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Miss Smith, you're

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah what an early he was such a busy woman while a lot of alumna myinfo now one foreigner Bhima alum tena in the casimiro module will do a lot of money how to become an MLA amfa or calvia Sha one FC Latisha Bauer de la you SMA or Bonilla to superluminova is had a Turner will have the knowledge on charisma in Nicaragua hub. ob strategy surgery with Sidley Emery watnall aka termoli Sani of Kabul Kohli salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah Welcome again to our Tuesday night program. hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen another day another life another breath and shot like your ob I mean, every all day old breath, all possibilities and

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opportunities. We'll use it for the sake of him. Your ob amin gives me a great pleasure tonight. To have our beautiful guest who's joining us from Canada she 15 years where I have not had yet the pleasure of meeting her in person you're on via Nene wants the COVID done Be it Mila we inshallah Allah who will allow it she's joining us from Canada, and I don't think I need to introduce her. I think everybody knows her. hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen May Allah Subhana Allah make her better than what people think of her And may Allah subhanaw taala forgive what you don't know what I don't know about her. hamdulillahi Rabbil alameen Chavez Tamia comes from a home of knowledge her mother

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is share her forehead Hashmi from Pakistan who I have not had the honor of meeting her. But I can tell you I've met people all over the world. And so hello, they don't even know I know her and her name always comes in. It looks like a loss. pantalla used her to spread the knowledge between woman and that knowledge is being passed in different parts of the world. So that's where she fit me. I grew up at Hampshire Bellamy. She resides there. Now in Canada with her husband she studied with multiple shoe she is teaching online you some of you actually probably have seen her series on Pepsi. I actually follow with all sorts on Facebook. And I think she's now in an earlier imraan so

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it gives me great pleasure to welcome to welcome her. Chef Amy welcome, Jackie llahi for give us this opportunity.

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We can't hear you share at me.

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Sorry about that Harlequins said I'm gonna have to live that I got to where does that go located in for such a warm welcome. I actually feel quite embarrassed to know that you're following this sort of alien loan program, I'm going to feel extremely self conscious knowing that a scholar like you is,

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knows that what it knows about what I'm doing, I'm Alice pantherella, forgive me for any shortcomings in my Park. I'm going to make also a confession, I cannot hear it, listen to it all because of the timing or whatever it is in between stations. So welcome to tonight. And basically what we are have been trying to do agenda Institute the same the following the footsteps of alhuda is actually to spread the knowledge and number one is to spread the knowledge to the woman and the mortar of gender Institute is actually bringing the light of knowledge to the hearts of women and to the homes. So I would love for you to share with us. And I will start with maybe it's basic, but

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that could find the decluttering found more money or remind the reminder benefit believers. Why should we as a woman specifically and as Muslims in general, specifically spend a little bit time or more time or all our time learning?

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Why

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are the mid laner Shivani rajim Bismillah R Rahman Rahim,

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this question is a is a very important question because, you know, when it comes to learning anything, we always wonder what the outcome is going to be. You know, for example, if you're taking a course in university, you want to know, why should I bother studying, you know, a philosophy course, you know, why should I bother studying this particular course and we have an end goal in mind and even if we don't enjoy the process of studying that particular subject, or that particular course, you know, the goal makes it

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you know, worthwhile when it comes to studying Islam, unfortunately, a lot of times we think that what we studied in weekend school, or what we studied, you know, when we were little should be enough we think that studying Islam is just about you know, knowing the basic facts about the Quran or

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Some basic facts about the life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. But when it comes to, you know, Islamic knowledge, the knowledge of our Deen and he This is a lifelong journey. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was told in the Quran we'll call Rob busy the near ilma that you should say that, oh my lord, increase me in my non in knowledge, right, increase me in knowledge. The Prophet sallallahu earlier than was not told to pray for increase in wealth, or to pray for increase in life or to pray for increase in friends. He was told to pray for increase in knowledge. And and that just shows us how important knowledge is for a believer. And he regardless of whether a person

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is a man or a woman, it doesn't matter. You know, it's it. You know, our womanhood as women. Our womanhood is neither an impediment nor a reason for us to study Islam. We are supposed to study Islam, because we are slaves to Allah subhanaw taala right, because we are worshipers of Allah soprano tada and Allah subhanaw taala tells us in the Quran, far less, and the hula ilaha illa who that you should have knowledge of the fact that there is no god worthy of worship, but Allah and we see that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in he when when he was sent, he wasn't just sent to deliver the Quran, right to just recite it to people. He was sent to also teach the book right? You

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are Lima humble kita. So any in general, we see that there's so much you know, importance of learning, sacred knowledge, that it just shows us that there's never really a time where we could say that I don't need to learn anymore, or that I can't make it a priority in my life. For a Muslim,

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regardless of where they are, who they are, what they're doing. Knowledge is something sacred. It's something very, very important for for a believer.

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Yeah, you know what comes to my mind, and this is one of the first Hadith or for Swati salatu salam that I was taught. Not when I become a student of knowledge for some reason I was attending and I remember I was visiting the masjid and there was a guest coming and I just sat and I and this came and hit me and this visa for Swati saltos maturity level be higher on your dean.

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It's amazing when Allah subhanaw taala told the resource that Yanni taught or Swati Sato Sam to teach us mitochondrial how're the term so ever a lot pantalla once higher good and good is a huge word. encompass everything higher. Right? You tell your children you tell him to the mom what do you want for me I said you always say I want good for you. My imagine Allah says maturity level be higher on whom Allah Subhana Allah wants good for him or her.

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You fuck off again. gives him not just knowledge my mom taught me my grandmother taught me I want one hour into the school Sunday school or I studied in school. No, you fucking houfy Dean. And what is you know this better than I am. It's the deeper understanding of the knowledge and somehow what I think this is one of the first thing we need to bring it back. that learning is not a luxury.

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Learning is the goodness for me in this life and in the Hereafter. spamela and in the reason I'm saying this, please comment on that is one I'm sure you had people said this to you. But for sure I can tell you how many especially when I as you know because I'm a physician. So when I was studying people highly educated look at me and says why you are doing this? what it what will what it will add to you. How do you respond?

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Yes.

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When it comes to seeking religious knowledge, unfortunately, a lot of times it is looked down upon.

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We have a course at all the institute that we offer in which you know, primarily it's offered to ladies, young girls,

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you know when they have to take

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A year off of, you know, their school or college or work even, so that they can study the Quran. And a lot of times, what I've noticed is that sisters don't have that support from their families, you know, where they want them to, you know, complete their degree or just, you know, stay focused on their work, not not take time off, because why why would you spend an entire year just studying the Quran? Right? People don't, unfortunately, we have that attitude where we don't really give much importance to, you know, learning religious knowledge. And I think it's because we don't understand how important the knowledge of our Deen is and, and how beneficial it is, and how it really, it

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creates not just ease for us, but but it's also a source of joy for us. Any if you think about you know, the Hadees that you mentioned, that minority level be failing, right, and like you said, that good, this is not just good here but inshallah good in the hereafter good not just, you know, for your mind, but also for your, for your body, for your soul, for your relationships, for your mental health, your spiritual health, your overall well being, you need that there's so much that that we can take from it. You know, we think that knowledge or studying is only for,

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you know, it tangible outcome. If we if we are studying something, it's, it's in order to complete a degree in order to get a job, right. But knowledge is supposed to be for personal growth, right to to become better people. And, and this is, I think the response to that. But I am learning this for myself. I am learning this to become a more competent believer. I am I am learning this so that I can be a better person. This is for me. And I think this is how we need to approach Islamic knowledge that it's not for certificate. It's not for a label. It's not for a title. This is for me so that I can be a better worshipper of Allah subhanaw taala, a better servant of Allah soprano

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Tada, I loved this statement that and I want all the ladies listening to me and to you to us to remember this. You're doing it for yourself, because this is one of the main issues. Woman these days.

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complain that I don't I don't feel I'm doing something for myself. I'm running from morning to evening. But I don't see it. It's for me, it's always everybody else become or everyone else comes before me, then this is one of the best answers I won't gonna use exactly how are you? gonna do it? for yourself? Actually, I said this last week or the week before an exactly what you said. But I used the completely different words I said you were that

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as a human being, you were there to give yourself an hour or two, or three. And I'm going to add one thing is because Apollo this question I asked is originally when I first started studying, I did not enroll in school, I started studying a shoe the old way. So I remember one of the few who said, Okay, I'll teach you and I want you to study this and this and this. And I am I studied in as you said in university, so we take tests as we know we are good. And I remember I asked him this question. And I said yeah, sure. How do I know I learned

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there's no exams? And this answer this is more than 15 years and he said one you know, you have changed. And one your relationship with a lot has changed. That's why we need to learn

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is your our relationship with a law changes and moves from a relationship of need? I call it the Allahu Allah give me to a relationship of your Allah. This is the least I can do for you. span on lighter, absolutely for ourselves for our relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala. This brings, again, the very common question, which I am sure you you hear it? What about the obstacles in front of woman? Can you share with me obstacles that you have seen in your life for a woman to study is Tomic knowledge? Yeah.

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So green knowledge is supposed to be for the purpose of Armen. It's it's supposed to be for the

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Purpose of action otherwise that knowledge is going to be a source of proof against us. Right? Well, yeah, the biller

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So, of course, when a person is, you know, learning, increasing in their knowledge trying to improve their understanding, I think one of the first obstacles is

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one's own knifes, right? one's own desire, your, you know, your internal weaknesses, because, of course, the knifes wants ease, right? We all want that comfort. When it comes to seeking knowledge, seeking knowledge is very different from listening to a nice lecture. Right? You listen to a nice lecture, you, you know, you have a few goosebumps, you know, some tears, you get those laughs and that's it. Right? You it's very comfortable, it's very enjoyable, and then you move on seeking knowledge means you have to pay attention, you have to, you know, take notes, you have to read you have to memorize, you have to try to understand you have to take those tests, it's and you have to

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do it on a more consistent basis. It's, it's tiring, it's, it's exhausting. And especially when you know that, you know, you're not doing it to complete a degree to get a job, you're doing this for your own self, then the knifes is more prone to, you know, make you more, you know, feel more lazy. So you're like, Okay, it's it's not fault, right? I don't have to do it. So I'll just take it easy on me. So one of the first obstacles is actually, you know, internal, it's, it's the knifes, it's the shape plan. And that is very, very difficult to overcome. Because I've seen in, you know, many women will start studying, but then they won't be able to complete the course or, you know, the book

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that they have started. You know, you this is very typical that at the beginning, you'll see a lot of students but then towards the end, there's a few, right, where did they go? Because it, you know, studying requires sacrifice. You have to, especially as women, you really have to work hard, because for many women who are you know, especially if they if they have children, if they're if they're married, they have to take care of their families and they also have to study so it's it can be very difficult to make studying a priority. So, one of the first things is to really,

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you know, have that determination that this is for me, I have to do this and I have to make this a priority. You know, Mashallah, I just, I just came right now from my in laws place my mother in law Mashallah la quwata, illa Billah, she just gave her

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Tajweed test she'd been studying for the past three years. And today she had a very major exam, the final exam and we were all so proud of her Mashallah, that at this age, Mashallah Cote de la bella, she completed the entire course it took her three years, and she has been going so consistently and, you know, everything this summer was, you know, on hold because she had to do her studies for her exam. So she made that a priority for herself. You know, you know, a person could say that, you know, I just want to have fun, I want to take it easy. It's summer. You know, let's go out here. Let's go out there. But you have to really discipline yourself. Really discipline yourself. So so

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that's the first thing. Dr. Phil, would you like to add something here before I move on? Actually, yeah, absolutely. is the first. The two first the first two enemies.

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Number one is enough's. And number two is a shaitan, which operates on I'm sure your other problem but number one is, I will say to everybody, don't give up is absolutely worth it. Yes.

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It is not easy. It is not easy. And there is two things I want to just make it clear. For everyone who's listening to us. There is two lines you take in studying Islam. Choose one for yourself, but don't choose none. Either you want to take it as your profession. Like you want to be any other profession. I want to be Alhamdulillah we are in a time where a lot of woman scholars are highly needed is not only needed, highly needed, or or do it in the two cases you're doing it for Allah but you're going to be absolutely

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Taking the route of being scholar or take it to learn to change the you number one and the people around you in two cases there's struggles there may be the depth of the study will differ but both of them absolutely in every step the neffs is going to come and tell you why you are doing it. This is too hard I am too old I am too young there is my children I'm too busy this these are so absolutely every time comes inside the answer is no I can do it alone we make it easy with Mila and what do you think the other obstacles I was waiting for the others

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I think another another difficulty that a lot of women experience in their inner journey of learning is comparison with other people

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because when we compare ourselves to others then

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oh of course that is that you know that is detrimental anyway but you know for example you are studying and you find out that your friends are hanging out at the mall or or they are

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you know out for coffee right or so panela that this happens with me a lot that here I am you know preparing for class spending my entire morning and I find out that you know some friends have gathered together at a park and the kids have a playdate and you know I have that FOMO that you know that fear of missing out I do feel left out at times

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there you know there are other times when you know when we compare ourselves with other people and we see oh Mashallah they got to go and study there they got to go and study with that teacher they had you know access to such and such they have such and such privilege then again you feel you feel really bad for yourself right and and that is something that kind of kills that that motivation because we forget to see the opportunities that are lost Panther has provided us and and we forget to find you know joy in what Allah subhanaw taala is giving us at the moment we're constantly focused on what others are doing and that makes us you know, appreciate less what Allah Subhana

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Allah has given us

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so I think that is also something that we need to really struggle against that don't compare yourself to people don't compare yourself to others. I remember

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you know, a couple years ago I met some friends from you know, we went to school together and Mashallah some of them earning six figure fat that you know, salary Mashallah.

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And here I am, you know,

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nowhere near in worldly terms, nowhere near them, right? And instantly, I remembered the idea

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that, you know, we're less proud it says the translation is that do not know Latin will deny naked.

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Extend your eyes, right? Don't even look towards what we have given to the people of the world. Right? Why because if you if you keep looking at what others have been given, you're gonna feel bad for yourself, and you're gonna think that what you're doing is not worthy, and it's less whereas who will handle me my edge Maroon, right, the Quran is better than everything that people gather. So, so we really need to remind ourselves that what I am doing is important, what I am doing is good, what I am doing is meaningful, you know, it is the best. And again, this is related to, you know, the inner challenges that we that we experienced, but it is something that we need to pay attention to.

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And I will add

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that in I really mean this and Allah will never let us down but it needs to be very patient. russborough masaka illa Allah

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that Allah subhanaw taala when we are in this journey of learning, and he will test you and I'm speaking to everybody, and I'm sure you you have gone gone through this. He will test you in every step, small tests and sometimes major tests how sincere you are in this journey, and he will test your intention. However, the more you turn to Him, and in sometimes I used to see this all the time, when it really gets

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Very difficult and challenging. And I say, you know, I'm doing this for you because I really loved this knowledge, because it's your knowledge spamela DLL after you pass this obstacle, adore is going to come from dunya This is why I was trying to get to that. And Julia is not only money, yes, because a lot of people these days, the problem is not the wealth is not the material. The problem is here is the happiness is the contentment is to feel good is not to feel worried. And now, the law, knowledge, knowledge, the real knowledge, and I'm talking about the knowledge where it will lead you to know Allah, it will give you that it may not give you an sometimes it will give you

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another day. I learned that about 14 years ago during Hajj I remember very well, I heard that from a teacher was giving a talk. And at the end, we were in Mena, and he said, and he made this job I said along the journey, it's actually he made it he like there's a habito Francois De Soto Sam so he took it from it and made this Dr. Madani at apparently a bad attack, or sued the factory formula Submariner, y'all, Allah make me empty me if I was translated throw at me, for your worship, what is empty me, meaning remove the distractions, the distractions that I have control the distractions, I don't have a control, but he moves up a journey. That's why he said make me because I can't do it.

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At the football empty, he a bad attack. And seeking knowledge is a bad is one of the bad. A lot of people don't know that. Studying the book is everybody this modulus we are on is a bad, let alone struggling and memorizing. What Shouldn't the fuckery look at the next part. Suffice or complete or close? My need my poverty meaning? Because shaitan is going to come say if you're going to study there's no six figures. So Shouldn't the fuckery Don't make me need? Yes, don't make me poor. And look at the third one. Because that whatever money will not come it doesn't matter. One lottery winner, fill my chest with richness. That's it. I mean, that's it, and nothing else. And I have

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studied both. And I will share this with everyone who's listening to me. Study dia is beautiful, right? 100 litre of blind, but you will reach a point where you will reach the peak of your studies. And then afterward, no more you feel empty. There's something missing in every study except knowledge. The more you learn, there's no limits. You always feel a law, how many times you've read the book and he said, Wow,

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this is beautiful, lovely the law who try it I will say to everybody, try it and see the beauty so it's your knifes number one, it is me the obstacle, don't blame the husbands. It's smooth. Honestly, don't blame the parents. It's me, me my weakness. Number two is the surroundings. May Allah reward you all the surroundings? Three, what do you add?

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I think another

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because

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listen,

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I can hear you, you're fine, okay?

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So because knowledge is read rather,

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it's a person can only increase in their knowledge and benefit from it. With that, though, people have a loss.

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Right? So

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knowledge, I think it requires personal change on our part, like deliberate change, concrete, conscious change in our part.

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And making those changes can be very uncomfortable. And also very difficult at times. And

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you know, what, when a person has to change their habits, their behaviors, their language, sometimes those changes have to be, you know, very tangible

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then, yes, it's hard, but it is necessary. And if we don't make those changes,

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you know, the the ability to increase in our understanding the ability to increase in our knowledge, you know, that the feek almost is taken away.

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Because you know, like Mr. Schaeffer, he

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He asked his teacher about his bad memory and his teacher said that leaves since because knowledge is a light which is not given to a sinner

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Allah Akbar this really scares me you know that if I am not able to learn if I'm not able to study more if I'm not able to memorize more it's because that the future is not there you know so we really need to humble ourselves over there before Allah soprano tada you know if anytime I want to study something or I want to teach something, I find obstacles and these obstacles could be really you know, your your children are not being cooperative, your internet is not working, you know, the computer is slowing down

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you know, there's one problem or another I always think about what is it that I'm doing because of which the faith is not there? Because how is it that you're trying to do something for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala and the help of Allah would not be there because doesn't Allah say, in terms of Allah Hi, I'm so calm if you help because of Allah, Allah will help you so um, you know, like how the people that after they said, an aha, how did this happen? A woman

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right? It's because of your own selves. So a lot of times I think we try to blame our circumstances that you know, kids are not being cooperative or because of the lockdown you know everybody's home and I don't get my own personal time and you know, it's my health it's my age it's this and that and yes you know those those challenges are they're absolutely there. But you know what there are people who with even greater challenges are able to accomplish so much how is it that they're there they're you know, it's just too easy for them know that they're probably striving much more their tests are probably greater than ours. Why is it that they're able to accomplish so much more what's different

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here the differences they have tofik and and we didn't get that trophy? So I think over there you know, we really need to make is too far and beg Allah And you know what, when you make more and more law, when you humble yourself before Alinea, you desperately desire, that knowledge that you're Allah make this easy for me, you know, you have that burning passion within you, you also value that knowledge much more. Right? And you, you enjoy it much more. And if it came too easy, then perhaps our attitude would be different as well. So I think another obstacle is our own negligence, our own

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you know, negative thinking maybe or our, our own sins, our shortcomings. And so Pamela, we are having interesting his, the class we are doing this fall is actually since and its impact on me, and the people around me and one of the results of sins is actually how to manually that loss pantalla will prevent that person that person the sinner from learning you along on a long one something to do, he brings a swab, he brings me in so here you go, it comes the knees, but one of the first ones, we have to look and see, is it my since I'm going to put a question if you allow me, yeah, she hurt me because this is very common with a woman. One has to keep in mind that many women in this world

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are in a survival mode, and have no time to seek knowledge. The time is literally used updated, which is so you hear it I will say it's true. And you hear it a lot. How do you respond? You're a mother, right? You have a home to take care of you have your in laws, you have your parents, and here I am People always ask me, you have your work, you have this you have that. So what do you respond in the survivor mode, lady?

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I think when it comes to things like housework, or taking care of your family or you know the when it comes to your children, for example, you there's always one issue or another

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when it comes to health, it's never ending.

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Right? But I remember when I when I first was born,

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I was in that mindset where I was always thinking when he's going to be 16 years old, like what was year here, right? Just jump in

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and get

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right back

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And then it wasn't one of these a year old when he's a year and a half when he's two years old when he starts going to school when he begins to grade

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any this life is supposed to be a test right?

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always going to be one thing or another which is going to be a test for us. So why are we waiting for things to be perfect? And you know absolutely easy what why do we think that in the situation where we are at the moment we're not able to

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learn something beneficial? We are able to it is possible Yes, you might not be able to dedicate eight hours a day you might not be able to dedicate four hours a day but are you able to dedicate one hour a week maybe two hours a week maybe? Absolutely you can and if you can't that's not healthy? That's not healthy at all. Because that means that

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there is not a fair

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distribution of responsibilities or you are you are not setting boundaries and and I think as as women a lot of times we don't set those boundaries and and as a result we suffer we suffer because what happens is that even though we're unwell we are sick we will still go and do the housework we will still go and do you know the the cleaning or etc I'm not saying neglect these things of course you have to do them but your body has a right on you and just like that your soul has a right on and you know your mind has a right so you have to give each talk and you you have to draw those boundaries and you know what salon teaches us that right five times a day, we're you know, when

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we're praying What does that mean? That means nobody talked to me I'm not available. Right? I have to dedicate I have to pray I am 100% focused on Salah. That doesn't mean that for 10 hours a day you're like that, you know you're not available to your children, you're not available to your family etc. Because you're too busy studying, no, but definitely you can you can set aside some time for yourself and you must this is this is something that you need to do for yourself. And if you make that a priority in sha Allah insha Allah, you will find those you know those those short you know those small chunks of time even where inshallah you will be able to accomplish you know my

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grandmother, Mashallah plutella Bella, she had 12 children. And so, Michelle and I as far as I know, she got married when she was quite young, and she didn't know much.

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And my grandfather taught her the meaning of the Quran and my grandfather taught her a lot of things Mashallah I remember when we would go over to my grandparents place

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imagine now Mashallah, they had 12 children and in the summer, so but there were so many grandchildren Mashallah. And I remember a time when we would wake up, my grandmother would already be you know, she would be done her 200 prayers, she would be done her fudger prayers. And usually she would read something, she would read a book or something, and then she would go, she would actually pray schlock her her shadow purse, and then she would go start making breakfast and she would be there until almost noon in the kitchen.

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But he had her taught you know, her personal time in the morning, nobody could disturb her. And then after that she was she was there or her children her grandchildren for everybody until the you know the evening but she made sure that you read something you know, she she recited the record on she did her Earth card. She She kept on you know, learning something new, Masha Allah and you know, when she passed away,

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I went into her room and one of the things I saw next to her bed is a pile of books. Allahu Akbar any she she made that a priority a priority for herself? And you know, because of that. She was so fun to be around. Because you will always learn something by by sitting with her. You would benefit from her company. She wasn't you know, a woman who is you know, constantly criticizing people or backbiting others or complaining about her seven daughters in law? No. Michelle, like you would never hear things like that. Because, you know, she

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hurt her Dean. Her knowledge you know, seeking knowledge was her

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Priority Mail lists pump automakers you know, so focused on higher

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in support a lot you're talking about your grandmother, and came to my mind one of my current teacher in Makkah, her

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great holla or aren't and she always because I sometimes I used to go and visit her my teacher on a Friday. And after also she says that's it. And I used to say what is that and this is a woman who had four children, and one of them is a special need. And she said I learned this from my holla she said we used to exactly that what you the scenario you're saying says we all are praying together all the all the kids of the family, and I show her name, and she said after also on Juma.

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If we even knock on her door, she said she's always with us. And for us, she didn't have children. So this is all her children just 12 or 13 after her so we all learned it. She said since I was this young, that's after also holla Ayesha, if we knock on her door, we are in big trouble. This is her time with Allah.

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So I feel this is why I put this question on to everybody because this is true. There is a lot of pulling us specially woman in these days, there is a family there's friends that his extended family, that his work, there's housework. However, every time you call him army, McCall, you know the statement for every state, there is a certain thing to be said.

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So when I am 30, or when I am 25. And I am still single, and I have nothing else to do, meaning only my job and I come home, my expectation from myself to learn should be way higher than when I am 30 or 35. And now I am married. And now I have three children. And I have a husband and all the others. And that reminds me of the Hadith which you probably I'm sure you know, everything in hums kubla humps. So those who have time now, take it, take it because you can do it, then when you become busy doesn't mean Leave it. But exactly prior to rise, because serving your families at a bad and taking care of your husband is a bad day. And we have to all know these are all acts of worship. But

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learning is also an act of worship. And I will ask every woman how much time we spend on the phone these days. How much and and you know what your kids know that when when mom is on, you know WhatsApp or she's watching something she's on the phone. You can't disturb her right. So why why can we not set the same boundaries or you know, something that we want to do for our personal growth?

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Exactly, I think this the beginning if we want to say where do we start? I am going to I said this to myself actually I was told is look at knowledge of Deen of Islam change the way you look at it is not complimentary. is not when I have time. Or I know what and I was taught and I do my salah and I do have the long fight. Don't look at it this way, look at it as something so valuable. so valuable. And Allah doesn't give it to everyone. And he if he will choose it to give it to me what any ama what a blessing, but at the same time, I'm hasip to mandatory origin.

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Meaning I was used this term meaning getting to gentlemen you will be tested and you will need to be patient. And the same thing with knowledge. So yes, as you said one hour a week I think everybody can do it. One hour a day, Allah, Allah de la everybody can do it. When you are driving for those who work and you drive. If you spend this 20 minutes, if you drive, for example, 20 minutes, and you just review your car of the morning, and you're coming back your car of the evening. Look at the Baraka that's knowledge. That's knowledge will open the door for another knowledge starts What? As they said that 1000s miles start with a one, but put a schedule, schedule. I mean, my teachers and

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I'm sure you've seen them, what schedules they have. Now third point which you discussed it which I love also is how do I pass it? Should I pass it? Or what do I know to pass? What do I pass to my children? What do I pass the people around me?

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So you know, you mentioned what is it that I should pass to my children. When you make

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you know, studying knowledge

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priority for yourself. Even even if you have children, your children will know that this is something important. This is something worth doing. You know? Why is it that children are so attracted to phones, it's because they see those phones in our hands all the time. Right? You know, my mom, uh, so many of her books have our scribbles on it, right. And so many of my books have my kids, scribbles on.

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Or, you know, there's some pages that are ripped

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parts of the books that you don't have, like, you know, the pages are kind of deformed, because someone drooled on them, or something, any kids have always seen seen those books around, right, they know that this is a part of our lives, they know that this is important.

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So when when you create that culture at home, and even if you don't have kids, you know, at home, whether it's your spouse, or you know, your, your family, or your friends or whoever, and when they see that this is something that you're doing, and you do this, so consistently, it matters to you, then they will also know that this is something important and it's something worth doing. And as a result of that, you're just creating that culture of appreciating Islamic knowledge, right, knowing that this is something worthy. And then, you know, you mentioned we're passing it on to children. So of course, when you pass it on, of course, one of the most effective ways of passing on this

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knowledge is through one's actions. Right? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam any, he wasn't lecturing people all the time. When he spoke, he spoke briefly, right? He has a very nice concise to the point and also very nice.

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So so

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the profits are

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good, like I should have

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right kind of

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your actions, it's your language, it's your you know, behavior with people, it's those kind of things that you make a priority in your life through which you are benefiting those who are around.

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Right?

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believer in compared to a dead palm tree in the Quran, right? The Shadow can play

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by the method, a button cashola team for you. And the Prophet sallallahu earlier said no. And he said that there's a tree that resembles the believer, right? And it's mentioned in the Quran, it's the de palm tree and in the Quran, it's it's mentioned that I'll sue her Surbiton will follow her for summer to do cooler, cooler Hainan that this tree is such that its roots are in the ground, its branches are in the sky, and it gives fruit all the time. Right? It's an evergreen tree. And this is how in a believer should be always beneficial. Right? All of us useful. But when is it that a person can be beneficial when, you know they're they're deeply rooted in knowledge. They're constantly

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learning, because as you're learning, what happens is that the bitterness, the resentment that begins to come in, the heart gets washed off. Because one of the reasons why we we don't want to be good to others is because we become resentful, we become very negative. And when you keep doing those beneficial reminders, your heart stays clean, or it gets clean. And you you learn what you didn't previously know, you get reminded of what you have forgotten. And this is how you continue to benefit those around you. So the first way of course of passing on, the knowledge that you're you're taking is to benefit those around you through your actions, right. And then the Prophet sallallahu

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alayhi wa sallam said but Leilani widow Aya right convey for me, even if it's just an idea. So whatever it is that we learn, it's important that we, that we pass it on, right that we don't just keep it with ourselves, we should convey and the people who are closest to us are more our most worthy, most deserving that we share with them what we have learned. Now it doesn't mean that we make them sit down and we start lecturing them and you know, we start making them, you know, take notes, etc. It doesn't have to be like that.

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It always, but every single day, that we learn something, we make it a goal that I have to share it with my family. One thing, even if it's one thing, then you will see the blessing, you will see the Baraka, your knowledge will stay with you, because this is this is the benefit of sharing when you share, you actually strengthen in your knowledge. Right. And when you share with others, then

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you know, they will remind you when you forget, and that's something very, you know, interesting that you forget, but your children will remind you, your spouse will remind you. And also, it's easier to to follow, you know what you're learning, because it's difficult to do good things on your own. But when you have people around you who have the same goal, then it becomes easier.

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I love what you said. So Pamela, absolutely. And there is a saying, la mo will be Lamin y Isla tharaka, what the hell, knowledge, call, action, knowledge, call for action, otherwise it will leave. Meaning. If I learn one verse from the Quran, one verse, and I start practicing it, then more knowledge will come. If I learned and I just it became as we call it information, then it will leave. And the best way to practice what you learn is in your home, in your home. And again, it's not by giving lectures By the way, it's very hard to give lectures to your family. It's extremely difficult, because the money your relationship with the families in in a different by they see you

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in action because you will be tested. When you tell them Be patient. And then immediately Allah subhanaw taala will test your patient, and you practice it and they will look and they will learn pass it one thing I want to any make it that was also I was given Alhamdulillah Ramadan, don't learn to teach though. Yeah, yeah. Because then that's for dunya. And that's it. shaitan is going to come through that. And we'll mix the intention, if not change it, learn to be close to a mosque pantalla actually, number one learn to know a lot pantalla we cannot worship Allah with ignorance. But as you are learning, you will see the people around you.

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If not changing at least, this is something that will be inside them. Now you're going to come and tell me what there's some people who are very knowledgeable, but their children are not. This is the test from Allah subhanaw taala and say, you know, has you know, but in general, try to your actions, action, as we say, actions speaks more than words. He said, Powell I had this discussion this afternoon, in my office with my staff, and she was absolutely the person. The patient was absolutely not nice to her. And the way she was responding, I took her on the side and she's a Muslim. I was like, we can do that. She said, but you saw how she was talking to me. And I said, Yeah, if you

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respond the same way, then what is the difference?

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So that's what the children will see. And that's the people around you will see and it will pay back. So panela sooner or later, we just have to be patient. I call it this way. every step you take for knowledge, park with it a step of sub, step of patient, patient against you patient, pinched patient against your knifes patient to be patient with the people around you, and patient on the knowledge because the knowledge sometimes it's not easy, but started in a lot of yellow, I cannot say enough. There is no joy.

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I have read this before but it's different when you read and when you feel it. There is no joy in this world. Like the joy of learning something about a loss punctata Panama and in our journey in this rat race of every day, unless we pull ourselves and give out do ourselves this favor and learn about him. It's beyond anything else. SubhanAllah de de la if you allow me I just because the staff just reminded me hamdulillahi Rabbil aalameen Allah, his blessings are over us is is a lot. And one of the issues we are finding these days in Muslim homes specifically is the lack of love and happiness which I call it because of lack of knowledge in handling or blaming. Chef Amy is very

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familiar with Chef Yasser Burgess was also our guest two months ago. And the handler we talked about happiness in the Muslim home and what is the key from the origin

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sooner and he graciously accepted that we're going to start a course to teach Muslims men and women This is opened for couples and open for for singles. What is the fundamental of happiness in the house and I can give you one from the five weeks course is number one is knowledge is knowledge knowledge about law, because you will look at the marriage and the relationship and expectation and what to give and what not to give, not based on the dunia standards, this life standards. It's about a law standards, and He will give you back. What's the last thing Unfortunately, this is so beautiful. I enjoyed it more than anybody else. There's only four minutes left. What do you want to

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leave us with here? Chef Athenian?

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I think the last thing I just said interesting about Jeff

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you mentioned that it's helpful for couples It reminded me of

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this class that I started teaching in Ohio that this was actually before the lockdown

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we started a Hardee's class in which and we opened it to families. So Mashallah majority of the students were actually couples and my own husband was also in the class. So it was kind of awkward, but the lie was actually quite enjoyable because we, we really took that class as a you know, as a family thing and it was very practical, very enjoyable, it was very good to grow together to

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you know, to hold each other accountable to remind each other.

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So really, you know, as we want to increase in our own knowledge, we should also be eager to encourage our family members to increase in their knowledge, whether it is our parents or spouses or siblings or children because when that we know when knowledge is is shared

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you know, it's easier to act upon it, it's it's easier to appreciate it it's it's easier to live it and if if you're alone if you're if you are not able to you know take your family on the on the same path then then it becomes a daily struggle. And if you know with the tow vehicle of Allah inshallah, if you're able to do something together as a family as a couple, you know, what one is that you eat delicious food together, knowledge is much more enjoyable. One of the scholars said that

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the only

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there's no pleasure in the world. That is the same as the pleasure of the Hereafter, except for a man and knowledge. Any means to pleasures are actually you experience them in the world and you will also experience them in Jenna mellows. punctata make us amongst them so panela Absolutely. Because one of the I don't know about I'm sure you get the same thing in who they are one of the continuous requests that we receive a gender Institute is that you teach only the woman where is the classes where is the knowledge for the for the family, there's not for the men only or the woman only but for the family and 100 lack of data when Allah started this is so powerful like the best thing is on

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a luck plan. Now what is the best planner so I highly it's a one hour a week. I'm sure the family can do one hour a week and he chose me a lot he worked him eight to 9pm so the people who have young children they already put them to bed. Even if you join a little bit late there is a huge beautiful syllabus and it's so powerful I was I had the the honor actually to to look at it. So please join us or join and again I say this all the time. Look at alhuda I don't have to tell you it's well known but there is plenty of knowledge out there hamdulillah so there is no excuse and I said this to myself ally. She hurt me. What will I say to Allah subhanaw taala when I signed stand in front of

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him, and we learned so much things about dunya and everything is available to learn about him and I want what I say didn't have time, there is no

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facility that is what is there's no excuse for why any? Absolutely we will be absolutely stunned. So I will say to all the beautiful May Allah reward everyone who joined us today. Please give yourself Do yourself a favor. HUGE favor for your demeanor. And definitely for your hero. It's worth it. Start with a one step where do I start the book of Allah. That's the step. That's what our Swati Sartre said on this.

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Start with the book of Allah and as you start the journey he will move you and keep asking him make Doha your last salmon you will notice that didn't he Allah use me and don't replace me teach me I used to say this all the time, try to teach me I don't know where to go you and He will open the doors for you shift a major zacky low Hi this is not going to be the last one I can tell you and I hope

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you will be gracious enough to join us again in sha Allah.

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Allah May Allah reward you because I could locate him cathedra for having me was It was lovely talking to you about a cup of coffee Come on less your institute May Allah bless all of the staff, the volunteers, all of the students will as pontarlier make this a source of immense light for the entire community. They're your families, and when involved in Sharla does that level is panic alone more behind the shadows and stuff guru coworker Bulik solo and I see them hammered while he was home with his team and good luck everyone who joined us said Mr. Kumar. Allahu Baraka workers