Marriage NOT APPROVED – For Cultural Reasons

I said what's your advice to a Muslim who wants to marry someone who the parents do not approve on based maybe on cultural or social reasons. We firstly have tried, I'm sure you're aware of myself, I'm sure of yourselves and so many other scholars and many people, we have tried to educate the parents to say that Islam, there is no racism, tribalism, culturalism, even nationality and so on. If there is general Kapha general similarity say you are brought up in Kenya, and you belong to different groups, in terms of race or in terms of ethnicity in terms of tribe, the fact that you have a general similarity

in upbringing is very,

is the mere

fact that you have similarity. He's actually

the Kufa That's enough,

the rest of it

is from men, not from Allah and His Rasul. So, we would educate the parents to start with secondly is speak to your parents engage them, convinced them, listen to what they are saying sometimes they are right. Sometimes the person may not be

the one who may look after you, but never is the line drawn based on race or based on background and ethnicity. Rather, it is drawn on Takua on a HELOC, on Dean, Dean and a HELOC. Basically, if the person has Dean over level and a HELOC of a level, then Alhamdulillah, it's really, you know, sufficient, we normally say, if someone can afford it, they are responsible, they have Dean and o'clock let it be if both of them are interested in Sharla. So when parents refuse, we need to engage them today, someone actually sent me a message while we were coming here to say my parents are not happy. They want this person to have a certain type of a job before they can marry me. So I

the answer that I would have is either convince your parents or convince that person to say get this type of a job, or convince your parents I mean, what else would you like to do? Maybe you can get a respectable person to talk to your parents, to educate them to say, look, you know, if the man is responsible, then let it be sometimes, because we develop a haram relationship. When we develop a haram relationship, what happens is the that connection makes us blinded to the reality of the person.

See what I'm saying? When you develop a haram relationship, you can't see this person is not responsible, you can't see that this person is actually

not worth being the father of my children, because you are blinded by a haram relationship. So inshallah if it is halal, and if it is done in a good way, I'm sure we will be able to achieve much more in terms of convincing now BarakAllahu Sheikh, you mentioned a point that if a sister sees as a brother and she see us she sees a potential husband and a potential spouse, there is some guidance that you gave, that she should always go to only more and also seek the guidance of only alamode. Maybe if you could explain who what what you're referring to, when you say only Alomar. Firstly, it is the Father. The Father is the ultimate Willie, he's the Guardian, Allah chose that father to be

your father. There's no replacement. But in the case where the father has passed away, or he is not available, in some cases, maybe he is unreasonable, then you can go to the coffee, or you can go to the next May relative and Uncle perhaps if it's an older person who has a son, who is already an adult than the adult, that adult son would take that place. So the reason is, they shouldn't get conned and duped by men and people out there into a scenario that they will regret. So you need someone around you who will be that protective figure from your side, when a woman is getting married. And the man knows. The husband knows that this woman has a circle of males who I dare

crossed the line. It makes it much more interesting because if she is respected, she has fathers brothers and so on, who are there and you know, they just have to greet the son in laws and Mr. Lakeman he knows Hey, I can't really mess with her. But if you are going to do things on your own, chances are that you may be abused. It has happened and it continues happening where in some people, when they do things all on their own, they are abused and they don't even realize sometimes they they it's too late in the day and they feel

We can't come back that's when we say earlier OMO Islam has made it a duty for those who are the earlier and the guardians and the the ones who are the Emir of the home to look after those who are under their responsibility