5 Lessons From The Rightly Guided Khulafaa

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Omar Ibn Khattab


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The speakers emphasize the importance of valuing people and investing in them, as well as the negative consequences of the lack of human experience and avoiding offense. They also touch on the history of wealth management and the importance of healthy eating and regular engagement with the environment. The pandemic's potential impact on the restaurant industry and the risk of increased competition is also discussed, along with the need for people to be more aware of the risks of the pandemic.

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There is a wedding thing.

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And do we start yet? our sisters can come forward to the left of the room

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Just waiting for a signal to start.

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Abdullah perhaps

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we start the hurry. I don't know how you would tell me. Okay great, but hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala rasulillah meanwhile Allah Allah He was savage mine am about Lucknow Heron for for staying. And the, for the next series we're going to be taking five lessons each time from one of the lives of the poor Hola. And today we're starting with Omar Abdullah and who even though we should start with abubaker, but our chef Khalid, specifically wanting to do a walk around is not in town. So we're starting with Omar and then we're not going in order specifically, but five lessons from the life of Omar and, and you know, him in his colorful was 10 years, and He instituted many

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firsts. He was the first to do this and first to do that. So there are a lot of lessons. But obviously, since I'm the speaker, I obviously chose the one that I that I like very much.

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I'd say two very powerful three more mild, so it's not a long night. I'll start with the first one, the first one we start in during the reign of Omar when he is the halifa already. So this is after the person. This is after boubakeur, and he's the halifa now, so he's in a room with some of the companions, and he's going to teach them a lesson. So he says, make a wish. Then one of them says, I wish that this room were filled with gold coins. And I would spend it for the path of for the sake of Allah. That's the wish. And if one of us now wish that this whole room would just start with dollar bills, $100 bills from the floor to the ceiling and he would spend it for the sake of Elisa

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Mashallah. It's a great Wish we will build masajid and Islamic schools you know that talk right? Fantastic question. Omar, or the law tells him that is not the wish. So the next man, he increased the item and change the expenditure. He said, I wish this room were filled with gold coins and gems. So here's something else that's valuable to fill the room with. And I will spend it for the sake of Allah on Jihad for the on the path of Allah.

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Change that what he's going to spend on and change the items added one more. And Amaro Delano tells him that's not the wish either. So they realize now that he's trying to teach them a lesson. So they said what is the wish? Not many. And listen to what he says. He says, I wish that this room were filled with men like aboral, bayda, amarapura, Babylon who, and I would use them be submitted on for the path of Allah on the path of Allah

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was such an amazing, amazing way of thinking, Omar Abdullah, and who valued people more so than buildings more so than wealth and money and all that is about people. If you look at the history of Islam, what brought it to where it is today, its people, the more so I mean, of course, money had its place. And that's why the President said no wealth has benefited me more than the wealth of Abu Bakar that has its place. But imagine have all the wealth in the world and no men and by men, women, women also, it doesn't mean just males. But imagine have all the wealth and no people. What does it do? Absolutely nothing. But the real question is, where did the moral dilemma and who learn to make

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it to understand this the value of people over buildings and wealth and stuff like that, okay. And I'm going to warn you in advance that I'm going to get angry. I'm the kind that if something angers me I get angry visibly during the talk, even though it's an old issue, but I get angry. I'm just warning in advance, okay, because you're gonna get angry too, but we'll get there. We'll get angry.

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together but just wait for now.

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Where did the Omar learn this? When he learned his valuable lesson? If you go back to how our became Muslim,

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he became Muslim as a result of a drought of the prophet SAW Salah, and this is I know we all know it, but this is the strangest you'll ever hear in your life. It's so strange.

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The prophet SAW Selim, wanted to make dua to Allah to give victory to Islam.

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So how would you make the out to give victory to Islam? Or Allah give us power over our enemies or like give us victory or increase our numbers or love bring benefit through these people who are already Muslim? Or Allah give us this much wealth or Allah destroy the enemies and just give us the upper hand suddenly, like that? So many doors right? The Muslim made the strangest strangest.

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He said, Oh Allah, give victory to Islam, in Islam, with one of these two men, and then he mentions a sham and that is a Buddha, or honorable hapa. Such a strange Yanni who thinks like this. prophets are in a different frequency and prophets, the lamb is asking victory for Islam, his dignity and honor for Islam through one man, why didn't he say, through Hamza Abdulmutallab who was Muslim already, or through

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or through don't have not obeyed the law,

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or the best of the prophets, I would have made the offer of a Booker.

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He didn't make the offer anyone with him or for a group of people with them, or to just remove all the leaders of the Quraysh overnight, they all die in their sleep, you know, one of them cholesterol, the other, you know, heart attack.

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It's such a strange that the problem understood that victory can come to religion through one person. That's the first thing. The second thing that he made do is for a lot of guys, one of the enemies of Islam.

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I shared this with the holy bassoon one time and he said something interesting. He said, that's like putting your hands up and saying, oh, Allah give victory to Islam through either george bush or Tony Blair.

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And at the height of invasions and all that stuff, you know, imagine, imagine your Imam in Toronto, Allah give victory to Islam, through either George Bush, or Tony Blair, will beat him up right after this name. True or false?

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Okay, so it's just such an amazing tool. But this gets you to value people.

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This guy gets you to value people, it shows you the power of one person that the Brazilian asked for victory for this entire religion through one person, and either one of these two people. It's so amazing, isn't it? My The only one blown away by this or is this?

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Yeah, it's amazing. So Omar Abdullah understood the value of people. Today, we look at the value of buildings, and all kinds of other things, but we don't value people as much we don't invest in people very much. And when I say we, I mean the Muslims, here or there, wherever, all of them guilty of this. And you right now, if I, if we put two boxes in the room, and they said, One, donations and this box for building a Masjid, and donations over here for scholarships for for someone who wants to study and wants to go overseas, to Mauritania, or or Medina and study Islam and come back and benefit the Muslim society in Houston, honestly, tell me which box would get more donations.

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That Mister, we're building oriented, cash oriented, money oriented. We don't believe in investing, or maybe we haven't learned to invest in people enough. And that's why if you say we want to give money to students of knowledge or for scholarships with

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building, I can see whether the student of knowledge dies on the way to Medina what, that's what when you work at a company, they they pay you your ticket to fly to California, right, Nick, you fly, they fly you to California, they get you a hotel room, they get you a rental car, you take a course over the weekend, and they fly you back. And you might quit when you come back, but they invest in people. And this is a problem. So and this is where we get angry. I mean, in my years of travel, okay, decades of traveling around the us all over the US. I would always been invited by the Imams and the board and everything to a room after a lecture. And they will show me a blueprint on

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the wall. And they would say this is our the new structure that we're building. It will cost about $8 million. And it's going to have a basketball court and a multipurpose Hall and a wedding hall and a divorce room and the prayer area and this and this and that.

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And it will cost us this many millions. And I've always never had the courage to ask but it always stuck in my mind think how much are you going to pay the Imam who's going

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To run this multimillion dollar structure,

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and the answer is pay minimum wage, or give them 25,000 a year, and the 1987 Corolla has a hole this big on the side of the door. This is we will spend millions on a structure Who will pay the guy who's supposed to run that structure, minimum wage. And Imam in the US is not like a mom overseas. Until now overseas for the most part, the message is not like a center. Like if you have a problem with your wife, you don't bring it to the masjid. Here. The Masjid is for counseling, the messages for everything. You know, you cut your child with drug, you bring them drugs, you bring them to the machine, everything happens in the marriage, everything is here. And this email has to do all that.

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And we want to pay him minimum minimum wage, or less than that. And I can tell you stories and I know of an Imam in California, and close enough said California it's expensive already. Right? He gets his salary is 25,000 a year. And he has five children. 25,000 in California. Yeah, if you're single 25,000 a year in Houston, you're like callosum Poor guy. We have to get donations for you. five children in Houston, you could barely make it. five children in California.

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And that's what they pay him 25,000 a year. And they gave me I have to give the hook when invested. They gave me this little card that said the building across the street is on sale. And it cost $6.5 million. And we'd like to buy it. So tell people to donate for that. I just thinking how does this even feel one because let me tell you, they had a building this way in front of the masjid that they already bought. It's like a seven storey building that they bought years ago because it was for sale. And they own the land and the huge parking lot. They don't even need that building and they don't know what to do with it. It's empty. And now the next building is for sale. Let's buy it for

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6.5 million they just want to spend on these buildings. But the man who runs the show does everything in the counseling 25,000 a year. I can tell you where stories. And these are stories I know personally, personally, there's a Masjid in Mississauga near Toronto and Canada and they have in their contract for the Imam that for makes a vehicles that he is not allowed to purchase. It says in the contract. You are not allowed to buy a Mercedes, Infiniti Lexus I'm making them up accurate. They have four makes the vehicles you can't buy. Why? Because you're the Mr. Another true story, this Imam

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it's sad. It's sad. This Imam bought a Mercedes board member came to his house that night. Couldn't even wait till the next day came to his house. How can you buy an expensive car? You're supposed to be a role model and drive a beat up car.

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By the day when I used to be a role model and I had the beat up car I didn't see any of you following my example, and selling your Mercedes and Porsches and everything. But what is the message we're sending to people and what is the message we're sending to our children? When the doctor the engineer they can all you know ride nice cars whatever the EMA 1987 Corolla with a hole this big on the side and a board member will come and check the size of the hole No brother, they're not big enough.

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What is this journey?

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deserve a mommy's got business overseas. So when he bought a fancy car community started saying he stole from them because in man cannot have a nice car. This is what we're conditioned. There was a community after Isha impromptu fundraising. They raised half a million dollars to put a dome in the masjid. And the guy grabbed the microphone after he brothers sisters. As you know there is no dome in this Masjid and I hope you guys know your cell is not accepted in a building with no dome. You guys know that? Right? Okay, I'm being sarcastic.

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They dropped half a million dollars on that dome right after ash to make this dome half a million. The Imam is 24,000 a year something like that.

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So we don't like it. You see this overseas also. So you go and and I'm talking from personal experience, I'll go to places in the Middle East and in Africa, and they'll show me this new structure and facility that they built. And it cost this many millions of dollars and state of the art this and state of the art that and engineers and designers from this and that you come in two years later, and the places destroyed. Why? Because they didn't spend $1 training the staff that will maintain the structure that cost you 12 million. We have a problem of spending on people.

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We don't spend on people. The only time I like worked with msgid was in Canada. And

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you know at the university they have these magazines that have all these kinds of courses on them and everything. So I found a course on Divorce Law in Canada. I don't know Divorce Law in Canada, inheritance law in Canada, it's of course a two and three hour long course $150 I circle about four or five of them that I need.

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You know, inheritance law all these things marriage law in Canada Divorce Law, and I need that as an EMA circle them I give it to the president said pay for these courses for me and for the Mr. Mooney to know this stuff.

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How many of our moms now, or how many boards, let's just go to every Masjid in North America and visit all the boards and say, okay, you're a mom needs training. And there's a course on counseling and it cost $3,000. Which, how many boards you think would be willing to pay $3,000 so that mom can take a course on counseling? How many? Most of them be like, what if we pay this and then he quits and what nonsense was nonsense? And what is what why do you need a course on counseling? Just Just sit like this, tilt your head and keep your eyes half open and just do this? It looks like you care. mosqueda

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Yes, brother, and at the end, say, suburb brother, be patient. Let's follow up with counseling. There is even a way to sit. When someone has a problem. They're trying to tell it to you. Someone has a problem and addiction and it's embarrassing. So you don't sit like this? Uh huh. Tell me

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how you do that. It's embarrassing. They tell you, you face away from them with your body and with your face. So they don't feel embarrassed that you gluing them down and giving expressions?

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How many moms know that? And I don't want to be crass. But imagine a young man walks into the mom's office pick any machine in North America. He goes into the amount First of all, what are the odds that will happen? But let's put that aside. He goes in he tells the Imam, your chef, I think I know there's some young people in the audience. But let's say the guy is not renting his home. He's a homeowner,

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a homo nerd.

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For him to Hello. So the guy doesn't rent anything. Say Mom, I think I might be a homeowner

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helped me

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a lot, honestly. Do you think our moms are equipped to deal with that issue? What do you think you'll tell them? What do you think you'll tell them, it doesn't just make the things that will do nothing for him.

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Not nothing. But as far as practically helping this person.

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So we, again, maybe it's too long of a tangent from this one point. But it's just brilliant that 1400 years ago, we had the lesson. And we're just learning it now. We're just learning it now. I know of a machine in new york city that has five Imams, one of them, Genesis, you die, he's there, Mashallah. The other guy gurus, hottub classes, he's there. The third guy does the five prayers. That's his thing. The fourth guy met wedding divorce. He's there. And I forgot what the fifth guy does. But that's really like the workload. You know, a mom say 70% of their time is spent counseling. And we don't even provide them training for counseling 70% of their time. So they're in

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the message the whole time. One time this mess, you want to talk to me about a job in Toronto? And it was like, after a conference midnight, I went to them. And I said, What are the hours would you expect for me so I can deliver. I can tell you if I can deliver. They said we want you to be like us. And they asked on what kind of job interview is this? When they tell you we want you to be like us. I asked what my hours is we want you to be like us. I said what does that mean? They said, we've been here since fudger. And now it's midnight.

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So like, I don't want to be like you ever.

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I don't want to be like you. I don't wanna come here from Virgin and stay until midnight.

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And you know what imams do also, when they're preparing? When they go home. They're not vacationing, they're preparing their class. You know, for some moms, it takes them anywhere from three to six hours worth of preparation for a one hour lecture. Three to six hours. So when they go home, they're still working. Yeah. Anyways, you get the idea. We can stop

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with too much right? But it's just a problem that we still don't know the value of spending on people and investing in people investing in students of knowledge and scholarships and helping people with their you know, with their tuition. I have never Okay, I've never in my you know, this many years of that and such. Never ever heard an announcement brothers or sisters. There's a person who needs help with their tuition. We've heard there's a person who needs help with rent with this with that, but it might be fitting that we value individuals we value people more than buildings. We need to make that shift and it's happening now. But it's very slow. Very slow. Okay, anyways, palace

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point was a lot we stopped we move.

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We move on the happy stuff. None

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of the lie control that a little bit easier this time? Yeah.

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That just makes you angry though. Yeah.

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Carlos. So that's number one Amaro de la. I know

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understood the value of people. We say the most cash rich area in the world is where the most cash rich area in the world

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you know, the Middle East, the most cash rich area in the world. So, you know people estimate overload the problem with our own money, we don't have money. We have money and our community Mashallah has money and we have doctors and engineers and we have money. The problem with our own money, we have no brains really walk into any hospitals say I want to talk to the top heart surgeon like Dr. meathead Dr. dt. Dr. Han. Yes. The best brain surgeon doctor is a doctor also. There we have brains. Yeah. Go to NASA cooler. Scientists are observing Pakistanis and Indians mathematicians. But when the rover lands on Mars, the white guy comes in front of the camera. Well,

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Atlanta is about 1400 hours. And the Arab guys behind the camera that was my idea. They don't put him in front of the camera. We have brains, we have cash.

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But let's move on. Point number two is the lesson from Omar his life his gentleness.

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The gentleness of Rama

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Digital's Rama, we know Omar to be harsh and stuff, relaxed way. First of all, many, many times when a speaker gives a talk about the modern his personality. They do not analyze his personality properly. They always present Omar as this wild man who's willing to pull out his sword and chop someone's head off and even mentioned narrations you know that narration about the Jewish man who had a dispute with a hypocrite and the hypocrites pretending to be Muslim. They go to the provinces lm who judges for the Jew. So the hypocrite who's Muslim says, I don't accept this judgment. Let's go to aboubaker. They go to Abu Bakar. He also judges for the Jew. He says I don't accept the

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judgment. Let's go to Mr. Nigam, the modest house and almost says let me get this straight. The President judged and you didn't accept His judgment way here. He goes and gets his sword comes out, chopped his head off. And when his head falls on the floor, he says this is my judgment on you.

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And then it got to the point where, because Omar killed what looks like a Muslim, it got to the point where the pasta lamb had to execute Omar and then Allah sent down the verse in Surah Nisa, Fela, Arabic Allah you may not know by your Lord do not believe until after you Hakeem mukava shadowbane home to Malaysia due to unforeseen mcedit. Will you suddenly Muslim educator mentioned this and he says this narration is very strange. And he is not an acceptable narration. Do you think Omar would kill a Muslim?

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Forget that question. Would you kill a Muslim? And a Muslim do something you don't like the parking lot? he backs into your car just go.

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Then get in your car drive off. Would you do that?

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But Omar rhodiola the second best man in Islam, and he's just gonna murder someone. Of course, it's some crazy false narration.

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So no, he'd never did any of that stuff.

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So some are just these fabricated false weak narrations. But what about when, how to be belta he alerted the Meccans to the invasion of the conquering of Mecca. And Omar Avila and said jasola Let me strike the neck of this hypocrite. Or one of the little baby cellule the leader of the hypocrites in Medina said something and then

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Dr. sola, let me strike the neck of this hypocrite. And the person would always say no to that people don't say Mohammed kills his companions solo Salah.

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so then was when there were actual correct narrations that showed some kind of, let's just call it a strict harsh behavior from the side of Omar. So who is best to explain it? He will explain it himself in his own words. Not in my words, but anybody. He explained it because when he became the halifa, when he came to halifa, he heard and he saw people were visibly scared of him. So they said that when a worker would come by a road, the children would run to him. Yeah, but your ability and your father and he would like what their heads and, you know, when Obama returned by the road, grown men, everyone just scattered.

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And then when he leaves again, then people come back and start buying and selling and talking. So Omar, found out how people are scared of him. And what did it do to him it saddened him, it saddened him. So he gathered the people of Salatu Jamia people gathered, and he gave the following speech. He said he explains his harshness and just listen to his explanation. He says are you Hanna's? Oh people come to my Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam I used to be with the prophets of Salaam

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for come to abdulhadi mo Danny I was his Abdi and his like, like his servant looks like a slave servant. And at his service, we're gonna run sudo La la la Salaam le n

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And the problem was the most gentle of people were rottenness and the Most Merciful of people, but couldn't do. So I said to myself, I will lucidity Li Li, I'm going to put my strictness or my harshness, for lack of a better term. I'm going to put my harshness, to contrast his gentleness, see what's happening here. Look how sweet our moral dilemma is and how considerate he is. But

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he said for okuu Safin, so I'll be an A sword and shield and unsealed sword beignet between his hands. Yeah. And he is also saving face for the processor lab. So if so he would be the one to suggest something that would be harsh, so that the suggestion wouldn't come from the processor them You understand? Yeah, if something happened, the person was very upset with it. And what would make the the harsh suggestion and the problem would just stay quiet. So I'm trying to I'm being that person frame, the unsheathed sword sword beignet between sans or for insha. Or if he wills of Madani, and that image is the sheath of the sword. So he will just see the sword again. So I will be

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a sword willing to do whatever he needs me to do. But if you want it, we'll just see that sword back again. So no damage, nothing will happen. We're in shadow, Kenny. And if you will, he would let me loose on people

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from the lemma unit, so then I will do whatever he wishes. And he says, and I continued with the processes alum, when he at Cadillac, and that's my intention, I'm just they're willing to do something, always suggesting to that suggestion doesn't come from the process. I love the unsheathed sword, or he can pull me back and put me back in the heat. And that's it. Had to follow law, who are the nanny until Allah took his soul while he's pleased with me. Then he says, then Uber Khurana, as soon as getting too long, so let me just go through it since then I will back up again. And again, he's a worker is gentle. So now he's going to put his harshness in contrast a workers need or

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gentleness, so, and then he will use me as an unsealed sword or hold me back if you wanted to. And then that was my intention with him until Allah took his soul. And he died while he was pleased with me. And he not wants to the rest of them complained to the companions, that Omar is a bit too harsh. He's always like trying to hurt people and have to keep holding him back. He was pleased with him. obachan the same way was pleased with him never complained. Then he says, Now he explains that now there isn't any gentle gentleness that I have to contrast with the harshness. So he says to the people that now that harshness has decreased a lot. But it's still there for the people who do

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injustice. And then he describes very beautifully, that if any of the people of injustice do anything against the people of righteousness and Deen, then I'll put their faces look washed. now. I'll put their faces down to the ground. Now put my foot one one of their cheek on the ground and my other cheek, my foot on the other cheek. See the image? But then he says, then whom about the lake and then after all that, although Howdy, Rob, and I'll put my cheek on the on the sand. The n FF would Dean. So to the people basically, of righteousness and religiosity, I put my chip on the ground and let them put their foot on my other cheek. You see what's happening here, who is saying

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that was harsh is no more. This is a gentle Omar. And there is no need, there is no gentleness that I had to contrast. So now that's gone, except against people of injustice, I'm still going to be firm. But as for the people of religiosity and righteousness, I'm going to let them step on my cheek. So there is that gentle side of Roma. Now, something else interesting, after the Battle of whether the villa made a decision on how to deal with the captives, and Allah said in the Quran, that was the wrong decision. So Omar Abdullah, and who comes the next day and finds a worker in the process? I'm crying, because Allah, for lack of a better term, reprimanded them in the Quran. So he

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found them crying. So look what he says to them, and only someone who's gentle can say this. He says, What is making you cry? Told me so that if it concerns me, I will cry. And if it doesn't concern me, the key to the buka ikoma are cry because you're crying.

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And that's the gentle person who can say that. And a lot of us in this room, we can't do that right now. Sisters are good at that. Mashallah. And it's commendable. It's not an it's not an insult. It's commendable that you can feel so much empathy for your friend that you can cry with your friend. We have evidence for that. Also, in case you think I'm just making fun, the hadith of Ayesha al Bukhari, she said, because she was accused, I showed them Susie's crying, he said, then an unsightly woman came knocking on the door as possible.

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came inside, sat down and started crying next to me. Nobody insulted her. Why is she crying? That's how a good friend is. So Amaro the loan on who is such a good friend, and he's such a sweet man that he said, I will cry because you're crying, even if it doesn't concern me.

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How many of us can do that? Some of us now and if your friend is crying, you try to cheer him up. Let's go get some kebab or something. kebab. And that's the only way we can make them feel happy. But that's another level of gentleness and empathy. Right?

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So, so it shows that it wasn't just a madman who's always out to try to strike people, but older generations that are authentic, or when someone did something incredibly wrong. So he wanted to present that harsh offer and not the process of them. And the problem if he accepted philosophy said, No, he will hold them back. And he said, like I'm being like a soldier at the hands of the profit center. So other things about his personality show you that he was a normal person and a gentle person. When it came time for seriousness, he was serious. And that's why I'm not alone, who is known for being very good at understanding people's problems. During the reign of a worker, a man

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came, and he was not making any sense. Like he's speaking in sentences, but they were just incoherent not making any sense. So Booker had Omar sit down with him while Omar, and when I asked the class this there was so to scare him, scare him, the guy can't even speak, because he's in shock is gonna have someone scare him. He because Omar was good with people, and he was good at understanding people's personal problems. So Omar actually calmed the man down and the man explained to him what had happened. And I don't want to say too many young people in the room, but something bad happened to him, okay.

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of that nature. So the, the point is,

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after fudger, Amara de la said that we would sit we pray fudger with the prostate lab, and then we would sit to the side. And we tell stories of jelenia, the snake things we used to do before Islam. And he said, I told the story of how one time I wanted to worship an idol, but I didn't have enough money. So I had some dates and I shipped the idol out of the dates. And then I went on a journey would get hungry, apologize to the God and eat the right arm, then eat the left arm then I'm so sorry, I have to eat your left leg than your right leg. I'm sorry, I have to eat your torso. Then after all, I'm really hungry. God, I have to eat your head. Now I apologize. I'll rebuild you as

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soon as I get back to the end.

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And they were doing this in the masjid, by the way laughing. And then he said the professor said lamb would be over there making his liquor. And he would yell tefik Elena, where there was some problem with turn to us and just smile. Maybe doesn't even hear the stories but he would turn and smile. You know what? Yeah, it's hard to talk in the masjid. I want to admit it in Virginia one time, it says on all four walls do not speak.

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And people would see each other and do this.

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Recording speak. Why can't you speak? Or if someone is laying down like this properly, you're in the midst of what law has to be like this in the masjid. I can relax like this and the rest should ever

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sit properly. It's a mess. But basically, when the porcelain came in front, I live in the middle of laying down in the midst of insert komiya bhatura

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What about that? People were relaxed. People were talking and everything. He didn't tell them make dhikr of Allah. He just smiled at them.

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Anyways, well I spent about in New York, and I would go to these massages, and there'll be like seven people that all the youth are in the masjid. And there'll be like seven people scattered around the masala just yelling at the youth. Hey, there's not a farm set up. It's MSG. MSG. Do what? Let him talk. Let this guy lay down. Let him scratch. don't scratch.

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don't scratch maybe has lice you have to scratch if you have lice. Let him scratch.

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All right. So many times people do not analyze the personality of Omar properly. He had a gentle personality. And he was a normal person. If something made him angry, he would get angry. And he would put that forward so that the President didn't have to get angry and put it forward. And the person would pull back or let him and I don't I can't personally right now cannot think of a single time when President said Yeah, go for it. He always held them back true or false.

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Right. I can't think of maybe there's one but almost always for someone just pulling him back. Right. All right. So that was the second thing. So the first thing on valued people over money and buildings and we should learn from that. The second thing, the gentle side of aroma and I have to say that because in life you meet a lot of rude people who would tell you I'm like, this is something really rude and they smile and say I'm like imma let you're not like you just get it.

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You just rude that's all. You're not like are you just rude? Think I'm gonna do some rude vulgar guy walking around.

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Nasty to everybody and hurt and feelings and stuff. No, you're not like Arma but people don't know about or they miss analyze his

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personality. Every guy whose main he thinks he's like

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one of one of our friends in Virginia was giving him no see, I used super rude to people. So I'm telling me, it'd be nice to Don't be rude to you very harsh with people. And as I'm talking to him, he's cutting me off saying I know that. I think certainly the humility of admitting it makes it okay. I know that to me. If it's on if you know that fix it. That's not acceptable. He said, But now, this is the worst thing when you have evidence for bad manners. When you have evidence to hate someone, or evidence to envy or to be a hater, this The worst thing when you think you have Islamic evidence, and the guy tells me but but

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Musa alayhis salam, when the angel of death came to him, he punched him.

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This is your evidence for being rude to people. You tried to say musallam was rude. I'd like to see you punch the angel of death. It's the end of the comparisons. It's just another planet. completely wrong anyways, you know, anyways.

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So that was to number three wanted to talk about the the Justice and the fairness of Omar Abdullah Han. And

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the total.

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Hello, by the full story, I probably should have said the full the full story is back then the Angel of Death used to come to profits in the form of a human being and seek their permission for death or not. For he came to Musa alayhis salam This is before and it's not the moment of when he when he took his soul. He came to him and moose Ali Salaam, yes, he did have a temper and you can have a temper but you control it, and it will work her had a temper. I don't know if you look at his biography, a worker actually had a quick temper. But Omar is more famous for his temper, even though obama has a faster temper a shorter fuse. But why? Because he controlled it more. So it's fine, have

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a temper get angry with the controller. It's not the sin to have a temper the student is when you let it loose. So So then, so Musa alayhis salam thought it was just some guy fooling around and he and he struck him, you know, for that, but then and then at a later time or what have you then you live with him and took a solo to Allah. Alright, if not above the law and Homer the companion he used to say a Kuru music Rama, Rama hapa. He's to say,

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mentioned a lot or mentioned a lot. He says, For inoculum in the Khartoum Omar, the curcumin. Because indeed, if you mentioned Omar, you will mention justice. And if you mentioned justice, you mentioned you mentioned a lot.

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So it's to me, what stood out about Mr. Rolando to this companion

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was that he was so just His justice. So we'll just take three or just some quick examples. But another really powerful quote is a messenger sent by heraclius. So heraclius now so this is not a Muslim now, directly is sent a messenger to Omar. So the messenger comes to Medina, where is your leader? Where's Omar? And he's, he's lying under the tree. Remember, this guy comes from the Roman, the Eastern Roman Empire, basically the Byzantine Empire. And you've got guards and all that for their leaders. And he does. He's asking God as the leader of the Muslims, this powerful new Empire, and it's like that man sleeping under the tree. He looks around and there are no soldiers standing

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or doing anything. This man is just sleeping alone. So he says, How come

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Delta or they say, come too far delta m into an MTA. That's what he said forward. So beautiful. He says, You ruled. You were just so you just felt safe that you slept. And that's because Omar was so fair to everybody. Nobody had an issue. So he just slept under the tree. There were no bodyguards or anything like that. And of course, it's not realistic to expect that today. And I've seen people do that today. One time I was with a friend on a bus. This is overseas, and a motorcade of the president of the country passed. My friends who America sleep under the tree. Yes. Have you been that was before. I guarantee if you become president tomorrow, you're not sleeping under no tree.

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Lissa trees inside the bunker honey and you have

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guns everywhere.

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Like so Amaro the law and one time he brought more Alia nabee soufiane. Asked and how to lead and he says, I want to appoint two of you to be governors one in a sham

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One in Egypt.

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But with the condition that we count all your wealth right now, and at the end of your term, we will see whatever wealth you have, we'll take the excess and give you exactly what you started with. It sounds like a bad job offer, right? But how much is in your bank account now? Our company will hire you. And at the end of the year, make sure there's only 1000 or 200 whatever's in your bank account.

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What do I make from this? So Haldane Well, it says our ATIA in integer hardener atom now, this is what if one of us goes into like business and we'll use preventing prevent him and Omar said Yes, sir Melissa timeout, and he didn't like these terms.

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So I'm not alone who made more Alia governor or a ruler over a sham, a mirror of a sham, and he put us ruler over or a mirror over.

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I will miss a key. Right. So

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then there is the story. That is really nice story. And it's a quick one. How long have we been going on? It's like long, huh?

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Yeah, five, okay, what was the rest, the other two are short anyways. So amatola, on walks by this area, or not one notion says an area known as a hammer where these two let all the animals graze for free here. But the other says he was in the market. And then he noticed some camels that were exceptionally bigger and fatter than all the other camels. They said, who do these belong to? They said they belong to your son. So they're exceptionally fatter than all the rest. There's something wrong here. So Omar calls his son, he said, What's the store with these cameras, he says, I bought them in Alton, Grayson and himer, like any other Muslim, like anyone would let their animals graze

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them. So Omar says

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he still holds him. Yeah. And they said, meaning the people, because of their your camels, they said, Let the camels of the son of a middle man eat and graze First, let them graze longer, let them drink, give them better access to food, give them longer access to the water, give them first access to water. That's why your camels are fatter than everyone else's. So you sell them. And whatever capital you you invest in whatever capital you paid, take back your capital, and the profit put it back into the treasury of the Muslims and tbaytel mad

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because they got preferential treatment, and they look better than every other camera. Because by virtue of you being the son of a mirror of money, this is how fair and just he was with his own family. And he would not allow them any favoritism or any advantages or anything like that.

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In another popular story, and they're like two versions of this story, his wife with the oil, and one version, I'm not going to ask brings oil, like and it's like mustard oil. And it's like,

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like, basically, they're like lumps like this. And they need someone to weigh it and sell it to the believers. And almost I wish I knew a woman who knew her who could weigh in sell it. Why a woman because it used to be the woman who would be in charge of this kind of thing. And he's selling the perfumes or so his wife said I know how to do that. Now in this narration, he lets her he sells you know, she's selling all throughout the day. And as you're breaking this with your hand, your hand smells great. What do you do? Wash it? Your hand smells great. What do you do? Deal? Oh, yeah.

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So when he came back at night, he smelled the strong smell in the house. And he said, what happened is she said, she explained to him a little bit here and there. And she just wipe her finger off. And he just he took it. And if you could just see him, he's washing it to get the scent out. Because it wasn't a gift for you, for the wife of the halifa. The guy said, and break it up and sell it. He didn't say let your wife use it. But now you've got some of it on you. So if you could see him washing, and then he was, again, still there at wash again, just checking and wash checking and washing. The other narration is that he refused to allow her to be the one to do it. Because he

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tells her she said Why? Because he said you were going to go with your finger together like this, touch it. And then you're gonna go like this. Because that's what happens when a good good scent comes on your finger. you wipe it off. You cleaned it off like that. We're saying that we can learn from this level of justice of moral dilemma on home.

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So fair with

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whoever is in charge of and we say okay, we're not qualified. But like we said before, every one of us is in charge of something at work your manager if you're a business owner, if you've got younger siblings, you take care of if you're married and you have children, you if you're just married, then you don't have to learn you still in charge of someone. Maybe it's the other way around. That's another talk.

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Maybe she's in charge, but the point is that

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in the end, are we just like a moral dilemma?

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And I don't want to go into it. But so many people are so unfair, so unfair to their family and to their wives and threats, and this and

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fell asleep that my wife might be watching. I don't want to sound hypocritical. Number four. Just this is very quick. A beautiful and short description of what appears inside Buhari will can have a coffin and Nikita villa.

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Such a short but beautiful description that Omar used to stop at the book of Allah meaning at the boundaries and the limits of the book of Allah. And you might find someone when it's a good day, when it's a good day. Everyone's a good Muslim. And it's a good day everyone's a good Muslim and smiling and happy when you having a bad day. That's when your true worth your true caliber shows. So it's like these people who tell you I'm very calm unless provoked

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Allah, that's the whole world. Nobody wakes up provoked, Danny, everyone's calm and let's provoke so your calmness doesn't count when provoked if you're calm now we'll give you a thumbs up. But if you're if you get provoked and you lose it, then you're not a calm person. Yeah, so

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so what happens like you'll find that person when it's a good day Hello sir Good day their common smiling and everything but when they lose it and then you tell them philosophy calm down MC will do it tequila.

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Hello, nothing you say no, I Oh, you would, you would hit them with would get them to stop with Romero de la wanna he could be in the middle of an intense rage. And if you tell him a verse, he stops right there. Yeah, one time. And I'll close with this Yani for this point. But this happened one time I was in an office with this year, visiting the chef and his office. Then the third guy came. And this guy had a lot of tests in his life. So he's going to a job interview, and he had a flat tire. And then he checked his spirit and the spirit was flat.

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But he comes really angry. And he would say things like things like, Nick was a lot doing this to me, what does he want from me? And he will lie. This is how we are you drive with a flat spare? And then you for months. And then when you have a flat tire in the Quad ulladulla You did it. You did it.

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No one has to take responsibility for anything anymore. Anything. So he came in, he's just pacing back and forth angry. And it had to happen on the day of my interview and I couldn't make the interview. And of course, I'm not even gonna go to it. They're not gonna hire me and everything. And they just kept telling him just say after me, they after me. They want him to say that to our one year struck with a calamity, Aloma jugni, fumes, Liberty.

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And the guy is just not not too angry. Then what happened? We prayed to her. We had tea, some cookies. And Halsey calm down. While he's having his tea. He goes to the chef. Just close that door again.

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And the chef tells him too late.

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Too late. You had your chance. Now after shy tea.

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You wanna?

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Now you want to say that? Too late, have you? Alright, last one. And we'll make it quick. And last one that you might find it a bit weird, but I think it's very.

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It's very relevant to how we are today in our lifestyle. It's basically our moral dilemma and his word that he didn't want of the materialism of this dunya. And the scholars say that zuid for Omar stood out very much so because they said the dunya wasn't by the dunya. We mean, the materialism and the wealth wasn't that much during the time of boubakeur. During the time of the Armada, there was so much wealth for the line, that well, first of all, the Prosser Lam said in a Hadith, that the day of judgment will not come at yuk, thora, fecal Alma and to wealth increases amongst you.

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This is just an interesting point about this hadith is that it's talking about something that will happen in the future. And and it happened two times, and it's going to happen to other times. Yeah, Annie, this hadith will be applicable four times. They said the first time during the reign of Omar, there was so much wealth, because the actual fee comb amongst you the companions, one explanation. They said that some companions had so much wealth that when they died, you know how you take, hey, that's your goal. That's your share. They said they had to break their testicle with an axe. Yeah, and imagine you have so much gold that they have to chop it up with an axe. That's how much work

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they have. So there was a lot more work during the time of the second time is during the time of

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Omar Abdulaziz. The two other times in the future one will be during the time of the MADI because he will spread wealth everywhere. And the fourth time this hadith will be applicable is an at the time of a sub Memorial, there'll be so much wealth and people have no value for work. Anyways. The point is that

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one of the companions said the following about a worker Norma comparing the worldly life in their times, he said, m abubaker. For them to read who dunya wanna Marita? He says as for a worker

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The world did not come at him with the materialism and wealth did not come at him, nor does he come towards it. He says what unmount Omar, for that who dunia when you read, he said, As for Omar, the world came to him, but he didn't come to it. And it really stands out the way he had wealth during the what is known as ama Ramada. The year of Ramadan, which was the year with the city was Medina was struck with famine for about 19 months. And it said that people's confliction changed because of the starvation and how they looked physically. And the amount of the law and who he had. The storage isn't everything at his disposal. But he had vowed to eat nothing but oil and bread, oil and bread

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until it's over until the famine is over. He said I've vowed to eat nothing but oil and bread. Even the bread he used to eat wasn't like they didn't like you know, back, then you'd grind other you would have a windmill that would do it for you with the wind and grind the flour into real smooth powder. Or you would do it yourself. Heavy flat stones, grinding it. So sometimes you didn't do a full job, we just quickly grind that together and you leave these kernels still in there. And any of you have tried to eat wheat or barley when it's dry. How hard is it like a rock isn't it? So there'll be some half pieces and some quarter pieces. A man once came to visit

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a pub and he said fine eating this rough bread with just oil dipping it in oil. And that's all he ate until his complexion change. So he asked the man to eat with him. And the man said, Nah, I'll eat later. And Omar could understand that. He didn't like my food, the quality of my food. And then he responds to him in such a way that really shows that he understood good food. He says a charania does. And he says do you see that I'm not capable of bringing raisins and then soaking them in water until it becomes blood red so that all the good stuff comes out of the raisins can be juice now he's describing the way to make that juice then he describes getting a deer a gazelle specifically, and a

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young one and then roasting it over a slow flame by slow flame. And it describes the whole process and the bread being grinding it finally and then take from this dip in that and eat that that's what he said Actually, he knows food. But he he wasn't going to like fill his belly and everything while the almost starving. And he said until this is over. I'm not getting anything but Brendan oil, and he survived on Breton oil. And that's rough.

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So my closing is with this issue of eating and how the LM said that the worst vessel you can fill is your stomach, ma'am I love them, we are unsure. Remember, the worst thing you can fill is your stomach, then he said has would not be sufficient for for the son of Adam. A few bites to sustain him.

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Enough for the son of Adam a few bites just keep you going for income

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if you have to, and there's no other way, then a third for the food. A third for the drink a third for your air. This is that the Hadith will always started here. Right? We will start the Hadith here like like that's, you know, the minimum. Third, third, a third, right? But the Hadith says that's the maximum what you should do just eat a few bites to sustain you. And what is interesting is that food that Allah subhanaw taala put on earth to give us nutrition and sustenance and energy and all that is making people sick. It wasn't intended to make people sick. So one of two things probably wrong, or both are wrong. And I believe both are wrong one, the ingredients what we're putting in

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the food, there's something wrong with that to the amount of food that we're eating something wrong with that 150 years ago, anyone living in America consumed two pounds of sugar a year. You know how much we consume this year now per year. from two pounds a year? How much take a guess

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150 pounds of sugar a year. And that's another human being

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I'm a little over 150 like like putting another camel of sugar and I just eat them in a year.

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And all this is processed by you're not processed by but you know you have poor little pancreas. How big is your pancreas at the core of the law?

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It's not that big. Yeah. And your beta cells and it's all this work. And you was your body designed to take this much sugar in are all these other things that we're doing. So that's why the best thing is to decrease how much we eat. Okay, I know we break that rule at events and stuff. But if we can just maintain and control how much we eat. And so one quote Maurice to make was really powerful. He used to say woe to the one whose stomach leads him to the hellfire. Well, he would say that while he would eat this bread with the oil why, and it's such a nice idea and thought he's saying you can live on anything. You can

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Live on anything

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he's living off of, for how many months? Bread an oil. So he's to say woe to the one who stomach takes him to the hellfire. Why? Let this be what will take you to the alpha filling with haram or eating haram or eating something that's, you know, you know, doubtful that has this issue with it. Why would you do that you can survive on anything. So why would this be? What will put you in trouble with the loss of Hano Todd and it's just about control. And one of the things we lack the most now in our world now is everything is instant gratification. And there is no self control. Even when you put the food or wise man once told me says when I'm at a table, and they put the food and

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we're waiting for someone, first of all, that's an etiquette volcanological never forget, if we all order our food and one guy's food hasn't come yet. wait for him to get his food before we start eating. He said I will know who's impatient, because they start nibbling they can't wait. We're waiting for some guy to wash his hands and

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this guy fry all live shot of Baba news, Pakistan.

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You know, the discipline and the way Omar could just handle himself and just keep this in check. And the etiquette anyways that we're supposed to eat little and control that that's just in the world we're in right now. Perhaps it was worth mentioning. I apologize for going a little bit too long but definitely headed for staying in for attentive listening. Aloha Baraka Mohammed was Salam ala Baraka

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next month, next week.