Ibrahim Nuhu – The Disease And The Cure #184

Ibrahim Nuhu
AI: Summary © The importance of words in religion and the need for a partner and avoiding cultural barriers are emphasized. The success of marriage is also highlighted, along with the need for forgiveness and finding a partner who qualifies as a husband. The history of Islam and the use of "naught" in relation to emotions and behavior is also discussed. The transcript concludes with a brief advertisement for a movie.
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salatu salam ala rahmatullah wa Alameen. And Urbino even Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa salim

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but yo welcome is min shadow Ramadan Mubarak Al fu Arbo Melton welcome setInterval Wofully city Dasha missionary, Maurice, alpha and we're about to invite Sharon who are still with us and if you have activity Mobarak that were there were some last 100 hotel and you better coffee now a few minutes a few minutes

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when yo Farah Linna as the lat work for a limo Allahi wa Daraja who he really

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so inshallah we continue from where we stopped hoping to be able to finish the book before the end of Ramadan insha Allah who has the visual and move on to the actual officer in sha Allah,

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Allah subhanaw taala granted patients as we said, inshallah we continue studying until death generation after generation I have seen a lot of generation UI, so inshallah will stay a long time and do the best inshallah.

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koulamallah for him a lot faster.

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This is a new chapter that we'll be talking about how boo Zoda teaming commanded.

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Loving the wife is

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is part of the completeness or completeness of the of the hub.

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That means if a person loves his wife,

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he is doing an act of worship Allah subhanaw taala will reward him for for that. And

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im says, As for loving the wives, there is no blame in that.

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Yeah, I asked

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a person do you love your wife Hamid, your wife?

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Would you say yes.

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So that was asking the wrong person, right? So let me just have a clue that I shouldn't go and ask somebody else.

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Actually, we agree not to have this class if you don't upgrade yourself, right.

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And you insist that today we have that word

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with no obligation. Alright.

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So he says a person who who loves his wife, there shouldn't be there is no blame in that. You know, they ask the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Who do you love the most? Carla Aisha

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the first person he mentioned it was his wife. He said

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they said we asked him about the brothers instead Abuja you asked he said shall they said how about from the brothers he said

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her father

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so the prophets Allah Allah Surma does that that's me it is okay for us also to do and not just okay but it's good. It's one of the essence you know that keeps the marriage intact you know

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who loves word more?

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Who was very particular and concerned about words

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brothers and sisters

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Salah you didn't have any

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that's why brothers don't care that much about those words. Yeah, as a thank you.

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And for the sisters it means a lot. That's part of the nature of the sisters in the way allows her to like great creative but they don't need to say yes, this like that or no, they just keep talking. But that's

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That's how it is.

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Naturally the one who is more emotional is a woman not not the man. That's why words works a lot. Yeah. Unfortunately have many since before he had a brother been deceived by somebody, those scammers online. You know,

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you hear hundreds of sisters being deceived.

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always wondered why why would assist or paid money to somebody that she doesn't even know who he is. You don't need religion to tell you that this is against the common sense.

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You ally, you don't need religion to them.

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But they're just looking for somebody to tell them good words. Unfortunately. Unfortunately, sometimes you have sisters who have husbands. Yeah, it's very serious matter that we have to really understand this correctly. If there is no taqwa in the heart, she has a husband we have a lot of cases like this. She has a husband but she is looking for somebody else. Who can tell her good words.

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Why because the husband is absent.

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He's at home but

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useless in this regard. And she doesn't feel hola sweetheart so she will look for somebody to tell her those lovely words.

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So this is against the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam i You should understand this

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and be concerned

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and show care

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and show that yes, you are there.

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And they mean a lot to your life.

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You might not need this but they need it and shall I will claim is going to talk about this very simple thing to understand if you do understand it in sha Allah, you live with your family will be excellent.

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So it doesn't work. It has

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stopped the flow of my class.

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He wants to hear properly

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so we have to take lessons from others may Allah subhanaw taala guide them, do what you are supposed to be doing, then force your family to go look for somebody because if they don't fit Allah, the next option they have is to look for somebody who tell them good words. And Allahu Allah, what exactly will be happening, you know, at the expense of that good words. They're looking for

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Carla, but he I mean, come on, he was intending Allah subhanho wa Taala anybody Allah subhanaw taala ash tells us that it is one of his blessings upon us that he create color and color color, coalminer men and physical males were there for us from us, Allah subhanaw taala create, as well as spouses from us.

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Because what was created from Adam Alayhis Salam

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Carla was originally test couldn't relate. So that you will be comforted.

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You know, with her obey.

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That means a brother cannot have the comfort and relax in this dunya without a wife. Yeah, don't take it lightly. This is true. Whatever comfort you claim you're having trust me is deficient.

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Your focus is deficient.

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tranquility and peace of mind also be deficient. Allah if Allah subhanaw taala replace it with something else like those grades call us

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or do did not marry throughout their life but yes, like one or two three, you know, these are exceptions. Alaska wants them to be busy with something else but there is they don't be go with the Sunnah of Rasulullah, sallAllahu, Mandela's of the Rosary

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is clear. So there's a message for all of us not to take lightly as long as you can marry and upgrade yourself and stay away from that, you know, state of slavery of this comfort. Sorry to say this is how it is. As long as you can do it do it as quickly as possible.

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Allah says Allah Testudo Allah has so you don't have second Sakeena and tranquility and peace of mind unless if you have a wife

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not all every wife. Good one. Yeah.

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Which Allah Bina commoditised Rama and Allah subhanaw taala place more mercy, you know, and also love. That's why this color said marriage is supposed to be based on luck.

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And this is what the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallaahu Silva mentioned. There's always you know, eluded or do marry those who love you.

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forced marriages in Islam is wrong. You want your daughter to have this lovely and good life. But you send her to somebody that she doesn't like and she hates you.

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What are you planning for her?

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What do you expect to get in that marriage?

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stress and depression depression

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which Alabama commodity drama infidelity killer Iowa telecommunicator for karoun Nobody understands this except somebody who reflects properly

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and reflection result in action right.

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So can I conclude that most of my students are not

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even complete the blank

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but Jalil Murata, secondly Ragini yes colocado Allah so Allah subhanaw taala makes a woman second tranquillity of a man Yes Could they have called boy his heart can only relax when he has a partner, you know, a woman as his as a partner, a good partner in marriage,

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which Allah Bina Houma, Collison be, and Allah subhanaw taala connected between them through law

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because they are different, sometimes different country, different race, different language, different cultures, you know, but they understand each other. You know, sometimes they will marry even the language barrier and so big, you know, husband doesn't understand the why properly and he also doesn't understand him properly. And they succeed also.

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That's why Honestly speaking, throw away anything that tells you cultural barriers have impact in the success of the marriage. While I am telling you these are old jokes,

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yeah, just just sit down and and think for a moment and see that your culture in your country, or wherever you live in?

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Do we have divorce in that place? A lot in clashes and fighting, and you know, everything is there, you know, and then somebody will come and tell you no, no, no

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cultural barrier, you have to get from your family, you know, your cousin's or your country. Why? Because you're going to face a lot of problems if they are not from your country, okay, then, in my country, when the person when people marry, how can we see them having problems almost every day?

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Because woman, is woman? Is that any different between the woman that is living in the last part of the world? You know, that which is living in Oracle? Which one is Australia, Australia and another part of the world? Is there any difference between No, no difference? I'm telling you, if you ever think that there is a difference, you're wrong, you're thinking. The same goes to the brothers man is a man wherever you find him, he thinks in the same way. That's why Sharia asks you to focus on

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what are the things that allows me to ask you to focus on manners and religion?

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Does it matter sell religion?

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The behavior is the same. from both side, Allah subhanaw taala asked you to focus on manners and religion there is no place where Allah smart Allah says you have to go to your culture that's why also last summer to destroy this clean humanity from any place even from the

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Yahuwah Did you right? Even from the Judas lessons as a wife, very excellent did a good one.

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Because Allah has one to choose for him that the bat

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and that's how, how it is and you have some of the components of the prophets Allah tsumago plan is also from Persians. It was a very successful marriage.

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That's how how it is so if you claim says Allah Swati placed the Mohammed and the mercy you know between the two spouses, so that both of them can have what they are looking for

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good idea so the husband is looking for second tranquility and peace of mind and the wife is looking for

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mentioned this a lot

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know that kind of protection that you mentioned, what is you looking for for marriage?

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Attend something attend at something that is related to attention

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that's what is that?

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How does that

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what is that? What is affection?

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Caring? How do you define

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care to

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somebody who cares? Somebody's showing

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that's why this caller said what she's looking for, for scholars have is Allah is easy. SR is looking for what is known as a diff.

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Did you ever feel cold in your life? And what do you do you have blankets at home, right? You put in how do you feel from inside?

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That's she's not looking for what you're looking for. But looking for somebody who cares

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For her to believe that she's next to somebody who's concerned.

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One word is better than giving her the dunya. And whatsoever it

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if she knows what she does, and she goes with her nature, that's why I almost said, after getting the second husband and the first husband divorced her in the wrong way. But she couldn't forget him. She praised him. She praised his daughter, she praised his son, she praised his dog, she praised his maid in the house. Usually when the divorce happens, people don't think about the good thing that used to happen in the marriage, as well as Martina says, will attend. So we'll further Binaca after the divorce, don't forget those virtues and good thing that needs to take place in your marriage. Because people don't remember the wife doesn't remember any good about that husband. He also doesn't

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remember any good about him.

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If he's good, he will not talk about her again, because now she is not away even when she is the wife issued. So now she is too far from him. She also the same thing, but

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they don't have any interest in coming back. So Allah azza wa jal says they shouldn't forget what was there between between them. So almost, she praised him that means that marriage was really excellent, you know, in a way, she cannot forget what exactly happened. And she married somebody who's richer than Abu Zahra, who gave her more than abuser hope, I mean, please have more than a Buddha in terms of the dunya and the physical things and he told her use my wealth you and your family members Subhanallah she said he said this wealth of mine is not restricted to you, you can even invite your family to come and get whatever they want.

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But then she said if I am to combine everything I got from the second husband, you know, and and coolamon of any attorney Marbella Asahara Anita visa, he said well Allah the value of anything I got from the second person will never reach the value of one small plate, the smallest plate or cap that I got from a user

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this is dunya right and this is also another dunya but the way it is given

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the way it is presented, the environment the circumstance, you know, you can get something simple which you bought it 50 cent

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trust me, which he bought it 50 cent? Yeah, there are street clothes that he has not listened to this is I'm just talking to these guys. Which which which one was seriously only 57

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Hamada answer Jana Madison,

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nobody amongst you, okay, Hammar and sagia, Hamid got 57 thing, since this one is lack of experience, but he got 1000 thing. But the way it He prepared an environment in the house, trust me, the value of that 50 cent thing, you know, might not be seen at all the way it is given, you know, the environment and the circumstance, the life in the house has a lot of impact in that gift.

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So, sister who is living with somebody who's like this might, you know, praise what he knew, much more greater than what she got, you know, which is in abundance. Bigger than, than those small, small things physically.

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So please do understand this message. Yeah, you need them. Yeah. Especially in our time when Allah who need them, you know,

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you don't have time to waste.

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What could call it Allah Akiva Vickery Hema La La La Mina Nisa, Mama haram in Hoonah. And look at this conclusion after Allah sponsor talks about what is halal or haram about in marriages which say you can marry and which one you can't. Alas, Martin says you read Allah, Who do you buy in Cambodia consume and Olivia Roman Catholic metabolically. All of these prescriptions are they're given to you by Allah so that Allah will explain to you the method and the path to success. Allah, Allah smarter says marriage, you know that Allah has been to prescribe and talk to you in this way. It said, this is part of the explanations of Allah's mantra to us so that you will be guided to that which will

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lead you to success, where to where Aleikum and Allah Subhan Allah wants to forgive you and forgive your sins.

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Because it helps you to focus and to do the right thing. And that can invite the forgiveness of Allah subhanaw taala Allahu halimun Heki and this prescription is done by an ally Rabbil Alameen the one who knows everything, and Hakeem and the one who is the most wise, who plays things in their own proposition. Is this what Allah who did on YouTube Allah, Allah wants to accept to repentance, where, where you need to live in a tent, Aruna Sherawat and TAMIU Milan of EMA, but those who are not following the system prescribed by Allah subhanaw taala they follow that desire the Shabbat they want you to tilt and to stay away from the path of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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Yeah, that's why they provide you all of those images, all of those bad things, you know, to deprive you from marriage. Those people who have

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Izzy with those things when they married, do they find marriage? Interesting? No,

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no, because now he's going to be living with one person and get bored of

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what helps him not to get bored of his wife, because he doesn't have experience with others. But his life is all with others hanging around with this one with that one with this one with that one, for sure, when he married this one, he's gonna stay with her, you know, 24 hours, he will get bored.

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And what is the next thing to do, to marry again, another clash, another problem, it doesn't have anything to help him to do that, then he will go and look for extra marital affairs.

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Really send this message to everyone these things, this is what they do. They let a person you know after the marriage not to find marriage interesting in the way he is thinking of it to be

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caught up, we didn't live in a time we're gonna show how to enter the domain. And now the more you read the law when you have fever uncle, or politically insulin, Viva Allah subhanaw taala wants to grant you relief. And man has been created by Allah subhanaw taala. And this is a weakness. So what makes you strong to marry? Yeah, you have that partner will help you in sha Allah in your marriage, the husband and the wife, this is how we managed to be done. Marriage is not about Roman Romans. That is a word like this. Romans, marriage is not about this.

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It's responsibility. It has a lot of this, but it is responsibility. Because this is not that which will make you happy all the time, because it has limitation. If your thinking is all about this, trust me, you're going to get bored of your marriage.

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Because you will get tired, she will get tired. You know. And both of you are tired. That's why as soon as Allah Azza is warning also from time to time, if the husband called her, why would she reject?

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Yeah, that's the message all of us that people will get bored of these things, you know, that is something bigger in in marriage much more bigger than this.

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And that's the life between the two spouses in general. So his strength in her and she is strengthening

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the deficiency he has, she will fix that one. And the deficiency she has he will fix that one.

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Yeah, some issues come back to the house because he knows that there is somebody in the house to help him to fix his affairs. Yeah, that's why as I said, Don't marry a loser.

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You Allah don't marry a loser, no matter how much prettier she is. And don't marry a loser no matter how much prettier he is or handsome.

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Don't stay with him. It will increase your pain. You need somebody who qualifies being husband.

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So one of the scholars said if you see a woman is focusing on that which a man is focusing on. Definitely she will end up regretting

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marrying a loser she will not know in the future. Who is the husband actually is she the one who

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there are some some who are like that. So Allah Silla Malatya Cara, you read Allahu and you have Ivanka Maharlika in the era where that kind of Sofia Anna 30 feet FCD and toes, and Abby

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can either another alien Nisa lamea smell

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and those unabIe Canada another Atlantis alum, Lamia sphere, officer he mean Hadith EJV and in the visa Allahu alayhi wa sallam and the Hora and rotten fat as a never.

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For carbohydrates the human were called in Del Murata took beautiful Swati shaytaan or to the beautiful Surah Tisha talk for either Hadoken Archer but truthfully at allover in a dedicated route to Murphy Nuptse.

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So we haven't thoroughly mentioned that but who said from his father that whatever he sees, by mistake, a sister cannot

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be patient.

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And Javin said the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam so those ones have to have good expectation about them because what they do is, they go back and grant themselves relief from that which Allah Muhammad Allah bestowed upon them.

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And Jabba the set and Abdullah the Prophet sal Allahu Allahu Semara. In Ratan Tata has a number of other hajat who minha

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bacillus Allah Allah sama so a woman by mistake.

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Okay, accidentally barcard Phoenix because this is part of our nature.

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That's why whoever says he doesn't have desire all of those can the Moon who tells you that we don't feel anything. One of the things either they are woman but they don't know.

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That's that's true, either. They are sisters, but he doesn't know he needs somebody to tell him

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calling brother what you know, you're a woman you have to wake up, you know, or they're just lying to us.

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When a person realized that he doesn't have desire, that's me.

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And he has to look for medication. Right? So look for medication because this is against the human nature. Allah doesn't ask you to stay away from having desire, but he asked you to use it properly. That's it. And that is only one way to you mean to get relief of this. This is marriage. That's

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nothing else. That Allah made it simple. We made it difficult. We have to bear the consequences. Religion Islam is very simple.

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The simplest thing to be there in 10 seconds marriage can happen

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10 seconds the watch took a couple

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how many seconds is that? Three to five seconds finished.

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Remember manage the brother was asking us finish Sal finish what else he wants.

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Zerah is first in karma, this thing comes you bring this one and go to this place sit here like this. And they know even sitting properly, you know, the words also have to be pronounced properly and all of these things.

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That's nothing marriage other than the Will he comes? And what do you call the guy groom that ugly name?

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Come should you should change this name to something else that grew

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along this time, so that person comes under when he comes? You know, and then does it the wife agrees?

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The boy agrees that's it. They want to meet each other finished? You just come and tell him Are you ready? Yes. The watch Toka immunity Falana finished, the man says Kabul to cut the Ruka Maha that is to be paid. This is amount of the MaHA has the boy says COVID.

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Finish he becomes his wife. Nothing else.

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But we made it very complicated. To go this you have to go that as well. We are suffering. But he has villa. Anyway. So So let's Allah sama he saw a woman. You know for what God Fein FC he fat as a neighbor. So he went home, he met his wife, Xena. And this also has a message to all of the sisters, those who are married and those who are about to marry that evil attitude that used to exist and it's always in existence in marriages up to date, where the husband doesn't see the beauty of his wife unless if there there is an event or they're going out.

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Many people complain about this. But he comes back home this time for the kitchen smelling onion, garlic and all of these things. Imagine he went out and he says something that distracted him he comes back and he is nothing except those will come in. And the incident. Yeah, he will go back to the office where you're going to have some jumping offs.

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Better for him not to get angry with them.

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These are serious matters that need been fixed. Because tomorrow if he is to get annoyed and look for somebody else who's the first person to get hurt, she

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And subhanAllah I'm telling you the truth many of them after this, then they will start saying we will change we will start to change. Why? Why? Why can't be I mean us be honest to ourselves, you know?

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Anyway, so Rasulullah Salah sama went back, why did he go back because he knows that he there are people who are responsible in the house and they know their job. You know, so when he went straight forward, he knows where to go. You went to his wife was likely this is the one that he used with at that time. He went to his wife has ever been to bed to Josh or Wirkkala so after hospital, so he got relief from his need for her indle Murata photography Sumati Shavon. And then he says a woman usually comes in that sort of shape

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did I read correctly? Salem. Okay. If I didn't read correctly, you can remind me Okay, call in number at a toll free Subrata Chapin it says a woman comes in the image of Shiva. What does that mean?

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Like those criminals who says Omani Szczepan No, not at all. But shaytan knows that man cannot be patient as they mentioned about that person right when he says woman he cannot be patient everyone is like that. But just Islam is their shyness is their dignity is they're honest. They're good manners are there that's why people are good ones are controlling that. That is their and their emotions, right? Their feelings. Right those who cannot do that they will express it and use it the wrong way.

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Exactly so Rasul Allah sama says chef, and since he knows that man cannot be patient, you know, and that's the truth. You know, the enemies of Allah subhanho wa Taala when they want to plan against the Muslims

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Who are they using actually against the world in general they use woman

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Paula have to date pay us over how many times you see a okay now on a Saturday in some of the CDs advertisement but have a chance to see advertisement that

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that they brought brought brother with no proper clothes

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smiling to you

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maybe nobody will buy

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true yes but the vast majority of the

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those advert who are there been presented in

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Salem, who are their woman right? And why did they put a woman in it? Just because they love woman. They want to promote them. Now they want to attract the market.

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I wish this this will understand this, you know, they want to attract the market.

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Because only with them, you know man will get lost especially that they shove up people buy in what they don't want, you know, people are buying what they don't want to buy, because the one who is selling is a woman. Good words. Nice word. He will not Bergin that much.

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He's enjoying those speeches. You know, she's selling her honor and dignity so that she can attract him to buy what she's selling.

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Is this a tool a brother?

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how come the brothers are always cheated in the market? When the sisters goes and buy? They got a good price? They say Yeah, that's true.

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Yeah, that's true. True, False. True. Yeah. Because they there is a compensation. You know, they're, they're compensating those people. Man doesn't have any compensation, you know? So he fights you as much as he wishes. If you don't want to just go

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for her. No. He wants to continue with that conversation, you know, and join and then he will give her the price she's looking for

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this is have to understand the so what is meant by took military sort of shape and it doesn't mean that she's Shabana Lau Allah a button.

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No difference between a man and a woman in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala in Chroma Komenda law here at Koco but Szczepan knows this attraction that exists between the two and man cannot be patient you know when they see a woman so he is coming whenever she comes out she's

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making her looking more prettier than the way she is. So that the brothers will get will get lost.

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That's the meaning of took beautiful Swati Sheva

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to the beautiful solid shape and Phaedra

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Phaedra had to come in Ratan Vijay but truthfully at a hello for in

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the Euro Duma Fein FC Celeste Allah someone said whenever somebody sees what catches his attention from another woman that is strange to him, he should go back to his family because that would help him you know to get relief and to forget what he what he saw in some narration the prophets Allah sama said what this one has, his family also has

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elsewhere somebody was right when he says there is no ugly woman.

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Only a smart person understand, understand this surah sola sola sama said for Yeti I had let him go back to his family

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question if he doesn't have one.

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Last fast rates he says that fasting from that time right.

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Carla, if you haven't hesitated to provide minha the shadow to either

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at the salary and not Ruby Regency

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working with you sooner in the merger Marvel and lamb Europe Lim would have been at Mizzou

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and the cow

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when he came on my show Cathy who are there?

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I'm sorry Who are they? Oh, Allah the Giada hula who they were and Sharon wa Catherine overheated our the old Allah He set up while I'm we are taking the Wii U Allah as Allah Maha Rahman whenever it is always a marathon. Well dama it and he said he Lima Huberty heat our Carnot Toba to whom it has to be monstrosity in the light, although multibit he will add Kobina LMS EDA, Allah Hana

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and actually this is one opinion, which was

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said it is the weakest opinion. Actually, it was just based on the judgment between those two people who visited the hood on a slab not about marrying somebody, somebody else. So he says the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, and this Hadees guided us towards that which will give us comfort. You know, when you see

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a food,

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you know, and you enjoy that food, what do you do?

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To relieve yourself from that strong interests, you know that you have to that food, look for food like that, right? You know, so, so let's alasa told you that if you see a person who is not halal for you, and you got attracted, go back to your family.

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Go back to your family. And also the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam I asked you to use the best medicine to give yourself relief when you are attracted by by a sister. And that's why they say those people who suffer information, what is the best remedy for this marriage?

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There is nothing that can help Asha towards that Masuka is I mean that is better than to let them to let them marry.

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That is a Hadith that says this although this hadith says

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so hola Daniel can hamdulillah is it authentic hadith, you know, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi Silva said, There is nothing that solved the issue of the issue for those people who love each other better than the marriage.

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So, and then he quoted that old story that we have mentioned about the elderly Salah when he got attracted, what did he do he married you know, just go and marry that woman. But this is also a weak opinion. The correct opinion is that Allah subhanaw taala blamed him because he started judging those two brothers before he listened to the second person. One of them just mentioned his case before listening to the other one he started releasing the verdict. So Allah subhanaw taala blamed him because of because of that,

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he get it not because of what you mentioned or some of the more facility

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there was no case as this

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you know, we have to a fried Ambia Allah azza wa jal from this that would never did anything haram just like what I mentioned here. Okay, so when you come to this story, you should remember that the story is about what Allah smart Allah mentioned in the Quran, they came to him and he says in the habit of noticing what is on an agile Oleanna editing what hit me how was and if it hit

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the old started releasing the judgment before he listen to the other side of the story. And in Islam, where the two people complain to you you cannot start judging before you listen to the other one.

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Somebody came to eliminate the Taliban he says yeah, I'm even more meaning you have to do this ask because this person destroyed my eyes.

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It came to Omar and then I live in Abu Talib told him. He says here Omar says yes, it's us. I live in Avatar if he says no, we have to bring him first. I have to bring that guy first to see what happened to listen to the case from his side. They brought him and they found him he lost both of his two eyes because of that guy.

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So now what are we supposed to do to destroy the other eyes of the

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slot when when you are a judge? You cannot start judging until you listen to both of them.

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And then you start thinking of what to do follow up map is so to say never been to Josh because Aiden can occur as an Allah Allah.

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Allah to Africa what can is to shoot in the visa lotsa fee for who I am or who beam sack you have to Kalama Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a note of a kendama Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihe Salam and no more for a while. For Alpha fee NFC and who it is a word you either fall

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or crash Yeah, my Palatinus in Rasulullah sallallahu somite is a word zodat even

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FC who I've got a loan Nikka for Karshi which is why we Delica when America was Edelman how water runs a wedge NACA Akarma Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, he worked he further Cara. And I have a candidate at TIFF. Lanza in the visa Allahu Allahu Silva with Erica with a colo and two in other words, a Holy Quran was awarded any law home and focus of a seminar what

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were the results the lesson was no. So this is how it will claim understand a story however, it's a look if you look at the book of Allah subhanaw taala last month to summarize the story, which means Allah wants to destroy this, this Aqeedah Aqeedah of the tourney you know, in the wrong way that a person you know adopted a child, that child becomes his by like his biological son. Yeah, in a sense, if this boy is to marry a woman and he devotes her, you as a person who adopted that child, you cannot marry his, his ex wife. Why? Because they see it as you married the wife of your of your son. And so they married Zane up into Josh. And unfortunately the marriage doesn't work out. You

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have a lot of issues. So he doesn't agree to stay with her doesn't tolerate the behavior that he sees from her. So he used to tell the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know that he is planning to divorce and Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam I used to ask him to be patient and to keep his wife.

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Yeah, why was that? Most likely because of Prophets, Allah. So by knowing that most likely Allah Sparta will ask him to marry. So he wants to prolong that. So he tells him, please keep your wife keep your wife keep your wife

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until the last minute they didn't even know how the thought told me also like I can't

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am going to divorce her well.

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And he divorced when he divorced her according to what we have gotten from the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala commanded him to marry.

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And he told him he is owed it. Yeah, no, that's

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no, not that the soulless Allah he seldom is thinking of married how easy it is to divorce. That's doesn't seem appropriate.

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You don't fit in Rasulullah sallallahu Simba, but these are scholars, they have their own knowledge and the way they get things but the one that Allah is what I mentioned to us is very simple and very brief.

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And that's what fits rasool Allah He said Allahu Allah Who selama more why Allah azza wa jal wants us to do the prophets Allah sama to marry Xena because if that marriage happens, this will be the destruction of that culture.

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Again, good idea because this will be in trouble because maybe she has interest to marry that person. Yeah, because he is not related to a husband at all. There is no relationship between them except that he was the person who was so kind to

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to the

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cinema I'm like,

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set up I came to you

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saw a solar cell awesome was very kind

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to they didn't have anything but what is the connection between data and sola? Sola sola.

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No known as sub No, no, nothing, you know, except that he was so kind and he adopted him and took care of him. And that's it. So Allah Sparta wants to destroy that cultural practice of the Arabs that if you adopt a child, when he divorces his wife, you cannot marry that, that wife if she's interested in going with you said Allah is going to destroy it, using the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam because he's the center if he does something we will watch and it will be easily spread among the ummah much more than when it happens with somebody else other than Rasul Allah so Allah so Allah Subhan Allah told the prophets Allah salah, she's your wife,

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case close Salah. So she used to tell the wives of the prophets Allah Allah cinema when they when they talking you were like these were like that she will say, as a word Hakuna Haleakala

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who was there in your marriage, giving you to Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam

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your family to father and this and that. As for me, Allah subhanaw taala was the one who gave me to rasuna Salah Salah

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who can compete with her in this nobody. As far as marriage is concerned, nobody can compete in this. However, in terms of virtue, of course I share with Allah one has much better than he

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actually has better now because so let's assume I mentioned that Aisha is like,

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the best even some scholars mentioned that she's even better than Khadija.

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Though that's a Lala movie weak opinion because Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam made it very clearly that Allah never replace Khadija with something that is better than

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I think

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There's no discussion.

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We're not talking about a woman that Allah smart Allah sent an angel to say salaam to her, except Khadija

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when Aisha said Allah replace her with the best is not low Allah, Allah when Allah never replaced Khadija with with the best

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and so let's allow some I said the best among the sisters for sisters right? They are Asya been to

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Anna Amalia Minto this one everyone knows right wherever it Emraan seven Tuberosa was Maria Minto Emraan Khadija been two

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if you fail this one I think we should take you to kindergarten.

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Khadija been to coilette and the last one is

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even this one they have that I thought this is this is one of their ABCs in Islam in

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Fatima been been to Muhammad these are the four best sister that alas Martin ever created. It says Come with me individually coffee room well American will mean and they say

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you have a lot of brothers who are so perfect and excellent enough to know that all the prophets of Allah smarter from the brothers side by our Santa men clickmeter Sulan Illa Regina from our cinema was willing to let Regina know Haley last vortices from from the from the brother side but from the sisters he says the most complete ones up for and those ones that I had mentioned. So you can see Khadija is one of them. And Aisha is not one of those ones. Allahu Allahu Allah. So in terms of marriage nobody nobody has a marriage like Xena introduction that's why she used to be proud of this and nobody can can say anything. Allah is your willy Allah is the One Who says you are the wife

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there as well as Allah Islam and that's more than enough

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as something to be proud with Hamid I think you are not a good timer we finish our time right

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so let's stop here even law has urgent and we continue

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on Monday right

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like Grant is good on topic

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no question yeah

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that's fine. Okay. So, what is the definition of men by

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men say that they are loser men's solvable problem and loser males males.

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So his definition of the real man if you will, somebody is described by the Sharia man as a person who has strong human good qualities and Midas very serious people dedicated people who are very productive and beneficial to the community

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whenever Allah sponsor seems to reach out look at the qualities that last Martella gave return lately him teacher or whatever and they were

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so you have mail and you have math

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woman is looking for a man not made

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they get it so somebody who has those qualities that Islam praise

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but Man is Man literally man is somebody who reaches the age of maturity starting from that he's a man

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Islam whatever man is mentioned a woman will see great qualities being attached to that

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so we have a lot of male but regional Khalidi.

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said in one part that like someone else mentioned

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so like

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someone was mentioned is her ex husband. And you said that like it's okay. So there was no problem with that But doesn't that like praising him right raising him does it create create problem with the prison one? Belt One is she she's not doing it?

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Because now she's most likely even the other one also is not there.

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Yet because she's describing the second marriage and the first marriage. Even if he's there, she wasn't doing it. In his presence and this is a narration he is narrating the story that happened in the Jania so is it okay to praise his nephew?

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wants to get out of the house of this current one that she should talk about the other one.

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In terms of that, don't tell her okay, go to him.

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He will never relax, to know that his wife is thinking about somebody else.

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Even to know that she's against a guy that I

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think it goes against the grain of momentum. Of course, of course, he has to actually, it's not good for her.

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it's not good for her to talk about that the previous husband in the presence of currently, if he's okay, within his mind, he will never tolerate this

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and get it. So she shouldn't. Even if she remembers what he did. She shouldn't talk about

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just keep it within herself. And it's better for her not to do

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to be patient with her marriage, and to do everything possible to fix this marriage. The current one current one.

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It's not good for a woman to keep on going around.

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Long ago, one of the scholars said the sister lost her husband. And she cried.

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So he asked to patients he said, No, it's not about

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losing him only. But it's about also now I'm going to go to somebody else. I don't want to be exposed to many people.

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It's okay, I'll Islamically right.

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That tells you a lot you know, it was

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good manners at last martela place naturally in the sisters when they function people think like this.

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She's going to marry but she's crying that now she is going to be forced to not force by somebody but naturally you will need somebody to deal with

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so now I can show you I have a question. Someone has property and the property is not benefiting him right now.

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he asked if he

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was gonna continue

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the brother has a property and the property doesn't continue benefit him right now. And he just waits at the property gains on wealth. And he asked if he needs to pay zakat for this property even though he is in depth

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in some other brothers

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What is this property? Yes

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it's farmland property.

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Farmland land Yeah. You can't build on it. He just He has just to save his money or to do the farming right. Yes, right now, it's not used that he does it it belongs is intended to use it in the future right here he intends to wait that it gains and wealth and later on sells it

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a few times and he says what was his intention intention is to buy and sell land or to keep it by himself but maybe later if somebody can offer him good pricing myself Yes knows the academy knows

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if he owns the whole

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any Malaysia knows

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that knows the guidelines unless if a person buys them with the intention of selling them

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you know taking them as a rule the teacher all these other things and the items you buy and sell or buy land and sell buy another one and sell so this land is eroded

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our mineral the tiara So, when the end of the year, I have to get the estimate the cost,

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market price currently how much it was and then I give us a call from

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somebody just buy a land to buy a house with intention that inshallah in the future if you can get somebody who can offer him something good. You know, he will sell it knows account, even if he has hundreds of

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medical or company

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some people, some woman who get into marriage and they're mistreated for a long time while they were represented by the husband by the husband. So the only reason they are staying there is because of their children. So what is the what should these people do? I would advise them to keep on the to keep Be patient, no

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divorces unless if it is necessary.

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But if you reach a situation that she's going to lose out

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Come because there are some sisters if you see them is like money, she cannot focus anymore you know, see somebody who you know that this person is facing a suffering from psychological problems and all of these are happening because of the husband.

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I will advise her to leave that house even if she has 1 million children in the house her health is more important, what is the point of she becoming much noona in a marriage, what is he going to benefit the kids also not benefit is better to stay away from them and support them from far distance

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in the normal circumstances which he still okay I would advise her to be patient and try to identify what exactly is the problem between because sometimes honest us we can choose the course sometimes the husband is very wicked

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cannot be pleased by anything.

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Do you get idea this these type of people should just have to keep on doing this the hara and asking Allah subhanaw taala to support to change his heart. But there are many cases which she is the cost. And nobody can solve this one except Except How

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do you Allah and Allah in this life, trust me she only need to do a letter

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to come to please ban is it difficult?

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No, it's not Allah is not, you know, says can close their ears. Don't listen to this. It's wrong to listen. Yeah, man is Teflon.

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Let me save my life. I want to survive. I don't want you guys to kill me.

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Where exactly it says like, a big person, but

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to call him down and even need that much from the society to convince a judge you know, I'm convinced as a jet I need huge mountains of words and things, you know, and shouting and doing things but

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his wife is not like that. Everyone is like this in this life. If she's smart, you know. And she's going to use that nature that last one to like, give her wife doesn't need that much to come to cool the husband and to change the nature of the house. That's why if you see a husband changing, trust me the wife changes

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so what I'm saying is we have to be realistic also sometimes we look into the cause what is the cause? Stop being arrogant, understand that marriage is responsibility.

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Let us cooperate you know she and the husband may cooperate together to make a success. That's how it is she makes him happy try to trace what he wants in try to understand what exactly this man wants.

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I share the Allahu and I said I was badly affected by the the words of zeta vintage ash. Then of came when she was sitting with

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the Prophets Allah symbol.

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Imagine somebody hurting your feelings and saying whatever he wants in the presence of the closest people to you.

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You have a best friend visiting you is a closest friend to you. And he has been away from you is even another country. So now he comes. You're sitting with him and then somebody came and started talking against you in His presence.

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How do you feel

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Subhan Allah, so bad. So Zainab was talking to Aisha and against Aisha and the presence of Rasul Allah, Allah Azza wa Rosa was just watching. It was just mine.

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I just said I'm tired of these words, you know, I guess it's too much. But then she said I am living with

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Hello Rasul Allah Azza. She said, before I reply, I was going to reply them I remember that no, I'm in the presence of Rasul Allah. Let me make sure that I do not mess up something. And Allah is very important because there are sisters who are messing up the life because of something they can be patient, which the husband doesn't like.

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Maybe in their relationship with the kids, the husband doesn't like, and she can just be patient but she doesn't want and then do whatever she wants with the kids and open a new door between her and her husband.

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You get an answer, but I just said, I look at the face of Rasulullah Salah sama first. She said the Ara Halia Crow and antacid. He said before I reply, I first look at the face of the soul as Allah Azza to see. Does he mind if I'm to reply Subhanallah Which woman does this own on Earth do?

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To check always to see the mood of the husband? Is he okay with what I'm doing or not? And Wallah. He's not humiliation, that journalists will ask those young girls in Saudi long ago and she was trying to convince them that they are oppressed by the community. How come whenever you are going to go out you have to ask your husband permission to know one of them to handle

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Who told you this is restriction?

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So Hala, very good statement? She said yeah, this man is responsible of me is responsible Allah will ask him about me, you know,

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parents also will ask the community with ask yes, he said it is his right, you know, what am I going? Can I just go out of houses like that? And it isn't a way that I go, why do you see it as slavery or some restriction in place? And somehow that is the correct way of thinking. So Aisha said, I look at the face of Rasul Allah, to see whether he minds or he doesn't mind. She said, when I realized that was hula salsa, Rasul Allah Azza does not mind if I reply her, then I start to reply. And he was okay with that. But that's a message actually, she will send in to all of the sisters. You will live your life, your family life is the most important thing much more better than

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your house, thinking that when she goes back to her father and the mother life will be okay. Trust me will never be okay. They also get bored of seeing her she knows that and they know that she will be more depressed than staying with them than when she is with her children.

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Yes, so patience is is good. And doing the right thing. So back to the, to the to the question, my advice to her is to be patient.

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If he doesn't reach that level of sickness, if it's reached the level of the sickness, you should complain to a parent first. Because I don't advise a person to get his parents involved in his marital life.

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This is very long, no matter what solve your problem with your husband or your husband or your wife. Do not let your parent knows about that. When you meet your parent they ask you how's your husband? Oh, mashallah, life is good. Alhamdulillah He's okay, fine. Maybe he just now default, you know, set them is okay. They will be happy they love him and they will contribute to the success of the marriage.

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And he also when they asked him as you WIPA, Masha, Allah, this woman, she's really patient in writing Alhamdulillah.

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Don't let them know unless if it is critical, and there is no way for you to resolve it, accept it, they know, then let them know as Allah smart, Allah said, let them understand the situation, maybe they can do something to resolve it. Allah grant is good.

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if she is at this stage.

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If she is at the stage where she loses her mind, and then a divorce happens, what is Islamically the ruling for the children's after the divorce happened?

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The one who can take care of them if she is not capable, you know, doesn't fit, then the custody will come back to the husband because he he deserves that.

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If she's okay, the one who deserved the custody of the younger kid is the wife automatically, as well as the law. So massive anti hubco The male imitators Awaji he said you are the one who deserved that the Toby I'm in the custody of these children as long as you do not marry.

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So when she married, then the custody comes back to the husband.

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Unless if he agreed to let the kids stay with her.

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And if the

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divorce happened because the husband was very abusive, for example, so that the kids and the

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wife and the mother of the kids divorce, and they get mentally

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like issues because of the abusive for the years. So Islamically does the state give a custody to some amongst the family members? Yes, yes, they have to actually it is haram for the judge to let them stay with that person who's busy.

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Right of the children must be preserved. Why Allah Subhan Allah is given the right to the wife. Because those children of that age they need who

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is the mother, give them to the Father What the can they get? Death.

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So they need them. That's why they have to go to them.

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That's why the mother is not a Muslim who takes the custody. The father

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got it from the event coated by

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was a case of to the husband converted to Islam and the wife is refusing they have a child.

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The child can walk. So the custody in Islam goes to the mother, but now the mother is Kapha if she is taking the custody of the child that child will be Catholic

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and we have to protect the Muslim the child and the biggest must

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had the child has his religion.

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But now what to do? So the prophets Allah Allah Solomon said we give it a chance to the baby to choose the boy who is going to choose

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the monster in the house, as the father never choose the Father. He will choose among

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the prophets allow someone said let's give him a choice to choose one.

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They brought the boy and the Y comes and the prophets Allah Azza told him Is your father this is your mother choose one.

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And the Father's Day, Mother's Day. So the boy went to the

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SLS Allah sama said Allahumma Haddad Kalba

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Allah guide his heart

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the boy made a huge

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he came back to the Father.

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So if a claim says From here we learn that it's wrong to send him to that non Muslim

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because send him to non Muslim is misguidance and misguided doesn't have place in in our Sharia.

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How do we know that he's alarmed by the Kaaba? Yeah Allah guide him he didn't say Allah take him to the husband he said Allah guide him. Allah brought him back to the husband. That's me going to her is misguidance so he came back to the guidance which is to be with the with the husband. So the same goes to anyone who is there and we know that if we give the custody to this person is the worst gangster in the

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bar when the community we gave him the custody No, we give the wife

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let the children go to the wife. They appear to be preserved and to be preserved.

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Allah Karim until he repents and they come back to him or when they grow older, they will come back then they make a choice for themselves.

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Yes, mozzie have few seconds.

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The first question my sister Reba Saramonic mactel, our ghetto Ghana sister who is menstruating perform attic if

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the point is Where does she stay if she does

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go into the best opinion or opinion of the vast majority of the scholars she is not supposed to stay in the masjid Muslim Masjid.

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Places like this place like this is

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having their own play football here and

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everything like it.

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But the masjid a place which is established prayer like Mozilla and they shouldn't stay.

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That's the Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and this is the opinion of the vast majority of the scholars and aitikaf cannot be accepted.

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So what did she do? Stay home,

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stay home and do whatever she can do. And Insha Allah, Allah smarter will reward her intention

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is land soldier. She shouldn't worry at all. It has no agenda, just go home and stay and do the right thing. Quran vicar of Allah subhanaw taala doing anything else, you know, she has a husband invest in house activities.

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Every single thing she's doing to bring happiness to the house is counted for her.

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Next question, question. She

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says, oh, yeah, sounds like most of our care to share. So if we cough and swallow, does it affect our faster? Are we supposed to spit if you cough, and swallow? Does it affect our fast, as long as it doesn't go out of the mouth? It doesn't affect the fast it's better to spit it out. To go to the controversy. controversy of the scholars the best opinion is one that says as long as it doesn't go out of the mouth.

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It doesn't break the fast

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that it's better to get out.

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Next question. If a person in their youth, maybe even before puberty, or after was in a state of Genova, cetera and was not aware that they had to do in order to pray, but they were fasting and praying in the state for months, maybe even years, what is he or she supposed to get whatever pass pass they just make who do

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you know? Just make muscle and continue their life? What would you tell them to go and start praying and fasting for 10 years and 17,000 prayers.

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You Sharla they just take shower and gossip and if they are in a place where they should ask they should repent to Allah subhanaw taala you know,

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next question,

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if there is clear discharge, plus some white discharge is that does that mean she can make a hostel or should she wait for a full white discharge to lose whatever is called purity, which the sisters knows to be the purity if she is sure that this is purity?

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either giraffe dryness or the cost settled by about that clear whatever comes after the period. Yeah, this is the purity, they just take gosl and continue with them ensure

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if you are so speedy I can answer them in three minutes. Inshallah. Okay, so next question Slavonic Max Larghetto if a woman missed her first in first Ramadan due to pregnancy or feeding, and she has to make it up before next Ramadan, but she again couldn't fast before it due to feeding or pregnancy, so she paid 50 And now

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Now, she could fast after the Ramadan, but she already paid 50 For the past one feasibility

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she has to fast a job is not video, that video inshallah will be charity for her. It doesn't replace and replace the fast she has so fast after Ramadan, slowly slowly according to her ability, and also planned very well.

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As I said last time, as long as the NIV has finished, I'm pretty sure these days we have a lot of alternatives that can help assist her to maintain how fast and also keep the milk for the child

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is just about good management. Don't let things to be accumulated and then you come and look for solution.

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Because your next question, so now I grabbed a lot of cattle regarding taking medicines to delay menses cannot be done for someone intending to do Hajj and the timing of the menses place they shouldn't do

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at the first place they shouldn't really advise the sister to stay away from it it is harmful to to her life. Anything that changes the nature of human beings which Allah Sparta created them upon because this blood Allah subhanaw taala created for wisdom and wants it to go out but wisdom is not good for how to change the system or to interfere it might cause complications in the in the future.

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But if she does and the height doesn't come then she just live a normal life she has to fast she has to appreciate but she can do everything in the hedge no problem at the first place is it okay for her to do it no just go for Hatch you know and do everything except that off off you wait and I have the love we have time in which if you wait until the time you appeal and then do it What if she's she's not you

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and her visa finished

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and these are the Fabuloso finish and the companies are going to renew and they are going to leave the country and we cannot wait for her What does she do in this regard?

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She goes off like that

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yeah, she doesn't need anything just go and make the off and that's it insha Allah the case is closed like you can live long enough said allows

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Is it a good solution? Maybe a good solution no need to go for any medication that might complicate your life in the future. Because sometimes they said a bring is makes the hide in regular he used to have a very you know regular system that is okay you know every month she knows when the height comes but now no

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it is not like that. So I really advise the sisters to stay away from from this just live a normal life

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our three minute finisher still have three questions.

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Can we delay them until the next class inshallah

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Thank you very much Mr. Grant you good and to be with all of you it will be college a meeting convened Smarak along with the humbucker Chateau La La Land. So if we're going to be Lake salamati, Guatemala

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