Adnan Rajeh – Issues of Marriage #16
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The speaker discusses the importance of having a good conversation with your partner during a period where you feel insecure and sad. They also talk about the behavior of men during that time and how it affects their behavior. The speaker emphasizes the importance of taking care of your partner's needs and doing all the things you need to do to make them feel better.AI: Transcript ©
And a isha at aummin mumminim radiAllahu anha
call it. Hadith and a collection of Muslim
narrators by our mother Aisha radiAllahu anha. And
the theme is still, issues of marriage. I
have 3 more hadith that I wanna narrate
to you that I was sick last week.
I didn't come around to do them, so
I'm gonna do them this week inshaAllah ta'ala.
And then we'll move on to something different
starting, starting next week inshaAllah ta'ala. These are
just nice hadith that I want you to
hear. I think they're, they're beneficial for those
of you who are at least married. This
is what she said,
So
This is what this means. She said, I
would drink from a cup when I was
on my period when I was menstruating.
Now those of you are married,
know that this is not the most pleasant
time for a woman throughout the throughout the
month.
It's difficult for her.
It's actually quite painful,
physically speaking and medically speaking. She,
she loses a lot of blood. She uses
a lot of tissue inside of her body
that kind of basically,
and there's a hormonal change that you can
easily use. If you just Google it, so
now you can see there's a hormonal change
that happens with inside. So not only is
she physically losing blood and losing tissue, which
is painful and it's draining, but she's also
hormonally going through changes that are difficult to
manage your mood in the midst of it.
So she's not feeling the best and it
is haram for there to be nikah during
that time. Jima'ah is haram. Meaning for there
to be full relations between the husband and
wife during that time is
impermissible,
is prohibited.
So she would say, radiAllahu anha, this is
the level and degree of sensitivity of the
Prophet alaihi wasallahu alaihi wasallam
towards this. And this is what I think
we should take always some time to learn
from him alaihi wasallam because this shows you
what type of person he was in his
home.
He said, I would take a cup and
drink when I was when I was on
my period.
And when I was done drinking,
alayhi wa sallam, I would give it to
the prophet alayhi wa sallam to drink from.
Is the word means mouth. Right?
So, his mouth. He
would put his mouth.
In this
the same spot I put my mouth. Now
here's the thing,
did you even know that women would notice
this to begin with? If you're sitting beside
your wife and she drinks water and gives
you the cup, do you did you even
care? Like you even look where she drank
from, or do you think in your mind
that she's actually noticing where where you're drinking
from? The answer is yes, she is.
She's noticing all of these details. And and
you're being heavily judged by them by the
way too. But she's watching them, right? So
the prophet alaihis salatu wa sallam
is aware that this is the time of
the month where she feels a little bit
self conscious, where she feels a little
bit insecure, maybe a little bit upset.
And he knows that she's
noticing this. That this is something that she
cares for.
This is what he's doing on a hilusrati
waslam. It's something that you do when you're
engaged.
We just get engaged,
you're, you know, you have to act all.
Yeah. You have to. Yeah. Even if you
don't You have to. You're a guy. You
have to act all. You have to do
this stuff. You have to do this stuff.
You have to care about all these details
because they they care about these details. But
he's been married to Radha alaihi wasalam for
years. How do men who are married for
years behave regarding this issue?
Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
Just so you understand the Prophet alaihi wasallam.
Just understand the difference in character between us
and between him alaihi wasallam.
He is aware of all of these things.
So he would take the cup from her
hand and he would take and turn it
around
so that he will put his mouth the
same place where she put her mouth, radiAllahu
anha.
She's telling us this, not the Prophet alaihis
salatu wa sallam.
It's a piece
of bone that still has some meat on
it. Arabs love this for some reason, I
don't know why, it's beyond me, but they
love taking
this bone and just kind of chowing down
on the pieces of meat that are left
and taking the marrow from the inside. Apparently,
it tastes really good. I don't know. I
don't I'll never try it but you're welcome
to do so if you want.
But I I would I would take that
I would eat from it, and I would
be taking off whatever meat is left and
using,
when I was menstruating,
And then he gave her the brahfa alaihis
salatu wasalam. It's a piece of meat or
a piece of bone that has some meat
on it. So she would be watching him
how he
And then he would go and he would
eat from the place that I was eating
from, sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. Knowing that she's
watching, knowing that this is something that is
meaningful to her, knowing that this is something
that will make her feel better within the
day that she's going through. Knowing that she'll
feel better if he does this salayahu salatu
wa sallam, it would take time to make
sure he did it.
So she would feel more supported and feel
loved.
And, and it's just it's just, there's actually
way more to that in terms of how
he behaved with his wife when she was
menstruating, but this I love this hadith because
Aisha is just giving her report
record. It's her record. It's what she remembers.
That she would do this watch and then
see him and alaihis salawam would do exactly
what would make her feel good about herself.
And that's the type of husband he was
alayhis salahu alaihis salam. That's the type of
husband that you are aspiring
to be within your life if you truly
love him alayhis salahu alaihis salam and want
to be like him.
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