Musleh Khan – Thematic Study of Sura Luqman #01 – Introduction

Musleh Khan
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of belief and straight speaking in Surah, praying to Allah's guidance, and not taking advantage of opportunities. They stress the need to keep parents busy and not take advantage of opportunities, and provide advice on parenting and gratitude. The conversation covers the use of words and phrases to describe experiences, including emotions and actions, and touches on parenting for children and the benefits it brings. The speakers emphasize the importance of parenting for children and provide advice on parenting and gratitude.
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Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Allah He of total Salah woman, while Muggeridge Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

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Well, welcome to a nother session of sorta look, man. Is it okay if I'm sitting? Yeah. Okay.

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I'm going to try to sit a little bit today, even though I don't like sitting when I'm teaching, but it's been a long day. Just put it that way. All right.

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Let's do a quick recap, I'm hopeful that most of you or all of you, or at least some of you had access to the handout. So there is a handout that's been posted, you have your login details to access that. If you want to bring your own notebook, I mean, that's up to you, you want to bring your laptop or whatever that's up to you. You can do all of that, whatever you're comfortable with. I just have a handout that I create, basically, from this PowerPoint. And then I add a couple of things here in there to sort of help guide you.

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So as you're writing, so your notes don't look like they're all over the place. Okay. All right, quick question. A couple quick questions.

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Who is Luqman and why is he important to all of us?

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Who is Lockman? Alayhis Salam and why is he important to us?

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Okay, so he was a wise man.

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Why is that important? Because there's lots of wise individuals throughout the reign. What's so special about look men

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good, he is the closest that you and I can reach in terms of our journey in life to attain wisdom and knowledge. Because he himself is not a prophet. So you can kind of imagine him being someone like you and I said, Allah gave him something really special. I am, which is what we're going to discover and hatch today in sha Allah and see just how what made look man Alehissalaam such such a remarkable individual or I mean, why did this sort of start with Elif la meme? What was one of the wisdoms behind why the sort of started with letters you don't you and I don't know the meaning of

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yet Mari Go ahead.

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Good, sets the tone of the whole sort of

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remember this a principle in Tafseer. The first area of every Surah 99% of the time, sets the attitude of the reciter or the student of what what they should be thinking about what were their thoughts should be when they're journeying through that particular surah. So for example, swittel Bacala Alif Lam Meem. Valley Kalki tabula rasa, Buffy. Allah after I left la meme says in this book, there is no doubt in it. Delhi, Calcutta loud, there's no doubt in

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that being the second chapter of the Quran after you've gotten to know who Allah is. Now you delve into the nitty gritty, you start looking at all of the different rulings and Cam of the Sharia. And the first sentence that Allah uses to introduce the ease he says, Well, in this book, there is no doubt. What does that do for you now as the student as you go through Switzer, Bukhara, and essentially the rest of the Quran. Now that you've been told in this book, there's no doubt use the reader. What are you thinking about at that very moment?

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So you

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can question him, what else? What did I say to you? What's special about sorbitol? Bacara. If you want to do something, go read sortcl Bacara was at something

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if you want to teach or give Dawa or spread Islam. So the way Allah introduces you how to do Derrida is he says, this book there is no doubt which means if you want to spread this message to the rest of the world, what do you have to do with it?

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You have to have confidence and certainty.

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through that you trust everything in the book to begin with. Once you do that, then everything else can fall into place. So the first area of every Surah sets the tone of that entire sort of, this is a Surah about wisdom, wisdom, not just in parenting, which we'll see today. It's wisdom in life. But Allah says Alif Lam Meem. Then he mentions Tika to Kitabi Hakeem that there are miraculous signs and miracles in this book, and it's just full and loaded with wisdom. That's the tone of the entire book. So literally every area we're going to try to extrapolate some kind of wisdom for our own benefit, okay. We've discussed Tilka to Nikita Bill Hakeem

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who don't work mentally sinning, and I believe this is where we are at is that correct? Verse number four. I added the Arabic because I like

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So is that where we are for Okay, so yeah, let's go. Verse number four.

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Now, Allah continues, and he says, Levina up moon or solar.

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Why tunas Zeca? Well whom Bill ferati whom? Yukino? Very, very similar to sort of tillbaka.

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Those who established prayers. What does prayer have to do with wisdom?

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What does prayer have to do with wisdom? Some of the Romantics use this area in Surah, Tel Lok Sora. Look, man, they teach us that prayer is one of the ways that Allah will bless you with wisdom is through prayer.

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So through prayer, Allah will bless you with wisdom. Wisdom is not something you can learn out of a book, you can't study wisdom, you don't take a course and wisdom. It's not possible. Wisdom is really SubhanAllah. One of the most powerful qualities in an individual.

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Allah says in another Surah

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Surah Yusuf Paul has he he sabini Dural Illa Allah basura anyone many terani says this is my path, call people to Allah. Then Allah says Allah ba Sierra. But Sierra is clarity. It's not just him. It's clarity in the knowledge that you have a part of that clarity is your wisdom. nother Surah Surah 10. Now when we do ls abelia robic call to the path of your master. What did Allah say? Bill hikma. Allah says, Call to the religion of Islam with wisdom. First, not knowledge, wisdom. Some scholars say wisdom is first knowledge is second. It's, it's the prior it's the number one thing. Because if you have knowledge, whatever knowledge you have, if you don't know how to use it

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properly, the right place at the right time for the right things, then is that knowledge beneficial to you? Know, this is one of the things that so many Dwight's so many speakers, so many young enthusiast, enthusiastic students of knowledge that love to, you know, go on the streets and give Darla, the moment they get into a heated situation, the moment they get blocked. The moment that you know, people are not receptive to their message. They they forget wisdom. And it's easy for them to lose their patience, it's easy for them to get in confrontation and so on and so forth. Now, for you as a parent, some context to this AM, Allah is mentioning establish prayer and establish zakat,

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because now you as a parent, you will never ever be successful as a parent, unless you are praying to Allah.

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You will never ever be able to get through with your children. Unless you have prayer in your life. And not just one or two, you're praying at least the five daily prayers why? Because as I said to you before,

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and those of you who are going to hear this for the first time write it down. Prayer

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is offers the solutions for mankind that mankind themselves can't figure out they don't have the knowledge or the wisdom to figure it out. So prayer offers the world mankind the solutions, the resolve the answers to situations and problems and difficulties in life.

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that human beings do not have the ability to resolve.

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So you as a parent might be like, I just can't figure out my kids, I can't get through them.

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Pray, if you're already praying, keep praying and pray some more. However, however much you can just keep praying.

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While you wait, tunas Zeca, well whom Bill earthhero, to whom up noon. So there's a cat is there and we've talked about the cat in certain Nora, as part of the responsibility of wealth. And the only thing that I want to mention here is that

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wealth is never yours or mine. We don't own it, we will never own it. The money and wealth that we have, is something that is loaned to us by Allah. And he tells us what to do with that wealth, he tells you how to earn it, he tells you how to spend it. And this is one of the at that he tells us how to spend it. You know, it's remarkable as a cat, what's the percentage every year you've got to give, once you qualify to do a

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2.5% Think about it.

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Allah said you're 60,000 a year 78 Whatever it is,

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just want you to take 2.5% and give that to a people that have nothing.

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The poor, the needy, give only 2.5 not 25% Just 2.5% Not even 3% of that entire annual income. Just give that to somebody who has no income, nothing. And when you think about it, that that way you think to yourself Subhan Allah, it's actually like a mercy that Allah kept it that low, the percentage that low

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and the one who chooses not to pays the cat for whatever reason, just imagine how they are looked at and perceived by Allah 2.5% You still can't do that. That's a real serious bankruptcy with your Amen. You know, and we pray that Allah protects us from that. Well, who'd been a hero to homeopathy known and they are completely convinced of the afterlife. Hola, aka Allahu dem Robbie himolla, aka homomorphic Hahn, same exact area found in sootel baccaro. Those are the people that are committed to guidance from their master and those are the ones that will attain ultimate success. Pretty straightforward. Nothing I want to highlight the woman in se man yesterday lol Hadith. Now let's get

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into some nitty gritty stuff. Okay.

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Well, Mina, Nancy made yesterday levelheaded. Let's look at the translation real quick. You go right there among the people is someone who purchase entertaining talk. So he may mislead from the Path of Allah without any knowledge and they take the Allah's path as a joke. So a couple things so far. There are people who do this who purchase entertaining talk, we're going to talk about what that is, number two, to mislead people from Allah. Number three, they also take Allah's path as a joke. Those are the people especially that have humiliating punishment, lots of stuff to unpack in this verse. Here's a couple. In context, the Metcons prided themselves with the Arabic language. And the way

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that they would express this pride is that they would bring poets, experts in the Arabic language, and they would do like a performance. So they have a stage setup or a circle somewhere on makin grounds. And everybody would come there and gather and listen to this person recite and read poetry. It happens till this day, all over the Arab world. There are massive, massive competitions and performances strictly on poetry.

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The Koran now when the poor n is revealed, you can imagine now, the highest level of Arabic to the Mexicans was poetry. Then the Koran comes and they start listening to Elif la meme.

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And then they hear Arabic letters put together to K to kita. But that's not how people spoke Arabic. So the style, you know, the grammar, the eloquence of how the poor n is constructed? Is something completely foreign, no, to these Mexicans. To the point now, do Arabs who speak Arabic and Arabic is their mother tongue? Do they need to have Arabic teff seal? Do they have explanations of the Quran? Of course they do. 1000s and 1000s of volumes written in Arabic to explain

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Arabic, so gives you an idea of just how comprehensive the Arabic of the poor n is, in comparison to anything else. Mexicans were concerned that they would lose their audience. So there's a narration that they brought a Syrian woman who was really famous at that time. And they brought her to Mecca. And they would have her sing this beautiful, eloquent songs and poetry, and everybody would crowd around them. Why did they do this? Because every time the poor end was being preached, so the process son would be somewhere over there. And he's teaching and preaching the Koran, and he's drawing a massive crowd. So the polish and the leaders of Mecca are looking at the and they're like,

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Oh, really,

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you know what, let's go bring a superstar from Syria, so and so. And we'll put on our own show. At the same time he's doing his thing. And let's see who's going to attract the most in terms of numbers.

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You know, what's interesting is that, that narration, it's so relevant today.

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It's so relevant today, if you have ever organized an Islamic event, anywhere, you know exactly what competition is all about, you know exactly that when you try to coordinate and collaborate with many Islamic organizations, a lot of the times, don't be surprised a lot of the times, they will simply refuse because you're going to do something similar from what we're doing. So here's the agreement, we'll help you as long as you don't do the same thing we're doing. Because we've already got an audience, we've already got a capital, we've already got an attraction, we don't want you to come and disrupt all of that. So it's the same idea is happening right here. And it started since the

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Meccan. Period.

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Every time the Quran was free, this woman would sing.

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And they purchased her speech. So this is one meaning of the p&l. When Allah says that purchases entertaining talk in context, now you understand, they would purchase, meaning they would pay her she would come and she would do her performance. Do we have a version of that today, especially, you know, in the entertainment business, that's what entertainment is. Entertainment is designed to keep you occupied. So you don't really do anything beneficial in your life.

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Don't do anything useful. Just watch, you know, America's Got Talent for four hours every week, then when that's done, you get bored of that, just watch like a basketball game for three hours. Then when you get bored of that, then watch something else, then watch something else didn't watch them. And it just keeps going and going. And it's just a cycle that never dies. It just gets grows and gets bigger and bigger. Now you have live streaming now you have Netflix, then you have all of this stuff. So you remember back in the days with those video cassettes, like you needed a suitcase to carry around like two movies, right? So it's, you know, you come from that, but now you can have

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1000s Just right on your phone. That's all part of this. Now, why is Allah mentioning this? Look back at the previous a, Allah just says that the people who pay there's a cat who pray, they're the ones that are going to have an attachment to the earth hero. And when they have an attachment to the ark hero, they're going to be successful in this world. They are going to have guidance from Allah.

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Then Allah brings up the first distraction. There are those who purchase entertaining talk meaning there are those who are engrossed in just chillin and having fun. Every every chance they get. So parents, your first I guess you can say point of advice from the sorta when it comes to parenting.

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Especially if you have teenagers, early teens and so on. Here's a secret you can immediately extract from this area. You must keep teenagers busy.

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You must keep them busy. You cannot have and should not have a teacher, excuse me, a teenager just idling there. Because what happens when teenagers just sit there and have nothing to do?

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They'll find something to do. And a lot of the times what they find to do, you're not going to approve of or you may not even know what it is. But every time you drive through a Timmies drive thru oh my god do they have Wi Fi and he has to get on Wi Fi just to the drive thru.

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He just he gets in it drives him nuts.

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gets into a mall to a Walmart versus Wi Fi.

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Or watch out for the signs. Some of the signs is like if you pick them up from school,

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and they're on their phone, okay? It's not like oh, yeah, everything was good.

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Watch out for that stuff. Because those are signs that they're talking to others. And you're not on that list.

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Watch out. And be careful of that. You know, Dr. Phil said that one of the most obvious signs that your child has new parents,

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you know, like Facebook, parents, Instagram parents, that sort of thing is that the moment they come home, you're the last person they are interested in having a conversation with and laughing with. So they'll go up to their room, they'll do their own thing. And you will still have to call them.

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Don't you want to eat, you will die, son, if you don't eat, you must come and eat. And you have to beg them and insalata you got to tell you've got to do this routine a lot. Some people say to me when I talk this way, right? They say, Yeah, you know, I get it, brother Musa. But that's how teenagers are? No,

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I refuse. I refuse to accept that.

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It's not all teenagers are.

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Just ask your parents.

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Ask your parents if they were like, and let your parents tell you about their parents. And see if they were like that. It's all about and I teach this to the youth that I have every Wednesdays here. I taught them the number one biggest obstacle in their life. As their young teenagers moving on towards the young adulthood. There is one thing it's the biggest biggest obstacle that prevents them from having all of this. You guys know what that is?

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The biggest enemy for teenagers what is a

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it's a generic term. So it's nothing specific like Sala or a phone or so it's something more generic that in that encapsulates all of those things.

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Distractions. Remember that word?

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The biggest enemy to young people is distractions. So you're trying to get them focused on one thing. But then there are 10 or 20 or 100 Different things that lure them away and distract them from that. You know, every so often I have I have a nine year old daughter. She doesn't know anything about a cell phone, how in the world one day I see her, she has my phone, she unlocked it. She went into the camera. And she started like to do making videos of herself with her hair. And then she started editing it.

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And she like, made the portrayal of Claire she add some cartoons and words. And I'm, I'm looking at, you know, Mom and I and I'm just like, I didn't even know, how did she even know are my code, you know, to unlock the phone. So my point is this. Once a child finds an outlet, where they can satisfy free time, by doing things that are easy and fun, you have got to stay on alert. So that's the first lesson woman yesterday level women in SMA yesterday level will Hadith level is are the kinds of things that you do. And as you're doing it you're competing. So low is like, okay, you'll watch and binge, you know, a set of movies. And I'll probably do the same but only after I'm done the movies.

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I'll probably play video games for two hours. So I've done a little bit more than you. Somebody will see man, my weekend was real good. I went to a basketball. That's it. I went to a basketball game. And after that we went out to a restaurant and children's friends. I came back two o'clock in the morning, my parents thought I was praying to God and downtown, but they don't even know. And that's what I did. So that's level. So Allah says that there are some people who do that legal they learn severely. Let's look at the first consequence for people who are caught up with distraction.

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And, you know, we're talking a lot about young people. Let's be honest.

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Adults are just as guilty.

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Adults are just as guilty.

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We we we are really good. As a Muslim culture. We're really good at poking at the young people for everything, but we are just as guilty many times. So this a it doesn't single out any age group. Allah says Leo Lin learn sebelah is for all of us that this stuff will distract you to the point where here's how, you know, I'll prove it to you. Here's how you know you are falling off Allah's path.

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Because when I hear how you know the

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With a litmus test,

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this is how you know,

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when you listen to or you watch like a movie,

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you can sit there for two and a half hours and watch through it, no problem, right? And you get comfortable, get a couple snacks, do whatever you have to do. And you watch

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the way you test yourself. If this if that routine has gotten you away off the path of Allah is can you do something similar? To pour N? Can you listen to a YouTube lecture for two hours? Can you take a course without falling asleep for two hours? That's how you know. And you will test yourself that you're getting too much of one thing. And now your heart is becoming engulfed into that thing. And as a result, the only line sebelah you're getting away, you're getting away, you're getting away. You know, a student, a young student asked me yesterday, she said how she's really she reads poor and a lot. But she doesn't feel it. She can't connect to it. He's like, How come so brothers? Do you

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have any advice? So I asked her, I was like, tell me what a typical day is like for you. So she starts ironing out her day. She's like, Okay, go to school come home, around four o'clock, after four o'clock I eat, then I probably relax a little bit. And I just said stop. That's your whole that's the whole problem right there. ago, you've already taken more than half your day. And it has nothing to do with you and Allah.

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So you have got to figure out how you can incorporate more a lot time in your day. And then come back to me again and tell me how it goes. So it's about also trying to find a

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some sort of practical balance that you can keep up with in your day to day life. Then Allah continues.

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I'm sebelah be how you reason why a tequila, huzzah. Here's what happens to people who are caught up in distraction.

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Islam becomes a big joke, but can't take anything Islamic seriously.

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You will probably meet and hear about people who would like laugh at how some Muslims will dress almost some Muslims will talk

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with that guy every time he comes to the mestizos by himself. He's just always making dua like he has no family isn't go home. Just sit here all day. That kind of like condescending attitude. That's why I tell you the whosoever, Allah says you're making a joke out of Allah's path now, stop doing that.

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And Muslims do this a lot to each other. Right to Allah till this day, I get all these kinds of complaints all the time. And then Allah continues Hola, EK Allahumma Aza boo Maheen. Those are the people especially that have humiliating punishment. In other words, you're taking the time to humiliate the person beside you. Less says, I'm going to make the core of that punishment humiliating. Maheen is that Allah will publicly display the punishment that he gives that individual he'll publicly humiliated, embarrassed, though, right? May Allah protect all of us from that? Okay.

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Oh, oh, SkyTeam. So these are some of the things to summarize what we've been talking about industries that are dedicated to keep your free time occupied, sports, movies, games, they're all there to take up your free time. Make certain things are commonplace * drugs, vulgarities crime, they all become acceptable. What do I mean by that?

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The more you hear it,

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the more you accept it.

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It's, it's, it's the routine. It's, it's how life is like, the more you hear something, no matter how horrible and filthy you think it is, there will eventually come a time where it becomes completely normal. completely normal.

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Okay, well, we're going to come back to that point a little bit later. Okay. There are other verses that are going to allude to that as well. Certain taboos become acceptable speak, you dress and act like entertainment and misguidance continues to spread. So the distractions are there. And the only images and figures and examples that people end up having is just what they see and what they've, you know, adapted to on TV, on social media, with the circles of friends and people that they're around those social circles. Those are the things then after it became a norm, then they started to speak like them. So if somebody just uses a lot of terrible words, in their speech, we all know

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somebody like that, like every other word is like a curse word or something. And if you're around that enough, then the

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It's just natural, that you'll start to pick up those bad habits. And when you have it, then it gets spread to others and so on. And that's how the cycle begins. All of this is leading to something in the suit, okay? It's not just things that Allah just bringing up spontaneously, and then moving on to a different dog. They're all intertwined and connected to the entire sorta as you'll continue to see, okay, we have immediate access to unlimited entertainment. Not a moment of your day is entertainment free without any knowledge. Entertainment doesn't make you smarter. So we've discussed that nobody has ever become a scholar by just watching movies, or just sitting there and going on

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YouTube. like nobody's ever become smart and brilliant as a result. So

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it's extremely important to constantly keep yourself engaged in knowledge.

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Any questions before we continue?

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What either Tila Isley tuna. Well, no stack Bira Catalunya smell her here is the next consequence, when you become desensitized to Islam.

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So from a to number six,

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that person now has lost their trust and their sensitivity to Islam. It's become a joke to them. So they have become desensitized to good information to good knowledge. So here's the next consequences. Here's another layer that's going to be added to the law says what you that to tailor it to know whenever our miraculous signs are Read on to that person, meaning whenever you talk to them about what's right.

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Anything, you just have to be Islamic, just anything when you look, man, you can't be a racist. So Right. Don't talk to it. Don't treat people like that.

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Or you can't talk down to me, you can't act like you're more superior to everyone. You can't do that stuff. Now give a hope to hear about mending relationships. And one of the things that came out of it afterwards, if somebody asked me is like, why do people do you know, why do people break relationships? And I don't have an answer for that. But I can tell you that the famous statement of Abu Dhabi, the Rhodiola Han, he mentioned a remarkable statement. He said that in a direct to nurse, I left people, I leave them alone, I don't get involved in their business. I don't get involved in their personal life. I don't talk to them. I don't get involved in their drama. Watch how relevant

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his statement is, to this day and age says I don't do nothing. I don't get involved into gossip. I don't get involved. None of that stuff. I just mind my business. And people end up finding reasons to talk about me.

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And every one of us has that where you don't cause no trouble with anybody but for some reason. They'll just talk about you. They'll make reference to you, and they'll pick on you. So Abu Dhabi doubt of the Allah Harun asked the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam fakie, fennel snack? Like, what do we do in a situation like that? You're gonna process it and told him

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told him remarkable statement. He said to him that day, leave it for them.

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What does that mean? It means that those moments that they're talking about you

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let it go, leave it alone. In other words, just let them do it.

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And scholars explain the reason why the process and have said that, what is one of the consequences for talking about people? What happens to your deeds?

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So on the Day of Judgment, all those moments they talked about you all have their solid, there's the cat there slide up other hedge their own was their rewards, however many of it Allah wants to take, he might take all of it, he may take portions of it, and they all come to you.

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You know, can you imagine?

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You could potentially be rewarded for performing Hajj even though you've never gone because somebody was talking about you and they performed Hajj. So Allah took their hijab and gave it to you. Just think about it.

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And so when you're talking about being desensitized, all of that is part of these.

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So now this person when you're trying to tell them, Look, you can break relationships with people.

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Right? You're telling them you can't you can't do that. You can't treat people you can't. They look at you and look what happens. This is one that you know that they've really had enough with Islam. They really had enough with the rules. Were either totally or

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Hiya tuna one LAMP stack para alumna smear her.

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When it's Read on to the meeting when it's told to them, he turns away in arrogance.

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Man Get away from me.

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Okay, okay, okay. And and parents kids do this a lot.

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You know how kids will learn will stack berocca ALEMI Aspera you know how they do a watch? These are some of the things you got to make sure you register them, okay in your mind when your kid says, Ah, whatever. That's what level step zero in their language, watch out for whatever big cue, they don't care what we're saying. Or attitude body language. Okay, fine, I'll take all the garbage. You got to address those things right away.

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Right away, don't laugh it off. Because those things those are layers. And that's what Allah is teaching us here, giving it to us layer by layer by layer, one LAMP stack Iran, he turns away in complete arrogance, arrogance, meaning no care, or no seriousness to what you have to say. As though he haven't even heard what was said. Lm you're smarter. So you'll be like, Did I talk to you about this behavior yesterday? Oh, yeah, you're really good. And you're doing that, like, seven times a week.

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Sometimes you're doing it like five times a day. And I tell you this this morning, don't talk to your sister, like, don't act like this don't behave this way. Don't use those words or talk to me that I'm going to keep telling you. You know, this is one of the

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the the norms of being a parent, one of your sentences that's permanent for every parent. How many times have I told you this? How many times have I said that that's permanent on every parent's tongue. So Allah is saying, Be careful. In case they have reached me a smart her. Then Allah describes Ken NiFi, with Luna, he Well, Cora, as if their ears have some kind of barrier. You know, what some scholars did when they explain this? They said the barrier here is when they literally plug their ears with something, whether it be earphones or something else, ear plugs, so they don't have to listen to you.

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You know,

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there was this one guy, one brother.

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You know, he had asked me to help him with a with a situation. And I tried, and it was one of those situations where I wasn't qualified to help them. And I had to tell him, Look, I'm sorry, I'm not the right person for this, you'll have to go somewhere else. And he got really upset about that. And then I was giving a lecture somewhere and I saw him sitting there. knew he did. He looked at me. He took out his earphones and willing to listen to me.

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And I'm like, Are you that tila? It

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was tech girl. You are a number seven man look at you. So he I don't know what he was trying to achieve. But he made sure he sat there. There's like hundreds of people in this auditorium. Right. So I'm up on the podium doing my thing. And somehow Allah put my eye on this guy. And as soon as it's like, he waited for the moment. Okay, I got his like, and he just did that.

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You know, it's pretty sad. To say the least, like all jokes aside, what a shame

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for for us as Muslims that

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that kind of behavior has become almost normal. In every gathering Islamic gathering you go to it's all you always find that one, they're always there. And if you don't have them in Islamic gathering, every one of our families has that one. You have someone somewhere in your family. I have one of them. You all have one where you just like cat LM Yes, ma'am. What is in your ears can Effie within a walk, crawl? Walk crawl is also a word to describe something that's like disgusting, filthy.

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What does Allah say? For the shorter will be either been early, nothing left except a painful torment. Meaning if you're going to be that ignorant, disrespectful to Allah's message, there's nothing that Allah can do for you except prepare a painful punishment.

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One of the examples I put here, here's another way to look at this verse and then we move on, is that

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this verse could also be referenced to somebody who is constantly listening to hook bys and lectures and so on, they're constantly, you know, they might seem very practicing to your eyes and my eyes. But get that person upset and see how they behave.

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Just if their anger is tested, see how they react. You ever see how Muslim get out of parking lots?

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You ever see how Muslims line up for food?

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It's insane. So you they might look real devoted until some of these normal things, then you see how we as a culture, how we act, go to any Muslim country?

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Just see how it is. How is it to just drive?

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How is it to just get business done? You know, to get a loan, to pay off debt to do something that involves a lot of money. It's always there's corruption there facade upon facade, corruption upon corruption. I don't know why this happens. These are some of the reasons that Allah tells us why it happens. People who have become desensitized to good information, there's no hope

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in the Latina irmin Why mula Solly. had loaned Jenna to Noreen, okay. It's pretty depressing so far. So now Allah will highlight a few things for us to feel a sense of hope for every pain and struggle and disappointment. Allah always gives us hope in the Latina Ermanno as for those who have Amen, and they follow up that Eman with some righteous deeds, they will have gardens of constant blessings. Holly Dean if he weren't Allah you help her who are who NRZ soul Hakeem they will remain in it that is a promise of Allah he is the ultimate authority all wise, quick question students. Why eight and nine right now after we just talked about all the we talked about? Why does Allah just put these two

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as of Hope righteous deeds, Jenna reward?

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It almost seems like

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it doesn't really belong there. Considering the tone and the messages we've been getting so far. It was like the complete opposite. Why

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he's giving us hope in what sense?

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okay, good, good. In other words, this is what you're losing out on. So don't forget what you're losing out on as a result of all that. Here's another way to look at it.

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If you notice that a number six, seven was like it was awful in the sense that it really gives us a reality check of the things that distract us from a loss path. Then immediately, Allah did this talked about Amen, and righteous deeds.

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Meaning, one of the things that scholars advise, if you want to fix all that's happened in a, a six and seven, if you want to start to repair all of this spiritual damage,

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just get yourself just do do something good.

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Just get yourself up and go and do something good for someone for yourself. Anything do unrighteous act, and that's how things start to repair. Just go and do it. Don't just think it's always okay. I don't deserve no, no, just go and do it. So the fact that this a it just immediately comes up, it doesn't say thumb in the lesbian Ermanno. It doesn't say then after some time, you can start doing righteous, Allah gets right to the righteous deeds, because that's the attitude you should have. It also teaches you and I that no matter what level we may have fallen to

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you always have the opportunity to recover.

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Nobody can fall to a stage of disobedience that they cannot recover from. It doesn't exist. Every single human being

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can do the worst of the worst, and still recover and gain Allah's Jenner.

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Pretty much think of every companion that you know, that's how their stories began. All the Companions before Islam, what were they doing? They were bowing down, some of them were buying to bowing down to idols. Some of them never drank a cup of clean water. They lived off of alcohol, because it was the only pure clean drink you could find. There was no plumbing system, no filtration, none of that. That's how

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They lived.

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So they come out of that. And then the same, the same individuals that did all of that process that goes up to him and says, Oh, by the way, you're going to gender you're going to gender to, you're going to gender so amazing. As long as you are alive. The doors of Toba are always open for you.

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Then Allah continues Kali Dena fee How are the Allah He helped? You're going to be there forever.

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That is a promise from Allah. The ultimate authority they always Hello Cosima were to be highly honored in total. He created the skies without any pillars and he dropped on the earth, heavy mountains that may not move sway from their place. What keeps the earth together mountains and powerful autodial, Alessia and Tamika become guys, what is Allah doing here in this I

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talked about the sky,

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talked about. It's suspended up there and there's no pillars holding the sky up. Talked about mountains that are keeping the earth together. Well, that's Fe we're better fi having Coulee Dam.

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He distributed on these mountains, all kinds of creatures.

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All kinds of creatures. You know, I was just watching a documentary of

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animals that were thought to be extinct. And recently, they found researchers had found a leopard that was one of the rarest that they actually thought was extinct for more than 20 years.

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And they found this leopard walking around with its babies in the mountains of Pakistan.

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And it was the first time ever he was captured on video and it was like a miracle for them. Allah says I'll I put those animals there.

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So it's remark all these mountains have all kinds of creatures. And we sent water down from the sky. And we sprouted from it all kinds of noble and gracious plants. What is Allah doing in this area? Students?

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What's what's happening here? Lots of things are mentioned here. Why? What does Allah trying to tell us here?

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No, not necessarily.

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I mean, maybe some aspects of the idea and you could do that just as sort of a reflection. Like, you know, while we kind of reminds me or makes me think about a BNC but the A itself isn't necessarily trying to do that. What is the idea then doing for us, you know?

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Should you should you do good deeds.

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And he also ended it with you he is the ultimate authority. So then after that, he explained to you what he's already done for us. Like, his promise is true. For you know, for for a world in the year after, but then he immediately follows it up with explaining what he's already done. So this a are things that Allah has already done for us.

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You see what he's already done. How can you deny? Good? So that's definitely one way to look at this idea. To appreciate how Allah has been so kind to us and all the blessings and his authority. Look at what Allah already did for you and I, okay, I'm gonna be devil's advocate for a second here and say,

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okay, yeah, the sky.

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Cool. Allah created. Thanks.

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mountains that are all over the place. I don't know. I live in Toronto. I don't really see any mountains.

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There are animals living in the mountains. I hope I never meet one because they might be pretty dangerous.

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They might want to eat me. So I don't want to be around that. Well, Enza. Nemunas semma Yeah, I know rain comes from the sky and we need it but every time there was rain, I run for cover.

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Me this person right now. Didn't get the message. How can you use this? I have to get the message to me. No, I'm not. I'm not seeing what you're seeing. So help me see something special about this a? The answer to this now is not for me like Tafseer and scholars tell us what's happening in this area also, is Allah affirming signs of his existence?

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reason why all of this happen first number seven and eight

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they became arrogant they lost trust in Allah, everything reason why all this happened is because ultimately legal doula and sebelah they left off Allah's path. So this is kind of like an invite said, hey, look, look, wait a minute.

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My promise is always 100% I got Jenna already read ready for you and it's Holly, you're gonna go there you stay there forever.

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Oh, and also look at the sky.

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It might remind you of me

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look at these animals that people think are extinct or don't exist.

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Like animals in the ocean. Anybody know what percentage has been discovered of animals in the ocean?

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I watch a lot of documentary animal documentaries by just 33% of animals in the world's oceans have been discovered. That's just think about that. Out of the endless endless amount of creatures that you see and you hear about and you read about and so on. Not even 10 but not even 5% of it. Her so much still down there. No one knows. Unless there's all there there

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was a nun Muna semma Eema. In other words, you can't turn on the water in the sky. I have to do it for you.

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Thank you. So yeah, the provision is will comes out of all of see, you get my point, right. Allah is trying to remind you without lecturing you without talking to you about Arpita without talking to you about Islamic this and that. Look, before you go into a classroom, this whole world is a classroom. Just look around you. Has a whole Kula is one of the most powerful verses in the entire Portland don't forget the source for summary 11 of Surah Lookman has a whole pillar, a challenge to all of mankind. For our only Mother Hello Paula Xena in Dooney show me what other than Him can create that's speaks for itself. Look at everything that Allah designs and creates even what you see

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in the mirror. Look at that. And that's what Allah says look, this is what I do.

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Show me any other than Him that can create something similar Bettiol volume una feel Bala amo been wrongdoers are clearly lost in misguidance. Meaning people who actually think that they can do what Allah does there. There's just or they're in a different world. How does one develop an appreciation for Allah's creation?

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How do you do that?

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Tell me, how do you develop an appreciation for Allah's creation? Everything that we've seen here so far, how can you start to appreciate and be reminded every time you look at the sky, you're reminded of honey, you do that?

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So number one,

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reflect, take some time and just reflect on life.

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You know, one of the most effective ways for human beings to do that in this day and age is you reflect on the time that Allah gave him that he didn't give others

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oh, maybe some of you have people who are very close to you, that are not alive. They were praying beside you last year. They're not alive. Why Allah? Why did Allah keep you here? Why are you still here? Why am I still here? reflect and think about that.

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Also, you reflect on when you look around to Allah's creation, one way to appreciate is when you take the time to reflect it helps you to be to remove garbage and filth that is in the heart and in the minds of people. You know, the the music, the gossip, the lie, the wasteful talk, all that stuff that's packed in our brains. Reflection and deep thought helps to remove that stuff. You know, somebody asked me like

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that they they don't find anything meaningful when they listen

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Until talks and lectures like, they can't feel an experience what others are feeling and experiencing. So when others are saying that I was an amazing lecture, this person was like, I couldn't wait for him to finish. So they asked once every now and then I get that question like, how do I better myself? Starting point here is, man, there are a lot of distractions and spiritual filth around you, you got to get rid of that stuff. You got to start cleaning up your heart. You got to start cleaning up your mind the things that you're listening to the conversations, you're involved, you gotta, you gotta sift that stuff out as much of it as possible. Then you'll see how Allah

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introduces and guides you to his message. Okay, lots to talk about here but I hope you you get the gist of it. Okay.

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Are you guys ready for the advice of Look man, this is the introduction to his advice. So this is real. This is one of the heart of parenting. In the entire course. This is one of the places you want to go. You want to go to school at Youssef want to go to sort of look men want to go to several other other suitors as well. So to geodata and so on, when you want to talk about parenting in the Quran. So, well, that's a tiny local manual hikma. See the first clue?

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Make sure you you capture it. Right there.

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We have given Lokman wisdom.

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Business say Look man learnt it or got it by doing a b and c. We gave it to him.

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Case close. In certain Baccarat. Allah said, You tell hikma. Tamiya he gives wisdom to whomever he wants. When you tell hikma whoever he gives wisdom to * ot hiring cathedra we have given them something so grand. So plentiful. Man, you have a lot when you're wise. Okay. Look, man is that person. So, we all we all we all understand what wisdom is right? I think we've already gone through that when insalata nor

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will attain Lokman or hikma? Anichkov Lilla. Here's number two.

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The height the climax the peak of wisdom.

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Does anybody know what it is? What is it called? When you've reached the top of the mountain of wisdom?

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It's called gratitude.

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Gratitude is the peak of wisdom.

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Where do you get that from this I look what Allah said. I gave look man wisdom, then he orders so look, man. And Nish score. It's an order. It's a feral emulates a verb that's his commanding his commanding Look man, give thanks to me.

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When you are grateful and you show gratitude in life, this is a sign that you have wisdom. You're just grateful. Allah gives you more and more and more wisdom Okay? To be grateful to Allah. Well, may yes could fit in them is cool enough. See, oh, by the way, don't forget that when you are grateful I don't get anything out of the year. It's actually for your benefit. You can tell me thanks all day and night. It doesn't benefit me. So just in other words, Allah is saying you're not doing me a favor by thanking me. Because humans, that's how we benefit from one another by showing gratitude to each other. We appreciate that it benefits the relationship, but not with Allah Okay.

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Woman Yes, good friend of mine, your school LFC woman cafardo For Inola honey Yun Hamid and whoever is ungrateful even if it's just a little bit. The reason why I said this wire right this even just a little bit just once, because Allah has Kefar

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the bare minimum Kefar here does not mean disobedience like Cofer.

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Kaffir here means this gratitude. It's one of the meanings of Cofer in the Quran. So Cofer in the Quran has about five to seven different meanings is one of them.

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Cofer is also when you show this gratitude to Allah.

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So Allah says, Whoever is ungrateful to me, even if they've done that just once. So in other words, quick question to all of you. How are you ungrateful to Allah? How does somebody become ungrateful to Allah? How does that look?

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When somebody is dis is ungrateful to Allah, what is it about that person?

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From its from their own doing

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I have all this money because I work for it.

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Oh, I have good kids because I train them. I lecture that I teach them. That's why I have good kids.

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Everything is III, me, me, me, me, let's describe to that's the core for Allah is making reference to here.

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And this could potentially cause somebody to come out of the fold of Islam.

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If somebody truly truly believes that all that they've accomplished is from their own doing, they will have to take their shahada again, none of their Salawat nothing will be accepted. That's the kind of that's the level it could potentially reach out for that individual. So at the end of the day, end of the day, the only reason Tylenol worked for you is because Allah allowed it to work for you. And your reason why the prescription cured you, because Allah decided that the prescription would be means to cure you. And then some people, I don't know if you you guys like me know or meet people like this. Like they're completely immune to medicine, like you just don't take anything. And

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my Shala tomato cola. Like there's one chef, very famous reciter here in Toronto,

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an Egyptian reciter who was diagnosed with cancer, and he went to a hospital for treatment in Kuwait told a story before right. And as he's in there, his son is one of his doctors. And they're trying to, they're asking like, Okay, we want to start the chemo treatment and all of that stuff. He says, No,

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I don't want nothing. Just leave me on this bed here. And just give me my food and so on. Let me get some strength back. So his son is like fighting with his dad. You flew all the way here.

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Let us treat you. He's like, Allah is gonna treat me. He finished the entire poor and every three days on the bed, just reviewing it. Every three days just get finishing. cancer free.

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No cancer, they released him discharged from hospital came back to Toronto. I just saw him a few months ago. I visited him in his apartment

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is just It's remarkable. You and I can have that as well.

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Surah Lokman trains us to help us qualify to have those as well. You can just read on yourself and you're cured. You can have that. These are some of the training tools you have to go through. So wisdom and you've got to show gratitude. And remember that gratitude is for you not for Allah, you're the one that's benefiting and stay away from being ungrateful. Even though he had wisdom Allah attributes that to himself that it's granted by Allah. The command form of thanks is given us though urgently thanking Allah is the wisdom of the wisdom look man is being given. So this is another interpretation of why Allah ordered Look man, that after he gave him wisdom, show thanks to

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me is that this commend the urgency in it

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is the is the actual wisdom that look man achieved is that as soon as he's given this Wisdom, he responded by thanking Allah, that's that was it, he's done, he's got wisdom now. He will be able to understand and reflect on things in life because his immediate reaction was Alhamdulillah Thank you, Allah.

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I'll tell you something.

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There is one way that por and teaches us

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that if you go through anything difficult in your life, how you can

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how you can detect whether that thing is a punishment to you. Or Allah is blessing you with her.

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There's one way you can figure this out the Koran teaches us

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because you know how we say Oh, you got sick, maybe Allah is punishing you.

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Or you got sick, Allah's curing you of your sins, so it's good. How can you tell which one is which? Very simple. Koran has it all. All over every story of every prophet has this Incorporated. You know what it is?

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When you get bad news? Your reaction is Alhamdulillah

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that's how you know that Allah is blessing you with that hardship.

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If your reaction is Oh, my goodness.

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Company hedgeye went to an A still happened to me. Look how much Zamzam water I drank. Still got cancer.

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Look at all the prayer look at Oh my god.

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I've met Muslims and they have like,

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what in my eyes would be the perfect diet?

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like the perfect diet, no sweets, no nothing.

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Perfect exercise program living the perfect healthy lifestyle possible. diagnosed with cancer died from a disease something

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because you lost the main ingredient. Whenever you go through a difficulty if you react with Alhamdulillah Allah will bless you with it.

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Okay, you're going to see that in the Surah as well or pointed out to you when we get there. Okay.

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The Commando okay? Yeah, let's go. highest form of wisdom is being grateful to Allah.

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The height of wisdom is Alhamdulillah everything else is a byproduct of that wisdom. So this is what we just mentioned. hamdulillah is also part of you showing gratitude to Allah when you are grateful, you are humble. Why?

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This quick question or take a look, when you are grateful. You are humble, you have humility. How why?

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What are you doing? When you are grateful to Allah? What are you acknowledging about yourself

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that there is always one that is in charge of you, you're below. So there are people who will walk and act and live as though they are above everyone else.

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Right? There are administrators. There are managers their business view, for whatever reason, they have, you know, gotten to a point where they've convinced themselves, I'm above this group or others and so on and so forth.

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When you show gratitude to Allah, and it's a quality in your life, he there's no way you can still have pride, you will become a person of humility, you will be humble. Because you always know that there is one that controls you cannot be grateful and full of pride, at the same time be grateful to teachers, to parents to helpers. It's a byproduct byproduct of being grateful to Allah, all of these things we've discussed. Hamid, in Allaha nee Yoon Hamid, Allah says that he is honey. Where's it? Right there. See that word? A honey. That's what the word means.

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One of Allah's names is he is a honey. He's independent. Doesn't need nothing from anyone. Completely independent from anything anyway, that's Allah.

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Then Allah describes that he is also Hamid not Hamed or hamdulillah Hamid Hamid

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it's the final stage of Alhamdulillah.

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Hamid, Allah already is filled with praise. So no matter how many Alhamdulillah as you say,

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it doesn't benefit or raise Allah in any way shape or form. It's complete. That's called Hamid and Allah is on Hamid not dependent on anyone else's praise.

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Make sense?

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What's a cabinet?

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So muta, Kabira, from Kabir, is status an honor. It's like you you raised the honor and status of an individual and in this case, Allah is at the highest level, the highest status, the highest honor. And when he is there, what makes them a motor captor is that he is complete without Hamid.

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He's complete with praise. So he doesn't need anybody to give him something to keep him at motor capital.

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It's really like incredibly deep. It's incredibly.

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So Hamid, the main point here is, Allah doesn't need any hand. That's the main point behind it. We're going to look at the difference between hand

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which is praise, and then you have fena which is also praise. And then you have Shoko gratitude, and what's the relationship with all of these terms? We're going to see all of that in this sort of here.

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Okay, we'll take one more verse. Or yeah, one more verse. Okay.

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What is called a local man we live in here when look man said to his son, okay, lots to do here. Let's go. That word look the

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arrow is pointing to it really sia in the

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LF that that those two letters there

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it teaches us because Allah didn't say what color look man

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The difference is that is there meaning

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look man found the right time to have this conversation.

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So in our context, it wasn't like, Okay, after they went to school all day, for seven, eight hours then they came home. And before they took their shoes off coming, I want to talk to you.

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Don't take your shoes off, just sit down there and listen.

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Look, man had wisdom. So in here, the addition is that he waited. He thought he put together what it is he wanted to say he put thoughts together. And then he found the right time, and said, Okay, now is the right time to talk to you.

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Really beautiful. Do you see what Arabic does? You lose that benefit completely in the translation? So look, man early. So what is the first lesson here? In terms of this conversation? If you want to sit down and have a serious talk with your kids about anything you got to have is

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you've got to use if, because children are human beings, you know, they're not machines, like you could just turn on when you feel like, Okay, listen, they have a bad day, they have a bad day. Like my son today. He came home like a tornado

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just wasn't having this day at all. So I have a few tricks up my sleeve to kind of relax him.

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I'm not saying that Nintendo is one of them. But still, right. The point is, is that I have like a couple things that I can do and you can play with him. I can give him he relaxes, he's calm. And before I got to class to hear today, that's when he finally said what was happening in his day. He just you know, some friend didn't want to play with him and it just destroyed his entire day. Right? That was it. And he finally came out with it after he felt okay, now I'm calm I can tell daddy this is what happened. So amazing is so what is color look man Liberty. Here is number two. So now you know is here's number two.

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Look man called his son Eben

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what's another word for son?

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Bodie. What's another word for son?

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So you have three words there's more as well. 510 Fattah.

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So Eben Ibn is the most generic word. It's the most generic word to describe the sun.

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And Eben also encompasses that this is not only your son, but your friend

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is beautiful. So he's calling out to his son, who's also like his friend. So that because of the usage of the word Ibn, what it tells you an eye that look man waited at a point in his son's life where he was ready for this conversation.

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Because if he was too young, he couldn't be an Ibn to his father, you understand. He had to have reached a certain point where the son developed a friendship with dead and dad developed a friendship with his son. He can do that if it sounds like three years old, because he's still too young. He can't have these conversations with a son, because he's still too young. So what scholars say is that it seems as though the sun had reached somewhere around eight 910 1112 Somewhere in that period. The point is he reached the point where this conversation the son was ready for it. So for sure the son is older than five or six years old, but above that somewhere in that bracket. Okay.

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Well, who are you are evil now quick question. Should we be friends with our kids?

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parents, we should be friends with our children. Like you have you should have a friendship with them.

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material you're the parent having to be friends

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to have a lot of that

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okay, somebody had their hand up here.

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so we should be friends.

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with our kids.

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So there are like experts online. Dr. Phil is definitely one of them that are totally against this. Yeah, I subscribe to his website. Yeah, like caught him a lot right?

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That or have a different perspective on that whole idea of friendship with your kids.

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You got to make a choice. This is what him and some others thinkers really, you know, help us to reflect on. It's not a formula, this was what works and everything else doesn't know. It's just something that kind of keep in the back of your mind. Sometimes, most of the times you have to be apparent. Friends are always the ones that are convenient. And basically never rub you the wrong way. Like you almost never have followed with friends. And if you do, you resolve them quickly and you laugh it off and continue with the life. Now with parents, though. Parents, your job as a parent is also to be stern to set rules to put boundaries. And to say no. Despite that their friends say

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yes, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. You're saying no. So what Dr. Phil and other experts teach us is that parenting not necessary. Being a friend to your children is not necessarily a requirement to being a good parent. It's not a necessary tool to be a good parent. But if you are congratulations, it's a good thing to have but it's not necessary.

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This A is hinting to both that on the one hand, there's this kind of casual relaxed relationship between look man and his son. But on the other hand, watch what happens next. Well who are your ears? Oh, this word?

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Yeah, Jarrell the who?

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He is giving him counsel.

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He is the who is Melilla.

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Now we're in LA. Now if you were with me in SUTA to Nora

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we did mount river.

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You know that Allah says woman were able to little motel teen

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malware, Eva, and vicar. What's the cure? Is a vicar of Allah. What do you say?

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What is that? The remembrance of Allah? mela Eva?

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Uriah the whole Jarocho is also remembrance of Allah. What's the difference?

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My Sunita, Nora students let them know penetrate your heart. Yeah.

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That's Mount Rita. Hmm.

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Let the the newer shine upon your memory. And you will remember that memory the

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vicar is a reminder, no more info is a reminder that goes

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it really hits home. It just penetrates your heart. You know, when? If I say to you,

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you you shouldn't lie. It's not good. Okay? Don't lie. You might be like, Okay, I'll start thanks. Or remember that? What if your mom tells you, a you?

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Don't you dare lie. It's like the Day of Judgment.

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When your parents say the same sentence that you heard, the speaker said, to different people, it's the exact same thing. But it came off completely two different ways. That's memory loss. So you got a vikita from the teacher, but you got a memory love from your parents.

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And all of us are like that, like with our parents. If your parents are here, or you know they have passed away. The point is, you will have those memories of when your dad your mom would say to you simple basic things, but you never forgot it for the rest of your life. You never forgot it. And they told you just basic things they told you. Oh, be honest. Don't lie. Do the right thing. Isn't that what every lecture and every etiquette reflects in this day and age. But when your mom and dad said it to you, it really really stuck with you.

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It had grieved itself permanently. So

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the these advice that you're going to see is not just a random conversation between a father and his friend.

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This is the kind of advice that look man thought about.

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He thought about this

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and he waited for the right time to have this conversation. That's your ELO. And how what's another proof that he really put his mind to

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together for this, he said yeah booni

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This word

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Yeah booni What does blaming guys

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oh my dear beloved son. Do any one of us call of our sons that come here my dear beloved Son, take out the garbage

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Yeah, you garbage What's wrong with you? Right?

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You know? Yeah. Boonie

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I think you know, I'm

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our version of Boonie in this day and age, is when you have like, like, nice nicknames for your children like sugar baby. Booboo, son.

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Like, yeah, sonny, like, you just have these nicknames with it comes with like, a lot of love. Like it's only for your child.

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When you have those kinds of names for them, and obviously they got to be like, you know, with good meaning. You can't just call them like, oh, you can dog.

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I love dogs. That's why I called you I know you can't do that. Like they have nice names to nice meanings. But the point is when you have that intimate connection

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on is what I think reflects our version of Boonie because nobody really at least in our culture, nobody really goes to their son. Oh my beloved son it's time for dinner. No, we don't do that right. Okay, last thing and then we're done.

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led to Shrek Billa here's Advice number one students right here.

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Advice number one lead to Shrek below. He says don't do shark with Allah

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Who talks like that? A son. Come here. Have a seat

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don't commit share with Allah I'll go do your homework. Who talks like that?

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So what is looking at and really saying here

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that's what we're going to do on uncover inshallah next week. You see

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the all the advice you will never appreciate it just by the translation you will never capture how delicious each advices how sweet the messages you have to think deeper the wisdom behind that message. So we're going to do next week and shall it what was the wisdom behind led to should it be because nobody really talks like that to their children. Don't do that son. Okay, now you can go play basketball. Like you don't so what does he really want to teach and tell his son at this moment here? That's where we're going to uncover inshallah Okay, so we'll pause there inshallah Allah Subhana Allah humo Byham dica shadow Allah, Allah Allah and I still Furukawa Toby Lake wa Salam

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Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

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