The Best of You #06

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I enjoy better evening Abdullah hill the Allahu Anhu call. The hadith tonight is a collection of both Bukhari and Muslim narratives. By Shabbat Abdullah, this hadith is very special to me because I had to one of the first Hadith that I did a full review of all of its chains of transmission when I was a student, and it took me like three months to do it, because the condition was that you didn't use an electronic

database, you can go to a computer and just punch in the words and let it give you everything and actually go to a library and the library is back then we're like, where I was, we're not easy to come by. And you have to actually go and pay money to go into the library in the old books. It's a silly story, but I went into the library of our of our university and, and there's a library was one of those where it goes up a couple of meters into the so you can't actually reach books. So it has one of those movable ladders. So it's on wheels to ladder. So I, I saw the book that I wanted, like as a fool, I decided to move the ladder and go up, apparently, I didn't know but there was a guy

there who ran the place. And he you can't go on the ladder without his permission. So once he saw me on the ladder, taking the book, he came, he shook the ladder so hard that I went flying falling to the ground and then he chastised me for 15 minutes and kicked me out and then I had to come back later on and get him a sandwich and something for lunch to get me the book that I wanted. But this hadith is special to me because I spent a lot of hours to get to kind of go through it. And it has maybe eight different narrations the one that I'm going to share with you is the one that is in collection of both Bukhari and Muslim so it's actually the shortest of the of the transmissions when

you mean the story is not in the detail of the context and I'm not going to share that with you for time sake, but the issue the time the topic or the theme is still within issues of marriage and it will be covering that until the 23rd of this month and then everything's gonna turn into we're gonna switch into Ramadan mode also talking about Ramadan and then we'll come back to this issue inshallah after Ramadan after we kind of finished that beautiful season and is what he said he's saying the Shabbat or the low kala halacha Abdullah here hello Kobe. What's your like? I said to Abernathy for this question right and fee but my father Abdullah died. He left me nine sisters. So I married a

woman who was married before a widow or a divorcing

so I thought a little sooner Allah so Allah Allah Salam, yeah. Jobin health is a wash. So the practice of the Prophet saw one day told me Oh, yeah, but you get married. Now this story happened on the way back from a battle. This is the context and they're both on a camel. So long story. A lot of things happen between the Prophet Ali's awesome job is a beautiful story is gonna take too long for me to explain. So I'll just leave, just tell you this part of it. But he's trying to change it up because Jabber, he just didn't have a lot of money. And he had a lot of people that he had to take care of. And he was just a bit depressed to the provider. He sort of and was talking to him

kind of engaging him to ask him do you get married? So he said yes.

So that's really where I want to stop with this story. I don't want to go beyond that piece. That's all you need to know. What you need to know from this story is that Jabir, one of the highest narrating Sahaba historically, one of the people amongst the 10 highest people who narrated Hadith so someone who spent a sizable amount of time with the Prophet Allah, you saw two of them on a daily basis, got married, and the Prophet himself didn't know. The Prophet himself was not even. He wasn't even invited to his wedding.

Jabra didn't invite the Prophet until you start to send to his wedding. Are you understanding what I'm saying? If you listen, if you live with the Prophet how to use the word Westerdam? Wouldn't you have a specific card for him that was made out of gold and written by Yanni? You're just, of course, he didn't. The Prophet alayhi salam wasn't even he didn't know. The Prophet was not offended in this age, however you got married didn't invite me. How dare you? What what types of marriages are Baraka if I wasn't there to actually officiate it? And so the moral of the story is don't invite me to your wedding because I I don't have time. But no, that's really that's not the moral the story. But the

idea here is that they got married, and they didn't make a big deal of it. No, the President of the United States did not have to be

invited to your wedding. You don't have to have a $50,000 wedding where every person that you know was coming in comes up in a tux. And then you have to have a party that goes on for seven days and seven nights. We had this in our village. When I was when I was younger, people got married and they had the Odyssey for seven days and seven nights. Shabaab would do that. Because seven days and seven I swear I kid you not my hand to God, Allahu Akbar. This is what they did. The prophet had a saucer on someone we seize every day. He asked him, Have you got married yet? And he says, Yes, he doesn't even know. The prophet is not offended at his job doesn't feel weird, totally normal. Marriage was

something that they did. They didn't spend too much money on it. They didn't make too much of a big deal of it. Didn't overthink it. If you overthink marriage, you will never get married. If you if you overcomplicate this issue, if you take it and you spend too much time in it, then it's impossible for you to go it becomes too hard. And if you make it too much of an ordeal, it becomes harder for people to actually engage in it because it becomes too expensive or becomes too much

taxing socially and it's it feels hard to do. So, actually, in my mind, this is what I was going to tell you. The fact no one doesn't want to hear the story they like the other, the rest of it, which is I'll tell you the rest of it for sure. But this part to me is the most interesting that the prophet had a slump, didn't know. And there was no problem with this. There's no expectation that you had to invite Mohamed Salah as I was mean to your wedding, and he had no expectation of going through and it was very normal. For Carla now I'm jasola for Hiltunen Tagada iBeacon and I'm thinking about you marry a lady who has never been married before or you marry a lady who had a

previous marriage. Regardless of why it ended. Call to balsa Eban Yasser Allah I married a lady who had a previous marriage for God only for Carla yeah joba Hello Declan to the Abraham what Tula I book, what to go Heiko her what to cook, why not choose a lady who had not been married before, so you can play with her and she can play with you and you can make her life as you make you laugh. There was an understanding even that if you're going to marry a sister would not be married before that you're required to enter with that mentality. And this goes out for brothers who are a little bit too serious and take themselves too seriously. It doesn't there's an expectation here if you

marry a lady who's never been married before that you have a certain romantic Jani

bank account that you have to have enough will seed in terms of of your of your own romanticism if you don't have any of that she's not going to go for you and she has every right not to because that is the Prophetic understanding. When it comes to marriage. Hala declined to label her Why not for call to Allah halacha Abdullah Waitara catches Abernathy but goody two and Ajio Nabi Misurina.

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region, but I'd say 200 to 200 with a full Malaysian auto fleet. So his answer was really low. I know that I have nine sisters, my father died of United sisters, I didn't want to bring into the house

late a younger sister who are similar to them. And then I want to bring someone who was much more mature, who could take care of them who could look after them. Help me do my responsibility. So even then the understanding was yes, you have when you're marrying someone you are thinking about these details, what is your lifestyle? Like? What are you looking for? What is your what responsibilities do you carry, if you have children, or if you have people, you have to take care of marrying a woman who has never been married before, he's not fair to her, he's probably not prepared to take care of a full family that's not her own. But maybe someone who had a previous marriage or has their own

children will appreciate that these things are looked at me they're taken into consideration when marriage is actually being set up. And I find that 1400 years ago, they were much more open minded about marriage. And they were much more open hearted as well. And they knew how to enjoy themselves. And they knew how to look for things. And they got life moving along. And they didn't sit around into their mid 20s or mid 30s and mid 40s waiting for something. They just they moved on with life and it didn't work out work out they move on to something else. And there are ways to make sure that it kept on going. Or else How do you expect to build a society we are living today.

Not the Islamic way of how societies live. We are living the English Victorian way. This is not what you're living right now. The conservatism that the Muslim society shows is not Islamic. It's actually it's taken from from from an external source to Islam. I'll talk about a little bit more in the future. But it's something worth thinking about. Because I find that our ancestors were way more just made more fluid.

They they understood why they were doing things they enjoyed themselves. They were much more direct. They knew they chose they were they were clear about things they they lived, you know, we're not we're not as good as they are when it comes to that we've lost something and the reason is we don't we're not following the actual teachings that we have in our book. Yahweh the Imam Al Bukhari Muslim couldn't be so hey, I'm Jabber, even Abdullah Hill de la Rocha. Palak Palaka ad whatever catches Abernathy for there was always to say Eber for Cara Lee Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam health is a waste ahi tuna. Takada kronum tell you about the call to belsay Eva Takala li hella

recurrent Tula Abraham's ebook April how to do a heck of a call to alto ya rasool Allah Hi raka Abdullah whatever I got this Abernathy *ery to an edgy 193 Hiner What is your wisdom Ratan? Thank you Ben. Docomo Allah you can what to sleep for Hoonah Takala Lee Baraka Allah hulak sal Allahu Allahu Allah.

Allah Allah, Allah Azza wa sallahu wa salam O Allah cannon levena Muhammad, which means I can hear about it the multicam inshallah tomorrow Jama is 145 See you then shakers, your NaVi will have his full kind of you. Hello