Channel: Karim Abuzaid
Series: Karim Abuzaid - Marriage
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Howdy will bring back affection between you and your wife with this, my dear brothers and sisters in Islam, we have concluded the rights of the women upon the husbands. Now it's easy Subhanallah I made this white. So I now I passed on to the white section.
Now we want to talk about the queen of the house. Medical law here if one will lie they tell you Islam is mistreating women, those people are a bunch of liars.
Islam tells the women Listen, you sit at home, you relax, and the husband has to go outside and earn the bread.
Isn't that what Islam teaches? Right?
Isn't that what the teachers were permanece boo Tikun
Loma Loma and stay in your homes.
Rajan. He goes outside to the jungle. The man goes outside to the jungle to earn the bread find it.
You go outside and find it. Oh, in my opinion, and I'm talking about the time now. Yeah, this issue was not an issue maybe 100 years, 200 years back, but it's an issue now. In my humble opinion, the biggest fitna right here in the oma and in at homes is the fact that the wife accepts that. Allah told her to stay at home.
Big fitna for the woman. Good luck. Good luck. When I am a cow. You want me to get pregnant and give children away? I'm an animal. I'd like to go outside and get a job and be like everybody else. And this is the beginning of the destruction of the family.
And don't misunderstand me. Okay, here's, here's a better way to present this just to be fair, okay.
We say to the sister, if you can fulfill all your obligations at home,
towards your house, towards your husband, towards your children, you can go out
is there a better way to do it?
You can go out but I'm telling you, you're gonna kill yourself this way. Because you have enough work at home.
But you leaving your house you leaving your home?
neglecting what Allah subhana wa Taala need you for? And you're going trying to become someone else. This is the beginning of destruction in the world.
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What I say to this attorney Jani is Dr.
It's the it's the ordained ment of Allah subhanaw taala. That demand is the one who goes outside to earn the bread is the man who goes alive made him physically emotionally prepared to go outside
to work and get the money and support the family. Original comunale Bina from de la who because of something in their creation, they are still
in the way that he made them.
Obama, Barack Obama, a woman I'm waiting for this is the biggest fitna, Jani. This is I'm just introducing this to the sisters before I talk about the rights. You see.
The first thing that you have to deal with that you accept the fact that you are married according to the Quran and the Quran. And the Quran tells you sisters, that the best place for you is your homes is your houses. Yeah, what I said this before and I repeated again one law by Allah, I know of women
who go outside to work
and they do not make a whole lot minimum wage. And they have children.
And they end up placing this these children in a daycare of a non Muslim.
They kill completely non Muslim and she receives her paycheck from her work and she adds money to it to pay the non Muslim.
Parent I think about it.
Women is paying a Muslim woman is paying a non Muslim to raise her child. Shiva lilla twist. Problem. Big problem.
taboo in the world will be like you
delay can a mother can a person take the place of another one mother, even if she has the, the top of the line of compassion and emotions, no, no mother, no person can replace a mother.
And sometimes now, but I understand also that the whole thing is a fitna. In the end there are young women the chances to get a job at this time are ways higher than men.
And if he whatever it will end there are jobs now only for women. When I say good luck,
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de Moura you and your wife goes outside to work. I'm sorry, it will like azubu always right. The client always the customers always work right now. You think your wife is gonna? How are you?
How are you? How you doing?
Venus wicked hearts. I'm not saying that everybody thinks wicked ways. You ever say there are a lot of wicked people as soon as he hears this video from you have any meal? Huh? Can I get your number?
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had a second he a second woman a tea and Holla Holla comin unforeseen come as well
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he a second. You go find peace and tranquility find it at home.
schiffman been one of the qualities of a total aim selgin the woman in general in other words, the woman in general you know this right? Solomonic.
if she looks yeah if she looks into our world yeah and her bright will override the light will override the light of the sun and the moon.
Ma Mina halogen
lava Mara a women from the women of gentlemen, if she would look into this dunya into this dunya she will override her brightness will override the brightness of the sun and the moon
We have a hadith that says that the women of gender already they know the man from the dunya who will will be there when the wife harm him and they don't mean Killa
the women don't do this to him.
Let me take care of you when you come to me. I'll take care of you.
Right. That's one of the qualities of
fee enough call Sarah.
Yeah, just look at this because some there are some wicked people now. Wicked husbands who want the people to look at their wives, the Heather Heather in Sainte Marie, this is a cycle that a husband wants one law here FYI, I receive phone calls from wives who complain about their husbands wanting them to take off the hijab. I call the Mirage I talked to the manager and had a good I want to be proud of my wife Roger wise. Young he wants to walk around very beautiful Mashallah Look at this guy, man. He got a cougar. Oh, he's a big shot yet. Akiva.
Fie Hinako Serato that the women have the agenda By the way, they do not look to anybody but you
imagine this and one of the pleasures of that woman who is so beautiful, that she will pass away and if
she only looks at you, she only sees you know other men check.
Now, we go back to the issue here. Now the wife going outside to law. If you issue if you can log in now. See having
Have you? Well, I love you all for the sake of Allah. If you can keep your wife at home
and live with the minimum,
minimum is the best way to have a happy marriage.
I'm telling you the first line of fitness in your family when your wife goes outside
the first thing that at least you will lose you will lose your karma.
Mahal karma you being in charge being the captain being the mean was given on what paises original como una casa de la la la la voix de ma and Saku because you spend it because you're you're you're you're earning the bread that's why you're crying. That's why you're in charge. But the moment that she shares halfway house
Oh imagine these days you find women working and their husbands are at home, taking care of the babies. That things this is beggar psychotherapy, you're gonna need a psychotherapist to be
taken care of coming and visiting the family and sitting with Linda radula will be the man when he sits at tomiko
chef de la Yan imaginable hustler candelabra Lando kurama when he's a man and he has dignity, he is sitting at home and his wife going outside and he's leaving until 10 or nine o'clock in the morning.
Before I begin talking about the rights, I want to talk to my sisters still them accept koderma
Nabi sallallahu Sallam is kulu camera Elisa Norma kulu. Camera wakulla
all of you are custodian and all of you will be asked about their custody of attorney Roger Laura Lehman abedini. Our regular live at the man is responsible over his household. When he said about what he said about the woman what one two who wrote a tune fee by Isa Wuji her and her responsibility is in the house
God and Islam did not bring it the Anima Robinson Aslam This is from a long time ago, Yana Lama said Nomura madeon
when Prophet musala Salah
killed accidentally underline this, the Egyptian
the Coptic, and he ran away. He went to Medina you know he fled from Egypt because the Pharaoh and his gang are after him.
When I met I met Dr. Nicola srbiji. And so so when he arrived in a place called Matthew, what an hour imagine he arrived at the place where the people are watering their flocks. The shepherds are rah rah jab 11
and he is watering the flux while in Nevada Santa Ana de la mina nesea school he showed his men are watering the flux look while Elijah them in do remember it you need to do them.
And he shows to the side he looked and he saw in the side two women
they are a third Houdini keeping the flux was a shift of the law. Those who save the law mixing free mixing no problem mix
from the old time
he had that attitude when he sees something that is not right. Even if he says he's a stranger. It's not his style. But there is something wrong here.
Here's there are women like those standing under the heat and and having the flux and these strong guys know even they don't even pay attention to them. He right away approach. Carla Hakuna What is wrong with you?
he hacked us.
We don't want to go and water our flux right now until these guys leave. Because we're gonna end up if we do this, we're going to end up mixing look, and why we're out in the first place. Why? Why did we have to work? una
una shahan cabbie.
And the reason why we're out amongst these men because our father is an older old man. And he has no other children.
That is why we went out for the war in the middle of his title will also hurt us. And when she's at home, she takes care of the house. She takes care of the children. This was us. This is by default. But again, this goes in line Yani because I don't want to the brothers to think that we based on this why women have to
Go and acquire education. We want them to be highly educated.
Because we want them to educate the children we want them to take care of the children. So we want them to acquire education we want them to acquire a lot of skills. But here is what we're asking we want the first place to benefit from this these skills is who is who the house and the children. And then if you're able to fulfill this, then please go outside and help them
but with orbitally go out bababa delay the Shariah go out, according to the Sharia, not go out and helaas you go out you're not causing a fitna goes in yourself exposing yourself to fitna you're not exposing others to fitna, Fabiani, this is important to to to say this
instead established unknown Rajan.
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The men are what? in charge, they are responsible. But again, I don't want the sisters to think that we're saying this in a way that we're honoring or nobility kind of thing. has led sabitha Sharif while Athena Who? tech leaf, this is a responsibility when I say that man is in charge. That means this is a man he will be asked about it in the Day of Resurrection when Allah Allah Salim says that whoever has Amana, whoever is in trust with anything and he betrays that interest betrays his trust. Allah will make him haram and gentlemen, two gentlemen, we mentioned this so many times, he will be it's a responsibility you will be asked about it. So I'm saying the man is the Guardian the man in
charge. I'm not saying sister is above you or something level along, you know way. No, I'm just telling you that he has more responsibilities than you. And you know, what, if he's Rogers day in if he's a righteous guy, if he's, if he's a person who knows a law, he knows that there is a law he will be held accountable. He knows that he will be questioned about that in reference. So he better deal with it. He better deliver. He better deliver Yeah, you're Latina Harmon, letter Hoon la hora Shula Hulu
t Kumar on Tom Tolman. dare you betray your trust? Oh, for an awful lot of the sister I tell the wife what what do we say this because we care. Because while long that enemies of Islam Their job is to take you out of your house. Because the moment that they take you out of your house call us it's over your job their job. So they are in a way going against what we'll teach you. I tell her that we establish that demand is in charge. The man is the guardian. Basically the man is the me
I'm trying to say what
now if he's the emif then you have to obey
deserves what a mammal Amira deserves What? obedience as long as he's commanding you what
I wouldn't say to the sister
You obey your husband for you.
As well we we always admire this hadith
Sahih Muslim hanifa hurayrah Rasul Allah wa salam o De Anza je de la
whatsoever does more than one act of worship.
One good deed Yanni. He will be called from more than one gate of gender we know gender has has how many gates? elites?
There is Babel Sonata degi to sadhaka Babel jihad, the gate of jihad. There was three and a half one Babel, right? Yeah, love dassia Oh, Viva la sala
Abu Bakr so these are the Amman, he said Yasser Allah, what if you have Did you have done all of this? Can you be called Can you name the call from all these gates? Imagine all these gates Your name will be called said Yes, Your name will be called from all these gates. And I have an ally Abu Bakr, that you will be that person who will be called from all of these gates by an apple. I tell my sister I told her
Voila he by the virtue of your husband, you can equal overcapacity.
Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, What Hadith Sahih Sena do so he married now the Muslim ban and who are the 11? Look, I say to this, because I'm going to ask you to obey the husband. Do it for you. Your husband can be your way to be called from the egg gates of gentlemen.
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is the woman praise her five daily prayers was all Matura.
And she fast her mom, a lot of Mama.
Look, what have you that faraja and she kept herself chaste.
and she obeyed her has a
look at the rewards of this year. Look, yo, don't listen to these guys. It is not about the man is above the women who will reject anti women, women put them down.
It's not about this. Yeah. How do we know? Well, I agree that there are some cultural practices where they mistreat women, I have no doubt. I have no doubt that there are some cultures in earth. And sometimes they do it under the umbrella of Islam. I tell you, this is wrong. This is not right. But I'm telling you if you obey your husband, if you obey your husband right here, if you obey your husband right here, the law it will be set to her or the holy janitor in a machete enter Jelena from any of the gates
Are you doing it for yourself? You have to
obey Him to guru gentlemen. Oh bodhinyana an apple, An apple a yada, yada, yada I tell the system and I say this one line because I give you any boulard amin Allah subhana wa tada and His Messenger given our right to the husband. Given awry Abu Jani, famous Natasha had eaten a snowman. robiola one, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, you're slowly sharing as you deliver.
It is not befitting for a human being to prostrate to another human being may infer.
is not the fitting suit, a
suit a bad suit, an act of worship, one can have them in Sharia law. I'm a Seventh Amendment shall I? Shall Roman coplanar
shalom. It was the Sharia of use of an
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in our Sharia. Why did Najib when he returned when he said marches on eternity when he returned from Yemen? He saw that the people are prostrating to certify to the rabbi's to the priests to the religious figures in Yemen. Ravello from a sham one of the two as soon as he saw the Prophet sallallahu Sallam Hebrews three
What are you doing?
What are you doing? Colorado law I saw this people prostrating to their priests the ones Rasulullah and you deserve call Ella.
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la Sherry attackman have enough no one is entitled to search the accept who Allah they're nuts that text abrogate Sharia argues
that you could prostrate to another human being but you're also allowed to sell and says well I will solve and yes Judah shall live by sharing. Let multiple Marotta and testudo Elisa mean everybody happy Alia
it is good or it is
right for a person to prostrate to another person, I will command the wife to prostrate to him
because of his right upon her, a husband, a
wife husband are talking about
the one that we've been introducing. Now that's lackey not the guy who drinks and smokes. He doesn't work. He's rude. He's me. We're talking about what a husband according to what the Sharia of Islam, a husband who's kind of a husband who's nice.
I say to the sisters that had this is what the dean says that this is how much your husband is entitled of you. So you must obey Him. Let's see Napoleon napoo
There is a restriction number one, two restrictions here. law to FEMA. This is number one.
You go until your wife to take off her hijab I
can see where you
left him out of it You must command her to do what
pleases Allah subhanaw taala you go until your wife I want to have intercourse from the reef. Can she do this?
have intercourse during a time I want to have you do
naka de Lima fluke and female alcohol no human being is entitled to obedience at the expense of the disobedience of
some some wicked husband sometimes can you tell me about your friend how she looks like can you describe her body for me? The father has a color theory and
the woman is supposed to do this
well I want you to go and sit with that person by yourself. I want you to go and you know
I'm a salesperson, you know I'm in the market and this guy I think if you know I think he likes you you know you're my wife. I think he likes you. And I think if you come around and maybe you know offer him drinks and stuff like that, maybe I'll get the deal Can you please do this for this for my wife please?
that? Yes, that
is the American merata and that is our job as a female. Ba
ba ba so powerfully female. The second thing you need
to convey Yani Mustafa. Allah Subhana Allah says that you can live Allahu nevsun illa
Allah does not burden you more than what you can be. Now you come and tell your wife to do something that she cannot be hot. Take a look at em toto.
Bill Mustafa. If you want to be obeyed, if you want if I want you to obedience, I must tell you you need to a Yani to do something that is within your ability within your capacity that I cannot tell you to do something beyond your ability beyond your capacity.
I don't know we have we have more time over than
I miss Kolkata
So before you go to
one of the issues
you can stop the recording.
One of the issues that the wife has to obey her husband is the issue of the vet
Ultima? Why? Why
are Rajan jubin
the man bye by default cannot wait.
When he wants it. He wants it now.
That has a hola Roger Tatyana regularly.
Hakuna Matata in Morocco by the way, a woman can wait two or three years when Virgina wala mushkin
that the women the Annabella and Cora for more than a smart woman she really uses this very well.
Yeah, smart women they do very good with that stuff. And he wants her and she got her Ghibli rental model.
Let me guess it
Nabi sallallahu. alayhi
wa califia Muslim
Pavani non Muslims they carry this stuff. It's a very sharp
Rip Amos has his wife, Libby Abaddon, nobody said that he's gonna just jump on her and and law we save a Columbia we when we spoke about the right of the woman in the bed that a person must do what?
What are you doing?
He must prepare his spouse and he must what they call him foreplay. That's not what we agreed to this already that a man young hollywood one can see Cena de la
Tiana used Waka
Waka demonium Fuji cafe in the context of algae
So tell Bukhara for a while like a don't fall up on your wife when you arrive like an animal
you must send the messenger before Lowell pobla A kiss a good word. You're beautiful I miss you. and stuff like that. This has to happen. The bus we're talking about it one lady enough see the ad by the woman whose hand my soul is ma'am in La Jolla.
A man calls his wife to bed and she refuses
can a lady if his center is off an alley?
but the one in the heaven Allah subhanaw taala will be upset will be angry with her until she fulfills her husband's needs.
panhandle Karen bajo de la we must be careful here.
What if this woman is pregnant for example, nine months or nine months pregnant with Gemma had an intercourse will cause her what
she can or what if she is extremely ill?
Mary has to look at the condition of the woman also. And it goes both ways. Well what if she has to pray as an effective method? And in fact if the time for fighting will come out in five minutes, the sun
will rise in five minutes and now you're telling him now
for wait until she fulfills the obligatory rights of the women.
What what also another howdy Alloway rato Rajiv lm de
la la la palma. tacos. Howdy Say hi. If a man calls his wife to bed, and she refuses, basically angels will be cursing her until the morning but again, yes, we have to be very careful this does not mean that she has to come and you rape her. We're not saying this because this is what non Muslims take against these texts left. You still have to do the foreplay you still have to prepare. You still have to go about it. Okay, but she must fulfill your rights. Why? Because Allah subhanaw taala fashion the man to be Yani impatient once it comes to this issue. Lee, why this has to do with what we started with.
Yanni, Rajan, the man goes outside to earn the bread correct. He ends up a si
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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says in beautiful surah t shirt on what to do.
About the non Muslim is a Muslim in
the army. This is not what we're saying. You see, she's not such a pawn, but shaitan beautifies her her in the eyes of the man that couldn't
undo the man because the man has the desire he is not fulfilled at all.
And if you look at men, I looked at this woman and her desire to what is this? But shaitan plays in what they said
he said he makes you see this woman is a Merlin scenario mama roll or something Marie Monroe Oh Paula Barbie you see her like what she's the most beautiful thing now what you're gonna do should be lucky
for either Uppsala fukumura
Sharia law, our Sharia deals with the natural process here. If you see another women that you like you desire, it caused you to have that sexual drive. What should you do failure to
go to your wife in Nevada, do math enough? See?
As soon as you're over forgotten.
Heather Dini, what is Sharia? Our religion is practical. It's not
pretending things that happen. The man this is the reason why the women is not the wife is not supposed to fast, the voluntary fast without the permission of the hospital.
What happened if he goes outside and he sees this and he has to get it right now and you come down and say I'm fasting lemon?
this is the reason why inshallah this will be more interesting.
This is the beginning. inshallah, next Wednesday inshallah. We will
continue with your writes about your spouse. Your wife's inshallah, but we're doing this in a nice way. Let's not be mean. So the wives would do a good job in Sharla jack Hello, hello. Hello Hello shadowland
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