Marriage 12 Wifes Rights Upon Husbands Part 5

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She says that she had after me Please say ash haddou

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La

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Ilaha

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Illa ma

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well ash

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and

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Mohammedan

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Rasulullah

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Now let's do the English here witness

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that there is no deity

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worthy of our worship.

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Well worthy of your worship but Allah

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and I bear witness

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that Muhammad

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is the Messenger

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of Allah, Masha Allah,

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Allah.

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Allah

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in hamdulillah Nakamoto who want to stay in who want to stop for

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one hour we live in in Shoreham, fusina Ponce, er Melina

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Maria de la vous phenomena.

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Woman, Lil feller, her de la

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Chateau La ilaha illallah wa sallahu luxury Kala

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Mohammedan Abdullah who wore a suit of brothers and sisters in Islam as salamati warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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This is the 12 number 12 theology lecture of the series love marriage and divorce for colossae and inshallah, tonight we will conclude the final rites of our life upon her husband, and then we will move on in Sharla talking about the wife and what she owes her husband in that relationship.

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And in fact, a lot of the things just for your information that we said especially once it comes to his first Malaysia being kind to one another is kind of shaved right here.

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And when we say the husband has to be kind, also the wife has to be kind, when we say that the husband cannot, you know, reveal the private secrets or the things which are private between him and his wife. This also applies to the wife that she should not be revealing the secrets of the relationship to other people.

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Tonight inshallah, let's begin with this woman host nilesh.

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Tati

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Jani one of the ways to show that you're kind and you're nice to your spouse. And to tell you Papa

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Jani, Papa Papa are they go through certain feelings? You must be willing to accommodate this woman here at work and this is why they are very testy for men. They go through a lot of change. Just think about it. physical change in merata day Hi telefone Hi.

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Jani. When she reaches the age of puberty, she has a different way of having puberty, blood coming out, which changes her body and then during the time she cannot pray, she cannot.

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Fast she cannot do certain acts of worship, which affects her Eman allows her Eman to go down. Then she is more exposed to fitna than you you know when we don't pray you feel weird? Especially the brothers who Mashallah they keep up with the Salah you know when you stop praying or when the time of the Salah is delayed, you begin what you feel anxious, you feel. Imagine the sister they have to stop praying for almost seven days. Some of them seven days. Some of them go up to 10 days. And then guess what? When she gets married, then she goes through pregnancy

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carrying things her period stops and then she ends up with that load. She's walking around for nine months. They will pay for Look how the Quran express this hemella to

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Quran Baba, guru ha yeah, the data it's not fun, and then look how they deliver

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And then after they deliver, they end up bleeding for 40 days. They go through a lot of psychological and then breastfeeding. Imagine they begin having milk in the breast, and then they have to press. So women they go a lot of changes. That is why men asuna radziwill article will tell you

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that when she is emotional, you have a way of dealing with that, that you accommodate her feelings. Jani an alcoholic and bottle and fill them in as soon as I want to be you. This is the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Look how he was Jani word The sooner in America say what tirmidhi manhatten acid mnemonic or Viola one? Well howdy, Santa Rosa. Hey, Sophia. mahana started crying. One day, who Sophia, the wife of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Omen? momineen been to a ignore why she's crying? Because hafsa said to her Yeah, yeah. bintelli yahudi You are the daughter of a yachtie Tabata columbiana have sala de la no movie, the economy your family business object.

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When you have multiple wives. Certainly there is Yani

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you need help you okay?

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You need help.

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You're good. Can somebody see if you need help, any This is something that happens between the wives and so forth. inshallah. So, here is I was also allowed to sell them. How did he handle the situation?

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Sophia, God. And hafsa have said to me, yeah, I didn't tell you who the Oh yeah. Who do you love? Yeah, who do you argue for Allah? Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam warmer, you Kiki?

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Look, why are you crying? Voila. He left and kidnap una de

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Your father is a prophet. Well, I'm mocking Eddie. And your uncle is a prophet. When Tita Kennedy and you are a wife of abrupt.

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Change. Man, Mousavi. Whoa, whoa, Jani. Your father is Muslim.

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It seems from the Hadith that her lineage goes back to Musashi, Salah, and your uncle is home. And you are the wife of Prophet who are they? Who are they? Who then he looked at hafsa wirkkala Hi, I have

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heard horror

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that you're able to accommodate the feelings of of the war and the damage that has occurred is an area over the national agenda. Those ignorant people who try to take misconceptions about Islam they say look at your religion allows you to lie. Sharia tuna allowed us to lie to accommodate our wives.

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Have you

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been to

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muku Nabi sallallahu wasallam a poly selasa to mean al Qaeda, Al Qaeda. There are three types of lies that are not considered lies a cannibal Rajamouli is

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that you lie to your wife, but you lie to your wife in what sense now? In what way you lie to your wife not to devour her rights not to abuse her you lie to her in the sense of

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flirting with her

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and teach me little jameelah You are the most beautiful you are your food is wonderful that time Oh, in order to accommodate in order to make her happy and know that because some of the men sometimes they say well my wife is not pretty if I tell her she's prettier than I am what her lying

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This is not a lot go ahead and do it this is not a lot why to make use your spouse happy but again I want to warn the brothers don't go unlike your wives to take away their money stuff like that. This has nothing to do with devouring the rights who will evaluate min min min min Harmon el Caribe hoonah almario yanagida

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Jani you have to say something which can carry what can carry both meanings and two meanings but straight lie. It is not permissible. One of the other things brothers and sisters in Islam that the husband can do which is really important.

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I think for

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problem that the husbands have when they need him speak. And his wife tells him this is a mistake. Okay? Who are lucky bro?

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The one lucky bride arrogance and bride. And He never says I'm sorry I made a mistake. Rest assured that if you say that word your wife will lie, your status in her eyes in her heart will increase. Rather than No, I'm right. I'm right, I made the right decision. Let's go to your wife and say, You know what? I you know, when I said this thing, when I took that decision about moving on about getting the job, I think I made a mistake. You know, I should have listened to your advice I should have that kind of thing brings about good relationship, but don't just act like a dictator. And as if you're receiving revelation and everything that you do is what is true and correct. Yeah. And

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when you feel like a mistake was committed, was made because of a decision that you made. Admit it, confess it, this will increase your status in the sight of people. Yeah. And Andrea has an obligation. Oh, another situation right here in Lima. Vanessa, Allah Allah.

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Allah Allah salatu salam took Sophia

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to him with him to one of the battlefields and they are in the way back. Sophia can a delayed see she was late in catching up with the pharaohs also la sala here is the army and he's responsible. He's responsible for the oma but his wife is what was late catching up from a distance of a arrived with her camel and she is crying with a voice that can be heard when he attempt t faqad. Allah sakala Hannah you Kiki, why are you crying? Look, look what she said. Hamilton, Jada, Aaron, Buffy shuffle, Caleb Chewbacca. Imagine the situation of the processes of mirrors. The army is about to leave. He's responsible for the oma and his wife is late.

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Arriving emotional women are emotional. That's the way that they do. Okay, you given me a slow a slow camel at that camel. It's you I made because of you. And she's speaking to the prophet SAW some

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better.

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USC shoot em safavieh D IE Look, look sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wiping her tears like this. No problem. No problem. No problem. You made it that hamdulillah let's go on check.

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If you want your marriage to carry on I'm telling you that's what you have to do. You stand up and you throw fit over this law. I'm telling you it's a matter of time before you what it tells you let's go to the shift to get divorce.

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Also I shall have the law of another prophet sallallahu Sallam used to say I shall have the law says can comm is a Muslim that when she gets sick This is a time when you know the husband needs to show more compassion nor affection is your Salah if you if you give her a PA o Ayesha Taku Taku Elijah says aloha no no minimum color. Karina Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam either married or hadn't been live at NASA la he'd been more aware that Oh, when did you do this to your wife? When any of the family members of the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam would get upset Rasul Allah wa sallam would go and he would recite in a way that

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Salah Venus Williams, dancehall Asian or yada yada he would place his hand on the sick person Allahumma robinus as a hidden bass is free and the share fee less if she felt she felt like

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we need to do that. Yeah. When your wife gets upset, don't just did you go to the doctor? Why? All right, go tomorrow. Solomonic we'll go to the other room. Let me inform you and show show that you can Jani. Another thing is when the women in particular who have the Subhanallah Jani, one of the deviation that you find in the Jewish tradition. When the woman is having her cycle. The Jews By the way, according to the Sharia law, you act with Luna they do not eat with her. They she stays away as if she is what

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impure our Sharia is different. The interpersonal tea you can have intercourse I mean you can have Gmail of one. You can have your wife as long as you do not have any intercourse.

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Nabi sallallahu wasallam when his wife is hired when his wife has her menses

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He used to yoga is our journey make sure that there is a barrier that there is no intercourse and he used to have his wife Jani

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and so forth. I asked her to pool Ghana Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Yes Take up Adriana.

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When I'm having my men's my cycle Rasul Allah used to sit and lay down in my lap. Oh, for Heather I'm about to because this is a time when the woman feels What? A little bit disgusted with herself. I don't understand this. She's bleeding man blood is coming out. Now you as a husband, you should show more affection and more love to her. And here is how the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam used to do this

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woman host village it is a way to show love and affection and kindness to your wife and to Kim Allah

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that you treat her family members will Michelle Hannah Tobago

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mother my mother in law's a nuclear bomb we were we were brought up with this culture if one lady messed up one lady messed up the these movies that we used to watch when you know these two teachers your mother in law is your enemy the young I want to ask you a question How would you like your wife to treat your family your father mother how Wouldn't you like her to treat them well

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yes or no?

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a limit of 15

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will scale Color Fill whoa yeah and you want to be kinda nice to your family and at the same time you mean to her family law abiding min min min min min min min. Carmen when a person is grateful to the family of his wife, in a way because they given you a good decent wife, a good wife, Santa took him Allah and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam used to do this even he used to do this with with with a wife who passed away. Yeah, and you know the status of Khadija in the heart of the Prophet sallallahu

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Ala Moana to extend to the extent that I saw the law and I used to say what a law he meant to me and I hadn't I mean, he said,

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By Allah, I have never been jealous from any of the wives of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam. The way that I'm jealous from Khadija tabula is Khadija and Khadija.

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And later on, when she brought this up to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said Dr Ayesha

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Yosh, Allah has placed her her love in my heart. But look how the Prophet I Khadija is dead. The book how the profits or loss and how we use to treat our body.

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The Friends of Khadija

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Mashallah not her family members, her friends, when he used to have a sheep or something and slaughter it. And he would ask how

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did you give some to the Friends of Khadija? Hello, Khadija olana used to have a sister Her name is Hannah,

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Hannah her name and Subhanallah Yanni Her voice was so similar to the voice of Khadija and also Salam always used to recognize your voice, when he is sitting at home and he would hear her outside speaking right away or I would

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call her, come on in come invite her to the House of Commons, a crumb, Yanni, you as a husband, show respect, show kindness, and this will increase your credit with your wife. When your wife sees that you're good to her family. She will love you for this. She will respect you for this. You see, after all, you're trying to make up with your wives.

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The last thing is your allowance. It comes with a man you know sometimes with travel, you you leave the house you leave the home. But how do you travel? Yeah, Annie, the student that teaches us cannot be Muslim.

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Look Rasul Allah, Allah Allah says, men are Radha Yousef. Leah Kula. Many of us live as the akula who lead the lead of the

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ministry on a phone when there is somebody traveling leaving. What do you say to him? You go and tell him what

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many are.

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Allah, Dina, where I'm at,

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to

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make sure that you take care of your religion,

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DNA and your interest and always think about the

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Last Dean Danny Baker and the person who's traveling should say what I still do comme la la de la tada Yo Yo I'm leaving you as basically what they are as interest in the hands of Allah subhanaw taala we should if you're going to leave the house for a couple of days to three days you go and you tell your wife this teacher this teacher my wife say to me as though the Ocala Lady sldr Latina co magnetico Tina Amelie teacher that and then you tell her a sadhaka la la de la the other. Another thing you can say canopy

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Santa Santa Monica la Jara Joon Illa Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam A man came to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam for color in the UI to suffer and fester with me.

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And about to travel or messenger of Allah Yanni gave me something called the con la who

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was a welder. Hello, taqwa. May Allah subhanho wa Taala increase you in taqwa. Oh, and your wife may not know this, you teach her that? Listen, man came to the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, and he is about to leave and he wanted the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to make one for him. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said to him, May Allah increase you in taqwa? Can you say this to me? The word and

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then the man said again to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Sydney or rasulillah Tell me more or messenger of Allah.

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tala for Eric and May Allah forgive you sin, call as it Nia Rasool Allah kill me boo. Oh messenger of Allah, God, our Yes.

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To macoun and wherever you go, you find things easy and good.

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If this is between two individuals in the community, it should be between you and your spouse. We need to teach our wives that this will imagine you leave your wife with that. Do I with that thing? I mean, this will a will Mashallah my husband left and I said this to him. And this will make her think when is he gonna come back? Not his gun. Don't come back. She's gonna look forward to you coming back.

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Woman howdy sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Also one of the women you're about to leave your wife and your family mean happy that you leave someone in charge?

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What did he do? Salallahu alaihe salam cannot say hi.

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I decided not to of course, when he traveled all the way all the way to the book. He left who behind taking care of his family. Have you thought of your loved one? When not even have you thought it became a little bit Janya Rasul Allah to polyphony for Sudan when they said you're leaving me behind, to be with the women and the children when you are going you and your companions to Yani to taboo for Jihad and for the work of Allah. Allah who he said to me Allah, Allah tada and takuna many women Zilla t Musa Musa would you wouldn't you like to be to me like how to Moosa IRA Anna hula nebia body accept there is no profit after me. The hero has been heading nav sallallahu Sallam that

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when you're about to leave, leave someone in charge for your family. But who should you leave

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Ramallah from Hmm? You go and you tell your friend Can you please go to my house and check on my family? Huh? Yeah, Raja tequila. If you want the guy to enter into a win win, the Prophet says that a man and woman by themselves shaitan is the third. Choose a family member. Choose a family member choose your uncle, choose

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for her, someone whom you trust an old man. Don't expose your wife to fit now because you come and check on my man over I didn't do it through other ways. You will make sure that you bring them the food place it in front of the door or something make a system the door but the shot al Canandaigua. There are some restrictions to make this not open like this. Rather than had these on the law. Why do some women firstly lets you know when you are traveling when you go overseas for a week or two? You need to call them every day. Salaam Alaikum. How are you doing? Even if you're an hombre

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Salaam Alaikum check on them how things going and and call them yeah, honey. In the past this was difficult now with a with a phone card with a SIM card. You can check on your family. This all keeps the relationship going. Well, I mean, I'll have the either if as soon as you're done with what you went for in your journey and you want to do something in your journey. Don't delay. Don't say okay, let me take two young you finished your job. You went on business for example, and you finished your job. Don't say You know what? I'm going to spend two days just to be as educated

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I remember the old days before Braille to marriage and go around and nobody knows me here. A little children.

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Come

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on, he says a sufferer in Manila that travel is a piece of punishment. Yeah, and it is a punishment or a piece of punishment. Yeah Now

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a person may be deprived from his sleep from his food from his water for either a Hakuna Matata when you're done with what you travel for failure or failure it will come back to your family quickly, right away once upon a lie. I

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mean, these medical requires rob your loved one will have to say hi, Malik. He says, attain our rasulillah salam sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Hakuna Shula. 10 of us came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to learn the deen and the religion. Sunnah kassner in the Rasulullah Santa Catarina in the Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam we stayed with him for a while.

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Look for one and pradesh tekna illa Halina

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Yanni we started missing our families we spent a while learning the deen fair Yanni we started what? homesick homesick you're missing your family. Oh, look, they came to learn from the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam, the religion the deen This is an noble path, but yet they still miss his wife miss their families and the Rasul Allah Salam himself notice this for call Allah whom he said to he said to them, mentor, man holla What did you leave behind you call your our wives and our caller to go back to your family. And he told them what to do. When the time of Salah is he makes sure that somebody makes the other and the rest of you in the Quran leads the Salah, and so he

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didn't know how to establish a sharing of the important thing from the hurry that he told them to go away to go back to the family, woman woman a little heavier Also, if you're coming back from travel, you should not surprise your wife

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Yana Rasul Allah Sallam he used because there is no food. There is no enail there is no litter. He used to. By the way, when he returns from a travel he used to camp at the outskirts of Medina. That's one and two when he returns the first place he would go to his domestic

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for his wife to become a way that he's back. Why? Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, either appalled udupa movie by Allah Allah. Hi, man honey jevelin Abdullah the alarm on human if some of you is one of you is absent for a while. Okay? Yeah honey, inform your wife that you're back Why caters to hate Dilma yada yada hail women have here also in private areas they need to clean this also to clean that to be ready for you to be prepared for you. But don't just come back when you find herself. When you find her in a way you may end up seeing something that is not good. Had a Hawaii Navy Salalah don't say I'm just gonna arrive and see what she's doing and wait until she

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beautifies herself for you. takes care of herself for you. Don't surprise her. Also,

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one of the good things that you could do. And with this we close in sha Allah the the duties of the husband and the rights of the wife upon the husband. Take her on the travel with you. If you're able take your wife with you this normally Jani what you really have to take your wife sometimes away from the environment where she's spending 24 seven, especially if she's a housewife. They get bored. Yeah salon if you take a couple of days to three days and you travel somewhere but make a travel holiday don't go to Hawaii and

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today for my son Gianni my songs don't go on until they haven't set in the beach and look at the naked men. Men father, Colombian law take you to places where it's decent people are decent. There is no fitna for her. Like we said that women are also exposed to fitness you take her to places where she can take

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that if you really want the heart of your wife to work with your heart taken from oma if you're having an issue with your wife, Deacon from go, let's go for Omer who learn this stuff is not expensive. It's not expensive with 1000 bucks now in America sometimes you can go to outgrow it is amazing how it's done. If you

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have like a baggage or something like that you go and do a certain timeout they will go on to toe off to get around the heroin brain, the heroin together. Anything heavy will bring back affection between you and your wife with this My dear brothers and sisters in Islam,

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we have concluded the rights of the women above the husbands Now, let's see some