Living Islam – Khutbatul Wada’a #09

Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala sherfield MBA will mousseline Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa seldom at the Sleeman, Kathira and cathedra from Nevada my brothers and sisters.

With regard with respect to the cold water, whether the Federal officer likes or send them during his Hajj, we are looking at the advice that he gave us, for us to follow for our own benefit. And in that view, we're looking at what also relies on Salam advised us with respect to his by advise the men with respect to the women.

And

in the last class, I mentioned the Hadith in the mother and Timothy, where Rasulillah Salam Salam delineated and described the rights of the man and the women.

Now very important for us to understand that we live in a world today, where thanks to the anti Islam propaganda, Islamophobes and the orientalist and so on.

Islam has been falsely blamed for being misogynistic, for allegedly being misogynistic for allergy Lee.

Not giving women the rights for allegedly oppressing women and so on. Now, all of this is completely false propaganda. As I mentioned to you, I gave you evidence of this in, in the last class, specific evidence of women as scholars of Islam, for example, one of the

one of the most modern and most

categorical evidence, pieces of evidence

about the position of women as scholars in Islam is the wonderful, absolutely seminal fundamental work of our teacher, our

outstanding

chef, Dr. Akram nadwi. Dannenberg got home from Oxford, who, who wrote this book, called Alma Hadith that the female teachers of Hadith. And there's a whole story about how he came to that and so on and so forth. I won't go into that here. However, I will say that this book is a collection of the short biographies of the women teachers of Hadith alone, he's not talking about the, he's not saying women scholars, meaning scholars of Quran and, and faith and so on only Hadith female scholars of Hadith.

The book is in 50, volumes, five zero volumes and covers the

lives of 9000 women.

It has a an introductory book called called the Mocha demon. That introduction, that introduction has been translated into English, the whole book is in Arabic. And that introduction is 300 pages long. Dr. Agron told me that, he said, I stopped the research, not because I ran out of people, but because my publisher said to me, nobody's going to publish it and nobody's going to read this. It is already 50 volumes, the Hamdulillah, Allah subhanaw taala

creates the ways and this book has been published, it has been published by the by the by the ruler of Morocco,

by the government of Morocco, and 100 rights available to those who want to read it most welcome. It's one of those wonderful works of research which shows categorically

to every islamophobe on the face of the earth, that Islam has always always always given women, the highest status and there is no opportunity that has been the door of which has been shut. For anyone, anyone who wants to aspire to anything, any Muslim woman wants to aspire for anything keeping within the boundaries of Islam, there is nothing that is bad for her nothing that is bad for her, she can excel in any field in the world, and this is this is without exception. So, as I told you the one of the examples very clear.

I want to say here that it is therefore essential not to fall into the trap of false ideas, which promotes slavery in the name of freedom.

Now feminism is one of the most insidious tactics of the to take women out of the house and

into the workforce and give them this false sense of

false sense of, you know, of prominence and appreciation or whatever we want to call it.

Guiding or hiding the fact that feminism is actually slid

Every two men is another form of masculine dominance of women.

And lots of handled data made the woman in the end this is a across all women in law made all the women and of course we're talking here about Muslim women unless we made

the one independent. Allah made the woman honorable and limited the woman powerful.

Islam gave the woman the role of the molder of the next generation, the one who raises the next generation.

Anyone who wants to extend that for whatever job that you want to do.

Seriously, must must think about this right and see Is it really something that is worth doing or not?

Allah subhanaw taala laws strengthen the family that is a fundamental unit of society. In Islam, the woman is given

her independent status.

In Islam, the woman is not a part of the man she is not she doesn't compliment the man as in making him whole or making sure he doesn't make her hold. She's holding herself, she is complete in herself, she can be and is the owner of all her own property over which the man has no control over is the man has no say she is independent, she inherits she can be quit. In every respect. Her Amal her actions are her own, the measure the reward for that is her own. Nobody takes it from her. And it doesn't happen because of her husband or because of a father, brother, son world, or the men in her family. They are men in her family. And she has rights on them, they have rights on her, she has

duties towards them, they have duties towards that and so on. It's a

it is a partnership of, of equity, it is not equality, because equality is injustice, to make one equal to the other in every respect,

is injustice. Because each person comes with their own strengths. And areas in which they do not have those things to make them all do the same thing is ridiculous. So Islam promotes the strengths and says these are the strengths of the female. And therefore this is a primary responsibility. But she's Welcome to do anything else. These are the strengths of the male. And so therefore, this is his primary responsibility. But he's welcome to do anything else. And they both collaborate and cooperate as far as the marriage is concerned.

So Islam places a huge

emphasis on the family. For this reason, because the family is the fundamental unit of society today, what we see in the West is the family has been broken, right? completely scattered. And this is a huge, huge problem. As far as society is concerned, and believe me, this is nothing to do with Muslims. This is a problem for everybody in society. Go talk to people. I mean, until I participate in so many interfaith interfaith meetings and interfaith groups, I'm a member of so many interfaith groups, everybody's got the same problem, believe me,

everyone has the same problem. And all of it comes down to the breakdown of the family, as the fundamental unit of society

is being given a, you know, a false name of freedom, it is not freedom. It is, it is not freedom it is.

You know, it's, it's amazing to me what to do.

Now, therefore, it's not a question of male superiority. It's a it's a question of role, clarity. Allah subhanaw taala has not distinguished between the genders with respect to reward. Both have the same reward with special considerations given for the women which men do not have. So this is a law which is favoring the woman or the man in strict religious matters, right?

It's not as I said, Because equality between differently endowed people is unjust, and therefore Islam does not do that. Now, let me say a few words about the rights of parents because this is against something very important that

that Islam promotes and it's part of the same family rules. It is a right of parents that they must be obeyed in all legitimate and legal things and must be served with great love and kindness even if they are not Muslim. Parents must be obeyed, whether they are Muslim or not, in all legitimate matters, and must be respected at all times, irrespective of whether they're Muslim or not.

Parents must be obeyed and served

simply because they are parents, even if they are not pious and not kind and so on and so forth. But if they ordered children to disobey Allah subhanaw taala in any way and to disobey Rasul Allah instead of Salah in any way then they must not be obeyed, they must be disobeyed. Allah Subhana Allah said was saying that insanity wildly they have a lot to move on and either one of you saw Luffy Ommaney and his score li while he validates Lal Matsu ALLAH SubhanA data set And We have enjoined on man to be dutiful and good to his parents, his mother bought him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship. And his winning is in two years, give thanks to me to your

parents, to give thanks to me and your parents, unto me is the final destination. So now

if the parents on the other hand

try to force you to disobey Allah, right if they try to force the sons to shave their beards and they try to force the daughters to remove the hijab, then this must not be they will not be obeyed in those respects. Allah said was Cena Linsanity Wally de Olsen and we're in Jaha Dhaka Lee to Shika be ma la Celica here, Paula to their Houma, la el fala, to their Houma, la Yamaji are open for one of bukhoma Quantum Dharma loan. And let's run a data set And We have enjoined on man to be good and dutiful to his parents. But if they strive to make you join with me, in worship anything as a partner, of which you have no knowledge, then do not obey them. Do not obey them, Allah to do your

homework, and I say do not make them that unto me is your return and I shall tell you what you used to do. And there are many, a hadith about the excellence of parents, some of which we have all heard about and may Allah give us the Tofik

to pay attention to them.

For example, I lost my son I'm sad and under the mother's feet is Jana and the Father is the door to the Jana. The parents are both doors to gender the father is the middle door of Jana. When one door when one of them dies, one door shuts when the other days, the other door shuts. The way to keep those doors open is to take their dua while they are alive. To serve parents is not in the sun on them. It is our duty because they brought us up and they sacrificed everything for us. And that is the reason why is that God is not payable to the parents. A man came to realize our asylum and he asked Is it yours or not? I carried my mother on my back for Hajj. Have I fulfilled her right on me?

He is Allahu alayhi salam replied, You have not even paid paid her back for one contraction pain that she suffered while she gave you birth.

So the question of finishing with your parents and repaying their goodness and now you are free of them. This is a very, very wrong and

ridiculous concept, which Islam does not support. Another man came when he complained to me. And he said yeah, Rasul Allah and Allah I send them. My father takes my money from the pocket of my throat, and he spends it. And then I am in in an embarrassing situation, when I go to the market and so on. Please tell him not to do that. As soon as I listen, I'm sad for the Father. The person who went to call the father he told him Your son is there this is what he has been saying. So the father decided some words of poetry on on his way. Coming to the doors of Salem. We basically we said that I did everything for him and this is what he is. This is how He is complaining

about me, Allah subhanho wa Taala sent Jubilee salam to Roswell as a reseller with those words of poetry. So when the man came, rasuna knew what he had been saying.

So Surah Surah Salam said to his son, if your father takes you into the market and sells you as a slave, that is right.

Your father owns you, and he owns everything that you own.

Right, so don't complain.

Later on, privately, he told the father don't take the money without asking because it embarrasses the son.

But he did not tell him that it is not permissible. He didn't say he didn't tell him this is haram you should not do it. He just said as an advice. You know, let let him know that you are taking the money.

You don't have to ask his permission for that. But if you suddenly you know, he goes into the market. He puts his hand in the pocket. There's no money. It's embarrassing for him. Don't put him in that situation. Right. So this is very important for us brothers.

that what the

honor and position of the parents is another very important. There was a young man

who was dying. And they came to visit a Salaam and they said, Yeah.

This man is dying is in terrible pain in Starcraft. He is unable to his his resume is not coming out using his suffering. So Rosa went there and he asked him, he asked the people, he said, does he have his bed on his bed? And so like, they said, his father has passed away, but the mother is the mother Mother is living somewhere else. Why is he living somewhere else?

These are because this boy, this young man has not been good to her. And so she left him and she's one of Sol, sol, sol, sol Sol and said go to her and request her to forgive her son. That is the reason why his soul is not coming out. That's why he's suffering while he's dying.

So they went and they said to her, she said, I refuse to forgive him. He has called me too much of pain. Whatever is happening.

They came back this year. So this is what she's saying. She does not want to forgive it. That's all I'm saying. In that case, bring firewood.

And he said, I am going to burn him.

This is your Salah, you will burn him alive. This is not dead yet. He said yes. I will burn him alive because if in the hope that Allah will not burn him when he dies.

Unless his mother forgives him, he will go to Jana.

So they were there under the mother, they said look, this is what is happening here. So seldom is going to burn your son.

So, I mean, the mother is the mother, the lady, she relented and she said okay, I forgive him. And she went, she came there and she told us well as Michelle jasola For me, I probably won't be motivated. Now, very, very important for us to understand is don't put yourself in that situation. First and foremost, number two, may Allah protect us of ourselves if you did that, if you are not good to your parents to the parents have passed away. Now what do you do?

If you want to stay out of Jannah what you do now is you make sincere is the foreign toward Allah subhanaw taala

weep tears deferral must beg a lot of forgive you and then you give and continue to give till your last day sadaqa for your parents sadaqa in the name of your parents and do for example Kobani in their name,

will here it will

do for example,

hajj and umrah for them. Right and continue to do this and continue to beg Allah subhanaw taala for forgiveness in the hope that inshallah Allah subhanaw taala forgive you please understand, this is not some kind of, I'm not giving you an loophole to escape, right? We do not know if after all this also Allah can and Allah has the right to punish you. If you have been bad to your parents, please understand this. Right? This is not a

I'm not giving you some kind of,

you know, pardon? Nobody parlons except Allah subhanaw taala. I'm just telling you what so as I said, I'm set to the side where somebody asked if this is what I did what he said do this. And he also didn't say Allah will forgive me which I do this in the hope that Allah will forgive, that let us be very clear in our minds don't against what Allah subhanaw taala has given us is the parents are a great namah let us appreciate them, let us be good to them. Let us try to maximize the benefit of having our parents in our lives.

Despite all of this, if parents tell you to disobey Allah subhanaw taala then it is your duty not to obey them. But then you don't you don't disobey them with with you know, with being important to them or being rude to them. No, very politely but don't do it.

They say don't go to the masjid to shave your beard. Right? Deal in interest, take loans and buy buy houses or cars or whatever. They take the if they tell the girls take off the hijab, whatever, which is disobedience to Allah subhanho wa Taala or against the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, your duty is not to obey them, but to obey Allah subhanaw taala there is no obedience to the slave in the disobedience of the creator of the slave. So please understand this and this is the result of some

very, very sad that today. We have many situations especially among the wealthy, where parents are instead of being a blessing, they're actually a curse of the children because they introduce their children to clubs and introduce their children to alcohol and into their children to gambling. And they introduced children to smoking cigarettes and so on. All in the name of you know, for being sophisticated and whatnot. Please understand if you

if you teach children to be disobedient Allah

subhanho wa Taala it is going to come home to roost and one day those same children are going to disobey you and in your old age you are going to live and die without honor and without compassion from your own children. And then whatever happens to you later is with Allah subhanaw taala is upon us Martha. So please do not

do not teach children to be disobedient to Allah subhanaw taala

being members of clubs which are which have bars in them which have

gambling rooms in them, this is haram in Islam. Get out of it, if you are already there resign live, you don't want to die with that with your name in the membership of that club. Please understand club membership is shareholding club membership is not like paying a fee to use a facility.

Club membership is shareholding even if you are not using the facility that the club provides for whoever wants to use it. You are a shareholder in that whole thing.

And your your your fee that you are paying the club subscription is is going part of it is going to pay for that haram activity. You are responsible.

Just think about this.

For example, some people have this argument I am I am I am a member of this club because I like to use the gym I use only the gym.

Right? What is the difference between being a gym member within a gym now everywhere in the world all over every city, I'm a member of just the gym, a member of this particular gym, whatever it is, right.

As opposed to being a member of a club in which there is a gym. The difference is that the membership of the gym that you are doing is an is a weekly or monthly or annual subscription that you are paying tomorrow if that gym is closed down and it is liquidated, you will not get anything from from the proceeds of that sale of the gym, the shareholders in the gym, whoever owns that gym will be given the proceeds of the sale of that gym. Right? Now similarly, if there is a gym in a hotel, and you're using that tomorrow, the hotel is sore, you don't get anything from them.

The proceeds of the sale of the hotel will go to whoever owns the hotel, whoever other shareholders in that hotel company. Whereas in a club,

when you are a member of a club, you are a shareholder in that club, meaning that tomorrow if that club is sold,

it may not happen for 1000 years, it doesn't matter you are a shareholder.

If that lab is sold tomorrow, you will get a part of the proceeds of that sale.

Right you will get a part of the proceeds of that sale.

May Allah bless one of my dear friends, he was a lawyer he wasn't he was he was an attorney. He was a he was a barrister from England,

from Cambridge, who mentioned this to me in a different way. But the I understood that

I was one of I was a member of one of the most exclusive clubs in India

used to call the club the bar because the only way you could get in was if somebody died.

So I was proposed and second and whatnot by somebody high society people. And

I was accepted. I was a member of the club. And everybody thought oh my fantastic what a wonderful thing. Oh is a huge honor to be a member of this club. And I was very happy at that time I didn't realize what what I what I was in.

And one of the benefits of that club was at that level was is based in one of the most beautiful hill stations used to be one of those beautiful stations in India and it has very nice chambers, very nice rooms, which the club charges that absolute pittance as the rental for those rooms. So if I wanted to have for example, if I wanted to go for a holiday to that hill station to that beautiful place, and if I want to battle or equal accommodation, I would have had to stay in a big five star hotel and pay through my nose where I got the same accommodation and so on in this club for next to nothing. So it was a wonderful thing

until I met this friend of mine and he told when he heard about the membership he told me Oh congratulations fantastic. He said never resign that membership no matter what happens. So I said why? I mean you know he said he was so impassioned I said look I'm in the club members, you will no no he said do not realize he said you are as a member you are a shareholder in the club.

And that property where the club is located is worth millions. So if and when that club whenever it is, he said you can bequeath this to your children if if and when that club is sold. You will get a

Huge amount of money so never designed the membership of that club.

And that's what I that's when I realized what it what I was into.

So I promptly went and design the membership of the club.

Right? Please, I'm not telling you to do something which I have not done, I've done the same thing. Do it now.

Do it now. You don't want to remember what I'm telling you now, when you stand before Allah subhanaw taala

because there is no return from that place.

That please understand this very clearly.

So,

obedience to parents is conditional upon the parents

directing you to do something

which is permissible by Allah subhanaw taala.

If something is not permissible by Allah subhanaw taala

then it is not your

it is directed you are directed not to obey that. But of course, with respect you do not

You're not impertinent you're not being disrespectful to them. Even if they are non Muslim parents.

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which is the second blowing of the trumpet on the Day of Judgment. That day, a man shall flee from his brother, he will run away from his brother.

Yo my affair role model mean he was our he but he will money and he will flee from his brother, but only he will be. He will free from his mother and father, and he will flee from his wife and his children. Every man that they will have enough to make him careless of others. His own he will be so concerned and worried about himself that he will not bother what anybody else. Some faces that Day will be bright, laughing rejoicing at the good news of Jana and other faces that Day will be dust stained. Darkness will cover them and such will be the disbelievers

and the

father, Guevara will find the ones who are disbelieving and the ones who are wicked and evil doers. Right? My brothers and sisters

let us be very clear in our minds. Allah subhanho wa Taala has no friends, Allah has no relatives, Allah has no family. Allah is Allah

laser committed to he show you who was available See, Allah Jalla wa Allah Allah della said he is unlike anything in Greece

and he is the one who sees everything and he is the one who knows everything.

And he hears everything. So let us be very clear in our minds that

our salvation lies in not playing games with Allah, but in obeying Allah subhanaw taala.

There is no friend with Allah because there is friendship implies equality. Nobody is equal to Allah.

Right? No one. We have Allah and we have a flow in the backlog with everyone from rasool Allah Azza wa sallam, down to the lowest,

from the highest, to the lowest. They're all McLachlan was marathon. Animate inanimate, living, not living whatever.

And Allah is alone, and Allah is supreme, and there is nothing like a muscle. This is the essence of our belief. This is the essence of our diet.

And that's the reason why it is very important for us to keep this in mind and not get sidetracked

and not mix up obedience of others to the into the obedience of Allah subhanaw taala on the Day of Judgment, only one thing will count and that is did we obey Allah?

The best way to ensure that we obey Allah is to do what was done

laser lights and them used to do

the Sunnah of Rasulullah he satellites and this is the

this is the secret if you want of the obedience to almost monitor how do I know I'm obeying Allah? If I'm I know I'm obeying Allah if I'm following the Sunnah of Muhammad

Sallallahu

if I'm following a sunnah I'm obeying Allah if I'm not following a Salah and not obeying Allah, it is as simple as that.

Right? So let us be very clear in our minds, don't get distracted, don't get sidetracked don't fall into the trap of obeying this one and that one and this leader and that leader, this guru, and that's why me and this pier and this shirt and this motion and this teacher know

if they are telling you something which is in line with what Allah subhanaw taala ordered, which means that if they are telling you something, which is according to the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam please obey them no problem. But then effectively why obey your obeying the Rasul Allah Salam, if they tell you something, which is against the obedience other than what are some of us are seldom used to do or say, then don't go near them?

This disobeying Allah subhanaw taala told us not even to obey our parents, if they tell us to do something which is against the Quran and Sunnah. So who is anybody else?

Ask Allah subhanaw taala

to be pleased with you and never to be displeased with some of our IV cream while he was serving as members