Asim Khan – Keeping it Halal – Interactions in Islam

Asim Khan
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of boundaries and gender interaction in modern context, as well as the impact of rain on the land and the holy spirit. They also touch on the topic of medesty and good practices, as well as the importance of values and laws in protecting human beings. The conversation also touches on the negative impact of Islam on women and men, as well as the use of laser treatment and women in marriage.
AI: Transcript ©
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Bismillah Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen or salat wa salam ala nabina Muhammad wa ala and he will be here as many bird will be shortly so do your silly Emory wash melissani of Coco Lee mineable alameen. salaam aleikum, WA mercato.

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Brothers and sisters, keeping it halal interesting title is, I didn't choose it. But I was told that there's many naughty things happening in Cardiff and things need to be said. So, the call me up. And now I'm here. Now I'm kidding. They didn't say

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it's an interesting topic. I want to start off with unrelated point. I just made a small two hour before I began speaking to you all, does anyone recognize who's to add that was the I quoted? Anyone?

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Yes, the DA or musasa? Guys have a show of hands. Are there any non Muslims and non Muslims? No.

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Right. Okay.

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musala ceram.

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Whatever. The point I want to make is that whoever reads the Koran will see that Allah subhanaw taala, he shares with our stories, and usually the stories are about the most extreme case in any given scenario. I'll say that again. It's like the most extreme case in any given scenario. So if we look at this to our muscle Islam, if you think of the idea of Mission Impossible, okay, I'm talking about 1234 I'm talking about just the idea of being given a mission that is almost impossible to do. This would rank number one most Allison, um, He's here. He's, he's had to run away from Egypt as a fugitive for accidentally killing someone and then he's made into a prophet and told by Allah to go

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back to Egypt, and confront Pharaoh, who's the greatest, most infamous villain of all times asked him to become a Muslim and to release the Israelites from slavery and he's going to do it by himself.

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So in response masala Salaam he makes this to our our Bishop, actually, sorry, he says my master, open up my chest to me. While you're certainly angry and make my affair easy for me. Why should the opposite of me listen and open up the knot in my tongue?

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Yes, tahu Paoli, so that they will all be able to understand what I'm saying. Now, one of the beauties of having giving the most extreme case in any given scenario is that people like us, when we're faced with a similar scenario, not have the same level. But we see that Musil Islam was able to use this prayer to get success in his mission. It gives us assurance that perhaps we make the same law that allow us to help us in our situations, do you see very beautiful spotlight? So I'm curious as to what you expect to get out of this lecture. Who would like to share with us some of the expectations? Why did you come here? What are you hoping to hear?

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What do you think? Anyone want to share? What's your expectations? However, you might as well start off

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he's expecting some fiery questions. I can tell you that already. But honestly, what are you expecting? Yes, it's not about

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Okay, something to do with boundaries and gender interaction. What else? What about from the brothers? I'll come to you system. Yep. So understand how the boundaries set up or relevant in a modern context, right? How are these boundaries relevant in the modern context? Kind of like where we sitting right now and doing what we're doing?

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Okay, yes. So the back then.

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The principle of higher interesting, okay, something through modesty. Anyone got anything slightly different?

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Okay, cool. So

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So something like is dating allowed before March or something along those lines? Yeah. Okay. I hope to touch on that as well. malice towards the end. Let me start with what I would like to start with. It's a very general point. We're very beautiful one. In the Quran. Allah subhanaw taala. He describes his religion and His revelation to be like, life giving rain. Yeah, and his verse and certain deeds were lost. Hunter says no more animal higher to dunya

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So errorlevel anila, you feel a lot better the mode here that you should know and understand that it is Allah who brings back to life, the dead barren land?

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Or the baby anala cola in that way, does Allah make His Signs apparent to you? This is how I explained his science to learn to act alone so that perhaps you would use your intellect and understand. So I want you to imagine for a moment that you're driving past a field, which has nothing, it's just barren land, there's no grass, there's no plan, there's no trees, there's no animals, nothing.

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And then what happens is,

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you drive pasture again after six months, and is a complete transformation. Now, these plants, these trees is fruits as animals, and if you stepped outside, you can hear

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you can hear insects, you could hear birds, you can see fruits, right? What's happened in between. What's happened in between is that rain has come.

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Yeah, one of the main things that happen is that a rain has come down. And it's brought that land that was dead back to life.

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Now, in Mammoth debris, who's like the most

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senior commentator of the Quran, he passed away 310 history. He said that the meaning of this verse is symbolic.

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It doesn't mean reflect over how God brings back the dead power in light of bland to life, but it reflects is about a dead heart of a person who is spiritually that and by sending down His revelation, either on, do those hearts come back to life? Yeah. Now just think about that. See, the verse itself is alluding to there anyway, because a lot began by saying lm will know and understand as if to say there's something beneath the surface of what I'm about to say. And I ended it by saying, by the BNL accumulated in that way, does Allah make his science evident to you?

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Lock him down below. So you use your intellect. So as allies already preparing you to reflect over the deeper meaning of that verse. So I'm going to start by asking a question, how is that how is Islam or the revelation?

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Like, the rain that comes down from the sky?

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how those two things similar?

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You can start off okay, one person here.

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Anyone else? How is it the same? How is the Quran and revelation allows religion? Like the rain that comes down from the sky and brings the earth back to life? Yes, starts off.

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Okay, from the darkness to the light, from darkness to light, okay.

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You also got an answer. Yes.

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Very good, is to strike the similarity between the rain nurturing the land, and the way the Koran nurtures the hearts of people. It also in terms of the impact as well, the impact of the rain on the land is they can transform it. In the same way if you look historically, when the Quran came down to the desert Arabs of that time, it transformed it completely. And it continues to do so with those that embrace the Koran. Now, one of the similarity between the Quran and rain is that the to the rain and land was meant for each other.

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Rain, it mixes with the soil, it reacts and it produces life, as if to say rain and the barren land were made for each other in the same way. The laws religion and the hearts of human beings were made for each other.

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It's very profound here, but this is spoken about other places as well like in the eyes of new Seurat new chapter number 24, I believe is verse number 35 mistaken. Allah describes the phenomenon of light upon light Have you heard about this neuron Allah.

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And in that scenario, Allah describes the heart of a believer to be like a twinkling glass case, which houses inside a lantern, which has oil that is so pure that when it is lit, it almost sets the light before the flame touches it. And that is to compare the heart of a believer to a lantern of light. Yes. And when the revelation comes down to that heart, you get the phenomenon of neuron Allah Nur. Again, the idea that Allah is Dean is not in conflict with humans, the human mind

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Human Nature rather it is made for each other. Now, there's another verse as well. Along the same lines speaking about something we know to be the fitrah

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sort of room verse number 30. A lot pansies for Kim magickally Dini hanifa set your face firmly towards the dean ferrata law he Latif uttanasana as a pure sorry Allah natural pattern on which he made mankind, lotta de la de la there is no changing a lot creation. If you look at this verse, Allah has mentioned three terms. First term, set your face towards the deen of Allah, the religion of Allah, second term fitara de la isla de flatiron na salado fitrah, which is translated to be

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a human conscience, yes, or the moral compass of human being and the third term lata de la de Hall pillar creation.

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And allies use them interchangeably. The Dean the religion, human nature, and creation worlds.

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And one of the benefits or the wisdoms behind that is to show that every one of them is in harmony with each other. The world is in harmony with human nature, and human nature is in harmony with revelation of Allah. In fact, what is amazing, one of the scholars he said, what he also demonstrates is that if you distort one of them, if you

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if you distort one of them, it will affect its relationship with the other one. So if you take human nature, and you disturb it, you manipulate it, you distort it, then it will be it will be impacted such that it can no longer interact with the revelation in the same way hadn't been innocent and pure, it would have been a different story.

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I want to speak now about the federal

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so the federa as mentioned the Quran and the process and also said kulu kulu, kulu mo, luden EULA duality cetera that every newborn is born with this federa the translations for fitrah can be human conscience, moral compass, natural disposition, a human being knows the different translations for it. But you get the idea that there's something ingrained inside a human being. And the person said that you are born with it. What are the ramifications of this fitrah? What is the scope of it on human on the human being in the rest of his life? Well, first and foremost, the human fitrah, it gives a person awareness of the Creator, Allah subhanaw taala. What that means is that a baby is

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born, every baby that is born, is born already inclined towards believing that there is a creator, somebody did create them. Also, part of its awareness is that this creator deserves to be worshipped. Yeah. Recently, there was not recently Sorry, I think in 2016, or 15, there was an article published in The Telegraph, about a study done by Oxford University. It was like a super study over a number of years, and they

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they concluded from that study, that babies number one are born believing in God or creator. And number two, that the idea of a life to come after death is also part of a of the nature of a baby when they are born. Yeah, this is very interesting. You can go research, if you type in Telegraph and baby's born believing in God, you will come up, you can have a look at that. So this is one

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part of the fitrah is that it makes you inclined towards believing in a creator.

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And that's partly the reason why the Islamic position regarding atheism is that is not really the case that a person believes that there is no creator. It's actually an impossibility deep down inside they do believe but they have a problem with the version of God that has been communicated. So a lot of people in dour who tried to speak to atheists will know what I'm speaking about. That they gripe is about having to show obedience to God, or the idea that God does x, y and Zed. If he really does, then I can't believe in that type of God. Yeah, as a side point. The second scope of the fifth law is what we call morality. Yeah, people University they

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hold certain values to be praiseworthy. Like what?

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what else

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justice here.

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See justice etc, etc. And on the opposite side, they also already believe that certain things are wrong. Yeah, like oppression, murder, etc etc.

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So this is morality.

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Thirdly, which is some which is something may be new to you all is the idea of modesty. Yes, modesty is not something that a human being needs to learn it is their insight of the nature. Yeah, what is the proof of this?

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What is the proof of this?

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Okay, the story of Adam Halliwell. Yep, that when they came down to the earth, it's quite amazing. They came down to the earth, they the only two people in the whole world and they come down without any gloats. Their instinct is the Quran says to find something to cover themselves up. And that's when there is no strangers around.

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it being the case of other people around how they would react it. While the proofs are there. That modesty is part of human nature, it's not something that needs to be learned, or taught even if a human being grew up or was raised by wolves in the desert, or in the forest. And they would still have a sense of modesty. Any other proofs?

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This is of the process that I'm when, from the seat of the person rather, that when I was a fan, he went to the king of the Romans Huracan. And he had a question as to the veracity of this man, Mohammed Aslam, who claimed to be a prophet, and he asked him certain questions. And he also found he said a statement, he said that he he instructs us to pray, to be honest, and to be decent alpha, which means to have modesty. And in response, Haleakala, he said,

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how the sefa to a billion, these are the qualities of a prophet. These are the kinds of things that a Prophet would promote another Hadith is well, the person who said that whoever doesn't feel shame, first their emotions, go ahead and do whatever he wants. Yeah, as if to say, human beings, you have a sense of shamed, that inhibits you from doing immoral, indecent things. If you have killed that, then what hope is there for you now? Yeah, there's many proofs about this as well.

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Right? Now, this is where it gets a little bit interesting. Okay.

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Is the fitrah it helps us do all of these amazing things. What then is the need for revelation?

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You get the question. Like if you said, human beings are born with x, y, and Zed, and it helps them know God, to be good to be modest. Then why is What was the need of sending a prophet sallallahu? I said, What's the need of sending the Quran if we already have it in built inside of us?

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You forget, okay.

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But then somebody else who remembers gonna remind you?

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Yes, yeah. Okay. external force was trying to corrupt the federal say we need something to repel them. Right. Okay. So there is there are forces pressures around us, that are kind of, you know, working against our fitrah. And so we need some help.

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It's partly true. I agree. But there's something more definitive than that. Yes. So

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tell us how to Okay, very close. What do you mean, tell us how to do?

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How to practice those things.

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Okay, this is good. It's about the details. You wouldn't know human beings would know either instinctively or through trial and error. How exactly to save Gods the fitrah and to make it flourish like you know that you're aware of Gods but how do you worship good?

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Yeah, you can you instinctively know is five times a day that you need to pray salon fast Ramadan and go has no obviously you can't, is that's what the revelation comes. This is the most This is the biggest difference between the two that the revelation gives the the finer details that comes along and builds on what is already there, which is the fifth row and that goes back to the first idea about both of them being made for each other. That is how they are made richer and what you

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mentioned is all which is correct, which is the fitrah by itself is not strong enough to survive the negative influences of the will face in our life.

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how does the religion help the fitrah? And how does it actualize

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the living according to the teachings of the religion, how does it help the fitrah live according to the letter and the spirit of the law? Well, there are three things,

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three things. First is Why call cultivation.

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Cultivation is instilling

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divine values in the hearts of the believers, for example, the value of hereafter centricity, which means that the value of living for the life to come more than the life of now living for paradise, living out of a fear of committing mistakes that will lead you to jahannam. That is a core Islamic value. Would you not agree with that? Cool one often repeat in the Koran? And by the process of what are the values are there that Islam cultivates in people?

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What the values are there?

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Cardiff is leaving today.

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Everyone's in hibernation mode. So

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respect Okay, respect. I agree.

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What else?

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Loving for others, what you love yourself?

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What are the values?

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family values? Yes.

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What about the value of sn?

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striving for excellence in whatever you do?

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Be that work? Be that your spirituality be that

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your education? The process? I'm told us to have a son in all of that. What about integrity?

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To practice? what you preach? Is that also there? So there's so many values, the value of being a modest person, a person of modesty, here, personal modesty, a person of shyness, it is there. Even the person who said

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that modesty is one of the branches of faith is an integral part of your faith to be a modest, decent person? Yep. So these other cultivation, how Islam cultivates the hearts of people to aspire to,

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who's a kid

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aspired to be great Muslims? And one of the ways it does that, it gives us examples of great people.

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So who can tell me? Who does this does Islam present as a celebrated example of modesty?

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Very good use of a lesson What about from the women?

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Maria, Maria, Sara, Mary. Yeah, for Arizona tarja that she was so

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she was so good at protecting her chastity, a very decent, moral, pure lady. That's how she is presented in the Quran and Sunnah. This cultivation is one of the ways a last pattern the person whom they nurture our hearts through examples of great people, then you have prevention.

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You see, values are not enough.

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You need to have some laws. It has some traditions here that help you stay on point.

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So for example,

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Islam prohibits

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wine, alcohol. Why is that? Because

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when a person is drunk, intoxicated, then many of the values that are compromised? Yes. And you only have to go on a Friday night to see though, isn't it? People are drunk, no, essentially, there is no sense now of modesty, of integrity and all the rest of it. In fact, that's the last thing on the minds here. Also, in terms of the intellect as well, Islam seeks to

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preserve the intellect of human beings. And however, it violates that. So there are laws in keeping with the values that help protect and preserve them and safeguard them. And all of this is based on the federal human beings. Yep. Also Finally, you have

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What we call the cure.

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So values are there, then they will laws. But sometimes you make mistakes in life. Sometimes you violate the laws. What does Islam say about such people?

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Islam says there is a cure. What is the cure?

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Excellent. Is there foreign Toba? That Will you make mistakes is not the end of the world. Now you have the door of forgiveness open for you. Yes. What about from on a state level?

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on a state level, what is the cure for that is presented for people that make big mistakes?

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And trust the law?

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Prison. Okay.

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You're longer along the right lines there? Yeah. Yeah.

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criminal justice system. Yes. You have the HUDs. Yeah. The penal punishments. Yeah, those laws. They are they are as a cue, in fact, because a believer if he is, if he for example, confesses to doing something and the law is carried out against you, the punishment is carried out against him, the person who told us that this person will be forgiven for the crime that he committed. And when he meets a law, he will meet a law as if he didn't do that crime. Yeah. So that is a cure. Now, if you look at that, that is a very holistic type of nurturing, isn't it? From the very beginning, to the very end?

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Right now, dynamics of prevention, here dynamics of prevention.

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If an issue is very, actually, there's a interesting point to make. The devil has early, he said that the Musalia you can write this down. The Musalia

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are the are the basis

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of every divine law? The massala

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are the basis of every Divine Law, what does that mean? The word masala refers to benefits and interests. So he said that human benefit and interest is at the core of every divine law and teaching.

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What does that mean? It means that whatever Islam asks you to do, it is for your own good.

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It is for your own good, okay. And it is either there to save you from potential harms, or it is there to help you acquire some benefits. And this is an understanding of what a mammal has already said. And many scholars made quotes like that. So on that basis, I want to speak about what is I have to say about the big issues? You know, how does it tackle big issues? If something is very harmful for human beings? How does Islam help them? safeguard them from that? So let me ask you something. What does Islam regard as being the biggest issue of all time?

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Yeah, that should be on the tip of everyone's tongue. The response to that question?

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paganism, idol worship. Yeah, and the way it does that, is that it says that if this is a major harm for human beings, then the first thing we will do is we will encircle it with major sins here. So for example, check if a person will admit it was to worship idols or commercial with Allah, then Islam says the ruling attached to that is that it will excommunicate them from the religion itself.

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here and that it is an unforgivable sin.

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Then it surrounds the major sins, with lessons. Lessons. Yep. So it's not if you go close to the major sins, you may have to pass through doing lessons first. So Islam comes along says Well, these things that lead to the big things, they will also be graded as being lessons, for example. Yeah, the process of them he forbade building tombs on graves. True not. He forbade that. Why?

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Why not? Why don't make him look nice with tombs.

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Everyone does it. And if they're respectful person that they deserve to

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know. Why did Islam say No, you shouldn't do that. What Islam aggressively say no, that you shouldn't do that? Yes.

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Yes, because it can lead to the worst view of graves.

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which can lead to then full blown shake and shake is regarded as a huge issue, therefore is regulated like this. And then finally, it surrounds the lessons with gray area.

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I'm not quite sure whether this is right or wrong.

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And is intentionally made it like that in order to protect you from going that one step further. Yeah. So I'll give you an example.

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Imagine you lived near a nuclear plant. Here. You live near a nuclear plant. Now, obviously, the fallout from a nuclear plants.

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untold harm here. Now, what would you expect from the authorities in the area that you live?

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Regarding way, regarding where you live? Being close to a nuclear plant? What would you expect the authorities to do?

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To help protect you?

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Yes, cordon off an area.

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Okay. There should be an area cordoned off, no one can go there. No Trespassing there. What else?

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What else would you expect?

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I live near a nuclear power plant. And people say it's not the best thing to do. But how is it quite cheap around here?

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I wonder what

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would you expect the authorities to do though, to help you know mitigate risks?

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Seriously? No way.

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Seriously, landmines might be addressed.

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Instead of the nuclear plant, a GE. Okay. I take a word for it. Yes.

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They will resolve that they will say we don't have any responsibility for anything happens to you? I don't think so. I think they have a responsibility towards you. Yes.

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Okay, they will reinforce the houses.

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Basically, they will put

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loads of barriers in order to help you keep away from any possibility of being harmed by the nuclear plant in the case of Ebola. Do you agree or not? Why? Because the harm is so serious. In the very same way. Allah spoke about Xena, which is * outside of marriage, in a very similar language. Allah said so Esra wala Takara boo, Xena. Don't go anywhere near Xena.

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Yeah. And what's interesting about that verse is that it's preceded by a verse where Allah says, voila, Cthulhu Allah, the compassion and love, don't kill your children out of fear of poverty.

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So when it came to killing your family out of fear of poverty and loss of don't do that, when it came to Xena, Allah never said just don't do that. Allah said Don't come close to that. What's the benefit in that?

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Was the wisdom behind that? Wouldn't have been enough to say just don't do it.

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Okay, so the sister said, because to show how serious is but wouldn't you say killing your children? Our fear of poverty is also serious.

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it must be something else then. It's more encompassing, is more encompassing? Okay. What do you mean by that? It's not just as enter the order other things that lead to it are also prohibited. Okay, very close. This

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gray area.

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It is okay. But why? Why is it going to start with some kind of gray area? So you doubt what you do?

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close close. God says

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no. Okay. One of the wisdom behind saying don't go close to it is because this thing is so tempting that once you go close to it, you may well end up falling into it.

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Yeah, many people, even those that are promiscuous.

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After they do what they do they feel guilty. They feel a sense of shame. And when they asked why did you end up you know, staying with that guy.

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They will say or she will say Well, you know what? We went out we had a few drinks. One thing led to another

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and then it happened. Have you heard that kind of speech before? Yeah, one thing led to another

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Yeah, and here the Quran is telling us one thing will lead to another. Wala Takapuna therefore don't go anywhere near it. Yeah. And then Allah surrounded the act itself with many other prohibitions

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and obligations. So what are the kinds of things that are not prohibited? That would aren't as serious as you know, but you can tell they're designed to help you stop before you fall into it?

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What kind of what kind of things that are the process elements that prohibit because they are precursors to this major sin? Yep.

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Okay, lowering the geese. Yep. But sometimes lowering the gate is worse than raising the geese.

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Do you agree? Maybe you're standing on a train and is packed, hello, yoga classes was the reason you guys

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go live, meaning your whole boom in Abbasali him. Allah said, say, a prophet to them. That old men are beside him. The word mob. It doesn't mean too low. And so it means to hold back.

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hold back your gaze. And the best translation is

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to control where you look. Don't stay basically.

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Don't stay. Somebody may say, okay, in response to you. Was it yourself? They said that? You said Yeah. Somebody may say, What are you saying? That just because I look at a girl. That means this stuff. I'm gonna go do that.

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Is that what you're saying? Were you kidding me? Oh.

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Do you think I'm that week?

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What do you say in response? I would say

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for that action.

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So you're saying I will

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be a clear cut. But don't judge man.

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Who can respond to this question. Someone says Islam advocates that we shouldn't stay at the opposite gender.

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Are you saying therefore that if someone looks he will end up doing?

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Basically the

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opposite. We're all

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similar forgiveness. Yes. So your

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verse has got a response?

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For one specific individual is for mankind. Okay, so Islam is legislates based on the norms. Not on the exception.

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So obviously you You are very pure individual. Marcia, lots of articles, you can look anywhere and everything and you're safe.

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is always saying

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another one.

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I'm not sure about this answer. You got something different? Yep. Yeah. And when a person goes into a problem, if you were to look at the root cause of that usually started with against. Okay, very good. Yeah, this is important. One of the scholars he responded to this argument, he said, if someone says that, just because you look doesn't necessarily mean you're going to do now. We respond by saying telling me about a situation within occurred where they never looked at each other.

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Xia is

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very sharp, very sharp. We all agree that you know what definitely is one of those stepping stones towards this problem.

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The issue is how many of us really and truly appreciate the gravity of the sin, as communicated to us by the Quran and Sunnah. You bring them to context for you.

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the sin of Xena May Allah protect and preserve a school is demonstrated the gravity of is demonstrated by use of vile Islam. Because young use of was a slave in Egypt, away from home to a lady who tried to seduce him. You know the story about the crazy lady who tried to seduce him.

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And she got all her friends involved to pressure him as well. Imagine he's a slave. She's the master and she's from the elite. All our friends are getting involved as though they were saying you were and then on top of that, if you don't do it, you're going to go to prison.

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The issue is compounded from so many perspectives in the face.

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All of that use of said,

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What do we say, a signal a hub boo LA. He said, it is preferable to me to go to prison than to commit this act under duress. I imagine he's a young guy.

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If he was living in these days, you know, he's got his degree, his PhD is everything ahead of him. And someone is forcing him to do this. And he said, You know what, it's actually better that I go to prison and sacrifice the rest of my life, just so I can avoid this one sin SubhanAllah. That's how that's how

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that's how bad is in the sight of a loss. Melody was understanding. Okay, so then we said, okay, so I'm prohibitions. You said for example, you should control your gaze. What other prohibitions does Islam place to help people not fall into this major problem? Yep.

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Being alone, here with the opposite gender, here and there's a hadith inside sahadi is Bo la Juan Narayan Murthy. The man should not be alone with a lady. Now again, the two perspectives on this.

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One perspective is that a guy may behave inappropriately with a woman.

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But there's another perspective as well. Which is that a woman could falsely accuse the guy. True not? Isn't that what happened in the case of use of a laser on the way she tried it? And he ran away? Her husband comes to the door and what does she say? What do you know the slave is trying with the master.

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She falsely accused him, right. And what happens is Bo, and being falsely accused of inappropriate behavior can end your career.

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Forget about due process. Forget about you know, there was an article recently about this lady.

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She, okay accused 15 different men of sexually harassing her. Okay. And only after 15 different people where she found out to have been lying in every single case. And the first person she accused was a Muslim doctor. And he not only lost his job, but the surgery paid her 50,000 pounds in compensation is 50,000 pounds of compensation, only then to be found out that he was innocent, and she was making things up.

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So the prohibition of what they call halwa. Being alone has many benefits. Okay, I'll tell you an interesting story. One of my teachers when he was

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using Sudan, okay. And he was traveling, eco train. And it was full. He was trying to look for an empty cabin. He had to sit down. He found a cabin. We opened it, it was empty, except for there was one lady sitting there.

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So he's, he's like a chef. So he's, he's saying to himself, should I should I not? Because in my mind, I said, is fine. I'm not attractive lady at all.

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So I sat down. After a few minutes, he said, Yeah, but maybe she's attracted to me.

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So he got up and he left. He got up and he lives here. And Cipolla, you know, the other hand is the process that um, that a man and woman are not alone except that the third is shaped on a 30 shaped lawn. Right, okay. So those are prohibitions. On the other side is obligations, Islam instructs people to do certain things which will help them avoid the sin Lightworks.

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Okay, very good for women to wear a particular attire known as a hijab. What else?

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fasting, okay, if a person cannot control their desires and fast, what about marriage? Doesn't Islam advocate marriage? At an early age? Yes. Not only not thinking about it.

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I do recommend that a person should get married as young as they can, because this was advice of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. Yeah, Mashallah Shiva manasota army combat affiliate as a witch. He said very clearly young people are Shabaab means young people, whoever amongst you can get married and can afford to get married. Go ahead and get married. Yeah, this is advice of the process saddam.

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So this is anyway besides the point, then there is the gray area.

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There is the gray area and that is intentionally made gray. So when people ask, for example, Iran when I was in Egypt,

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there was internet cafe, okay, across the road. And there used to be one girl who used to

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sometimes it was just her in the shop. Basically, she was

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Writing the show. So the brothers in the apartment, they start to discuss, are we allowed to go in the internet cafe? If she's the only person in there, but isn't that prohibited? Is that halwa? Is it not holla we need to get a photo here. Now the thing is, the thing is,

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people can go to extremes on this, and I'm gonna address that at the end.

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the desire to get a concrete answer on every particular matter goes against the very spirit of the Sharia. For the Sherry assays there are some things kept gray. So make your own judgment call.

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Make your own judgment call. And the basis of this issue is one of caution. So be aware.

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And this, if you look at it in terms of from the perspective of being

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in terms of wisdom, very wise, because let's flip it around. Let's say that no, that technically is halwa, therefore is hot up here.

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The thing is, somebody could use that. Christy around.

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I'll give you an example. Let's say he's not the only guy, if she's not the only person in the shop, let's say is her, and there's another guy there and another guy there. And then he walks in. But the thing is, when he walks in, he's attracted to the Gil.

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And being there for five minutes is difficult.

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But then he would say to himself, this is halaal. This is not halwa is absolutely fine. Is he right or is he wrong?

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If you're right, it was the wrong.

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He's wrong, isn't he? because technically, it might be correct. But in reality, for him, it's an issue. Yeah. So this is why the gray area is kept like this. If you have questions in your mind along those lines, then you know what the answer is going to be already. Okay. So finally, some final words. Okay, we can open up for q&a.

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In these times, we should have a level of appreciation about the teachings of Islam more than before. Why? Because in the last few months, the media and the new have been dominated with stories about sexual harassment, and abuse. Hollywood, directors, actors,

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congressmen, members of parliament, you name it. Many people have been accused, and found to have been behaving inappropriately with women. It's ongoing, even here. I think there was

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a Welsh Labour member, he committed suicide, because he was under investigation for sexual harassment is true, isn't it? I remember this reading about a month ago. Yeah, he killed himself. Because it was too much for him married married man, he actually hung himself and his wife found him dead with a note. And it was to do with the fact that he was under investigation.

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So there's loads of stories. In fact, studies show that in UK, one in five women is sexually harassed in the workplace. One in five other polls show that the figure is something close to 50%. Here.

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Another interesting thing they said in the UK the last 10 in the US or in the last 10 years $15 million of taxpayers money has been spent to do to pay off people who have accused congressman of sexual harassment $15 million have been paid out to people. Yeah, it's crazy. Okay, so for us as Muslims, we should be looking at the conversation and saying society's struggles with these issues. However,

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we have some answers to these pressing problems. The teachings of the Quran and the Sunnah of the process cillum would go a long way in helping our country here in dealing with such issues. Do you agree or not? Here? In fact, what we see in the news today, of sexual harassment, and all these scandals should make us appreciate you know what, Subhanallah there's so much wisdom in why Islam prohibits certain things and advocate certain things. So this is my first advice to really appreciate about this and use it as an opportunity to speak to other people about it. Yes, use it as an option. Speak to other people. This is what Islam says about these things. And

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there is a heavy for the incident

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that he said, matter October the fifth and he had a bottle out of the jelly milanesa. He said that I have not left a temptation.

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Or trial more dangerous to men, then the temptation of women? Yes, it's a very explicit ahaadeeth. The first column is telling us that this is one of the big trials that men you will face in your lives the temptation of women. So this means that the general position you should take on any discussion around this issue is one of caution. Not one of indifference. To say, I'm not sure what is good or bad Habibi, anything around this issue interaction, the person already defined the kind of direction we should take one of caution. Yeah, one of caution.

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And lastly, the last piece of advice, or to give you is not to be extreme. Okay, some brothers and sisters, we've seen that

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they can go to extremes in these issues. Okay. And one of the scholars said, Man naroda, heavy the law, he said something amazing. He said that when you close the door to something permissible, people will break down that door. Here. What that means is that if you're overly zealous and certain things, then people will react badly to that, and is your fault. Because Islam didn't come to make things that aggressive or that strict. Yes, that aggressive or that strict. So when interacting with the opposite gender Islam says do it with respect and dignity. This is one thing, respect and dignity and secondly, it should be on a need basis. If there is no need, then Islam says Leave it.

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But if there is a need that not be awkward about it, okay? Don't Don't be so awkward about it. Don't make it such a big deal. Talk. Okay, but be respectful and have some dignity about you.

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Very simple. Sounds simple.

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simple guidelines. However, people make things difficult sometimes. So this is my final piece of advice. Do not be extreme about these things. And Allah subhanaw taala knows best. Okay. I'm not sure how long it took them.

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Two minutes.

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