Marriage 11 Wifes Rights Upon Husbands 4

Karim Abuzaid


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fusina one in sejati are Melina

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Maria de la Fela

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Fela de la

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ilaha illa ma who wahoo luxury car

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wash Chateau Anna Mohammedan Ave who are solo

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brothers and sisters in Islam as salaam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakato

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This is the 11th lecture

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from the series love marriage and divorce

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and like we always say the subject matter is fickle or Sora

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and inshallah This is the fourth lecture actually talking about the responsibilities of the captain of the ship. The man is

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the one whom Allah subhana wa Taala pleased

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as a responsible or in responsibility over the family.

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And we still discussing the concept of Elysia build models that we must have a Shara bill mouth, we must as men treat our wives kindly, we must be kind, and nice to them.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned that hi eurocom hi eurocom Leah Holly. Well, Anna, how you can literally the best of you are those who are good to their families. And I am the first one to be good to my to my family. inshallah, because we really want to finish this tonight. So that we can begin talking about the queen of the house, the wife and her responsibilities and what she has to do, we've been focusing on demand for the last four lectures. So inshallah we'll get the women the next lecture inshallah.

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Not yet.

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We have to finish the responsibilities first.

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I'm really going to embark on on a subject here that is maybe a little bit sensitive, but I think it has to be addressed. And I hope inshallah that I will select my words carefully, so that hire will still apply applicable Yani as we speak about this subject, basically, the right of our wives a bonus, to actually be neat,

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be clean, be attractive,

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and to fulfill their sexual desires.

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LG map.

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A lot of men By the way, take this light.

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When Allah Subhana Allah said in the Quran, Allah hoonah Mr. Levy, Allah hinted

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that we all the wives,

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what they owe us, are they all the wives all the husbands? What the husbands Oh, from the wife? Look, what if my boss said regarding this verse, one law he by Allah in the law or hibou and as a Anna, Lisa jetty cannot or haibo and that as a soldier to Lee,

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by Allah. I like to make myself attractive, handsome, good looking to my wife, exactly the way that I would like her to be attractive and good looking to me. A lot of the men do not pay attention to this that women also need somebody whom they can look at

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Maha Yama*a when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam cannot

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feed Sahaja Muslim when when he addressed the youth he said, Yeah, Mashallah shadow youth minister. I mean,

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if you're able to get married get married. Jani at the end, fair enough, who have Doolittle basa

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Why, is shabbier does not mean just the youth, males and females does not mean they may lose, but the female youth as well.

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Men and women. So the objectives behind gait, one of the objectives of marriage, that you end up lowering your gaze

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and you protect your chastity

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Why are we as married men now Muslim married men, we go and look around other women in the street.

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Because our wives are not doing what they're not supposed to doing at home. They beautify themselves once they go out to the strangers, but when they are at home, they think this is irrelevant. This is unnecessary. The same exact thing that women also requires this, it's a desire that Allah placed inside her. Allah Subhana Allah in the Quran says, me Nina boomin. Abba sorry him. Why are fabu furuya home till they're believing men to lower their gaze, looking

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at an unmarried and to protect their chastity?

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Guess what? The same command to the woman that means they feel the same way

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towards the male figure. wapo lil Minetti

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yo ma min Abdo sorry, hidden away.

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Women like also men in the sense of they like to look at men. When a medical Abdullah had no mama to Raja la vida Sahabi. Jani his his his famous name is Allah Allah. Allah Allah. Allah Allah. When he entered into the house of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was sitting with his wives for fatherhood, he said to them, lower your gaze.

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Lower your gaze, no matter mean.

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Yeah, the wives of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam are the mothers of any Muslim? And maybe you will have meaning. I mean, I'm forcing him to see him well as well.

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Omaha to whom is your mother? My Mona is your mother, Sophia is your mother, your mother You cannot marry her. Your mother, your mother.

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Even the companions they used to call them Yo man. Yo man when they need when they would come and ask about questions after the death of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam which is our sometimes maybe questions in a sensitive area. let us study and

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don't shy away from your mother

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telling them to lower their gaze upon our rasulillah

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they said O Messenger of Allah His blind Carla and to me What What about you? Are you blind to that means women look

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the one of the rights of the women upon you that you are nice good looking attractive. Mahalo fulfill that desire for her. Because Allah, Allah Allah, Allah Salim said one of the objectives based on the code, which I just quoted, why he called the youth to get married because it will lower work. Because if you have a male figure at home, who you like, is attractive, and so forth. She's not going to need to look around, and the same exact thing with you, but it's very unfortunate now, very unfortunate things are going the opposite ways. The opposite ways.

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napoo in insert is zoet Demille, that the husband should make sure that he's clean, he smells good.

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He smells good. That he is not he takes a shower.

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I mean, come on. Well, Adam and Sunil fitrah

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and even sooner they'll filter your coronary savasana The only things that you should do by the philtrum

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shortening or shading your mustache This is

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what actually will avoid that you cut your nails

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and you clean this area right here but it

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was whack and you put also mask on. Good good smell and also swag your mouth. Rasul salatu salam when he enters his house, the first thing which you would begin with is what?

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the schwa because he may end up kissing his wife. Right? Will your mouth should not what? stink as a husband? Come on. They are human beings to them. Sorry. I mean, let's think about this. Let's reason this. Wakata sallallahu alayhi wa sallam cannot answer the low unfortunately magnetometry I'll hire one less true perfume mask was seiwa and the colada toothbrush

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If you don't want to follow me if you don't want to use us use a toothbrush. One Mika Min pseudonymously is one of the sunon of ilmor sorry.

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This is important. My brothers and Rasul sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us that make sure that you always have Muskaan he sets a low audio selam Cana de Harajuku I've met when I say de la dounia

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and he said, What 331 Lisa, two things I love out of this world. Only two things must clean. When Lisa and Mary woman

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was a lot poorer to IE feel sada and the comfort of my I find my comfort in the salon when I pray for you, Nadine? sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Yani Rasul Allah Allah wa salam ala

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soon and this is inevitable Harare had this idea you will Ansari

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highly valuable I'm sorry about the Allah one.

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Winner Rasul sallallahu Sallam stayed with me Are you in his house? When he migrated from Mecca to Medina we know the prophet SAW Selim spent some time in the house of idi you used to make for him food plate and then he would bring the food to him.

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And sometimes he would make food and in the food there is onions or garlic.

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For us also allow yourself to eat everything but the onions and the garlic. Whether there is onion or garlic key with what

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you can do Rasul Allah. Aha Rahman, who is this is haram, eating garlic or onions called Allah. He said, Well, Kimmy onaji Mela tanaji

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but I speak to somebody that you do not speak to, he's referring to

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debris. Lindell medica whatever method

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angels also the U haul the angels, exactly like you harm a human being like when you come to the rescue, why aren't you supposed to come to the masjid when you eat garlic or onions because you're going to end up harming your Muslim brothers and also the angels as well. And that is why you should not be coming for a solo artist telomeres is very careful about this meal. Once you interact with with jabril on a salad in the Wenatchee mela tonight it is not haram to eat garlic. It is not haram to eat onions, but I speak to someone whom you do not speak to. Kala rasulillah labrets nacra Houma Taka From now on, I'm not going to eat it. Even that is just to show you

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companions of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi

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wa amin had he and it is from the guidance of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam Allah your adoptee can have his eye

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color sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu wasallam says men are

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hand fed out there in every huffy full man, if somebody offers you musk brother must put mask on Don't say no, don't say no thank you do not booted smell good, basically smell good. Gianni, I want to remind you that this is also one of the things that will get your wife attractive to you.

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You see when the relationship goes into one year, two years, three years deal.

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Things change. You need to be a little bit innovative, but

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nothing but arbitrary. Don't dress like women to her like don't do this. We're not talking about this. Baba, you need to be innovative in the sense of attracting your wife to you. It is one of the updates because it's one of the one of the design one of the things that a lot placed inside the women the same exact thing like a man, they have that desire. Yeah, maybe we need to look into okmulgee man, but before I tell you about the ruling regarding having intercourse with your wife, there is a ruling regarding this. I want to tell you a story.

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A man entered into

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the la police with his wife, Rebecca shot. His hair is all over. Who dirty dusty for his wife came to me and he said

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please separate us. Hola. I don't wanna be with this guy. Basically, for another Ella. Yo, Mama looked at the man

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Yeah, he's not even. And he called upon somebody go and cut his hair and give him a bath and

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wash him clean

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like a carwash.

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So he came out

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and he says, Take your husband and go. That's not my husband.

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Seriously, she looked at him like this. Oh, now I am gonna go home with him. Just to show you, His story is happening. That don't, don't take this for granted. You have to look nice. You have to take a shower. You have to smell good. You have to please if you have issues with under your arm take care of that you need to smell good food for your wife. Exactly like you want her to smell look nice for you. That's the way it is for you.

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lgma intercourse is one of the criteria for a woman to ask for hold.

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If you do not fulfill that your wife can

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remove you from the relationship basically.

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mooloolah the majority of the jurist all the jurors? They said it's why they said its word meaning what mandatory?

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mankad wanna cry?

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This is what Edna hasn't said.

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LG mah falloon Allah Rajamouli maraton fi

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at least one time in every cycle.

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So overall, it's it's awaji meaning if the husband is unable,

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the wife then can ask for Hola. If he is not able, in the sense of we know that some people they lose it or some people some things happen. things go bad for some people towards the end of their lives. She could do this if she's exposed to fitness.

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But they say that a biohazard the view of Abner has and he does this

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on the verse 30 there Papa Horner said to hoonah min Hi, Amara como la. Eben hasn't heard about him yet.

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He will call us and

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he doesn't look down to anything he is.

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Oh, yeah. When they are purified from the period that to have intercourse with them.

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Woman alpha and some of the jurors who said it is mandatory once every four days paavana calamy Allah

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and some of them said what once every four months

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and I'm just giving you that but overall it's what it's our job, but this is what the different categories of it and some of them said once every six months. I love the view of shaping Islam. It is based on the condition of your wife

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what Jani Alana

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How did you get her used to that is why at the beginning warning don't go home Don't go much. And then because later on it becomes a problem.

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Base yourself.

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These are NASA these are advises you don't really have to pay for it. Days yourself in the sense because you're gonna live with this woman. So get her accustomed to who you are. At the very beginning

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of Medina, this is the ruling regarding intercourse. Wha hoo.

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So Panama wahoo upon Kobani you could see the neatness of Allah to Allah subhanaw taala because of this cannot be

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Muslim Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when the pool of the immigrants came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and they said to me Rasul Allah or messenger of Allah that have to do to rebuild

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the welfare of the Muslims got all the words you soluna can no salire like who pray they fast like we fast, they don't hide like widow hatch, but they have money to give.

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They have the extra to give sort of Rasul Allah Allah wa sallam told them, Listen, every Subhana Allah sonica every Allahu Akbar is Hashanah sadaqa every smiler sada enjoining good, forbidding evil as sada and hidden was the boy a Heidi comes on sonica

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and when you go into your wife is a sort of pseudo law. They said O Messenger of Allah.

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Hi, Donna Shahada

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I go to fulfill my desire and then I get a sadhaka What if you placed it in her arm? wouldn't wouldn't you be held accountable within to be sinful? How can you placing it in Helen beside you're trying to do a dive though Jackie trying to help your wife to stay chaste.

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nourish Allah, Allah subhana wa na hora. However, there are some companions who actually try to stay like these guys in the century, monks Ravana these are the three individuals who came into the house of the prophets Allah is Allah and he they asked about his manner of worship. And then one of them remember said what were in Neela letters I was gonna say I'm not gonna marry women.

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I marry a woman. What will Castro nothing This is my Deen from a romance unity for so many

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of us on the last leg

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of the light novel of the loss has a very interesting story.

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His his his father, got him married to a very noble women from mid and very noble family.

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Five brought him to to to her.

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brought her to him and Mary Gianni got married

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in the morning he came to check on his son yo sabaha you know that's how they do it in back in our culture in the morning How did it go and stuff like that? They come and check you out. What do you what do you what do nothing when

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he's asking

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his wife How was last night? How? Call rasuluh europei. What a good man he was to his load.

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Well, I did not even come in touch he prayed in the head to the whole night.

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The Night of the wedding.

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The Night of the wedding.

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c'est la vie blah, blah blah broken and dish delta G. Jani he had a he used to fast every day every single day, but never saw him consume Yamanaka Yama, first day breakfast one day is

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what a good man

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can have. He did not even come and check on me. The whole night is praying for Satan last one to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam complaining

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for Canada we say the law Don't do this. And he told him that your wife has arrived upon you. We have also

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been an editor that was a man in fantasy. So man, that the

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elephant Damiani.

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councilmen mina elbaite mohandro Medina, he put them together for Allah Allah Fifi bites and a bit of that sadness and Madeline Pharisees and men the virgin for Umrah Villa

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Jani, but also to to show you that if you do not give that to your wife, if you do not show interest in her, she's not gonna pay attention to herself as a legitimate Avila and he saw his wife not waiting, there's something wrong and then he doesn't look neat. And so

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maybe he

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is not interested in why should I pay for his fasting is printed every night. I called upon food

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Sedna Salma he called I want to eat. So he brought food for Carla who eat with me. He said I'm sorry.

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I'm sorry. Hello, eat with me. So he ate with him and then he looked he went to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam to check on this for Carla. Yeah. Shannon.

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Shannon has more than you. In Alicia gallica. Your body has arrived upon you. We're in an era in Arabic Allah. Your Lord has arrived around you. But you're still your body has arrived when you were in the Zodiac. You have and your wife has arrived upon you

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yet was upon a lion he

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one of the

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most important things that we need to pay attention to is it something that in America here

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I'm gonna try to make up my my words here. They call for play.

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For play that you must

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do something before the actual intercourse.

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The scholars once when they address this issue is the demo.

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They use this generic kind of evidence they said what are the Boolean?

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The Boolean for sukhmani BB.

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The wife revealed her wallet and Heidi has

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the chain of narration is weak below a layer con hadoken Allah marotti he can attack the Hema

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lit not any of you go into his wife like an animal.

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Walia could be in a coma soon, mem copy and send some science first Carl pobla the case Ill qlm women like speech by the way, women like to, you're beautiful. You're young. You're wonderful. I never seen any women like that stuff. They like to listen to women. They like to listen to these things. For Yani, these are some of the things and some Hanalei on a tangent

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and there is a lot of sentiment so he said, when he met Jagger kind of his Heil Buhari when he was in a rush

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caller, Heidi Suarez, endorser. rasulillah, I just got married and I left my wife. Who did you marry to? He's in a in a woman who was married before then the prophets Allah says no.

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able to the ebook. So we're talking about what now Nick that you you know you play with and you'll have fun with before. I only think about this stuff. And I'm trying to really not to to be specific here but through the language of your eyes. I really think that you're getting it

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for you. So holla Lana, sria Jani. So Pamela is what we have. The shriya wants to come to this issue. Yes, Medina, Kedah you have a dean that is perfect. Will la Hema Takashi

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tagged this man who was amazed when he addressed I believe Sandman in fantasy if I'm not mistaken. Your religion teaches you everything even how to go to the bathroom either. Your religion teaches you even how to go relieve yourself. Look, the religion does not leave it even that

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number one, the night of the wedding if you did not get married yet.

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Be marotti the night of the wedding the first night, the sooner that you pray to rock as with her before you do anything. And so Pamela Leia, Yanni, just to show you how Muslims are going down.

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I was invited to do

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with the

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live Assemblyman alaris I shake the hand of the artist, the groom, groom, right? Mm hmm. I smelled alcohol.

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Yeah, and you had a bad diet. So

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he begins his mad and then we asked why we get divorce.

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You started the whole relationship with disobedience. One that will we have some you know some habits back home where we come from specially that you hear that all the brothers if

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you want to do Jani favorite ladies, he goes and he gets one of these bills.

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And he

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eval. Akina will say that makes him high. And then at the end of the life he goes to sleep because he talks so many bills.

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Don't begin that relationship with a disobedience look are so subtle until the night of the wedding. It can be marotti if you're about to go into your wife the night of the wedding, fell your foot benassi at her, he takes her shoulder by a pool while you send me in this middle there cefa relationship begins. This is a relationship on my one plus, Michelle relationships ipon shaitan Allah subhanho

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wa yaku Bismillah well yet oh bill Baraka Allahumma barik li

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O Allah bring Baraka blessing. Bring me Cara Baraka for me. Allahumma inni Allah coming higher or higher on Niger Delta ally.

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Oh Allah. I'm asking you to make me benefit from her goodness

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Things about her and the things that you fashion the good things which you fashioned her on what will be coming shortly her and I see Grif is with you from her evil and the evil basically traits which she has found this is at the beginning.

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The very beginning he had a fee. So hey, Rob no magic tsunami. Now, the regular basis now if you're married Hello Alicia. Hi, Elisa nobis the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, Whoever would approach his wife, he must say Allahu magenic Nisha Pon

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cefa Subhana Allah. At this time you remember Allah

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and you're supposed to be having desire and at this time you're supposed to remember Allah. Allah Allah, Allah homogenic ni*ani shaitan Oh Allah protect me from shaitan will generally be shy upon Mr. Raja tena and protect any offspring who will come out of that particular intercourse uninterrupted.

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Rest assured that you did not make this door

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for any input DERA feeder Nicola lei Abou shavon

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If Allah subhanaw taala would give you an offspring after making this door after making this application after remembering Allah subhanaw taala this offspring will never be harmed by Satan. And if you really you know the blue Kathy mentioned all these Hadith Phaedra omo Maria that are the subjugation of own money I'm Hannah, for her daughter,

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Fallon, Nevada, Colorado in Nevada. Wha wha wha wha la said vacarro Calhoun sour in the Santa Maria. We're in the San Mateo harmonium. Li delivered her a female a girl and I called her Maria but here it is. We're in need or a to her decoder Rita homina shaitana Raji, I seek refuge with you on her from Satan. That is why if we're Maria and her son Isa alayhi wa sallam, the only two who when they came out of the womb of the mother, they never cry. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam told us

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that whenever a baby comes out of the womb, what happens I found comes What? And hit him in the face the hill Lusaka walk, walk, walk, walk, he begins cry, accept those to

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buy. Another thing once it comes to

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intercourse. Yeah, homo and tactile merata fee to Buddha. It is harm major sin that you go into your wife from her back from her back the backside. You could enjoy her from her back to her.

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But I'm talking about the reef.

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You understand what I'm saying? Right? Hello, Alicia. olatuja sobre la mineur act of the people flute. It's Haram in Islam. It's a major sin to go into your wife from her real letter to nissa T and bury him

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sooner tirmidhi

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sooner Nevada.

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El Malek angiography Charlotte O'Hara at each map there is a consensus amongst the jurists of the oma that it is a major sin in Islam to go into a woman from her real Hadith Abby Herrera Malone and uttama Fie fee do booty ha

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it is harder to to go to your auntie right from any direction to have the energy to look at the people when the people who who try to propagate and say because some of the people who played on this issue linha de ebihara his wife had his mercy.

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said the center Nomad oldman, uttama Fedora fekola kita monta shuffle had his wife will add we're lucky to have her come and she too.

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And Javier Yani, you can have your wife from the side from the back. I mean, in the sense of any direction, but I'm talking about the real it is haram. It is a major sin Islam. And if you look at the word harm

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by when you place your seat in the rear of a women, Do you get any visitation? Do you get any produce

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like those people who are Obama was allowing them

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To get married, that means we're not going to have any more children, men with men, women with women,

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children, it's over. Yeah, and one of the wisdoms behind getting married is to have children, that when you place that seed in their ear, you're not going to have their comb have an shih tzu and this verse was revealed because the Jews themselves they needed haram to come into the women from the back from the direction of the back, not the reason. Allah subhanaw taala revealed this verse and he said it is permissible.

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One more thing is h deniable g man f net and how you it is how to have intercourse with your spouse when she is in her period. And when she is going through her ministry, post delivery pleading the relay data wires aluna can in my head, they asked you about the period the cycle blue as far as UniSA filma here it is harm it is a horn so stay away from the women when they are

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in that condition

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that we cover the subject

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can move on to something else. Hamblen the

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woman who's nilesh

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again, we're talking about being kind enough, this is our right this is the right but excel in this right excel in this right you get a lot of credit if you excel in this right. All right. Excellent points. But you, woman host nilesh also assign of being nice and beautiful to your wife. Elvia to be jealous.

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Thus, healthy jealousy.

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Not dummy jealousy jealous. There are two

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Look at this.

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In nominal reality, may you have Bula

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We're in nemenhah, Maria Babu la

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there are some types of jealousies that Allah loves.

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And there are some types that Allah hates.

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The type that we're talking about here is your wife goes around, showing her attractions to the people she's not dressed as a person like this must have

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had the real, this is the healer that Allah loves you till you laugh. Can you please get dressed? What is this? What do you dress like this? How do you do that when you see your wife, maybe for example is is is openly showing her our or showing her things to people without even caring about it. This is the tie that Allah Subhana Allah loves. And I'm telling you,

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a person who does not have this is called the youth.

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The youth.

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The youth is somebody who would accept Miss CIF in his own family. He sees his wife, his daughter, not dress not wearing the proper clothes, and he does not do anything about it. Whenever

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can officially say, ma'am, and Hakeem sedessa to lead hallucinogen

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three types of people will never enter Jin will never enter Gen.

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One, Allah kulu led a person who is being abusive to his family, to his

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parents, father and mother. Allah, what they use. The one who sees his family going around and doing weird things and he doesn't even move. He doesn't even do anything about it.

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What Raja Latina ser El Mirage Narayan mata jela a woman who, who likes to look like what like I mean, she wears the jeans and she walks around and she goes by the building and she has all this drive. Maybe her head is shaved and

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a woman who's what look like a man

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on a mountain with a Sabina milanesa

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Allah curses a man who tries that's why you get these brothers asking you shave. Can I read this thing in this nice restaurant, my dear wife, she was the one that is to shut

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when Allah spoke about the woman in our menu Nasha ofin Hey Mia.

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formulario movie women are like this. The Arabs used to bury the little girls because they say, Man they are productive with these things and and when we get in fight they don't come and fight with us. They are somewhere else they are not. Why do you want to look like a woman? Why a brother would would would would would ask about wearing a necklace? a necklace? Why would you wear a necklace in the world? You wouldn't look like a man man. Come on, man. I mean, now we have third gender in this earth.

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Thanks to President Obama we have now a third gender people who are not men but men and they are not so now if you're gonna do like this, I mean, how I'm gonna figure out

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Come on. Come on look like a man. I mean, distinguish yourself. So panela distinguish yourself Muslim men must. That is why even children

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when you have this,

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or during the holidays, these guys used to come and pick on me. I don't know why. When I arrived America, I didn't have this one I think was 9293 something I didn't. I wasn't really accustomed to stuff like that. I was in Maryland. So I would go to the stores and this guy. Hey, how you doing, buddy? Who's this guy? What's going on?

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Who's this guy What?

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My wife would come and grab me Come on. Go Let's go. And so parrilla, you know when you have this.

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Come near you. Come here can even come near you. He's not gonna even think about it.

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Oh, right here.

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Howdy, howdy, Allahu Akbar.

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Mohammed Al resilia. Who, again I want to address the issue of the negative jealousy. Now there is a positive side of jealousy. And in that real Allah Muhammad, because remember, one of the names of Allah one of the attributes the names of Allah l value.

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He is jealous, a lot jealous, but again, be careful. We believe that Allah is jealous. We affirm the Swiffer, we say that Allah is jealous and jealous comes from jealousy. But is the jealousy of Allah like our jealousy?

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There is not like our our jealousy normally is a sign of weakness but a lot of jealousy. That here is Allah set boundaries in earth and your own family are breaking these boundaries or destroying these boundaries. Hmm. You should have jealousy.

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In this little area, Teddy, when these verses came down

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you know, to prove adultery in Islam. You have to have what

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four witnesses

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and you must see those four, they must see it happening.

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Not like Oh, they will let you must see it happening.

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This is goes against Islam flags and stones. Yeah, to look how to prove Aslan the whole thing. It's impossible. If you have three who saw it, and the fourth is missing. And those three would speak it's called sexual slander and they are flooded at times

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tokuma monism when the ruling was revealed in sort of a new

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it applies to a man and a woman

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facade of Nevada

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came to the Prophet sallahu wa salam ala rasulillah when the when the when the help was revealed your rasulillah you want me to see my wife

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having intercourse with another man?

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And you want me to go call three more people to come and look

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hose was known or the loved one

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was known in Medina that if he divorces a wife did anybody would marry her?

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Yeah, and if he marries a woman, you better stick with him. Because if he divorces he's so jealous that if he divorces a woman, no one can go and marry her because of her jealous. Now he's just so jealous. He was known. There are soon Allah. Allah Hinata who enlists safe by Allah He has nothing but the sword not Muslim. You know when you meet somebody with a sword you could do like this. No, the sword like this.

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Right this finished Little Johnny vs scheme down at the Milan

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bar to the issue.

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is too much and you see your wife having intercourse, and then you go and call another three

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strangers to come and see this lamb lamb Alhaji the ruling came down was abrogated for the husband and wife to be something called the Madonna. Basically the woman's the man stands by Allah by Allah by Allah by Allah four times I saw her committing adultery

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Somali manana

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and then the fifth time

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and may the anger I'm sorry, maybe the curse of Allah descend upon me if I'm lying

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to Taksim biller

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when Medina Muna as well as your home Olivia Kula whom Shahada will

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Mr. Bhatia death in Villa Hina hula Mina sada P. One homicidal and Natalia Lee in kennel care dB.

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The woman, the husband comes and takes that oath, the woman is guilty. While

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she could do the same, and Tasha darvaza gatenby Billa in Abu Dhabi, the woman stands in front of the judge and says, By Allah, one by Allah, by Allah three by Allah for his life.

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One Kama Sutra and Nevada law in Canaan anisotropy. And the fifth time, she says, may the anger of Allah descends upon me if he is telling the truth, hadn't had the Madonna and a separate those people automatically separated they cannot stay together because

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why I'm saying this when Southern Nevada

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objected because this was a revelation and lay seminar that the Sahaba it is not the habit of the companions to object. The scenery so seldom explained at our Jamuna.

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Are you amazed at the jealousy of sad Lola who have the Ottoman side? Allah has more jealous than him?

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And more jealous than sad, and Allah is more jealous than me and sad. Therefore he made adultery haram when he Delica horrible. I want to say yes, you must have a reasonable amount of jealousy over your spouse, but positive

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Rasul sallallahu wasallam the Hadith that I just quoted, listen carefully to this in nominal reality now you have Bula there are some jeera jealousy that Allah loves why we're in LA and some of it Allah dislikes what is the criteria when you have legitimate grounds to doubt your wife

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without that she's getting dressed when you cannot base this on one

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and I think when you have legitimate grounds that she gets dressed you know to maybe to show or maybe she want to go to that place to speak to this when you begin have established evidence that shows this but here is the negative one that you should stay away off because it's not good is going to spoil your relationship.

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Abrahamic was earlier and Allah subhanaw taala here he says this took fuel why irata Allah

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photometry Suman uglich don't always show jealousy

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unnecessary all the time over your wife because the people are gonna accuse her of what your jealousy of if all the time Don't look at this guy while you're looking at this guy. Why is he doing this She must be walking around behind his Mac people are gonna

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they're not gonna think that you're having some bipolar characters you know they're having some issues you know that you're having some you know mental issues you're doubting too much shaitan was was Pluto much lead they're gonna start that's what I'm having to say. They're gonna start to accuse your wife of wrong things because of what you over doing it once it comes to jealousy is some examples before we move on to the other area here and then as a faculty member, you have a wife Mashallah when she goes out

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she the dress code, Masha Allah, she's wearing her hijab and she is dressed properly, that you told her you cannot go to the masjid to attend the lecture. Lee Why, why why would you do this? He Mashallah she keeps up and she lowers her gaze and she dressed properly

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You should not if you want to go to them because at the same time, navies are allowed to sell them said one time now he may Allah massages Allah do not prevent the female servants of Allah the houses of Allah don't

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when you tell your wife no I don't want you to go to the machine because the brothers get to see you on stuff that is overdone. When you know your wife Mashallah when she goes out of the house, she's dressed properly she she does not speak with meals that she's Mashallah protects herself she's in the care of the sisters, Masha Allah Carla's leaving another issue also that Jani when she wants to speak to somebody, because

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there is a benefit behind it. She answered the phone for example. Hello, Salaam Alaikum is so and so he no he is not here. What can I do for you? I mean, if she

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if she does not use a language, you know the language? Well.

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You know that stuff as long as salaam alaikum Yes, brother. My husband is not here. Can you please call him back as salam Ali? Then you come and say why did you talk to him? Why did you pick up the phone? That's That's terrible. That's terrible, chill, chill, as long as she's respectful when she speaks to strangers in a way

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but your wife is Mashallah she's dressed and by accident, she fall down or the wind came and she uncovered some of her our accidently and you make a big scene out of it. And some brothers got to see this accidently. Yeah, and some women they fall down. Yeah, and as long as the sister is waiting, dressed properly, and there is no problem. How are you gonna do make this all negative? This is all negative jealousy, jealousy that brings a bad spirit into the relationship because I'm telling you.

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There is something the federal salado Sallam said about the leaders and you are a leader in your friends and your family.

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Many emissary batarfi homie said a whole lot.

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I use authentic but it could. I could messed up I could have messed up the word so we say come upon Allah so Allah Allah, that is he being the Imam I start doubting you know what this Islam is doing this and this about me? Are you doing this and this about me? He's gonna man the ship is terrible. Is is he's doubting everybody. You should not you should not you should give her confidence and energy. So last holiday for Fifi Harris was a Muslim. How do you know how Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, then the male, the men, the husband. Now

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if you're a traveler, if you're traveling and your wife knows that you're out of town, don't come and knock on the door at night. Don't come and let me go and see my septic. What's going on who's inside is in the cupboard, he's under the bed. Stuff like never recovered. You know who bilello until at the moment that these thoughts goes into the relationship. It's over.

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It's over. I always tell husbands and wives to the drones.

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If you start doubting the effect of your spouse.

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This is one or the husband killing his wife. I divorce you unnecessary. That's too I add another more. One more. The wife calling the police in her house. unnecessary. Hey, if she has to that's another issue. If she's there is domestic violence and all of that that's another issue. But I have a sister who called the police in her husband because he didn't buy her a verse by verse 11.

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She wanted a certain verse, verse, verse.

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She did not he did not matter. I'll call the cops on you. And he spent the night in jail for others.

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And then and then when he came out sushi she's coming and complaining. He doesn't love me

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anymore. Forget about what happened if I don't do what you are going to spend two more nights for these are red zones, red zones in the relationship. Finally solid Assalam says

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Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam yasuharu Allah that a man should not come into his house at night Laila. And you how we now home again and if you're coming, it happened that you arrived late at night. I'm not asking you to stay in a hotel the night that you come in a way that you're trying to prove something that I'm doubting you. I you have winner home

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all, you're looking for a mistake Do you go around the house and you go to and you go and check the stuff, let me state Now,

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of course, as a husband and wife, I would recommend to have, if you have to face book together to carry on one account for both of you, but you go and check her numbers and this is an area fee if you jump in there until you leave the jail for

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Can you take more?

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women have women first nilesh hapeville asra

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this is important

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a sign also of having a good relationship with your wife

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or relationship and in some of these duties by the way he or she really is not just husband, but that you keep the secrets of your wife

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Pamela the scholars of the field when they explained this verse own Nelly bass who Lacan why and tune the best way

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you know what the best is a government they are a government to you husbands and you are garments for them.

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garments Why do we wear garments? Why am wearing garments? Why? I must. I mean I'd want to show my camera I don't want to show that the private area I wanna I don't want to show my the things that I would be ashamed of the same exact thing. You are a government for your wife. And she is a government for you. You must keep the secrets of one another. Maybe salada Sallam has a decidedly

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Muslim bill of truth in a min assuredly ness. The worst of people

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men Zilla Tanya woman piano

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in the Day of Resurrection in the sight of Allah or Roger to use the Eliza jetty was de la familia huduma Silva sahibi that you go into your wife and then during the day you go, I had my wife yesterday she is stuff like that, that is

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are you go until my wife is not good indeed. I'm not satisfied. That is

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that is terrible

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sharpness. In the Amana Yahoo, look at the world in a Muslim, the world

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in aven sama Nana, often Allah on the tongue of His Messenger, the messenger COVID a man

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in the middle of an entity in the law he omens PM,

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the greatest of trusts that you will have to be asked about in the day for the election, which you will be asked about in a different direction, a regular youth the Illuminati, woof de la for Maya Angelou Silva that you go into your wife and then after that you go and say she is so and so and so and he is so and so. He must not have met

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just to let you know that this happens. We pretending that this does not happen actually. It happens even and we say this to the sisters, even if you talk to your mother about it.

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And he there is no problem to give Mashallah, Mashallah, I'm happy hamdulillah you could say that happy, I'm happy Hello. But secrets. He doesn't do this. He doesn't do that, that.

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That is what is meant here by that warning, a snap into a seed of the law. Juana hardy famously.

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She was with the Messenger of Allah sallallahu sallam,

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and the men and the women were sitting with the Prophet sallallahu wasallam.

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For Allah, she said, the female companions she said, Well,

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Lala Raja lumen Kumi, aku masala,

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Ratan Taku masala Mazda, why don't you go ahead and speak about what you did your wives and the wives would speak about what the husbands did with them.

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For the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, all of them they got silent. They were silenced. They

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really as if she was sitting with them before she sat with them before and she heard them

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doing this, so she wanted to bring this up in front of the prophets, Allah Lawson Yasser Allah. These people when they sit together and they talk and for the entertain one another, and they end up bringing up the private areas and what happened in

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And the secrets.

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Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam immediately looks at her and says, fella to follow. Don't you dare do this

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fella to follow? Don't you dare this fair enough. Hello Derrick, the likeness of this is like Shea pod

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is like a meal Genie who meet a female genie in the street and they commit. They they do intercourse right in front of everybody.

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This is Arizona you should not do

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well astrology aka the secrets of of any marriage is to be kept is to be kept. And I want to say something is to be kept at the time of peace. And at the time of quarrelsome

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Yani husbands and wives, they would do it at the time

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of peace. But when you get her angry and upset, she runs away. She starts disclosing the secrets of the of the spouse, woman in the family. One of the signs of hypocrisy. Well either ha sama

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and when a person with quiero he becomes abusive or silent advocacy by the way that when when somebody makes you angry, you want to do whatever it takes with this person, even if it is the right thing to do or not either half of alpha, alpha zero and the facade, the brothers who just arrived and Selena gimana Gianni la la comida by

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the brothers who

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want to be here for a shot. We combine melody Vanessa and I said you could play in Sharma

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who citral Muslim had a feeling a Muslim is one of the virtues. Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says woman satara Muslim in satara Hola, como Pia, if you Vila Muslim in the dunya Allah will Vu in the Day of Resurrection. This is important

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for you to see here.

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Three quick ones.

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Shall we leave it in the next lecture?

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next lecture inshallah let's not overdo it. Alright. Hello Hey Allah Subhana Allah Mohammed shadow Layla Helen as the fuka to LA