The Best Character Was That Of The Prophet

Muhammad Alshareef

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Was Salam ala rasulillah America

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in a matter of bigger studies, and as for the praises or the bounties of the blessings of Allah upon you, that make mention upon them. So once again, it gives me great pleasure to be with our brother and inshallah, in his respective for a shift from Humberto Sharif, who's originally from missile from Egypt, and went on to live in the United States of America, or in Canada, I believe us. And then he went back to Medina to munawwara to graduate from the prestigious Islamic University in 1999. is for those of you who are not familiar, any in charge of wwe.com, a website designed specifically for the delivering of the Friday sermons, and also the founding member of the Margaret

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Institute. And we're all familiar with the brothers and etiquette of speaking. And he's speech in sha Allah. Without further ado, failure to fogden mush Quran

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in Al Hamdulillah Now for those of Hannah who want to sign in with this stuff, what are we learning in Cerulean fusina woman say? Dr. Molina Allahu taala Farah mobila. Woman you blood fella Hadji Allah, Allah, Allah illallah wa, ala Muhammad and I'm the hora Surah amudha. To begin, you know, actually just at this moment, I recall last year's conference, Su CMS conference, the first question on the question answer night was, is it permissible to have a cat? Do you guys remember that question from last year?

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Well, I'll tell you that I love cats very much.

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My grandmother Rahim Allah.

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In Egypt, she had two cats. And when he would go to visit her, she had two cats, one was black and one was whites.

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One was called mishmash, and the other one was called zz.

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So I would run around chasing mishmash and zz. And they both passed away. A lot. There's a long time ago. But there's one aspect. A cat, if you try running after a cat, many of you I'm sure you love cats very much. Also, if you run after a cat, the cat will run away from you. It will continue to treat you with dignity, it'll run away, it's afraid of you until you do one thing until you corner it. What happens to the cat when you corner it? It changes identity. Meaning that now it's looking at cat right? You can run left can run, right? So it stops, it raises its claws, and it starts hissing. Right now we can get one of the little kids to make the sound for us. Can you make the

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sound? Right?

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The cat will go like that, basically the hissing sound of the cat.

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In this lecture today, what we're talking about is Hello, and how it's possible in the way that we act with others. We act like this person treats a cat in some ways that people respect us. But when our product changes, it's possible that we've cornered the person and that the only way that person can answer back is with bad follow. I'll give you an example of this. Let's say

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a woman wakes her husband up for fudging our handle I'm sure many of you have good Muslim wives here that wake you up for fudging. There are two styles to wake someone up for.

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One a woman can come to her husband and say, Come on.

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Get up a righteous man. Okay, that's one so the husband in order to fulfill not let his wife down, he will wake up for fudger he said yes, I am the righteous man. I will wake up for

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a second senate and how many of you have that actually happened to them? I'm sure not too many. Right. Okay. second scenario is what normally happens in many of our communities, not just in the UK but everywhere around the world. Columbia Mona Phil.

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Right, get up Oh, hypocrite.

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So now look at the position of this husband who is sleeping on the bed. If he gets up for fetcher, he will be admitting to his wife that he is a hypocrite. That's how he was cornered. The only way for him to save his honor. To not be humiliated in front of the people is to not get up for malaria, the villa. And this is the photo that came out. And in many times when we give Dawa to people we add on those little cornering statements like you personally

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You should follow the similar old person a bit off. If the person listens to you, he's acknowledging that he's a person of Vietnam, and there's no need for that. And inshallah Tada, we're going to see some examples of the beautiful character of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam.

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Civilization, when you think, who is the most civilized? Or who are the most civilized people on earth? Many people will say, the USA,

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the most civilized people on earth, why are they the most civilized? They'll say because they have lots of computers. They have lots of PDA, and cell phones, and mobiles, and so on. And so far, I know it's interesting. We actually talked about this this morning. If you go to any computer industry in the US, they're all Pakistanis Indians working there is not actually Americans that are there, Pakistan, Indians and the host of other nations that create these products.

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Okay, so normally, because you can find someone who has all the technology advances, but yet they're not civilized. What is the true measurement of civilization? So we imagined someone 1000 years ago, is it possible that they're civilized? Of course it is, but they don't have computers, it doesn't matter why it doesn't matter, because the true measurement of civilization is their relationship to odds and how much justice they have. And with their justice, they become civilized, and with their unjustice they become barbarians and savage people based on this. And so you see the province of Atlantis and I'm saying hydro koroni, Carmen, that the best generation is my generation, not because

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of technology advances, but because of the odds and that was practiced, from a levena Luna with a melody in a Luna, then the generation after that, and then the generation after that.

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Bukhari narrates, and this is in Managua, the Sahaba bad monopolists after loving the mushroom or the Longhorn, another pseudo la he's an alcoholic who was selling them cod in them in a Hubby, Camila.

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He said, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that the most beloved amongst you, to me, is the one amongst you who has the best character, the one who has the best hope, I love that person the most. And here you see the word. Seneca is the one who is better in character. It's not that these two people have good character, this one has better character. And so he is most more beloved to the prophets of Allah Han He will send them

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and you'll see in Bukhari and Muslim tabs, aka the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, it's up with na wala worship kitamura. And so you see the door of Southern

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there's no way a person can get out, except that they give certified even with half a date. Let's imagine that a person doesn't even have half a date to give soda. Not even half a day, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that he didn't touch it. So we can imagine

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that if you can find that half days, to give sadaqa then give sadaqa with a good word.

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And so movement in there good hold up, because the prophets on the lies that have taught us, they're actually protecting themselves from hellfire. And so you'll see a relationship between the good character and the relationship to the hereafter with that.

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Now, when you were thinking of this lecture today, you may have thought that I was going to tell you stories. And indeed, there are many lessons to be taught from those stories, but I'm not going to tell you stories. What I'm going to inshallah Tada, and hope is to give you some motivation to make a change in your life. Because that's why you're here in sha Allah, is that you want to change something. And so I want to give you some of those tools. And so it's not just about hearing stories, but it's about extracting lessons saying what is wrong with me now that I want to change, and then right here and tomorrow, and the day after moving forward towards that change in law.

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If I told you, you know, some introductions, they say, as you all know, Brother Mohammed ushabti, he doesn't need any introduction, Philippa foot, but imagine if the introduction went like that. How many of you know anything about me, even though that he said that? A lot of you wouldn't know too much about me. And he probably after the introduction, you still don't know too much about me. Right? Correct. So now if I said that I could sum up this entire lecture in one Howdy.

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I will say here we're talking about the character of the Prophet sallallahu. If I said, Can I follow coho Quran Enough said I will leave now. Did you get the lesson or not?

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If I just said that can afford

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Hold on, I don't think you would get the lesson. And why I'm saying this is because this is a feeling that I used to feel when I was younger, we'd go into tarbiyah classes in the Sunday school Saturday schools. And then it would be the testimony of the teacher will always mention this is Hadith number one. The statement of is about the low honor that the prophet SAW the line, he said his character was the coupon. And I used to say to myself, how could that be? How does the sutra like to have better the ability when we're younger? we memorize the sutras how does that become the hook of someone?

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How does it become an answer? Okay, for follow bookable, how does that become the photo of someone?

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And then another idea or another heady statement? That was confusing? Was it the companion, one companion, he heard some as being recited, and then he left? And they said, Why did you leave because he was afraid he wouldn't be able to implement, implement the characters in the lessons that he learned, and it was too much for him.

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And another statement, you'll see that the companions used to memorize 10 A add and make it part of their lives. I didn't understand these Hadeeth because I said, implement what?

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And the answer lies in the fact that we don't know the Quran.

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I'll say that again, the answer lies that we don't know the Quran. We don't know the hook taught in the Quran, and therefore we don't understand the hook of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, I make a statement like that. And now I have to back it up with proof, right? And inshallah I'm going to

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and it'll come throughout the lecture.

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And I say this because I taught a Tafseer class. And as I went through the tafsir class,

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I started seeing things

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and I couldn't imagine how much emphasis Allah subhanaw taala put in these as we recited every day, every Raka sometimes you recite these verses, but yet the lessons don't go through into our minds for most people. And inshallah, I'm gonna explain some of the number one Firstly, we have to understand that Allah subhanaw taala many of these areas, and then the sin of the prophets have a line instead of attaches the whole up to the Ashkelon. So your character is related to your deen

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Allah subhanaw taala give you an example Allah subhanaw taala says in the Quran in

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to foster his sauce. Hi, Jamie. This is talking about carding people and forgiving them. Why should you pardon people? Allah Subhana. Allah says in the saddle, that the final hour is coming. So what should you do? Because it's coming, then pardon people?

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Forgive them, someone bumps you in line, it's okay. Just let it go. You don't have to make a big deal. You didn't get your room last night. It's not a big deal. You can sleep in your car right? pacify herself. Hi, Jim.

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And imagine if this is Logan, so long as I believe in the Hereafter, then I will make this part of my character.

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And like you'll see in a sutra that you were saying again and again and again. So it's in our own Allah subhanaw taala says, Allah a levy, you can remove the deen. And if I told you what does the person who just believes in the hereafter and the repayment the day of repayment, what does he look like? And you would start describing someone that looks very similar to maybe bush or something like that. However, Allah subhanaw taala describes what he looks like

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that he can levy at him. Interesting characteristic, the Catholic alivio Kevin is the one who pushes away orphans. And actually this morning I looked one of the booths outside is an orphanage booth. And you'll see out of all the other booths one is selling candy and is one and selling Gil bars and one is selling binoculars. The orphan one is the quietest booth out there.

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Or at least you can people

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it's a characteristic of someone who just believes in the hereafter that they push away the orphans column. Well I hope while upon Myskina we're getting into more of those inshallah. Number two, is there just like a person wishes to beautify themselves with clothes so man where is it beautiful jeans, and a woman wears a beautiful Jean Bab and so on and so forth.

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There's also another type of clothing and that is the clothing of Hello. And so a person shows off, that shows off but they beautify themselves with Hello Allah subhanaw taala says he had any advice dhammapada

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talking about the favor of the last panel tada together

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Benny Adam, the clothing that they have to cover they're out on. And then Allah subhanaw taala says one Eva duck was Anika.

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Allah subhana wa tada is talking about taqwa as the bass. It's a beautification of the person that they have good Hello.

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And indeed, anytime you go through a deed, you will find connections to the Hello.

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Everywhere you go. It's not about 180 or 100. There, almost every single Hadith you pass, whether it's talking about Islam, or talking about taqwa, or it's talking about generosity, or it's talking about Rama, or it's talking about SIDS, you will see all of it very much attached to the Quran, and Sunnah all throughout. And just like a person,

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you know, we might go out into this huge mountain scape. And I could, and this, in fact, happened one person. There's these like mountain goats that were almost extinct in a certain part of the US, and he took someone else outside and they saw the mountain and he told his friend, he said, there are many mountains out tonight, many goats out tonight. So that other person looked at the mountain. And then he said, I can't see a single one.

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I can't see any of them. And yet this person is saying there are many. And he said, Look over there follow the traces the lines. And then as he carried his eyesight, he saw a change in the pattern, and there was the goat.

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And then he said, there's one he said, Now following that pattern, try to find some more. So he went up the mountain similar, he started finding 12345, because now he knew what he was looking for. And indeed, you may hear that these ads in a hadith are very much attached to hook, but you might not see it, and you might not see it, because you might not know the pattern and where to look for it. But as your eyes start tuning to that re citation, you will see the Polo coming out, you will see it there very much entrenched in all of our beliefs.

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When a person has bad follow, bad character, before we get on to changing our character, we have to understand what what causes the bad character. Firstly, a person may have bad character because they want to be significant in the eyes of others. And what's interesting, someone may insult someone and treat them badly, because they want that person's attention in love. Very interesting way of getting attention in love is to insult someone. Now, imagine here, you have the brother, he's up here on stage, and someone will say How come he gets to get on stage and everybody gets to look at him and so on. What about me, I want to be significant too. So how does this person become significant?

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after the lecture, he goes out and back bites on the person who introduced the speaker says, because in the sight of other people, he will then become significant. And so that may be one of the causes of a person coming out with bad character is their love for significance, their own love to be seen by other people.

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Number two, cause of bad character could be the culture of a person. There are actually many different reasons why a person has bad character. So for example, many of you have British character. Right? British character, I recognize it because I'm coming from the US, you act differently to me, and I recognize that 123 all of you are doing the same thing. You obviously learned it from the UK. And if you went to the US, you would also see different characters. If you went to Canada, you would be shocked. They're such polite, nice people. Right? That's a Canadian character. People get it from each other. And one thing we were in Medina for about I lived in

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Medina for six years, every time we'd go for Hajj, anybody who came for Hajj, they would notice that me and a British brother that was with me, were always calm. We were the ones saying inshallah we could have malice, you know, we were calm like that. That's what we learned from Saudi Arabia.

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So when I went to the US, moving back to the US, and then I came to 100. The next year, someone pushed me at the Kaaba. First time I'm doing to offer I'm gonna, someone pushed me I got so angry, so angry. I immediately said, You know, I was about to shout. And then I said, Wait a second. This was a feeling, and a snap, anger that I've never felt in my life never. And I lived here for six years before this, I never felt it. And I realized that I had learned this and picked it up from the USA. And that's why you see, you know, they're slapping people, every time they get mad at someone, they start, you know, hurting them. This is something that is taught. That's like a Metropolitan

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Life. People get angry like that very quickly, and someone may not recognize it until they leave that culture, and then they see it.

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So you have to be careful what you're picking up from the culture. One of the solutions to that is to travel around and pick up good

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Culture and good character from other people.

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And one of the third reasons and again, there are many reasons for bad character is a person has no life. They have nothing to do with their time. They have there's no dour activities, they're free. They're watching TV, there's nothing. And if I hear someone say, oh, there's nothing on TV and they're still watching for three hours, the person has a serious problem, serious problem. Because they're wasting their lives in front of that television, then their friend comes over, they got nothing to talk about, let's back bite. And they start backbiting because they have no life.

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That instead, there's so many good things to speak about. And so many good commandments of goodness that they need to be spending their time with. They don't know that. And they have no goals in their life that they spent wasting that time again, another example of what causes bad character.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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gonna give you this example. Because a lot of times when people say I want to enliven the sinner,

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even when you sit when a statement like that happens, I want to enliven the Sunnah. I could ask you, what do you think I'm talking about?

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You would say you want to live in the cinema by by doing what? I want to get someone to just straight from the top of your head. Don't think too much about it, just to a regular statement like that in live in the cinema, some of the Henry's I'm going to live in this window, what do I mean? What am I going to resurrect? Yes.

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Sorry.

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Implementation of what

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do people normally say that mean it like that? I'm saying Don't think too hard, because that might be the right answer.

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Okay, I'll tell you, I'm going to someone that says I am going to enliven the sinner, they probably mean that I'm going to use miswak

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or something like that, or type of clothing. I'm going to live in the sun, I'm going to wear these types of clothes, or use them as well. But you go through the Quran, and you see that the roots of where the sooner are. And I'll give you an example of it. last panel, Tata says, will have he severely as a rule of law, that the Seville of the messenger sallallahu I need to send him his path is sooner What does he do? As a llama that I call to Allah, I give down. And so if someone says I'm going to enliven the center, they should mean that I'm going to resurrect the Dalai Lama. That's what they should mean. That I'm going to continue and raise up a people who hear about Islam. That's

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what they mean by enlivening the center. And also when you see enlivening the center, see above us in a normal audience. Allahumma when the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, a die, they said let's and live in the Sunnah, by doing what? By visiting one of the elderly women on the outskirts of Medina, Allahu Akbar, in live in the Sunnah by visiting the elderly of the community,

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the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu. So they went to her. And when they visited her, she started crying, many of you know the Hadith. And this statement, she started crying, and they told her to be patient, because that which is with Allah is better for the Messenger of Allah in this dunya. She said, That's not why I'm crying.

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I'm crying because the ye has been cut off now. And you see the statement it says to Hey, gentlemen, Alan Booker, did it cause the Salif for the Allahu inamoto the alarm to start crying?

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The senior woman, because in this in this moment, they were enlivening the sinner. I asked you the question, why did the prophet SAW the lion instead of going himself to visit people like that? Why didn't he delegate some of the other companions, for example, you could say you companion go to this person, you can pan and go to that person. I'm the Messenger of Allah. And I'm busy in Tao activities, for example. Because if you go, for example, in some of the people that are involved in a conference, like gmass, and many other conferences, go to their parents. And I'm not saying this happens for all people, but go to their parents and tell them this, your son visits you often.

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They'll say, I never see my son. He's always busy with these conferences. I never get phone calls. They're always busy. I tell them come home. They say No Mom, I have, I have a conference to go to.

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And she says, I never go to these conferences. I hope these conferences just stop so I can see my son. These are people that are in our normal times. They're too busy with the dome. Now the messenger of a lesson a lot a Senate should have been more busier. But he wasn't so alarmed. He said he took time for these people. Now why? Because those kind of visits that kind of Rama with the people allowed knowledge of Islam to enter their hearts in a way that no conference could. They could come to hundreds and hundreds of Congress. They wouldn't learn in the same way that someone visiting their house.

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They wouldn't learn in the same way. Like a pamphlet. People hand out pamphlets about Islam. Those visits mean more to them than the pamphlets, and you keep looking at it that they truly allow. It truly allows the knowledge of Alana's messenger to enter their hearts. So very amazing dour project, all you have to do to give Tao is not go on the street, and call out Christians, and so on and so forth. Just go visit the seniors of the community, and you will be enlivening the sinner.

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Every day.

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We sell ourselves,

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right? If I put this watch up to the microphone, you may hear it if you're quiet. Okay? Be quiet.

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Can't hear me then.

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Anyways, you couldn't hear the heartbeats of your life. This sound and that clicking of the watch is in fact your life. And you're selling it.

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You're selling it for what?

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You trading it off. Some people trade it off for things that are less worthy, or they're not equal to their life. For example, a person sells their life for television. So it's a bad deal.

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They didn't get anything out of it. The only way you're going to sell yourself because if you're going to sell something, you want to get something back in return that is better than your own life. What is better than your life in this dunya is the Ashura is Jenna and so anytime you give your life away, give it for something that will gain you paradise and not for anything other than that. Isn't the husband Rahim? Allah said, Rahim, Allah said led to the left Secor Illa FEMA, who are Assalam minha. Don't spend yourself in anything except that which is more more valuable than your own self. Well, that's enough. Sophia Otto the dunya cafe today really a quotable hustle, he says the person

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that sells themselves for just a commodity of this dunya is like a person who sells pearls for pebbles when it Lula rollin FC feminine Illa Jenna and an intelligent person will not allow to trade himself for anything except paradise. That is the intelligent person.

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And what this means is that you do action you live your your Eman is a verb. It's an action that you do, and you move forward with it. I'll give you this example. Many times if you ask someone who is the greatest dairy on earth today, it might be the yellow pages or the white pages. Why? Because people go to the white pages. They say Islamic Center, they go there and they become Muslim. And they hear about Islam through the white pages. You have white pages, you know what? Yellow on the yellow, okay. The white pages are for like the Islamic centers, the yellow pages are for businesses. Anyhow. So this brother He came to the message when he he told me this story. He came to the masjid

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and he told the man I want to become Muslim Mansa. Mashallah we have a new brother, he's gonna become Muslim today as it was and then and then so he repeats a shadow Allah Allah, so he gives a shout out everybody.

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And everybody comes up to him and hugs him and gives him the first word of advice as Islam as a Muslim. So, advice number one site, they start telling him the Pillars of Islam, pillar of Islam, number one, change your name.

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pillar of Islam number two, eat halal chicken.

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And as we say in Egyptian chicken, okay, so he tells me that everybody who came up to him his name was Joseph, they say, you know, Brother, you need to change your name. And he had a chicken change. You name it. Holla chicken change name. It had a chicken, chicken, chicken, chicken, chicken chicken, right. So this focus was like, man, I need to eat hot chicken soup. pretty important. So everybody told him this. He says he was telling me this. Everybody told him this. And then they left a message telling me Hello chicken, leave the message. And they left him. Go find out where the hot chicken is brother God be with you.

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And he says that the only there was one difference. He said that my father.

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Happy about law. He used to slept in that area. There was no one to slaughter the chicken except my father. My father was slaughtered, gather the chickens in the house and sell it to the Muslims. And so my father took him outside and didn't talk open the trunk took out some boxes of chicken and he said who take this home for you. And he said I never forgot that.

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Because it wasn't about talk.

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It was about actions. And sometimes I'll just give you this example. You may want to help someone to do their salon. But you know what's actually stopping them from doing their salon. They don't know how to do so long. That's it. If they knew like you tell them come to the masjid brother, it's up in LA Don't be able to come to the masjid. They'll say, No, I don't want to come. But what they're saying is, please teach me how to pray because I really love to go to the master. That's what they're saying. And so the intelligent person just says, Would you like me to teach you how to pray. And when they learn, they would be the first ones in the masjid. In fact, and you'll see this with

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many of them are the mean, they just learn how to give the event and they want to give it every single day in the mystery. But it takes an intelligent person to recognize that and teach the people correctly.

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of the to follow, and I'm not going to tell you many different follow, but I'm going to teach you two main characteristics that inshallah Tada, if you only start working on these two, if they lie, they will lead you on to many of the other beautiful characteristics. Characteristic number one that you should be this should be your identity is that you should be a person of Rama, a person of mercy.

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And not only it's not that you're the one who says you're a person of mercy go around serving people ask them Do you think I'm a person of mercy? They'll go No, you're so mean to everybody. Then it's what the other people think not what you think. So the characteristic of mercy. second characteristic, all important characteristic is acidic is truthfulness, truthfulness with yourself, truthfulness with allies, truthfulness with the people. And these two characteristics can lead you on to good things. Let's give an example if someone doesn't have Rama, and indeed Allah subhanaw taala begins upon Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim, Allah subhanaw. taala is teaching us these

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characteristics so that we can take it upon ourselves.

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Number one, if someone doesn't have Rama, they won't give Dawa to anybody. They will not give down. They'll say oh, I'm shy. I'm shy. He's not gonna accept this. I'll embarrass myself. This person has no dogma for the people. And if you go to a lot of the non Muslims, they've never received down the majority. And what does that mean? They're living amongst a community of people that don't have Rama for them.

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That's what it means. And that's what I'm gonna say what sip is to be truthful with ourselves. We don't have the Rama to pass on to the people, this knowledge of Islam. I'll give you the example messenger after messenger in the Quran. They said in me on a kumada biomin. avi the time and I really thought about this. They said, India, how far they come, I fear for you.

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The punishment of a great day, an enormous day. I'm actually scared for you. How many of us are scared for the fall. And if you say you're scared for the thing right now, at the moment, you have to be living a life of doubt. If you're not, then you're really not afraid for them. You're really not scared. You may have received this lamb, you feel safe. But you haven't gotten that characteristic of Rama to pass on to the people. Again, that goes to sizzle. It's being truthful with ourselves first so that we can pass on. Number two with Rama if someone doesn't have Rama, they have no patience with the people.

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They have no suffer again. I said Rama will lead on to other characteristics. If someone is truly merciful. Give me an example. Someone is merciful. They want their mother to become Muslim. Suppose the mother's not Muslim. They keep giving her dalla she rejects in the worst rejections, but he has. He doesn't want to see her die as a non Muslim. So he keeps trying. If it wasn't his mother, he would try once the person would say get lost. I don't want to hear about this. They'll say forget you. You're going to Hellfire anyway. And then they would walk away. There's no suffer because there was no Rama then the second characteristic is,

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is truthfulness. And that's so important because if we're not truthful with ourselves, we're not admitting that something's wrong. And if we don't admit something's wrong, we will not change. We will continue living our lives in the way that they are. Someone will say I'm a good Muslim. I'm a good Muslim, but they're not truthful with themselves, that they can always be better than that. And always have a model to continually work to perfect that but it takes truthfulness, to move on.

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And of course, if someone isn't truthful, and they're living a double life, so they might have a life at the Muslim as one shift says that they become super Muslim at the message right? You know, the soaps come out that topis are put on

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and they become super Muslim. I don't talk to sisters and stuff for a lot of this and stuff like that, but then they go to work on Monday.

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And super Muslim is back in the briefcase back at home. And then there's non Muslim women they're talking to, oh, I have to shake hands and so on and so forth. And everything's all fine. Oh, I just missed us or some.

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You know, I'll make it up when I go home.

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That is a lack of sizzle, they're not truthful. So one thing will either happen either or one of the two identities will overcome the other, either to do Toba to Allah azza wa jal, and this is what we want. And then they will practice their Islam in all aspects of their life, or the second identity, the Monday through Friday, identity will overcome the super Muslim identity. And then he will start applying, you'll go to the west and he said, this is not who I am, I'm not really a good Muslim. And then the identity overcomes as Allah subhanaw taala says, manager Allah Julio Rajan in New calpain, you see jealousy that Allah didn't put two hearts in a person in his chest, and his job, he doesn't

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have to heart and He can't believe in two different things.

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One of the things that are the fundamental

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drive of a human is pain and pleasure. A person either does something because it gives them pain, or they want to stay away from pain, or they do it because they want pleasure. They want to enjoy something like for example, as people walk out of this lecture, there is something that's going to give them more pleasure than being in the lecture.

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Right? It might be to go get some snacks, or might be something else, something that's giving them more pleasure. And someone else might say, well, I could get the snacks, that is a pleasure. But what I'm going to miss in that time is very important to me. So that's a pain. And then the pain overcomes so you have pain and pleasure like this last button rahama fear and hope all throughout the Quran, paradise, Hellfire pain, and pleasure, pain and pleasure, one encouraging one discouraging the person.

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So when someone does something, they're actually overcoming some sort of pain or some sort of pleasure in order to do the action. So let's take an action of let's say backbiting, and let's say someone who's very heavily involved in backbiting he likes to back up by or she likes to backbite about everyone, everything.

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What kind of pleasure does this person get for backbiting? Number one, they get to socialize, they have something to talk about. And when they speak and gossip. I think you don't have the National Enquirer here, but just like gossip, it's fun. And they want fun. It brings them pleasure. Everybody gathers around. Yeah, what did happen? And then everybody starts talking back and forth, back forth. So there's pleasure involved in the backbiting. What kind of pain does this person get? I tell you, there is no pain for the backbiting. I'm talking about someone who loves to back by not talking about a good moment. Obviously, there's a lot of pain, they backbite it's like the world collapsed

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on them if they backed by, that's the pain of the believer, but a regular person whose indulgent backbiting finds no pain for backbiting. Now, let's do the opposite. What if they did, in fact bite?

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If they didn't back bites? What kind of pleasure? Would they get for not backbiting? Nothing. There's no attachment they didn't back by, they don't feel for any reward. There's just no pleasure, they just missed an opportunity. So the pain actually comes in. When they don't backbite they'll say, Oh, we had a boring gathering. That was pain. I didn't get to socialize. I didn't get to tell my friends about what happened to such and such sister. And what happened to this breakup of a brother and, and this sister, and so on and so forth. So there's pain involved. So whenever you want to help someone, whether you're talking about youth, you want to help them in their tibia, or you

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want to help yourself, ask yourself, what kind of pain do I get for this action? What kind of pleasure do I get for this action. And if you're still doing the bad photo, one of them is lopsided. And just write it down in a list. And you will see the lopsidedness start to create some sort of pain and pleasure in the opposite direction, the direction that you want to go to the event, you'll be able to change it.

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The stick. A lot of tabea can be taught through a stick, right? You call it dunda. Or you call it Asa or follow up or whatever you want to call it. The children learn through the stick correct. You get a stick freaky kids acting bad. Maybe there's kids playing outside right now. An adult tells them you know, brothers, you should sit in the lecture doesn't work. They don't want to sit in the lecture. Someone takes out a stick.

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They learn their lesson. Our lectures are good, right? And I remember when I'm

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put on school, I'm not sure lots about it. A lot of the people that love to teach on around the world are the Indians. And my teacher. Halfway the whole law was a Muslim from India. And he came and taught us and he teaches us with a stick. This is a famous

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Teaching technique called the dender. So, I remember when we were little kids, some of the kids would go to Mulana Saab and they would say, you know, Mulana Saab, we want to order fish sticks. And so he systems, he says sticks, he goes, I have a stick, and he's about to feed the stick to them. He said, like, you know, Mark kinda like they said, if they stick and they say no, no, um, a lot of the kids are laughing no fish sticks, because our fish stick, that there's a difference. Now, with the stick, if you look at a tree, A Tree Grows weak, right, it's climbing weak, you will always see a stick, sometimes the stick is even longer than the actual tree. Because the tree wants to, the

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person wants the tree to grow up straight. If there was no stick, then that tree would grow crooked.

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Or similarly, you have a donkey, if you're riding the donkey, the donkey will go anywhere he wants, the only way he knows the direction to go is through a stick. Now what I'm saying is I'm not saying that you should beat yourself or beat your friends or so on the promise of the line is sent him. He never hit anybody in his family. But what I'm saying is that it doesn't have to be a physical stick, but it needs to be guidance. There has to be guidance in that community. So that someone backbite the community hits them. And not necessarily physical, but for example, someone backbiting and stuff for like I can hear, listen to this back, but I'm going to stand outside, when you're done

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backbiting, tell me, I will come back inside and Sharma that has to be the stick. And when people have that in their community, you will see a good community with the stick there. And when you don't see that where people are allowed to back by everybody's just like, oh, he's backbiting again, let's just wait till he's done. When that happens, then the community gets worse, because there's no stick and there's no guidance in the community.

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The next point

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is the attachment of color to to knowledge, because a lot of times you'll see Tao movements, where there was a focus on quota. Let's teach the youth quota quota quota. And when they taught it, mistakes came out for me, because there wasn't a focus on their aim also. And there has to be an attachment and their aim and holo part are hand in hand. What happens

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when someone goes forward with foot up or wants to come close to Allah do good actions. without knowledge, you have the example of those people that started looking at a bed of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. They said, Where are we from the bed of the prophets of a life sentence. One of them said I will fast forever. second person said I will pray pm will live forever. Third one said I will never get married. And the Prophet symbolized him got angry that I fast one day, and I break my fast the other pray one day, second day, I don't pray a family and I marry women from a roughly balanced unnecessary flies in. And so whoever chooses a path and inclines to path other than

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my son is not one of them. So you have to see that when someone goes forward with that. What's the holdup they have to do with knowledge.

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I'm gonna give you an example of this. Recently, I've been reading up on kind of like the psychology of people behavioral science, and try to recognize when someone is bored, like for example, if they're sleeping, right? Or if someone is annoyed, they don't like what I said. Then they'll also have a certain reaction on their face. I can tell you, when someone if I'm speaking in a lecture, and they're repenting to Allah,

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what does it look like?

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I can tell you if they repented to a liking, like point out in the context of this brother right now, brother, you're appending to Allah to say, Yes, I am. What do they look like? Someone will say how do you know that you don't know what's in their heart. You don't know what's in the heart. But you know what's in their eyes and what's in their face, their face tells what's happening in their mind, their eyes will go down, they will start looking to the right like this. And they might even start crying. obvious signs that the person is coming back to Eliza obvious sign that someone is bored. They take out a newspaper in your lecture, and they start reading and then occasionally they

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look up over the newspaper and they go back obviously bored. Okay.

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Now the point I'm trying to say is how do you tell if someone obviously learned something in a lecture, I can tell you that if I start telling you something, there is a sign that when I see someone do this, I know that they've learned something at that moment. very amazing. Very awesome. As you people like to say, awesome if the person learned something, what does their face look like?

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Who was Tell me what will you see on their face if they learn something amazing.

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What will they say what will happen on their face? There's

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smiling. If there are smiling, someone's like, and then they smile in the middle of a lecture, because of like a statement, you see them following, you know that they learned something very amazing. And so you see people,

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or people that smile.

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People who are walking on the spirits with knowledge are smiling. Of course, there's crazy people too, who are smiling a little too much. Also, we're talking about in association with knowledge, and the smiles.

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What happens if someone is completely ignorant?

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And still, they're like practicing Muslim stuff, but they're running around with ignorance, they're frowning,

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frowning, every time they go somewhere.

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They have a big frown on their face. What's wrong, brother? What happened? Nothing. I'm doing this for the sake of Allah, you know, the frown on their face. And you will see this happening with a lot of people that have newly gotten involved in the Dow. They're new in the Dow. And they might have started off with smiles. But as they started getting, they started getting angry. And what's happening around the world is happening to us. So then the frowns, you're a disbeliever I frown at you. You're a bad Muslim, I frown at you, because this is what I think is the top of Eliza. But with the knowledge comes the smile and the courage and the mercy to help the people even in law.

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Knowledge helps a person to identify

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the differences between people. So you have for example, the prophet SAW the line he was selling, teaching more art before he went in the Getty home and

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he said you're gonna come to people that are from Adam keytab. So now the Dow is style changes pay attention to their background. So you don't go to Muslims, for example, who are praying fetcher. And you have to give a heartbeat after fetcher. And you start telling them the sin of missing fetcher.

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They look around and say, Who are you talking to? We're here in the masjid out of all the people in the UK. We are the five people who came for fetcher out of anyone who doesn't deserve to listen to this lecture. It is us. You are talking to the wrong person. And the man was Oh, I'm sorry. The, you know, the virtue of the people come for fetcher. Ah, that's a good topic. Because now you're talking to the right people. And it's about understanding who you're speaking to. Now, there's a distinction in the Quran This is another distinction like I said, Remember you may not have paid attention to it in the past, but I'm gonna give you an attention focus on an ad that you may or may not have heard

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of, inshallah, you heard it before. Allah subhanaw taala in many of the stories of the prophets, with their people, Allah subhanaw taala will use the word mela se to get meta Say with me, mela. Okay. Allah subhanaw taala says

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suppo Mela vena cava Rumi, for me. There's a word there and it's a very significant word. Allah subhanaw taala says the manner of the Kufa from his people said

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it was not his people that said this. It was the meta and when Musa was sent if in our own, many of us think he was just around that he was sent to Allah subhanaw taala says that we sent moose and Harun Isla ski around our mela.

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We sent Moosa narrow to fill out and his manner, the merit people who are there, they're the aristocrats of society, the noble class, the higher ups, the Hollywoods of society, the PhD people that tell people what to do the think tanks, the minority that herds the entire society in the direction they want to take them. And so you see the story of Abba satola, right, who was the Prophet civilize them talking to he was talking to the meta of Quran because that is a critical Dao technique. And the hook is to get to that mela, get to the meta and help them to change when they change, then the people underneath change when people see this, and that's a part of follow up if

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you want to teach follow up in children for example, you find out who is the metal child, there was always a minute the child that the other children are looking up to look at his photo, you will find your son or your daughter acting exactly like that child. And so how do you get to son or daughter, you change the minute you change that higher upper class person and then the people underneath will follow from their example knowledge helps a person to do that knowledge and Hello, we also see

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that knowledge of the Quran and Sunnah teaches a person about social services. Now word like social service, you almost say that's a non Muslim word, social services. And in fact, when I read through these I had tried researching to information for a hookah and I couldn't

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At the mountain pass inshallah Tada, you get a chance to hear it one day

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I realized that there wasn't too much information in the books about social services. If you go to the members across the western countries,

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they're not talking about social services. They're not talking about themes that Allah subhanaw taala mentions all throughout the on significantly if I'll give you a few examples of that. Allah subhanaw taala says uncertain with death is about the people who are in Hellfire masala confessor for you. We asked them why you and how far they say palolem Naka Mina, mousseline, they didn't do their sola, which is actually a topic that we talked about a lot. We always talk about people doing this. All right, reason number two, that they're in hellfire. What I'm not gonna

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ski in.

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It's not something that we hear in the hookless. Very often. They said the word Hellfire, because we never used to feed the poor people the mess at Keene. This was not our characteristic, therefore, we made it to hellfire. And again, I said something like those booths that are helping the Mr. Keane are very critical booths, very critical places that we have to take part in, if we don't want to be people of hellfire. You'll see in. So it's essentially Allah subhanaw taala, where the person

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speaks about wealth, and how it makes a person normal or not noble, Allah Subhana. Allah says, Keller, it's not about the world, but it's about you're full of can then learn to criminality at that nature, you are going to cut them, you don't do J, you're not generous to the orphans. What

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bonadonna palmy miskeen. And you don't encourage other people to feed the needy ones, the master key, and the AI that we mentioned earlier, where Allah subhanaw taala says, or at least we will be, do you see the person who disbelieved and there's more is, and I can keep going like this, that these are if they're coming from dishonor, the suicide again, and again, and again, teaching us the importance of reaching out and helping the people and reforming the society.

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So some person may ask, How do I get down? Do I have to go out on the street and say, the end is near, put up a big sign, I'm embarrassed, and I can't do it like this. I'm telling you an awesome dollar technique. dour project, is social reform, find an aspect of society that is corrupt, or that needs help, and you hold our project, even forget speaking about Islam, be a living example of a Muslim is to take care of the people in that aspect of society give you a few examples of that, a soup kitchen, or taking care of the needy, the homeless that don't have food, right, making a homeless self shelter, or a soup kitchen, maybe a rape center, I see signs someplace, I'm sure you

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have it here. It has a woman crying, and it says Don't worry, you're not alone. It's a Christian rape crisis center. It should be a Muslim rape crisis center. It should be the Muslims that are taking care of the people.

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Some people they get pregnant out of wedlock through Xena. And again, they have crisis centers for them. It should be a Muslim crisis center that takes care of these people. You have homosexuals in society, it should be Muslims, that are working to reform the people and protecting them from the vise from harming themselves. And again, that's mercy, they're going to harm themselves. And it might be with HIV or might be with other destructions that might come upon them. To stop them is to protect themselves and to protect ourselves. Of course, you have broken families, and Muslims should work on correcting that situation. Even amongst the non Muslim correcting the broken family

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situation, the alcoholism, you have Alcoholics Anonymous, you have it here. It's a Christian organization. It should be a Muslim organization that's taking care of the people that are alcoholics, you have new immigrants that need help. Maybe they need to learn the language or they need help finding jobs should be Muslims that help them you have people 1000s and 1000s of people, brothers and sisters that need to get married,

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have a dour project that helps people get married.

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And you have youth

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that don't know what to do with their lives have $1 project that works on getting those youth involved. And if you did that, even if you didn't speak about Islam, people would learn about Islam through your actions. They would say Who are these people who are feeding us or they're the Muslims. And I'll just give you this example. One brother in Canada

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He did a dour project. And in fact, he left the conferencing used to give lectures and so on. And he listed and he started

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focusing on his medical field. And Allah knows that we have armies of doctors in our community, right? Even in the UK, here, armies of doctors, you say who is a doctor, and every second Muslim raises their hand. And we usually don't require from them any action except give us money. And we will do dollar activities. But what this brother did is he opened up

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a medical clinic in downtown Winnipeg, Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada, right middle of nowhere, a clinic for the needy of the society, and it's free, a walk in clinic. So the needy people come who is taking care of the clinic, it's the Muslim doctors, they're not donating their money. They're donating their time to administer medicine and so on to the needs of the downtown people in that city. So the Muslims come in, this is a Muslim free walk in clinic, there's 3040 doctors in this community. Look, brother, Doctor, which can you come and give us two hours a week? Sure. I'd love to, for the sake of the law, no problem. They come in and give medicine. And when they see that

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they're actually helping people. They want to give more time. Now the government pays them for the time they give the money to the clinic. So the clinic is self sufficient, doesn't need fundraisers, clinic is self sufficient. Do you think it's a successful dow project, you better believe it's successful.

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And you can compare this to people who go and give PowerPoint presentations about Islam and so on. It's a complete different world. And this, in fact, is the son of the Prophet so the line is going to take care of the people. Okay, now, in conclusion, I'm going to be giving you some tips on how to change the situation. Now, here's the point where we move on to we made the intention in the beginning that we're going to make a difference. Now I'm going to give you the tools to make the difference. First and foremost.

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This is called the doughnuts versus apples theory. Okay, donuts versus apples theory. This happened in one of our aluminum Institute classes, we have a snack table for the students. And someone God forbid brought doughnuts to the to the snack table. We never give doughnuts to the people, we give them apples. So if I offered you the two if I brought, you know someone from the audience, I said, here's a donut. And here's an apple, choose which one you would want to eat. Which one would you choose? The donut without any doubt? Anybody who tells me I would choose the apple, I would say liar. Remember the holdup of sin, right? Anybody would choose the donut even if they were on a diet?

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Because they would say no, this is you know, educational purposes and stuff. I can make a you know,

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I just forget anyhow,

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we were standing in another brother was standing at the snack table like contemplating it, and all the doughnuts were gone. And all the outputs which were still there. And someone came to the snack table and said, Where are the snacks?

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And then I looked at the apples and I said they're right there.

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And then they walked away and they didn't eat anything. And then the brother we actually had granola bars. They're like chocolate covered granola bars. So the app was went first, then the granola bars and then I started the

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doughnuts one first, then the granola bars, and then no one touched the apples. How do you benefit this in your dollar project? Because this was what I taught just $1 and I wrote this on the exam. How do you apply the doughnut versus Apple theory to your demo project?

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That was an exam University question. Because this is how you do it. Right. Are you ready for these deep thoughts? You don't have to stand up and make your blood flow for this one.

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The person will choose the donor for sure.

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Have you ever heard of like a jelly Buster donut? You have jelly busters. Anybody like jelly buster. Anyways, a jelly Buster donut is a donut that has jelly inside has strawberries. So you take your dollar project

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and you put it inside the donor.

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You put it inside the donor and that could be for your own homework. You want to change your follow up, you put it inside a donor

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or you want to change someone else's clinic you put it inside a donor. So someone's saying what do you mean put it inside a donor. I'll give you an example. Here in the UK, the kids like to play football. I was gonna say soccer, but I'm in the UK. The kids like to play football in America. They like to play basketball. You want them to come to a lecture. They don't want to come to the lecture. They want to play football. What do you do? You put the lecture on the football field

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that's putting it inside the donut. They're getting to fulfill their desire and at the same time

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They're learning something beneficial. So for example, the youth activity that's probably in some boring place, with chairs lined up just like this, it should be on the football field. on the football field, here's the shear. He sits with all the kids around him. And he says, before we play football, we have to learn the rules of being a good football player and being a good Muslim. And they say what is the rules? What are the rules and then they listen, anybody who doesn't listen, doesn't get doesn't get to play football. That's how that's where you put it inside the donor. And I'm gonna give you examples of this. In fact, it is so fundamental in the Sunnah, from the Quran and

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Sunnah that you might not have recognized also, if Allah makes something Haram, he makes something highlighted where the desire of doing the Haram is fulfilled. So a human has a desire to commit Zina, Allah made marriage Hannah, a person has a desire to make money out of river ulimate business transactions Hana, and you can keep going through that. Pork is how long and beef is Hana. And then you see, for example, the province of aloha to cinema pleasurable funny, when Muslims are required.

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He said sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in either Navarra hadoken elements of the rally family will call for a younger element who has philomene Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that if any of you looks at someone who has been preferred and favored with more wealth, or more creation, maybe they're more handsome, maybe they're more stronger than younger, let them look at someone who has less than them. So the human desire is to want to be significant to be above others. This is the desire. So when they see people that have more it will may cause them to do harm. So the Prophet, civilize them fill your desire of wanting to be significant by looking at the people who have less than you. And so I

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give this example,

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Dr. Robin Vasa is not here this year. And you may have known of the fitness Allah tala, maybe you'll hear more about it than fitting in, that's happening in the US. And he was put in prison. And he was giving lectures here last year, he's not here this year. He has a wife, he has children, someone may say, Come to the conference, and they want they're not married, maybe they're 2730 years old, and they're not married.

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And they see people that are married, and they may say, Oh, I wasn't blessed, like this person may cause them to do harm. But if they really look at how much Allah subhanaw taala bless them, and they weren't tested, the way other people were tested, it's a cause for them to say at hamdulillah that Allah subhanaw taala protected this one person, and they actually have more than they recognize what other people might not happen. I'll give you another example human has a desire, especially guys have a desire to show off their muscles. I'm not sure about sisters, but you'll see the little kids amongst themselves the boys, though like you know, put their muscles out like It's like my muscles

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bigger than yours. And they will measure up their muscles. Human has a you know, they have this desire to want to be macho, to show their strength. So some people show their strength by getting anger angry faster than the other person. I'm so strong Look, I'm getting angry, and they get angry like this. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam said,

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this is narrated by Bukhari and Muslim Phil video sola laces Shanti, Devi, Saraswati, inertia de la de Emily kunafa. And he said that the shady the strong person is not the one who can wrestle other people. But the strong person is the one who controls themselves when they get angry. That is, the sign of someone being macho and tough and powerful, is that they're able to control themselves when they get angry. And so the human has a desire to show that strength, this is the way to fulfill it.

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Okay, now tools.

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This is called the pressure cooker theory. This comes from some of those people that talk about you know, how to change your life from Tony Robbins. And there's other people, he uses the example of a pressure cooker. There's a lot of people when you ask them, What do you want to change in your life, they'll say I want to lose weight. This is the most important thing in their entire life, in order to get to gender, something like that is the need to lose weight.

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Now, how does a person get to that point where they finally say, No, I'm not going to have this. I'm going to change my lifestyle. a pressure cooker is that so much pain accumulates on this person. People go you're fat, you're fat, you're fat. And then they get they for example, they see themselves in a video they're like, Oh, no, I look what am I I gotta do something. I'm gonna go running in the morning 20 miles and they they do this like, because there's so much pain as they start to lose weight. Then people say hey, you're not that fat anymore. They are not. And then they slow down. And that's called yo yo dieting. It's actually because the pain lessens and the person

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stops acting upon it and then they go

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Back then to pain accumulates, and then they return to their resolution. And then they keep going like this back and forth, back and forth. Now, I'll tell you, this, I gave you the example of how to do an amazing Dell project was to do social services. That was the focus of the profits on a lot incentive, if you didn't do it, if you went home and you didn't do it, what kind of pain would be would come upon you?

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You answer, no pain whatsoever. If you went home and didn't apply anything of what I said, no pain would come to you at all. And that's why you're not going to do it. For most of you, which is obvious. We have to be truthful, right? I'm saying this lecture and most people are not going to implement it. We're being truthful with ourselves. Because that's the first step to change. There is no pain attached to not doing a soup kitchen. No one's gonna get angry at us. No one's gonna say why didn't you do it? I'm not gonna phone you up and tell you hey, did you do this? I don't know your phone number anyway. Right. However, is

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further under hacking quick was saying yesterday

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that the Panama the hikma of the trials that we're going through that now after like, 911, we have like he said, three things we can either do. And Muslims have these different ways of replying, they either went and hid. They said, Please don't. I didn't do anything. They covered their face. They went home, someone knocked on the door, spy, get out of your house, go to jail, and they're already caught anyway. Right? So they couldn't do that you're gonna be pulled out of the crowd. Even if you try hiding. Right? Then you have the other side, people that tried to assimilate, they said, We are just like you non Muslims. We are Christians and Jews and English speaking at the same time. You

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know, but Muslims were actually was a confusion. As simulation doesn't work, they will even separate those people. So we're being pushed to teach people the truth. And some how to love the heck out of it. If you ever ask yourself, why is Allah doing this to us is to put it in the pressure cooker. So that we get up and say, yes, we do have to do something. Because if you don't make a difference, and if you don't speak Islam to the people, then they will tell you what your Islam is, and you will be harmed by it. And so you're being forced to stand up and say, I'm a Muslim, and this is what Islam is about.

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Okay.

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RPF rpm. R stands for results. P stands for purpose. M stands for method.

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Firstly, let's talk about a hook that a person wants to change.

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Here at the conference last year, I tested you, I tested you last year at the conference because I came here.

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And not too many people knew that I was going to be giving speeches. So I was testing you by how nice you were to me before you found out that I was the one giving the speeches. Right? Did I tell you the results of this last year you forget, I'm not going to tell you the results. But one thing I can tell you for sure, is that not only here, but in many places in Muslim communities. People who are new are not welcomed. People who are new are not welcome. Again, we have to be truthful with ourselves. If there's someone who came to this conference and knew no friends from before, they might go through all these days and meet no one unless they're the outgoing one. And these are the

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ones who start making connections. But usually no one will make connection to them. This is a bad follow. We have to be welcoming. Someone comes to the message. If you see the province on the license, someone became Muslim, immediately they're at the front of the crowd. People are learning this. He's telling them teach your brother about Islam. They're teaching him he goes back as a die. These are his first days in Islam. What do we do a lot of times the person is just quiet in the corner. So this is a follow up that we want to change. We want to become more welcoming to the people. How do we do it? Firstly, we want to resolve a specific goal that we want a specific goal,

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the specific goal number one is that at this conference, I want to make friends with two new people. Every single conference that I come to, I will make two new friends. Can you agree with me on this? Do you agree? Say inshallah. Okay, everybody says see now if every single person is sadistic in what they just said shala to. There would be an enormous amount of brotherhood in this room and in this entire conference, because everybody would be criss crossing who they made friends with. Okay, so we're gonna become welcoming people specific goal is to meet two people. How do we measure if we were successful in our connection with these people? The measurement Are you recording this in your

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minds because not too many people are writing in their paper.

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Again, being truthful.

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The measurement is if you make a connection with them after the conference, and you can say that if you email them once, after the conference, Brother Mohammed, you can email me and tell me, I did it. Okay, I fulfill the resolution. So that's the result. Those are specific results. We didn't say, I want to be a welcoming person, you will get nowhere like that. You have to say specifically, this is what I want to do this, I'm going to get this is my specific goal. How are we going to do it the purpose? Why do you want this? If you say, I want to make a million dollars, and you don't have Why do you want that? If there's no reason behind it, you won't do it, you have to have a very strong

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pain and pleasure Association for this. So number one, we heard that the Prophet said a lot. He said, I'm the ones most beloved to the Prophet, and obviously, therefore, most beloved to Allah are the ones who have the best quality. So if I do this, if I make two friends, and every year I do this, I have the best quote from all the people in the conference. That's a lot of pleasure involved. What about pain? Maybe you were new one year, and you know what it feels like to not have friends, you might still be in that situation. You see the pain involved in this. And so you associate, I don't want to be like that. I don't want to let anybody else feel like that. And what's

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interesting about this is that if you change and you start applying this and you start becoming welcoming to other people, you will start getting massive amounts of pleasure yourself, because you will meet so many new people that the conference and in fact, the panel, I've heard that this conference is very popular because of people welcoming others. And it's getting more popular because of that. Okay, now, how are you going to do it? I pay attention specifically to this one. How are you going to make these friends because I'm going to take you to account for this. Number one is after the lecture, you go and buy two packs of Smarties.

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Okay, two Smarties.

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And in the US we say m&ms in Canada This is why these

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two packs of Smarties one for one friend one for the other. You put one in your pocket the other one the other. Two Smarties, go up to someone that you do not know at all totally unique person and say, brother sister, here's a pack of Smarties for you. Brother Mama told me to give it to you. You give them the Smarties. It's a hadiah they'll say how much is cost? No, no, it's nothing. I just want to you know your mind Muslim brother. Here's the pack of Smarties and sisters are good at this. And I know they're making the resolutions also.

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She gives this packet Smarties. And then she says so where are you from? And now you hear the bio. Where are you from? Who's your daddy? Which then they'll say I'm from like, Chester, they're like lightest? Or you lie?

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It's Lester. Okay.

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Right. So you start taking out you gather their bio information, you start learning about them, as they say they're like, I'm not from here. And then you take the last result. You're not from the from here and you put a question mark, and they go Yeah, I'm from Leicester, Leicester, and you keep putting question marks like that every time they finish their sentence, put a question mark, question mark, question mark, and you will get massive amounts of information from them. Okay, so Smarties the gift, now you're getting their bio information, I want you to have dinner with them at least once. And you don't have to be alone with them that might be a little bit too intimate or

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something like that. Get your friends they get their friends. And Come on, let's have dinner together. Let's sit at the same table in the same area. And that's the dinner and one of the lectures sit beside them in one of the lectures hamdulillah there are many lectures that you get to apply this. Okay, so you made friends you found them. You gave them the idea. You sat with them for one dinner and you sat with them for one lecture. You got their email in the end, and you send them one email after the conference. That is a specific method.

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And I'm going again, I'm going to take you to count towards the end of the conference and the farewell advice. I will say how many people did it

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how many people I will ask you and I might give some artists to people who raise their hands.

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All right, in conclusion and show that there's like five minutes left, I'll give you a chance to ask questions this person.

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Just go home. Okay, here's the last point. You want to cultivate. You're full of also with yourself. If a person has weak follow up, and they're not practicing Islam. It's usually because they're not thankful to Allah azza wa jal, and when you see the root of the word cast it It comes from ungratefulness.

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And so an enormously important characteristic of the believer is to be shakin is to be thankful. So this is a specific thing that I want you to do. And inshallah tada you find the benefits of it. We know

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The sooner to say Alhamdulillah right after so I say Subhana Allah hum de la la Hadith but what I'm saying to you is that take five minutes of your day and sell hamdulillah even if you just say 33 times even 10 times, just do it and as you start doing it, you will find the benefits sale. hamdulillah and then say specifically, why you are thanking Allah. So you said hamdulillah for my Islam hamdulillah that I'm married, 100 Allah, that I have a beautiful car Mashallah

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Alhamdulillah that I'm alive, but hamdulillah that I have eyes to see hamdulillah that I was able to prefetcher in Jamaica today handler that I'm here saying and hamdulillah that's all you have to do. Just do that. And you will cultivate a thankfulness Alonzo dead, and that in turn, will help you to come close to Allah azza wa jal in all your actions and even in your follow up will increase and move you on to learn the protocol of the prophets of Allah Allah.

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And in conclusion, may Allah subhanaw taala make us from those who listen to the statements and follow the best of what is heard. Amina May Allah subhanaw taala not make us from those who listen and don't practice what we hear

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from the cachito learn stuff. Today, Santa Monica,

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Santa Monica, everyone remain seated, and is few nonsense we made about seminars. I'd like to thank you, brother

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for his inviting words. And just like to remind everyone, don't buy the Smarties. Because the weather is too hot, they might melt in your pocket to change Smarties.

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May Allah place these words in his mouth, his parents could teach and blessing both in the studio and can please remain seated. Once we make the announcement.

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As you can see, we have a lot more people than we can accommodate in the event. And that's why we had to put a ceiling on how many applicants can can participate in the event. No matter what whatever ceiling we put in, there are still day trippers coming as well people who turn up on the day. So there are always going to be unfortunately some people brothers and sisters who cannot get seats in the hall to listen to the lectures properly. All the marquees are full, all the rooms are full, everything is full all over the place. So apologies for that you can't be helped. So unless you go in as a foreigner, first come first serve basis, you might find yourself I'll be able to get

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in and listen to the lectures and so forth. Having said that, for the next session is going to be the the seminars.

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If this thing works, otherwise, let me just mention.

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As we mentioned by name there are three seminars happening in parallel. There is the practical, dour seminar. If somebody can come and fix the flash while I'm talking they'll be helpful as well. So there's a practical Dao seminar conducted by Shabbir Ali, there is a righteous family seminar conducted primarily at this stage by Dr. Mundo and there is a social ills and accused seminar and all three seminars happen in parallel at the same time.

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So three seminars and we have to decide where to go to inshallah the first seminar practical dour is going to happen at Digby Hall, which is the furthest from this place. degree Hall by the single brothers are staying men only for about 10 to 15 minutes walk depending on how fast or slow we walk to dig the hole is for the seminar a for practical our

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where Shabbir Ali will be taking it. As for the righteous family it's going to be in Gilbert Murray inshallah tada at this stage if you didn't see the notice May I request the sisters, sisters please pay attention. All the sisters in Gilbert Marie Hall should remain seated for the next 10 minutes and not vacate the hall while we while the brothers shift around. And No brother should be mingling around outside after 10 minutes from now either. So the seminar be on righteous family happens at Gilbert Murray conducted by Dr. Mundo. So brothers who want to go to the righteous family seminar as soon as the announcement is over, you can't really take a proper break. Maybe 1015 minutes but you

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have to be at Gilbert Murray on time for a 430 start, and on a first come first serve basis as far as the seats are concerned. And the final seminar seminar