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Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari

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Bismillah Walkman you're watching

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him.

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He

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could even

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be a lot

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more, meet a lot,

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especially brothers and sisters.

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First of all, it's an honor, it's a privilege for me to be here with you today, I'd like to thank

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the people who charge

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Academy

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the efforts and reward them for the work that the

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city of Latina, my second time here.

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And people were sitting this way.

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It's good to come from Leicester, very close city or too far.

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The topic that we have today that we want to talk about

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is the title, if you like,

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mentioned,

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loneliness, depression and eternal peace.

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I want your attention really wants your attention. And I want everyone to really think deep.

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And if possible, which was really the son of our son of the great scholars, and great people are there any time times to make notes, so that we can take the load. And we normally in earlier times lectures are not lectures, like we have today.

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A lot of the times now, sadly speaking, it's entertainment, entertainment, where people come to enjoy. There's a bit of motivational talk, which is beneficial to an extent. But primarily, the objective of talks were

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lectures and gurus but people would come and take notes.

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And they will take that there are great scholars who talks about emotion.

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Whatever you learn the knowledge, capture that with writing.

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So shallow, but I'm sure you were a few your memory is so great that you don't need to write. So if you're not writing, then I will assume or presume that your memory is great, and everything's being written. But for someone like me, who has a very weak memory, I need to write notes in front of me. That's why, you know, when I when I normally do talks, most of my talks actually in universities and places like that, I always make notes to structure talk that I do. So when I first started out, I used to think people might think it's embarrassing to remember anything writing these notes in front of you. Then one of my very good friends said to me, that actually in academic circles, if you don't

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have no state, they consider that you haven't prepared anything.

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And it must be a thing that if you

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really don't have notes, it shows that you have prepared. So anyway, without the long introduction, I have a few points that I really want to discuss in detail. And I want you to keep in mind that I'm going to ask you questions about at the end, if possible.

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Don't worry, I don't have the whole to disappear before the end.

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This loneliness and depression or this feeling. We live in a time driven system.

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That everybody's complaining of distress of sadness, everybody's complaining of distress.

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You need anyone anyone's house you go to people are sad. There are people happy as well. But people are sad. People are distressed. People have difficulties hardships, there are 1000s of people who feel and say clearly that they are lonely, despite having everyone around them. Just recently, last week, I was observing the news. And they were saying that on social media. There are so many teenagers and people in the 17 1818 year olds, 90 year olds and early 20s where they are saying that they have they want to commit suicide regularly 1000s of tweets are being treated on a daily basis where young people are fed up with life in England 1000s this was in the news, probably you heard

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and

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we're trying to see the statistics. So everyone's distressed. You will not find anyone who's saying

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You'd be happy, everything's fine. You don't seem happy. But every stage of life people are complaining about wealth matters, family matters, hardship in life, economically economic problems, financial problems, relationship problems. You know, this brother, your sister, your mother in law is not talking to me and two brothers are not talking and there's a big financial dispute between two taxi drivers, we just had a big fight outside are these two business partners here they're fighting for the past two years, three years, the two brothers that we've spoken to one another for 10 years. Everyone's going through hardships and difficulties.

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Recently, we were with a few friends, we went to an organization

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organization, we went to signature that everyone people who are involved, we have to do

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this. So we went to a solicitor.

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This was a Sikh Hindu solicitor.

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He said to us,

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he was saying this is a seek solutions is 5050 or 60. In his 50s

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everyone is everyone is sad, and in a state of misery in the world. There is a tool to self publish to before you came here, there was a lady here, she's a millionaire. That's what he said. But she was crying, she was shedding tears. She was crying for the past 10 minutes before we hear this.

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So he's a millionaire. She's got six, seven properties, which is crazy.

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She's distressed, and for the past year to three years.

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Everyone whether the person is a millionaire has a lot of money, less money, fortunate, unfortunate. Everyone's in that state of misery.

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People are saying they are lonely, watching. Wash once, which means that you have you know, you're not in a state of loneliness. Everyone's in a state of loneliness. You have people around you people have family members, yet they feel lonely.

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There are some people who have nobody around them.

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So what is that state? And how do we counter that state? What is the solution to that? How do we achieve that eternal, internal peace and tranquility.

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We want to hear the voice of upon.

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Many of you probably heard of this verse. Remember with

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the way and let it be known with the remembrance of Allah, the vicar of our hearts find peace. But the issue is that we don't really understand this verse, we just we just hear the translation, we think this verse actually means we make the law every morning, I say a lot, a lot, a lot to take some time to read 100 times. So kind of 100 and that's it, I'll get peace. That is probably a percent of what readings it means.

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Doesn't mean just I'll do 100 times, and I'll just say a lot of data a lot of and peace, because people are

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still having hardships in life.

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That Allah has a very deep and comprehensive meaning. What does that mean?

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And how do you get that happiness, and this happiness, or this, you know, tranquility, which would say damania

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internal peace. This is known as root in Arabic, in Arabic, real true, is known by the word Sulu.

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You may know this is a root word, which has seen a lot.

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Because it's hidden, it's internal. It's not external.

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It's not external. The word in Arabic means secret

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is secret internal happiness of the heart, real happiness is not in wealth. It's not in money. It's not in financial gain. It's not in lots of relationship. It's not involvement.

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It's not in jobs. It's not in traveling, it's not in seeing things.

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So who is the tip of the heart? The vehicle

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is special condition of the heart, a special state of the heart, which is a common of law, which is a blessing which is given by a law. It's not acquirable without being given from above, you can work and earn money, but this is something that is specially given by a lot. If someone owns millions and billions of homes. But Allah does not give that special name of Nina and this raw having this piece. They will get depressed.

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You know, there are so many millionaires. Just give you one example many football players soccer plays

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soccer, they are depressed. There's a whole organization set up

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To help those sports stars football players who used to earn and earn some of them 200,000 pounds a

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week. I once mentioned this to my father, and he's

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got

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1000 pounds over the whole lifespan.

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You know, one year would have probably made sense to him or even a month, week 200,000. They are depressed, they go into depression.

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They take drugs, they go into severe depression. Lots of people wouldn't even do the judicial tribunal, etc. Because they are depressed, there's no they are searching for finding for something, something's missing in their life.

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What is the vacuum, because a lot of love given that special bounty,

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we have to understand is the difference between rah

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rah

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means tranquility, peace, which is the narrative from a law as well as the means of happiness. as

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a

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means of happiness, we can't mix the two up. A lot of people mix the two up, you understand the difference. Having a lot of money is a means to happiness. Having a nice car is a means to happiness, having a nice husband, people started

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having a nice husband is a means to happiness. Having a good wife, right is what it means to happiness. Having a good house means to happiness, have a relationship with people, friends, means to happiness, and it means to not be depressed and lonely.

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But it's not.

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And it's not happiness. And it's not tranquility in itself

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is a massive difference. Somebody can have all the means of tranquility and happiness and peace and being happy, yet not find no peace in life. And somebody can have none of these items. Yes, be very, very peaceful. I was few months ago, three, four to three months ago. I was in Denmark.

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And one of the great scholars of our time, my teachers, probably many of you have shared

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Africa. He was invited. So he had a few talks. So I will go from here.

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So we were eating. So as you're eating, somebody said to him that chef

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does this research here in Denmark, statistically, Danish people are

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considered to be the happiest people in Europe.

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And you can understand that,

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especially Norwegians, or even over many, many times. It's a small it's a small population, the country is four times larger than England, or the population is half of London, Norway, but financial prosperity, jobs, everyone, even Muslims have higher upper class, most of them have a bedroom. But like I said, all the travel ones were there and all the

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all the doctors and the lawyers and all the high positions, Muslims in Denmark for

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all of them in education, every family you love a doctor or lawyer or a barrister, or someone Muslim family.

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But this was in Norway, even in Denmark, it's quite good. So one of the brothers said to him, said, statistically there's research done here that Danish people are considered to be the happiest.

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And another researcher, but also, there's another research that also been done, which states that the highest rate of suicide is also internal.

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highest rate of interest in Scandinavia, Norway, Sweden, Denmark, Sweden, these countries, one of the reasons the weather as well because you get depressed here because of the weather. The weather there as well. It's actually you know, some of the northern parts of Norway in winter, you don't get no daylight between those places. There's actually full 24 hours just night when I went out in the summer, so those 24 hours, just a lot. We will pray

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when the sun was fully blasting, you're on the horizon, praying. This was two years ago. We go to Northern Norway, in Oslo moderate is like close to 11.

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The sun does descend and set to 11.

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And then

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12 o'clock and

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but if you go up, there's no there's no night. It's just

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enough to pass the six, seven o'clock. It's really hot, modern statistical operation. You bring a 12 o'clock at night the total compensation still that skips a big deal. Gets

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Closer to the horizon and begin with.

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If it's cloudy, then you will see the sun, but it isn't set. And then at one o'clock or 1245 10, to one, backup really higher, you're praying your vision. Anyway,

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the point I was saying that this brother said that the highest rate of

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suicide is

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in

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complete contrast, I asked the question

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do you think you know what the reason could be one research is saying that the greatest the

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happiest people are in Denmark. The other researchers say that they are also the ones who committed suicide the most

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research correctly, they are correct and what comes to mind.

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So what comes to mind is that

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the first research was looking at the means of happiness.

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Looking at the job prospects, looking at jobs of the individuals looking at their own homes, because the money that the properties, so they looked at the means of happiness, and not sure that they are the happiest, but the second research is looking at actual tranquility and peace and happiness itself, which indicated that they are not really happy. They're committing the most suicide. So the means of happiness are there but they are not happy.

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This is why this is from Allah subhanho wa Taala. It's a state of the heart. And you know, this, this is a fear of the heart and it's autonoma. And this is given the loss of God and how do we what what do we need to do? You see, brothers, this is the most important point here, in order to acquire this, this great gift from a law of the rule of thumb, I need a call of internal peace, internal happiness is for a believer to be when we say

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and this is the real meaning of explain to you about what this means that with the remembrance of Allah there is peace. This actually means for a Muslim man or a woman to be fully, totally, absolutely categorically connected. And I will explain this later explained in detail connected to Allah subhanho wa Taala. From the morning from the moment we wake up till the moment we go to sleep as much as possible, our minds our focus should be with a lot. You know, this is why it's very important. We as human beings, we always

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been brothers and sisters, we forget this. It's not just Islam is a deal, which has a lot to do with the brain.

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Do you know what that means? It has a lot to do with our mind. It has a lot to do with how we think it's a lot. It has a lot to do with what we think in our hearts and in our minds. Everything is to do with a thought. This is where you configure a variable and figure it out before we can not only the Arabic, a lot of words in Arabic, and they are the same words but different meanings. That's what sometimes people when they just know. They don't stick. It's tougher.

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Yes.

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From work you would

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rather not have us over to some of these people who may

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not worry concern, contemplation completely, the mind is focused on a lot. Every human being every one of us, every human being thinks about something in the mind. Don't wait 24 hours, we're thinking about something.

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Unless we insane someone's maturity, they may not think about something. But every human being thinks about something in the mind. What do we think about the first thing we wake up in the morning?

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Our 95% of our

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of our daily life is all to do with the good, old to do with the short brief 65 years of life.

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Short which is which is just like a game. This life is basically a game. It's a look around.

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We're gonna it's very slow. It's just a game. I'm using my highest million dollar rule. It's just a deception. Once we go there, we'll say

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for a few moments, there's nothing. Eternal Life is for how long?

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How long is the next slide?

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For eternity? How many? 600 years 6 billion, billion billion, a trillion years, whatever.

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Compare that to 65 years of the life and this is what the Quran says.

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Yo, ha, when you go into the author of this linear Wi Fi like moment of the morning of moments of beauty, it's like after 600 billion years imagine you sit in the dunya and you go and you know meet your friends.

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A

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few times, you go and say, let's go and have some new coma from your place and you come over here to have some coffee and I want

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to hear from you.

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But imagine you say, Okay, let's go and have some coffee and some, you know, some biscuits in general.

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How many years

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you've been living in one day you came from the

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olden times.

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Before 6 billion years ago, please give me

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vaguely I think I've done such a joke.

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I remember there was a junior, I think on board. And then I think

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it was a fiscal England.

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Not maybe

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I was born I had a child, grandchild.

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60 years, that's a moment of the morning.

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Such a short life, our whole focus room system, we wake up to the thought of

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is permissible. And it's also an obligation to look up the basic matters of life. But our focus here legally

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72, because we can work with it as long

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as long as you can. What's the comparison 65 years average, no one is between 60 and 70. If you're

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if you're for two to three years, that is three quarters of 2046 2046. That's it, your once you go over 40. That's it last last leg.

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Let's just work for the time to go. So this is a very short, it's a joke. This is why our thought this Dean Allah has given us it's all to do with the mind.

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From the moment we wake up,

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we have this connection with a lot we build this connection with Allah, we have this extreme level of love. And I will tell you how we can create that love. But

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the first thing will be because what happens, as soon as I wake up, we wake up straightaway, to go to work. And I've got appointment there today, or I need to find the benefits. office, I feel that for me to go to the post office, I need to get the money from here, he owes me money, or this or that.

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This is the brain every human being is thinking about something that

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the Quran is telling us think more about the topical, make the flow of the thoughts.

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Do we ever think about driving a car, when they are resurrected in front of Allah and agenda, the agenda handle there is out there to be reckoned in there. You only have

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to leave and the whole of mankind standing before me is under the name of Allah just sometimes just think I just might

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imagine, you can't really do what

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you can't really imagine we just think that you know, a law

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firm of a law, how great would it be, it's going to be very, very soon it's going to be just in a few years time. When you're driving, when you're walking, think more about a law and more of an asset or more of agenda. Also think about health as well. But not too much. You might get depressed with it, but just to protect yourself from it. But

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I'm not going to go there. Because I'm

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this way, with connection with love with extreme points with a lot you will never be lonely. That's why many of our selfish if anyone lives with a lot, if someone lives 24 hours, they wake up with a lot of speed and night with the remembrance and the waterfall. Everything they do with a lot. They will never be lonely. There's no question they like

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because they've got something they're connected to the enormous concepts of this as well. That religion and faith gives you that internal peace. If you live with a lost paradise. Talk to a lot one of the great scholars of the subcontinent.

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I used to say that people don't talk to a lot.

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Not just when do I talk to them? When they just talk to you in your room. Don't worry, you're not mad. You're not talking to yourself. You're talking to a lot. Cry to a lot will tell you your sexual love or your past. You know, things that you've done or your hopes aspirations or lucky

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in this room is occlusion isolation, speak and converse with a loss. How do you feel better? Number one.

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We like to talk you know people say our problems

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There's a problem half so many of the times Unilever that's what I normally say that people don't know what to do with allies how to

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talk about someone total, that mother in law, my mother in law

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if you want to complain about your mother in law was this woman or that man, this business partner

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don't go there because there are certain places where labor becomes

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permissible

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cetera but genuinely we don't stay in that limit. If you're talking to a lawyer

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speak to a lawyer converse with over this

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connection. The moment we wake up this middle of course we think about

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what does Islam say?

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Islam says, You wake up first thing in the morning.

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Eyes open. Stretch your arms. What's the first thing to think?

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Think

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know what

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$100 is giving me a new life. I was dead. Do you know

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I love you too often.

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We'll let you know. Female for you SQL.

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We used to do

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our takes away the souls at night when people see

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our takes away our souls.

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When we're lucky

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for us equality for the IMO, and those people who don't want them to come back to life. He keeps those

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others he lets them release them.

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puts them back.

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Da

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da da tena relief

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browser so powerful. One of the greatest ways of finding peace and connection with a lot. These must move from the glass. But the problem is we don't know the meanings. The real benefits will only be gained if we know the meanings of these words.

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The real benefit, the real benefit

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was teach your children the meanings as well.

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Now my son is five years old

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and he goes into the toilet. I've taught him the meanings. He has to stand before

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you go into the toilet.

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Now right foot or left foot, left foot before that read the dog

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read the graph above the knee

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What does he have to say to me I'm going to say the toilet in the toilet is all the men and women and all the boys and girls shake hands and knees bad people should

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be female and they really dirty and you can attack me so please save me before

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you come up.

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And hamdulillah Higgledy Piggledy in other words if you see the doctor who say we meet over thank you I'm really thank you for taking all the dirty things are for my tummy because if I didn't then my daddy my Baba would have to take them to the hospital.

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So much every dollar you could write a book of 100 pages on the inner hidden meanings of all these drawers

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and hungry in the

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garden update gave us like a death He called us back to give us life again. Well in English yesterday's given us Miko next time he won't give us life again, we will be coming back. So we made me think like this.

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I was close to death. You know, sometimes we were very close to death.

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Some people have come across in their life.

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By accident, we have real bad accidents. And huge people say you just need to protect it.

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I don't know how you survive.

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A person happens a lot of people

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at that time, you get protected all zeros or cost coming in. Just just missed you.

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Everyone, anyone anybody? You know.

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That's how we should say and handle it.

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been given a new life.

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And at that time, what do people do? Sometimes people who are going through cancer, but people who go who are diagnosed with severe illnesses.

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People that make this resolution. If I get protected if you show me from this illness or sickness, then inshallah I'm going to change my life

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or I will give donations

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In this video, I will do this for people who are very close to death. They make these major

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resolutions and

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make a resolution or law. You give me life I was very close to death. All these thoughts sit on your bed for five minutes and think about these things rather than taking you home straightaway or what who's What's happening? This is another problem. Seriously Whatsapp, Facebook, Twitter. Social media is one of the major reasons of people's depression and people's unhappiness, happiness. major reason and E experts are things

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I just read today. You know, Steve Jobs.

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The guy who started Apple today, he goes

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wherever you want Steve Jobs or no jobs, you still have to go. The company carries on, but you're gone.

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So there was a report that he

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he would hardly let his children he was asking your children this point with iPads.

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Most of them don't touch it very, very well for the people who are working to talk to people they don't give these iPhones

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because we say we know that the harms

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we run iPhone six, we run to them. It's like you know, we've got some great that's gonna give us happiness.

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There's a difference between what we need are we wanting to

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get what you want. Sorry, get what you need to get what you need what you want. Once you want to never end our once we never no one wants to take us to another one. That's what

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you want one hour here with God.

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Adam has one value of gold you want to read if you have 2131 I

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only just been tasked with fill this chemical.

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You'll never never end this desire

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if you need something

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so these are the thoughts first thing in the morning be connected to Allah.

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Think about this in the morning. Then people go to the toilet. I said the doors will return the major draws understand the meaning. When we enter you only come up from the students. Do you know what's happened when you go to when we go to the toilet in the morning.

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We were sleeping in our heedlessness in our office.

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At night we had all the baryonic and samosa pakora whatever we had all the food, we eat everything without even thinking even thinking full time we don't even think

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we ate whatever whatever discovery Rola sleeping snoring away at that time as well. Allows machines in progress. What's happening, we are speaking for seven hours, giving us everything that anything allows machines in progress. The machines what's happening.

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The food is being digested.

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A portion of it is being used to make blood a portion of it is being used to give us all our power and the residue that dirt has been placed onto the one side into the corner for for what for release in the morning.

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This is the dirt we recover in the morning until

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people can recognize marry for love just by going to the toilet. So easy imagine you it was difficult.

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We had to do something or you know cut the part of our body if that didn't come out from our stomach in the morning whenever

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you lose a life that in itself is an amazing

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thinking and then we will make will do think use the use the brain

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use the mind of a soul

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mate when you make will do you know think that the messages are

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authentic that every Oh do you wash over you wash your body since I've been forgiven? 100 sins have been forgiven? Do it according to the Sunnah when you walk to the masjid every step we take sin has been forgiven

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to think that this is happening when we walk brain Hi folks into the masjid with vocus with the focus and then the most important thing

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why do we have this peace and tranquility because our prayers are just it's like either it's just having a

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habit.

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This is an external part and crucial which is concentration. I think

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As I mentioned before, in prayer, knowing what we are saying when we are praying

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and even better understanding the meanings

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when we say a lot of thinking when we coming up with your greatest is greater than any lofty position we get to some kind of love and we're descending allies pure from a lowly think

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Al Hamdulillah think about all the gifts and bounces of

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Salah is very important every part of prayer however we think that means we have to

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learn the meeting a Muslim lives for 80 7065 years of his life and doesn't know the meanings

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and how

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we read everything and anything we don't know the meaning of social facts. So to follow up last

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last last year

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you get bored in prayer

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in regards to eating

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not enjoying what

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would happen is natural imagine you know even Chinese children

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that's boring but if you know the meaning it's you're in a complete different level.

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Actually ideally every Muslim should learn know the meanings of the Quran

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okay, but there are you know basic meanings of the Quran which every

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but how can you that's not possible at least

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how could you in prayer every prayer we have crucial and understanding and reflection will make us close to a lot

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Roku we seem to be an athlete.

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So kind of be

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thinking

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making go out if you can in between such detail between the two session coming up

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what is it the here

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and then after that what would you say salutations

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Salah is inside pray is actually the most important time to read what

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you should be reading

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that's one interview or what have you.

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Asked

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he said you can make you know you can you

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know the meanings. If you want some piece of your family and your wife is

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all loving my children, my family, my spouse, or coolest of my eyes, which I

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think

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is your demand and don't

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need to go

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20 minutes, nothing prayer.

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Prayer by itself, but even

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to the different draws every time we

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say we've never made the same guy every now pray. Like we've never used Obama for 10 years.

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myself for example.

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Long time

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because there is a variety of

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make our prayers

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full of life. Not you know like automatic, it's automatic, we come up with a board we don't even know we've entered the mastery level and we don't even know when we left. We don't know where we rented when we left. This whole Deen of Islam will only benefit us if things are not habitual, in our mind is focused.

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This is what how we connect with others.

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And this is how you will never feel lonely. And then this creates the love of Allah. And the most important thing about having love for God is very

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we think about the great bounties of a lot you

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know, we live in a time where people completely we complain about everything. We have 99 bounties and blessings and one hardship in life. The complaint was that only one left for this was it only chose to do this consciously whether you guys

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isolate this one possible set of

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knowledge on how many mentions in his book that he came to complete and some email.

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Somebody came to complete it and it's about you know, politics

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hardship and in life.

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He said how if if a logic took your eyesight away, would you be ready to pay 200 or 200,000 or 2000 dinars or something for it costs 1000 200,000 10,000

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so if all it took away your ears with an if someone said or paid 10,000 dinar return them back to you would you pay damage people pay so much for surgery and for you, when they have cancer, of course, he really count every organ of his body

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10,000 for the eyes and the ears 10,000 for the nose for the hand for the feed for the next. So you're complaining about poverty and hardship your own million dollar millionaire

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is worth 10,000 dinars and you complaining about poverty and hardship.

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The way to create love for life and have peace in the heart and be absolutely loved a lot is this is the first point

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I mentioned the first one which is difficult. This could be the second point to think about, especially thinking about contemplating the

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way into our own.

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If you are even if you were too shy to count the boundaries of a lot you will never be able to count them

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thinking about every

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single day go home look at children thanks a lot to

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children.

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The thing is we think things are guaranteed we act as though this was how I was supposed to get it

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that's why people

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say

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health and well being is a cow on the heads of the Healthy People The only the ill people and

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if you're sick when we get sick, that's when realize the value of health. The foot, that's when you realize, but in our day to day life, we're too busy. Who's going to think tank a lot you know when we sleep at night, we should think about this as well. Imagine if I was stranded somewhere

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imagine

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imagine if I was driving stranded somewhere. And my petrol my car on the title something I

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have no ad membership. Or I'm not even I'm in the middle of some jungle somewhere and it's dark. There's not one car

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driving on the mountains or somewhere even in England you could find that the two o'clock 2am under the road that takes you to Manchester

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it's called

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going there next daytime I love to drive this no this will be nice

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as well.

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Somebody will think and reflect looked upon or look at look at every creation of a law and then

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everything takes you close to a lot of mountains.

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The law says those people who prefer to think about the heavens concern sometimes

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the other day

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like a picture about you know space and universe and the whole cosmos system and each galaxy and the sun and Venus and Mars and Jupiter.

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It's just mind boggling.

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book of business.

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People have become Muslims by just studying astronomy. The structures of became Muslim by researching things, finding things out medicine.

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Islam has a lot to do with our mind. So I will say something before I said that road was a

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search.

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Yeah. Thinking about if you go down so nowhere to help you. No one to help you. Darkness could hear some sounds.

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And you tend to

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see that when people you know when they start. This is when the heart speaks. Even the atheists who say oh my god.

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atheist. I heard you messed up. Something happened a long time ago. Training. discussion about

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something happened.

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years ago, I was traveling to train someone and he was having a discussion with me. I don't believe in God.

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Have you proved

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oh god he just said it.

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You just said God

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that time imagined after you have lost all hope, so scared. suddenly someone comes in helps you

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so happy.

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And then you go home and you sleep in

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your bed. What will you think? What do you think?

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I really lost hope. But you should be thinking about this every night.

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Because normally the the thought only comes when we don't have that

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we take for granted. We were looking with our eyes.

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The default is that I knew you couldn't. You may have not even given me this Heiser able to walk 100

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feet or next I'm walking.

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Just the other day I was thinking about this

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point the weather was really bad here. Two days ago.

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I could hear the waves outside, really high winds

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and rain rushing down. What do we need to take? In

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science Allah from the heart that Allah gave me the bones of a bed, cozy bed sleeping, give me a house to live in. I could have been outside on the street on the road. In this wind in the snow industry.

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When you sleep at night, think thank Allah night.

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Every night,

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this is creating, you know, this is the way we create love for love. Because love for Allah, you know, when we talk about how love for love, for love, this is the most

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effective way of creating love for a lover.

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Maybe you have a friend or somebody who keeps on giving you gifts, every time it gives you gifts and presence and every time you love that person

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a human being naturally has love for a money, a washing machine. So we'll just leave us to gives you grants you and gives you good good things.

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So when we think about the boundaries of the blessings of Allah, every single one, this will create love this will create this connection with God.

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You know, there was a

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there was a shopping

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mentioned that once you were sitting with him eating some friend had colon those 567 10 people eating

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and you're sitting there eating and enjoying the food. He said at the time he said

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number one, Allah has given us a great

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isn't it?

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Allah is giving us food.

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However, imagine we have this

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but

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you're not hungry.

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But hungry, the food.

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We're hungry as well, second year.

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We could have had tasty food.

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Okay, and we could be hungry as well.

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But you could have some illness that we can't even taste it.

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It could be some illness. We can't taste it.

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Be able to enjoy the food.

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He said okay, maybe you have the food tasty food, you're hungry as well. You can taste it as well. But you have some other options. I've said you know, like you have to you have to abstain from food.

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Nobody has that problem as well. So we've got food, we're hungry, tasty food, we're hungry, and we can taste it as well. And plus we don't have no illness that's preventing us from eating it.

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And he said we could have had all four. On Saturday we could just a news a depressing news, someone's dead or someone's passed away or something's happened. could have come. You could have all of that but you don't want to eat don't feel like eating.

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Knowing

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that news. So food, we're hungry. And

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number three is taste it and we don't have the illness that stops us from eating it. We don't have what's known as news bad news that depresses number six is eating with friends.

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You could have all of that six, but the person

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Whose house you're eating everyone's friends, but the person who's feeding us is treating you With what? not respecting is degrading, we're eating guff from our health. Here the person is treating with respect. In one food, he said it reminded him of

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every single layer of law requires that you thank him from your heart,

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say sugar, every

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image. That's why,

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especially in hot countries drink as cold as possible. Because the more colleges The more you will see.

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Lots of people that have

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really converted now, I can't know the meanings of the DA, we don't know the meanings. You know, this is why you don't we don't think about it.

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Then after you drink the water, now, what do we say?

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Whether we

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have

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they every vein of my body?

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Cool isn't my body. People that that are hungry, that comes out you don't have to show the protein.

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You know, people

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enjoy, it's no problem.

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But we should try to do that for every time we drink water.

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Every year. The problem is, we

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know what hardship comes. We complain. Somebody came to one of the lawns and he said it's very hard to complain. Too hot. So yes, you're looking at how much you're complaining But haven't you thought, the positives this heat is creating so much food in the world. So many things are in Madeira eroded as they grow the tree because of this pressure, extreme heat.

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And lots of these

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jofy these

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bacteria are being killed because of this heat. So many people's life is dependent on so many people's

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living in livelihoods. livelihood depends on the heat. Because the trading in these things 1234567 different animal lovers.

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With only one negative thing you see, straight away we have company, my back's hurting, because we're busy man flew here the landfill.

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We want all the attention.

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Think about the Miramar you know.

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He used to say that we read our life accounts upside down.

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We treat our life accounts What? upside down.

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upside down.

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Upside down means we look at the negatives we don't don't cut the positives. And you know when he said this, he had a son. He passed away when he was 51 years of age. 61 years old, his son passed away before the Father. And he passed away in a time when his father passed away two years after the when he was on his last couple of years or last year of his life. Going through tons of difficulties and hardships in life. He had heart disease and this operation that occasion bedridden at that state.

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He got the news that you're 51 year old son

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has passed away.

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Now rather than complaining lots of people in the family members who are depressed

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within the family or people saying you know

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that those ages I always wanted

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to very, very quickly visit that. He wrote a letter of reference. Let's actually see what books he wrote a letter to all his sons and daughters and brothers, everybody in the family. He's the one who's the ill person. He wrote a letter to everybody said, Look, you could look at this incident in this way and be depressed. He was only 15 we went very early. He hasn't even his children have not even waited and married yet. Before even seeing you know, this was our our committees do. Oh he couldn't even see his son yet he graduated he couldn't see the so she didn't do this. All these things and be depressed.

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depressed.

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Look at it this way.

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He had when he came back from page number one to login in 51 years of Greek life.

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gives us that right to live a few years people die two years old. Everyone has to die. Anyway, he wrote to the vet said, Look, everyone has to die. Nobody's come here for eternity. So he was going to die anyway. But what better time to dive in now?

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Number one, beautiful life. Good fish he is. Number two, he just came back from

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the middle group.

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What does it look like he's just come as though his mother's sins are forgiven. Number three, one of his sons used to study in Medina. So he met his son spent two weeks his son was able to do his film 100 he came back, came back he has spent another two weeks and met all these other children family, he actually invited for people food and met a lot of people did all of that. A few other things in it. And then from there, like

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this is looking at our life, the right way, not the wrong way.

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We look at the negatives. This is bad. This is bad. This is wrong. This is wrong. My ears are hurting my nose. My eyes

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are purple. You

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know, there's so many positives.

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Even illness versus this illness and sickness is a neuroma from a law.

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You know that illness is narrow to mounting.

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This is why when you go and visit an ill person, what do we read?

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Now that

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it's okay, don't worry. But who will stratification you'll be purified Namah from Allah, the whole nother story, okay.

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The Who?

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It's a near normal law Why?

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Number one, forgiving that in person says without that person doing anything free of charge his library better destroyed for sleeping, which is you know, in hardship. Look, I'm not saying it's not difficult, illness is difficult.

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Physically, we will feel the pain when someone's ill and sick physically if your hands hurting. Doesn't mean that okay, you know, it's not gonna hurt,

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you have a headache, you will have physical pain. But mentally, psychologically, the brain the mind will be content.

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The mind will be content with a loss of fate. And

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you will think to yourself, this is a great number number number one, many ways.

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Number one, I just mentioned aliases, because why? purification?

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Since free of charge, number two people tend to allow you to wait, that's another way to make go out a little bit who would is for that as well. Number three, you know, people become a bit humble, and they come in all these hours being proud of

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you can drive a car faster often. When my leg breaks in crutches then the COVID humble, number four.

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Number four, what happens?

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Anyway, number four is one of three ways and there's many other ways where this is an illness. And you might say, this

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is me that we asked a lot.

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Because

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we don't do that. And this is why some of the early scholars days when they used to be given

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lower bodies to make over I know this illness, this thickness is a narrow boundary, it's a gift from you, I completed this and I am content happy eternally. And we do go out we go to the doctors and we try to have a medication because it is so nice. We need to do that our we are able to say most of us have a long medicate and we need to take the means. So we do that. So we need to make guandolo I know this is

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not from you, but I am weak.

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Therefore all I ask you to replace the illness with the miracle of

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illness sickness with another well being an RV and health is also so replaced that

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somebody went to one of the early scholars

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and he had some major

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problem.

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He had extreme fever like close to death type of fever.

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So, the students went to the SharePoint center,

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three weeks bedridden.

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How do you feel how things

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770 times

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100.

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So he said, My eyes,

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my ears,

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my hands, perfect. My feet, perfect 100 I couldn't have plenty more handed unless

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you went to 10 different things.

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And I have a bit of fever he showed me.

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First he counted all the positives. And when you look at the negative, we say all No, you know, I haven't slept last night. And this happened as well. And this happened, this happened. And that happened to

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this, the people with this insight, the people we're connected to a lot of people will have,

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you know, this deep connection with a lot, they see things from the heart. This is how easy, and this is how you get internal peace.

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This is how we get internal peace.

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So anyway,

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I've talked a lot about this first point, I was actually going to talk about level three focal points, but I'm not gonna talk about them.

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I'm gonna just list them in one one minute. How long can I suppose

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because I know it's more than an hour is not good because of concentration.

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Yes, we take something with us in our life, but another five, maximum 10 past nine shots, because I just want to mention one or two things.

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Just those quickly summarize that. This is the first way of getting internal peace and tranquility.

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Being connected to a lot

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of therapy was more time.

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Just quickly,

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just three more things. This was the first to avoid loneliness to avoid depression. To avoid this misery in connection with a lot of good use the brain from the moment we wake up, think about things be connected to a lot.

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Number two, which is actually a talk in its own song. And that's why I can't really put each one would require one one out of each four points. But this is number two, I've already pointed which is to bring in our life something called cannot

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be content with what Allah has given us. It's related universe.

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But especially talking about financial

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you know, people are so depressed because we are not content with the money, the financial meetings that allows given us

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there is no way we will be at peace. If we do not bring an out.

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There is no way you could be a millionaire but if you don't have an hour, you will be upset you will be the most original person is the more mental psychological problems the guys have seen

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the guide brother, you're driving somewhere

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which actually agree Do you

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want to go and

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talk about some things in the coffee. That's why he took me and he did he said he is good at grab juice. I talk to him he has some issues and questions. But anyway, is really less than these two. This was a time two three years ago when there was financial crisis you know, the economy financial crisis, everyone you know, like going through some bad times. I didn't know what that meant. I'm

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just used to hearing the news. But anyway, whatever that was, people were finding it tough or difficult. Now he's in the car driving

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to tears.

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Things are so tough. Sometimes.

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They don't have enough money to pay for petrol that's how things

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get a question but then he went to talk was taking things off from touch. So sometimes I go to the petrol station I don't have money in my pocket, and then carry on talking.

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Yeah, the fastest properties I have

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you just anyway.

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Prices properties I have this one too so

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that was something

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I was thinking to myself if you don't have money in your pocket seven properties

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at the federal

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property have five properties one property sell it and you've got cash in your pocket for you like you pay your diesel and petrol

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but he's thinking was different you know everyone

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richness is not involved and pocketing money but

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when I feel

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it's really how you feel and think in the heart We all have our own measurements our own yardstick our own criteria of what is wealthy you know somewhere in Africa living on the continent pakistan india wherever we're in a poor country that person's criteria of good living is shallow

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someone else is if I don't get 200,000 then they are depressed. He gets 100 100 200,000 just 100,000

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this person got food this person is more happy mentally because they got the food and he got one and the one who got food will be more happy than the one who obtained one because it's how you think it's really your your your bar we raised it at this is kinda contentment to the heart that's why to go out we should make a level of a nickname others

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will not make us content with you give us yes we earn we work try your best moderately work moderately don't go overboard.

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Don't mind.

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It's all in the mind. It's the mind is makes you when you think you're rich. It's not money. It's basic. Work as much as you can give time to your family.

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Don't work like a slave where you can't even see your own children. either read this survey of schoolchildren take 10 year olds you ask them what makes you the happiest in life. Your daddy having a big massive car taking holidays big convention the property big house 80% of them said what makes us the happiest in life is my daddy and my mommy our parents having a meal together with

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at least

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this was a

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moderately don't go overboard money doesn't bring happiness many times never buy peace seriously. I'm telling you this writing the golden white and black of how the human race

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money will never buy happiness never there are people million in the absolutely depressed

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everyone will have to go through hardship

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solver to see what his other ones connected to a server only comes with your connection tool.

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So

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it's very important, you know what can arise and as much as you can, and then we can take a look or whatever you've given me I'm happy enough sufficient if you're not happy gives you one thing I'm happy I am content because only two ways either you keep on crying about it and be miserable or complete the bills and

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keep on crying

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there's only two is there's no

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and this is how brings peace and removes depression

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and you know a way to bring one out

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you know how do you how do you bring

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the way to bring

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a Muslim

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nation

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when

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you look at the people below You don't look at people in the world.

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Look at the people below You don't look at the people above you.

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Because if you do that you will be grateful to the name of Allah. So we are sitting here don't look at people who live in too many inventions. Look at the Think about the 1000s of people in hospitals think about 1000s of people who are orphans people in prisons people are more people. You know if we feel depressed, I tell my friends if you find if you're feeling depressed and sad, go home watch a documentary about people who have homes in their body and

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see the bones you know, small children can see the bones. We just had people of biryani How can we complain?

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That's what the hell it is. Look at people below you. Don't look at the people above

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Listen another chapter is interesting

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even though

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somebody might say okay I will go and I will look at the people below me but what about if suddenly someone called me came in front of me? Are you going to look at

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Ferraris?

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I'm trying to look at the people below me but this Ferrari the book is coming out so the answer is in this lesson

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if you happen to by chance see someone above you but you're not

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direction

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then go specially seek out someone who you are above in wealth and in house go and look at like I said go and watch development at the local bar one of the greatest mountains on the city. I used to hang around with rich people my friends circle rich people everyday I used to be depressed the day I changed my friend circle I started hanging around people I became

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friends

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so if you think you're gonna be depressed change your friends take a look at people below you.

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So this is either okay number two

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very important. Number three and number four just quickly a couple of minutes in which to get the the whole point number three was or is

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cut off expert expectations from the condition of

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all our expectations should be lost.

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Don't expect anything from anyone in this world.

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You know people get upset people get depressed Why?

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Why do we get depressed? Because we were expecting someone to give us something say something to us do something for us. Appreciate

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the one we appreciate.

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The more you

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do from the heart

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in life don't don't we should not act as we want old appreciation for everybody in life.

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You give someone a gift

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we give someone a gift. And if they were thinking that I'll give a gift and your husband for example. When did you surprise your wife you clean the house upside down she was outside and you can say look at you say 20 times

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just for the sake of Allah do it for the sake of Allah your reward our reward is with a lot this is the last I don't want nothing to return if even if you don't say thanks if you were thinking I was

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pleasing never you know husband likes you ever listened then if she didn't say that when she said less than will be upset

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but if we were not expecting it

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and that's a bonus

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that's a bonus that's why in every relationship

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when we are good to others it's because we want to preserve

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our kingdom was it a

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real maintenance of ties is not the one who just pays back they called us for wedding. So we call them these are all cultural customs This is known as a river in the Quran. They are morphia marinas

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they called us we have to call them they called us so we have called them they gave us this much they gave us 50 pounds we have to give them 55 is the interest

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just for the sake of a lot don't wait for any return no expectation from the walk look at all if you don't expect from anything from anyone if you don't expect anything from anyone we will never ever ever be disappointed because there's no such thing as being let down

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do things for the sake of us go to a wedding sometimes get an envelope without your name. They don't need to know why why do they have to know sometimes this

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was most challenging with

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the families the family members were going to a wedding a female family member

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you know nobody to give money.

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So we were in a rush in a hurry. So she had put placed a note into the envelope with no pen for her to write from such and such from this family.

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So she asked me

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to give

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no

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no no. Who needs to they don't need to know we gave it or you gave it to I gave it to somebody okay. company needs to know

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If you're giving it for a lot, you will get more rewards if you keep this envelope from one

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system, just empty to go and get it for the gift when you do it for the sake of Allah, how many people will give, if they don't use that the person is not

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allowed to

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use. That's also intention. But sometimes to make our Amman extremely sincere,

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I do

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have a share of things that nobody knows.

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of our actions should be such, if you donate something

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encourages others position some donations, and nobody knows you're on your own.

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So anyway, that was number three,

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which is cutting off expectations from the creation of the law. And lastly, number four.

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One of the biggest problems in our social life.

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One of the biggest diseases, one of the biggest problems that we have,

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the people are depressed because

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is because people always encourage others to think

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I speak to so many people.

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For people, you will never make the creation of a lot happy. You're doing weddings, you don't have the money. But because more will

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come on and complain about assault.

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That's what I said to a friend recently, I'd rather spend to get married, rather spend that money on yourself and go over with you and your wife and spend a holiday rather than a big massive lavish wedding which is many others and they will still search your food.

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If you invite people yes give them feedback every month for the sake of a lot. But it is just to impress other people this

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is just to impress. You rather spend the money on your own self interest spend on other people don't worry in life about what others will think this is

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major diseases, depressions, family problems, social problems, because of this reason, the father will not let his son marry someone because not because he has a problem. Because what we think was in the community,

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he got married outside the family handle.

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This will happen.

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He will not let it son, the daughter that is perfect Muslim, righteous pious, but just because she's from a different caste, you're from Liverpool and she's from Kashmir.

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And just because what people would say

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is crazy business. I don't seriously I have never understood this and I still don't understand I don't know how this works. What people will think the problem if you're doing something which is right until you are a must

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Yes, we need to think what a lot is everything we do we think what a lot of things forget everybody else. Don't do anything for for the creation of Allah don't even

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so people ask so the scholars You know, when I pray, sir, I think you know, you know, but to get to your people will see your picture. I want to start praying, don't even stop praying.

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The creation should not even come into the equation. Don't do things for the creation. And don't stop anything. Everything.

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If you seriously if we brothers is bring this great principle into our life. We just don't care what others think about

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you will be the happiest person.

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Seriously track. It's a test and try an approved

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prescription each

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year for all the four ways of getting this peace and tranquility and having eternal peace and loneliness and depression. Number one was

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having this connection with a lower concentration from the moment you wake up to the moment always being connected to our thought the mind rate.

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Number two was

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being content with what Allah has given us. Number three was

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less, no expectations less than your expectations and cut off the expectations from the traditional expectations with a law number four.

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Don't worry what people will think about what a loaded towel luggage is.

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Surely if you try to exploit some of these things, we'll have a peaceful encounter.

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What happens when

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you're depressed you will be happy internally and you will see that we'll be totally happy and you will see the effects of that externally.

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Someone who's internally happy that they have this externally they have this you know, illumination which light gives them because they are happy and you know, they don't, you know, feel depressed

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or simple laid back life.