Autism Islamic Perspective

Yassir Fazaga


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Ebola la Hiral Howdy, how do you Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the Name of Allah, the Compassionate, the Most Merciful. All praise is due to Allah and make his peace and blessings be upon our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Indeed the best of speech is the book of Allah. And the best of guidance is the guidance of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. May Allah Subhana Allah make us amongst those who listen to the best of speech, the book of Allah and follow its commandments. And may Allah make us amongst those who come to know the best of ways, the way of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and Nick us amongst his followers Allahumma Amin

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Allahumma Amin Allahumma me, ya por la buena de la vida wala to sofa um while accumulative ledger and Hola Hola, como piano? What is the goofy HairWorks su worku Lola hum cola Mirova This is a verse that come from certain Nyssa surah number five in the Quran surah number four in the Quran, verse number five, where Allah subhanaw taala addresses the community of believers and says, And do not give your wealth over to those who are feeble minded as to

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what is your own fear, however, feed them Soo, close them. Wako Lola hum cola ma roofer and when you speak to them, speak to them with splendid words, they say that this verse changed the face and the way of psychology forever.

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This verse had most impact on neuro ethical issues. Neuro ethics basically is the interdisciplinary field that deals with the constant information that we get to learn about the brain. And then the ethical issues that come out as a result.

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Prior to our deal, prior to the Quran, they believed that anybody had who had mental health issues, they thought it was because they had evil spirits in them. And that is why some people believe that the very first operation like procedural surgical operation that humans ever did is something called profanation. And that is making a hole in the skull of the individual to give and make room for the evil spirits to leave their bodies. And if that did not fix the problem, they would abandon them and kick them out of the community because they feel that the evil spirits are absolutely they have a very strong hold on them. Then comes the dean and the dean points out to the obvious. People with

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cognitive developmental issues may not be able to handle financial transactions. So Allah said, you don't have to put them in that position. But you have a responsibility towards them. What do you do resume? Me meet their physical needs. Okay, zoom. Close them shelter is very important. And then the kicker comes in so beautifully. Allah says, We're called Lulu whom our Ma rufa. Speak to them with a splendid words. You know today, second of April, is the International Autism Awareness Day

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where today we're supposed to become better aware

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with autism spectrum disorder. Were a good number of our community members by our community members. I'm not just talking about my brothers and sisters in faith. We're talking about my brothers and sisters in humanity. They're dealing with this with this issue.

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And basically, Inshallah, what we want to do is that, the more aware we become,

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the better choices, the better response and we also fight stigma when we when we do this, simply put autism in

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is a neurodevelopmental disorder? Why is this simple? Why why do you even say that? Simply because sometimes when people are aware of these things, they make some silly, inhumane remarks.

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Why do we say that? Because sometimes people feel that somehow the parents made a mistake. Instead, they told the story of this sister, who had a beautiful child, beautiful soul, her daughter had Down syndrome. And sometimes with Down syndrome kits, you can tell that they have Down syndrome because of their, you know, because of the way that they look. So this is the she brought her daughter to the message. And immediately she goes to the women's section and assist that looked at and she said, Did you marry your cousin?

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Just like that? Did you marry your cousin? As if see parents who have a child with special needs? Somehow they feel guilty? They be asking themselves, what did I do? What did I eat? Why did we go wrong? Now somebody comes and immediately asked this question as if, oh, we're not your fault. We're just trying to see what is it that you did.

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That's not what Allah tells us. Allah tells us to go to the home owner. Moreover,

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if you have to say something, make sure that these are good words, splendid words, nice words, kind words, the more aware we become,

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we don't stigmatize other people. A stigma against simply put, is a societal mark, that somehow the person that we're dealing with because of what they have, or because of what they are with, they are less humans than others. And as a result, you get to see societal stigma, communally stigma, and sometimes even stigma within the family. And that is not good, my brothers and sisters, that is not healthy. And most importantly, it is very inhumane. And it's also very, an Islamic, the person may be different. But that does not necessarily mean that they are less than us, or somehow that we are better than them. When we are not aware, we tend to be cruel. This father tells the story, I took my

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son to the store. And because consistency is very important, I told my son who is with autism, he can only pick one toy. And my son goes there. And now you know, when these kids have to make a choice like that, that anxiety is just very, very overwhelming. But it was important that the dad teach his son is going to be one two, only. And the kid was torn between these two toys, do I get this one? Do I get this one. And he's about to throw a tantrum, and just the anxiety is overwhelming. So the father wanting to help the child, he said, let's walk to the cashier. And maybe that way, he will have to make a decision. So they go to the cashier, and when they stand there, the

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anxiety is even more at this point. And the kid is just very overwhelmed. And the people are waiting in line and the cashier looks at the data and she said, Sir, please, can you take your overdue Rooney, son out of line so that I can do what I need to do? Father felt very embarrassed. Because what the cashier was implying that his parenting is not really good. So he said, I ended up buying both toys. Because somebody decided simply just looking at me looking into the situation, that somehow the unruly kid, I felt that I was engaged in bad in bad parenting.

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It happens. People bring in their kids to the masjid. And we see them and we see that the way that they behave, and then all of a sudden, brother, sister, why don't you do one, two ones? Why don't you respect them? Why don't you and we just go very religious on them. Now remember this. You may sound religious, but the reality of it is that you are rude. You are cruel, and contrary to what you believe you're actually not very religious.

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Remember, if our sense of religiosity makes us more cruel, and crude, and judgmental, chances are we're not worshipping Allah, but we're all sharing our own ego.

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And that is not that is not religiosity.

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Autism is a spectrum

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means what autograph means that some kids are high functioning, and some kids are not functioning at all. Some kids are so functionally dependent that you wouldn't even believe that they are with autism, and some kids they need now

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enrichment 24/7

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Because of this spectrum, you will see one person's autism is very different than the other person's autism. What happens when you have autism or when you are with autism? Sometimes people have difficulty with social interaction, inhibited social interaction skills. They don't know when it's appropriate time to smile to laugh, they may even want to just be isolated and be by themselves. Some of these skits are not verbal, or they have limited vocabulary. I remember one time this brother came to me and he was beautiful. Solly was just so happens that my son today spoke, I know his son was six years old. They said, hamdulillah what happens? Now you don't understand. My son

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made a full sentence today. I said, What did your son say? He said, today my son said, Good job.

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My son said, Good job. Dad is the first full sentence that my son ever made.

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told the story in the hotbar after the Hotbot brother came to me and he said, you know, he said, My brother told me he said, Good job was music to my ears. Whether it comes after the whole band, he says, you know, is that yes, my son is 15 years old. And I'm still waiting for the music.

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I don't know what my son sounds like.

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Because I've never heard him speak.

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And then somebody comes and decides that you know what's going on? Allah is punishing you.

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Some people believe that when people are given this challenge in life, that somehow this is a punishment from Allah subhanaw taala. The Quran says, This is rubbish. Why does Allah take joy in seeing a parent suffer? Why does Allah take joy in seeing another child suffer? What kind of an impression do you have of Allah subhanaw taala to be making these to be making these remarks?

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And sometimes even when we make these remarks, we may be intending something that is well, but it sounds silly. What do you do? Or I work with children with special needs, or Masha Allah who must be a saint? Are you implying that these kids somehow and that is why you think of me as a. So the more we know, the better aware we become.

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The nicer we are, the gentler we are. Some kids within this spectrum may have a repetitive behavior, that repetitive behavior may be very violent. I know of this family, the kid likes to bank on his head. So what they did is that they put a boxing gloves to protect the kid because he can hit his head very hard. And when that does not work, they make him wore a helmet on top of the boxing gloves. And sometimes that does not even work. They have to handcuff their child. Somebody looks at that and say, These parents are so cruel. He you just don't know what is going on with people to be making these types of statements. So our Dean tells us that we have a responsibility, take care of

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their basic needs. Look, sugam

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close them, meaning that they're living amongst us. They These are not people that we hide away. These are not people that bring shame to us or to the family. And then Allah says to everybody who knew him.

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And when you speak to them, when you speak about them, what do you say, say use splendid words, uses splendid words, you know the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He was such a gentle soul. Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam leaves Medina and Hoon does he put behind in charge of Medina, a blind man.

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Abdullah had no luck to everybody accepts that

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he may not be able to see that does not mean that he's stupid, or that he can run the show. And he did it and he did very well. Not only that, but basically the rates in the Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam can have been in urban markets. Now.

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He would say let's go and visit that locality named Benny. Well, they've said that so we may visit original bustle you're busy You're the man was blind, but bossy you may also mean somebody who is see, and they say that this is a strange phenomenon in the r&b language. It's called antonyms. I smell a bod when you use one word in one way and also its opposite. You hear this in some Arab cultures say full and man good. Let me see in the RV

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Yeah, hey Annie

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Marie Claire Cove as well. And you will Marie this will be if you carry on who had an enviable time when you want to stick sharp

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so that sometimes you say that, you know that person is you know is you would say that there are antonyms in English but they don't really work as well when you say that that was a bad move. What you really say is that this was a good move, I was a bad move. So an arrow the same used by the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, even though the man was, was blind and could not see but he referred to him as the seeing as the seeing man. Then finally the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was sending a delegation to Yemen. Yemen is a very, very important place. It had the biggest Krisztian population in the entire Arabia and he needed to serve somebody very important.

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And he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sense more as eligible. When the scholars described more RW Jebel, they say, work no more as an average work and they share deal knowledge, said that Miranda bingeable was a learned man. But he would limp and his limp was so severe and it was very obvious people. That's just bad public relations. Why would you send somebody with visible you know, disability like this? Mohamed Salah Salem was not interested in any of that, you know, stigma hurts, not just emotionally.

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They have it that when Hitler started the Holocaust, initially, the victims of the Holocaust, were not the Jewish community members of the Jewish community. He started with people who were who had mental retardation. And then he went after people who had visible disabilities. And then he went after the blacks. And then he went after the gypsies, and then he went after the Jews. But when he went after the people who was mental retardation, nobody said anything. When he went after the people who was visible disability, nobody said anything. And then he went after the blacks and nobody said anything. And then he went after the gypsies are not selling, and then he went after,

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and so on. The minute we tolerate stigma with one group, we risk that one day, we might be, we might be next. May Allah subhana, Allah increases in understanding herbal Island. Apolo Cola, there was a lot you were looking for stuff.

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hamdu Lillahi wa, wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Mustafa, or alum and, sorry, Hector.

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Again, what we want to do is that we just want to understand, we can never claim that we know what it feels like to be a parent, of a child with special needs. And for all the parents, the brothers and the sisters who have a special needs child, we wanted to know that this whole book is dedicated. So that not out of pity, not out of some silly compassion, but we just want to bring an understanding to our community so that we can relate to our brothers and sisters better. They are some of these brothers and sisters, I would say What is most challenging brother came to me and he said, You know what? We have never been out as a family ever.

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So what do you mean, but he said, we have actually never been out to a single event in a single outing. As a family ever before. What happens and what I got a special needs child. So every time there is an event, every time we get invited, we have to make the decision, who gets to go and who gets to stay.

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Brother once said, We've never prayed in GEMA together as a, as a family. A brother said, you know, the one thing that scares me most is what is going to happen to my child after I die.

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These are like some really, these are some very heavy things to be thinking about. The last thing that you want to hear is somebody making a silly remark.

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And we hope that we know that person Europa Island,

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because it's inhumane. It is also an it is also an Islamic. Remember what Allah said, was, oh whom take care of them. Look, Sue who closed them, give them shelter. And then Allah said something that we are all capable of called ulang our motto, that when you speak when you speak, make sure that you use splendid, splendid words.

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May Allah Subhana Allah give all the strength and the patience and the peace to L the parents who have a special new child era

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Alameen May Allah Subhana Allah make that child their gate to Jenna Europa lol I mean, if any of us or our loved ones are not feeling well may Allah Subhana Allah grant us a speedy recovery. If any of us or our loved ones are going through difficult times may Allah pantalla ease our pain. If any of our loved ones have passed away May Allah Subhana Allah bless their souls Europa Alameen if any of us or our loved ones have lost the way may Allah Subhana Allah bring us back to his way. May Allah Subhana Allah extend in our lives to witness the blessings of the month of Ramadan and if we do witness the blessings of the month of Ramadan May Allah subhanaw taala help us in performing well in

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the month of Ramadan. Robin Tina dunya has an atom waffle so that he has an eternal cleaner either but not about Allah in the law his mother will absolutely so anyway it will pour over when her and Sasha it will make it even better you're ever looking there's a karoun fourth quarter life could come watch kuruva Island and he is it commodity Allahu Akbar Allahu Allah MATA is not on our console.