GEM #09 How The Prophet SAW Treated Our Seniors

Nadim Bashir


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AI: Summary © The speaker discusses Subhanab's approach to sending seniors to nursing homes to take care of them, providing comfort and helping them show respect and appreciation. They stress the importance of showing respect to individuals at different age levels, including at different times of the day. The speaker also emphasizes the need to prioritize seniors and elderly people in events, such as massages and Halal shops, and to show respect and admiration for seniors, particularly those with intellectual disabilities.
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Today inshallah we want to go back to the series we're talking about about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, And subhanAllah one of the things I want to talk about today that how Rasulullah sallallahu, why you send them treated a certain segment of the community that today Alhamdulillah. For many years, we were always taught as kids how to work with this segment of the community, how to treat this segment of the community. Unfortunately, we're not teaching our kids how to treat this segment of the community. And this is the elderly segment of the community, our seniors of our community SubhanAllah. We're not teaching our kids. Now, I will say this that many years ago, back

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in the 1980s, there were many countries who took it upon themselves to put together certain laws, certain initiatives into their country to respect seniors. But today's Subhanallah when you look at the state of America, a majority of the people, what do they do, they take their seniors, and they don't want to take care of them, and they put them in nursing homes. And I've been to nursing homes, and if you have been to a nursing home, to see how our seniors, and how our elderly Subhanallah, the way they get treated Wallahi. If you know how they get treated, you will never send your elderly over there. This is how they get treated. So many times they get so mistreated, that sometimes they

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have to lay in certain conditions throughout the day, and they get threatened by certain workers and so forth. Now, I'm not talking about every single nursing home. But this is the case of many nursing homes and so forth. And why because many times we don't have that reverence in our heart, we don't have the love and respect for our elders and our elderly. And many times in this culture, we tend to send them other places so that other people can take care of them, whereas we should be taking care of our seniors. Now, the very first thing that I want to talk about is that when it comes to Subhan, Allah, Allah subhana wa Taala he himself has respect for seniors. What does that mean? It means that

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Subhanallah when you look at our gum of Islam across the board, Allah subhanaw taala has provided so many concessions to who the seniors, if a person cannot go for hydrogen because they are a senior, they are exempt from hydrogen. They don't have to go for heights because they don't have the physical capacity. But for hydrogen, if a senior if there's a person who is senior, they cannot praise the Lord because they have some kind of joint pain, they can sit on the chair and pray. There are so many different concessions that Allah subhanho wa Taala he has kept in mind for singers, people who are the elderly, if Allah has so much respect, how much respect should we have as human

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beings Rasulullah sallallahu Ani, he was sending them. He was a perfect example. When it came down to the seniors. First of all, the Prophet saw some he taught everyone the rights of everyone in the community. Allah says the province has said I'm taught the husband, the rights of the wife. He taught the wife, the husband, the rights of the husband, he taught the parents the rights of the children. He taught the children the rights of the parents, he taught the people the rights of their neighbors and their community members, their relatives and so forth. And not only that, but Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam also taught young children how to take care of their parents

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how to respect the elderly, and so many Malik are the Allah to Allah. He says that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, If a young man shows honor and respect to an elderly man, because of his age, Allah subhanho wa Taala will appoint from him for him, a person who will always also show him honor, and dignity and respect when he comes to that age, and SubhanAllah. There are many scholars that I've come across, when I saw them that they were teaching during the day, but at night, they were taking care of their parents. And once again, we know a lot of times when it comes to our parents, and they get to that age is not easy. Of course, it comes with a certain kind of

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challenge, taking care of them, looking after them and so forth. And we know that how their behaviors change as time passes by, as they you know, progress in age, we understand the challenges, but Subhanallah, my teacher, he taught me something amazing. He said that today I'm doing this for my father. Today I'm taking care of my mother, because my son is watching me taking care of my father and my mother, and hopefully inshallah he will also learn that one day if I come into this age, that he will also take care of me also. This is a to be this teacher of mine. He's telling me so the holla when he told me it made complete sense, this hadith of Anisimova Malik or the Allah

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Tala. And so this is why I always say that when it comes to our young ones, we have to teach our young ones how to show respect. As adults, we should always show respect to our parents to show respect to our elderly because the inevitable is the inevitable reality is brothers and sisters, that you and I are also going to become old one day. We also become old one day

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And we might be depending on others, although I will say, you know, subhanAllah I always hear my my relatives from overseas they always make this one DUA and we should always make this one dua. It's, I mean, they will tell me oh, do I can translate it, but they will always tell me this is a very profound do I honestly that we don't hear in America? We don't hear this often. But when my relatives told me Subhanallah it was so profound, they would always say or do that always make dua that Allah kisi ko Mahajan Obernai you know, in such a profound dua what it means is that your Allah do not make me dependent on anyone in my life. throughout my lifetime. Yeah, Allah do not make me

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dependent on anyone Subhan Allah, and they will say this And subhanAllah every time I say this, and I heard this yesterday, so many times. It's so true. But the reality is that one day when we become old, of course, we always want Allah's care. But if we want all others to treat us with dignity, dignity, honor and respect, then we have to show our elderly dignity and respect. Number two is by showing respect to our elders. By showing respect to our seniors. We are showing respect to who to Allah subhanho wa Taala the province of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says it is out of reverence to Allah to respect. Those who are seniors mean that if we want to show respect to Allah,

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one of the best ways we can do that is we show respect to our seniors. And this is something that we learned from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam are many different ways. Let me give you some ways that how we can show respect to our seniors. Number one is, whenever we walk into a room, we should be the ones making salaam to the seniors. We don't expect the seniors to come and make salaam to us out of respect, and SubhanAllah. This is this is part of dub. I've talked about that before. Many times we were taught about this when we were kids, but today we need to teach our kids that same thing. You walk inside the masjid, you see someone who is senior go and make salaam to them.

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You walk into a room you see your grandfather, your grandmother or you see any other senior Rasul Allah so Allah says when he says seniors and elderly it was very general make salaam to those who are the senior. This is something that we learned from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he says that the young should always make salaam to those who are the elderly and the passerby, she makes salam to those who are sitting and the one who enters into a smug, the one who enters they should make Salam. Another thing that we can do in order to prioritize and show respect and reverence to our our elderly is that Djibouti erotic Islam told us, allah sallallahu wasallam, to

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always give the priority to who to the seniors. So you're at event give priority to who the seniors give priority to our elders, they really they deserve that. And I will say this, you know, subhanAllah in our context, in America context right now Subhanallah we have so many things going on for us, there are so many massages, and so forth. But so many of our seniors here today in America, they came here to America in the 1970s. In the 1980s. With their nowhere, there were no massages, there were no Halal shops, those who want to who those who are very particular about zabiha, meat and so forth. They had to drive, go and do their own slaughter and so forth. They went through so

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much sacrifices and today because of their do ours and because of their hard work today, we are enjoying their benefits. Today we are enjoying their sacrifices. And today everywhere you go do our massages. There are so many Islamic school there are so many Islamic seminaries, so many Halal shops, so many Halal restaurants and so forth. But we don't realize how much hard work they put in how much hard work they put in, in order for us to be in this kind of position. So that is why always this is something that the Prophet SAW son was taught by Jabra eel, always give priority to the elderly. Also something that we learned from the Prophet sallallahu ala he was sent them also

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and from the Sahaba of the Allah on home, that whenever you start a conversation, you start with the elderly. This was a common practice of the holiday rush. You don't whenever they would ask anyone their opinions, he would always ask the key bar Sahaba he was always asked the elderly Sahaba those who have been Muslims for a long time those who have been around Rasulullah Salam, first he would ask them and then he will come back to the younger ones. So that is why is part of our love and respect, where we learn from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that when you sit in a gathering and you have elderly, you start with them, yes, if they tell you that you start that you

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can start but they shall always be offered. Now. Often what happens is, especially when it comes to our seniors, sometimes they can get angry about things. They can express their frustration. And as a young man, you feel like that. You know what? You don't have a right to tell me what to do. You're wrong. Well, what do we learn from us allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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What do you do when a senior elderly or senior an elderly person comes to you and they tell you something, and you don't like it? And perhaps they could be even wrong? What do you do that kind of situation? Do you retaliate? Do you respond back? Do you let your ego get the best of you? Let's look at us allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. What's about Abba was a chief of the of the orange. They sent him to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Now think about the questions he's asking us to Lhasa Salaam. He goes, Do you have any respect for your father, of course, I mean, first of all, we all know the Prophet, Allah, his son was born without a father. But of course, he has reverence

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for his father. He knows that he passed, he came into this dunya without a father, his father passed away. But he has reverence for his father. And he has reverence for his grandfather here by saying, Do you love your father? Do you have respect for your father? Do you have respect for your grandfather? And of course he has. And then he's telling him that if you don't have any respect for them, then how do you justify or how can you say things about them, that they worshipped other things besides Allah subhanho wa taala. If you're saying that they're wrong, then you have no respect. Now Akbar is going on and on and on. And he has such a, an offensive tone with Rasulillah

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Salam. Now Is he older than the Prophet Salam? Absolutely. Is he wrong? Absolutely. But how do Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, how did he respond? He responded very calmly, very calmly. And then he said, he began to address Akbar. And when he saw this when he saw the calm tone of Rasulullah, salaam, then he also calmed his tone. And he says, Oh, my nephew, what are you looking for? Do you want women we'll give you women, you want you want money, we'll give you money. You want whatever you want, we'll give it to you. And that is when Rasulullah salAllahu alayhi wa sallam, he recited the verse of sort of facilities. And then later on, he said, even if you put the sun in one

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hand and the moon one hand, I will not stop doing what I'm doing. The point is this, when someone like this, who was elderly than him, came and was very rude and disrespectful. How did Rasulullah Salam? How did he treat the elderly? How did he respond to these kinds of situations? This is what we need to learn from us allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So this is why inshallah and finally, of course, the other things that are very common sense. You see someone you know so many times we see elderly come inside the Masjid. They don't have a chair here. They need a chair, go and help them get a chair. They need something they're trying to go and get something ask them Do you need

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something? This is a showing reverence and respect to our elderly and if our kids, they see us that we're showing respect to our elderly, then Inshallah, first of all, when we come to that age, people will show us respect, as per the Hadith of the Prophet SAW Salem. But number two is Allah subhanho wa Taala will reward us and not only that, will we are providing a proper therapy for our children. I ask Allah subhana wa Tada first of all, all of our seniors may Allah preserve them, you know, subhanAllah I've been here 11 years I've seen many seniors of our community who passed away May Allah subhanho wa Taala in line their graves May Allah subhanaw taala give them a place in Jannah

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Bolvar remaining seniors may Allah give them a long life. Let's show respect to our parents, our Senior parents and others, seniors of our community may Allah subhanaw and give them a long life and put Baraka in their life. I mean, what is that Kamala hate to live

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