Tafseer Surat AlAhzab #03

Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen Allama

Muhammad Ali was like his main

ally. So we recited the first fight.

Last time was along,

it was a long way citation, I just went, we had a lot of talks a lot about

concepts that are rarely or seldom discussed within Islamic University. And just last week, from the Islamic perspective, regarding adoption in Cambodia for your team taking care of orphans and whatnot, that being a very important part of the Dean

you'll find it all the the storage of all the issues are a bit awkward, or difficult to talk about, if people find it uncomfortable listening to it or are talking about they're not sure about what it means and they find it hard. And that's the whole point of the sutra. The sutra is the beginning of a cluster of suitors that talk about obedience, submission, and

PA, basically the following the way of Allah subhanaw taala, or the commands of Allah, and it looks at it and looks at that concept from a number of different angles, a number of different angles that make a big difference in terms of how we ended up actually doing it. And what we find in our way, sort of being the first one and the longest within this is a group of students, it focuses

on obeying Allah subhanaw taala, following his way, submitting to Allah and difficult situations, meaning when you're asked to do something that you don't want to do, or you don't like doing or you don't feel comfortable doing. And that is, of course, something that we run into in our lives many many times. But for those of us who are that is dedicated to that topic with a subject that is worth reflecting upon, just just having that idea there. Meaning there's an acknowledgement within the Quran and Yanni within the within the deen in general, that some some of the Afghan some of the ruling some of the commands of Allah subhanho wa Taala are not easy. And they're not to your need

the to your comfort, and they're not your it's not something that you enjoy doing all the time, some of them are going to be hard, some of them aren't going to be things that you want or enjoy doing, that's gonna be the highest and that has to be okay with you as a Muslim, that some of the game you will find easy to accept, easy to, to follow and to obey. And some of them you won't, some of them you will struggle with and it'll be difficult for you and for others. Yeah, and I think that's an important concept that we have to think about and accept and sometimes even discuss with our children with in with our peers, in terms of not everything is going to be easy. That doesn't mean

that Islam is not useful. I know Islam is the easiest way of life. It just following certain commands may be difficult at the beginning. But if they will bring ease in your life later on and then easier milky mo which is which is how we're supposed to view the following this this deen and accepting the the commands of Allah subhanaw taala, that if you tell you to do something, and you find it hard, that doesn't mean that it's not a part of the deen? Well, it could, it's hard, because this is the new students and ease is supposed to be appeased. And if you follow the commands of Allah subhanaw taala, in following his commands and obeying Him and submitting to Him, you will find

ease not just in also in dunya. And that's an important point. But you will find ease here he's telling you so the examples that we've recited so far in the, in the sutra, were only to one of them was the dream or the forbidding Mooladhara, which is a man to say, tell his wife and to me, you are to me, like my my mother was it doesn't exist anymore. But it was a way where men would oppress women where they wouldn't actually divorce them nor keep them as wives. And for and that was a social norm that people were used to another one was regarding orphans, or people who you bring into your house or a part of your family not be able to take on your last name. And of course, this is

something that is a bit difficult for whether for the families who brought in the child or the child who wants to carry the last name of the person who seems to be his father, even though he's not actually the biological father, you know, difficult things, but they bring ease later on. They maintain

the proper fabric of society to make sure that society is is built on Honesty and trust that if you can't trust people, if you don't know where they come from their background, you don't know if they're telling you the truth about themselves. And how do you go forward? How do you get married? How do you how do you trust anyone? Jani Islam is very big on honesty, it's all about clarity, even issues as quickly as difficult and as hard to talk about as this regarding bringing an orphan or your team and having him within your family. So that was the example. These are the examples that we've been given so far with it within the zoo. Now, number six is a continuation of that of these

concepts. Last time we went into into quite a large amount of detail, talking about bringing in orphans and the rulings and how there's different ways to actually I needed there a lot of there a lot of rulings that bring ease into the process, whether you're being a small child or an older child, that Muslims may not know or may not be aware of and that we have, to a certain extent as Muslims shied away from this from the concept of bringing in orphans into your home.

Even though this is something that was very, very common, the brother of some advice that I've talked about many times before, and it's filled with, and yet we don't do it very much like the the highest level of profanity a team that we find if you spend $50 a month, you just you just pay money. But that's not that's not to find that your team really because your team is bring someone into your home.

They need your love your time your your your wisdom, your that's what they need. The money is what doesn't money give a five year olds money. Where are you going to do with we doesn't know what to do. He doesn't want money he wants you. Right? You know that the first 15 years of of your child's life, they want you and then the next 15 they want your money.

Exactly. So the first 15 years, they don't want your money, they want you the next 15 years, they don't want you they want your money. So things change, right? But that's how it is. We prepare kids until the point where they want money, okay, back in the day how it was. Now you want money. Alright, go work. Now you're old enough to want money that you're old enough to go you know, be independent and live your own life. Of course, now things are a bit different in terms of material when people mature financially and socially and psychologically, educationally, whatnot. But back end, that's how it was you were showered with love and affection and care until you came to a point

where you know, I want money now, okay, you want money to go and find and find a job and you know, make your own money.

However that is but our rulings that will make that easy. But at the same time, these rulings may seem difficult. Isn't it a bit hard, it's gonna have to bring him home, I can't call him my son. He has to know that he's adopted, she has to know that she's adopted their rulings in terms of when they grow up them hurt him whether they can be to me or not. These things are a bit off and it makes it makes it a bit difficult. But this is the rulings of Allah subhanaw taala whether you like it or not, is not the point. Will you follow it or not? Is the point do you understand that when you follow it, this brings ease. You may not be you may not you may not see it right now. But it will

happen. It's a matter of trust. So what love is, you'll find throughout a common theme is trust. Can you trust that's why the first, the first four ayat, when it talks about submission, it talks about four aspects of it right so we talked about Dukkha

which was an ethical choice, and then identity that'll tell calf which is a social choice that alter caffine you know when when I 15

What tibia my Johari lake which is a matter of commitment or followship or theological, you accepting the word of Allah. And the fourth one is a is an aspect of a personal psychological commitment, which is Torquil to Oculus trust at the end of the day, what debacle is is trust and it came at the beginning of the sutra Can you trust Do you trust Allah subhanaw taala when he tells you to do something you'll do it? Or are you someone who you can sit you know, it's open so what good is is an issue of trust can you trust you trust you and trust that's why the fruit right at the beginning this this was there because a lot of the time you're going to find you in this order are

going to be hard now some of them will be very very difficult you'll find examples when we talked about Yanni the the wives of the Prophet some of them and and what happened with them you'll find this very very awkward situations where the prophet and his wives were in a very difficult point. Very different points point in their lives was a matter of trust again, you trust Allah subhanaw taala to follow His commands even though even though it doesn't seem to you right now that's what you want or what's easy for you. That is the only the again, that's what you're going to find the common theme in the Surah and examples will be very, very rich job. So today we'll start with number

six is very, very important. Now for the surah before the whole Quran because of a few ideas that exist in it that only exists and it's and you won't find it anywhere else and we'll talk about inshallah as we go along. We'll start with it number six will be Lahaina che Paul O'Neill Roddy.

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Mina mein, foresee him, the prophets of Allah, Allah you also have your Salam is closer and more of an ally, and more worthy of trust and partnership with them what means than they are to themselves, meaning, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam is more of an ally is closer, more beneficial, more more worthy of trust to you than you are to yourself. And you're saying these things are very, very important. There's no other idea like that and the Quran, and maybe you owe him money. And other provinces are telling us to say something similar to this but in a different context. He would say moto Allah, He didn't let me leave Animoto. Anyone, any Muslim who dies and leaves, leaves Dane he's

he's in debt, and he can't pay it. No one can pay for him. I'll pay it for him. And then modo will take care of it. All the movements, right. So the products I sell them would stand up, and he would say that and anyone who passes away, you have Dean, I carry it, I'll carry I'll find a way to fix he doesn't have family members. We didn't leave any money behind him. It started with him. And this was something that was repeated throughout his life. So the license and many many times that he would get to consider himself closer to you. There's been Massoud used to add and say, Well, who whom and the Prophet Islam is, is their father, not as a part of the Quran we would add that as an

explanation so Allah who I know that the prophets I send them is to the movements as a father is to his sons. I mean every Muslim every moment is you consider yourself the Prophet was like them to be your father figure then you see and that's how he viewed himself some of them to all the Muslims and anyone who passed away he left behind him family or money or debt he would take care of it some of them sometimes he would go and he would

take a loan to pay off someone else's loan and then he would carry the loan out so sentimental he found ways to pay it off someone listen to himself

and this is and this is a good example from this many many Hadith can be understood when he stood when he says to Allah said I'm now you do not have complete Iman or you haven't reached a level of full Iman had a corner I have barely mean barely he already he went nasty as you may know when I see here that you you do not achieve complete the amount until I am more beloved to you then your wealth and your children and all people in the world and yourself. So they don't narration said you know so Allah indeed. I love you way more than I love my wealth. Definitely more than my children and 100% more than other people but more than myself I don't know I'm not sure that Bacala either let me act

Emiliana then your your email is not complete yet. Yeah. So I'm going to walk so he is absent for an hour or so when it comes back. Call Yasuda Allah until an NFC I love you now more than I love myself. I've got to earn a arm but now your email is complete. Of course. Yes, like maybe you're thinking what so what what exactly happened Yanni? Did you go take a pill and come back? So even if anomaly is saying comes up to his father, I said, What are you doing? I know no offense here. But what happened? Yeah, you went for an hour and you came back what happened? Bacardi ebony, pull to VFC and found your armor. I told myself my son who is better for armor.

Or Muhammad said Allah Allah Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam who was a more benefit gentleman before Mohammed Omar was someone who did want to encounter distance he was going to join them and with Muhammad now Amar is a hobby and is going to gender who is more beneficial to him or him out of himself or one Muslim Allah is Allah so I find myself Mohamed Salah is nothing more beneficial to me than myself. So I love him. It's only loyalty mix. So it only makes sense to me for me to love him more than I love myself since he's more beneficial to me than myself was to myself.

So it's just a matter of at some deep, an hour of deep thought maybe just taking some time to think about it. So the law audience I've used it many a hadith or similar Tobin Tobin was one of the servants of the prophets of Allah. So one day he was sitting beside the prophets I said, I mean, He's usually very he's a very uplifted kind of

smiling human being, but he was sitting very quiet. He seemed a bit unhappy for the lesson and Malika Filburn was wrong for a joke your wave your face is yellow you don't you don't seem very well are you sick was wrong for

the car to say and you're also the law something I thought about something that bothered me?

Because my the company I tell Ben okay, what is it? What is it that you thought of that bothered you? Because I got to feed fcls Would Allah and Nina you

On when I can make it I remind myself that one day you will pass away and so why, but that got to border when you meccanica and if agenda. And then I remember holding to myself how far away you will be agenda for me if I even make it to begin with, you're going to be so far away from Washington, you have a sort of luck, and I missed you. In my heart, I said, I'm going to miss you, I'm not able to see you. So I felt bad it's just about any daddy that's why you're you're upset you're gonna I'm Jana Salalah Faqad I feel burned in your room I'm and

indeed the human being will be put to milk gamma with those are with him who he loves the most.

So you'll be happy, you'll be with me, even if you're not, even if you didn't do as much as I did,

you will still find yourself close enough to be with me. And it's something worthy that, again a reflection.

It's not, it's not just about deeds, we're supposed to, you're living a life just to try and do as many good deeds as possible to leave a legacy of how you actually make a difference in goodness on Earth and fulfill your role as a Khalifa as a as I believe that subhanaw taala. But all that doesn't really do Allah subhanaw taala any favors, doesn't really help them doesn't make him stronger, or better, or more powerful, who doesn't do anything at all, you're helping yourself, if you want to be high up, it's gonna, what's going to come down to you is going to come down to love. That's all it's gonna come down to whatever was in the heart. At one point, at a certain point, some of the scholars

at a certain point, after all the data are finished being weighed, and it'll all come down to whatever was inside that heart. What did you think? What did you feel? Whom did you love the most? What was your perspective? What was your emote? What were your emotions? If the most beloved person to you on the planet is Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, then Lucky you, you will find yourself in shoulder standing with him. And if you can find yourself standing with him, love someone who you know loves him more than you.

They say if you can't love him more than they love someone who know, you will know that this person loves them more than you do, then hopefully because he's going to come to anyway the province let's name them, so maybe you'll come standing by him. So we used to. So that is how the shield do. We learn from our shields, our scholars and and we, and we love them. And hopefully because I believe that the people that I love in shoulder, they loved him, so I sent him way more than I could ever so we shall come closer to Him, then I'm gonna be able to do it on my own. So then if I attached myself to them, I'll find myself closer. And we'll just use my own emotion. I may not be that, you know, I

may not have that strong emotion, but maybe I know he does. I know that even though I know it's in his eyes, I know he can be getting he speaks at the profit. So I sell them day and night. He does.

Every every moment that he has, where he's not doing something, he's making something.

He can bring his he got to think of him for a moment without tearing up. I know he loves him more than me. So maybe if I love him, maybe I'll come closer to the proper place. And then that's how you do it. It will come down to love.

And maybe you Oh La Nina, I mean, unfortunately, the prophet Islam is more close to you is more worthy of your trust in your alliance than you are to yourself. The muslims or muslims are to themselves. There's a monument Allah. Very, but why is it here

has to be here. This is talking about inheritance. It's talking about bloodlines. It's talking about Nessa. It's talking about issues that are hard to talk about. You're not from the family. Yeah, but I know, I know. But you're not from the family. You can't inherit me. You can't carry my name. Your hurts, right? People don't like listening to that. It's not fun. It's not something enjoyable. You're from a different family. I'm from a different family. But then the I can say but don't get us wrong. This doesn't mean that you know, nibio level meaning I mean, of course the in the private Islam is the father of all Muslims, and they're all close to him, he is close to all of them. It's

not about blood lines. The focus isn't that you have, but we have to respect it. It's a very, very keen and delicate balance within the deen of understanding in this sub understanding issues of of inheritance and bloodlines and of heritage and lineage. In contrast to the

bonds that we have through through Islam itself. Need who were to deem the brotherhood of this faith brings us all together. We are all one family and our father is one Muslim prophet, the closest one is to us. But we still have our families. We still have the lineages and we still we still have to be honest about who is and who is not. And there's no problem with that. But it has to be clear. We won't lie just so that someone doesn't feel bad or someone if it feels awkward or this person may be hurt. No, it is it is what it is. Whether whether that is

convenient or not is not the point of saying the issue. Hi, this is coming here just in case it came to your mind that maybe this is blowing the concept of genealogy out of out of proportion and making it seem that that's all that matters. And we cannot have people from different families living with people from a different family. It has to be the same no no. And maybe you didn't want me Nina and foresee him to add to that was jus Omaha to them and the wives of the prophets I send them or their mothers or the Mothers of the Believers

This made a big difference

in Arabia. Again, another example of a difficult topic for the Arabs at least back then. Women having power in Arabia in the seventh century. That was a joke. And even us talking about that you would be laughed at what are you? Are you insane? Like they would they would mock the stories of Bill Thiessen you know, the Queen's who existed in the in the past that being something insane and should have never happened. Now the prophets like Selim marrying after Khadija and he's so Dublin's Amma in Bucha, who have some insane a bit Xena. And they have been to Joshua whose story is going to come soon within the surah within a couple of more pages. And mareel Clea and Sophia

and Omar selama Hinjewadi Allahu Anhu Mojave but I'm limited with Sophia and an MA Munna mentor Harris, and God and mentor, Hadith all these all these ladies with a brother, the prophet Celeste and I'm married after Khadija during the marriage, any period, these ladies were called Omaha, meaning they were called the Mothers of the Believers.

No one could marry them after he after he after he died. So they weren't allowed to marry. So they weren't allowed to remarry. And they carried a certain

religious authority in Arabia that was untouchable. So you couldn't you couldn't say anything to any of that. Imagine what meaning they were, they were immune. Why by the fact that the Quran called them the Mothers of the Believers. So if you wanted to speak to her, you'd have to say you owe me.

That's what you have to say like if you came to Asia, and below and after the private Saudi ambassador, we would have to say you owe me You owe me more money, right. So there's, there's even in the way you're going to address them, you're going to address them with with respect. Now this led to a lot of changes within the within the region, meaning women were being empowered in a way that they were not empowered like before ever, ever before within the region. And it bothered people it was hard to deal with. I Isha with Allah Juana led an army into battle. For the first time in history, a lady was at the front frontier of an army. Now regardless of what the Bible was about,

and how it there was a lot of love. The fact that that happened was a was a historical event that people had that was unheard of, that a lady lead an army into battle or command an army or that was unknown, unheard of before, almost dilemma was exactly what she was saying she would teach, many of the tie between men took their knowledge from a mountain, I mean, many of them, many of them were reality, but the Quran was was was was cared for by one of them had one woman and said,

the Allah,

they carried a certain level of importance and empowerment. in Arabia after the Prophet SAW Selim dynamics, the Muslims, that was unheard of, it's very different. Many people didn't like it.

It was hard for a lot of people to accept that like in a in a, in a society, that for the last number of centuries, they've been varying little girls alive because of the fact that they don't, yeah, did not work. They're not willing to go through anything that may be that makes sense. It'd be similar to it to che it'd be to be shamed in any way, or a society that would inherit women. Like they wouldn't hurt luggage. Like you would inherit a piano of a house and a lady. She would be a piece of your inheritance. Yeah, that's how they this is how the society would view women. For this to to change within 30 years to the point where the lady is now we're giving birth to over their

opinions had to be listened to, I show one of the highest narrators of Hadith over 2000 Hadith. If you take out IHS narrations, if you lose, you lose a significant amount, a very significant amount of it of narrations that tell us about the profits, analyze them and give us a feel. There's a lot of what I just said, Allah, the Sahaba, the big Sahaba had to listen. And she would argue, and she would change. I need the perspectives meaning if an ibis would say this, and then I actually would hear and she would say no, that's not true. And they would have to listen. Again unheard of even Ibis he is from many many Hashem he is the prophet

cousin. Right he's someone with a very real ways a lot in in this in the Islamic world till today, we even have busted still Yeah, and he talked about his and what he did what he offered was ALLAH who I know is a great great Sahabi yet I actually would argue, she would argue I'm gonna I'm gonna hop up and tell him this is right and this is wrong. They wouldn't dare say a word. I'm gonna actually talks about it. I'm gonna tell the prophets they got us with Allah. Will they Macklin McEnany una una Allah holy Maya.

Allah since you've been to Medina, or women have changed and they wouldn't have they wouldn't dare I went home to them and I told him I want to do something and she spoke back to me also Allah you want a cup of water out of his hands like what just happened? You know? What did you just how when when did this but at this start like there's nothing changed, things changed even Sahaba like almost and they were not used to this. Things in one run like that. You

What can you say? And they would just everyone would just do whatever. No, no one speak back or have I think it went too far?

No, no, no.

I don't believe that.

But the idea here is that that was a that was a change within the fabric of society and the way that they viewed things that was unheard of and unprecedented was where to whom they had a very important area, again, brought a lot of uncomfort a very uncomfortable and very awkward situation for everyone. Oh, so now they're there. Imagine what we need.

We can't bury them. We can't disgrace them. You have to listen to them. They dig based basically, their immune human needs, like you get into the congressman, you have deployed a community, you can do whatever you want. And that was that was the status of all Omaha's even what minion. It made a big difference for the way people viewed women altogether. And they came from different tribes. And they came from different backgrounds. Sophia was from a Jewish family and many years from a Christian family. And almost insane I've been enjoying it here they are from different tribes, different tribes of Arabia had brought it brought a certain level of

authority and respect and that was needed was logical. Omaha, do I think it's worth

this as a final thought, I think it's worth teaching our children, especially our girls, or even even even more importantly, our boys will love them. You know, who they were, who will not mean were, what they did, why the prophets I said I'm married them because they all have stories, that always a story that will stand out and show Oh, this is why the Prophet says that I'm married this lady is what she did.

A lady of great, great caliber, who and who showed it who sacrificed a lot of retirement in herself for the sake of Allah, I think it's something worth spending some time doing, what we'll hear things come back to talk about inheritance. Again, we'll talk about bloodlines and family matters.

And those who have kinship, the word Elohim comes from the root brought him or him is the womb. So put a lot of harming those who are connected by wombs mean those who come from the same family, right. So those who are birth, by the merit of birth, they are connected, what we do know how many those who are relatives, and are connected through through bloodlines that evolved, they are closer to one another. We need more hygiene. When it comes to inheritance, then the generally believed that believers or them will have green. See what happened was the prophets like some of them, when the MaHA God came to Medina, he put them in the same home, right with the onslaught, so you would have

someone living in the house you would have sad,

and with him from the same house to living, right, in the same way, you'd have sentimental value without living in the same house together, and the province was able to do more. Now your brothers, you treat each other like brothers. So then the question came well, what about inheritance? What about money? What about when I die? Does he inherited me? Does his kids inherit me? Do they know. And in saying that, yes, the Brotherhood is through faith, the Brotherhood is through good is good deeds and respect and love. But certain things stay within their realm, which is inheritance issues of family. Why because if we stop respecting,

if we stop emphasizing the importance of families, then nothing is left. Islam will fall society will crumble, just like it has, I mean, we have to take, we have to learn from, from the experience of the Western Western civilization, we have to learn, there's a lot to learn a lot of positive stuff to learn, and there's a lot of negative things that they can't see. And we're starting not to be able to see either when you're in the middle of of an error. Usually there are blind spots, like like social blind spots, things that you can't see, like for a long time, racism, and slavery was a blind spot for humanity they used to be used to people just couldn't see that it was a bad thing

that needed to be eradicated immediately was a blind spot, it took a while and people woke up, oh, that's not why we're doing this, you'll be doing this anymore. And there's a lot of examples like that, where there's blind spots, the collective blind spots. Now what this society there's a there's a big blind spot. Now everyone that doesn't seem to care but which is which is the value of the family. We're killing off the importance of having families, big families, close families, families, where there are role models, and there's and there's there's a hierarchy in that family and there's respect to tradition and in this respect to you, I need to do people's opinion and being a part of

it. If you kill that off and you take you adopt the way of their Western way of life, then they're going to fall into other problems that they fall in that they've fallen into, the rates of divorce will start will skyrocket and the number of people start living farther away from one another, the number of communications per month will will decrease the closeness will decrease a lot. This is not this this causes a lot of instability, instability for individuals, instabilities for families, it will call a social instability can cause but financial can cause psychological instead.

ability, we just don't see it. Right. And I watch a lot of

a lot of intellectuals from the west talk about sociology, I think I think it's something that we have to take more time as, as a dean, what are religions interested in religious within us don't talk about physics and economics in the in the detailed sense anyway, it doesn't talk about biology, it talks about psychology and sociology, these are the two things that religion focuses on. So we have to, we have to start listening to what sociologists say. So we can start drawing parallels and learning. And there's a lot of there's a lot of negativity in the western world in terms of these two things, psychologically, in the last 30 years, the stock price or the stock or net worth or the

stock worth of antidepressants have increased 400% In the last few 100 years. So if you had 30 years ago, your dad invested in something that he depressant 400 times more worth is today. Why? Because everyone's popping pills. Everyone's taking some sort of pills, us either anti psychotic or something to sleep or something to see their mood, a mood stabilizer or some something why, why is this? Why is this becoming so widespread? Where it lets humanity like that before, we just didn't notice it? A lot of sociologists who, from the West, I'm not talking about religious people here talking about just regular young scientists to we're looking at it from a purely scientific

perspective, say no human beings were like that before. This was not the case. And so why was that? What changed? What's the difference? The difference is a society changed the fabric, the way society functions changed dramatically. It's not the same anymore. He grows up in a in a matchbox. In the best case scenario, the house has a backyard. But that's it. His parents have to know where he is every single moment of the day. And if in front of those five minutes, you don't know where he is, it's a big deal. They used to open the door and out. And my mom was like, you remember closing the door house go away, it says summer book, I don't care where you go, go come back when it's Muslim.

And that was the end of it. And I knew that I had to storage, I don't dare tell my parents till today that actually happened, because I'm not sure even when I'm 30, they'll forgive me for what actually went on. It's there you are on your peers. You're around people who, who knew who your uncles are extended family members, you are part of their lives. If you were in here, you were in their house, you were being raised by your grandparents, your grandparents were a very, very effective, efficient, important part of your upbringing. These issues of

things make a big difference in how people mature, and how they live, stabilize us as human beings.

A lot of that is being taken away the concept of families being killed off. Now what do we do? What do we do, we have to start you have to start reviving that a bit. And if you come from a small family, that's fine. attach yourself to a bigger one.

I remember very, very clearly, like, I come from a very big family. My father had his 10 Brothers and sisters, and his grandpa, my grandfather had 12 Brothers and seven sisters. So all together, we're a huge second and third generation family the point we can't put them in one place. It's impossible. It's literally impossible. Like any there's no way there's no place that could put us all together. So we have smaller blocks of groups. But always within our family, which is like 1213 families, there's a family that's not a part of our you know, they're related. They're distant relatives are from different family, they're part of us because they don't have a big family. And

that's normal. That's that's fine. It happens all the time. That's the point here in the in the industry, we're talking about clinical for Dini,

if they don't know their last name, but some of them do, but they're still attached because you need family, new people to grow up with you need people, you can't raise your kid by yourself. It's a failure of a life to actually wait raise your kid totally on your own. They don't grow up normally, if you if it's only you, they need other people around like minded by the way, will give the same values are talking about the same principles who understand what we're trying to achieve in raising these kids. 60% of upbringing of children used to be social. It used to be social, meaning you would take care as a parent of 30%. And then 10% would happen at school, and then 60% would happen and

just just life, just people around them would take care of them that 60% has been flushed away.

It's been taken away. Nowhere. You can't do that anymore. And even if you try you end up with a horrible, horrible results, because you don't even know the people who are with them because they're not they're not like minded that's on the same family. They're not in the same on the same page as you and then you come back and you find your kids what are you why are you saying these words Who taught you to talk like that? Why are you speaking like that? Or if you let the community raise our kids. This community I was a biller. Oh, the biller Haven you horrible, I work with us and I see them grow up and then I went over one day this kid walks in the masjid with this bizarre haircut

walking weird. What's wrong with you? Stand up street what's Well, I feel like there's some I just need a screwdriver to kind of what's wrong? Why are you what's what's going on? It's just this is how this is how the community acts around him and he's his peer pressure and coming apart because families are weak. You see if you're sitting around and they're six, seven older guys, and your life, cousins and your father figures and uncles and an older brother

There's, we're all functioning successful, intellectual human beings who look and speak and act in a certain way, you are guaranteed the kids of that family will grow up like that. Colossus it's done, it's secure, when I know that, that the kid has that in his life, I don't need to do anything, he will grow up to be like them to be fine. But when I know that it just doesn't exist, or the role models in his family suck, I'm sorry, like, are horrible that I need to find an alternative for him, I have to find someone else for him to look at because people do what they see. Not what they hear. I'm talking to you, you're listening it whatever you take maybe 5% of what anyone listening to those

85%. But what you see is what you do, you see someone and then you want to be like them want to speak with them want to act like them. Why? Because they seem cool to you. They seem like they have it all figured out. This guy knows what he's doing want to be like that person. Bringing those role models have to has to be a family. So that's why I'll tell you why. Because kids learn to draw similarities and differences. For example, if I'm teaching a young young man, not from I'm not from the same community as him, maybe he's from, I'm from Syria, maybe this child is, is from a Muslim country, in Africa, or Muslim country in eastern Asia, like Flexner, I can try be the role model for

a while. But at a certain point, this kid will see the difference. This child will look and say, Yeah, you know, he's great. He's lucky, he helped me out. But you know, there's a lot of differences. We don't have the same culture where I want some, he'll be looking for someone that looks like him, or speaks the same language is a bit similar to him. And he has every right to do that. That's how life is. So if he looks around, and there's no one in the family who's doing that, it becomes there's a schizophrenic effect here. They don't know they're not sure. What do I do, they feel like sellouts when they continue to do what I'm doing, even though it's right, because they

don't see the similarity in their own families. Either. They have to break off from their families a bit, which is a hard choice for someone to ask a 16 and 17 year old person to do, it's hard to ask at that point to say, to understand that your family is not doing it right for a long time, you can change it. So it's a lot to ask, or both become similar to their own families. And then you've lost your mind. It'll take them a while until they realize no, this is alright. I love my family and all but no, this is just not the right way to do it. Have to look elsewhere. Family is important. Breaking away from the traditions of your families will be the most difficult thing you ever do. If

you do it, if you end up doing most people don't do it. And you'll be a kid, you'll be saying to yourself, I'm not gonna do it. My dad did. My dad used to do this to me, he was just cheap like this, then you'll grow up and you'll do exactly what your dad did do the exact thing you forget. You forget you. I want you all to think about it. How different are you from your own father and mother? How different you'll find like when you actually look at it from a very similar, right, you justify it differently, and you have your own rationale of why it's the same. Now not saying that we have to be different from our parents fathers. No. But if you'll see certain things that your fathers did,

it wasn't right. Everything my dad did was right. He did a lot of great stuff blog based off 100 a great victory things, but certain things weren't the best. And then you'll find yourself I remember having to me once see I need my my son.

I said something to him. And I remember the I used to how much I hated hearing that from my dad when I was his age. And I couldn't believe that I said it. Like I just spoke to him in a way like I chastised him away. I'm like, I always told myself, I wouldn't do that. Why? How do they do that? Subhanallah you do what you what you see you do what you grew up to break away is hard. Families are very important. They're very valuable. Great. They're very powerful. It's a powerful, powerful thing. Not to say that in the B is not all of them for him. No, he's put me in an unforeseen we are a big family of moments and the pleasure is our father. But do not underestimate the importance of

families and bloodlines will have heard me and those who are relatively blood relatives, bow to him over the bow. They're closer to one another man hygiene than the general movements of them hygiene. It's okay, that's not that's not this is not saying the reason that is at the beginning, but saying that no, the prophet is the father of all movements and his wives or their mothers, or a family. But realize that your bloodline is closer to you than than everyone else. So we are brothers, but my blood brothers, I have to I have to focus there first. I have to prioritize that first. I have to It's my job. Just like you have to do the same thing. We could be the closest brothers because they

know I love you more than I love my own brother. That's good. That's all good. But where's your blood? Brother? Where's he going? focus there. Go focus your family. Yeah, that's your job. That's what you're here, right? Don't Don't, don't lose, don't lose the money, the priorities. Don't lose focus on where you should be looking to your family first and last. That's the first thing you do. That doesn't mean we can't be brothers and we can't love one another we can't come up with the aim of standing beside each other. Isn't that the whole point that at the beginning of the day to say that that you're gonna come and stand by Rasulullah Selim that you are honeybell vikita villa in the

book of Allah and not just this book, but every book of Allah and every book of Allah and in the covenant that Allah will have given to all prophets and in every single Shetty every single faith and deem that Allah Subhan Allah says it's always been like that. Inheritance is going to be through blood blood relations. So we don't forget the importance of family not to underestimate

not to underestimate the

the beauty of the Brotherhood of faith and the equality that we have as Muslims being together and our families being posted. You should, you should strengthen your sense that your social ties with everyone around you look for people of height, look for people who raise their kids the way that you do, whether they are related or not. And surround yourself with people who are like minded. But do not forget the importance of family

has has an effect on the stability of the next generation more than you can imagine how stability on you. Why, why do divorce rates go so high here because there's not much family interference.

We're married, no one cares. No one's we're not living around our families. No one really cares about us. It's easy for us get divorced, Okay, we're done. Do that. And do that in a place where we're living around families. 50 old ladies have come running into the room 50 Old men will be yelling at the guy and they can do it, it makes it they make it harder, failing makes it harder for you to make the stupid choices that that you'll regret later on in your life. Not to say that divorce is a part of the deal. And when you eat when it's needed, it's needed. But it shouldn't be made easy.

And when shift them shikaka veiny Hema, who, if you if you're scared that they're gonna get divorced, then send hoc amendment of Holies and so a judge or someone who a representative from his family will have come in earlier and a representative from her family, families after that. That's how it works. How do we raise our kids we need I need my own I need his uncle and his aunt and his grandfather to be around him. It was just me all the time. It's not perfect is not very good. I need other people to be there too. This is this is something to utilize. I will find myself looking at this more than once I have given this introduction. But because of the importance of this I this is

sometimes misunderstood and the way that it goes, but it's getting a balance. Yes. In the beat, medium and unforeseen was about you who had jumped in profits closer to you than than yourselves in his wife's or your mother and your brotherhood of faith that is unlike any other but Hambledon Oh that'd be about but family lines are closer to one another the general public Mormons and then my God into art to the side of Medina. They're closer in terms of inheritance, the importance of blood in front of family observe that and there's nothing wrong with it. There's nothing in law right and to follow either earlier eco model for India, he doesn't mean except it means however, however you

should follow either Olia eco model ruva Navarre good deeds, definitely you should do good deeds to your allies only equal to means that the general public so it goes back again. And you're saying he's going back and forth. First of all focuses on the brotherhood of faith and tells you that families are closer to one other. But however, you must continue to do the best of deeds to your Olia to all your allies of the Muslims around you whether they are blood related to you or not. Meaning he's telling you I'm not telling you this so you stop being kind to a Muslim who's not related to you No, no, no. I am telling you there's a certain concept you that you need to

understand is Helen beldam Hola development, Vicki tabula. Never turn your back on family. Never underestimate the importance of family and know that your responsibilities your family, yes, the Prophet, he's your father and his wives or your mothers. And you continue to do the best of your deeds to find a way that it can refer to the best of these to all those all the Muslims who are your allies in the community. Canada, Phil kita de Mistura. What has been explained to you, that was within the book was in the Quran, mistura hasn't been written has been clarified has been certified within the book, kind of Valley Catholic Italian store. Store means written on a sort of written on

a line meaning this is a this is like a

command that Allah subhanaw taala has written is so important, it's not verbally no it was written, it was written in the Quran, and all the books of Allah subhanaw taala. And then lo and behold, there's either written or ham, valuable, Oh, Daddy, Bob, Families

always have to stick together, they are closer to one another, and they are responsible for one another. And this is something that we have to revive again. Within our society Hamdulillah we have not lost completely yet. In comparison to other

other groups, faithful groups or other ethnic groups or whatever you want to look at it, we have something, you know, we're not as we're not feeling as much. However, if we lose touch, if you lose touch with it, then there'll be a lot for us to to regret.

I'm gonna start with that Subhanallah to go time, because the next day we have to receive recite the two hours in a row. There's a lot of explanation. But this is all the introduction of utiliza we still haven't actually started the first story. The first story is going to be the story of Elijah was going to tell us the story of the Battle of landec. And it goes in a lot of detail at least three, three pages and three pages are just a little bit over a little a little bit less. But this first page I have is first page and few few lines. It's just an introduction is giving a basic idea of what you're going to what to expect understand the four concepts of submission and they give you

examples of what what you need to focus on. It touched on to Benya but it brought up a few ideas of blood relations and trying to explain to you the relationships within the Muslim Omaha

was supposed to look like in a general perspective. But listen to this, even listen to this, even when I'm talking about it, I can feel we don't talk about this very often. It's an awkward thing to talk about. It's not fun to talk about. Why cuz it's prickly because it hurts. Because we all have examples. It's always that family member who, who, you know, who's not with us, for whatever reason, it was not a part of what we do. There's always that family problem that we be we choose not to think about because it's just, it's just, it's there and it's ugly. We don't like it and it's always hurt us, right? There's always something there that makes us feel bad. But then the Quran reminds

you this is the album I would love you Bob and for those who are lated are closer to one another in the book of Allah, then the general public mins and then we'll hygiene and this was something that's unflattering. Why do you have to understand that? Yes, you the problem is it's almost an image you brothers, but you don't inherit from one another. Meaning you still have to focus on focus on your families, which was brought forward balance, a very keen balance that the that the adhere to, I'll start with that inshallah. Next week, we're off. I won't be here next Sunday, the Sunday after that inshallah we will resume normally I think next Sunday would be the 31st

that that choice was reversed. So we'll start I believe the seventh so we'll start this again. Insha Allah on the seventh of January, Charlize, I can look at keeping your diet in Sharla and enjoy the enjoy enjoy the big welcome to solicit Muhammad anyone Ernie your savagely broken Luffy quality craft