Sexual Crimes in Society – an Islamic Perspective

Yasir Qadhi


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In Alhamdulillah nama do who understand you know when it's still fiddle whenever we love Him and shoot already and fusina woman say Dr. Molina may have de la HuFa La Molina hola Wolmar Yulin who Fela ha de la la wa shadow Allah Allah in LA LA who Idaho la sharika will shadow under Mohamed and I will do Hora pseudo. Yeah you have Latina man who taco la haka, Ducati Walter moto Illa, one two Muslim one. And my bad. My Dear Brothers and Sisters in Islam. Currently in this climate of North America, and across the world, we are witnessing a social revolution that began in our lifetimes, and that is to speak out against sexual harassment and to hold perpetrators accountable for what

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they might have done. The hashtag me to movement has taken down many politicians. Every day we hear of another Hollywood actor, perhaps even somebody we grew up watching their shows another famous director, having fallen from their positions, and lost the prestige that they once enjoyed. And the reality is that this problem of harassment is actually an endemic one. In America alone and NPR survey reported that over 77% of all women have reported being verbally harassed at some point in their lives. Men, I want you to understand 77% That's essentially eight out of 10 51% had reported experiencing unwelcome touching and fondling at some point in their lives.

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The most accurate estimate in this country of rape and sexual violence has placed the figure at one out of every four women will be a victim of sexual violence. Sadly, even the most innocent segment of society have not been spared, and children as well. Well, yeah, the villa are targeted by people have no conscience. Statistics are difficult to come by. But one study conducted by a group called Crimes Against Children Research Center found that one in five girls in this country has been the victim of child sexual abuse, and 28% of all children had suffered some type of sexual exploitation. 28% is roughly roughly one out of every four or five one can say.

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The fact of the matter is that even in Muslim lands, these sins are rampant. Frankly, it might even be worse. One of the most embarrassing and damning reports a few years ago, the United Nations the UN conducted a survey of women in Cairo. And they reported an embarrassing a staggering 99% of women reported that they were sexually harassed on the streets of a Muslim land. That's essentially every single lady. And this is a lived reality that many of our sisters are painfully aware of, and many of our brothers are completely oblivious to. Our sisters are aware that regardless of where they are, how they dress, sometimes in Muslim lands, some man is going to say something, some hand is

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gonna come out of somewhere, somebody will brush against them accidentally. And even though we don't like to talk about it, the fact of the matter is that ignoring the problem will not make it disappear. Now, one hutzpah is simply not enough time to discuss each and every one of these aspects because really, it is multifaceted. There's spousal abuse, there's sexual harassment at the workplace. There's catcalling, there's molestation of children. Each one of these is a separate topic. Each one requires not one hutzpah but many hours of talks and counseling. But at least in one chutzpah, let's try to summarize some generic advice for ourselves for all of us, so that we can be

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better aware so that we can do whatever we can at our own local levels in our own personal lives, to be better role models and to protect our loved ones. First and foremost. We need to be very clear, such harassment, such intimidation, such sexual crimes, or indeed a crime in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala speaking

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In a vulgar manner to a lady is enough of a sin in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa taala. If in our Sharia to look at a lady with lust, you will be held accountable. Then how about verbally harassing her? If an hour Shetty, we are told to speak with dignity to the opposite gender, then how much more so to make a lady feel cheap to make a Muslim or a non Muslim doesn't matter. It's a crime against you and Allah to make a lady feel unsafe. Any man who does this has to account to ALLAH SubhanA what? And such people need to repent to Allah before it is too late. Remember brothers and sisters, the coke of human beings, the coke of people are more sacred in the eyes of Allah than the hook of

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coke of Allah. Why? Because Allah forgives what is between him and the servant. Allah forgives the personal and private sins very easily. But Allah has not allowed himself to forgive the crimes between mankind. Allah in His infinite justice has said that those crimes the perpetrator will have to get forgiveness against the one against whom the crime was perpetrated against In other words, in other words, any person who is guilty of these crimes will have to get forgiveness against the victim on Judgment Day, Allah will not intervene. Any person who is guilty of harassment, molestation, sexual abuse, violence, intimidation, this is a sin that is against another human

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being. And those sins occupy a higher level of sanctity because we said Allah is afforded Rahim generally speaking what we do between us and Allah. If we ask forgiveness, Allah forgives, generally speaking our private sins are easy to be forgiven between us and Allah when we repent, but the sins against other people, especially against the weak, especially against the vulnerable, those people they are the strongest in the eyes of Allah subhana wa Tada and that is why our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Fear the dua of the one whom you have oppressed because there is no barrier between that DUA and ALLAH SubhanA wa taala, the dua of the oppressed, there is no barrier and our

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said of Hulu Vudu Mattoon yarmulke Yama, injustice bounnam, and this type of catcalling and harassment and intimidation. This is the essence of gender volume. This is the volume of a man against a woman and rarely it occurs between a man or a woman and a man as well rarely is the other way around. It is there but predominantly 90% of it is men against women. This is Luton and our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said volume, injustice will be turned to darkness on Judgement Day. And indeed Allah subhana wa Tada reminds us in the summer while bizarro world for other kulula Can homeschool everything Allah has given you your eyes, you're hearing

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you're seeing your hands, your feet, everything Allah subhanho wa Taala will ask us about it. And there is no denying that in the case of a person occupying a higher status, a more powerful position, a position of authority of spiritual or political authority and then using that authority to perpetrate this crime. That is a grave sin in the eyes of Allah that is a more damaging sin because a person has abused the trust and abused the Amana that ALLAH SubhanA wa Tala has given them so those that are guilty of this either now or in the past, repent before repentance is too late. And a part of repentance is to make amends to those against whom volum has done a part of repentance

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is to seek forgiveness upon those learn that has been done so that in this world forgiveness has sought so that in the next world, there will be no issues on Judgment Day. Also advice to all parents, all parents, all parents realize that this is a problem that affects all children. And as parents, we are obliged to protect our children. I advise all of you to study parent tool tips. There are many websites, many organizations about how parents can teach their own children educate their children about recognizing harassment, about understanding what is molestation children, as young as four and even three are able to recognize that something is wrong if somebody touches them,

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and the parents have to teach their children in a manner that is understandable to them. And there are manuals online there are special organizations online, you can go and log on and you will see plenty of useful material how you can communicate that even the child should be taught that if something happens, they can go to a loved one or trust one and get and seek refuge from them. And children monitor what your children parents have

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To monitor where your children are going, where they're spending the night where what they are doing, see what is happening to them realize as well that the vast majority of harassment and molestation occurs at the hands of friends and relatives. And this is a very painful fact. But this is statistically true. I'm not inventing these statistics, the vast majority of sexual molestation occurs at the hands of friends and relatives. And that is why it is so difficult for many parents to even recognize something is going on. We don't want that to happen. That is why our profit system also said when a lady SAS or messenger of Allah, what if my in laws come to visit one of my husband

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is not home, like the brother in law coming the you know, the cousins of the brother coming? And he goes, that is the essence of destruction. This is amongst adults, adults, because most Zina and most of these crimes, where do they occur amongst people who interact with one another? So where do you think molestation is going to come from amongst extended family and friends, and that is why it is so important that parents take the lead in this regard, and protect their children as much as possible with reasonable protections without going to accesses and extremes and realize oh parents, that you have to monitor your children. If something strange is happening if the child is acting

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strange about one particular person, or even if the child explicitly comes in says something that he or she did this or that it is very, very rare for a five year old to lie about these things. It's not in their capability. I'm not saying it can never happen. But generally speaking, a child comes and a child is saying uncle so and so antisocial under this, generally speaking, then the parent should understand that something is going on, and take reasonable precautions in this regard. And especially mothers mothers in particular, you are the first line of defense, ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada created that love and protection and the mother that no other human being has. So have these

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conversations with your daughters. And yes, even with your sons, because molestation occurs upon both genders, and be careful and give reasonable rules and monitor especially where they go for long periods of time. And especially if they come back and they're withdrawn, something happens be make sure that you do not cause long term damage by denying a story that they come to you with. Because I myself have met many people they have come to me. And they have said one of the biggest problems they've had is that their own parents, their own elders did not believe them when they came to them and told them about something going on. It gave them confidence issues, trust issues, when your own

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mother doesn't believe you when your own father rejects your story, then who else is going to trust you so realize that I'm not saying nobody can ever lie. But generally speaking, a child, it is not possible for an innocent child to come forth with an elaborate story about these issues. And you can tell as well, the trauma, and maybe even a stop for a lot more than this. So parents monitor your children be the first line of defense with regards to adults. If a friend or relative comes to you, and confides in you of a past traumatic experience, then we have to as well learn to be empathetic. Sadly, many times, friends become the worst enemies when the first response is to blame the victim.

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And this is a big problem. Somebody comes in confide something happened. So whatever this man did this, this lady did that. And you as a friend, they're coming to you for emotional support. And your first response might be, what were you doing there in the first place? Why did you go to his house? Why did you flirt with that man, and realize this is not the time or the place or the language to start rebuking somebody they just did. They've just come to you with a trauma. And your job at this point is not to blame them about maybe maybe they did one mistake. But in the grand scheme of things, what was done to them was 1000 times worse than what they might have innocently done in the

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beginning. And so at this stage, rather than blame rather than say, Oh, why was she alone? Why was she walking there? Why No, right now they've come to you with a traumatic experience. You do not want the scar to become even deeper. So show compassion, make sure that they don't blame themselves. Even if you feel that maybe one or two things they did unwisely, now is not the time maybe never is the time to rebuke them to talk to them about why weren't you doing this and that offer your sincerest sympathies try to get professional help counseling. And as Muslims brothers and sisters realize the default is that you do not cover up any injustice. There is no problem going to the law

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and getting legal protection. We need to get rid of this notion of protecting the honor of a wrongdoer. The honor of a young lady or a child is infinitely more sacred in the eyes of

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The law than the honor of a rapist or a molester, we have to get this out of our minds that we have to protect the wrongdoer. What honor is there in the molester? What honor is there in the rapist? If you are going to be quiet when this has happened to a friend or a relative, then you are in fact helping this rapist go on and do something else. Because you're not going to the law. You are helping this molester out of biller do it to another child. There is no honor and protecting these types of people. Our Shetty tells us we go to the law and we take the maximum advantage of the law. You want evidence, Hadith isn't Sunon libido. And this is a very amazing Hadith. And it's also

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reported in other books as well. It is reported that a woman was going to Salah it seems to be slaughtered. Fajr Allah knows best. It's not explicit, but it's the indication she was going to Salah in the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and a man assaulted her, pulled her aside and raped her. And after the deed was done, she began shouting and screaming, it seems again, the as usual Hadith a very minimalist, all the details are not given. It seems as if there was nobody there and he pulled her aside, there was nobody there when he had covered his her mouth when he fled and the deed had been done. She began shouting, she began telling so that's a person has

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assaulted me, and groups of the unsought and the more hygiene. They gathered together. And she described the looks of the man, they found somebody they brought him. And she said, Yes, that is the man. So they brought the man to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the man the Prophet says, and began to interrogate him. And he began to question him, did you do this? Did you do this, and when it became very harsh, and the man did not agree that he did this, suddenly, another person stood up in the audience, and said, it was me. I am the one who forced myself on that lady. So the prophets have said to the lady law for Allah who lucky ALLAH has forgiven you and told her to go and

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basically did not penalize her at all. He said to the man that had wrongly been brought, he said good words and sympathetic words and let him go. And then to the man that had confessed, he ordered that to be executed. Now, this hadith is very powerful. It shows us many things. First and foremost, it shows us that even in prophetic Medina, rapes took place.

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You cannot eliminate evil from society. This is a rape. In Medina, when the Prophet system is a life. You cannot eliminate evil, it's going to be here, no matter what you do. People are going to be people humans are going to be humans, criminals are going to be criminals. So we have to get rid of this notion that somehow we will form a utopia that's in Jannah, utopias agenda, this world, there will always be evil and suffering. The goal is to minimize the goal is to protect the goal is to make it as less as possible. Secondly, realize the profits or some did not say to the lady, how are you dressed? What were you doing alone? She was alone. Why were you there in the middle of the

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night or coming in the masjid? He did not reprimand the lady. It's not her fault. She left for a legitimate reason. And she was going to do something that she is allowed to do. And then a man takes advantage of that. It's not an in this case, you one could have said, well, it's sooner for you to pray at home. No, it's not the time or the place to reprimand the victim. And our profits are some spoke kind words to her and said Allah has forgiven you have no fault of yours. You go and you are free. There is no penalty on you nothing, you are sinless, you are blameless, you have been forced, no one is going to penalize you for something that you have been forced to do. Also, and this is a

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very technical point. Sometimes, a case of mistaken identity happens. It was dark. She doesn't know the man. She gave vague descriptions when they brought some man. She said Yes, that's him. And we now know with DNA evidence and whatnot, so many criminals in this land, they have been locked up. And they weren't criminals. We now know this because there are projects, the DNA exoneration project, whatever we're, you know, they go back to the old cases, and they look at the DNA, you know, a case of mistaken identity. And that's why in our *ty, there is a burden. And this is where, again, this is not the time to get into fifth, but this is the fact of the matter that one

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accusation in and of itself is not enough to punish the man the prophesies of would not have punished him based on just one testimony, because here we have it. She was, in this case harmed, she was violated. And she was certain about that, and the clothes demonstrate everything illustrated, but it was dark and she gave vague descriptions then when they brought somebody similar to remind clicca said that is the man and the process and begins interrogating he would not have punished because again, there could be that mistaken identity. But when the man is getting intense pressure somebody felt

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Guilty somebody, one of the Sahaba, he felt he was in the end of the day he was a Muslim. In the end of the day, this criminal had a guilty conscience. And he felt of himself that you know what, I'm not going to do a double sin. If I've done one sin, I'm going to get punished. And by the way, we believe if if you are punished in this world, you are forgiven, if they shut you out, if the law is implemented, and the man volunteered to basically stood up and confessed, in our city, that is a means of cleansing. So in the era, we hope, the best for this person, so he felt double guilty that why is another person going to be punished. So he stood up and said, I am the guilty person, I'm the

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one who did that. So he confessed to his crime. So the Profit System, let the innocent man go, he told him good words, gentle words, apologize for the misunderstanding. And then he ordered that this man be executed. Because the penalty for forcing yourself obviously on the lady, we know this, that he was threatening, he was holding her down. That is not consensual sex that's not Xena have a regular nature Zina of irregular nature as a crime, this is much worse than that this is a rape. And so the Prophet says and commanded that this person be executed, and also realize all Muslims as well this needs to be said, already mentioned that if a person of influence a person of power, attempts

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to seduce a person who is not at that same level, then no doubt this is an abuse of that person. At the same time, the one who is tempted, it is not a justification in the eyes of Allah that oh, a more powerful person is flirting with me, as long as the person is not forced. And sometimes force isn't physical. Sometimes it's emotional. Sometimes it's personal circumstance. So force doesn't have to be a gun to your head force can be other mechanisms. And if a person is forced in other ways, Allah is offered and Rahim. But as long as a person is not forced, if a person willingly complies, then that person has committed a sin, even if there is a power differential, even though

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no doubt that the sin of the powerful person will be more in the eyes of Allah. And the best example for this is the story of use of how can we forget the story of use of there is a power differential. This is the owner of use of and that is use of there is a gender differential. In this case, the woman is seducing there is an age differential use of a single unmarried in every sense use of is a victim. And yet he didn't play the victim card. And again, I want to be clear here. This is not a matter of guilt and shaming. Sometimes people are coerced and Allah will forgive them. My point though, is very clear and unambiguous. Mere power differential does not mean coercion. This is my

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point here, just because somebody has more power. If a boss flirts with his employee, the employee cannot say on pm Oh Allah, my boss flirted with me. The employee has to try what is reasonable what is possible. Now sometimes it's not possible a man pulls the guns out. It's not possible. A man might threaten in other ways. But the point being, all other things given aside the power dynamics, and the gender dynamics in and of itself is not an excuse in the eyes of Allah. And both parties are blameworthy if they willingly committed the sin, even though obviously one is more sinful than the other. Coercion of viously allows for forgiveness somebody forces you are forgiven. And sometimes as

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we said, coercion is not physical. In the case of this hadith demand jumped on the lady and forced but that's not always the case. In the Hadith Sahih Bukhari the process have told us of a case a long time ago, of a previous generation, and he told the story of a man who would had a cousin that he loved, and he would financer her father, he was she was an orphan, so he would find the answer. And he wanted her like a man once a woman but she refused and he didn't want to marry her. He wanted her for one nightstand. He wanted her for Zina. She refused, she refused, until she was in a dire circumstance, she needed money. And this was the only family that she had. So the man said, I'm only

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gonna give you if you give your body to me. So the Hadith says, the lady had to agree. And before the man did the deed, she said, fear Allah and do not do this deed except with the proper contract many with Nikka don't do it like this, do it with Nikka. So the man stood up and walked away. And he said that fear Allah subhana wa Tada. So Allah forgave him for that. The point being that in this hadith the lady was not criticized, Allah knows her situation. We also have in the books of filth literature, that in the reign of the Khilafah, Omar Abdullah, who and a lady was was starving, or if she was thirsty, and she was in the desert traveling, she ran out of water, and she approached a

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shepherd for water. And the shepherd said, Only if you offer yourself to me, I'll give you the water. So he did the deed and then fled. Her case became famous. She was brought to the court of Wimbledon flattop Romar said I don't know what to do. He looked at it said Ali. What should I do? And Ali said she is forced in this case she needed the water she is forgiven. So

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No penalty again, what I'm trying to say here, being forced, doesn't have to be putting a gun to your head. We have in this situation emotional forcing or forcing because of needing circumstance. Allah is the One Who forgives. It's not our job to judge, however willingly walking in, in this case, merely having a power differential simply because somebody has more knowledge than you or more power than you doesn't give the other party an excuse and they're not forgiven in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa taala. Look at Yusuf alayhi salam, that lady the wife of the minister jumped on him, that lady locked the doors on him, that lady seduced him use of didn't just stand there and say, Oh,

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I am the weaker party, I am the man she is I am the slave, she is my master. She he turned around and ran towards the door, there must be an attempt. And Allah knows what that attempt is we don't judge. This is just a generic hold. But again, please don't misunderstand me people get very sensitive here. We are not judging any case. But we are saying if anybody is tested in this manner, you have to repel the test as much as humanly possible. If you cannot, and you are forced, Allah is offered and Rahim but use of Ali salaam turned around fled, the lady comes and literally catches on to him. And as you know, his shirt tore, this demonstrates Yusuf is not a willing, compliant, he's

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trying to get out and Allah knows what would have happened if the man didn't come and unlock the door. Allah knows what have happened, but you have to try to avoid as much as possible. The same goes for Maria Maria has Salam when Gibreel entered the chamber, Madame got scared. And she thought this is an evil man, what is this man doing in my chambers? And so she spoke to him and said, Fear Allah, and do not do this if you are genuinely fearful of Allah like it duck the law. So there is this point of don't do the shoot trying. And of course, God said I am an angel. I'm not a man, and that Allah has sent me so the story goes on. So the point is that we as Muslims are required to

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resist temptation as much as possible. The last point in the first clip, but this needs to be said, regardless of how politically incorrect that this is to say that, frankly, it is high time that broader society around us takes a critical look at some of its own trends in the last few decades. Because those trends have exacerbated the problem. The solution to this problem isn't just to name and shame the harassers? No, we need to take a long and hard look about morality, and how it has deteriorated about promiscuity and that it is acceptable about immorality being mainstream about pornography, that is now considered family entertainment. We have to be very clear here, the very

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industry that started the hashtag metoo movement. And by that I mean Hollywood and the movie industry, because they're the ones that started this movement, that industry cannot ignore its own role in perpetrating this entire crime of objectifying the male and female bodies of continuing to push the boundaries for erotic images for sexuality. For softcore pornography and mainstream media, you cannot have your cake and eat it as well as Muslims, we need to understand that even though no society can eliminate evil and crime, we firmly believe that the laws of Allah the Sharia, which include appropriate mechanisms of gender interaction, which prohibits sex, except within marriage,

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which doesn't allow men and women to be alone together in Halawa, which dictates upon men and women, both of them to dress in a certain manner, to speak in a certain manner to act in a certain manner, which promotes healthy sexuality. Only within marriage, we firmly believe that if these values were taken as mainstream, if these values were dignified, then society would become better, wholesome, healthier for the individual. And for the family. It is time that we as Muslims do not shy away from our own religion. They made fun of a famous politician, even if we don't agree with that politician who had a rule that he's never going to be alone with a lady for dinner other than his wife. They

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made fun of that politician a few years ago, our Vice President, they made fun of this, even if we don't agree with his politics, but he had in this issue, he said, No, only my wife gets to be with me alone at dinner. He had this rule and the whole industry, the whole media made fun of him, but this is how our religion This is common sense. Why would you be at a late night dinner? This is a public dinner even he said no, only my wife is going to be with me for dinner. I don't go alone with the lady at night. This is something that you call common sense. Why will you open the door for evil then when you fall in you will blame everybody else other than all of society that allowed that to

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take place. We need to be very clear brothers and sisters, that if we turn away from wholesome values, if we allow filthy to become mainstream, then society overall

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shall suffer from consequences only some of which are coming to light now and Allah azza wa jal alone knows what else is there and only Allah is our source of protection. Baraka Lord welcome for Khurana all them whenever any way I can be my female it was declared Hakeem acordo Mata SmartOne was still for Allah had Alia Maria welcome What is it Mr. miracle diamond festival flew in no one was a photo Rahim.

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hamdulillah Hua hadn't had a summit Allah de la mia Ledwell amulet Willem, you could go ahead with our brothers and sisters, at some level, all of us are sinners, and it is human to Earth. We all have personal sins between us and Allah. We all have skeletons in our closet. We all have done deeds that we are ashamed of. If we haven't done that is impossible. Every one of us is human. And we have to conclude this cookbook by reminding ourselves of that fine line between justice and forgiveness. And this is a case by case scenario. There is no general rule here. Sometimes justice has to be given the priority. And sometimes forgiveness does. It's a case by case basis, and no doubt, the one

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who expresses remorse and regret the one who apologizes to Allah seeks forgiveness and to the perpetrator, to the one against whom it is perpetrated as forgiveness is not like the one who is arrogant and denies. And so we have to be between the two Islamic principles of justice and mercy and which one will be superseding. The other is that something that varies case by case, brothers and sisters, if we were to judge others, as harshly as others judge us, then nobody would have any relationship with anybody else. Unfortunately, sometimes emotionalism comes in, and we find people who are not going to forgive a person, a shear, a politician for any sin that they have done, even

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if it is a small one. It's a case by case basis. And in the end of the day, just like you would want your sins to be forgiven. So if the person is repentant, then forgive that person as well. We learned from the Sierra as well that Abu Bakr Radi Allahu Allah, his own second nephew did something that was in the story of Isha the slander that he did something that was inappropriate, and Abu Bakr swore to Allah Who would never forgive him. And Allah revealed in the Quran, don't use my name that you'll never forgive, forgive and ALLAH will forgive you, Allah to hipbone on yellowfin Hola Hola, como. Not everybody is the same. And sometimes a person has done something in their past or even

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yesterday that they expressed remorse and regret for and we also have to keep in mind, the Hadith of the Prophet SAW Selim, whoever covers the fault of his brother, Allah will cover his faults. Now this covering is only done when the other person when when there is no danger of this person doing this over and over again. And we have to differentiate between consensual and between forced between adults and between a child, there's a big difference between the two. And if it so happens, that you come across a consensual case of two adults doing something that is haram to do in this case, it's not your business to go exposing them to other people. And in this case, whoever covers a sin, Allah

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will cover his sins, go to them directly, don't go to the public, go to them directly and remind them to fear Allah don't put their case on social media. The point is that we have a fine line between justice and forgiveness between protecting the honor of the individual versus protecting future perpetrators. And each one of you, you need to use your better judgment and realize brothers and sisters, all of us are human. No share is an angel either. No politician is an angel either no human being is an angel. If you come across a person doing a personal sin, you need to use your better judgment. When is this and worthy of being covered up between you and Allah? And when is it

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something that needs to be publicized? Generally speaking, if there is a potential of the person harming somebody else, then yes, in this case, you should expose the sin. But if it is a personal sin between the person and Allah, and you come across that sin, then it doesn't matter who that person is, whether he's a politician, whether he's a chef, a personal sin, What business is it of yours to expose a personal sin, you go to that person directly, and you tell that person to fear Allah. If that is a personal sin, then it's not your business to expose, and this is a part of our Shediac as well. Brothers and sisters, the point is that the door of repentance is always open. No

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matter what I have done, or you have done, we are all sinful. The goal is to keep on striving to be better and better and any past sins that we have done. We ask Allah for genuine and sincere forgiveness and let every person worry about himself or herself more than you worry about other people.

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judge yourself more harshly than you judge other people and try your best to protect yourselves and your families and your loved ones as much as possible in this world that we live in, teach them the values of Islam, teach them the values of morality and higher, teach them decency, dignity, teach them what it means to be a Muslim. What is morality? What is the permissible makin mechanism of satisfying your desires, you need to have frank conversations with your teenagers and even younger than that, and you yourself tried to be role models for your own children. And last, but definitely not the least. Lots of drop and lots of love. We're living in a time and place where evil has become

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the norm. We want to protect our children as much as possible. That's not going to happen without Allah's due and Allah's permission, excuse me. So we have to make dua to Allah we have to always make genuine dua to Allah to protect ourselves and our children and learn from the prophets in this regard. Allahumma inni down for amino olam Allah that if you had to do museum but in Africa, Wanda Harmon Illa for Raja wala Dana Illa Kadota, whatever Maria on inertia, feta. Well, I see Ron Illa yourself, Allah ma fildena What is one endogenous Abba Hona Bill Iman Walter Jaffe, Kuru Mina, Linda Linda Xena Amanu Robina in Nicaragua Rahim Allah humma is Al Islam al Muslimeen Allahumma is Al

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