Smile Of A Believer

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TO HIM and hamdulillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala rasulillah hid I mean,

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he was talking about

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First of all,

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I'm very excited to be here. Of course large bodies of water, just so we can be here together. That was my Australian accent.

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which is which is my favorite. And understand that, you Brits, you look, you hate it. I don't understand why it's such a beautiful accents magnificent. And you guys think it's not proper? Not good enough for you? That's good.

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Fantastic. I'm happy to be here with you guys. And I'm hoping we can we can have fun also during this lecture. Now, I understand already that you guys are very serious. I've had that experience. I've been here for four weeks. And you guys are serious. So somebody's got to be a bit more relaxed today.

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Alright, so the we're talking about the sooner right and then repeat some of the things I always say but the sooner I know these these types of microphones they don't do beautiful voices. I'm familiar with them. We Okay. Okay.

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When

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when you talk about the singer, and when you remind someone of something that's when

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for some reason some other issue a bigger issue comes up I gave this example yesterday that if you know when you come to a group of people, let's say their five brothers standing, you want to shake the hands as soon to shake the hands going from the right so now it comes down like that. So let's say you do that then the second part of the company starts getting set up from the left told me Okay, so now go from the right. What does he tell you?

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What's his excuse?

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Me, people are dying in Iraq and Burma and Nutella militarized

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and people only start dying when there's a sweetener for people to do right. But yesterday you were talking about football for an hour. Why aren't these people dying? You're at the buffet a chicken leg after chicken leg after chicken like where people die is the minute you mentioned it Yeah. People are dying in Syria and Iraq and Burma and and you tell me right left right left these are the things is always been busy with you were watching movies last night. This is more important at that point. Suddenly all of it now what the hell the Oh man, I can't fall asleep. You're watching video game playing video games for 10 hours suddenly lost. So you know something? We don't want to be

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frugal with our good deeds and we don't want to be like that when it comes to this another prophet sallallahu Sallam and the companions took it seriously in my favorite description of the companions is that never ever did the process send them said Don't do this. And they said what do you mean what do you mean haram or macro? And people know that you tell them they ask you something you tell them you shouldn't do it somebody and shouldn't do

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or shouldn't do it.

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But competitors never said Yasser Allah haram Haram. haram

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or just

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you know, we use Makarova case something simple right? is just

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what if you translate McCool has something hated so Allah hates it? Is it that easy now to tell someone McCrone is okay with it? One of the Mushaf said he was giving a talk and there was a guy who was wearing a huge gold ring he never takes off gold bread. So the shifts that I said between me and myself I'm gonna make him take off that ring today. Should the guy sitting in the front row in the question and I'm talking about how gold is haram for men and one brothers and sisters. He doesn't want to talk to this guy directly. Brothers and sisters if the Prophet sallallahu wasallam were here right now and he told you take off the gold ring would you take it off? My brother still sitting

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like this? One What if he walked in right now and said take it off. Wouldn't you remove it? He said the guy didn't even like hide it. Just sit with it like this

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philosophy remove it.

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Have some feelings and he just kept yelling and Looney said till I finished I couldn't get him to take it off. Yeah.

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companions might like that they took it seriously anything he said they took very very seriously. Example I give us today. Even things that you can say they're not that serious but they're serious because they came out of the profits are set up. He pointed to a door in the masjid. He said we're going to leave this door for women. Only women come and enter from this door. Now. The freed slaves from the Lebanon Mr. metha was a scholar later on in his own right. Nothing says will love him to let him know Omar never ever again entered nor came out of this door until he died promiseland said leave it tell us one time that people prayed in the masjid within abyssal Allah Salaam. And when he

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was done he said Everyone sit down edition Everyone sit down. The people sat down these companions were amazing people these

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sat down wherever they were, wherever they were, they sat down. Some people had stepped outside. So when President said sit down, they could take three steps make it inside the machine didn't sit right. They sat down outside. Some people were inside about to leave, they sat down. Some people were between the door, one foot outside, one foot inside. Look, I'm delivering him as he sat down in the doorway. Why? Because the Navy saw Selim said sit down, everyone sat down. I'm going to sit down even outside and I'm going to take four steps to get back into the masjid. That's how they looked at the the order in the command of the Prophet solar system, and the command, the problem can command

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and the problem can order. Some people. They want to bring down his message to a level of just being like a courier, like a FedEx or DHL man, he just gives you a message and walks away. But that's not the case. We know that we're supposed to follow him. He's a role model, right? Allah gives his luck can Allah configure rasulillah he? Hasina? There is for you in the messengers of Solomon excellent role model Lim uncanny or EULA Hanuman alpha, whoever is seeking Allah and the Last Day, and so many times, many multiple times in the Quran, Allah azzawajal is telling us to obey the prophet SAW Selim to follow the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So with that, just a small reminder of what

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something is, as soon as it's not just a tsunami, and there will be people that they're good and bad deeds are equal to each other on the Day of Judgment, and these people will be running around running around trying to get one good deed. Someone has good and bad deeds are equal. He needs just one good deed. And then he will go to general. So he's running around trying to borrow borrow, just take one good deed from someone and he will come to people with 1000s and 1000s of good deeds. He didn't want to give them one. That's the Day of Judgment. That's when we recognize the value of the good deeds here on Earth. We can be frugal with them right? But on that day, one good and if you

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have 1000s he don't he doesn't want to spare this one good deed. And the guy's like you have 1000s Just give me one I need one to go to Agenda because right now we're selfish on that day. Now here Yeah, one good deed. What is that? Yeah, starting from the right side, that's your deed, drinking and then sit down and drink or something like that you get your good deed. But now on Earth, we don't want it and you see people now there's a gap in the front row. So how old are you with rush and compete for it right in the front row of Salah. Now well there's like

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helaas go Yeah, just take it or go be in the front row who move for you. He'll move back to the second column. That's not permissible to do that. You shouldn't do that. not permissible and haram haram or macro?

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No, just like that.

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Anyway, so the sin is something very, very serious and Allah Subhana Allah 25 times in the Quran tells us to follow the prophet SAW Selim and to obey the prophet SAW Selim and he even equates obeying the Prophet sallallahu Sallam to obeying Allah azza wa jal federal law. So again, my youth Rasul. Allah, Allah, whoever obeys the Prophet, he has indeed obeyed Allah. So today, we're talking about the smile of the believer. We're talking about the attitude of the believer, the disposition of the believer. And the problem is that many people think that when you become religious, from

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your religious just found all the time you walk around with a frown on your face, and you look from across the street you like, there goes a good brother, like right there. How do you know what I mean? Look at his eyebrows. They're touching. He's frowning. And he's walking around from Yeah, and some people think yeah, that that's that's also part of caring for the owner. Right? But it's like this all the time.

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Then when he's playing video games, he's like this.

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Being the street is like this. He cares about the oma. The scholars actually write and warn about expressing how you are trying to express your Eman internally, all right. Yeah, no, there was a man walking and he's trying to show his horseshoe and his taqwa. And his inky saw impoverishment in front of Allah is legit. So this man is walking like this. You know, you know you've probably seen that walk sometimes.

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And to try and show you the horseshoe I'm afraid of a larger agenda on painting my mind. My neck can't even hold anything. So then I'm gonna just give this man a good smack.

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Give him a good smack.

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He said you with the bending neck. Duck was here. Not here.

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You fear a lot. So yes, it's here. It's internal. You can still walk like this and have Taqwa. Yeah. Look like this. Try to show people have Taqwa until you something on time. It's great man. One time we're in this mess. This is in the old days. I was in Sudan. I thought this Masjid and I was with a friend of mine who was a troublemaker and you know everyone's got those that friend you know, religious guy, the troublemaker. anything happens like that.

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Excuse me question. It looks like someone is asking the question the question, sir question. Then they asked him, What should the league he changes immediately when they call on him? What's your delete for this? You know this guy? Or are you that guy?

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If you're that guy stopped being that guy, because nobody likes that guy, and everyone in the community knows you're that guy. So don't be that guy. Okay?

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So you aren't smiling. Maybe you're that guy. Or you're just being British. It's okay either way. The point is,

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the point is this guy now, suddenly this guy got up to give a reminder after the Salah, and like he was like this, and everyone with him. His group was like this as well. And he kept talking. And brothers and sisters are philosophers. What the fame? Yeah. For the sisters, the man is having his heart Mashallah, then my troublemaker friend asked him a question. And the real him came out for a split second. And then he contained it again. I'm gonna try to give you a reenactment to the best of my abilities. It looked like this. And so brothers and sisters then my friend asked him, what's your demand for this? My friend goes, the guy goes.

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Brothers.

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me tell you something. I know you think maybe I'm being unfair to the guy. So I'm trying to go after the Sala my friend went immediately for the fight. Yeah. And everyone got up for sitting and stuff. So by that I had to like take a longer route to make it to them. By the time I got to them. I told his whole crew everyone was fainting and hollows collapsing. By the time I got to them. The guy was telling him this. I have a stick in the trunk of my car. I'm gonna get it and beat the proof into you. I was like, why don't you just fainting a few minutes ago.

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So and maybe saw Selim said ohana. ohana? Tawana taco is here. Taco Bell God conscious being God fearing It's here. He said it three times. It's not anywhere else. And you don't express it through, you know, movements. And so if you know this, I'm miskeen thing. 111 MC, mC mC, MC da. And this is like a thing a fake thing we do now. Here's the question brothers. This is let's be serious. Yeah. Let's keep it real. You guys keep it real in Britain.

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Do you have this concept? Okay. Anyways, if someone asked you to make the argument,

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or do you forget, you don't have to answer this answer to yourself. When someone asks you to make two, do you make two out or do forget? If you make this is fantastic. If you forget, this is really bad. Because that means we're not real about this. Do we have all these kind of fake phrases we say to each other that we're expecting each other to say, and we don't do anything about them? So I meet a brother and I tried to pretend to him that I have sins and I'm humble. And I admit I have sinned. So I'm asking you to make dinner for me because I know I'm poor man, and I need your dog. So it's just a fake thing. I tell him and he knows it's a fake thing. So in fakeness he says back to me, and

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you also make dogs so we just meet with a bunch of fakes. I'm a faker. He's a faker. I'm lucky I make to make that

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kind of garbage this is this is this what we want? Yeah. And then we have these weak fake rituals. I fake for you, you fake for me. Your or when someone makes asks you to make a make to offer them.

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You know, something I don't want to them. I share my friend. When someone says make the offer he doesn't want to forget. So he make it right then. And there is a bottom line fabric la with Coca Cola like that. Or some people actually anyone asked him to make da they don't forget. They're traveling. They're going somewhere they remember that person, they start to remember all the people who ask them to make dynamic to offer them. So it's not just some fake ritual, some kind of weird fakery that we have going on. Yeah.

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Okay.

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So, the frowning religious guy.

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That's not the right attitude. Never. One time this young man asked me, he said, How can people smile and laugh?

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Who's this guy? Exactly? He does my life. He said, What do you mean? Why wouldn't you smile and laugh? He's like, because all the problems in the

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21 or something.

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It's like,

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realistically, no one can be like that. And that's why the famous hadith of hon Bala 100, Allah says naffaa handle a case with the Prophet said lamb, the man Yeah, it's just another level then we go home, and it's money in business and care and family and children. And then it decreases. The porcelain told him that that's how it is. That's natural. Because if you remained upon that state, the angels would come and shake your hand and walk with you in the street. It's impossible. But an hour like this and an hour like that. Yeah. And it's sometimes like this, and sometimes like that.

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So the religious person and maybe SAW said them once he always frowning like this, and no one had more harm and care for the oma than the Prophet sallallahu sallam, but he didn't express it like this all the time or like this.

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There's never there's not a single generation that the person came walking like this. And you know the description of his walk. And he lifted his foot high and came down hard as if they said, as if he's walking downhill. You know, when you walk downhill, you lift your leg and goes.

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Yeah, this is how he walked. He never heard of this.

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Just fake things.

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Okay, people, the description of individuals seldom work on a hash and bash and latos law makishima Yeah, so he was always any cheerful, any easy, relaxed, and you never see him except he's smiling. Anytime you see him. He's smiling. And he was the greatest man and the most important person and he had the most amount and to her and he had the most come with care and the responsibility of the almost on his shoulders. But He always was always like that, when he entered into a room, what happens? The atmosphere changes, when he enters into a room. he greets this person and smiles with this person and jokes with this person. So suddenly, everyone is in a good mood. Compare that now to

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some fathers. let's just, let's just pick on the Arab father,

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and balarabe. Let's pick on the Arab fall. This is my description of the stereotypical Arab father. See what happens in the Arab home, the children, they're there with the mother or Danish a beautiful day, the sun is out. The birds are singing, there's some butterflies around and the children are singing these cute songs and playing cute games. Until the father comes back home from work. When he knocks on the door. The birds stop singing, the butterflies leave and the children stop singing their songs.

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And now the father comes in and bark. Hello, Alicia and if you're an Arab but I consider you a British Arab so Masha halex Okay, for what happens the air for the ENTER and his lunch better be ready. Better be read. So he just sits down

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and the food come and he eats.

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Okay, if there's any interaction with the children, it's basically like an interrogation. What did you study today in your school?

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Multiplication was 163 times 14. Do it in your head, not on a piece of paper. Do it in your head.

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And for him

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to show you know him so what happens now? Then do not ever under any circumstances, wake up the Arab father when he takes his afternoon nap.

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So this is a known issue for that takes a nap. I lost one of our brothers, you know he is of Arab origin in America. He says I take a nap. My wife wakes me up. Get up. There's a phone call for you. He said Allah have mercy on my father. Nobody used to wake him up when he used

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his modern woman waking me up and stuff. This is a no no. But she doesn't know she's America.

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Okay. And it is also lamb kana harsh and Bhushan Lata

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easygoing and relaxed and fun and Kitt. And every time you see him, he's smiling. Every time you see him, he's smiling. And you know this, like some people used to think that I'm his favorite, because he smiles to me so much. And this is the case with us, right? He said, Every time I looked at the browser, let me smile at him so much. So he was sure in here that I'm his favorite. And then one day he went to ask him and I think we all know the story is very famous, right? So he goes to the process I learned, he said, Hey, you know, which of the people is most beloved to you? It's amazing how the process they learn is so honest, in every answer that he gives me, he immediately says Asia,

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Asia is WiFi, Asia. Now he had more than Arusha, right. But he said I Isha sisters. You understand what that means? Yeah, it means he didn't love them equally. But he treated them equally.

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We're just saying that because this just put this false condition that the man has to love all his wives equally, doesn't. You can have more than one more than the rest, but he has to treat them equally. But isn't it interesting that, you know, I'm gonna ask why he asked him this because he had just led the campaign he the president sent him as a leader of an army and he came back victorious and porcelain was so pleased with him every time he sees him, he smiles at him. So he's now this is a general of his and he's asked his generalists asked him He is the most of the people that's beloved to you. And he says his wife, like how many of the men here if we asked you who's the most

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beloved person with with no shame, say?

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My wife the men probably put it on the shelf so I'm so sorry. So move to so and so. Make it all fancy and stuff, but the person I'm so honest that what a very beautiful, immediately said Asia. So, the answer is no I met from the men MENA region. He said abou her her father, then home, then Omar, then home, then Othman. Then he kept like asking and asking, and after a while, I stopped asking for fear that my name will never show up.

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Which really shows how honest

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In the resource elements because you know how we are now right? someone comes to you that knows you for a while. It's like Who do you like?

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And this guy my friend and then after a while he's sitting in front of you he's like then whom? has been home half then home? Come on then help. So what are you doing the end out of embarrassment? What do you do? You bring him up a few ranks? Yeah, you're like, then you

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shamed but and then he saw Salah. He was very honest, and he just kept going through the list until then, I'm gonna ask by himself stop, so maybe he's never gonna mention my name. I better not know where I really am on this list. Let me just stick to being smiled at and stuff, right? Excellent.

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So

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frowning is never the religious guy. Pro cinema is always smiling. And there can be things happening in the online you can still keep smiling and you have to not smile because something's happening. Yeah, so now before I follow as soon as now I have to check so before I start from the right I have to come up said I might wait a minute before I start giving sentiment everybody anyone dying in the oma? Everything okay, everywhere on the globe. No one's that. 100 Okay, we'll start from the right let's do some sin. And now it's time for some sooner. It's always time for some sooner and the bizarre Selim said worth about sumika future Africa, South Africa and this and smiling in the face

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of your brother is a superfan Of course and he had it like this means for the sisters as well amongst sisters uncle smiling two brothers not so smiling in the face of your brother is a sort of it's a charity and another Hadith and a bizarre Salim said la cara Nevin and Murphy say do not belittle any of the good deeds. Do not belittle any of the good deeds. So smiling. Okay. Look at how many times people smile. Okay, notice it in your message, notice it in the community. See how many times people smile and you can give people good Salaam and everything and they respond with some a no smile. How many people have noticed that a lot of Muslims don't smile, put your hands up.

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Okay, so just like six sisters and three brothers, four or five brothers. Six. All right now for the rest of you. Pay attention to it and you'll notice it. Just Just tonight start paying attention to it. You're gonna start to notice it severely. Yeah, if you put it in the forefront of your mind you always notice it. I always noticed when someone doesn't smile all the time. And they'll say nice things to you. But no smell whatsoever. Good hard work, logic logic. A lot of Allah Allah Allah Allah, Allah Allah, but no smile. I don't really feel welcome even though you're saying you're most welcome, but I don't feel welcome. When you don't smile. Smiling is incredible. Yeah. So so then now

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smile. Do not belittle any of the good deeds. So one smile I see one Muslim a Muslim I flashed one smile. That's one good deed inshallah, right? Then how many Muslims do you run into a day?

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How many see in America to do this exercise to make it easy we say 10 and you're looking at America if you meet 10 people a day in Australia. You guys here in the UK man you probably see 100 Muslims Mashallah good Muslim population. So you see Muslims all the time going into kebab is very unimpressed. You come out of this place, or that place. You see a Muslim smile every time but let's just make it tends to make the math easy. So you see 10 Muslims a day that's 10 rewards a day. How many is that per year?

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per year?

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Okay, yeah. 3650 and then you you live for what? 40 years? 50 years? 60 years? How much is that? No, I'm not really asking but you see what's going on here.

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A lot of reward. Don't belittle any of the good deeds, these good deeds, they pile up.

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Storms floods, they start with one few drops. That first drop hit the ground at some point then later on, it's a flood. So do not belittle any of the good deeds. And the process that lamb was described what either cinema Cinema equally Yeti, Yanni, when he even send them if he gives Salah. So it doesn't do this to you, and you probably had that happen in the masjid. or someone's talking to someone even if you're talking to someone and someone else comes to give Salah stop talking for a second, just a few minutes and then turn it to this person get full Salah then come back to but this What happened? Yeah. So I told Ali, bring the car over and then don't mind it. But what about this

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guy's a human being this guy. Give him some good setup. The problem didn't just do this. or this, or this. He did this. He turned all the way gave you full attention. full attention. How special does that make you feel?

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And can you imagine living at the time of the process and how everybody must have felt special? Yeah, everybody did feel special. Here's the proof. Even children felt special. And young men felt capable. Unlike what we do now to young men. Yeah. You keep telling them that the children that they don't know that they can't, they can't we always tell them. They can't.

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They learned that they can't. But at the time of the process said lamb, we can deduce from certain events that they used to tell people that they can that they could.

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Here's an interesting point, when the army of beggar left out.

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They stopped a little outside of Medina, and took all the young men that were too young, they took them out of the army. So your 12 year, 13 year, 14 year frail and short whatever it took you out of the army. The question is, what on earth were they doing in the army to begin with? Why were they there? Anyways? Why would a 12 year old think, Hey, I can be in this army and take this little window, Robin Hood, bow and stuff and go and get in line. Because the society treated them in a way where they felt capable. That's why they were treated like young men and boys going we don't have the concept of a kid in Islam. We have young men. And if you teach in Islamic school, and don't call

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them kids, call them young men. Even the word kid actually in its origin. It's a derogatory term, right? It's a bad term. What's the kid in English?

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Now, someone said here, a baby goat. That's a kid. Yeah. The baby goat is a kid that if you've ever had the baby goat in your apartment here, you know how they behave. They're always tearing things and jumping around and wreaking havoc, right? So in America who was ever whatever young man was a problem maker, he was always called kid. And there's the famous

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Billy the Kid was he called the kid because he's troublemaker kids are troublemakers. So now we call them kids thrown in its origins, a derogatory term. It doesn't mean you can't use the word now. But we don't really have kids in Islam. We have children that will have young men and young women. So you call if someone is 12, or something, don't call them. Hey, kid, in your mustard column, young man, come here, young woman come here. Yeah, because that's what they are. And they start to feel capable. And people treated the youth that way, and they felt they were capable. So they went and joined the army by themselves because they behaved people treated them like men. And now we keep

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insisting that their children 17 with a beard up to here, and they treat him like a child. Yeah.

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until they're magically 18th and Holocene, they're capable. And so it's not the case. And that's why, you know, we know, North America, at least I can't speak for the UK, though it's probably the same. But you find people in there really capable. And they could be adults, right? But they tell me, I'm just a kid. One time this guy told me I'm just a kid who speaks like that anyways, stretches a word like no matter with you. So if you're a man,

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you can do things. If you tell someone, you can do something, they'll do it. If you say you can't, they can't, I'll tell you. This is a true story. And it was a lady that had just a young woman, and she just graduated from university to become a teacher. And she got her first teaching job. So she went to the school. And the principal, he gave her the worst class, this class that no other teacher wanted to take. Because for years, they've been just failures, barely making it to the next grade. They don't do their work, they just horrible. The worst students were put in this class. So he gives you this class. And she doesn't know it's a horrible class. At the beginning of the year, he gives

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her the names of each student, the name of each student in the class, and next to the name of each student is a three digit number. And she goes and starts teaching. And after a few months, these kids are getting A's and B's and doing homework and writing poetry and literature, all kinds of things. So the principal calls her into his office again. He said, I gave you the worst class in the school, just years of just DS and season barely, barely passing. And no other teacher want to deal with this class. How did you get them to behave so well and to become excellent? academically? She said, I didn't do anything. I just treated them based on their IQ level. He said, What IQ level and

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how could you get their IQ levels? She said the three digit numbers you gave me at the beginning of the school year, he said those were the lucky numbers.

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That he just gave her the locker numbers. Each student has a locker, but she would read you know, this guy's name. 150 years old, he's a genius. And she just didn't say, Oh, you have the high IQ number. She just treated him like he's smart. And guess what? He lived up to it. And he lived up to it. You treat someone like they're capable, and they live up to it. You have any, any impression of someone and they try to keep that in. They try to live up to it. I'll give you an example. Let's say there are four siblings, brothers and sisters for four of them that live in a house. Each one has their own bedroom. And, and each of them their bedroom is a complete mess. pigsty, as they say. When

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did they have an uncle who comes to see them once a year or something so they have an uncle, the uncle came to visit them. And on that day, child number two, organize just so happens after 10 years. Child number two organize his room. And it was really, really neat. So now the uncle the showrunner

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him around the house. He sees every bedroom and it's a complete mess. And then he sees a bedroom for child number two, and it's so organized and it's so clean. And he says, Wow, you are so okay you Everyone look children always have messed up room, but your rooms impeccably clean. Everything is put away and folded, magnificent is proud of you the whole time, then he leaves. Next year uncle is going to visit again. Guess what job number two is gonna do?

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His room has been a mess since that last visit. But now because the uncle is coming in, what's he gonna do? What do you think?

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Okay, only just to speak in the city, okay.

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He's gonna organize the room, why? To live up to the, the image that that man has of him. And we always try to do that. So when someone, when someone when you speak to a young man, and you expect a lot of them, they live up to your expectation when you show them that, look.

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You're just a chimpanzee, we don't expect much out of you. And you know, that that's what they live up to what you tell them to. It's really, really like that. And so these young men joined the army of butter because society treated them like, like they were men. I mean, it was it took someone just a few years older than them to be a general, the head of an army in which we're booking an armada, we're talking about someone who was 17, or 18, just like three or four years older than some of these young men that were taken out of the army. So if they, if something like this happens in front of them, 17 year old or 18 is leading an army and why can I afford him just a little younger than he

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is? Because will they live up to these expectations by

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and this is now the last thing on this issue, that sometimes you see a father with his son in the masjid. And what happens you give Salaam to the Father and this for the sisters also you see a sister with her daughter with her child in the masjid. You give them to the mother or to the Father, right? And then what happens? The child is looking at what they have to bring her into Hey, Santa Monica, the father. So he gives another Samson. So then he looks up all he can see me because they feel invisible. The young men with the children actually never should feel invisible. So when you come to change, shake their hand, they weren't expecting your hand because people always ignore

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them. Like they're invisible all the time. So can we make at least something practical to take with us tonight that from now on when you see a child in the masjid you always give them Salaam and their hand down when they're when you're giving them the circle of men this motor down there don't skip the child, is that possible? So they're not invisible in the house of Allah. So they don't hate the house of Allah. You know, and the yelling at the children or every mistake they make they get yelled up.

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You know, I know someone who said when I was young, I didn't like them. So why would I? Every time I went these young, what happened? He's abused. This was overseas, a bunch of old men and the old went into retirement. And they need someone to fight with you. And they need some excitement in life. So they fight at the house or yell at the wife yell at this person yell at the birds then at the end, like I need to yell at someone.

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Oh, we are done. I'll go to the masjid and fight with people. And they come and fight every time. And so when they fight with each other, then they start to go and harass the children. What? What's this? Why are you wearing shorts? What's with the image? What? What? Metal? So they just harass the children. So they start to hate the machine? What do you expect? What would they like it? What would they like it? One of them, though, and this is overseas again. He always has a pocketful of small pieces of candy to give to the man in the West here. We got to be careful with candy. You have to always seek permission from the parent before you give the candy some people can parents don't

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appreciate that at all. Yeah, I for one, don't ever appreciate that. So always seek permission. But if you can do something nice for them, give them something nice. congratulate them for coming to the rescue. The man's got his little daughter to tell her how nice she looks in her hijab, things like that, you know?

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But okay. So despite whatever was happening for the Prophet, Solomon, his life and the events and activities, he was remained in the same way and he always remained positive. And to be upset all the time, or to be unhappy all the time, or even to be sad all the time is not one of the descriptions of the believer. It's not of the descriptions of the believer.

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There's some people who just love to stay upset all the time. And for a while I had a roommate like this. I've never met a person like this. And it was very strange to me. And then I discovered many people are like this. This guy, he likes to be in the state of being irritated all day. So when he wakes up in the morning, it's a good day. He's like, No, no, no, no, this can't be happening. It's a good day. I have to find someone to keep me in a state of aggravation and anger and frowning. So he actually goes on the internet. I don't know if he plans it like this, but he goes on the internet and he tries to find something to make him upset.

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Every time so he has a computer over here is working and I'm over here working every time he calls me over the come I want to show you something. So I'm in a good mood working right? I go over there and he shows me one time it was a video of to

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India

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and then something really, really disgusting. Okay, that makes you really angry. So I see that I'm like, okay, I'd have to show me this. I go back and sit down working but now I'm upset. You know, not enjoying myself hard to work now. Then enough years later, I come home and show some I go there, it shows me something else. Horrible. Okay. But so then in the end, I just recognized he's that kind of person. He used to live in a state of you know, misery and being upset and disgusted with the world. And I don't like to live like that. So every time he would call me over, I said, Listen, man, are you gonna show me something that's gonna upset me because I don't live like that. Okay? He's

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like, No, no, ha ha.

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So he's like,

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What do you mean? I thought that's how we wait, how shall we spend our day? You know what something gets you upset to Muslim men getting married together overseas? That's what he was showing me to say. No, and it's disgusting. The guy's putting the ring into this hairy man has

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Gustin?

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Like, aren't you showing me that? And then it gives you information that's not in the video that make you more upset, but it's enough what's in the video, you have to add to it other info He's like, and while this is happening, the police are protecting the building from people who want to come in and stop the weather. If you have to add that point to make my life miserable today.

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This guy always want to be in a state where he's upset and angry and aiding and cursing. Yeah. And we said the believer doesn't curse and it's not from the market the believer. believer is not enough the LMC constantly cursing. It doesn't matter what it is. You don't curse? Yeah, some people would never curse the Muslims. But they just the minute they see anything fly by the cursor. Car, bird, duck.

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Another anonymous slip up. Why are you cursing all the time? stuff from the way the believer? Yeah. So being upset all the time causing yourself to be upset all the time. If something's making you upset, find something that makes you feel better or go help somebody. You know, movement has a problem. For example, you know, some deadbeat husband or some or husband's doing some things that are making her unhappy or she's divorced. Don't wallow in pity and sorrow move around do something go you know, distribute food to a poor family do something that makes you feel good about yourself. Do a good deed and good deeds make make the believers feel good, don't they? not arrogant, but good.

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I think we can all agree on that. Right? You praise them for an hour prefetcher finish all the car with the juicer for our have English breakfast. How do you feel?

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How do you feel?

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Thank you, sir. You must not think you must not be from England.

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Only one who spoke? Yeah, you feel great. That's what a billion. I'm sure a believer would feel like that. If you feel miserable. And there's something wrong with you. You feel great after doing something like you don't feel arrogant. to false. never feel arrogant. The believer never says, Oh Allah. I spent an hour I can pay him precisely on time.

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It's like men. Yeah, you're telling a lot. you're counting the favors you have upon a lot. You know, some in most non Muslim countries this might happen or law. There are only four people in Egypt today. I was one of them.

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Yeah, Allah, look at these people walking their dog early morning. And I'm coming back from the masjid praying to you. And that's why I never saw Salaam Taurus, the first thing we do after finishing prayers, what stuff for Allah three times. So the belief will never ever feels arrogant. Never feels proud of the act of worship. You're saying stuff for Allah. It's like saying, Oh, I love this prayer that I just finished is not befitting of Your Majesty. not befitting of your greatness. So you even after completing the best act of worship, you say stuff for Allah.

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And never saw Selim was happy all the time, right. I mean, sorry, it was positive all the time. And eat at the most difficult times. He was positive. Everyone with me? Everyone with me?

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Okay. At the most difficult times, he was positive,

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you know, in the Battle of bedrijf. Right. Okay, and compare butter to the hedgerows. So when the alum and abubaker left for the left of the House of obaku. Now they're making hijra to Medina and they're actually escaping. So what happens they're going towards the cave. Our worker now is worried. So one time he's for a while walking or riding ahead of the of the province a lamp for a while his to his right for a while to his left for a while it's behind him. It's just moving around him like this.

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Instead of just making a car and making the kind of allies very calm. Then he started after a while he noticed a book of going live

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With a place to still walk, what is it to do? So law? I think to myself, what if there is an ambush up ahead, showing walk up ahead of you for a while, so that at least if there is an ambush, they catch me and you can be free, then I think, what if they come from the right so I ride all the way to the right. So at least they'll catch me, then I think what if they come from behind this, I start riding behind you. But then when I think what if they come from the left, and she's just moving like this the whole time, this is his care for the person and the person I'm just making the crivellaro.

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then fast forward to the Battle of better Battle of better and we're talking about being positive, right? The Battle of whether

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the profits are Salem is making da da da da and raising his hands until the cloak fell off his shoulders. Now abubaker is putting it on. And he says enough of you calling on your Lord Allah will give you what he promised you. We see the roles reversed. Now. Why is that? It's going to say because when it came to the hedger, the prophet SAW Selim did everything humanly possible anything that a human being could do was done. Everything was done. There was nothing left but just to rely on a lot of sewage. Yeah. So the process headlam had someone sleeping in his bed, left his home and went to work at his house at night with his face covered. Okay, from from a back entrance. They even

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they had someone to bring the food they had someone to cover their trucks for heydo with the goats with cover their trucks with they know who is going to bring the news. They had a guy that would come after three days to take them to Medina everything was planned. So there's nothing to do but make Victrola What else could I do humanly possible? Nothing. But when it came to the Battle of burger, and if you saw Selim didn't know it was going to be a battle. It took 313 men

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to capture a caravan it was guarded by 60 men, how difficult is that battle, so they weren't even heavily armored, they didn't have heavy weapons, that thinking they're gonna just capture this caravan of 60 men, it was easy, then he just because he didn't take every possible preparation to meet 1000 then they discover they're meeting 1000. So there are numbered three to one at least. Now he sees that I haven't made all the worldly preparation. So he compensates for it by asking a lot constantly, constantly, constantly. But beyond that problem was always positive, always positive. And you see the most difficult times who give glad tidings of something great and magnificent. Yeah.

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When he's leaving with our bucket, and they're going to Medina again he's making liquid of Allah is not even turning around. And bookcases. jasola there is a warrior coming toward towards us. And it's just not even worried then when he gets within throwing distance. Yeah, and he could throw a spear or shoot an arrow, and it would reach them. Oh, book, it doesn't again, he's very close to us. And you know, the story is what aka nomadic he was trying to capture them, and his horse that, you know, he fills off his horse and he never fallen off his horse, then it sinks into the ground. And so he realized, okay, this is not normal. So then he starts to one of the two, either he promised his then

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peace, or he's asking them to promise peace, however, you read the narration. And then

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the president says something incredible to him. And you know, this, we all know this is very popular. He says, Keith, enter. Yes. orapa was he a deca soiree kisser? He said, How will you feel? Yes, Raka that's what it means. k for Anthony, how would you feel? Yes, Raka one on your your two arms will be the bracelets of concern. So now a man who is now fleeing and there's a price on his head, 100 camels, and everyone's looking for him. And he's giving glad tidings of this man who is trying to capture him of wearing the bracelets of one of the great kings. How will you feel when you wear the bracelets of kisser? And when did this happen? way after the death of the pastor said lamb

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and the death of Oh Booker and in the reign of Omar Abdullah Han Whoa, and they bring the treasures of kisara. And Omar knew this immediately. Yeah, he knew this hadith. He knew the statement. So he opens the chest and he finds this the bracelets have kisser and he brings it up. And he puts them on his hand and he said walk like this. Walk Like this amongst the people. show everyone and tell them what the prophets of Salaam told you. And so Rocco put them on and he walked and he was telling people the problem told me Kay for anti Soraka or Federica Swamy kisser, and it happened just as the process lm said,

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and every situation where you saw difficulty, the process lm remain positive, and you knew the victory is coming from Allah zodia. And in the same way, the victory was promised for us his own mother, omo Mohammed, Salah Salem, the victory is promised for us as well. So it's time to stop. Wonderful. Okay, is it time to stop? Who is my timekeeper

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is ha, stop. Fantastic. Tell us Thank you. Okay, I wish you give me the wrap up sign before that. So I could wrap up on another note by anyways. So

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do not belittle any of this woman. None.

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Okay, thank you very much. Appreciate that.

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Okay, do not belittle any of the sooner don't from smile, stay positive, have the same outlook and attitude of the profits of the loudest lump and sokola hair for you attended listening and being a more responsive audience, robotic and I'm humbled to Santa Monica Mata loca