, someone that means you don't bring it up again. You don't say Remember last week I forgave you.

And then you bring it up next year. Remember last time I forgave you know, awful means you let it go. You don't bring it up again. I know it also means that you will never act like you remember,

because it's a race. It's a race. If it's still there, then your behavior changes. But if it's raised, it's like it never happened. Your behavior didn't change, because as a hobby might even say, like he forgave me. But he doesn't look at me the same way.

He doesn't smile at me the same way I can tell there's a difference. He says for fun.

But that's not enough. He says what's the 101? what's available? As a lot of forgiveness.

Ask the Lord to forgive them. And you know what this means? That doesn't mean that you stand on them and say, May Allah forgive you? May Allah forgive you. May Allah forgive me because that's embarrassing.

Like if you talk to someone and say, I need a love forgives you.

That's insulting. But if you are alone with a love,

when you're alone with alone, when you're making 100 when you're there's no one around and it's just you and alone. At that time a person needs to ask themselves. Yeah, Allah give me this.

Let me do my job. Let me get better in this in this, I need your help in this in this. This is what we do when we are alone. And the lighthouses messengers alone, I need to know when you're alone, pray for them.

Pray for the ones who disappointed you

are the ones who disappointed you. But still, even if you praise for the ones who disappointed him. And he has a lot of forgive them. There's another problem. They think a lot less messenger, forgive us. But next time, next war. next mission, when the Prophet says, Okay, I want to hear your opinion.

I want to hear your opinion, some people will raise their hand, those 40 will never raise their hands.

Because if we raise it, if we raise our hand, everybody's gonna look at us like

seriously, you know, No, thank you. You put your hand up, they will think that our opinion no longer matters. Because of our mistake. Yes, he forgave us.

For us, but we are not the same value that we used to be before.

The job of a leader is to make sure that his followers feel valuable.

So a lot of says that his messenger some more love more love. He says What shall we

take your opinion when you need to make a decision?

consult them. When you have to make a decision. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam gets opinion from Allah.

He doesn't need my opinion. He doesn't need your opinion. He gets lucky from Allah. And Allah tells him No, before you make a decision, you should make sure you ask their opinion. Why? Because when you ask their opinion, they will feel weak. He asked me, he still thinks my opinion matters. He hasn't changed. He still thinks I have value. He still holds me and respects. I didn't lose my honor.

And his heart changes even more towards the love of us who will love to love more. I wish I would have been somebody I started this football by saying Samsonite is very easy.

Samsonite is very difficult.

Many of us are in a position of leadership. When you are in charge of a household, you're in a position of leadership. Sometimes somebody under your home, your son, your daughter, your younger brother, somebody, a spouse, somebody messed up. They made a mistake.

The thing is, when they make different kinds of mistakes, there's mistake that we do every 20 minutes, there's mistake. And there's one time that something happened. They messed up. They didn't realize or they got in or they slipped up. When they slipped out what is our reaction?

The look on our face.

The they send a text message I'm so sorry. And they you write something and they can see that you're typing in

and then you erase it. Now I need you to stop

For some more, I'm not going to respond.

Or I'll just respond with one full stop.

Or we will talk later.

You know, you ignoring. Now what are you doing? You're creating discomfort.

You're creating discomfort

when you're upset with them because they mess up. And you're not gentle towards them. Usually you come into some article, how are you? And today you come in.

That's not Linda home. That's not Linda home.

And that's, that's false. Hope means that you're creating discomfort. Would you like to eat something? No, I'm not hungry.

And he says, well, evil, cold weather eventually comes out. No, I can't believe you did this.

I told you so many times. Don't do it. And you still didn't listen. Hmm. And you still did it? Huh? Why won't you understand? You see the damage you did? And you give a home and they already feel bad. But you feel the need to give them a buy anyway.

And what does it do? Even the civil law some alumni that you send them was told if you do that, they will what? They will break, they'll run away from you. If those who love Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is being told that even if he was like that people will rate that you and I can break people very easily, very easily.

Then he says, but how can you make sure the people under you don't break? Not only do they not repeat the mistake one way you say but I don't want them to repeat the mistake. They have to learn their lesson. Unless it's let me teach you how to teach them a lesson. My way of teaching a lesson is You better not repeat this again. You hear me? This is the last time that doesn't work.

Only thing you created more is fear. Only thing you created more is with negative feeling. presentment. Now the relationship is not a relationship of love.

It's our relationship of respect. It's a relationship of fear. That's all it is.

But the other way is number one. It's okay. Forget it ever happened. Okay, I know. I know. Let's not talk about it. It's over. I won't bring it up again. You don't bring it up on the platform.

Second thing not I'm going to make the law for you. No, no, no, no. on your own. On your own now love again.

Y'all Forgive me feel bad already. Yeah, love, whatever is in my heart to remove it and Allah forgive them. That's number two. And number three, next time you say next time, I'm not going to ask you to do that. Again. I don't trust you with anything in our home, we'll

take your consultation, take their opinions for either as on top but

then after finally if once you reach a decision, then you place your trust in Allah. Allah loves those who put their trust in. This is in the law.

And you know, some people thought that we lost like I told you that we lost because they weren't. They came down because they came down. What is it? Let's say the next time he knows fuku la who follow Allah.

If Allah decided to help you, nobody can overpower.

You think it's because of them? Yes, they made a mistake. But victory and loss doesn't come from people mystery and loss comes from a line alone. Be clear. Be very clear. Don't blame anybody else for your loss. Don't blame anybody else for victory that only comes from Allah, when you come from under Mandela.

And if he let you go, if he humiliates you, we're going to help you after that. This is the profound teaching given to the simple loss of a loved one is at such a difficult moment, you and I deal with people that disappoint us It happens or hurt us. But none of our cases are so extreme that our family members bodies got cut open because of them. That doesn't happen. We almost got killed because of them. were bleeding from the mouth because of them. That doesn't happen. And yet still Rasulullah sallallahu is this way because what I told him this is special mercy from Allah, when we call him on sanaka. A lot of maternal irony, we didn't send you as a last one for all the people.

What does that mean? That we have to learn

how you can only stay alive, if the oma keeps it alive.

Otherwise, it's just a book. It's just some lines on a page. It doesn't live anymore. The only way the last mile muscle loss on the lung, if someone stays in this world is if the people of this owner keep carrying it over and over. They keep reliving it. This is what we have to do by prayer lines and which has makes us carriers of this beautiful tsunami of His Messenger someone wants to send up and overlooks especially those of us that are in some position of leadership, whether it's at work, whether it's at home, whether it's anywhere else, when we are in a position of leadership. We should

Look to these some of the profits, especially the ones that are highlighted and bring them into our lives we love forgive our shortcomings and our short tempers and our impatience with people and make us better leaders for everyone. Particularly Welcome to for unpacking.

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