Important Conversations When Someone Is Dying

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Important Conversations to have when Someone is Dying – Navaid Aziz

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Aim in hamdu lillahi

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wa Himanshu Dorian fusina woman sejati Amina

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mo da da da da da da da da da da da una de cada shodhana Mohammed Abu Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa seldom at the Sleeman kathira. And my bad, my dear brothers and sisters salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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So tonight, we're having a special halycon presentation on how to deal with death in Islam, and by how to deal with death, what are the practical steps that need to be taken towards this. So I've broken it down into several phases that a person will go through the first phase is the phase of sickness. The second phase is the phase of actual death itself. The third phase is the washing of the body and the burial of the janazah. And then the fourth phase is after the janazah. And that also encompasses how to deal with inheritance, and, and once was sia. So starting off with the face of sickness, and then for the people that go through a natural progression of sickness, just before

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their death, there's actually very a very painful experience. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says, in an authentic hadith, in their little multi circle dots, that indeed, you know, death, it has a lot of pain that comes with it. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he described himself that he felt you know, twice the amount of pain that an average individual would feel. Now, what are the things that are that you're required to know about this period of sickness? Number one, is that during this period of sickness, a person may not be in the normal mental state, mean that due to that extreme amount of pain, or perhaps even due to old age, they may not being

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that normal stage of mental health. So at that time, you have to pay a lot of extra attention to their religious obligations by religious obligations, I'm going to be talking about three things. Number one, their Salah, meaning that as long as they're conscious, then Salah is obligatory upon them to the best of their capability, and you're responsible to help them pray. So if it means that they help need making will do, then you should help them make widow if they need help, you know, being reminded for the times of Salah, you should be helping them for their timings of Salah. Now, in the situation where a person is too weak or too sick to make will do, then even though water may

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be available, they are allowed to make the Mo Mo at that time. And there is no problem in that, if they're in a situation where they keep falling in and out of sleeping in and out of consciousness, they are allowed to combine their prayers, they will not shorten them, they will just combine them. So the heart can be combined with Arthur and Margaret can be combined with a sharp now in the face that they're you know, unconscious for a long period of time, then they can play all of their salons together. And they will be not they will not be sinful in that state. Number two, you want to make sure that during that time, they already have their will present meaning they already have their

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will there was co written down. And we'll be talking about the arisia towards the end of the halaqa in terms of how is that actually written what's written inside of it. And then number three, you want to make sure that you're constantly reminding them of Allah subhanaw taala, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he tells us that at that phase, when a person is dying, and in that state of sickness just before death, the Shahada should be repeated to them frequently, frequently repeat the Shahada to them. And you know, if they're not repeating after you then encourage them to say literally, like, almost forced them to say it, because it's very highly encouraged to say that

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that time, so that the last words that are said from this deceased mouth is the Shahada. So that is in terms of dealing with the sickness, then we actually get to the face of death. And I want to talk about how does Islam recognize death. So a person is in the hospital, and they may be tied up to a whole bunch of tubes, or the islamically alive, or the islamically dead, and what should happen at that time. So according to Islam, the death takes place when the soul leaves the body. What does that mean in medical terms, in medical terms, what that means is that as soon as the body cannot support and sustain itself, then at that time the body has died. And it should not be put on extra

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life support, keeping the body alive, because at that time, the body is considered death, and it's actually considered painful and harmful to the body. So if the doctor is telling you at that time that this body cannot support itself, and you need machines to keep this body alive, then it should not be kept alive. Likewise, if the body of the doctor is telling you that this person is now brain dead, meaning that there's no way that this body can be salvaged, then at that time, the body should be allowed to move on at that time, the body should be allowed to move on. Now, what's going to happen at that time, is that the close family members are going to be in a panic and a frenzy. And

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you in that situation have to remain calm, and have to keep composed and need to remind the people of illness

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pannels Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala he tells us in the Quran that the reaction of the believer is Allah Vina del Saba Tomasi ba kalu. In La la, he was in a theologian, that those people when they're struck by calamity, they say indeed to Allah, we belonged. And to him, we shall return. And this is what you need to do. The family is going to want to do a whole variety of things. And you need to figure out what is according to the dean, and what is not according to the dean, and what is according to the dean that needs to prevail. So at that time, they're going to need a leader to stand up and take the lead. And that has to be you because you have the knowledge of what to do and

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how to do it. So along the way, I'm going to give you an opportunity to ask questions, particularly pertaining to your own cultures, because each culture has its own practices pertaining to death. Right, for some people, that issue of you know, should we be reciting surah. Yaseen? Should we be doing a demo of the Quran? Is there such a thing, as you know, visiting the family for after 40 days, and preparing food, all those things I want you to bring up so we can discuss them with the lights on. So now, at the time of death, take leadership and try to figure out what needs to be done in advance, you should find out where does the washing of the body take place in the city in the

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City of Calgary takes place at the Southwest machette. You also want to figure out what is the burial procedure that is going to take place the Southwest budget takes care of that as well. So you need to coordinate with them in advance. Come join doesn't know as well. Fantastic. So Akram Juma now does it as well. So coordinate with one of these to massage it and figure out what needs to be done, figure out what needs to be done. Now, here's what you need to know about the washing of the body. Has anyone here wash the body before where one person has washed the body? It is perhaps one of the scariest experiences that you will have. And I'll explain why. Because the washing of the

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body is not a body of a human being anymore. It's someone that is deceased. And you may think, what's the difference? Your body right now while you're alive, it's lucid, you can turn your wrists and nothing's going to happen, you can rotate your arms, nothing's going to happen approximately an hour after the body dies, it completely stiffens up, the jaw is locked up, and the eyes often roll back into the back of the head. Literally, it's like a scene out of a scary movie. And at that time, since the person has passed away, they no longer have control of their body. So naturally, whatever is inside of the body is going to start leaking out and seeping out. So the first thing that needs

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to be done at that time, is that the body needs to be emptied out as much as possible. And you need to remember that's going to be a process within of itself. For some people, it may be you know, one hour the whole body is emptied out of everything that's inside. For some people, it can take several hours, you're going to push down on the stomach, push it hard to push as hard as you can, and clean everything out from the body. Likewise from the pirate parts as well. Now the people that are washing the body, they have the utmost Amana departments have a long line of talks about one of the major sins is that you wash the body of a deceased and you speak about what you saw. So whatever you

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see from that person's body is in a manner and you're not allowed to speak on it, any deformities, any scars, any diseases, anything like that you're not allowed to speak about or to talk about. So once everything is all emptied out, then you're going to do the first washing of the body, just playing with water, just like you're giving the body a bath. And if you can follow the rituals of porcelain, then that is something that is encouraged to do. So, washing of the private parts washing of the hands, the washing of the head, the making of the will do that is what should be followed, that is the first part, the second part of it, he should be with something fragrant, during the time

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of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they had something similar to you know, eucalyptus leaves that they used to use. Nowadays, those aren't as accessible. But the point is to make the body use a natural fragrance, which smells nice, and then wash the body with that, and then the body will be washed a third time, just with regular water to wash off anything that is left, and that is the washing of the body. The third step after that is putting the body in a coffin. And the coffin is not like a coffin. So the coffin in Islam is using simple white sheets. So simple white sheets should be brought. And this is what the person should be wrapped and covered in for the burial

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itself. Now, to the best of my knowledge, according to Alberta law, they don't allow you to bury the body in this, but rather you have to put it inside of a coffin at that time. That coffin needs to be made out of the simplest possible substance. So simple plain wood, no designs, no metal, no gold ornaments or anything of that nature. keep it as simple as possible. And then that is what the body will be placed in. Now, the Muslims that are alive have an Amana to burry that body as soon as possible to bury that body as soon as possible. So the burial should not be delayed. In fact, it should be done as quickly as possible. So now why the center

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katsu. So now after the Washington the body has taken place and the kufrin has been prepared, then you prepare to take it to the masjid. And the Genesis should be prayed as soon as possible. Now you want to be careful of some sensitivities here, that you want to give the family enough time, if they're in other parts of the city to come to the janazah. Perhaps in other parts of the country, if they can make it on the same day, you can delay the genocide a little bit, but to delay the janazah for multiple days or something of that nature, so that more people can attend, this should not be the case pertaining to the janaza. The janaza is a Ford keyfile meaning that it is an obligation

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upon the community to do that. So anytime there is an agenda, there is a genetic announcement. Take it very, very seriously. And I want to give you perspective on this, that, think about how many people you want at your janazah praying for you and making the offer you, right, you want as many people as possible there. So if you take the attending of other people's Denizer seriously, and praying for them, it's the son of Allah subhanaw taala, that the way you treat is the way that you will be treated. So it is a form of gift fire that people should attend to the best of their ability. So now how is the janazah actually prayed? The body is put in front of the Imam,

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particularly during the space of where the head of the deceased is. And there are going to be four that could be a lot in this jenessa Salah. The first era is the raising of the hands you say Allahu Akbar. And at that time you recite Surah Fatiha the third the second time you raise the hands, you send salah and Salaam upon the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the doodle ebrahimian the third technora is the dua of Genesis, the daughter of the deceased along offering the home or Home Home, home, welcome Minnesota home. Right, those sort of doors if you don't know how to do that, at the very least just keep saying along MacPhail the home that Oh Allah, you know, forgive them anytime

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that you can make it that time is sufficient. Then you do a fourth there could be a law. And at that time you do a salaam aleikum once this is according to the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and the Hanafi madhhab. They pray the Salah bit differently, they will add you know the dwarf DITA and so it may not be recited and they do salaams on both sides. These are differences of opinions, but it's better to follow the Sunnah, for those that know how to do so it's better to follow the Sunnah, for those that know how to do so at that time are people allowed looking at the deceased body, you know how they have in the non Muslim tradition, they have the opening of the

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coffin. This is more of a non Muslim tradition. So if there's a particular family member that wants to see the person's face before they pass away, there's nothing wrong with that. But it's not something that you put openly on display that people walk by and speak to the deceased. There's nothing like that in Islam, there's nothing like that in Islam, then at that time, the body should be taken to the burial ground. And the space for the burial should be facing towards the Qibla should be facing towards Mecca in that direction. And the burial space should be formed in the shape of an L.

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I didn't bring like anything to display it, but you're going to like bring it you're going to dig dig down like this, and then dig like this. So the head of the body will be over here. And then the rest of the body is underground, you're not going to make one big rectangle and this is known as lead. And this is from the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to bury the body like that, facing towards Mecca. And that is a sooner that should not be neglected, that is a sooner that should not be neglected. Then at that time, it is from the Sunnah, that whoever is remaining behind take some handfuls of dirt and throws it back onto the body and not the body but the the the covered

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coffin or the coffin at that time, so that the dirt gets recovered on it. There is no other thing that needs to be done. At this time. There is no recitation of the Quran. There's no congregational Doha, there's nothing like that if someone missed the janaza prayer, they can actually do the janaza prayer at the graveyard. There's nothing wrong with that. But there should be no other religious activities at that time. Certain people will say sir and do is recite certain chapters of the Quran. There is nothing like that, that should be done. Now, talking about post death, what are the things that need to be kept in mind? Are we allowed visiting the family of the deceased? Yes, you're

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completely allowed to visit the family of the deceased, but don't make it burdensome. And don't make it like a traumatizing experience for them. What do I mean by that? By burdensome What I mean is, you go to their house and you chill. You know, please give me some tea. Give me some cake or you know, whatever you guys prepared for dinner. I will be joining you tonight. these sort of things they don't need that to be extremely

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sensitive. So if you're going to go and pay respects, do it within the first three days or the easiest opportunity you have spent a little bit of time. If you want to bring some food, you want to bring something for them, that's perfectly fine. But don't expect anything in return. You're not there to serve self purposes. And during your visit, make up for them, be sensitive towards them, give them Islamic advice. And let them know that if they need any help, or any form of help any form of support, they may need financial help. If it's the husband that passes away, perhaps the wife has no way to get around the children don't have anyone to take them to school, something of that

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nature. Let them know that you're there to help them. Those are the things that you should be focusing on help support advice and let them know that you're going to be there for them.

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Is there this concept of getting together to recite Quran for the deceased, there is a difference of opinion. If the recitation of the Quran can reach the deceased, some of the Shafi scholars did allow it. However, according to the actions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And the actions of the companions are the law on whom there is nothing to prove that they ever did that. If there is goodness in this, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would have been the first person to teach the people that when they were deceased, passes away, recite Quran on their behalf, so that they can get rewarded. There's nothing like that. In fact, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam teaches us

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the following, that when the deceased passes away, you can make dua for them, you can give charity on their behalf, if they have things that, you know, the Ode to Allah subhanho wa Taala, those things can be done on their behalf. By old toilets and water, I mean, a hedge or an ombre, or they made a vow to Allah subhanho wa Taala, Oh Allah, I will fast for X amount of days for you, those things can be done on their behalf. But anything beyond that should not be done anything beyond that should not be done. The second thing I want to speak about was making it a traumatizing event for the family. And what I mean by that, in those first three days, visit the family, that's perfectly

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fine. After those first three days are over, you don't want to bring it up over again, meaning continue to help them and support them, but never come up to them and say, No, I'm really sorry that your family member passed away, you make them relive that experience over and over again. So don't bring it up. But just be supportive, just continue to be supportive. Now, the idea of a woman, the idea of a woman, after her husband passes away, is for months and 10 days for months, and 10 days. And in this period of time, she's not allowed receiving any proposals, nor she allowed thinking about any proposals, nor she allowed making any gestures to indicate that she's looking to get

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married. And that is why some of the scholars mentioned that she used to stick in her husband's house and not leave, except out of necessity. Now, keep in mind that this was the tradition in a society where the woman's role was to stay in the house. However, if she's in a society where she is not working, and she has to support herself, and the family that she is allowed to go into, she is allowed going to work, but she should not beautify herself, she should not perfume herself, and she should sleep in her husband's house, if it is safe for her and she is not, you know, overwhelmingly afraid. For some women, it can be a very scary experience, your husband passes away, you're alone in

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your house, you know, you don't want to stay there because it reminds you of your husband. So in that situation, she is allowed to stay with her other family members. But it's encouraged that she stays in her husband's house, if she's able to during that time. And if she needs to go out, she can go out during the day, but the nights should be spent in her house the night should be spent in her house.

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Any questions so far? Anyone have any questions, cultural practices, go ahead.

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how deep the grave. So generally speaking, it should be enough to cover the body, you know, over here, they have this concept of six feet deep. It doesn't necessarily need to be that deep, but enough that the whole body should be covered. But over here, they have this regulation that needs to be met that needs to be at least six feet deep. So we have to go by that regulation inshallah. Yep.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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They actually have a concrete structure.

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And I've seen that before in North America, where they have the civil concrete.

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Okay.

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But they don't do the the lead. Yeah. Yeah.

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Yeah, yeah. I mean, a lot of it is ignorance that people don't know, that they should be doing. And a lot of it probably has to do with regulations as well that they may not allow it. Yeah.

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Right. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

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Exactly. Yeah. I've seen that. So it might not be practical here. Because, I mean, the key disclaimer, I'll always give it

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Do what is according to the law, like they're sure, if it's a choice between Santa and the law, the law will take precedence. Like, we don't want someone coming up and digging up the grave after to fix up some illegal thing that we've done right? So whatever the law is that it should be obeyed at that time.

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Yeah, go ahead talk. Actually, one thing I want to mention is one thing, I'll come back to you, I'm so sorry. But you reminded me of this is the issue of the tombstone. Muslims should not be having tombstones, where names are written on it. And there's fancy designs. And there's like a eulogy that is written on how amazing this person was. The Son of the Father seldom is just to leave a bump there to let us know that there's someone buried there. But there shouldn't actually be a tombstone. Now I know in certain provinces, there is a requirement, at that time fulfill the minimal requirement, whatever is the absolute minimum that you can get away with, then that is what you

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should do in that situation. Now, go ahead.

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Yes.

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So there's a Hadith of the Prophet seldom that, you know, recite surah Yaseen, upon your dying, there's a difference of opinions, the Hadith, authentic or not, the humbling method considered authentic. But Allah Subhana, Allah knows best, the Hadith is not authentic. And we didn't see it actually being implemented by the process of them himself.

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Inherent cognitive revenues, they do this.

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But you'll hear it when they're bringing the body they'll say that either and no longer

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covered. And then when they bury the machete, here, they'll they'll make law or they'll say, When the angels come, and they asked you, yeah.

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Those are cultural practices, like there's nothing established from the processor for those things. Well, here's my thing.

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So what do you do?

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Yeah, and this is why I was saying that, at that time of death, you need to take leadership, that the people that have knowledge, step up at that time and tell them, Look, this is what needs to be done. This is what's allowed. This is what's not allowed, and we want to do everything according to this another process alone. So that's what the preparation from now is about that at that time, understand there will be absolute chaos. You need to take leadership at that time.

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And I'll make it easy.

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Yeah, yeah.

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Yeah, I must have I'll come back to your channel. Go ahead.

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Yeah,

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yes.

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Yes.

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So at that time, you can pray individually, it's not a problem inshallah. So like I said, if someone misses Salatu janaza, in the masjid, they can go to the graveyard, if they are catching up to the janazah. And they can be the generals are there. If they don't, then they can pray janessa wherever they are, you're allowed multiple congregations for the genocide, like for at the time of the Prophet seven when he passed away. Small groups at a time came in paginas upon the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, so you can have multiple congregations. Now the issue what's going to be interesting over here is what if you don't have

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the body with you? So for example, we have a relative that dies back home. Can we pray janessa for them some over here locally. This is something that the processor them did for and the joshy so when a Naja she passed away in Abyssinia, he says,

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Sandow, Allah ecofin, the alma mater origin and sada that in in, in Medina de preguntas, upon him. Now scholars looked at this and he said, Why was this done, and they said, it was done because no one paid janazah and then the judge in Abyssinia, and the Process Center was filling, they're fulfilling that for the key fire serve that

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obligation has not been fulfilled at all, then Muslims should fulfill that obligation anywhere in the world. For example, we know someone that died in a plane crash, or they died at sea and no one paid their janazah the Muslims in Canada can get together and play the lotto lottery, as they call it. But in the situation that the genocide has already been prayed. You can pray it individually if it was for a close relative of yours, if you're in that, if you have that relationship, but in the situation of people getting together and after schelotto Juma and like, Hey, we're going to pray Serato vibe on someone's relative that passed away. This should not be done. This is not from the

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center of the processor. Now. It's not only in that situation that no one paid their janazah then you can pray in congregation in a faraway land. However, at that time, if the person is still deceased in front of you, you can pray their janazah in congregation as many times as you want.

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So lotto aim

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is for the key fire. If no one prayed it, someone has to do it. Yeah. But if someone has prayed it, then it's no longer there. Yeah, yeah. I'm almost done.

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Right?

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Yeah,

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right.

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Right. So that's a very good question. I'm glad you brought that up, can women actually visit the graveyard? And

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we'll talk about it in sha Allah. So there's a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, where he says that the curse of Allah subhanho wa Taala is upon the woman that frequently visit the graves, right? That frequently visit the graves. So the scholars looked at this hadith and they said, is the curse of Allah upon any woman that visits the grave? Or is it upon the woman that are frequently visiting the grave? And what is the reasoning behind that? So the scholar said that look, when it comes to dealing with death, the way women deal with death, knowing men who deal with death is completely different. Most men, they won't even shed a tear, you know, Spanner just naturally

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were hard hearted women, they hear about like a cat dying, and the whole community starts crying subpanel a completely different experience altogether. And that's Yeah, and that's one of the wisdoms behind, you know, the the woman not being present at that time. But what I want to mention is that there is a valid difference of opinion, some of the scholars have said that they can go to the graveyard, the majority would have the opinion that it wasn't allowed the majority of the opinion that it wasn't allowed. Allah hotel Donna. Yep.

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Washington disease, yes. Something not bad, but good.

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What would be an example of something good?

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My brothers were there.

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But I mean, if something miraculous like that happens, and everyone seeing it, yes, I would say that's a shadow. That's a like a lifetime thing.

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And we shouldn't be like, over exaggerated what it's like, there might be a line here and line there and like you're putting things together, but it's not really something like that happens. Or if you see they just see smiling, you know, those sort of things are considered Bashara. They're considered like glad tidings. And those things, yes, they can be shared.

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With

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Yeah, so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he talks about things that will affected the deceased after they passed away. And he mentioned a Nia and Nia is the woman that excessively Christ, and she beats herself, that this will actually be harmful towards the person that passed away. Now, this becomes a point of contention, that how can someone else's actions affect that someone that didn't do it? So they said that if you knew that your your family would be in that situation, and you didn't prohibit them from doing this, or in fact, even worse, you encouraged them to do it to do this, then this is when you will be affected by this. So when people see this ad,

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they assume that crying for the deceased, you know, is going to be something that is harmful. That's not the case. And there's nothing wrong if your tears fall on them or something like that. There's nothing wrong with that as well. But the excessively crying where you beat yourself until you're close, that islamically is not about that islamically is not allowed.

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Culturally, after

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the gathering.

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Somebody told me seven days for Ontario. Yeah, but then I've heard different opinions where

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that heads about what you can do for the deceased.

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It's fine. It was it was said good things for them, as you said, but it wasn't limited to what was given. It was kind of like good deeds. So let's say I decide to read Kron four.

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Right. Is it the actual because it's, that's fine, but the actual gathering itself is no. So I mean, this is what I was trying to say that in terms of the resetting of the Quran itself, as far as I know, it's the Shafi or the mother that allowed it and they were a minority in this situation. But the point that we always want to bring it back to is that while the forces encouraged us to do good, that good is restricted to what the process element the companions did. So anything that they did, we should do as well. Anything they don't want to do. We should try to abstain from we should try to abstain from Yeah. So I'll take two more questions and we'll continue with john Boyd.

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disease.

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Yeah, the talent is already up.

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tables.

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The food is going to be ready for people.

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That's only

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once right then upright. People, women and men go and change and the best dress and the best, you know, whatever right, again, is to feast slightly.

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Yes, sir. So instead of a death, it becomes like a wedding. Yeah.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, I mean, it shouldn't be over exaggerated like that.

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So dinner is not an activity by the witness. Right? As long as it doesn't come with a religious intention, you can feed the people and there's nothing wrong with that. In fact, if you even want to feed the people on behalf of the deceased, this is something that is allowed. But to overexaggerated, like the way you're doing it, that is something that shouldn't be done.

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Unless he specified it, yeah, if he specified, then you can do it. If he didn't specify then you shouldn't do it. You should do it from your own money from your own pockets. Last question.

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I'll come to us on the show Go ahead.

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And committed.

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So the issue with suicide is that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam himself did it lead janazah for the person that committed suicide during his time, however, he let the other companions lead the Salah. Right. So the issue is that the Imam should take a stance against such major sins. So if you know someone that did this, the Imam is allowed to take a stance, but for him to prevent the whole community from praying the janessa as long as he died upon Islam, it is worship to pray there janessa regardless of how many sins they committed, or the type of sins they committed, the genocide needs to be prayed. However, the religious figure, and the community can take a stance if

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he chooses to do to do so. But in this day and age, I don't know how practical that will be like during the time of the pasta setup, is a completely different reality in this day and age. I think it's a different reality as well. Allah Allah guide.

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A person can make individual do if they want, right, but they do wish they shouldn't think it's a Sunnah to do. So what is not allowed is a person thinks as soon as you do so, or they start doing it in congregation.

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Right.

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All right.

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I mean, you can understand that people come from different ideologies, and they have different backgrounds, and they have different levels of knowledge. What we're trying to teach the people is what we know, according to the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So sometimes you will see that happening. That is not the time to tell people you guys are doing better. remain quiet at that time, stay silent, as long as something minor like that. Let it go. And then maybe later on, you can speak to the scholar and say, Hey, you know, do we have any proof that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam? Or the companions? Did you know A congregational da, discuss it like

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that, but at that time is not the time to tell them that they're doing something wrong? Or mahana?

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Sorry, can you repeat that?

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To bury someone at home? No, they should be buried in the graveyards. These are only the prophets of Allah subhanho wa Taala that are buried where they die. All the prophets of Allah are to be buried where they died. And all the other people are to be buried in the graveyards, they shouldn't be buried inside the massages, or in the courtyards of the massage, they should be buried in the specified area for the graveyards.

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I'm going to we're going to give another opportunity, I suppose I just want to move on to the next section. So now, we've talked about visiting the family, we've talked about the janaza. I briefly want to talk about inheritance. And then we'll see our inheritance and we'll see the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. He says, No believer, lets three days go by, except that the update there was here except that the update there was here. And the scholars said over here, that it is a pseudonym makeda, meaning a highly emphasized Sunnah that every Muslim should have. So Sheikh Hassan has put together a document is 19 pages, only eight of them are actually relevant because the the

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last 11 pages, it talks about different scenarios as to how inheritance will take place. So what I want to emphasize in this document is how exactly it works. So the top part of the document is just about your information, who you are, where you live. So you know it's about you and your signatures on the page. Then the second part of the document is who you are appointing to execute this rule on your behalf, meaning that after you pass away, who is going to be responsible to take care of all these procedures and it has some of the guidelines that you know should be followed. So it should be according to the center deposit system. There should be no non Islamic things taking place there. It

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should be done. The grave should be buried deep. There should be no

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Other symbols, so on and so forth, then it gets into how the money is actually meant to be divided. So the first thing we want to discuss is what is considered wealth. So, for example, person leaves behind a sweater, Is this considered wealth, no, it's not worth is considered anything that has monetary or financial value. So, this can be animals that are owned this can be houses that are own this can be land that is owned gold and silver, and cash, anything that we would consider of financial value is considered wealth. Now, that wealth can either be kept whole and divided if it is agreed upon, or it should be sold, and then divided based upon that. Now, what are the things that

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need to be taken care of before the inheritance is distributed, the first thing is, all of the expenses for the burial should be coming out of this person's wealth, it should not be an external source that is paying for it, nor should it be the Muslim community that is paying for it, unless obviously, if they can't afford it, but in the sense that they if they do have wealth, it should be coming out of their own wealth. So, the burial expenses, anything that is required, you should take out of it. The second thing that is done is any debts that they have, they should be paid as well. So, in this will, you will document all the debts that you have, and who it is owed to. So, it is a

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very good thing to keep track of those debts, and the family of the deceased or the executioner of the will of the deceased at the janazah it is good, if he makes the announcement that, hey, you know, I'm the execution of this person's will, if he owes a debt, then please let me know, I will be consolidating those debts, I will be taking care of those debts. At that time, though, if it's not in the will, that person requires proof that this person is in debt, you should only execute that which is in the will at that time. So that is the second thing that will take place, all of their debts will be taken care of. Number three, is the advice of the deceased of what to do with their

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wealth. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam allows you to do whatever you want with your wealth, up to one third of it with the, I guess reasoning or with the like in brackets, you're only allowed giving this wealth to someone or something that they're not naturally inheriting. So if you're if your parents, your wife, your children, they naturally inherit from you. You can't apportion one third of this wealth and give it to them. However, if you wanted to give it to a friend, or to a cousin, or to a charity organization, you can do all of those things. up to one third of your wealth, the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, he says, a soloist with solo took a theory

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that even giving a third may be too much. So you should be very conscious of your family members, that you don't want them becoming poor, you don't want them begging. So leave enough for them that they can actually survive, leave enough for them that they can actually survive. Then the fourth thing that happens is wealth is distributed. according to Islamic laws. Allah subhanho wa Taala is so wise to Pinilla. He knows that how greedy human beings are that in a normal culture, people will fight and argue to get into a person's will. Allah subhanho wa Taala he's cut it off right from the get go. He's a portion who will receive what and how much they will receive. To get insight into

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this you can look inside certain neasa verses 11 and 12. Where the verses start off, will you see Kamala houfy Oh, Daddy come that in those verses Allah subhanaw taala talks about how wealth is distributed. And that is the fourth thing that will take place. Now, at this time, you want to keep into consideration that the wife was going to inherit, and the wife more than likely, perhaps she doesn't have a job, she doesn't have any other property she doesn't have anywhere else to stay. So at that time, it's a good thing for the family members to say that look, we will let the wife keep the house. And this is like a gesture of kindness towards the wife, because she's looking after the

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children she's going to be looking after you know herself as well. So this is something that is good. If the family members can agree to it, or the wife can purchase the shares from the other people that are going to be inheriting the night is allowed as well, that is allowed, as well. But support the wife in a situation where the family members say that you know what, we want to take the house, we want to sell it, we'll just want to give you a bit of the money and you can do whatever you want. After that. I think it's very insensitive. And likewise, to execute something like that right away saying that you know what, you have to do it as soon as the Edit is over. Or in some

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wretched cases, I've seen that even before the show's over. They want to kick the wife out of the house just to get their share of the money. People should be very, very sensitive at that time. And remember, that this religion is based upon mercy and kindness in a moment for dunya yahama commands that have mercy upon the people of this earth and Allah subhanaw taala will have mercy upon you. So don't let your greed get the best of you at that time. Don't let your greed

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get the best of you at that time.

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I think that's all I wanted to say about the will and the inheritance. And I think we can do some more questions now inshallah, go ahead.

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Yes.

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Yes.

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Right. So in this world, you can specify that I have pardoned those people for their deaths with their debts, and they don't have to pay me back. Or you can specify that be extra merciful and prolong their their payments, if possible.

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Like, let's see, let's see, no, that's

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no, that's just different completely. So at that time, a person can put you know, x, y, and Zed owes me money. And this will be considered a part of their wealth. This can be considered a part of their wealth, however, that

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that payment can be divided after it's received. So you don't have to approximate that when it's received when before it's received. But it will only become actualized. When it's received. So accumulate, calculate what you have already. And anything that's all you can calculate once it's paid to you. You don't calculate it before that

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to hit

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optional, optional, if you don't want to do it, you don't have to do it.

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Go ahead.

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And then now, he or she left some world land or something. Yeah. Now he was only children,

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for three children, and then there is no, no. What do you do with the two of you give it to the church,

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to the church.

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Excellent. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he makes it very clear that a Muslim is not allowed to inherit from a non Muslim, and a non Muslim is not allowed to inherit from a Muslim, that even if a husband was married to a Christian, or Jewish woman, that Christian or Jewish woman will not be allowed to inherit from the husband. This is according to the mirror off. However, the CEA is different. If the husband leaves one third of the CEA for that non Muslim relative, he is allowed to do so there's nothing wrong with that. Now, same thing over here, we want to look at how is this inheritance taking place from the non believing parent to the believing son and daughter, if it's

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taking place as a gift, that's perfectly fine. However, if it is religiously stipulated, or state stipulated that this, the son and daughter will get this, then that is something that should be rejected. What happens after that is completely up to them. You shouldn't take it and donate it somewhere else. But it should be rejected. However, if it's a scenario where it's given as a gift or given as a Basia, then you're allowed to take it as a gift, and we'll see you and it's not a problem only the mere Earth, you're not allowed to do. And the way to distinguish it is if it's religiously sanctioned or state sanctioned at that time, it should not be accepted. Yeah, go ahead.

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So what I mean by that by state sanctioned, is that imagine this is a very hypothetical case, you have a country where they've said that this whoever dies, we're going to divide their wealth into for the Father, the the parents will get a quarter, and the spouses will get a quarter, and children will get a quarter, and the neighbor will get a quarter. This is state sanctioned distribution, it has nothing to do with religion, this is just the way the state thought would be a good idea, state sanctioned distribution would not be allowed, right? Likewise, if it's according to the religion, you live in a Christian society, and according to Christian laws, that you get x, y, and Zed even

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though you may be Muslim or non Muslim, that would not be allowed as well. However, the person specific specifies that I want this portion of worth to go to this person, that is considered a gift or it was here, and this is something that is allowed. Okay.

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Can I just add one thing before I come to the issue of attending the funeral of non Muslims, right, there's something I want to address over here. If a non Muslim passes away, are you allowed attending the funeral process, the funeral process has two components to it. One is paying their respects to the family members. And the second component is actually going to the religious service. So there's a church there's a prayer, those sort of things, in terms of paying respects to the families, this is something that is allowed, it can be done at the church, if that's where it's being held, or can be done at their house, if that's where it's being held. That's perfectly fine.

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However, a Muslim should not be a part of any other religious services. So if there's a communal prayer that's taking place at their church, then this is something that should not be done. Now what should be kept in mind over here. This is as a Muslim born into Islam and this is a neighbor or a friend or something of that sort. However, someone that is a convert to Islam

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There might be other sensitivities that may be taken into consideration, that as a Muslim convert, you want to be more sensitive, because that's an ideal opportunity to give Dawa to people. When people go through crisis. That is a time they look for God that is the time to look for meaning. And that is an ideal opportunity for you to be present and to give Dawa at that time, so that's just something I wanted to mention. Go ahead.

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Yes.

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Yes. When the joshy passed away, he was Muslim. Yes. Okay.

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No, so for a non Muslim, the Allah subhanaw taala makes it very clear that you will not pray for their forgiveness, right that even Ibrahim Alayhi Salaam, he is reprimanded in the Quran, that Abraham shouldn't have done this. And that's the part so seldom is taught as well.

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mechanism in a do let me know, I still feel a little shaky Hello Canada home. That is not befitting for the for the prophets. I saw them and the believers to seek forgiveness for their parents, even if it be their their fathers. So you can while they're alive, you can make dua for their guidance, you can make dua for their dunya. But in terms of once they passed away, there is no door for them anymore. Or long tanana, go ahead.

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If you do that, who's going to remember that, who is going to remember all that it's better to have a document didn't have witnesses to it. Like in this day and age, not only should you have a document, but get it notarized.

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Heavy there are a lot of things we don't do that we should be doing. But Alhamdulillah as long as we have life as an opportunity to start, right. So I'm saying inshallah, after the Hanukkah, whoever sends me an email, I'll share a copy with the word document with them, you can fill it out, you literally just have to look like blank spaces and fill in the blank spaces. And just keep it with you and when you get a chance to get it notarized inshallah.

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Yeah, we should I can send it to you, and you just put on the icy website. Now probably the best thing to do.

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Um, you keep updating and you I mean, how many people have transactions that change every three days? Like, do you make a new investment every three days do incur new debt every three days is just the process lm is saying that updated regularly. So anytime there's a change to be made, make a change. If there's no change, you will leave it as is.

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I mean, literally, that's how it works, that you make the change and you put your signature next to it, that you and the date that when you made this change,

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you're going to burden the mom that way he's going to responsible for everyone's will say, no, it should be kept with the family member. And the person that you're putting in charge, every execution should be told in advance. Like for example, I want to I want to execute my role, but he has no idea that he's going to be doing it. My janazah time comes and they're like yeah Rizwan you're responsible for doing is like I have no idea what to do. So you should have that conversation with the person in advance that tell them look, I love you for the sake of a line, if something happens to me, I want you to execute my work.

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It's a good thing to get it done. It's a very good thing to get it and I don't know the legal ramifications of it. But I know that it's a good thing to get done that everyone encourages get your wills notarized. Is that a good thing to do? Yeah.

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It is pseudonym wakita. It is highly highly recommended. So not to do it. Yeah. Go ahead.

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Yep.

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Yes.

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Yeah, yeah.

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So his family.

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It janessa Okay.

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So there's two things that will be looked at in the Muslim country. If you stick in front of a judge and the judge gave a ruling upon him, then the Muslim state decides what needs to be done at that person. In a non Muslim society. You have one of two scenarios. I this this person is a self confessed atheist and they openly announced it, I'm no longer Muslim, then this person has nothing to do with the Muslim community. They should not be buried in the Muslim burial space, nor should their janessa be prayed nor should their body be washed, nor are you allowed to inherit from them. That's if they're open about it. However, if the person has dealt in the inside, and they never told

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anyone about it, then this person is still treated as a Muslim and should be the regular procedure should take place at that time.

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Yes, they are sinful for doing that.

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Not allowed, they're sinful for doing that. The wealth should be distributed according to the laws of Islam. And the change that is a sin in Islam.

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Sorry.

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Yeah.

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Islam.

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So, at that time, if you live in a in a Muslim country, then the judge will make the changes that needs to be made. If it's in a non Muslim country, then the burden is upon the execution of the will, the execution of the will, if he's a good person and a religious person, he can decide what gets executed and what doesn't get executed, and what needs to be changed. However, if he's a non religious person, then there's nothing that can be done except to you know, seek help from Allah subhanaw taala at that time, yeah.

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Yeah, generally.

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This is

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and then I finish, what do I do with my father?

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What do you mean, I really say anything, because I wanted to really, to

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visit the grave, too.

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Right?

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No, I'll give you an example. During the time of Alaska, Nevada, Ohio, a man came to the grave of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he started speaking to the processor, he says the artist who Allah, I travel from x, y, and Zed land to come and see you, just so that I can give you know Salaam to you. So I'll have seen when he saw this, he told the man that if you gave Salaam from your homeland, or you gave Salaam in front of the processor them is the exact same Salaam. Similarly, we do offer the deceased, whether you made that one to the grave, or you make the line your home is not going to make a difference unless one with the other still hears it. Right. He knows what's in the hearts and

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he knows what you're asking for. So at that time, literally, the only reason why you should be going to the grave is either to remind yourself or death. Or as human beings, we all need closure. Right? Perhaps we I did something wrong to my father, and I need to speak about it. He's not going to hear it. It's not going to benefit him at all. But I need to get it off my chest. For psychological reasons. You're not doing it for religious reasons. You're not allowed doing it.

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Of course, and you should.

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Every single day, you should be making blood for your father, but it doesn't have to be at his graveyard. And there's no virtue of visiting the grave.

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Know, as far as I know, there's nothing like that at all. There's, as far as I know, there's nothing like that at all.

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Remember?

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I don't

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but the processor was able to communicate with the deceased.

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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No, as far as I know, that was something that was exclusive to the processor. And the processor was able to communicate with the deceased, but it wasn't like that was exclusive to him.

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Know that? Yeah, that is an authentic hadith. They they know when you walk away. But the significance of that is because as you're walking away, that is when the reckoning begins. Right? That is when mocha and Nikki have come down to them.

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But hear in the sense of what that they hear sounds or they hear what you're saying. You understand the difference? They they might hear a mumbling, but they don't know what they're doing. They don't hear what you're saying. Right? Because this claim that they can hear from six feet under is it giving them supernatural powers. Because when you're six feet under the ground and recovered and you're in a coffin, you're not going to be hearing anything. So that at least you've understood that they will hear sounds but doesn't mean they can hear words. And then Allah subhanaw taala in the Quran, he made it clear that you will not be able to make the deceased hear you. So that was like a

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lesson without cut it off from there. So they will hear sounds but in terms of specifics, they want to hear that although odd.

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Yeah.

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Again, as I don't know of any proof for that, I don't have any proof for that.

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Go ahead.

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Yeah.

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And like I say, for psychological reasons for closure, it's allowed, but not for religious reasons. Sorry. Of course, he cried a lot. He cried a lot. Yeah. And that's a part of the human experience. And that's what I think a lot of the times religious people forget. They're like, part of being patient is that you're not allowed to cry. No, that's not the process. I'm called the crying arama. And it's good to get closure and to get rid of all the psychological struggles we have inside because if you hold on to them, and it builds up, it becomes very burdensome. So if you have if you need closure by visiting the grave, that's allowed. But if you are going there in order to

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communicate with them or something like that, then no, that's not that's not allowed. mahana Go ahead.

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Yeah, so many military

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groups, those who support themselves between civilians.

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And what is what is the religious solution in this case?

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So this was back to the same issue of suicide, right? These are considered suicide bombings. So at that time, I believe religious authorities should take a stand. And they those generally shouldn't be prayed because they are considered transgressors.

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But at the end of the day, if they were Muslim, and they died on a state of Assam, there's someone should pray there. janessa someone should pray there. janessa. But you should be understood that what they've done is an act of transgression, and is not allowed in Islam.

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Well, altana Yes.

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Yes.

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It doesn't make a difference if you have.

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No, I mean, there's nothing that can be done at that time, because to remove a tattoo, you actually need to get surgery done. And if a person dies in that state, there's nothing that can be done at that time. So they should still be watched. And it is fine. Their judgment is with a less final thought at that time. Perhaps the repented to align the artists forgiveness, that's between them and Allah subhanaw taala at that time, on the one,

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the janazah is to be preyed upon every Muslim, it's about who will lead that janessa serve a person did commit suicide, then at that time, a religious authority is allowed not to lead that genocide, but someone else from the Muslim community should lead that janessa.

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Allah Hosanna

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a psychological mental issue, there's a wide variety of things.

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Exactly. And that's what I'm saying is at the end of the day, as long as we know them to be Muslim, the hack of the Muslim is that when he passes away, you pray his janessa. And you like we establish their their faith with certainty, they are Muslim with certainty, in order to kick them outside the fold of Islam, you need certainty as well. And suicide is not reason enough to kick someone outside the fold of Islam.

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For the community leader, like what you're saying just emphasizes the leader doesn't

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will not beat the syllabi, to show the community that this is not something that is condoned. Exactly, yeah, you still somebody still needs to pray for the person because they are exactly what they committed suicide or even if they didn't pray, right. So he said he took that stance once and it actually had a positive effect. Initially at the time, he said, I just sharing this with you case, it really stuck stuck to me is because we have Well, we have relatives or family or we know people that don't pray regularly. And and which the community sometimes the spiritual leaders want to make a statement and he said he did do that and he chose not to pray. Right. And but it had a

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positive effect because then the family members

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It wasn't great, right? But afterwards, a lot of members started to pray

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for that because they don't want to die. And the amendment right? Of course.

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Very few.

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Even doctor just

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saw him.

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Right.

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Right.

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Right.

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I mean, at the end of the man can refuse and accept, on his own discretion, he doesn't need to justify it. But if you're going to make a stance like that, you should explain to the people and teach them as well. Allah. Okay, they want to conclude right now. So I want to share some parting advice. So what did what do we learn from all of this? Number one, the first thing we learn is the importance of education, pertaining to to janazah, and funeral rites, and so on, and so forth. So there's two books that I recommend in the English language. The first is a book by Dr. Bill Phillips called funeral rites in Islam. And the second is a series of books by Dr. Mohammed algae belly, he

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talks about the sickness, he talks about the janazah talks about inheritance is like three or four volumes. It's called life of the hereafter. And that's a very good series, as well. Number two is that death is a reality that, you know, none of us can escape from it. And we all have to be prepared. So we want to be thinking about number one, our own worlds are we prepared? Number two, have we discussed this with our families, I know it's a very uncomfortable conversation to have. But it's better to have that conversation and be uncomfortable now than to pass the when your family's completely unprepared, and they don't know what to do and what to expect. So have those

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conversations with your family members. Number three, is the importance of taking care of your own acula. You know, as much as we think people will be concerned for our Acura, the reality is, we all lead busy lives, right from time to time, a child might remember their parents. But that was as far as it goes, friends usually forget each other very quickly. siblings forget each other very quickly. So you want to think about your ocular, what can you do as a subtle kajaria. And that's what you want to focus on. Use the money that you have, and start investing in your sadaqa jariya. Invest in your own children, if you have children, spend time with them, teach them how to pray, teach them

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how to set on teaching them make dua for their parents, you know, after they've passed away, focused on your setup gradually, I cannot emphasize that enough. Because if you don't do it, no one else will. And then number four, the last thing that I would mention, is understand that, you know, death is a very emotional time that people lose sense of the things that they do, they lose sense of priorities, they even lose sense of religious obligations. And when you have a little bit of knowledge, it's important to take that leadership like that's why I'm sharing this today. So if any one of your family members, anyone in our community, you know, needs a sort of help in these this

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sort of advice. First of all, we have this halaqaat to help them go through it. And number two, you're there as an individual to provide that support small emotionally, religiously, and any other sort of help that is is needed. While a hotel along with sallalahu send them a bicycle nav and Mohammed Wilder and he was happy he was Santa and he will conclude with that inshallah.