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“Feeling unworthy of forgiveness”
Many of us feel like we’re too sinful to turn to Allaah or do any good, but repentance is for the sinners. In this discussion sheikh Adnaan and myself address this issue.
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Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah. So today's topic basically is going to be how we sometimes commit certain sins and we feel like we are unworthy of doing any good deeds because we're committing those sins. So a lot of this a lot of times this happens to the youth You know, they're engaged in some some sort of haram deeds, so they're either drinking alcohol or smoking or going to the clubs and then they feel how can I go to the masjid and worship Allah subhanho wa Taala I'm unworthy of His mercy or his forgiveness. What advice would you have for such youth or such people?
It's been lovely man Rahim as we all know that Allah subhanho wa Taala is the Most Merciful, the Most Beneficent, and there are many verses in the Quran wherein Allah subhanho wa Taala encourages those who commit sin. Even when it comes to major sin. He encourages them to make Toba. That's why some of the scholars mentioned that the it's one opinion, the verse that has the most hope in the Quran is wearing Allah says Kalia via levena Ezra for Allah and fusi him, la Takapuna, right Mattila. tellows Oh Muhammad sallahu wa sallam, Delos you know who've wronged themselves who have oppressed themselves who have carried out sin. Learn takanobu hashmatullah Don't lose hope in the
mercy of Allah. Not only that in a lot of fields unova Jamia, Allah says you've committed a sin, you think it's too big. Allah says he forgives all sins. You know, we, when we follow the for an and we find that there are certain punishments that Allah mentions for certain people, we find that those people immediately after Allah mentions the punishment, he always caused them to tell them and he tells them if you repent, I will forgive you. For example, speaking about the monarch 18, the hypocrites, Allah says they are in the lowest part of the fire. Thereafter, he says but if they had to make Toba and do good deeds, Allah will forgive them.
Absolutely, you know, something I find very, very, very interesting is that Allah subhanho wa Taala says, What are Haruna telephoned me to be and they are other people who will come literally on the day of Tiana, they'll have sins and they'll have good deeds. So a lot of us who have Otello speaking about a specific group of people this applies to all of us that they have sins and good deeds as a la jolla to body perhaps or soon Allah Subhana Allah will forgive them in the law of a form of Rahim as far as I'm sure that I N says, Allah is the most forgiving, Most Merciful. So he's telling us that even if you have good even if you have bad deeds that you're doing, you're smoking, you're
drinking, you're going to the clubs. When you feel within you that let me go to the masjid Don't let you're drinking you're smoking anything else stop you from going to the masjid obviously you should make sure that you're not intoxicated when you do go to the masjid but make sure that you do go because ultimately shape on wants you to lose hope in the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala and that's why in the area that you mentioned, he says that led up not only Rahmatullah don't lose hoping the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And if we look at who is addressing those who have been extremely themselves, they will present themselves by committing various settings. So the doors of
Rama and forgiveness are always open to everyone. And even if you are coming back to the extent that you are coming back from the nightclub you see a beggar and you give us other stuff that is not necessarily rejected by Allah subhana wa tada because of where you're coming from.
Give it with a sincere heart. Yeah, long week I seek instead of what I've done, but here's a soda for your sake and for your pleasure, at least you're acknowledging Allah subhana wa tada in that instance.
Yes, adding to what you've mentioned, when it comes to we all know there's a lot of stories in the Quran about Toba. A lot of stories in the a hadith mentioned about how Allah for you know, he forgave certain people, one of the verses in the Quran, where Allah subhana wa Taala speaks about Suleiman alayhis salam, and he says, how, you know, he made a mistake, way, he was occupied with the horses, and after that he had missed his Salah.
After that, kind of what Allah says that Sulaiman alayhis salam sought forgiveness. And at the same time, he made a dua for Allah to grant him kingdom that he hadn't given anybody else. So look at that he's made a mistake, is asking for forgiveness. But he knows Allah can give him way more than that. So he asks him for more. And the last panel what Allah says, He forgives him, you know, Joe was on. And he also gave him kingdom that nobody else will ever have, you know, so many times. Yes, it's because of shavon. When we commit a sin, we think that, you know, there's no hope for me, or what am I doing? How can I love forgive me? That's all from shavonne. force yourself to do it force
yourself immediately. If you've committed a sin immediately try to carry out a good deed. Yes, you know, I am faced with this question a lot. Because sometimes you look at your own mistakes and your own shortcomings. And you start wondering, you know, how do I go out there to the people and advise them to be good and tell them to be good, and Truly speaking, that is what's what's the from shavon because khulumani, Adam, a hapa, all of the sons of Adam hopper own, they will make mistakes they will make, they will commit sins, but ultimately, as long as you constantly return back to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So we should never feel unworthy of man, the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala
know that his dose of forgiveness are always open.
I think a lot of people assume that when they see a person speaking to them in front of him that this is an angel. Understand that all of us are human beings, we make mistakes. But it doesn't mean that we that should stop us from advising others to do good trying to be good in and of ourselves.
So I think that's also a dilemma that some people face that how can I advise another human being yet I'm also sending, you know, I'm doing something wrong?
Yes, I think these are two different deeds. One is when it comes to yourself, doing the actual good deed or staying away from the evil deed, and we must remember that that word is also a good deed. So it doesn't mean if you're not doing this good deed, you also live that good deed you live that that way, but at the same time, we must also try and practice. You know what we preach and follow the footsteps and the guidance of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Remember, if you really true and sincere in your heart, and you try your best not only in the heart, but you try your best to change you know, Toba is of different levels. Sometimes, yes, a person can leave a sin completely,
that's what's needed. But sometimes if you trying to reduce that sin, Allah subhanho wa Taala is, you know, All Merciful, he is of a fool or him he can forgive you for that and he can help you to leave that sin
is an ultimately he knows how you are struggling your fight against that sin. So a person who was smoking 20 cigarettes a day now it comes down to five, Allah knows that this person is doing his best he's craving he wants to smoke, he wants to engage in this drinking habit that he has, he really wants a bottle but from you know, being drunk all the time, he's not only drunk half of the time, and he's working towards getting rid of that sin. Ultimately, Allah knows you better than you know yourself. So he knows that you're on the right path. And if you stick to that and keep getting, you know, reducing the amount until you've given it up totally, then you are on the path to towards
You know, this, some Heidi In fact, will mention one this many I had an example there was a man who had passed away and he told his children This is in Sohail Baja, he told his children that you know, after I pass away burn my body and throw half of it he on land and throw half of it in the sea. Why? Because I'm worried I haven't you know, I haven't done anything good for myself. No good deeds. I'm scared to meet a lot
after that was a little loss of love and he was Salam says when this man
Met Allah. And Allah asked him, you know what made you do this? He said, Oh, well I only did it out of your fear. So then Allah subhanho wa Taala says that he forgave him. Also in such a hadith is mentioned that he was asked, Do you know of any good deed that you did? And he said, No. Then he mentioned one. He said, when it came to giving out money, giving out loans, those who are poor and couldn't pay back, I used to forgive them, those who are rich, and they had some sort of problems. They wanted more time, I would give them more time, one good deed and Allah gave him gentlemen.
Whoa, I think that's of utmost importance to mention, you know, and one Hadith that I find amazing, and I think it's important for us to raise it here today, because a lot of people go out there. And after they've committed the sin, Allah covered them, you know, they did it in the darkness of the night. Nobody knew what they were doing. They come out and they say on Facebook, that you know, I did x, y and Zed last night, this is what I was engaged in. This is the harm that I did. And that is disliked by Allah Subhana Allah. So a person who doesn't do this, he commits sin. He comes to Allah subhanho wa Taala on the day of pm and the Hadith says that the up Allah He can have a lover put his
cover onto him and he'll cover his sins. And he asked him and say, you know, what, have you committed these sins? Have you committed those sins, and the person will admit to his wrongdoings and Allah subhanho wa Taala says, cut the setup to another cafeteria for Hannah theoretically, that I thought I covered them for you in the dunya you didn't expose yourself. So here I am forgiving you today. Imagine on that day, when everybody's deeds are out in the open people can see and this person's deeds are being covered. His bad deeds are being covered by Allah subhanho wa Taala solely because he had the shame to hide away when he committed a sin, and he didn't expose himself
afterwards. So this leaves a person with some hope. And I think it's very important in today's age, when people just come up there on different social media platforms, they brag to their friends to the public, hey, look at what I've got on on my arm, you know, Come on, guys, you you've got to understand that Allah gets angry, a lot gets displeased. And when you do that it displeases him even more. So take the the literally the, for lack of a better word, the feelings of Allah subhanho wa Taala into consideration. If you had done that to your wife, if you were, for example, married and you cheated on her, you wouldn't go out there and say, Hey, you know I did X, Y and Z because you
take her emotions into consideration. So the same way, understand that. Take the displeasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala into consideration.
Yes, and the Hadith you mentioned reminds me of another Hadith Hadith Pudsey, wherein Allah subhana wa Taala is speaking about his speaking to the angels. And they mentioned a slave one of his servants who carries on committing a sin and then making stuff up. So when they mentioned this to Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, as an Abba Abba de vember, my servant has committed a sin, and he knows that he had he has a lord who rewards when it comes to good deeds and who punishes when it comes to sin. There are Allah Subhana Allah says that a witness he makes the angels a witness that he has forgiven him. After that this man commits the sin again. And he makes Toba and the last panel
which Allah forgives him, and he makes the sin again, he commits the sin and he makes Toba Allah Subhana which Allah forgives him thereafter must Hannah what Allah says that let him do whatever he wants because I have forgiven him. What does this mean? This means that there are certain people who commit sins after that they make Toba so Allah subhanho wa Taala is saying as long as your condition is like that, when you make a sin, you immediately make Toba, you try to rectify and you admit your mistake, even Illa Allah subhana wa tada Allah will forgive your sin. Absolutely, you know, that as he says for Allah. So he knows that he has a lot that forgives sins and takes to task for sins. So
acknowledging that Allah is most forgiving, Most Merciful and he is also severe in his punishment, when you acknowledge that that will drive you to tell that it will drive you to seeking that the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So it's of utmost importance for us to know that Allah is Ever full of lies that are him. And Allah is also shared equally Acaba and maintains the balance for a human being. So it actually says in that Hadith that four elements, so he knows he acknowledges, and he remembers that Allah subhana wa Taala has these qualities.
Yes, as you mentioned, and adding to that one, yes, he makes his Toba and then he must try to occupy himself.
doing good deeds, remember your time during the day is one, you're not going to have 25 hours, 26 hours no is 24 hours. So if you committing a certain sin, which takes up one hour of your day, two hours of your day, whatever it may be, try and occupy yourself during that time doing something good. Remember, yes, you obviously seek the help of Allah subhanho wa Taala. But you also have to do something about it. Now, try and occupy yourself try and not be in the place or in the company of people who you are committing the sin with.
Yes, yes, yes, that's very, very important, because it's practical. I mean, a lot of people say that, you know, seek the forgiveness of Allah seek the forgiveness of Allah, but then they don't tell you how to rectify your life, and how to make positive changes that will then help you get rid of the sin in totality. So you literally try and strangle the sin with good deeds, you know, get get rid of it, like you were saying, you've got 24 hours in a day, try and make sure that your time is occupied with goodness and good deeds. And when we say good deeds, sometimes people think that we tried to tell them that the whole time, you've got to be in Salah whole time, you've got to be
giving, you know, you're fasting, etc. You don't have to be doing this all the time. Any anything that you're doing with the right intention, so long as it's not how long can become a good deed. So if you helping your family members, if you're doing your chores around the house, if you're going out to business, to your business place that can become a source of income of good deeds for you.
And you know what, the topic we're talking about, a lot of people they complain about this usually, mostly, it's to do when they've got a Sunday committing in private.
They don't really complain about this when they're doing something in public know, because they feel that guilt, they know that there's something wrong, they carry on doing it. So what you've got to do is if you alone most of the time or you isolated some we try and go out try to do a community is something in the community and activity, even if it's going out to it may be the gym, it may be wherever as you mentioned with the correct intention, this also becomes a good deed even in law.
Absolutely. And you know, the very interesting thing is that if you committing a sin, perhaps in your room at night, you know, nobody sees you, then in that same room that has now borne witness to your sin, that it become a witness to your ambassador and your worship to Allah subhanho wa Taala call after the sin immediately make your Toba seek is still far ask Allah to forgive you, that sin will be wiped out and the earth that you committed the sin on will now bear witness to the fact that this man has done some good deeds, you know, in on me or in my presence, so to speak.
And you know, we've spoken a lot about Toba rectifying where a person is down and you know they feeling bad about it. Let's also look at the other side. What benefits you achieve when doing good deeds Bismillah your matters become easy. Allah subhanho wa Taala helps you you see your feet and you see yourself being able to do things that you would not imagine by the help of Allah subhanho wa Taala That is why it's mentioned that I they even asked about the Allah and Hormel even Massoud what they love. And they mentioned that when it comes to a person committing a sin, you know, it has that darkness on the face, and it has the evil on the face. And when it comes to a person committing good
deeds, it also becomes apparent the way you carry yourself around people. You know, people tend to like people or others who are doing good deeds and that's from the acceptance of Allah subhanho wa Taala
absolutely amazing. Yeah, I think this topic is very relevant and a lot of people really have learned someone just mentioned, then that you have to avoid again, meaning committing the sin again. And yes, absolutely. You should have a sincere intention and make genuine efforts not to commit the sin again. And that's why we were saying how you try and strangle the sim you know, make sure that you do so many good deeds that you don't have time left to commit the sin. So that would show your sincerity.
I think an important point to mention when it comes to this, a lot of people who commit sin and they feel very guilty. They start making what's called a never you try to make a pact with Allah. your intention is so you leave the sensor you say Oh Allah, I'll stay away from the sun and if I had to commit it, you know I'll fast for 10 days while give so much away or do this or do this. Allah subhana wa Jalla never asked you to do that last panel with Alan did not make it hard for you. So don't make something that was not compulsory upon you don't make it compulsory upon you.
You make a sin, the it's been laid out clearly what you need to do. You need to obviously, leave the sin, acknowledge the sin, make Toba and still follow them do good deeds, it happens you know we all human beings that's why one of the Hadith when the Sahaba asked also the last Allahu Allahu wa sallam when we with you, it's like, you know, we are living in we have spirituality that we cannot compare, but when we go away, you know, we mix with people, we mess with our families, etc. And our feelings are different. So Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam basically was telling him, you know, it's step by step, slowly, slowly, if you were only like this religious 24, seven, you know,
no sin, or you're doing absolutely nothing wrong. The angels would have basically come and greeted you and, you know, shook your hands. Yeah, basically, meaning that that's the difference between us and angels, you know, have we been excellent and perfect, absolutely no sin. And what's the difference between you and an angel, the angel might as well treat you. It's like your brothers and sisters. So the difference is the sin but at the same time, we should always turn back to Allah subhanho wa Taala, when we've committed that sin, and tell us is there any sin that Allah won't forgive so long as you're breathing and living?
As long as you are living, as long as you are breathing,
the doors of Toba are still open for you. And no matter what sin you have committed, even if a person commits the greatest of sins, which is shipped, and then he had to tend to Allah when telophase still accepted, Allah Subhana, which Allah forgives, you know, there's a lot of people today doubting and wondering, and perhaps this could be a topic for another day, doubting the belief in Allah subhanho wa Taala, whether he exists, this type of thing. So even such a person, they have a chance at the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala, you may have you even doubted him and his existence in your life, but so long as you breathing, remember, you're going back to Allah after you
pass on in this world. So he's given you a chance to come back to him. And I think we can quickly highlight the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu. He says that shavon comes to one of you and says, who created this, who created that? Who created the mountains, the earth, etc. Until he says, so if Allah created all of these, they created a lot. So he's placing doubts in your mind. And that Hadith says that when you when that happens to you fell yesterday, you will love it, let him seek refuge in Allah. And cut that thought right there. Because obviously, the there is a beginning to everything analyze the beginning. So we need to understand that he with him began everything. So the Shakedown
is very misleading. Like how we were saying the other day that he comes and tells you step by step, and he takes you to a point of disbelief in Allah subhanho wa Taala, he won't come to you immediately and tell you, you know, just just believe in Allah.
You know, adding to what you mentioned, we must remember that people are from different places in the world is different environments, and every place has its challenge. So where you find people in a certain place, it may be to do with a sim like drinking or smoking or drugs in other places. No, it's much bigger than that. What's important to remember that if your fundamentals your belief, if you haven't had any doubts, don't now go and start reading about everything doubtful. And at the same time, even if you try and you have the intention, you know what, I'm going to read about this. And I'm going to read these doubts of everybody else. After that, you know, I learned about it so
many times, people who've gone through that route ended up changing and because they don't have enough knowledge, sometimes the questions asked to people as opposed to people, the question itself is wrong, and people start to doubt I'll give you an example. They say the argument of an atheist person asks you, you know what, Allah subhana wa Tada. You believe in him? Yes. You believe he can create anything? Yes, he can eat anything. Can he create a very big rock? You say yes.
They then say, Can Allah subhanho wa Taala? is he now? They make him such that he is unable to lift that rock? The question itself is wrong. The question itself in the first part, you've given a lot of power to create the rock then in the second part, you say that no, this rock Allah has created it and it's too heavy for him to carry because you said he can do anything. So the question itself is wrong. People don't realize this is a lot of in depth analysis and studies and tactics that people you know, they they carry out in order to get you from point A to point B
They don't take you one way they go from here to here to here. So if you're not in that type of an environment, don't go to everything that's bad and evil and try to read on it no keep yourself safe. It's mentioned in one of the scholars ignore Tamia Rahim Allah, he mentioned to ignore it in Guatemala when they were, you know, when he was writing a lot
about Chabot, heart, etc. He said, Don't be like a sponge that sucks everything in he said, You must be like a mirror and clean. Anytime there's a little bit of dirt you clean, it basically is trying to tell him that don't go into everything that's wrong and studied and see and how No, because after that, your heart you also start to forget and sometimes it can affect you. As for those people who are in these types of situations, you find a lot of the times as we mentioned before, it's because of your environment. And number two is you've got a lot of time, you've got a lot of time on your hands. So you're thinking about what's being thrown at you try and go and do something which is of
Yes, that's a whole topic on its own. So inshallah we will talk about it another day, the evening let Italia if you are comfortable with the topic. The thing is, you know, previously, the scholars also try to avoid talking about this in order to,
you know, protect people from this, these type of thoughts. But today, there's so many people asking and questioning. And I think it's very important the world being a global village, sometimes the youth find it difficult to even come in to ask those who know better and then they go onto the internet and find content that wouldn't be suitable for them, you know, or good for them, or it can at the same time, but they don't have like an option where they can receive the current and right information from so inshallah we'll try and discuss that on another life. Neela one last question. Before we go.
Someone asked me something interesting on on the on the messages basically and said that, you know, how did you start to send and receive ye from Allah subhana wa tada? Was it in the form of speech? Like how the Quran is the word of Allah subhana wa tada? Or was it a book that was revealed at once that came down to recyling salat wa sallam? I thought I posed that question to you.
I think we'll have to research on that topic. Yeah.
I also will be not really sure about. I also was not sure, actually. And I said, you know, this is something very, very interesting. And I think we should research and find out, you know, although it doesn't necessarily impact our day to day lives. It's something of importance. I mean, what why don't we know, you know, we should
bid as you said, we must remember that what comes in the Quran and the Hadith, whatever is mentioned to us, Allah knows that that's what we need certain details. He may not have mentioned, I'm not saying in this particular case. So for example, the people of the cave, who were they what were the names? And where exactly did they come from? And how long was the Hey, and Allah didn't mention all this, because there was no focus on this no ruling or something of benefit both on this. So we must remember that. Yes. If there's an answer, we look for it. And we say we don't know. But if there's no answer, don't try and go searching everywhere else and get to an answer that's not really going
to have a mate basically bear that you don't pay any fruit from that search.
Absolutely, it's been lovely, lovely having you on the on the live Alhamdulillah It was originally your idea to come on, you know, start something like this. May Allah subhanho wa Taala reward you I think there's been a lot of benefit. And hamdulillah people have really enjoyed the discussions and I've got a lot of positive feedback in my messages, etc. So Jazakallah here for joining us once again. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala reward you I mean,
I mean, I mean, yeah, come on, and May Allah subhanho wa Taala reward all those who are following remember, we know that there is a virtue for attending the halaqaat of alien basically the gatherings where Allah subhana wa Taala is discussed. And in the Hadith, it's mentioned that this is these gatherings are the places of the angels. Now when it comes to these live streams, even before the lockdown, a lot of scholars mentioned that Allah subhanho wa Taala his father and his virtue is very vast. And Allah subhanho wa Taala Can you know reward those who attend such
events or such lectures and gatherings Allah subhanho wa Taala can reward them with the reward of having attended these gatherings what is the reward one may ask in the Hadith
The angels they mentioned to Allah Subhana. Allah basically summarize it quickly, how they are these gatherings of knowledge. And they went they, Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala then asked him what happened and who was there, etc. They then mentioned that Oh Allah, there was a man who came, you know, he passed him. You never really want the gathering, but he was just like passing by. And Allah subhana wa Jalla says, basically, that he's forgiven everybody in the gathering. Thereafter, they asked him, even that man, you know, who just came in, he went to, he didn't really come for the gathering Allah subhanho wa Taala says, I have even you know, I also have forgiven him. So that is a
virtue of attending these type of halaqaat and gathering and we asked our last panel, which had to make our gatherings such and yeah, that's about it for today. That's what I've been. I mean, I mean, I mean, one thing that came to my mind once you were talking right now is that you know, how these gatherings Allah subhanho wa Taala forgives everybody who attend such gatherings with the right intention, etc. Now, even a person who's come online, you know, and lift, perhaps Allah subhanho wa Taala will forgive that person as well. And may Allah subhana wa tada forgive us all and reward us. And at the same time, you know, the phones that are being used for harm. In today's world, we're
using it for a lot of harm. If we use it two times for good deeds, then perhaps it will come as a intercessor. You know, and someone something that intercedes on our behalf of the day.
Yes, and as you mentioned, related to the topic of Allah subhanho wa Taala His mercy and His virtue is vast of the law he was here, there's nobody who can tell you he won't forgive and he will forgive here or he won't reward and he will reward. So we hope, and we always have hope in the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala we always make dua to get the highest and the best of rewards, and Allah subhana wa Taala can grant that to every single one of us. I mean, I mean, disciple ahead, once again, and some modicum ilica till next time. Salam Alaikum
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