Bulugh Al Maram – Book of Etiquette & Manners #11 – Hadith No. 1240
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smilla rahmanir rahim hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa sallahu wa salam ala nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi coron wonderful Rahim Allah, wa and even Yamato the Allahu taala on Hama call Allah Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, la Yaki la Yukimura Raja Raja min Li Toma, usually Sufi. What I can tell fossa whatever sir Mata Hakuna la narrated even Omar of the Allahu taala and Houma Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, A man must not make another get up from his place and then occupied himself, but you should spread out and make room agreed upon.
comes after several ahaadeeth talking about the etiquettes of gathering.
So we talked about giving Suriname then we talked about that being smiley and to be nice, have a good manner, a general then we went to a little bit specific talking about technology that you don't two people don't speak and leave someone out
the third person out without being involved in the conversation or taking a permission from them.
Or it is an obvious that you're not supposed to be part of the conversation.
You remember last week, we talked about that research, sometimes it's obvious you're not supposed to depart the conversation. So for example, if I am
with my wife,
go to buy something. And the salesperson, it's obviously you're not supposed to listen, when I'm talking to my wife. He cannot say Oh, like,
I need to know what you guys talking about. It's obvious, you know,
for instance, I go to
his house, and he's talking to his son, I'm not supposed to, hey, you have to tell me what you guys think. Telling your son. It's obviously telling his son something in relation to that.
Anyway, now the Hadith is third Hadith. The next headed Elohim is very interesting as a lot of rules related to it are potent nebby, Salah Sundaram law you team of module modular Min mejlis, e. la de Sufi, Suma, who made this up what are several whatever so, that you're not supposed to
ask another man or another person to get up from his place in order to take his seat. Okay, but you should make room for each other and spread out
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and there is a rewire tirmidhi not mistaken
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not why you came lay up men in noon how the newly Tokyo yeah and it's a great emphasis on the importance of not to do such thing.
So it's a very individual Salah making very assuring us and telling us and he's very confirming it by saying Do not ever ask someone to move from his place you can sit that person's place or someone else move someone from his place for someone to come to set.
So I come and move you out because you know what? The boss is here. You know or the chef is here or the rich person here. And so our he asked people to do it in his behalf. And then Buhari now has a new karma module we met
with Buhari he forbade that the person will be removed from his spot.
So you remove him or someone else in your behalf, remove you.
And one of the beautiful aha the white card now up meant that I had to come. Aha.
Can anybody tell me what's the beauty about this narration he said
ask your brother to move from an spot in order for you to sit in his place.
Every other duration a person a man, but this one said your brother
what's the beauty of
why this narration is a special
Or what what will allow you to
remind you that we are all brothers.
You don't treat me like a stranger. You know who cares? Just move him from here. You know, I'm your brother, you should not treat me that way. You should not ask me to be to be moved. Just because you want space. Okay, so here
the brother just to make it look so wrong for you to do this to a person that person is your brother, because he had to be hand fitted. It makes it so wrong for you to do that because you're doing it to your own brother.
fury wire in one of the ration cards right?
Yes, another one of the narrator of the Heidi asked naffaa
he said now very important. This will be Rama Caulfield will Juma is this hadith related to the Friday prayer? You don't remove someone from his spot to sit in his place. Is this strip strictly or related only to Friday? Because you know the Friday the people want to be near the process. So is that like only on Friday or in any in any gathering in any city and mastered outside the mustard then called naffaa Phil dumo attiva Duma and any other day
why he said this because there is another generation now yo
yo ma Juma? tomoloo hard if either MCI de fer fi Do not ask your brother to move from a spot on Friday in order for you to sit in his place.
But here the mentioning of Friday is not to restrict the head is only to Friday because it's a common thing that people in the old days you know want to come late. But when they come late, they will remove or ask the people who came early to move from the spot in order for them because they feel themselves from better tribe rich you know leaders whatever whatever the case
or the field but they deserve the spot now the dog whoever came first he deserved that place when the Hari Rama and then the BIA Salah Barcelona new karma module the Medici wage the Sufi
if you rewire the Sufi
rewire one of the way that rewind and mojari was mentioned and you ask someone else to sit in it
you say hey please can you go back there there's so and so coming
you know out of honoring for that person so he can be set so he can sit in your place
Condon w somewhere that can
make a space program
At the first who are up
alpha d alpha, beta and alpha If so, if so, and you make a space deficit whatever so
so Anto says the same thing so we'll call this
out full ban Jani. What's after the wild is same as what before it? Just another way of saying it Okay. Why in the business solicited twice the same meaning make a space spread out is to tell you that you always can accommodate people you need to remove people from their spot like
and there is a those who cares a lot for the Arabic language, he said FSL
This is different than if so, if so, makerspace tefa So, can anybody tell me what it Tap when it comes to the verb what it means in any in any, any idea any Hadith, any poetry, any statement to read
Whenever you see this tab, tab, or Yeah, added to the verb gives you an extra meaning anybody can tell me what it is.
it tells me that
it means you double your effort. Yeah. And he try hard to make a space. Try hard. It's like, you know, how we come sometimes you come and there is a space. He said, Excuse me. And he's like,
that's the only thing and
you know, some people like yeah, barely him. You know, as I hope Yeah, and I'm not bothering you. No, no, no.
No, what do you need to do in the report deficit? Oh, we have not begun MOBA. Any Mr. Masako and one of my favorite verses a whiteboard resource.
That Jeff julu boohooman najbolji
Miss Jaffa, Mr. Jaffa, Tata Jeff.
double the effort
and what and staying away from sleeping in the night.
Because it's such a hard thing. Not to sleep the whole night.
Not to sleep and to miss pm at night. It's such a hard thing. It required what a lot of struggle, a lot of work. That's why these two tack games which you chose is not an easy task to macdiarmid day.
That blue man in Melbourne
and the Asana, the vs. And jefa which means you leave something and you have no interest in it. That's a Jaffa there is Jaffa BTOB Nick, that is Jeff Jeff federa it means there is no space between us and the relationship is not very good. In a kind of, we don't care for each other.
That's jefa for you to reach to the level that you hate sleeping that's required a lot of work
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are rather what is a bond but not a bed or a pillow.
It's basically the just don't like the the did not like the sleep because it Take them away from the piano.
Anyway, so the top half a cell tower. So it means you put an effort really to make a space to accommodate your brothers and sisters.
What we learned from this heading number one, this has been like the previous ones talk about some of the etiquettes of gathering. So when you come to people, you don't move them from their place. And you should not never call where you came. You move someone from his place. And I noticed that happen a lot. Sometimes you go to a place. And you know what? You want to leave your own space voluntarily for someone fine. But sometimes they go for example to a gathering as our for our house. Yeah. And whatever it is. And the host of the house, he goes to one of the guests please move move move from here. Anything the guy out from the chair because you want to put the ship and metal
gather does not right.
In the base of some said don't do that. Unless the person himself voluntarily accept that.
But you can't. That shows you that you should care for people's feeling. Yes, inasmuch
as people have different levels. Scullers leaders, you know, Yes, I understand that. But also everybody has dignity. Everybody should be respected. Everybody should be cared for.
And it's not right for us just to uni. Remember what in the visa Salaam did we live in a bus? When he drank the milk? And he looked at the right hand side. He said if my boss was 10 years old boy, he looked at his left hand side say you polish the master of the Sahaba. They say Abubakar
but the son the right
course of action is to give
The milk to the
to the right side to whoever on the right side. But the culture
the etiquettes the proper manners in that culture is to start with the older not the kid.
But in Ibiza, salaam didn't do that. And he tried to accommodate both and that's beautiful. Because sometimes people think that everything in the culture is doomed and bad enough to be canceled. That's not true. But a hurricane was shot. The Sheree is the one above so he looked at numbers and he said would you give me the permission to give your uncle to give a worker first?
They've been a bastard no it's simple as that. He said no. If it wasn't you you're also not drinking after you and you know you just touch the milk and your saliva there and your lips that cup. No or the no ball.
This is something I can't give it to anyone else. I will take my turn. I'm not gonna take
and never give it to him.
So this is something we should care for this one of the etiquette of gathering.
By the way, in Ibiza, Salim said that one move the man from his spot
has a headache the aroma applied to men and woman no difference. So Felicia Moran to Pema
she's not allowed to move her sister from her spot in order for her to sit or someone else to sit by why the porcelain said men because that's how the Arabic language we say men and women both gender the default rules both go to both gender and inhibitions and most of his interactions and most of the gathering that he saw a sudden was the people who was speaking to men so that's why I give the example of what's commonly
happened in his time somebody It was
like he then Argentina lamba fiumara type question
Can a man move a woman from her spot?
Or a woman move a man from one spot to set
Should I give him
no even it doesn't matter man woman the point the point is a person
Okay, so no person should move someone else from his or her spot. Like I even had an Hadeeth issue man in Libya can
Uh huh. His brother
had a file cabinet was solid this apply to old and young
famous and a lame person
are you unless it is your spot.
Can anybody tell me Give me example of you know what this is a designated spot for that person.
Give me example.
Teacher For example, this is that chair for the teacher. Have the students come and sit on the teachers chair
and if I come now and I found
a bullied sitting on my chair here, I said as I come up here
you know Southern your place. And this place that's my my spot is designated for the teacher. Also, in Ibiza Southern part and Asahi bait level, Roxanne vangelis
and Nevis are sometimes said that the honor the host or the owner of the house or the
the head of the house
and basically he deserve or he should remember that the head of the setting reserved for him. And he let's say they have a table, the head of that table and center that's his spot. Nobody should sit there without his permission. He can sit there and he can sit someone there it's
so he can move the person from there. But
sometimes other Hadith, Allah share our initial bereavement.
Similar to it. It's not that you move him from his spot and he asked him to move
verbally but sometimes people technically the move from your spot.
Yeah, and there is a very tiny space between you and the one next to you and Masha Allah when it comes with us. You know
and I come and sit in between you
So when you find yourself like this you know when your legs is up because had any camera shots he Adolphe Musa hammer two shots when you make things very hard for him as well very inconvenient for
you that's why sometimes any when I even in Salah some people tried to come in between the two or was standing up there is no space really
and hamdulillah and the line is big there is no space for you to come in between me and the person is like we're really like no yes we're not like tight but there is no space for someone like me because if you stand up and between us we're gonna do the whole fall like this you know or like this that's not correct and you shouldn't do it
fill the gap not the gap between my life but the gap between you know, between me and the person next to me it's not like I pray like this that's not but this how do you mean so here this heading also we can learn from it is don't set like Mashallah a loveseat
there is already three people there, Carlos. Yeah, happy we cannot have four people.
Okay, so you can understand from the head. It's a very beautiful etiquette. It's to be what considerate
of people feeling.
at the festival Medallia's is one of the etiquette that we learn from this hobby, which is it is a good manner to make space for people
to make space it's a good manner that we come closer to one another so I can accommodate you. It's means something. It's a very beautiful etiquette. I don't know if you guys travel as much as I do. I travel a lot. Some airports like for example if you travel Terminal B in Houston for my edge
that's tiny area especially the old area is not renovated yet. There is no much chair and Mashallah, everybody said it or you got some lounges. Okay, he said, has
caught on verschuren chair next to him and his bag and you know, laptop bag and the chair next. And you look for a place to sit. And he's like stretching himself over and you have icontact ally and he doesn't even care
or she doesn't even care.
Murphy edit at the window was Pamela edible Islam teach us that when we see someone looking for a spot we make a spot for him.
in the bus.
And you see someone like you no need for a place to sit you make a space for the person.
And of course and speaks about this concept not only in the cinema Yeah. And it goes alongside with what's in the Koran. Yeah, Latina man ooida t Nana Khun tapas
Allah subhanaw taala said Oh, who you believe if you've been asked to make a space
Allah Subhana Allah will make a space for you. Whether it means if surrender will occur, what space that alone will make for us
Gabriela in the in the grade. Also space in this dunya so you live relaxing space in your house, you have a spacious house, you have a space, you know things have not tight on you in your life, then does that mean didn't cinammon see something simple like this? And the last one that I give you a great amount of free work.
one of the things that
it's not something you should look for. It's not something you should be proud of. that people will be removed from their spots for you.
at some times you go the gathering, Anna Matera, Masha, Masha, Walid blah, blah, blah. And I go and nobody moved from a spot.
And they did not let me settle. And they're basically in the most important position in the gallery. I feel bad. Why did they do that? I wish that they do that for me. That's how long pile individuals have them.
And yet the method Idaho national pm
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those who are so happy when people stand up for them, when people like leave their spots for them, if this is how you feel,
and you feel so happy for that, you should expect no place the Day of Judgment except a space and hellfire.
Don't be happy for that don't look for what happened.
Don't feel bad that you are on the line.
Because also it's not it's not sitting
any this little apply to life. Some people do when they don't they feel insulted to be in that we're standing up in the line
and a chef and stand up.
I should, you know, cross all the line go to the top.
On a rich person. I'm a big donor, I'm this I'm the boss. Why would it be impolite?
This arrogance is not correct.
And Islam teach us not to be arrogant to be down to earth.
I was looking into
you know, a host of
guests. It's a it's a comedy circus cast the kind of political sarcasm show
showing two pictures. Okay, have two leaders
and two media.
The first media outlet the Middle East, one of the country's leader of that Middle Eastern country, was in Russia.
And the whole entire media for a whole day focusing on one thing, which is how to turn the president of the one of the biggest country in the world, open the car door for the president of that country. Oh my god, he opened the door for him. He opened the car door for him. He was showing him behind. It shows that our man is so important and the most important person in the world. Because who did this to?
The other image
of the media that focused on the Prime Minister.
I'm not sure if it's Denmark, or Holland.
Holland. Yeah, was walking.
And he dropped the coffee.
And the bill the building, he drove his car. So he didn't just let it go. It's accident. He dropped the car, like stole his car. So he went and they said, Okay, we'll take care of it. No, I dropped the coffee, I can
say when they took them up, and he cleaned up the car.
Okay, so he clean the car. And the media show how the genders was so happy like he worked with them. To see the to picture that's so arrogant.
It's all about showing off. It's all about showing powers of arrogance. While it's powerful when you are down to earth, when you just act normal. Actually, you became loved by people or respected by people.
This study also shows a very important principle in life, which is
awesome sort of time. And that's one of the most fundamental principle that govern relationships.
And I'm not exaggerating by this introduction, which is
every one of us
has a responsibility to fulfill.
You do your job, and I do my job.
The problem happened when I only focus on you to do your job and I'm not doing my job.
The problem is when I don't do my job because you're not doing your job.
So we both do two wrongs.
Everybody should fulfill his responsibility. So
your responsibility in Islam told you you're not allowed to move someone from his space.
But in the same time in Islam, togo sort of setting to make a space for the person of standing.
So he didn't leave it like that, okay, you cannot move someone from his spot and period now, there is a responsibility on the people who setting when they see the
Rather standing his sister to make a space for him
palace see how the balance is shediac always like that. There is a great scholar in Islam from Syria his name shall Albania Rahim Allah
visited us at that time in Saudi Arabia. So when I, in one of the setting, I came to kiss his hand
and is not in our culture to kiss anybody's hand. And even with my culture, we don't kiss even our dads. And it's not part of the culture that I was raised. Our scholars, we don't kiss their hand, because the red father in his head, but not
anyway. But the chef, the Syrian people very famous to do that. In he wrote a read
a paper that you wrote about this concept kissing the hand and what is allowed, and some deviation from the setup. And I would like, I want to show off a little bit in front of him and tell him that I read all your, your research about it. So I came to the ship.
And he grabbed his hand to kiss it. Because the chef's had one of the condition because somebody said, You're not allowed to make record. You take the hand and you raise it and you kiss their butt. You don't like to like this. Okay. So I did that. And all of a sudden, he's a big man, my sharp I don't have you ever seen. He pulled his hair from?
He's a big man. And he's way bigger than me is at least six. At least 6463 at least. Okay.
blue eyes kind of color. reddish,
European from Easter.
when he pulled his hand,
I got kicked
the college students I said to the shift.
I'm sorry, did they do anything wrong?
I read what you wrote and start throwing it in and this whole thing that he wrote about, then he taught me a great lesson.
Yeah, it'd be in town, but diverge, Burke,
my son, you are doing what you're supposed to be doing. And I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing.
Your responsibility is to honor the scholar and to respect and to show the respect.
My responsibility is to be humble, is to be down to her not to give you my hand.
Everybody has role. Everybody has responsibility. And somehow this is how Islam balance thing. The more Islam give you rights put responsibility. In Islam, we don't have only, you know, the leaders and the President and the governors and the you know, the leader of the country, martial law, all these rights, no, they have responsibility. The citizen, we don't only have rights, we also have responsibilities.
Okay? parents, they don't only have rights, they also have responsibilities. Children, they don't only have responsibilities, they also have rights. Husband, he's not only have rights, also has responsibilities. Woman, why they don't only have rights, they also have responsibilities.
So it's very interesting, how sales persons and bad one wish to be the one who buy the one who sell Islam built a balance like this in every aspect of life. And this concept today, how that means then this balance is not
unfortunately. And if you think of it this way, what Allah Allah wants from me, and that's what I should be fulfilling.
And you think what I want from you, and so
and Islam in this study, show you that you're not allowed to move someone from his spot, in a public place.
In the masjid,
and public place. You're not allowed to move someone from his spot.
Sit in it. Why? Out of respect for that person's space, out of respect for their feeling? Okay. And so he will feel but welcome. He feel but his possession because he possessed the spot, his possession is respected and honored. This is in public space. What do you think Islam will say about respecting your private space?
About your private possessions?
Definitely, it's more protected, more respected. You can just go and move people from their homes by force. Like when seen some countries where people will be removed completely from their homes from their areas. And you know, regardless they don't care
in one of the countries
I saw something very strange.
I saw a wall
run through in that quarter of a house and it's I've never seen anything like it made that I saw let's say this the house
there is a wall run here.
Literally break that.
Any the living room?
I asked you.
Like, how's your neighbor expanded this way? I know it's hot in this country. But Danny, and I never heard that. The heat made asphalt
but not a wall to move. And I met the Hara. Anyway, he said, Well, I came in the morning. And they found that this way.
Why his neighbor, I don't know that is something in the line he wants and he decided to go. He said, Go do whatever. He's a very powerful person, like a prince, whatever it does, you know, nobody can touch I'm untouchable.
This is not to move me from my spot that me from my house.
It's like when you go and you put a fence around somebody's property. And he says that's my proper
Yeah, you have nothing here.
keep finding out
what those people expect in the in the Day of Judgment.
this handy because it'd be a tougher sell. Make a space. It shows you that you're not supposed to take more than your space when you say especially if it's a crowded area.
And if it's a crowded area, you didn't put your bag here I'm back here and you're like Dude, like this just to make sure you know what nobody bothered me and masala. Well, I see people a lot sometimes. He'd like
to open his legs like this and like a lot wine.
So he doesn't want anybody to even think about it.
That's not a proper etiquette. Okay, and also some people stretch their legs. Yeah. Now and
and sometimes it gets a trouble I see all this funny thing. You know, you pass by someone. He's taking two spots, like in the two seats. And when he sees coming, he act like sleeping.
So you don't wake him up? You
you we should care for other people to accommodate them and not to let them suffer.
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Manor, this is a public place master class. Okay.
Gathering which is open for the public park, okay. But a private setting. No.
This doesn't apply to a private setting and you go to private city, you find your name tag on a
on a chair or it says these chairs are reserved
okay. And this is
correct, this is allowed, this is permissible
By the way, one of the I just want you to apply this to as general as you want as you can think
Sometimes people move people from the front to the back, not because of the size or anything, no, because this is honor person's, you can do that without a permission from the person.
And by the way, that permission also sometimes is embarrassing.
And he's not going to say no, but inside his heart, he really doesn't want to know.
So make sure that you take that in consideration, then be safe and hire
anything that you take it, because you embarrass someone, that's not a true permission.
You just embarrassed me.
You know, you come and You embarrassed me to do something for you. That's not permission. That's not I did it willingly. You just embarrassed.
It's like when mother, for example, threaten you, if you don't do that, I'll be angry at you for the rest of my life. That's not like I'm doing it? Well, I'm gonna do because I'm been forced to do it.
as we said, any place that it is private setting, you're not allowed to claim it. Let's say you go to a theater number, okay, or you go to
a show which has seating numbers or seating tickets or something like that is based on what been designated.
reserved parking, very good, reserved parking as well. Like anybody Park parking my spot, I came home emergency, I make him get up from his spot to respect that rule. Very good point.
Also, this heading shows that you're not supposed to also to
as to take more space than your your personal. And also, no matter who molested this head, it also gives you the indication that you're not allowed to reserve spots, that you're not supposed to be reserved.
Any, for instance, I don't know if you guys know that or not in Mecca.
And Mecca, because of the crowd, what people do, they asked someone to put a spot to spot your spot here. Why? Because I want to stay one and a half hours back and the hotel, then he comes five minutes before they akarma. And this spot was reserved for him. And they pay 50 rounds for the night.
And you know how this the reserve of the people actually in last 10 days, it can go to 500 rails a night?
And what do you do? A guy will sit in his place because people will not wait. He said, and he paid 500 when he comes this guy stand up and leave and this person sits in his spot.
I mean, it's not Haram. But as as long as he can to leave, that's fine for me, I don't care. But what I don't think it's correct is to make reservations.
You know, you come here because that one of the best place for Joomla is to be near the Imam. So you come and you reserve this on the syllabus or the prime location. And I know Mohammed site comes late to Juma so I'm going to reserve that
wall for him this prime location because he said that you put your back against it, you know, to relax, ally, I give you the prime locations muster or do you know what and Ramadan? Please, when you go on Amazon, make sure you reserve the spot in front of the fan because it's all you know.
You're not you want that spot come early, but don't prevent someone who came early from it. Because you just want to come late. That's not correct. So
that's not right. It's not right also is to
take the right of people and to not respect people. One of the things that I will never forget since we mentioned some of my teachers. There is another teacher of mine his name, Shahab derangement Abdullah bin basil him about the grammar of this Arabian shaman bas Rahim Allah. I remember the first time I ever met him wasn't dinner.
And we had dinner together. Then after that, we had lunch. And one thing I still remember about the lunch that in the in the gathering, we have a big, you know?
Yeah, big circle around a big serving.
Play like huge one.
About 1013 people around it.
I still remember I was
Maybe High School at that time. Okay, so just a kid in high school.
And another person with me, then, with us was a couple of people from the royal family of Saudi Arabia
with us, a minister from some foreign country, African country, with us. Very high rank in the military. Women remember no at that time, what can be very, very well respected by the people military with him, you know, and I would never forget that the brother next to me was someone from the subcontinent area.
And he was just a simple worker in the street.
You can tell from the dress, the way he dressed, the way he healed, and we all putting our hands eating together from the same place
that Sham bands gather.
You will never nobody moves someone, hey, this is Rich. This is this this that? No.
And once the came to the shambles, the senior chef, you look to all those people, workers and janitors and people in the street, eat with the people here. And you have a lot of digging, digging a hurry, people come.
The chef, every single lunch is Republic. He never had lunch by himself or with his family for at least 3040 years. Never in his life, by MOBA, even when he travels, he opened the door for people to join him for lunch. He never had lunch by himself with his family.
alone. He's always with the people dinner he spent certain details with famous anyway. So they told him sharing and if you asked, If you let the workers and those like the work in Saudi Arabia is very hot, and people sweat the stuff if you can let them eat in the other room.
I'll never forget what he said. He said, If you don't like it, you can come for dinner lunches for everybody. You can have a private dinner with me. You can ask me you can. But this is for Paul. I don't I don't tell people you go there you go. Whoever comes first.
As in the basis of this.
As I said it, no matter how much I use this hadith to talk about the ruling of the head to our
Adelgid, which it means a dead dude means is to reserve a spot for someone in the masjid or a public place.
Let's say you put a
like cane in the old days, you put a carpet like Jennifer salon, you know, whatever, you know, you put anything that this is, you know, my spot. Don't sit here. Okay. Let's say Thursday night after the pressure you come and you put here something this is my spot. *. Don't Don't come here.
Is that allowed or not allowed? And hubiera. They said it's allowed. There's no really proof to sit it's not allowed. It's allowed to reserve a spot for yourself in public place.
Because the place is big. There's other spots people can take.
And if you reserve a spot you have right over the spot.
The second opinion and this is majority of the Haha, sir, it's not
a matter of fact, Chevron a chevron, I think that'll hit malasadas hat on
is not allowed. It's forbidden. And as well as shell said, you know,
and they said
it's not allowed.
And I do believe that there is
a middle path into this.
Which is number one, ever there is a plenty of space and you reserve a spot for you. Okay, and hamdulillah this is not going to harm anyone else. It is okay.
But if it's going to cause inconvenience, or there is no spot space, like Mecca, Medina, you know, order romand you know, it's completely full, there's no space,
you know, you know, sometimes we line up in the harem, and that spot is empty. Why? Because there's something basically left to their schema or or, you know, a hat or something. So nobody touched it. Nobody allowed to come.
We say there is a plenty of space, it's not going to cause any disturbance or harm. Yes. But if it does, no. Number two, we say if you are in the midst, but you left
To get something from the car or you left them equal and coming back, you're allowed to leave something in the spot. So you know what I'm just coming back you know, I came early into fundraising and this is my seat and I'm sitting next to the speaker but you know what I want to go to the bathroom what I'm gonna hold it the whole dinner fundraising dinner I'm gonna
I'm gonna put out something here to basically reserve this spot for myself and I will come back that's fine
but to be staying at home and you just come to the last minute and you know there is a spot reserved reserve a spot for you from yesterday no that's not
and i think that's that's a fair
middle any position in the middle on between the two
also this head either Mr. Mr. law said do not apply to people who are
insane who are insane and if somebody will like a kid who will be sitting in a place and he will make a disturbing
to the class
Okay, you can remove them or somebody's image noon insane. Sophie, he can be removed somebody start shouting and making noise and making like he can be removed from the gathering and you said he need to move from the spot
and Rama Rama said one of the reason why in Islam so slowly because an Islam doesn't want anything that can cause hardship between people
and negativity negative feelings that's why we don't talk in private too and live the third so the third will not think all the talking about me the backbite me the block against me they make fun of me know even if we don't we close the door for the shipper also we need a move move from here or you say hey move let me sit this person how that will feel make you feel like I'm not worth anything.
Where's my kurama What is my dignity where's my respect?
So Islam doesn't want this kind of negative feeling to be exists in the heart of the first
hour we'll never forget a story a brother told me in Medina Are
you guys familiar with Rosa That's right. Which is in Abuja Salaam said Nabina minbari Beatty Rolo Murray Hello Jen what's between my house and the member
and by the way there is nothing in the cinema says have suggested that we pray there
are record on there or make there are there I don't know any difference between making Salah in that spot or any other spot and the hammer. I don't know any proof to make that spot a salon. Or This place isn't any different than any other place. I don't know why people fight so much over
reality Jenna Allah, I can tell you a lot of the other gentlemen this is one of the album Gen. Con either motto to be metallicity for teravainen Maria vagenda
the point was the problem said from my house to my member or the material agenda, because at that time in Ibiza Salam that's basically was almost the biggest bulk of the master.
Yeah, and those who come early to the master, they will be rather Morello than the doing character.
But we never heard that the Sahaba they're like I don't care to pray in that specific spot or made any special special treatment to the spot. In any case, my friend waiting in line for 3040 minutes until he got his turn to pray there.
It was completely full
and he's sitting and waiting for someone and this brother is standing
in I have no spot to sell. He's like keeps telling him Please, please
so he said I felt bad for him. So what I did I'm you know the line is like that said so I move to the to the rights outside my life to give him my spot so he can pray to rock and leave. He just keeps telling me
so I moved
to LA temporary above
the longest Salah ever you can think of
as if he knows the karma in like 10 minutes.
And guess what? he purposely did not finish until the karma or
was made, and my friend was kicked out. And he has to go all the way out.
And actually, he sits and I won't even solve that problem. And then he said, I looked at him. And he This is my spot. Let me go back to it. He's like, he looked at the other direction.
He said, Well, my Sorry, I didn't know and my selection and make sure I get a stamp. How allow accepting any this kind of action, and misdemeanor into some naked mean, they live in double standard double life.
He thinks he's doing good by doing that. While he was just made something so evil, hurt someone, then double standard. We think that our relationship with a lot is the only thing we care about, but you who cares about
and I can tell you if you don't care about loss creation, you don't care about Allah as well. If you don't treat the servants of Allah, well, you're not treating alone. Because this is our sister.
It's like when he learned Madonna was the best example. You treat my son My wife bad and he treat me good.
He treat my family bad and you think if you can do them, you don't treat a lot metallic creation and servants and, and righteous people bad and you think you do a lot in a good manner. No, doesn't work this way.
This had he also one of the wisdom of this heading, that you don't move someone from splice is to make people humble and down to earth.
And that make people love one another when you're when you are down to earth people love you.
One of the things about this one before either headed that people are equal. When it comes to the permissible things whoever got there first deserve
any nothing make you nothing in society should make you advance over me
in things which is public prefer all public. You know what this water for everybody who said that you go there and you reserve this and I can't you know
and you have this right? And you can go back to this. If it's a public open area, it's open for everybody.
And if I come here first that became my space. If I go to the park and he said on this table, you can remove me from my space.
And if you take it away from me, that's lost. That's haram that's not allowed.
And now your Rahim Allah, Allah said this hadith shows you it is forbidden heroin
is to move someone from his spots after he or she sat on it.
a shafia our scholars because it no is Shafi said made that exception if it is
a place known culturally that this is your spot.
No he said like say an old man. He always comes and sit over there and read code on the spot. Everybody knows that as my spot.
He said somebody like that. He has more right over that space. Is it some of our shepherds gossip?
But he mentioned something very interesting. Got it. No, you don't have a lot. We're FEMA Anna. Mensa baka enamelware him in a shower in a omaka a schwa
Nirmala said this heading also apply to the people who sell in the streets.
It's a public place. It's not something organized not like this is a private area I come and tell you use it to use if
you're a vendor go to the mall. vendor you feel here but a public place like some of these marketplace like like open spot everybody comes and park his car or put his flea market you know everybody come and just take whatever spot you want. You know in some countries we have that cars on the streets and you know, some places they just you know buy a bus stop they just put their stuff on the floor and they start selling so you can't comes in Hey, this is my spot move. know if it's open place open place where everybody
somewhere LMS is not forbidden. It just highly dislike tiny dislike
and I do believe it is highly dislike
Muslim has an aeration which is also one of the fight of the Hadith. In Sahih, Muslim Hadith whatever they say said either
Listen to Maharajah Elaine obey
and Nabisco Sallam said if you leave your spot then you come back right away to it you have more rights over that spot so if you find someone in that spot you can remove that person so that's my spot
and in America Rahim Allah was asked about this headin kinda mess me to be I never heard of this headache before
how come Malik never heard Muslim?
The demon Malik know about Muslim?
No because panic before was
in America before Samsung was made. So in America never heard of this nation general but it is good.
either candidate Obama to Karima if he returned right away not like a day when the hours and hours no goes to something come back to it. So this holiday applied
Carl call the
telephone Runa Mafi Matata be molded in MST deleted ratio and fatwah for hokey, I'm manic and now I have to be ready for bed. If there is a certain circle, let's say for each week for class, like we sit here every time but one brother one read Quran and he comes to here in the middle of this gathering, wondering why we don't move on the side. Because it's a culture on customly we have those
help every Tuesday or every Wednesday.
Ah, man, I know what I can sell whatever. So spread out and make a space.
It says yeah, and someone will tell the people make a space.
Paid wide. Tomioka don't ever settle. Someone will tell the people make a space. So in a syllabus, lm said, if someone comes in, he couldn't find a spot, one of the people should tell the why someone should say, because people saw that bit, don't pay attention. It's not like I purposely don't want to make a space for you. I'm not really paying attention. So someone should remind the gathering and said, Hey, please make a space for the brother. Can anybody tell me a scenario that we are very familiar with in America here?
a scenario that we're very familiar with it in the United States, where someone will say to the guard the gathering, hey, brothers, please make a space
and Jumana and do masala you remember in the old mustard, how many times you say brothers that has people outside, please make a space for everyone. That's where that's what it means when I can never sell anyone. I had to come lay nasty.
So the elements that this had, it means someone will tell to the people who make a space for the rest
Some said, No.
It is the person himself. So it's not someone to stand up and say that no, the person himself I came and I couldn't find a spot. I should not move someone. But what I should say.
I said please make a space for us or for me. So either someone or you yourself couldn't find the place a spot to say it.
That's why the sooner is to say that to people or someone to say that the gathering or the copy will do more for example, Friday, or someone stand up and say to the people that is in charge and have permission from the man to do so. The question
if we read the verses on
this was the Medina
I thought someone asked me this question. Since you did it. I'll bring it up.
Yeah, you had a lady in Amman will either be in a foster home field My dad is he FAFSA Who?
EFSA hilang una comida de la Xu Zhu, Zhu Zhu
f it's been told if you've been told make a space and spread out you should do so. And if you were told in a zoo, what inches Zoo means
Nash's when you say to Nash's
That's right. So in shoes, it means move. Get up, stand up. Leave.
just said the headset do not make someone leave his spot. I don't call answered and if you've been told leave you should leave, move, you should be moving, you should move
is there is a contradiction between the verse and the honey. Now, a lot said no.
this ayah this verse actually was revealed in relation to Mohammed Solomon specifically.
Why? Because people used to gather around the Prophet sallallahu sallam, and they will not leave.
They will be sitting all the time.
So imagine Mohammed Salah mo Juliana, would you leave?
Now you will be always in the UN his space, the space is limited. So the Sahaba are always there. So a lot of people come, they couldn't find a spot for themselves, so they never get chance to sit with the process on them. So the verse said, Make a space if there is no space, move out, leave so you can make a space for other people to come.
So no matter how Allah said, This verse, is only related to the prophets of Salaam case. So the whole Ummah and the Sahaba will find the opportunity to meet the element to sit with the process. Exactly. So that's one understanding.
opinion, which is enhanced and labasa Rahim Allah said, This verse actually was either appealing Xu Zhu
if you've been say to you, make a spaceship Listen to this. And if you've been so you said to learn and if we've been told you now you leave to fight you leave to join the army, you should leave and join the army as well.
So that has a positive mo ba
and FAFSA we have sir Hilah who make a space also make a space for you. One of the meaning that I did not mention which is if you tried to make a space Allah will make it spacious
koloman epsilon again ally edge al Baraka, Phil McCann,
Allah will make a blessing in this gathering that you will be able to accommodate. We have a say back
where I raised in good hands, ah,
a bit Phil.
Murphy, and hat. Then the tightness and grave that old people say that there is no tight Danny and another word, you know, it's okay to be squeezed a little bit to accommodate your friend. Don't say it's too tight. The only tightness will be in the grave. But I don't like using this term because it's shallow our grave will never be tight.
But even though even though I couldn't
couldn't do it, every single person
has grave and her grave will be tight.
Tighten up in the beginning then it will rise.
In the little umbrella Obama the winner jammin
out, cover squeeze everyone. If would have anybody saved from that squeeze, it would have been cited demand
saved on site and then they'd be so sad that when he buried his own son
and his door
he stepped back and he's in law in a in a bar in
the grave just squeezed that
body even a child
so, the grave had that tightness that squeeze it nobody will be saved from it, but the movement immediately it will be released after that and to be spacious.
So maybe when they said bleak for cover, maybe they meant that few minutes of seconds whatever they
cannot do the acoustic neuroma. Youngblood neuroma from idli Sufi
Salim said that even sometimes people will stand up to make him sit in their place and they will not sit there.
He will leave it and he will sit somewhere else.
And this is it's a lot but different. Everybody used to do that. So to not be a habit of the people.
We end here but I
Want to ask you one quick question?
Since we talked about the verses again? Anybody knows the rest of the verse
can choose what's after that?
A lot of others said, yeah you have Latina man who either Pina comb defesa homophily. Medan is he FAFSA Who? EFSA Hila kumai de pinna, Zhu Zhu, Zhu Zhu, yellowfang Latina Moomin. kumala. Deena woo to line.
A lot said after this verse, the end of the verse, Allah will raise the level of the people of knowledge.
He will raise the levels and gentlemen,
what's the relationship between raising the level of gender and gender for the people of knowledge and the concept of making a space for people when they come to set?
Why these two together Yeah, gathering of knowledge is very crowded.
So the issue of making a space is needed in the gathering if done. So, or answering the people of knowledge should be the one who possess this either.
But says the proper manner and etiquette and when you possess this proper manner and etiquette allow would raise your level and gender because sometimes we think what will raise our level in general is the theoretical knowledge is the information is the how many verses to memorize how many this we know how many 100 that we read, but I don't want to tell the people of knowledge, that knowledge is not the only thing it will raise your level and gender in the dounia. Also, the proper manners will raise your level and gender as well. To make sure that add depth and knowledge never get separated from each other.
And I think it will be a proper add up for me to make comments.
Next week shall continue the next howdy saramonic