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Timeless Guidance

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Nouman Ali Khan

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papers that really influenced me on this issue is an opening to a very famous, and it's called

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by Amina.

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And before he wrote

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a booklet on the

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prerequisites to reflecting.

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Whenever you study a subject, there are one.

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If you're going to go into accounting, you better have taken one already.

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If you're going to go into fourth grade English, you better already know third grade, there are prerequisites. And he very eloquently argues that in the study or appreciating the two sets, two groups of prerequisites. On the one hand you have academic prerequisites, and on the other hand, you have psychological prerequisites.

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See, if you remember what kinds of the requisites are their

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academic and psychological need separates the two is separate. He says, Let me tell you about the academic prerequisites. The Arabic language is an academic prerequisite.

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Knowing the context of revelations in academics,

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understanding the traditional capacity of what our scholars have said in the past about the linguistic analysis, the

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things that have been derived from it, all of that literature, and scholarship and all of these things, they boil down to academic prerequisites. You can study those things and become a scholar, not just a non Muslim can do that too.

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In Amazon can fulfill the academic requisites and become a top notch scholar.

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As a matter of fact, about 12 years ago, I was in Chicago, listening to a speech by a non Muslim, in a Muslim was invited.

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In Chicago, a professor of Islamic studies from Hartford Seminary in Connecticut, and he came in he spoke for 20 minutes. And when you open he said, he will

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tell you that he can do it.

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he recited

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him Perfect.

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Perfect.

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And once he was done reciting off the top of his head, he compared a different classical device even the first time

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if you can use as this, and two centuries before him.

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And he's quoting the original Arabic text.

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Most of us sitting in the audience are like, whoa.

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And even the audience couldn't help themselves

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by putting on the spot, but actually everybody was thinking that if you know so much, if you know so much, most of us, I bet you in the audience knew as much as that guy did.

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He met what kind of

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psychological prerequisites or something else, there's something else. And a lot of times when we try to study and understand, or try to build the prerequisites of like the study of the Arabic language, whether you're studying it for 10 days, or you're studying it for 10 months, or you're studying it for 10 years, you know what happens a lot of times, we keep our attention on the academic prerequisites. And our attention goes away from the psychological.

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They're the ones that get ignored, because they're not mentioned in the book of

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they're not mentioned.

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Here are the attitudes that you have to have, here's the mindset, you must have all ventures understand.

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Understand what they mean, understand that they understand the language understand this, that all the academic references,

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but none of the spiritual, none of the psychological prerequisites.

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They're not listening. I mean, we're not given that essentially, we're just going to have the right intention. But what does that mean? Let's dig deeper. Let's build the right attitude.

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So now,

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I've shared with you when it comes to academics, we understand when it comes to attitudes,

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or gatherings, or to protect us or to be resilient when somebody dies or somebody gets sick. That's, that's when the problem comes in handy for us. Otherwise, consistent knowledge. It doesn't really have much to do with my personal life. We have to figure out a reconfiguration. Let's talk about this reconfiguration. Now.

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The first thing, all of you know,

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for iron is the bulk of fill in the blank.

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Everybody here knows that. I don't

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Anyone sitting in this audience?

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Was Here different providers.

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The calls itself have its many names.

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In

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the beginning

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of the year,

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you've heard tons of

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guidance. But today I want to talk to you about what is happening.

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Just in simple language, no academic language, no quotations from scholarly works, it's simple.

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When outside of the religious context,

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outside of the religious context, when do you use the word guidance? Have you ever used the word guidance without talking about religion? When?

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When you try it, could you offer me some guidance and directions? You can guidance from your GPS, you can get guidance from the gas station. Right? What else? Do you use guidance high schoolers. And when you are doing guys guidance, guidance counselor, when the local guidance counselor

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I don't know what to do. I want to be successful. I want to have a really good career. I'm not sure what to do, what college Should I advise, what major should I do? I

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can't figure it out. Can you help me? Can you give me some guidance, guidance usually has to do with your future. Number one,

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you got to go to college and in future, you're gonna see a guidance counselor, you want to end up at some destination in your career, just like when you're driving, you want to end up at the right destination, you pull over and you ask for some guidance. Now, let me ask you this.

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When you go, you're trying to get to the airport. DFW is kind of hard to miss. It's bigger than most cities. But anyway, you're lost, you can find the airport, you get lost, you pull over any gas station, you're asking for directions.

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Now, when you ask for directions, and they give it to you,

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do you need it again?

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Once you got the directions, and you understood that, you need the directions again? No.

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You don't need to be told over and over again.

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And if somebody tries to tell you, Hey, take a left here and take a right there. And you say no.

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I know I have to take a look here.

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Have you ever driven a car when somebody wants to give you directions even though the GPS is working?

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And the directions are the exact same thing?

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You know?

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And maybe your perspective and say anything

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wrong? I know. I'm following her

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cuz usually a lady, right?

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But anyhow,

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when you know something, and you're told again, you

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don't need this from you, I don't need this guidance from you.

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If you already went, for example, for a financial advisor, or a financial advisor, or financial counselor, we went to him, he helped you sort out some finances figured out where you should put your money, what investments you should make once

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you got it all figured out, when you don't need the same thing over again.

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And if somebody tries to give it to you, your first response is no thanks. I already know.

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The response is what I already know. So it seems to me that

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guidance has a lot to do with knowledge.

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In life. guidance, as much

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knowledge, I went to get guidance at the gas station because I didn't

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know and now that I have knowledge.

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In all of life, we assumed knowledge to be the same as guidance, guidance can be the same as knowledge. But when it comes to the foreign,

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that formula doesn't work. That same formula I just shared with you the knowledge and guidance can be the same thing. It does not work with the content unless that's the first thing we have to understand. Someone who acquired a lot of knowledge. Does that guarantee that they have guidance from the FDA? No. Clearly, there's a difference now between knowledge and guidance, we have to understand this difference.

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And by the way, in any other guidance, you don't need it over and over again. But in this guidance, by mandate of a lot, by the most

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the prophets

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every few hours, you and I stand in front of the law and say give me guidance. What do we say what are the words

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in guidance was the same as knowledge you wouldn't have to ask for it over and over again because knowledge is done.

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Already, the fact that we have to go out over and over again, must mean there is something else here, something that I am in the danger of losing between law

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and between ourselves.

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And again, so I have to go back and ask again and between

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knowledge is not something, you

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know, two plus two is four is four.

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But the guidance,

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the guidance,

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you can keep it is not the same as now.

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So, the question for you first

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is that when it comes to our religion, when it comes to our attitudes towards this book, we say that knowledge is a key.

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It's a key. But it's not the whole thing. It's a part of knowledge is a part of guidance, we need knowledge, but it's not all of it. There's something.

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And it's something so pricey and so expensive, that even the messenger of a loss of the loved one,

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in every single workout that he ever prayed, asked a lot for

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the fact that he had to ask so many times. So the level that means it's something extremely valuable, and none of us should ever assume that we haven't.

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We shouldn't assume that we have.

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Why should we assume? Because you don't ask for something you already have to navigate.

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If I asked you for some water, like I asked for time.

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What does that mean?

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I'm thirsty.

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If I asked for water, it means I'm thirsty.

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When you ask Allah for guidance, what is it supposed to mean?

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you're thirsty, if I asked for food and being

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hungry, if we're asking for guidance, it means there is just like the body runs out of drink. The body runs out of food, and it needs nutrition. Something inside of us is running out. Like every few hours, I have to drink every few hours, I'm supposedly running out of something, and I have to ask for it. Again, I need it as importantly as I need oxygen and food and drink. And that thing I need is what is guidance. And the only one who can give it to me is

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the only real way to ask him is to first of all, then face him and leave everything else aside and stand in front of him leaving the whole room behind you. And then ask him to do this properly. Because you can just ask for it. It's not that

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you know, you ask your parents for stuff.

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Nobody asked for five minutes. Your kids don't even know they make money. That's

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that's where 20th amendment.

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But they don't even make eye contact. We just sit on their phone. 20 bucks.

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You know,

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when you're done, dad, excuse me? I thought I asked her for 20

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there's something wrong with your attitude when you asked him?

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Is there a difference? Let me ask you. So I can make this point clear. Is there a difference between somebody asking you for water that just came into your house and they're okay.

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Or somebody who's dying of thirst and they asked me for water? Is there a difference in the way they ask?

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There's a different way to ask

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someone who thinks if you give me water, it's nice. But if you don't give it to me, I'll be okay.

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Their attitude is if you don't give it to them, they'll be fine. they'll forget about it.

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But somebody who's dying of thirst,

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they will ask. And once they ask what's happened when they don't ask him

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waiting patiently.

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And when they don't see after 10 seconds.

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They ask again.

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The way in which we ask Allah for guidance is very, very telling me it's a very good indication of how desperate we are for guidance. And if the way you and I asked a lot for guidance, and

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the way you asked for guidance is the way I asked for guidance is not desperate, you know, that proves to me. I don't think anybody else. It proves to me that I am not really that desperately in need of guidance. If

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everything's fine.

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The first thing that has to change is our desperation.

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We have to feel a desperation for guidance. This is this thing is so valuable. The lead doesn't just give it to whoever you want. Whoever wants it.

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Don't just casually ask for it,

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you have to have a certain way of asking, there's a certain way You and I have to build and that has to happen in what institution in salon.

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In salon, we have to stand and ask Allah for guidance in the most desperate way.

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That attitude needs to be. It's hard. It's hard for me and it's hard for you. I'm not saying I've mastered it not even close. We're all in the same boat here. This reminder is as applicable to you, as

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you know, nobody's in a better position than anybody else. This is something we all personally really, really need to work on. Let's take another step. Now. The first thing was desperation. We have to be desperate and intense and how we asked for that.

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But what is guidance? In easy definition? I know I really need it. I know I should ask for it a lot. I know I can't own it, I can be given it. But I can be taken away at any moment.

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It's a treasure that you can do once you earn it, you can keep it you can go away. So you have to keep asking for Muslim or not doesn't matter.

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But then what is it?

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Essentially guidance boils down for you and the practically speaking guidance boils down to choices. That's what it was.

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Between.

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And as

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I'm driving back to the office, there's a billboard I have a choice to work or not to work.

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There's a solid playing on the radio, I have a choice to listen or not to listen.

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There's a friend calling backbiting about another friend, I have a choice to carry on the conversation or end the conversation.

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There's a fight going on between me and my in laws, I have a choice to end the fight or keep the fight going. Keep the keep the fuels of my anger burning.

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All of my life boils down to choices. do or don't do look or don't text or no text posts or no posts,

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email back or email back watch the video or don't watch the video go to the movie or not go to the movie. It's all choices. Yes or no?

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And you know what diamond says practically? Right? before you make any choice, you turn back to

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what's the right choice? Could you guide me?

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Could you guide me to the right choice.

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And then every choice you make an IP, we turn back to a lot and we seek His counsel. And then we make a choice. That's guidance.

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Do choices happen just once a day?

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How often do we make choices?

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Literally every second, every second?

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When do we need guidance?

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every second,

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every second?

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Is it easy to forget

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it lecture you can be told when you need guidance in a book, you will be told you will need guidance. But in life when you're not sitting in the machine when you're when you're at work. When you're hanging out with friends. When you're on campus, when you're in the car. You know, when you're when you're in different places, that's when it will be proven whether you seek guidance or not.

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The second distinction I want to make for you The first was knowledge and guidance and do different things. Remember that. The second distinction I want to make for you is being Muslim, and being guided are two different things. They're not the same.

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And

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that does not mean that we are guaranteed guidance. That means we made our first guided decision. guidance or guidance boils down to what I said it boils down to choices. Becoming a Muslim or being a Muslim is one good choice. It's not the only choice in life. It's one choice. And that good choice of becoming a Muslim opens the doors to all the other good choices in life. But that does not mean you'll always be making the right decisions. And I'll always be making the right decision.

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Now

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the two points I've made thus far is we have to be desperate for guidance and we need it all the time.

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And we can't own it. That's the basic point I made for you so far.

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What is the relationship between this and

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the Quran is basically my counselor,

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my advisor,

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my source for guidance,

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I unrecyclable.

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You know knowledge is one thing I should understand the grammar I should understand the language I should understand that capacity and all of that stuff. But at the end of learning all of that only for one reason. I want to make the right choices.

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You know what happens to people that study religion, not just our religion, any religion and this is true of our people.

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To when we study religion, we study, we study, we study,

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we study religion, and we forget that the reason for studying it is to make the right choices, it just becomes learning for the sake of learning.

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That's a, that's a major problem. The reason we are learning is to make better choices. So if you've been studying brother or sister, and yet your relationships at home are just horrible. They're horrible.

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Human study, you're still as lazy as you were before you memorize.

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And after you memorize, you are still as mean, you are still as impatient, you're still as oblivious. As you were before, then the only difference between before and after is the difference between memorizing certain lines after is still apparent.

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You can be a really bad person without knowing everything, and you can still be a really bad person after

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everything doesn't make you a good person. And because on the academics, academic evil people can be academic.

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It's the other side is the attitudes, the attitudes that have to change, experience a change.

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So I want to talk now about the particular role as guidance. We already talked about the importance of guidance itself.

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Rolling guidance,

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is supposed to be recited every single day multiple times in our salon, so that the law gives us a sermon, he gives us some guidance. And if you are of the Muslims that are sitting in this audience, and probably that's the case for most of you, that when you recite the Quran, or whenever it is recited to you in prayer, you don't understand it, then you need to compensate. You need to compensate by studying the outside of the original intention in the religion, the original idea of the religion is your relationship with God is supposed to be maintained in in some way. But if that's not happening for you, and you don't understand what's happening, then you have to compensate

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for that until you learn better, until you learn better, you have to become a student.

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So now my advice to you is what does it mean that you and I are becoming students for the purpose of guidance students for the purpose of guidance, number one

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priority.

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My teacher used to give this example he used to say if I was to pay you $1

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give you a shovel.

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Dig a hole hit 10 feet deep.

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How long would it take me to take

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the holding?

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Then he takes another student he says

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howdy?

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Who's gonna take faster?

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Is there a difference between thinking?

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Who's gonna take a break and who's not going to take a break? Who's gonna say I got no time I'm busy right now.

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And he's gonna say

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you see there's a difference in attitude right?

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You get something more out of it.

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You get something. If you get something more automated, it will get your attention it will get your time it will get your Africa's natural.

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The fact that you guys are cramming the night before the exam.

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medical students become medical patients before the exam.

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They study so hard. The fact that we will your accountant

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you don't even come home from taxes.

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When you're running the store, it is Christmas break or you know Black Friday or Thursday, whatever it is.

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You got to run the store. This is the most important time of the year.

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When you have the immigrant the Green Card appointment at 8am 9pm the night before.

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It's important it deserves your time your attention gets the time and the attention.

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The fact that the time does not get my time and attention.

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The fact that it doesn't get my family attention.

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That is proved to me. I don't think David has something to offer.

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My wife is fulfilled as it is. I

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have a TV. I have a PlayStation. I have an internet connection. I have an iPhone. I have a car. I have a fridge full of food. I have a fancy

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conditioning I have a job. I have I have I have I have

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have certified don't have guidance, what's the big deal?

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That's what's going on in most of our heads.

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The reason we're not thinking

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is we don't even see what's the big deal, what am I going to get out and

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everything's fine.

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You and I have to start seeing life differently. We will not get out of

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anything except

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the fraud is not the Reader's Digest is not some blog that you visit once in a while you read it casually a little bit. The Quran is a serious read from my own life,

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our seriousness towards

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how big of a priority has to change. And if you just woke up to that now, maybe you woke up to that recently, and you feel like you've been robbed of it your entire life. And now only now you get to realize,

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I never even knew.

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I can tell you, I felt like that the first time I truly appreciated the plan with the teacher, and realize that it is personally talking to me, it's giving me guidance. This book is a gift to me, personally, for me to live a better life. When I realized that God has gifted every single believer with his personal words, when you come to that realization, there's this unraveling that happens inside. How can I do justice to this book all this time? How can I?

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How can I start falling asleep?

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How can that happen? I have done so much wrong to this book. I deserve so much better from this amazing gift.

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You ever give a gift to somebody?

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You go to their house, you have them with something gift wrapped?

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And they take it down? Thank you so much.

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What does that mean?

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No appreciation?

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Or do you go to somebody's house and you see the same gift that you gave them? Your friend is still in a corner in a shelf somewhere?

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Yeah, I was gonna open that.

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I was waiting for a special occasion.

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Sounds familiar? When we do that, like

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the gift of love gave us

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that's the gift of love. That's what we do. We don't get

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his gift wrapping is

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in its place, and will only pull it out in life. Especially

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only gonna come out especially What a sad tragedy. Now let's say you come an icon and we say y'all are gonna change our attitude. I want guidance from the spotlight. I want to learning I want to fulfill its academic prerequisites, not because I want to be an academic now because I want to show off my knowledge because I want to make the right choices in life. Because I want guidance.

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I've come into this book with the right attitude. You know what's gonna happen, you're gonna notice something. Online is a lot like a mirror.

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When you start reciting when you start seeing yourself

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other

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believers true believers have already attained success. Oh, maybe I'm a true believer I should read I

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don't think I'm wrong in prayer.

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So the first thing I said the true believers are the ones who are overwhelmed and they're going to have a lot when they're making a lot especially my salon was more like cardiovascular exercise.

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I don't maybe maybe I should cross that one out. I didn't need that prerequisite. Maybe the next one.

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They're constantly trying to purify themselves.

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Yes.

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The next one.

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They stay away from useless conversation useless activity. Actually, I was on Facebook right now maybe I should cross

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one after the other after the other you start saying

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I should meet some of these qualifications. Should I? customer says these are the people who attained success. You don't just read that you're supposed to see yourself in that where do you stand your device stand?

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You don't just learn the grammar.

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And

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you know, just do that.

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That's the difference between someone who just looks at me and someone looks for guidance in life.

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But now when you start seeing Do you notice there's a difference between

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where you and I aren't like do you start noticing a difference? Seems like one is going this way.

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So immediately you realize I need to make some changes in life right?

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And you realize you need to make some changes in life.

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Are any of us going to change overnight?

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But at least we should try.

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At least you and I should have a list of things that we know are wrong with us. Have you ever done that make a list of things that are wrong with you.

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I know you've made a list of things that are wrong with your husband,

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and a list of things that are wrong with everybody else. Especially.

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What about a list of things that are wrong with me?

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Just myself, I'm too lazy.

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I don't.

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I don't, I don't have any time to memorize.

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My mother and

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I don't give my dad enough to make a list.

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What is the stuff that I need to work on? It's not rocket science. I just figured I knew try to make those changes, inspired by the guidance and try to make those changes. And you know what's gonna happen? When you try to make those changes people around, you will notice and the first group of people that will notice are the people that are closest to you, who's the closest to you?

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And they will notice something's changed. Because

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you were just making fun of that person and you didn't jump in.

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When waiting on a homerun

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what used to be cool

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to the concert you come in?

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Why not? Your favorite band? nobody listened to that stuff. What?

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What are you talking about?

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Let's go man. Come on. Let's do this. No, no. I'm looking for guidance.

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You think I'm better than us?

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Oh, you think you're all this?

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All your job is so spiritual.

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We're all the filthy world was really cool. You're the only Muslim

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sarcasm will begin inside the house. You'll start hearing all kinds of stuff. Oh, this one is holiness.

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Could you stick your hand in the water before I drink it because you know,

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you'll become an object of ridicule.

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Your friends will stop hanging out with

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your friends. Red is the new stuff. That's against guidance. Because once you develop a look for guidance, you can't hang out with too much. So you start distancing yourself from your friends.

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You start getting distance from family, they start they start getting upset with you. Why aren't you willing to that way? You can go you know what kind of environment?

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No, but that's your cousin. You have to go. And you will dance.

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These are the conversations that happen inside behind closed doors is another conversation that happens.

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Do you mean you're not going to college? No doubt I can't take a loan like that. You will become a doctor. Yeah, but that's a loan. It's like interest base. Isn't that like Geraldo or something? What are you going to?

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Go get?

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Your parents okay?

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These are the conversations happening inside this

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girl starts with

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dad, his mom is the first one to

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take it over.

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You If you love me, you will take

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me to tell you that.

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I love you. I don't want you to be attacked. I don't want you to be looked at. I'm worried about.

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Sometimes they'll say it out of anger. Sometimes they'll say just take it off. It's okay. It's not a sin. You don't have to do it. It's alright. Don't worry about it.

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I'm telling younger brother I know. I'm worried about you. Nobody's gonna marry you. If you look like

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you went to their house, it was gonna come you have to bring up the show. And you have to do that.

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These are conversations.

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And why do these conversations happen? Because some of our crazy young people decide they're going to make a little change in their life towards guidance.

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And a red alert goes off.

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security alert in the family. My young son is becoming crazy. I get two kinds of people that come to me parents that come to me. One parents that say my child has nothing to do with this to my child.

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started praying and worried about everything is getting finished

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can we want our children to be Muslim or non Muslim?

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Just like

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the rest of the rest is for these Beloved.

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When you start developing a relationship with something, this is a gift from above, and not everybody gets

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to get it, you know what it is, you will feel cut off from everything

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and

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feel connected to

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you feel like the only one you can talk to and I was the only one who really is talking to you.

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The words of the love have come through the book, like just reveal those words.

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It will have

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no way you and I cannot appreciate through a talk that the Quran is guidance. A lecture can do that for you in a lecture to not do that. For me. It is when you and I recycle are seeking guidance. And then the guidance of Allah comes.

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When it comes and you experience it, there is no comparison. There's no comparison.

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It is a lifetime experience.

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That's the experience you need to be seeking. I know some of you have heard me talk about this on YouTube. But I want to share it with you again because it's relevant to this conversation. It's one of my favorite stories with my own children.

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My first daughter

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was actually a student in class he

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first came I have six now I can't even remember the name. There's too many.

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But when the first time was born, you know what happens right?

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Up attention to

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get a camera. What's the camera? anyway? She burped so cute. Even when she views

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and this kid are making a lot at home this kid is crawling around. I can see it from the corner of my eye because you know even though we spread this

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rectangle, our eyes work beyond the rectangle.

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The rectangle, you have peripheral vision. So from the corner of my eye, this kid is sitting around, and all of a sudden, hands on the floor.

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And she's standing for the first time

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and she's kind of shocked herself he doesn't know what's going on.

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And she's looking straight out the window and

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your first child standing up for the first time exciting moment.

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Oh, man.

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Oh, man. And that was a lot

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slot that

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was called the white vincelot.

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But then I kept myself together and I kept on frame and now you don't want that happens, what should you want to do? And that happens you should finish your slot and get to it.

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So I was in the middle of resigning and I kept on

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just to finish up happened to be

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alive

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resigning next year.

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For

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those of you who believe Don't let your money and your children distract you from the remembrance of the lines cleverness or the ultimate wizard.

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So understanding and defining that and her moments, I forgot that

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and you realize Allah is watching and Allah is giving you your own guidance

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was talking to you and let's talk.

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That's what he's doing.

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It's, there's no more beautiful.

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There's no more.

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This is the attitude we need to develop towards. Number one and appreciation and desperation. Number two, in a need to want to change ourselves. I want to change myself. I wanted to I wanted to impact when you hear the stories of the Sahaba it's something else. I'll share a story with you and one and only friends story

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changes.

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You know, the mother of the believers

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and welcome she had an apron and

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Trying to read she was cooking. And the problems I found is walking in the house is not big. The quarters are very, very, very small the size of a Texas closet.

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Okay, so she's cooking and she can see from the window that the problem is coming.

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And the problem is Icelanders are citing the IRS for that talk about covering up.

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This is the first time she's getting these items. She didn't know about these

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where she

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know what she doesn't know.

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All she heard is believing women showing

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she's listening to the IOD she can't find the plot she hears on her apron and covers

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immediately.

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So how our brain towards

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precisely

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changed

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in Java in Java,

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and

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Java, and

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then only we can finish the

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debate about this.

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Nothing

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we heard,

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we should change.

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We should move it.

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You know how difficult it is to come across liquids in the desert.

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drinks in the desert. How quickly dries up?

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When we think of alcohol in our industry in our country, it flows like water

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available in the mountains of it or in Walmart.

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But back in Arabia, when you squeezed wine and you may have been it's expensive. Why? Because you don't have enough food to begin with. It's a it's a commodity it's a really expensive asset. The other common come down to the prohibition of alcohol and finished drinking and they start gagging their model so they can throw it up.

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Not like oh, I won't do it again. Oh, man, that was too soon too close to the item. I should gag and throw it out.

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The entire streets are filled. These are soundless stories. What about?

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I used to live in Long Island.

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There was a Puerto Rican fellow from the neighborhood who came to the mushroom and became Muslim.

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And you can use a little bit this girlfriend had a baby with a girlfriend. Christina

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came to the machine learning salon.

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And one day in the middle of conversation.

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said yeah, my girlfriend I'm trying to give her stuff.

00:42:44--> 00:42:44

You know?

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The mom says

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it was Yeah, we have maybe two

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I don't think you can even have as a Muslim. You have to get married.

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He goes What do you mean Academy when That's my girl.

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He doesn't know.

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He doesn't know.

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So as a gesture, the mouth opens up

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and shows in certain

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countries

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adultery, fornication,

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any relationships outside of marriage. Okay. He listens to the IRS.

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And he leaves.

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He's there every morning, every morning.

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And after about a couple of weeks, he asked him the brothers

00:43:40--> 00:43:45

have some space in your apartment. I can rent on your house a basement or something I can rent it.

00:43:47--> 00:43:55

And he said Don't you have a house right there? He goes, Yeah, but ever since I heard this I I was sleeping in the backyard. But winter is starting.

00:43:57--> 00:43:58

So I was hoping I can recognize

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income. And if you really think of it as guidance, you will change. You will change. These are not

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the same.

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We have been We are the gifted.

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But he's like he lost their book. They lost.

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The Masada lost their book, they have pieces of them. We have an entire book and the entire explanation of the book by the prophet himself in his practice.

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What more can we ask?

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The only thing missing from this picture is you and me. That's the only thing missing. Get ready for start making time for another one from now. start memorizing a little bit of it every day. start listening to some stuff, see some explanation and recommend listening over reading because in reading you get sleeping

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and listening. You're stuck in the car anyway.

00:44:58--> 00:44:59

So listen to the sleep

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Listen to an exploration, especially the escalation of soldiers you've already memorized. And every time you listen and learn something, even if you don't take notes, even if you don't memorize everything that was said, at the end of it all, as a law to make that a means of guidance, because that's the bottom line, that's why we're doing this. There's no other reason.

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There's no other reason. Those of you that studied Arabic these 10 days,

00:45:24--> 00:45:27

can't make make a count as a bother for you and me.

00:45:29--> 00:45:43

Naked count towards us fixing our attitudes towards the heart and really taking it as counsel really taking it as well as those unless you, me and our families to make the right choices and make the right choices based on the guidance

00:45:44--> 00:45:47

allows them to put in all of us in love.

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And a lot of put in us a feeling that a day goes by without reciting for five, we should feel like we're missing a family member, that you miss your child, you haven't seen them all day, you miss a loved one, you haven't seen them, we should feel a loss of that I missed that. I need to go and pick it up and read it to become my companion, my best friend.

00:46:09--> 00:46:21

You know, my associate my helper in troubled times, the only one I can talk to sometimes. That's what this should be when nobody else understands you ally understands. That's what this should become for all of

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us with that beautiful relationship with his book. And may Allah reward us more and more and more and make our studies and our learning and our application easier and easier and easier for us only because we want as guidance. The last week and I'll leave you

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what is the most repeated quality of our mentioned

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other than guidance.

00:46:54--> 00:46:56

Other than vegetables, repeating quality and the

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second

00:47:00--> 00:47:01

reminder and remembrance.

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I told you in the beginning of this talk, when somebody needs guidance, when somebody needs directions, they don't need them over and over again.

00:47:10--> 00:47:21

But the guidance you need apply, over and over and over again. Never Say Never say never sit and listen to it and say oh, I already know.

00:47:23--> 00:47:24

I already got this

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because it's not being given to you for knowledge is being given to you for amendments, reminder that keep in

00:47:31--> 00:47:34

mind reminder has benefit. That can be

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a reminder, whoever fears my promise, my threat

00:47:42--> 00:47:52

should be remembered over and over and over again. None of us should feel I already know this already studied best. I don't need to recite it again, should be recited constantly,

00:47:53--> 00:48:04

constantly, you'll notice and start purifying your life. It'll start purifying your family, start purifying your home, the home the wisdom is being recited not every player.

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But by the souls that live in that house, that house will be free of a lot of problems.

00:48:11--> 00:48:12

That house will enjoy a lot of

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reciting by you, the wife and children, the parents in the house. Should we recite

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how many homes have fights and arguments, you know fights and arguments. You can say that Shabbat doesn't have anything to do with

00:48:30--> 00:48:31

Shabbat has something to do with worship.

00:48:34--> 00:48:35

It's the guy who runs

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it starting with

00:48:40--> 00:48:44

Sega mass production from the recycle, you will remove a lot of

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a lot of blessings to your house. And once we fulfill these primary obligations of changing ourselves and seeking its guidance, then you know what use it for the ceremony. Keep it in the dashboard of your car we decided to feel better to get healthier use it for signing but to get more vodka all that's great, but that secondary on the correct attitude towards his book is primary. So I begged him for myself and for all of you and especially for our children and a lot of people

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leave you with this by one of my favorites. On the promises address the oma and he said Yeah.

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Don't.

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Don't relax.

00:49:31--> 00:49:32

Don't become lacks and lazy about

00:49:33--> 00:49:34

what.

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Read it and follow it like it deserves to be read and follow all hours of the night and day.

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Spread it with a noble and beautified unified with your voices enjoy reciting.

00:49:49--> 00:49:51

Even if you're tone deaf,

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even if nobody else likes the recitation you should enjoy the sign for you

00:49:57--> 00:50:00

with a demo fee and deeply reflect

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And into the book that I'm talking to people so that all of you may become successful alumni dynamic.

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I don't think there's any there's really

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nothing I sent me the question

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really I didn't talk about any complicated like anxiety versus

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financing.

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So yeah