Tafseer Surah Luqman – Episode 05 – Verse 14-15
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has now begun we've taken the first two verses of that piece of advice first 1213 and now today inshallah, another two verses will be taken Sharla verses 14 and 15. So let's begin with the recitation of this portion of the Quran.
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last time we began the advice of lachemann the advice of man to his son began on the subject of theology. Yeah, he was advising his son who we said was a mushrik do not do * with Allah subhana wa Tada. And then he told him one of the reasons why no one should do * with Allah initial inner circle level one album that is a form of volume and we explained that has three meanings linguistically, and two of those meanings apply in this case of doing * with the last panel. So I gave him the reasoning behind why he prohibited him and was advising him against doing such a thing being a mushrik we spoke also about what should actually entails and any other dimensions of schilke
you know, and how more importantly it is prevalent in our times maybe even more so than it was in previous time. So the pertinency of these is really is something we need to be aware of now, it seems as though Okay, that advice moves to another subject. Okay in this ayah verse number 14, Allah subhana wa tada says, but was saying insert the word he did he hammer Allah to move and another one, Allah says that we have instructed commanded
man to be what to his parent parents to show beer to show beer to his parents. And then in particular, his mother, who bore him and another one, we will take what that means later what his father hope era mean and the weaning meaning the breastfeeding period should be up to two years. So it seemed as though the subject matter is now changing. Okay, so first, he spoke about right of a loss of panel data and then he spoke about the right Alliance given to the parents over the child. However, as of now, I should mention is that both are in fact targeting the same point about not doing chittick with the last panel. That's something we'll come back to after we take this I on the
next slide. So bear that in
Because the question will be posed, which wouldn't be that how do does this verse 14 and verse 15 actually
serve as more of a reinforcement? In the words of Lockman law to Shrek be law don't do * with a lot this advice to be good to one's parents. In fact, in the context of this passage is just reinforcing the very first thing which is lead to stickler don't do should be the last one, we'll come to the answer, you can answer this question. Now. We start with the vocabulary. There's three words which we want to speak about here. First of all, the last panel that I said was slightly Wow, this one here is a continuation, meaning the continuation of the advice was saying we have done was say now, what does this mean was for council route of Warsaw, Warsaw means to unite something Warsaw
Yeah, with the shutdown on the sod, it means to recommend but not just to recommend and to advise, that actually means to impress upon someone to command someone to instruct somebody that sometimes people will translate this as we have advised upon man to be dutiful to his friends, that's not a correct translation because Warsaw is far stronger than the original Warsaw okay. So, here it is more a firm command was slain in Sun that we have instructed and commanded man regarding his parents.
Okay, now, the next word one, then, one, two ones are mentioned in this in this ayah one from the root of wahana. Yeah, you know, it means to be weak, to be feeble, and to grow feeble, okay to grow feeble, and this is referring to the pregnancy the pregnancy stage, in the life of a child when the child is inside the womb of the mother. She experiences this thing the last panel that has said one year
and then the final word is muscly, helium massive to us is a lawsuit lawsuit becomes the root of Sora which means to reach to reach a point, it can also mean to return to something so analyses coming from sada means the place of returning the place of returning going back to this place, Allah says to me, is a massive that place that you will reach me that place that you will return to
Now, that's almost see it. So you need to see that
on my seats, also from my seat, we get Marika Tomasi, this expression Marika Tomasi which means the decisive battle because after this battle, whoever wins it and he
if you like it goes back to his position, meaning he is the one that will be overcome by the other ones in return back to his low position. Marika Tomasi, look at the expression.
Okay, now for the deceit.
Allah subhanho wa Taala said what was seen in sirna b word the day that Allah is instructed, strongly commanded man BYD day,
two, or by his parents of poverty said Allah subhanho wa Taala here has commanded man to show bit, goodness or good conduct to his parents, both mother and father. This is something well known and said many times and report on or bhilwara as an expression you find many times and report on
notaire bydd. Both parents are being mentioned. Okay, both parents are being mentioned.
Now, after mentioning the command to show good conduct to both of your parents love and move specifically to the mother. This seems to be the only version of Iran where Allah subhanaw taala specifically ordered us to show good conduct to our mothers.
Now, Allah subhanho wa Taala told us the reason why she deserves more good conduct from you than your father. Two reasonings were given. Firstly, hammer led to omo that his mother, hammer Allah to bore him meaning carried him during pregnancy. One and another one. I probably mentioned two views one and another one. The first is it's about what one stage
weakness followed by another stage of weakness followed by another stage being just a constant, if you like,
stage of weakness after another, the mother from conception, as the fetus starts to grow inside of her, she becomes weaker. In the beginning you have the morning sickness, and then the mother, she's being drained by the child inside, as it takes more nutrition from her so she becomes tired, then the weight, the weight of the child begins to hurt the mother's back. And then some of them get varicose veins, you know, the unsightly veins in the legs, and then the delivery, even more one on top of another one. And our delivery is the hardest of it all. Salma said, Look, she carried you, one on one stage of difficulty after another on top of another.
The second view is that the first one refers to the fetus, the fetus is feeble, the fetus is weak.
And the weakness of the fetus makes the mother also experienced one as well. She also becomes weak because of the the child that is one inside of her that is also very true. The child needs all of his nutrition come from the mother, whatever the mother eats the child takes from so the fact that the child takes from the mother and turn the nutrition makes also the mother become weak as well. So the mother also experiences one because of the one of the features.
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this is the world of hell, meaning she carried you whilst being in this state, this state of gradual weakness. So the focus is on you. You are the one that brought about the weakness of your mother at that moment in time while she was carrying you you experience she experienced much weakness much discomfort much pain. Okay.
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This is now the second reasoning. The reason why he saw your mother more good conduct better behavior. Better speech is because first you carried you in this state. And secondly, what you saw roofie amin that she breastfed you for recommended period of Army two years. Yeah, two years. This is the recommended period, after which the child should be moved off breast breast, breast milk.
So for this period of time, the mother she gives the child breast milk breast milk is not just any ordinary milk. In fact, breast milk up until today is being recommended to be the best form of nutrition for the baby up until six months. This is something well known. And NHS guidelines and nice guidelines that breast is best up until six months after that you can move move off exclusive breastfeeding milk here gradually. So Allah subhanho wa Taala place inside the mother something that benefits the child incredibly milk that not just nourishes the child. But they said it contains things that help ward off infection for the child. And the the closest the child experiences with
the mother through breastfeeding creates a stronger bond as well, a more deeper love.
And there are so many benefits of breastfeeding. I won't get into that right now. If you Salafi army. So that's another reason why she deserves more good conduct from you then, then the Father.
Initially when he worded it now, maybe someone would say, Well, if Allah is telling us about the parents here, then surely that I would end show them gratefulness. And me as well. But Allah subhanaw taala said it the opposite way, and this could lead show thanks to me. Why do you Why do you dig and then your parents both mother and father again. So there's two things we learn here. Why do you think Allah Subhana Dada first commanded us to show gratefulness to him? After mentioning everything the parents have done, in particular the mother for you. And thereafter, while you were the big show, also, gratitude to your parents. Why do you think it was bought in this order and not
the way that you may think to be more logical?
Anyone has an answer to this question?
You're saying that because Allah is the source of all blessing, including your parents? Is that what you're saying? Yeah, this is the, this is the answer that your parents have done so much for you, your mother, how she blew you in pain, and then she gave you her breast milk. But those parents have us and everything else that you have with you, is from me recognize that first and foremost, this goes back to Heckman. And he had come out of Look, man, gave him an insight into his own self, that he recognized the blessings of Allah, meaning he saw blessings and attributed them first to Allah. In the same way here, it takes a level of wisdom to say as the brother said, that year because the
parents do so much but who is the one who came the parents? Who is the one who gave the mother the breast milk in order to feed me, Allah, Allah is a source of all blessing, and that is why inish could lead
Allah says oh show gratitude to me, while you already take the second thing we note here is the ratio, how many times was the father mentioned in this ayah and how many times is the mother been mentioned? This is
what was saying that in Santa BYD, they both mentioned your father we mentioned once hammer led to move and another one no father, if you saw the army, no father, initially what he what he did, Father, twice, mother, or sinal insanity, why the day, hammer lead to move and another one twice. What you saw me three times and equally while you validate? Four times.
double attention given to the mother or the father. Okay. We know that the mother does more for the child than the Father. But in what sense? Okay, the fact that she bought him in pregnancy and that she breastfed him. Okay, so then what is the role of the father?
And you allow mentioned the reasons why you should show gratitude to your parents and why you should show them some good conduct. But where's the father any, any indication of the Father given here or before?
What is the role of the father?
What is the input of the father to the child? Is it mentioned anywhere since the beginning of the advisable of man?
The brother said that like Look, man, what was he doing as a father giving his son tarbiyah giving his son tarbiyah. The role of the Father has already been mentioned. Look at Look man, where Hawaii
buena Yella to stick villa. He was giving him to be, he was advising him. Yeah, he was advising him, nurturing him developing him.
That was the role of the father
to try and develop the child here to try and develop the child in terms of the way he thinks, the way he behaves, the way he looks at the world. This is the father already mentioned. Then Allah mentioned the mother later on. But there's a difference between the two, the mother and he, this comes naturally to her she has to
bear the child in pregnancy, she has to feed the child. But the father, does he have to be more or be
okay, religiously? Yes, he has to. But is it as binding upon him? Does it come as naturally to him his role than the mother? No. It's difficult. That shows us that's part of the role of the father is something that a person needs to be very aware of. It doesn't just come naturally, like it does for the mother. Rather, it is something that someone needs to focus on. How should I be a good father to my son and my daughter? What exactly should my role be towards him? What should my plan be with them? How should I be? What milestones should I have in my mind about how I want to raise them up? What do I want to teach them? What do I want to advise them about? What do I want to be when they
grow up? What about the Luqman hikma look at Look, man, his priority was to teach his son about a law's greatness, about his relationship with Allah and later on that advice moves them to manners, conduct behavior with others around them, okay. So the role of the Father has been mentioned, but it is not. It doesn't come as naturally as the role of the mother.
now this verse ends additionally, what
The world aka iligan, massive Li almacenes. What really what link does Allah saying unto us?
Is the return have to do with the commandment to show bill to your parents? What's the link between Allah saying unto us is the final return and telling us that we have enjoined upon man to show bill to his parents
what is the link here?
Okay, very good the brother said you'll be held accountable and he was saying that we have given you a command and they will come a day we will take you to account for that command. And we will take you to account for that command whether or not you did initially while you were like hey, we will take you to account for this was the year that we have given
Now the lessons learnt the lessons Panama
basically three, the three main lessons here the first is about something called lt fat. What was Cena what was saying is the first person narrative. First personality. We said yeah, meaning the last Sopranos I said, But before that,
well, who are you? Yeah, buena Yella to seek Bella, it was in the third person narrative. It was about look man saying doing things. He spoke to his son, he gave him a mower. He told him don't do you share it with a lot, then all of a sudden, a switch third person to first person and we have enjoined upon man to show beer to their parents. And it's like you're reading a book, okay? And you hear about
him and he was home Monday and he had burgers downstairs and he went downstairs to to chase them out of his home. And we have commanded you to protect your wealth.
What happened there? All of a sudden just switched, the subject is switched. And the person speaking just switched What happened there? This is from the beauty of the Koran. And it teaches us two lessons. In fact, No, in fact, three lessons, what was seen, Allah said, Okay, that's Look, man, what he was doing. But now we are going to speak, we are now going to speak and relate to you another command. This command is to do with your own parents. So number one lesson, it shows us the significance of the command to be good to our parents. How so because Allah didn't leave that command to a third person. He didn't leave it to look man, to say to his own son, and then to you to
hear he said to his son, be good to your parents. Oh, that's a lesson for us as well. No Allah,
any champion the right of the parent himself, what was signle insan, we are the ones now commanding you. So that shows us the significance of the obligation to show good conduct to your parents.
number two, it also teaches us that something bit more subtle. Don't demand your rights from the person himself. Rather, there should be another person telling him that look, sounds right over you.
And if Look, man, the father said to his son, you know, you should be good to me. I'm your father. And he wouldn't come across as very good. Why? Because there seems to be any personal interest there You are my father. That's why he turned to me to be good to you.
So when you ask for your own right from somebody, it's not as strong as somebody else saying, look, you need to fulfill his right that he has over you. So when Allah subhanho wa Taala brought the command of being good to your parents, it was a third, if you like another person, giving this advice to his son, another person give advice that's far stronger. You know, it teaches us that as a community, or just as a person who has other friends. Those friends have a role to play in the upbringing of that person's child. It shouldn't be the mother and the father, really, who should be telling the children you need to be good to us. You need to behave well with us. Allah has commanded
you to show beard to us. Rather it should be the Imams it should be even the uncles it should be the Friends of the Father, who should be taking up that role. They have a role in the upbringing of somebody else's child. Here is a very subtle point. The fact that Allah didn't allow a man to
That advice directory son, but rather a lot it himself teaches us that is far more powerful that somebody asked for the right not to ask for their right by that person but rather, it comes from another source, it comes from another source.
Okay, the third lesson we learn is that what was saying that insaan is a very general command applying to every one of us, every one of us, in that there is an implication that the command that came before learn to shoot it can be love, that look man was saying to his son is also in fact, General applying to all of us, it is not just a person who told his son, don't be a polytheist rather, I was saying that insan just like this command relates to all of us. So did that previous one is low.
It is a story, but in the story is a command that is also general to all of us, we have all been commanded law to stick the law, don't make sure that Allah subhana wa, that is a point of natural mentioned in his in his Tafseer. Now, what is interesting is that there is always been a very close relationship between these two commands, the command, not to ship do ship with Allah and the command to be close to your parents. It comes side by side. And this is amazing. Allah, the thing he loves the most is for his slaves to worship Him alone. Then if someone asks the question What What does Allah love, after that, and what is beneath just beneath that
was seen in Santa Fe where the day that Allah loves after that, that the children show good behavior to their parents. And he straight after that, it is mentioned in more than one place. This is one place we have for example in Surah Surah
Allah to Shinjuku be he Shay on what Bill Worley they need Sunnah Allah said and they should not make sure with him with in any way shape or form what Bill while he Dania Sunnah to the parents is
in sort of a straw, walk about a taboo in the year where bill Worley they Asana, the same thing again we have decreed or commanded. Your Lord has commanded that you do not worship anyone save him what will validate Santa and to the parents, his son, and sort of Papa, verse number 83, la buena in the law of invalidating Santa again and do not worship anyone say Allah subhanho wa Taala and to the parents, his son, and then in Surah Nisa, la COVID. commission. Oh, Bill, worry, Dania Santa, Panama. So many times in the Quran, Allah spoke about the greatest commandment, not to do * with him. And immediately after that, not in another verse, in the same verse, same statement will be
learned in you know in in that day is a tremendous sign.
How much Allah loves and what it means to allow for a child to show good conduct to his parents. And one had he reported in certain nursery classes to Shiva Vernier shamala, a man came to the president and he said that look, I've come here to give you better meaning I've come here to fight by your side and imagine a man he came from far away just to fight alongside the process of them by coming to see him and meet him. And believing in him he became a hobby
but not just become a hobby he wants to go and fight by the side of the processor.
But then he said I came to you in order to give you br mean to fight alongside you, but I left my parents crying. They cried because I left them looked at what the professor said and said to him, he said go back to them and make them laugh just as you made them cry.
Cold back to them and not just go back to them. So they'll stop crying not any make up for that hurt that you caused them the other Sreekumar come up Kaito make them love just as you made them cry me amazing. The professor salon went to that extent that you have done this much you make sure you make up for that harm. You made him cry now make them laugh. And he the command to be good to the parents names panel is so high, I cannot be overstated.
Okay, so this is any. We've taken these lessons now. In fact, we said the three lesson will have the mother's role we said here and next to the fathers have already mentioned is tarbiyah and the obligation of visit towards the parents coming straight after the command to obey Allah to worship Allah alone.
Okay, the next verse Now
verse number 15 We're in tjahaja Kala unterschiedlicher be Mali silica be here and Allah said the first word will take what injure Haddock and if they strive against you the word for strive used here was Jada. Jada comes from a root of
death to strive into labor. From dad we get the word HD hand which means to exercise scholarly judgment meaning you really push yourself to try and find the right answer based on the knowledge that you have. That is jet HDR, this is Johanna Giada. Okay, it can mean either to fight okay? Or it can mean to put a great deal of pressure on someone. A great deal of pressure on someone sunless powder here said we're in a cafe put a great deal of pressure on you. Both of them just had
both of them in the jewel put a great deal of pressure on you in order that you to Silicon Valley that you may share with me, man, a silica VM something that you have no knowledge of whatsoever. fella then in that case, you cannot evade them.
What Sasha Who? Murphy dunya meroofer that Allah said anduze musataha
Sasha Houma moussaka, okay this word it comes from Sahaba which means to accompany, okay, it means to accompany or to associate with someone It can also mean to befriend.
So Sahaba here, it is a command. Allah is commanding this person who is under this much pressure from his parents to accompany meaning spend time and still be around those parents while sloshy Bahama feed dunya in this dunya meroofer in a way that is good in a way that is known to be good. That is the second word. And the last word. What they were slb lemon and herb LA and then a second or second command What did they unfollow this deal? The way of who? Man the one another la The one who has done
to me and outcomes from route of No, no but means to represent to be an agent, okay to represent or be an agent meaning to take the place. There is a businessman and he has some merchandise, he wants to sell it he can't go to such and such place. So he gets an agent, the agent that Nope, he takes his place. Okay. And that is why
it means to go back, turn back, you know, because this person, he just an Asian, the actual merchandise goes back to the real businessman. Okay, so Allah said follow the way of men, another la The one who has turned, turned to me, the one who has turned to me. This is the this is just the recovery, there's not that upset. Okay, now that you've seen
this verse was revealed, due to an incident that happened during the life of the process of them with one of his companions, sad, in pneumatic, pneumatic or the loudhailer and he became a Muslim in Makkah. Okay, now, when he became a SIM, his mother was still emotional.
When she found out, she wasn't happy. And she took an oath that I will not eat or drink until you renounce your faith. And imagine your mother saying that you're going to starve herself. And unless you renounce your religion,
an immense amount of pressure were injured.
Now what did he do? He went to his mother. He went to his mother and he pleaded that don't do this. He took food to drink for her. And he said to her, look, drink just drink it. But I cannot. She said no. After one day, she said, I will not until you renounce your faith. Now when she said that, he said, my mother, if you had 100 souls, and they began to depart one after the other, I would never leave this religion. Imagine the expression you used if you had 100 lives and you lost them, one of us are you dying 100 times I would never ever
give up either in the law. Now when he said that was on the second day. She was very feeble, a very weak when she heard that from him, and so the conviction in his eyes, she said, Okay, no problem. And she began to eat
So she gave up. But Subhana Allah, the pressure that he was under, and she was literally emotionally blackmailing him to give up Islam. He was a new Muslim. He was a new Muslim. And this is something that many, many many reverts face has become Muslim. And they are ostracized by the friends and the family, and sometimes even disowned by their own parents were in that situation is being spoken about right here, where India had
to shake up the silica be here a lot in that situation where you are being compelled by none other than those parents that I've just told you have such a higher rank over you. In that case fell out to their home and you cannot obey them. Meaning when it comes to that particular request, you cannot say okay, if that's what you want, Mum, I'll do it.
But Allah didn't leave it there. Allah then mentioned advice. What should someone do in that situation? What Sasha who Murphy, dunya, Ufa that you should instead of saying no, I can't do this particular thing. continue having a good relationship with them. Well, sloshy bajo Murphy dunya Maru means if they live somewhere nearby, go and visit them. Don't say how can you ask me to do such a horrible thing? I don't want to see your face ever again. No. Even though they may make your life difficult when you go around, they they mock you. She wears a hijab. Now, what are you doing when you're in the club? How do you come out when the club No, you can't because of that, say, forget it.
To hell with it. No, you have to continue to strive, and at the very least have masaba meaning accompany them, be around them, spend a little bit of time with them. Fit dunia. Notice how Allah added fifth dunya Why do you think Allah mentioned fifth dunya here? Why? Because, of course they hear with you know, any grammar. I'm going to do that now. I'll go into that in any other time. So why do you think Allah subhanaw taala explicitly said Phil dunia
very good. In fifth dunya is an unfortunate indication that your parents how much you love them can only be with you here. They disbelieve me, they will never be with you.
They will be away from you. And you will be away from them. patola or Sasha Murphy Jr. My alpha. Alpha is a very general term that our shoes and mouth is something that anyone any sensible person point to and so you know, that's a good thing. Okay, speaking to his mum in a nice way, that's a good thing. He's bought some flowers, he's treating them well. It's a good thing. No one would ever say this is a bad thing. This is a matter of the fact that like you said a general word, you know, because they are not Muslim. They are disbelievers. So it means you have to be general in the way you are with them. You know, you have to be good in the way you are with them. And what they
appreciate as being good is what everyone appreciates being good. It is something well known to be good to every single person.
Now the second piece of advice for this person who's in this problem,
what we asked of 11 another 11
now, what beer is at bear, it means to follow. But this is one word it develop this is one command, the previous command was so
this is masaba. So what is the difference between it and Muslim have a muscle I have a means to accompany IT departments to follow. So Allah said when it comes to the parents that are disbelievers asking you making a life of misery because you are Muslim, then do Muslim. But once you have to go and spend time with them, I want you to do something else what to follow, and here
and here. Don't just be around good people. No, no, no. What do we follow the and who men enter the elite. Those people have already turned to me meaning those people that have strong a man in me have a good relationship with me on good
people committed to the religion, those people you should follow a Razzie Rahim Allah said masaba is to do with
that just set the body you know physically be around them, physically be around them. But it is to do with the alcohol. it's to do with the mind Allah saying you will be influenced badly by your parents. So just
Be around them. When it comes to the good company, then follow them open up your mind to them be influenced by them. Yeah, you need to purify yourself from this element here. This is a bad element. But you have to deal with it in the appropriate way you can't cut yourself off, they steal your parents, you have to be around them. But in order to compensate for that bad influence, follow those that have turned towards me, man, an urban elite.
And in the end, this hardship is a test from the lie about you, we will all be coming back to me, you and your parents. That will not be Akuma Quantum thermolon and we will indeed indeed inform you all. If you done good deeds, we will inform you about them if you've done evil deeds, we will inform you about them. Everything that you did a loss of power that will take you all to account you and your parents.
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okay to end now the lessons.
The first lesson, as mentioned by even Tamia Rahim Allah is that in this verse, there is a proof for each mirror each map it means the consensus of the Muslims. The Muslims agreed that such and such is part of the religion or such and such as been obliged by our last panel atop something that has not explicitly been already mentioned in the Quran and Sunnah.
Here, something that hasn't already been mentioned explicitly for us and so the sources of Islam, the Quran and Sunnah and then
things that the scholars who are in agreement about and then you have another source, which is called PS analogy, here analogy based on the Quran and Sunnah. So we're in this verse, is there an indication that Alas, what Allah wants the Muslims to take each man as one of the sources of Islam?
Where do you think in this verse
that there is an indication pointing towards the
No, no, there's not a point of enjoyment in this verse. There is words that are pointing towards the
the fact that it is part and parcel of Islam and one of the sources of Islam.
Yes, very good. What beer man Sevilla and Aveda follow the path of those that have turned towards me meaning if all the Muslims have turned towards me on this point, then you also have to follow them as though what we are studying them and unabated the fact that they all come together in agreement that this thing is haram or halal, it means you have to follow them in that way. Why? Because each marriage is something binding upon everybody. Yeah. Is something binding upon everybody. So if there is an is mark on something, then what? You have to follow that you have no choice in the matter, any Allah subhanho wa Taala, as the person who said would not allow the whole oma to be misguided,
altogether on anything about the religion. How could that be when Allah said, First, the decree in controllata alamanda? If you don't know ask people if they could mean the scholars. So if all Muslims have been misled on this point of Islam, that who is it to ask exactly about what's the right opinion about this? If all of them have been misguided yet, unless it asked people of knowledge, if you don't know, how can the two come together? Surely some would know.
Surely some would know, right? There are many proofs in the Koran, pointing towards the legislation of each month. We're not going to go into that now.
That's the first one. The second lesson is how to deal with the non Muslim family. Okay. Allah subhanaw taala here gave us some goddess Muslim
Messiah is to do as far as he said with the body that you need to be around. Okay. They deserve a minimum from you.
These are not just any parents, these are the worst category of parents, because they want you to do the worst thing, which is to renounce your faith in Allah subhanaw taala and the Prophet sallallahu sallam. So this is the minimum, this is not the max, this is the, at the very minimum, a person has to try and spend time with those parents be around them, talk to them, tell them about their life, see how they're doing. And if they need, for example, care to care for them, if they need financial help to financially, help them etc, etc, etc. This is any minimum. Okay, this is a minimum. So India, there is a lesson about how to deal with the non Muslim parents. Another lesson is about
finding the middle way, this is a very difficult situation a person finds himself in
once a man came to him and monogramonline said to him that I live in Egypt, but I want to come and study with you who are in Medina, and my father is his work. And my father said, Son, come and stay with me. My mother isn't easy. My mother said, if you don't leave me. So my mother said, Don't leave me. My father said Come here.
What do I do? Yeah.
He said, Don't leave your mother. And be with your father said what? dearly my mother be my father. How is that possible? In my mind, grandma's telling him find the middle way.
Don't think binary either this or this? Or this? Or this? No, no. The reality is if you push yourself, think about it, take advice from others, you will find the middle way. They asked you to do *. No, that is honestly they're forcing you to do *. You can't do that. But there is a middle way. Well, Sahil Murphy Jr. malwa be with them.
In this way that you spend a bit of time with them. To accompany them, okay, you be around them, give them some time. But you can't go to that extent. And nor should you go to the other extreme, which you say forget about it. I don't want anything to do with them. And I'm going to see them ever again. Find the middle way. There's another lesson there.
And the final is about remedying bad influence with good, okay. The fact is many of us have so many, many avenues that we get that influence from For some it's entertainment world. For others, it's workplace for some nice, even friends. The fact is, you will never be able to eliminate all of those avenues of bad influence true or not, they always be some bad influence coming from one place or another. So the way you remedy that is by first marginalizing it. Okay? trying to minimize that as much as possible. But you compensate for that what we said 11 and have a be around good people. Good people are advised you when you're doing things wrong, not those people that will just pat you on
your back when you tell them that you are doing so many haram things. Not those people, those people, they are not truly the friends, the friend is the one who says, Look,
this is wrong, you will be held accountable for doing this. Think about this again. And you don't do this, oh, he sees an opportunity for you to do hate. And he says why don't you go for that that's a good opportunity for you and some reward with our last panel that this is the good influence, that many times people avoid good influence because they
think that the personalities of those people are very different to his. There are those people, not the ones that party around and go here and there are those people there. So try, you know, I have no jokes. You know, those people that have fun, I'm different to them. It's difficult for me. Maybe that's true. Maybe your personality is very different to those people but what is at stake? what is at stake is your position.
That is what is at stake. You cannot afford to be spending time with people of bad influence. What to be asked to be lemon and Aveda. Though you may never be able to cut away from the completely try and engross yourself here. Throw yourself into the company of good people.
There's another principle that the person related to us in helping us find the middle way. It's a Muslim, the process that said labarda female see it lay in a bar to feel
that there is no bar there is no
obedience. There is no obedience to be shown. When it comes to the disobedience of a law, someone's telling you to disobey Allah subhanaw taala you cannot show them obedience in that particular matter. For he said a bar. Obedience is only to be shown in that which is not true.
So as an example, any let's take an example.
A person takes a vow. He's going to, for example, may get a ticket in the masjid
For three days, this is not a normal life outside, you can make a take off at any time he says, I'll go to me for three days. He's taken a vow. He said, I swear by Allah will make it tough on this day, his father then says to him, I want you to do something for me. On that day, when you take me somewhere, I want you to do something for me. So here's one word the Father has requested you. Maybe he's even commanding you another word over here, the vow the vow with a lot.
So how should a person lead with this? There seems to be an apparent clash between one
and another one.
How does one deal with this situation?
Okay, so the brother said you should take the stronger word, you should take the strong word. But even before moving to that, what do we just learn? And this is
exactly before we even go to that extent and let's get down to the technicalities, which is logical.
And authentic tourney. Before you even get to the technicalities. Let us look for the middle way we can you speak to your father, and try and rearrange this, can you explain to him that this is difficult for me. And he this should be the first thing on our minds. For some reason, there's a dichotomy in our minds when it comes to the dean. It's either this or this either this way or this way, there is no middle there is always a middle way.
And this is why having good relations with your parents helps you in doing favors for last panel, because if your parents see that my son,
he hangs around with decent people. He does good things. He takes care of me when I need him. So when he's going to ask me that, you know, you asked me that you requested I do this? Is it possible for me to do it like this way I'd like to do? Well probably they will say no problem. Because they're happy with you. If your parents are happy with you, they will allow you to do so many things. But if they are displeased with you, you behave badly with them. Then when it comes to you wanting to find the middle way about other things, which you want to do good, you'll find it difficult to not
to not so being good to your parents karma has so many benefits. So many benefits they have so anyhow The example is just to fool you into giving me the answer sorry. Because really and truly, they will be very difficult to find a situation where there is a direct clash between this watch this watch where you need to make a decision or this one on this one.
So shall we come to the end of the doors today? It's part of the law.